I'm having an emotional affair with a single guy. My husband is always working and I became good friends with someone from our church in Provo. My husband is an alcoholic and when he's home he's drunk or passed out. He often sleeps on the couch because he's so drunk. My freidn and I have prayed together cooked together even hiked together. We became closer when my friend was diagnosed with leukemia. I live him like a brother and I've met some of his girlfriends but I'm falling in love with him. These feelings have been happening for 3 years. I sometimes drive him to treatment but I need you to understand I don't want to hurt my husbamd. Once when my friend was feeling sick from chemo I made him soup and he want me to just hold him on the couch. He was in my arms his head on my shoulder and sometimes my breasts. I've been praying on it and I've gone and met an attorney to divorce my husband. Am I out of my mind? All that my friend and I have done is cuddle and kiss. Should I reconsider this?

Recently had our 30th and it was completely uneventful. Some say it's between the couple while others seem to have parties or friends and relatives send cards. Which way is it for you?

Why will a Chinese woman marry a brown man or a western man who is very rich and a multimillionaire and have kids? Don't they know there will be cultural problems, and then divorce later on?

I can not trust my husband anymore!!! He told me that he was going to the gym. I believed him because he always goes to the gym. This time he lied. He came home and his clothes were dry and smelled as if we just took them out of the wash. He didn't smell like sweat or went to the gym at. Even his underwear was dry! Whenever he plays soccer or goes to the gym he's always sweaty and stinky. What do I do?? Please help!!!

Of course I get angry that she disrespected me. I called her to organise a logistical thing for the weekend. She asked what I was doing then mid conversation hung up on me leaving me to finish the conversation to an empty phone. You know what? I don't get mad anymore. I texted her to call her out on it and left it at that. As far as I'm concerned if she wants to keep up attitude then I'm not gonna tell her my plans and when she comes whining at me to go out etc. I'm going to remind her that I had to make plans independent of her because she won't answer the phone. Tough luck for her. If she adjusts the attitude, then I might actually call her in the future to organise our time. I'm a busy man with study and full time work to coordinate around looking after the home. I don't bend to her every whim. I wouldn't be able to keep up my studies and work if I did that. The only thing that bothers me is that it feels like I'm missing out on a normal relationship. She makes distance and encourages me to do my own thing without thinking about her. Our son will be born in a month's time and I worry how we are going to handle the logistics if she cannot handle something as simple as what to do on a Saturday afternoon. What do you guys think is an appropriate strategy? Because being so independent causes conflicts. I see it because she will come to me wanting to go out or do something and then I have to argue that I've got other commitments such as study or work.

My husband and I have been married three months and have been together a total of six months. I've noticed my husband has a habit of saying things that are disrespectful and inappropriate. For example, lastnight me and my husband were watching Austin Powers and he said Beyonce looked good in her gold outfit(in a kind of flirtatious manner) I wasn't offended by him complimenting her because she did look nice but then he said, "If I wasn't married to you I would **** the **** out of Beyonce." I confronted him about it and he said I was being too sentimental and over dramatic and said he didn't see anything wrong with it. He never apologized. Every time we watch a movie with a celebrity in it he has a crush on he's openly flirtatious about it in front of me. He then went on to say it was a fantasy and that it would never happen. Just a month ago he told me he had a dream of him, me and his ex-girlfriend having a three some but then said he wasn't thinking or fantasizing about it and that it was just a dream and it meant nothing. When we're out in public he compliments and talks to almost every woman he sees. He's not flirtatious but is too friendly with women. He acts and talks as if he's a single man like he can't help himself. He has always had a habit of making me feel insecure. He's talked down to me about the way I talk and my body and compared my body to his ex-girlfriend's in the past when we first started dating. He says this is how he is and will not change.

It's not my life, or my problem, yet I'm angry at her. She's a grown woman and is allowed to make adult decisions without consulting me, but I feel like she's needlessly ending her marriage of 8 years. It makes me disrespect her. Her husband wants to try to make it work and they have two kids. She's not seeing anyone else. Naturally I should support her, but I feel terrible for her husband, and am inclined to take his side. My question is: can anyone explain why I might feel this way? Have you ever felt this way yourself? Thank you

We are 18. Currently we reside in his childhood home. We rent a room from his parents. I am very excited to be saving money and plan our future together. However, he has a very "live in the moment" carefree attitude. How can I motivate him to save more money and stop dipping into our savings for things we or he does not need? He is still on his parent owned (custodial) checking account and won't get his own. He is nit upset by the fact that we have no privacy at his folks place. We cannot have e sex if they are there, his mother has walked in on us quietly arguing intentionally. It's extremely stressful. He says he wants to have a real home, marriage and family with me, but actions speak louder than words. What can I do to make him PROVE it!!!!!? Thanks!

