I saved my brother and his family from dying in a fire when a vehicle parked next to their house caught fire while they slept due to an electrical short. But they aren't very grateful towards me especially his b!tchy wife.

Upset, broke, drinking and smoking because I am taking out loans to pay for THEIR mortgage because they won't take a real job because they want to work from home and can't that pay the bills? I live on my own and have never had financial assistance from them. I am a full time student, and give my parents $300-$700 per month, and spend $20-70 per month on alcohol and cigarettes. They say they don't want me telling them off for having me pay their bills with money I don't have, and that I am only upset because of the alcohol ans cigarettes. I am not allowed to even get the slightest bit annoyed before they say it's not them, it's the alcohol/cigs. If I tell them to pay their own Bills, they go ape **** on me and tell me to stop smoking and drinking first.

I am a high school guy with a step mother that is just a few years older than I am. Dad must like beautiful young women and she is both. She is a great mom and I am lucky have her as my mom. Mom is terrified of thunder and lighting storms, something we have often where I live. Dad is planning an out of town trip next week and when he told mom about it, she did not want him to go. She told dad that she did not want to be alone in bed when a lighting and thunder storm came up. Dad said "No problem, you can get in bed with Bob (me)". BAD IDEA DAD. I thought that if we have a bad storm and she gets in bed with me, something big will come up (do I ever like to brag) and I will do something that will get me in BIG TROUBLE. Any ideas how I can convince mom not to get in bed with me if we have a bad storm or what I can do to stay out of trouble if she does?

I am having a family reunion at a park this year. It will be all my Dad's family and instead of just the close family (my aunts-uncle and 1st cousins and my Dad's close cousins) I am also having his 2nd cousins and invited a few 3rd cousins I tracked down. I invited 121 people but I suspect about 35 to 50 will come. What are activities that will make people want to come back next time? Especially wondering how to attract the teenage and young adult 1st cousins. Most then have replied that they will not be able to make it but for future years I am wondering. Also games for little kids who have no choice but to come. Lastly it is in a park so if it is pouring down rain what do I do? Went to one in the pouring rain on my Mom's side of the family and despite it being indoors it was still about 21 people only out of 87 invited. The cousin of my mother's who was hosting it was let down and it was rather boring after an hour or so. Didn't help that all everyone talked about was "what a terrible turn out compared to last time" and "what horrible weather this summer" as well as when Aunt Wendy will die what kind of funeral will they have. Aunt Wendy died since. Any ideas? It is late June in Pennsylvania,

Been together for 10 years. He helped his parents by becoming residents which lasted for about 8 years &he didnt go to college because thats where all of his money went. His mom&sister lives w/ us while he was working on his dads case.His dad is now a resident and is coming here to the u.s in car from MX b/c he wants to stop to TX and AZ to visit family which will be about a 2 week trip to get to GA.His parents are now askin to go pick them up and pretty much b their chauffeur. I got pissed b/c hes going to drop everything and not work for 2 weeks. I can NOT stand living where we are living b/c i dont get along w/ his sister, his mom/sister dont clean up after themselves&im done living with them. We're in the process of moving out since the dad will finally be here to support his wife&daughter. I just dont think its right for him to take 2 weeks off of not working, which might delay us from moving out, we need all of the money we can get to move out ASAP.He's already helped them enough, do you not think he's done enough for them and to now focus on our relationship/life and to get married? He's 28 by the way. We're not married yet b/c he wanted his mom and dad to be here since his parents were never here for the important stuff that happened in his life, so he wants them to be here for our wedding, i understood and have been patient. I knew he was helping his parents& been patient living with his mom/sister and helped pay rent for them.Isn't it my time?Or am i overreacting?

So I recently found out that my stepson is living in a loft with a make shift door, in a five bedroom house, moms/stepdads room, cousin 1s room, cousin 2s room, step daughters room, moms storage room, and stepsons loft/room.. my stepdaughter though, is currently sharing a room with two adults one female the other male, both look to be in their late 30s. Both my fiancé and I have huge issues with this and have brought it up on several occasions that we are not comfortable with them sharing rooms with people they don't know! Especially because my stepdaughter has made a claim in the past (was investigated) that one of her stepdads family members touched her sexually. I would think as a mother I wouldn't take any chance for that to ever happen again but then again I wouldn't have 11 people living in my home! What do we do!! We are currently seeking legal representation and are taking her back to court but in the mean time we are trying to make sure we don't leave anything out.

