Please don't take any sides. I'm 18 years old. I live with my mother, little sister, and brother, along with my mom's new husband. When this guy (mom's husband) moved in with us before they were married it was pretty neutral but one day me and my mom got in an argument so I left the house. She then proceeded to keep it up by sending me text messages cursing me out then that guy got the phone and sent a text message calling me a b itch and a p pussy. And that's how the strife between us two started.Everytime me and this guy get into it he's always the one who has to call me out of my name and try to fight me and each time the thing he's pissed off about is'nt that serious and he's done some things that give me every right to want to break his neck yet I don't come crazy at him about it. I don't even bring it up. Like one time when I was away with friends for a few months he choked my little 9 year old brother so bad my sister told me he was coughing up blood. I was even told while he was choking him he put his knee on his neck. When I came home and found out about it I didn't even make it known I was angry. Now this bastard is claiming to have it together with God yet every so often he'll do something messed up. Like one time I was in the hallway one day and I heard things being thrown in their room. I heard my mom say "I haven't tried to fight you not one time STOP THROWING AT ME!" and when I heard that I came in and threatened to call the cops. Yet I'm always the bad guy.

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My mom said she was going out and I asked her to get me some little bags of doritos. She comes back to the house with 50 bags of doritos. I was like uhh thanks. I can't eat all of these. I meant that I wanted like 2 or 3 bags. And now she's cursing and yelling at me for being ungrateful when I said thanks. Wtf. She was like "just ******* throw them in the back of the cabinet so they can go stale" and I said like 10 times I would eat them but she kept going on. Then I took a bag upstairs and right when I was about to go up I hear her say "she's got a ******* attitude" to my stepdad and I'm like "I literally just grabbed a bag and I'm taking it upstairs. How do I have an attitude?" and she's like "you just do and you better ******* fix it before you go out tonight or you're not going" like no ***** if anything you're ******* salty because YOU bought 50 ******* BAGS WITH YOUR OWN MONEY. I'm going out whether she likes it or not. I wish she would let me get emancipated. Like yes thank you for buying doritos but 50 bags is over the top.

It all tarted Friday in-between classes. Mrs.Brew my Speech coach grabbed my arm and said "I need to talk to you" blah blah blah, She asked me if I was going to the tournament on Saturday I said "yes". So then later that night I told her I would not be going (I dint want to go because I have household things to do and I use wanted to relax). She called the school and confirmed that I was not going. Then an hour later I was talking to my parents and they told me I have to go. So I didn t want to tell her an hour after I said I wasn t going that I was now going. I made a plan to hang out at the competition and pretend I went. but my plans immediately got screwed after my coat texted my mom "It has been confirmed that Tovi is not attending" so my mom called my brother who was driving me there. I didn t really say much. So he dropped me off and my mom texted me "you have a serious truth to explain" and I didn t say anything back. Then she texted "What time are you able to be picked up?" I told her 4. Now my dad is going to pick me up, and I need an explanation. I need an explanatin that wont seem untruthfull, or suspicous?!?! PLEASE HELP!

I work with a brother and sister, whenever the brother shows me the slightest amount of interest or attention the sister seems to get very jelous, its so strange i dont know how to deal with this circumstance. Also she craves attention from her own brother regularly, and now its just putting me in an awkward position not sure how to handle it? Tips?

-My mother gets upset because we (me and my sister) can t hear her from upstairs from our rooms when she wants to talk to us. She then throws a tantrum and slams the doors, cupboards and switches, doesn t let us speak and generally acts insane. -When I confront her, she says that she doesn t remember it or just laughs and denies it. -She makes my older sister cry almost every week by telling her that she should lose weight, get clothes that aren t so clingy, get plastic surgery to reduce her chest and making remarks about boys her age. -She compliments us and sugar coats all her sentences to get what she wants from us. -When I cried, she never comforted me. She told me that I m doing it to get what I want or that I should do what I m supposed to do not cry. -I have never heard her say I love you. -She says how nice people are only when they do things for her. I absolutely despise her, but she s my mother. Should I forgive her actions and act like nothing is going on?

