I never had much of a close relationship with my mother due to her never having enough time for me. But now, my little cousin moved to the city we live in and now it's seems as if by magic she suddenly has enough time to spend with my cousin. Her schedule hasn't changed at all and it's just frustrating how she never has time for me even when I was young but now she has time for my cousin. I strongly believe she cares more for my cousin than me. Like for an instance, whenever she picks my cousin home from school she always brings food for her or cooks for her but on the occasions when she picks me up from school instead of my aunt she never brings food or cooks for me. Her tone with my cousin is all happy and jolly but changes to stern and almost bitter when she's with me. Never has once has she asked me how I was doing regarding school or just life in general or said I love you but asks my cousin that all the time. I know I sound jealous but I am just pissed off at her for being such a terrible mother before and now. Am I overreacting or no?

Hey, So I'm a 16 year old girl who lived predominantly with my dad for 3 years before he met his girlfriend. They've now been engaged for nearly two years and it's been the bumpiest ride ever. She seems to absolutely despise me. Most of the time she slags me off to my dad when she doesn't think I'm nearby even though I am. I don't know what to do about it, I can't seem to do anything right. I tried making steps to get her to be more comfortable with me such as inviting her out for coffee or asking if she wants to go shopping sometime but she straight up says no. No context, just a simple 'no'. I've tried talking to my dad about this but it's got to the point where she seems to pick at straws. I have a medical condition that's affected me for 9 years and leaves me in agony yet she tells my dad that she believes I'm lying about it (even though I have all of the medication, test results etc to prove otherwise) to purely get out of school. I get left out when we go on days out as a family, I talk to her and she doesn't actually respond to me no matter how many times I repeat myself. She's just not interested in me and it kinda breaks my heart. What am I doing wrong?

I come from a relatively big family, and all of them live in our small town. Apart from my aunt who moved away to a town 5 hours away, no one has ever left. I have lived here for 25 years. I've been married and I'm now divorced. I have always been very family oriented, doing everything and anything I can for them but that causes them to use me in ways that I sometimes feel is wrong. They step all over me and don't think twice about it because my loyalty knows no bounds when it comes to them. I met my now boyfriend a year ago, he's from California and we both live in NY. I've never thought about leaving NY because my family is here but living here has made me extremely depressed. (Nothing to do, small town drama, snowy weather for months and months.) My boyfriend and I decided that we will move to California and try to start a life together there since NY hasn't been kind to us regarding jobs or lifestyle. When I told my family they did not take it well. They told me I was dumb and that I should stay here around the family because they need me and family is all you have in this life. However, I'm only 25 years old and I want to experience more then this small town. I have the opportunity to do that but my family is making me feel extremely guilty. How would you deal with this issue? I want to be excited to start over new somewhere and create my own life over again and experience a different type of lifestyle but my family makes me doubt myself. Am I in the wrong?

I'm fat. i don't have the best grades. overtime me and my mom talk all she does is frustrate and yell at me. I'm miserable all the time. idk what to do

My sister, Melanie, recently died of complications from a liposuction surgery. The funeral will be tomorrow and everything and anything is going wrong. I'm trying to get my parents to save money because I'm flying over to Canada soon (first class all the way – woo hoo!) and I don't want them blowing my money on a funeral. Bloody Melanie chose the worst time to die. She chose the worst time to do everything. When I was seven and she was six, she had an epileptic fit and her bodily fluids ruined my Barbie Halloween dress – right before my party. Ever since, she's been royal pain in the behind. She would always follow me everywhere; always ask me for advice on dating and boys. No matter how many times I would say "Melanie, you're a fat cow and no one will ever love you," – she still came coming back for more and more advice. Thank god she took my advice about getting the liposuction – but she managed to screw that up too!

He expects me to have a job making $60k+ per year at age 24, and if I dont he basically treats me like I'm an idiot and worthless.

I'm starting to do it, despite my pseudogynaecomastia and pot belly. I started sleeping shirtless, and occasionally taking of my shirt when I'm outside or just taking off my shirt in my room without closing the door. School's out so it's just my sister and I plus the maid, I'm not sure how my parents would feel about it though. Besides all that bull, it feels great. Any other of you guys do it?

I am 26 and femaile.