So my father bought home 3 guests with him from his country. He says he needs to get them social security so they can start working in this country. The problem is they only know how to speak Spanish. From what I heard from the guests which I don't know is true or not, is that my father forced them to come here. I even heard that my father has their passports locked away somewhere in the house. Isn't that illegal to hold someones passports against their will in this country? Could this be their motive to trying to burn down the house? The reason I say this is because they almost started a fire two times. How is that even possible? They must be trying to burn down the house. How do I convince my father to rent them an apartment? Could he not want to rent an apartment for them because he knows they like burning down things or is it because he is a cheap stake? What should I do?

He repeatedly makes promises and breaks them even ruining Christmas one year. He is not a trustworthy person. Thus, I am prepared that he very well could be lying yet again. He gets back from a trip to Iceland with my step-mother and her son tonight.

I've asked this, but many of the people answering are wondering what the full story is. It starts more than 30 years ago on the birth of my first child. She would show up to my house uninvited and go to my newborn baby's room and wake her up to hold her. This was everyday. I eventually asked her to please call before coming over and it's been down hill from there. I'm not a confrontational person unless I'm repeatedly provoked. I'm very private. Eventually, after 21 years of verbal attacks and mistreatments I just removed myself from the picture. My husband goes to see them and I stay home. 8 years ago, her daughter injected herself in a situation between us and our daughter. She started blowing my phone up with hateful text messages, calling me crazy, calling me evil, saying my husband is stupid for wasting his life with me.. when the girl was advised to apologize to my husband and I by another family member, my sister in-law stormed in and said- "No ma'am she will not apologize to that crazy woman and you can get out of my house"! Then and there I decided that I will totally and completely cut her off from my life. I was sick of the emotional and verbal abuse. She sends Christmas cards to my husband only and invited only him to her older daughter's wedding. Well, now she wants to stop in for a visit this weekend just to visit. No reason. I don't want her in my home and I've asked my husband to mercy them for dinner, but not in my house. Am I wrong?

My husband's sister has always been rude and hateful to me. Then I sorta started just keeping my distance. About 8 years ago her 18 year old daughter got involved in a situation between my daughter and her dad and myself. We were trying to use some tough love on my daughter, because she was going down a dark path. One day I started getting text messages from my sister-in-laws daughter, calling me names, saying I was crazy and evil.. I showed my husband and he informed his mother. My mother in-law went to their home and told the daughter that she should not talk to her elders in such a way and that she should apologize. My mother in-law said that my sister-in-law came into the room and said- she will not apologize to that woman!! My sister-in-law then asked my mother-in-law to leave. I never got an apology. My husband goes to see the 8 hours away twice a year and I stay home. Well, now the sister-in-law is wanting to come for a visit. I don't feel comfortable with it. She's been a hateful vicious person for 30 years to me and I told him that he should meet them for dinner or something but I don't want them in my home. Am I wrong?

My younger sibling who is also in college but has health issues and so usually can't do housework or drive. I feel I'm not doing as well as my peers because my family relies on me so much. And they are ungrateful, saying I owe them my time and money because we are family and need to stick together. If they said "thank you" instead of "give us more" it would be easier. How can I cope with these feelings? I feel I am a bad person for being angry about helping so much but it is taking a toll on my education

I am an adult living on my own. So I don't need them for anything. But I would like somewhat of a relationship with them. But they don't seem to want one with me. Especially my mother. For example, I used to go over weekly and do my laundry at their house, and have dinner with them, until my mom decided she didn't want me to anymore. Okay, I get it. I have a facility at my apartment I use. But I do miss having dinner as a family once a week. My mom said she would invite me over for dinner once a month. But that only lasted two months. She stopped. For Easter I had to ask if they were doing anything, and if I could bring something. I never got an answer on what she wanted me to bring, and when I asked if we could all play a game after dinner she said "that depends on if we'll have time." I would have them at my place but I don't have a dining room table. I live in a tiny flat. When they would go out of town for holidays they would ask me to stay with their dog, but wouldn't pay me, would leave almost no food in the fridge, and wouldn't even leave a little money for food or anything. Nothing. Just "we're going out of town for Thanksgiving, can you stay with the dog?" I finally stopped doing it. Every time I would ask them if they wanted to meet up for dinner somewhere it was like pulling teeth. They were always "too busy" or "we already went out this weekend." They invite their friends over for random dinners but never family. What does this sound like to you? I'll also add I haven't been living at home for 13 years. So they're not recent empty nesters finally having the house to themselves. They do not have time for anyone but their friends. Other people in my life have compared my parents to teenagers. I shouldn't really say my parents. My step-dad actually acts like he wants a relationship with me. He calls when he can tell I'm upset about something. He checks up on me. Tells me he misses me. Really, it's my mother...