I'm the older brother of 2 sisters, we're all in our 20's, and even though we had a normal sibling relationship growing up from fighting/arguing to laughing and joking or giving advice when in need, as I got older, I realized most of the time we don't see eye-to-eye, rarely talk or see eachother. Doesn't mean we hate each other, but I realized I don't want them to be a normal part of my life. The older of the sisters mentioned something to my grandfather and mother about how we don't really socialize or interact together, and they both gave me a guilt trip about it over the phone, but its just the way it is. I wish all of them a good life and if I can help them in hard times, I'll try my best to help, but they will never be a normal part of my life.

So I was at a fancy restaurant and there was a young teenage girl (14-16) and her dad and I believe her step mom and brother. (Her brother was much older maybe 30-35). The parents went to the bar and it was just the girl and her brother and he said "put your phone down" and the girl just ignored him. He said "you're being so rude" and she just said "shut up" I literally wanted him to slap her right then so badly. He just said "I'm going to ask one more time or I'm going to give your phone to dad" and she just ignored him again. He then took her phone out of her hands and just put it in his pocket. The girl threw a minor tantrum. Since I was the table over I could hear her and she was sayin really rude things. What would your parents do if you were on your phone as a teenager? Why are teens so disrespectful ?

My sister graduated from a great 4 year university with good grades and then moved back in with my parents and eventually got a great job. The problem is that now she is over 25 and doesn t pay rent yet cant seem to hang on to her money. She doesn t pay rent but my mom insisted on saving 1800 a month for her in a separate bank account that she does not have access to. Still with the money taken out of her account she still gets over $1000 a month into her personal account but she is constantly under $25 on her debit card. I accidentally saw her bank statement while on her computer and saw that she maxed out a $10,000 credit card. Her expenses are mostly travel (pretty pricey in the city) food (tons of takeout even though my parents cook) and entertainment. When I ask her about her finances she blatantly lies to my face about having tons of money. I ve also noticed that she makes up elaborate lies all the time and I m literally shocked when i find out she is lying. She eats my parents food when shes at home and never cooks or cleans. She also had some application expenses to go back go graduate school My parents have asked me for help they've tried to talk to her about her spending habit.

So im living with my sister for the moment to save money to get on my feet. my sister had two kids before she was 18 with one night stands, she never wanted kids and if so only to get money off the system She never played with them as kids, her parenting could have been done better by a leggo she screams at them, threatens them by beating them, hitting them, kicking them, throwing them ... cusses at them and tells them she never wants to see them and ive almost called CPS a few times The kids do nothing to scream and cry in pain over their mother beating them and screaming at them constantly. Her oldest was in diapers until 6 years old and still on bottles, her 3 year old cant talk at all or say anything because she doesn't work with her, its just a freak show... please help

My mom and I got into a fight because she wanted her, my dad, and I to go all together for a graduation party and she said I won't go to work with my dad in the future. Now I cannot have a graduation party and I really wanted one. I so f**king hate them right now. I feel like I don't even know them anymore. I am worried that I will lose my favorite job and I really wished my grandpa was here to help me. Can you tell me what's wrong with them?

When its anything he always asks others to do it for him. Like when he wants to make instant noodles he almost always asks others to make it for him. And when he does do it himself he doesn't even use the pan and stove. He uses a container and hot water from the dispenser. He says that he does it like that because no one wants to make it for him and he's too lazy to use a pan and light the fire. And he can't even scold us by himself. He just tells my mum and she gets mad at us. Should I do something about this? Or is this how husbands are like after 20 years of marriage?

I want to be born in the '90s, 20th century, and the last millennium! I hate my generation! I want to be a millennial not Generation Z. So how do I change my birth certificate from March 7, 2001 to March 7, 1999? I don't want to be 2000 because that's still the 2000s, 21st century, and new millennium. I want to be a '90s baby! I hate it I hate I hate it! Pedants: I don't care, I care more about what people think, not you're stupid wrongly calculated calendar that is in fact wrong.

