I find that to be illogical to jump into a contract because divorce you then battle over assetts. Isnt it wise to live together first? Another thing is besides money and status, why marry at all?

I broke up with my daughter's father last year, after 14 years. He has anger issues, is immature, and is narcissistic. I put up with it for far too long. We've never lived with each other. I thought we could still be friends, so I allow him to come to my house to visit our 9 year old daughter. But now that I'm starting to date again, he is getting jealous or possessive and controlling. I told him he has to get him home cleaned and get food so that he can start having visitation at HIS HOUSE from now on. He refuses. He says I just want him out of my life, and if he can't visit at my house, then he's not going to see our daughter at all. My daughter overheard him and is deeply hurt by her father's words. I don't know what to do. If I don't allow him over here, he'll stop seeing our daughter and she'll possibly blame ME for pushing her dad away. But if he continues to visit here, it will cause a problem when I want my new man to visit. I'm getting depressed over it. Please tell me what I should do?

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Hi...I m a 28 yr old guy in a long distance relationship. We are both from California but she lives south in Santa Barbara and I m 3+ hours up north from her. She s 31. I work hard and have a physical labor job. I have a a lot of stress. She s a office worker. We are in love and I love her and we see each other every other weekend. It s not easy. I wish we lived together but that won t happen for another year. I used to have drinking issues and snort coke. I need a stress release and I ve been having casual sex sometimes with a FWB, i use protection and it s only sex and leave. She s bisexual and horny a lot, she also doesn t want relationships so it s a win win for both. I feel bad but honestly it help me stay sane and not fight with my gf about not seeing her. I know that I will only be with her once we live together. We ve been dating 7 months now. Am I a bad person?i promise there s no emotions at all involved and I love my gf. But this isn t easy. My gf is just like me and we love nature and hiking. She's not the type to cheat. I feel bad. But I have needs too. I'm not even 30 yet, she's the one I want to marry and I'm only gonna be with her when we move in. I'm still young and just having fun and i work hard and get depressed Cus I miss my gf. It helps

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Since we first got together I just do the stupidest things and he always has to fix them before we got married I wrecked his truck and he had to pay for it himself because he wouldn't let my parents and I couldn't afford to help, then when we got married a month later I started a fire in our apartment that we had just moved into a month before and he basically had to pay for everything out of pocket, about a month after that I got pregnant which he was thrilled about and he loves his son but in a way I feel guilty that maybe we wasn't ready and its been a lot of money still paying for the fire and all that, the tennants below us are trying to sue for water damage from the sprinklers going off automatically, I'm pregnant again so once again even tho hes happy I feel guilty. And now, I wrecked our brand new car into a brick wall which its not that bad but still its my fault I did it and now hes mad at me which I dont blame him because im so mad at myself, but realistically a lot of the time I feel like I'm seriously just a burden on him and I feel like if I were to just disappear he'd be better off and so would everyone else. Im sorry its so long I just needed to vent a little I just feel like **** I don't have anyone to talk to.

Would you ever let your family belittle and berate your spouse on a daily basis? Also how would you handle your spouse lying to you and betraying your trust?

I am 17 and got out of a relationship with my abusive mother because she decided to divorce my dad. she decided to abandon my brother and i for months when she stooped talking to us for two months, took all the money for our bank account and not helping pay the phone bill like she said she would. The divorce is almost over and I dont feel comfortable at her house because of the years of emotional and physical abuse and because she cheated on my dad and her lover is living in her house with his children. She got arrested a few months ago cause she assaulted my dad and had loose pills on her, can i use any of this as a reason to not visit her? is there any way my father and i can take away her visitation rights? I am 17 so it doesnt effect me much, but i have a 15 year old brother and i dont want him to have such a terrible person in his life. I live in michigan btw. dont know if this has any effect because of the state laws.

Tonight I stayed out a little late after work to hang out with some friends. I wasn't out that late, I got home at 11:15pm. My husband wouldn't speak to me when I got home and accused me of basically cheating on him even though I told him I would be out a little late to have a couple drinks with friends. He has told me in the past as long as I tell him what I'm doing and where I am he doesn't have a problem. Well, he gave me the silent treatment when I got home and when I tried to kiss him he pushed me away and said "I don't know where that mouth has been". So I gave him space. I sat down in the living room and his phone happened to be next to me so I picked it up to browse the internet. Next thing I know he gets up, snatches the phone out of my hand, smacks me in the arm really hard and storms off to the bedroom and locks the door. When I got into the bedroom to question why he hit me he said I shouldn't be looking at his phone. He's never done this before so I have no idea what his problem is and he won't talk about it. I'm feeling a little lost and unsure of what to do about this.

If a man feels he needs a woman to bring him happiness and fulfilment in life, then why would he ever feel that need? Considering that there has been enough consistency of examples, demonstrating what happens to men who attach themselves to women. Yes, there lives are ruined. Logic says that men should not want to do that. But still. some men are taking the chance. No, we need to knock this fake culture on the head once and for all. Women can look after themselves with Government assistance, men do not need to participate. I guess I'm talking about reward here. Men need a reward. If the reward is just sex, then a lot of effort needs to be afforded just for sex. You see, men get very little else from a woman than sex. Then, when the woman decides to take her cut and run, usually the man is left with nothing. Now, I don't know about you, but logically, men don't really want sex that bad do they? Choosing to be ruined on the basis of 'I can't live without them' is stupidity! I'm only posting this obvious comment for lampro: Divorce may be the modern day tool used by women to ruin men, I agree that the divorce tool is widely used this way, but obviously, there needs to be a marriage first for the divorce tool to be used. Therefore, the origin is the marriage. Marriage is one of the causes used by women to ruin men. Men need encouragement to help them see the errors this life can bring. Young men need guidance to help them choose wisely. Women are not a wise choice, and this fact needs to be made aware to men.