I guess you call them "volleyball net" shirts? I am concerned because my mom wore that at her mom's funeral. 12 years prior, my mom met a man who my grandma and I disapproved of. He stayed at home while she worked, which was not a mutual decision. He kept getting fired from [or quit] jobs my mom got him, as she typed up his résumé and made calls/e-mails for interviews. She gave up and let him stay home, which she was very embarrassed about. This was evident from a social gathering where he told someone, with my mom seated next to him, what he does for a living. It was an impressive-sounding occupation that I'm sure my mom told him to say. 7 years later, he died. My mom was hysterical, but my grandma was very nonchalant, because not only did he take advantage of my mom, but substance abuse killed him. But because my grandma never warmed up to him or showed any compassion before or after he died, I think my mom resented her. Oddly enough, I NEVER saw my mom cry when my grandma died 4 years later. And to this day, my mom tells me how much she disliked the way she treated my mom and her BF. One time, my mom said she wanted to say to her mom, "Well, he's dead now. Are you happy?" In my grandma's defense, she was always in my mom's life, but was always critical of my mom [when she grew up]. This, of course, got much worse when my mom met her boyfriend. Is my mom not very sad that her mom's gone, thus the somewhat revealing shirt at funeral?

I dont know how to contact his other blood related family (cousins, etc, maybe his biological dad is still alive)

My family has been violent towards each other and towards me. My sister has been violent towards everyone, and cusses my parents out and my mom even allows my sister to disrespect her. and enables my sister to become abusive BUT for some reason, my mom is abusive towards me and my dad. My mom even abuses dogs. Don't just say 'move out'. i want to know how to deal with it while I'm around them? Help! I would like serious answers please. Sometimes the violence has even gotten way out of control and people have been injured. How do I deal with it while I'm living around people like this? What do you mean by do not drain their resources? i ask because you put emphasis on it.

So I'm 21, me and my parents have been taking care of my grandparents (my father's parents) for 3 - 4 years now (maybe more, lost track). My grandfather (dad's step father) is on insurance and has money. My grandma, on the other hand, doesn't have a dime and no insurance and can't get back on insurance (due to personal reason in family long ago). Now it's taking a huge toll on us and are getting no help from any other family member (aunts, uncles, cousins) they care more about themselves then their own mother/grandmother. We honestly need help and guidance as to what we shall do. Our lives are honestly at a pause. We can't do anything together anymore because someone has to be home at all times. Is there any chance we can put them in a home without having to pay? (Cause we don't have that kind of money sadly). Is there anything else we can do to make our lives a little bit easier? I just need help. We're stressing so much. Sacrificing so much (I haven't gone to college and can't, don't have a job, parents are working overtime) just to take care of them, while others just sit and watch. Please anyone help me!!!

Mothers have much stronger bonds with their daughters than they do with their sons according to this website https://www.stylist.co.uk/life/science-proves-mothers-and-daughters-have-a-stronger-bond-than-any-other-relationship/63346 So I actually think that most mothers don't have that strong of a bond with their sons.

My niece has a mother who is mentally abusive and my niece isn't in a healthy way emotionally. She is 8 years old. Her mother and grandparent (who's house she lives is) are illegal aliens and my brother (her father) is not in any position to care for her.

Last night my sister was being lazy even though she's 18 and my dad yelled at her for not helping my mom with laundry and chores. Then he started yelling at her about her being like that after she graduates and how it's hard to survive. Then my dad starts involving me in the conversation and yelling at me about how he pays my phone and how it's not my property and how hard it is to manage car , insurance and a house. I'm not involved so don't talk to me as if I did something wrong! I'm not lazy I've been helping my mom so far like he wants me to and suddenly he's yelling at me!! Plus on Saturdays it's cleaning day and he always be yelling at me to clean my room instead of politely asking me to and he always be yelling at us about how we should clean our rooms and how we should keep the house clean like let us do our jobs and stop nagging us!!!!!!!!! He is literally so impatient and he doesn't like to have calm conversations with us like a therapist would Do instead he just yells at us to do stuff instead of being polite ugh ugh he just literally likes to make me mad and ******* cry like why is he always like this. My mom doesn't do anything since I know she is faithful to her husband!!! It actually hurts so much to be yelled at even though I'm doing everything they want me to. Straight As. Clean room. Helping mom. Cleaning the house. On track for valedictorian. Why does it have to be like this? Most of the time he's calm but sometimes it's painful.