My wife got pregnant when she was in college. The father and her broke up when her son was about 2 and he didn't want to be in her or the kid's life. He didn't want the responsibilities of a family. He pays child support but doesn't visit. Her and I started dating when her son was about 7 years old. She's very protective of him. I didn't even meet her son until we'd been dating around 3 or 4 months. Now we're married and I consider him my own and he's 10. He and I have a very good relationship. He's at that age where he wants to be more independent but she's very protective still. She lets him have freedom because she understands he needs it but she worries about everything. Because for a few years, it was just the two of them. She told me she's happy he has me as a father figure in his life but sometimes it's hard for her to share the reins with me which is frustrating. She'll refer to him as "her son" rather than "our son." It's frustrating how she wants me to be a parent to him but at the same time have final say on everything I do for/with him. How do I get her to loosen up a bit?

So about a month ago, my dad had a baby with a co worker of his. I'm not even sure if they're even still dating or not. They had the baptism last night and my dad wanted me to go. I told I didn't want to and it's not for me (I'm 15). I hadn't met the woman either. On Thursday morning, my dad had to go to the ER for a kidney stone so it was looking like I've wouldn't be able to go on Friday night unless he was feeling better. Friday at 3pm, he was still down. About 4pm, just as I thought he wouldn't be going, he told my mom he'd be there at 530 to pick me up. My mom said that he had passed the stone so he was feeling better. Ugh I said! So when we got there, I finally got to meet her. Rita was her name and she was very nice to look at! She was dressed up with tighter fitting black slacks. Longer and straight brunette hair, no makeup and didn't need it. Very nice! Turns out she's only 28 too. Very attractive and very personable. It sounds like her and my dad dated for a bit, broke up and then got together for a brief fling which resulted in Rita popping out a baby 9 months later. I noticed later that night that people in FB were asking her when her and my dad would be having baby #2. Is there even a chance of that st this point and with the big age gap?

It's really annoying me. Even when my hair is a bit down he always asks me to comb my hair when we go out. My dad was born in the 60s and he isn't open minded at all with the gender norms and fashion. He doesnt approve hair straighteners and curlers. I think that it's just so irritating because it doesn't even suit my style it makes me look like a 40 year old. How do i tell him that O want to have the right to style my hair the right way- as long as it's sensible, and to tell him to stop asking me to fix my hair all the time?

My older brother (23) has always hit women, threatened them and verbally abused them but he's never had a fight with a man or stood up to a man funnily enough. Anyway 2 years ago when I was 16 he attacked me and gave me a black eye, I didn't phone the police. Then a year later he attacked me and my mum so I called the police, he got arrested and the police asked if I wanted to press charges, I said no because he's my brother and I just couldn't do it. He always verbally threatens me and speaks to my mum like crap, but won't dare speak to my dad like that. Anyway today he started on my mum so I obviously got involved and he started telling me to "shut my mouth or he will punch me" so I've argued back (this was over the phone). He has a daughter who's nearly one (my neice) and to be honest he's a terrible dad I'm ashamed to be related to him, but if I phone the police or do anything to him I know he will stop my seeing my niece who I love to pieces, what am I supposed to do ? I want nothing to do with him anymore but I know my mum won't cut him off and I can't stand there and allow him to treat my mum like crap when she does everything for him. He's split up with he's girlfriend and has the baby half the week, I don't even think he's had her one full day and night without palming her off to someone and my mum has her overnight because "he can't cope" I really don't know what to do.