I know it may be considered rude to say "yeah", but teenagers sometimes don't think before they say stuff.

i mean , why they turn this way . My mom said they wouldnt love me and what does this mean. My mom and stepdad kicked me out and i live with my dad his real mom and dad. My aunts and uncles. so why dont they love me ????

im 26 and i turn 27 soon. I'm anxious about it and getting older feels weird.

Trigger warning: PITY PARTY. DON'T WANT TO ATTEND? THEN DON'T! I'm 26 years old, female, mother of one, pregnant with my second (different baby daddy), I have no friends, I have no family, I can't seem to get a job, I have no money, I have no car, I live in a homeless shelter where everyone talks sh*t about each other behind their back so I can only imagine what they all say about me like high school never ended and no one ever grew up, my own grandma gave her old car away to my first baby daddy (who used to strangle me, pee all over my car while I locked myself in for safety, spit loogies in my eyes, elbow me in the face, etc.) and she's also helping him with an attorney to take my daughter away from me. 💔 He threatens to harm me and calls me degrading things all the time... His most recent and often used thing is calling me a **** rag like that's all I'm good for. Police don't ever care when I try to report him. They support him too just like my old friends and family. I knew I shouldn't have another baby because my life is so hard but I'm tired of my first baby daddy calling me a baby killer for having an abortion in the past. I'm worried my second baby daddy will come back around and it will be two (and their families) against pathetic me. I fear being a mother with no children. My life would be absolutely pointless. What to do?

I can't tell if its because of him being a first-generation asian american or the fact that I am a 16 year old, but I cannot stand my dad. I always try to solve issues with him but he always becomes irrational, saying no to every thought or question im asking him. He took a "break" from his job because he got tired, which is understandable, but now he stays at home cooking, cleaning, and thats pretty much it. He acts as if he does alot even though its noticeable that he doesn;t because he literally drinks from 5 pm to 12 am every day now and just sits his *** in his chair watching vietnamese soap oprahs. We get into arguments alot about socializing and he doesn't understand at all. I have a 4 year old little brother who cannot speak, my dad basically refuses to teach him anything. I never see him read to my brother, all he does is let him watch dumb toy review videos on youtube and never even thought about teaching him manners. I was telling my brother to sit down properly at dinner today and he yelled at me to "mind my own business" I don't understand what type of mentallity that is. You can't just tell someone to "mind their business" when in a society there are certain expectations you must meet. Its so hard to talk to him because he is irrational. I always try to talk to him peacefully but he puts words into my mouth- his favorite quote "You just think youre smarter than me don't you?"- which I have never said. Theres alot more to say but how can i fix this? pls help

If a child has older friends, people worry about their safety. Parents will worry that older people will manipulate their kid, pressure them into drugs or expose them to sexual content. However, if the friendship involves adults of different ages, nobody will worry or care. A 42 year old can hang out with a 48 year old... but it's considered inappropriate if it were a 12 year old hanging out with an 18 year old instead.

22 year old Female Graduate with my BA in June Starting a Masters program in Jan 2020 25k in savings already working in field Promotion upon receiving my degree Never lived on my own I love my mom but we're starting to argue a lot more as I get older and continue living with her. I found a studio that fits my budget. My dad passed away last month and wanted me to be more independent and really experience life. Should I stay and save or try to live on my own for awhile?

After my brother died , she left her responsibilities as a parent to her children to me. I understand that time she is jobless so I accept to support her children. A year after , she had already a stable job as an oversea worker . This time I thought she will help me to support her children but she told me she has to pay back her loan from her friends the time she is still jobless .5 Years passed her children are now in college. I told her that I cannot afford to support both of them .My mother needs medical attention . I oblige her to help me to share a part for the fees of her children . She agreed to help me support her eldest child.only , however, her eldest child still used to asked money from me . I asked my niece why ? did your mother send you allowance ? she told me that her mother was the one who told her to ask from me anything she needs Lately she just came back for a vacation. Her daughter ask her if she can accompany her for medical consultation . Her mother refused again she told her daughter to ask me again. because she has an appointment with her dermatologist . Her dermatologist and the pediatrician office are both situated in one roof. Is ok if she gave her daughter funds for medical fees , but gave her nothing only a hug and a take care note .