Personally, I would not enjoy the lifestyle, but if someone else wants it and all members are consenting adults, I say let them go for it. How do you feel about it? Do you think they should be able to marry all their wives/husbands legally? What do you thing about the ones who say they would be angry if their spouses had another partner as well?

My wife told a colleague of hers in confidence she wishes she never remarried. Should I be concerned about this? Before you ask how I found out, it wasn't through the person she originally told. We just recently had our third child. She was previously married once, but that ended badly. We never spoke about it, and they don't keep in touch. So why would someone suddenly say they wish they never remarried? She says I've changed, and I've been acting like an a$$ towards her lately. Even if that's true, she's changed too. She's more angry, always tired, hardly has an appetite and when she does, it's for junk food. And please don't respond with marriage counseling. Thanks! I have asked her, and she responds with, "You've been acting like an a$$. I've been through all of this before, and I'm not about to do it again, not when there are kids involved this time." A mutual friend suggested she may be suffering from postpartum anxiety or something, which she's been to her doctor about, who said she needs to reduce her stress.

My husband & Ive been married 15 years. When we got married we picked out the rings, plain, gold, inscribed & simple with an engagement ring to match. As I wore it, I found that my newborn kept getting scratched by my engagement ring(ER), so I decided to stop wearing my rings. My husband didn t wear his either because for his work its dangerous & would forget to put it on in the evenings. We were both fine with not wearing rings. As time went on, we outgrew them. Then my 2nd daughter was born & ended up FLUSHING my wedding band 1 day when she was 2. I was upset over my lost ring. 7 years later, a new career, & kids a little older, my husband says he wants to start wearing his ring. I thought about it, I decided that since we no longer have a matching set & he wants to wear his, we should get a new set & I could wear mine. We decided on a silver set, his with diamond chips all the way around the band & mine, a combination ring (ER & band all in one) with diamond chips halfway around it with a small diamond in the middle. We got the rings & put them on immediately. Here s my problem, it doesn t feel the same. They weren t the ones we exchanged & I feel like they lost their meaning, not to mention mine still gets in the way of things (tickling my kids, making dinner, crocheting, getting caught in blankets/sweaters/hair etc.) so I find myself still taking it off. Why does my ring feel as though its lost meaning even though we both agreed on getting new ones?

Newly wedded wife was invited to Orlando for 5 night trip to celebrate 2 friends 30th birthday. 1 of the girls just had a baby and it will be 2 months old during the trip. It's just strange to me.

I received a new job offer and I will be working from home as a medical coder something I wanted to do for a long time. The company will be shipping me my work computer and paying for my internet. My husband is very negative about it saying he thinks I should work in a office around others and that I will be bored sitting at home starring at the computer. I told him all of the benefits but he scoffs at them. What should I do to convince him this will work out?

I was going through my best friends phone and found a text from her to my husband "I will always love you". They both said it was nothing and I forgave them. But I still could not get it out of my head. This happened 4 years ago.

Where I work is being taken over by another company and they are eliminating the department I work in. This will be a disaster as jobs are very hard to find in this area. The new company told us they have openings in other departments but you have to have some very special training to get these jobs. I checked and this training is very expensive. Losing my job would be a disaster. I tried to borrow the money for the training from everyone I knew but no one would loan me money. I was down to the last name in my phone book, my ex husband. I finally got up the courage to call him. We had a friendly divorce but I had never asked him for money before. He said I will get back with you tomorrow. MUCH to my surprise he called back and said his current wife Joan would give me the training for FREE. I was in shock. Could this really be happenings? Joan did give me the training free and I got one of the new jobs that paid more than my last job and I had a great new boss. Joan was the nicest person EVER. I can not say enough good things about her. All my friends that I told about this said I was the luckiest person alive because usually the new wife wants nothing to do with the previous wife. She must be a saint to do what she did for me. I know I owe Joan big time. Please give me some thoughts on how I can repay her for the kindness she gave to me. Kind words are just not enough for this EXTREMELY NICE PERSON.