My mother kicked my 21 yr old brother out and Although he is grown and should be able to fend for himself nobody would help him after she kicked him out and he basically slept in her lobby for days before my sister agreed she would let him stay with her. I admit I said no because on 2 different occasions he disrespected me verbally because I didn't help him as fast as he wanted me to. My sister decided to let him stay with her and he came from NY to Alabama . His 1st week here I tried to help him out and he got upset at me for no reason and basically told me he would kick my butt. He angrily drove to my house and threatened me and sadly my husband tried to push him out of our doorway, my brother hit him and my husband in turn beat him up pretty badly. I cut off all ties with him. my sister has been calling upset saying she wants him out because he's constantly disrespecting her and Refuse to find a decent job to help out or move out. I don't want to get involved in this because of the fight but I would love to give her advice. unfortunately he doesn't have anywhere else to go and no one else wants to help him because he's disrespected them as well...as sad as I am about him possibly becoming homeless I don't know what else to do because it's has been a hard task to even get him to understand that he has to respect people if you are asking for help...I feel like he is digging his own grave with everyone and I don't think he will change anytime soon. Any advice please?

Okay so Here is whats going on, basically my cousin invited me and my sister to big Bear but then his brothers wanted to go. To so now we all don't fit in the car so they excluded me now I actually feel sorta sad that my cousin did that but like I can't do anything about it and I can't Force them to invite me. But am I just over reacting or is this messed up

Growing up, my mom and dad built a place to sell alcohol at the house. The problem came when she turned the garage into a room for two uncles. One Uncle in particular molested me all my childhood. I once confided in her about it but she ignored me and walked away. Years went by with her asking to go wake Uncle up for breakfast. He took those opportunities to molest me. It progressed to my mom asking me to go ask uncle to hand me a cloth while he was in the shower. Uncle would open the door naked and make me touch him. Every time I mention something, mom hits me. As a teenager I was always called up and told that men only want to use me and if I ever become rich, they only want my money. Mom later brought another uncle into the house who did the same thing. Unfortunately for him I was older and wiser. I packed his bags and as I was about to kick him out for molesting me (as I told everyone) mom came to his defence and made me publicly apologise. Before I went to medical school mom wrote me a letter, she called me names. I was a ***** and a whore to her. I was cheap and my vagina was white from ******* everyone. We had our 1st argument, (cause I knew I was going away)... next day, dad packed his bags and left. He wished me well for studies and said I can now defend myself better. I went to medical school and met my 1st boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him. Unfortunately I always felt insecure around him. We broke up in 2 months. I stayed single for the entire 6 years.

I'm a 16 year old boy. Me and my little brother are pretty quiet, deep thinking people. Often we are stuck in our own heads and worlds. Not too sociable. My dad is a very socially awkward person. He's very strict. (can't leave the house without asking, etc). He takes prayer VERY seriously. Our house is extremely messy and disorganized. I didn't notice until my girlfriend pointed it out (awkward). We learned to live with it, and we are unorganized and have odd habits ourselves. My grandpa, dad's dad, recently became very mentally ill and distanced from reality: anxiety about people leaving him. I have aspirations to go to college in Tenessee (we live in CA) with my girlfriend, but I can tell they'd be happier if I went to Sac State nearby like my older sister did, and may even attempt to make me stay. My dad had a traumatic experience when he was my age. His dad crashed their car on a vacation to the US causing serious injuries and forcing them to leave their home in Mexico and stay in the US. My dad left behind his friends, his dog, and his girlfriend that he didn't see again until 7 years. I can see why he's so strict about simple things, but it's not normal. And because of it, I'm far from normal too. He doesn't understand simple things like me wanting to sleep over at a friend"s house or me going for a run around the block. He's terrified of irrational things and I fear he'll end up like my grandpa. And I fear that I will too because of my social defecit. What can I do?

and my friend is being a brat ;c i want to yell i may have ruined my chance with him by yelling at her in front of him D: what do i do? im so sad now that i did that ;c.

I just got offered a job because I have been out of work a year. I told my dad that I was offered the job and that I was waiting on my background check to come back. Well the next day he asked me have I found a job and started yelling at me for no reason. Saying I need to get a job. I'm like hello I told you that yesterday and that I was waiting on my background check to come back. He had the nerve to say not all jobs don't do background checks. I don't know what his problem is,but I feel like he don't listen.