Its ridiculous. When i visit them they talk to everyone but me. I feel like an outcast.

Both of my kids (4 and 6) have started referring to themselves as stupid, dumb and mean. My husband and I can't figure out where it is coming from because we don't use those words. My son actually tells me I'm the one who calls him dumb, but this has never once happened. At the slightest thing he will hit himself and say he's stupid. For example, he tried to unplug the vacuum for me and bent the prongs a bit...I nicely told him thank you so much for trying to help but that's a mommy job for now. He started to cry and said he messed up because he's dumb. I told him he's not dumb at all, that he just didn't know and it was okay. He repeated that he was dumb and hit himself on the head. This stuff happens very frequently. When he and his sister come back from visiting their dad, it is even worse. They get in the car all upset and immediately start fighting and crying and saying how stupid they are. I don't know exactly what's happening over there because their dad doesn't communicate much with me. Visitation is minimal. I keep repeating that they aren't dumb and they are allowed to make mistakes, that they're smart and good kids but nothing seems to help. They're in therapy but they seem to clam up whenever the discussions get into anything bad that they're feeling. Has anyone experienced anything like this with their kids? Did anything help?

I am an honor roll student and a responsible adult (I'm 20). I only ask for this one freedom. I have been with my s/o for over a year and they treat the situation as if I am sleeping with a random guy. I still live with my parents so I respect their decision, but I still feel that I am being treated as though I am 15. Any thoughts?

Hi im on my moms account, I'm 10 but i have to pack my own lunch, snack and water for school everyday. Every one in my class gets those stuff prepared by their parents but not me. Im saying it here because if i ask my mom she gets mad about these questions.. :( Sorry for the grammar mistakes please tell me

Ok so me (15, if that helps), my dad, and my grandma started living together about 5 months ago. All has been good so far. So today me and my dad were talking and joking around when I guess I said something that he took a little personal and I said it was a joke and he was fine after that. So a couple hours later when I'm in my room he comes in yelling saying that I insult him all the time and how hes gonna kick my *** if I do it again. Then he called me a liar and lazy. But everytime I ask him if he needs help he tells me no so I quit asking. Anyway he goes on screaming about how my grandma was right about me. That I'm a liar and lazy and that I dont care about anyone but myself. And that he was being to nice to me and I was gonna screw him over. It really pissed me off because she always talks nice to me and acts normal when shes really telling my dad all this stuff behind my back and ruining our relationship. What should I do. I think I'm going to just avoid her as much as possible.

She's a 10 year old 5th grader. Our mom and dad work full time and aren't around often, so they bought a phone to keep her safe. It came with a new set of problems. For instance, she behaves like a toddler on her cellphone. She and her classmates have gotten into countless numbers of fights. Next day at school, they awkwardly avoid each other until someone confronts them, escalating into another fight. The teacher has to deal with tattling, crying, accusing, lies and gossip on a daily basis. Most of these incidences occurred on social media and escalated into real life confrontations. I think it's gotten too far when my sister comes home crying, and most other kids are crying after school too. I see it with my own eyes when I pick her up from school.

So I tried talking to my husband about another kid. We have a 1 year old daughter who I wanted to try for another sibling for her when she's around 2 or 2 1/2, however my mom now wants me to wait till 3 or 4 cause of a family trip to disney. I don't want to cause my younger brother and I are around the same age difference & were always close so I wanted that for my daughter. My mom suggested well either maybe someone could watch the child or we can take them with us. I tried talking to my husband about it and he doesn't take it seriously. Saying, "We should wait until she can talk so she can decide. We should go ask her if she wants one or not. Why not wait till she is about to graduate middle school". Tbh I lost it as this is something that means a lot to me & I've been trying to improve my health for my daughter & to become pregnant again, so I just started crying. I dont know why I did, but I just did. I'm just wondering if I'm overreacting to the situation.