My parents told my sister that in terms of child development, she and the boy are at different stages in their lives. They said that since my sister started puberty several years ago, an inappropriate relationship could also develop if they start having feelings for each other. She's really upset that she isn't allowed to hang out with him anymore. They seemed like good friends until my parents found out. They won't allow her to hang out with anyone who's over 1-2 years older than she is, unless it's a trusted family friend or relative. Even then, they'd be especially careful if it's a male person.

Occasionally the ginger crackhead next door takes goods and services from me. Today he jacked my lyft cab to the train station and I had to cancel the ride. Sometimes he'll steal my door dash food because the drivers will mistake the crackhouse for my house. There is a case worker that makes home visits to the sober house, should I mention this to her on her way out of the crackhouse or should I call DSS/DHS and have somebody speak to him about this bull,****? I don't want to make a police report because that seems kind of grimey.

So my birthday is coming up in two months and I'm already starting to plan stuff one of these things is the day of my party.My real birthday is on a Saturday but my mom works on Saturdays so she wants to throw my party on Sunday ,however I don't want that because I have youth group every Sunday and my youth group wants to do something special with me.I asked my mom if I could have my birthday on my real birthday and she said no and when I told her about my youth group wanting to do something with me and even went as far as to suggest she works with them to plan something she said "no your my daughter and I don't need help planning your party from people that pretend like thier your parents" (this isn't the first time she has said the people in charge of youth try to act like they're the parents of all the youth kids).But I NEED my party to be Saturday not only to celebrate with my youth group but also because none of my youth friends will go if its on Sunday and I can't have it before or after church because I'll either be to tired from the party to go to church or my mom will claim "its too late at night and she's tired".Can someone please give me advice on how to convince her to change it. Thanks to all who respond. -Taylor

But what if he accuses ME of homophobia??

So a couple of days ago, My dad was a long in the house with my two twin brothers so he couldn't bring them everywhere. He had to drop something off, the babies were asleep in the car and he really did not want to wake them , he left them in the car sleeping with the car locked with the windows rolled down a slight bit. and came back as soon as possible. It wasn't hot in the car, or outside. I'm not defending him it was a really stupid thing to do but we just got a call today from social services that someone called and told them about it so now they're coming to our house i don't know what to expect we've never had a problem like this. What should we do to prepare? what specific parts do we have to focus on doing, cleaning etc. What will happen? Can they take away my brothers

I currently dont know what to do.. i am about to be 18 and he has always been like that since i was a kid...my mother and i have been fed up with his cruel arguments over little things...he gets super over reactive mad over little simple stuff for example: this morning he got super mad when he saw the cereal box not closed right , sometimes he calls me very offensive words when i dont do somethings he's way... he always brings up how i am not worth nothing and that i dont know how to do anything.. i sometimes wish i could just have a different father..my mother told me his father treated his brothers and him in a terrible way and i believe he is trying to do the same thing here..I dont want to become like him :(

Me and my dad have never really gotten along. When I was a kid I only ever remember him doing the bare minimum as a parent. Now that I'm older, I fight with him almost constantly and lately I think it's been getting worse. He hasn't really hit me, but he has forcefully grabbed things out of my hand and slapped my knee a couple times when I was younger, but it wasn't hard enough to leave a mark or anything. Recently, he's been threatening me more and honestly sometimes I'm scared of what he'll do to me. I'm worried that one day we'll get into a huge fight and he'll beat me up or something. I'm also pretty sure I used to be emotionally abused but I'm not sure anymore. Sometimes he'll call me a b***h, but that's only when I get on his nerves or when he's having a bad day. A couple time's he's threatened me by saying "I'll beat you until you won't be able to walk for a week." and said he wouldn't care if he got sent to jail. He always has something negative to say. Basically, the only reason I wrote this post is to see if I'm overreacting or not and if leaving this house for awhile would be a good idea. I'm not old enough to move out on my own yet, but in a year or two I will be, so I don't know if I should just deal with it or not.

She started dating a black man, and when I confronted her she asked me why I think dating a black man is wrong, but unfortunately I couldn't really come up with any way do explain it to her. How do I explain to her why dating a black man is wrong.

work? American citizen?