The previous owners of our house let their pets potty all over the house and then they DIDNT CLEAN IT UP so we had to rip out the carpet. So my room is carpetless and it's not like it's smooth hardwood it's just wood. A little girl used to sleep in my room so it's pink. When I was little we put up these picture sticker thingies of fairies on our wall and we can't peel them off so if you have any tips for that tell me. When I was around 11 we got bedbugs. My dad threw out our mattresses and we had to sleep on air mattresses for a while. The bedbugs are gone now, but my dad refuses to buy us new beds until he redos our room five years from now(I'll be in college then so there's no point in me waiting for them) so my sister and I sleep on air mattresses in a carpetless pink room. I really want to convince them to let me redo it. I want to paint it, carpet it, and a bed with some new bedding. I could take care of the decor with my own money. But I have asked to redo it before and they say to wait five years from now. I'm too embarrassed to invite my friends over cuz I don't want to be judged. I want to offer to pay for half the paint and half the carpet. I have my own job, but I'm not allowed to paint or carpet it myself Maybe that will help? My dad has one job and my mom has two, so it's not like money is tight or anything. So how do I convince them? I'm not asking for much and I really want to hang out with my friends in my room again.

She doesn't have anything wrong with her like mental illness or anything but she stayed a bully even after she went from kid to adult. I don't like her but don't want to bring our parents into it as we are adults. She was even mean to her brother's son this last Christmas. So how do I guard myself against this kind of person when I have to see her some since she is family? She is 29 and I am 34, our brother, the oldest, is 40

Basically, I've been feuding with my family for about 4 years now. Ever since I was kid my father and mother, in my opinion, have been emotionally damaging/vacant people. My father used to "work" 70 hours a week, when really he was going out to bars and god knows what else. I've heard my mother talking to her mom about the time she used to come home to him nodding out from drugs on the couch. He hasn't taught me a god damn thing about his trade, in any serious manner. Not a damn thing. He dislocated some spinal discs doing work and has been on disability now for eighteen years, after a surgery....and now he sells his pills and lives on the government. Ever since I've been 10. He made me work at 13, a violation of the child labor laws. He took my paychecks until I was 16, saying I was paying off a car he owned for myself. Later, my brother, who was driving the car on his "permission" crashed it and he claimed all the money for it was gone due to my fault. These guys have told me that my father wasn't even my real father, at one point in my life. I remember it, yet they deny it to this day....like it never even happened. this day....like it never even happened. I have pretty bad manic depression and anxiety issues. I've been in and out the of the hospital for behavioral issues....I remember one time he picked me up from the place...and when we got home he looked at me pretty angry and told me to "get a ******* life" ......He's attacked me while I was getting into the shower, throwing a ashtray up the stairs, which went through the door. I called the police..... I can go on and on and on with example of these parents....and I am starting to resent them

So basicallly this girl and i were talking for like over an hour at work ( we're lifeguards) and we really hit it off, and as she was leaving work,(her shift ended before mine), i suggested we hangout sometime, and she asked if i had my phone on me ( i didnt , it was in the guard office) and she asked for mine and i gave it to her, and now its been exactly a week and she hasnt texted yet... does that mean shes not interested or what??

i'm a 20 y/o girl and i have a 31 y/o brother. we're from maine but we both live in los angeles california now. we both moved here on our own time and for our own reasons. my brother moved here about 11 years ago, and i moved here 2 years ago. because my brother and i are 11 years apart and i was only 7 when he moved away from home, we were never very close growing up. we've gotten a lot closer since i moved to la though. we make time to see each other as often as we can, we regularly have lunch or dinner together or hang out at each other's houses. we're 100000 times closer now than we were when we lived so far apart. he's helped me adapt to life so far away from home, i don't think i could handle living here if i didn't have him. my brother has a really good job and a nice house and he lives completely alone. i have enough money to pay my rent, i actually have a great apartment so money isn't my problem, but i'm starting to get really really homesick. me and my boyfriend recently broke up, i'm having friend issues, and i don't like being alone in my apartment every single night. it's making me depressed. i want to ask my brother if i can move in with him temporarily (for a few months or so), but i'm just wondering if you think that'd be too much to ask of him? i'd pay rent and i'd move out if he asked me to. should i ask him or should i not?