Me and father have the same personality. Sometimes we get along like a glove, other times we can have a screaming match. He has a temper and tends to get angry and scream often. The last time he said I love you to me (without me saying it first) I can't even remember. Most times when I talk to him, he's either not listening or I have to beg for his attention. But then other times we have a blast together. For example, we both love skiing and go often. We can have a fun time together. We barely talk to each other during the week....he doesn't make it his responsibility to talk to me, so I don't talk to him. My dad did have a very hard childhood, which could be the reason why he acts the way he acts. I'm so conflicted inside, bc sometimes we are best friends and other times I feel like he couldn't care less. I really want to fix this relationship, any ideas? Thank you❤️

We live in Pennsylvania and my mom's sister lives in Tennessee. We rarely go down there because my dad hates making the drive and packing everything and having to deal with getting a motel room. The last time we went down was last June to see my favorite cousin who is two weeks younger than me for her 30th birthday and we stayed for 2 days. I've seen her maybe 3 or 4 times in the past 15 years. I really enjoyed seeing her and her kids and there were talks about going down again this fall for if my other cousin graduated nursing school. I was hoping maybe we would stay there for a week this time. When I brought it up today my dad's response was an instant "No. End of conversation". How do I get him to agree to take me and my mom down again? Flying is out of the option because he refuses to ever get on a plane.

I got the impression (maybe falsely) by my cousin's texts that she wanted to stay with me, she knows I am estranged from other family members and can use her company, but she decided to stay with another relative who has plenty of family who live near him and visit all the time. He is the one who told me my cousin will be staying with him and he and his wife are very excited about it. I told him it was great that she is coming and staying with them, but deep down I am very hurt and don't want to see her now. She didn't even text me that she is coming next month, she made all the plans with him.

My daughter got involved some years ago with a guy that abused her mentally and physically and evidently he/they were doing drugs around my grand daughter (child from a previous relationship) because the state had done a drug test on the child and she failed. She was 2 at the time. They eventually were arrested and my husband and myself had to get custody of my grand daughter.. after all these years, she's back with this guy. He still mentally abuses her. I get calls of her crying... Her ex husband whom she met between all of this, because the abusive drug user was sent to prison for home robberies. Her ex husband found out she's with this guy again and is taking her to court for custody of his child a 4 year old son. This man is a good dad. My son knows him and they aren't close friends, but acquainted because of the little boy. He's been around him with the child. My son went to court to be a character witness for him. I feel sort of guilty for supporting this. Is my son in the right. I feel ashamed. Thank you.

So my Mom married my wealthy father who passed away when I was 12 years old. We were fortunate that he had no mortgages on the properties he owned so my Mom didn't have to work as she could live off the rental income from the properties. I never grew up being spoiled and always learned to save. Despite my Mom not needing to work, I'm currently working. I'm not satisfied with my working situation as I have a college degree and currently trapped in a clerical job that only pays $15 an hour but I'm constantly looking for better jobs. I still live at the home my father provided for my family but I make sure to contribute my share for the bills. My Mom is horrible at finances and will try to be the Robin Hood by helping moochers but borrowing money from me when she gets strapped and never pays back. She thinks I'm rich because I save but I'm no where near rich and if that were the case I would have my own place by now. She currently had a $10,000 maintainence bill for one of the rental properties which she pressured me to borrow such funds even though she has an investment account near $200,000. Even though I leant her the money I didn't like the excuse she made she said I will be inheriting the property anyway which made me feel like I was obligated to give her the $10,000 even though she is deriving from the rental income that it earns today.

Hi everyone, I really wanted to ask for some advice should I talk to my dad, he left my mom & I shortly after I was 1. Although than happened he was active in my life I'd always see him every week. He had another family and with his new wife he had another daughter. His wife never wanted him to pay much for child support and ultimately he and my mom had a huge fight over this and he never came to see me again. I was about 7 years old at the time., currently I'm 22 and recently I can't stop thinking about him. Growing up my mom would ask me if I wanted to see or talk to him, and she'd find him for me but I always said no. Part of me resents him for leaving, I had to watch my mom struggle financially, stress, and always tired. Even so, I've been going through a really hard time and I've been feeling very emotional these past couple of weeks. I can't sleep, I'm stressed, and I keep crying out of nowhere, and again I can't stop thinking of him. I recently contacted a cousin who gave me his number and I keep hovering over the call button. "What do I say?" "Will he even want to talk to me?" I don't know what to do and how to sum up how I feel. My emotions are all over the place, I've never been a crier but lately it's all that I do. To anyone that reads and answers Thank you so much