My boyfriend has been acting like a fool since December. First he tells me that he just started doing meth, I told him to knock that **** off or he won't be around our son when he's born, he begged me for another chance because he wants an opportunity with the baby. He proceeds to tell me that the reason he does it is because he gets lonely. The current situation is that I live in a maternity shelter because he couldn't afford a place to live and my job doesn't pay me enough to make rent for a home in my city. When I met him I was living in an apartment but the lease was up and I had to move asap and it was either I live in the shelter or I live an hour away with my Mom and grandparents who I have issues with so I chose the shelter. The shelter I live in has a curfew which I hate but I can't control it so I don't get to spend nights over there like I used to and I have to obey the rules because I need a place to live for our son. He's making me feel as if I'm not there enough for him when I try to be that's why he's going down a bad path.

I feel really bad I am not going and yet it is a total stranger who was not close to the family so I figure it would be inappropriate to go. Am I right or should I be going? I feel torn but know people will find me morbid if I go and I never knew the woman who died whatsoever.

They want me to do "tough love" and disown him. I cannot do this cause it is immoral. I have told him I hope he will get help and he just denies being an alcoholic and says people lie about him. He is an alcoholic there is no doubt. He is a severe one. But the family is mad I will not disown him like my Mom and sister did but they strike me as immoral to do that. My sister has kids but all she is doing is taking their grandfather from them. So how do I get the family not to be so mad and resentful of me loving my Dad? It is my Mom and sister as well as all of my Mom's family. My parents are divorced and the drinking got worse after the divorce 10 years ago even though he was already an alcoholic. I am 29 and a man.

Lemme just say, I fessed up to what I did and am posting from a school computer, I took cigs and alcohol from my parents and they noticed and told us that they would check our rooms. In a panic, I left school during lunch and hid it in my sister's room. They took everything from her, even her door. They made her breakup with her bf and break off ties with her friends that they think "influenced it". And they made her quit dance, she can't get back in though. She told me that she never wanted to speak to me again and that she hated me with all her heart. The punishment was set for two months, and I took one month before I told the truth. Now I'm being punished for four months (i deserve it, let's be honest). It doesn't matter how much I apologize, she's purposely avoided anything that's related to me. She's 14 and I'm 16. I ruined her friendships with people and everything she loves. I don't know how to fix this and it hurts to know that I was selfish enough to do this to the person I love most. How can I fix this, or at least get her to talk to me?

My sister was kidnapped around December of 2016, she was held for around 3 weeks. Then suddenly one day she calls us from a "burner phone" & says she's at a restaurant & wants us to pick her up. She refused to cooperate with the cops to the point where she got aggressive. When she was examined at the hospital they said she showed no signs of malnutrition, physical abuse or sexual assault. We finally convinced her to tell us what happened by promising to not tell the police. She said that her captor did threaten her a lot at first and she hated him & feared him but that he didnt rape her and then began treating her nicely, asking her what her favorite food was, let her take showers, watched her favorite movies with her, and then when she said she wanted to go home he released her. She is clearly suffering from Stockholm Syndrome!. Even when we rescued her she seemed happy. Now we suspect she's still in contact with her captor as she has been secretive about were she goes & it seems she has been in contact with someone & seeing them while hiding that fact from us.

I am looking for key advise. Lili: I am terrified cause like I noted in an earlier post my Mom was estranged from some of her family and made me estranged from them as a kid also. Her father was an alcoholic and she didn't understand the mental illness component of alcoholism. So we were estranged when I was a kid but got close again when I was a teen. I feel so much guilt