So my best friend and I are super close. We call eachother soulmates and that we're each others persons. Lately, I've been feeling more than just a friend feeling for her and I have a mini crush on her. I told her my feelings and she said she was flattered. We're both not gay, and I don't want to label myself but I've never felt anything like this for any girl besides her. She will say not to get a boyfriend right now because she'll get jealous and she isn't a jealous person but she's really protective over me. She lays on me and calls me beautiful and compliments my body and says I'm the cutest and we call eachother baby, love, babe. I kissed her and she didn't really kiss me back but she never moved away or was bothered by it. She just said we just really love eachother. She'll say we'll get married one day too and she will also say she has this deep kind of love for me that she can't explain. She will look at me and just smile and sometimes I'll say like just be mine and she'll say if she was gay she would already be dating be by now. But then other times she'll say maybe I will just go gay for you or if I mention about my crush she'll be like I'm happy to be that girl or it's more than okay. She even says she loves more than she should. Sometimes well like squeeze each others hands but today she didn't let go of my hand we just held it in the car. But sometimes I feel like her words and actions confuse me.

I'm only asking this because I'm 25 and I've spent 3 years without any friends. I get jealous when I log in on social media and I see people having fun with their friends, while I'm hoping and praying (and failing) to get a message back (I usually get left on read). Last year, I got led on by a female I thought I would be friends with, only for her to start giving out hints she wasn't interested in a friendship. I also wanted to join a clique at a dance studio I visited for months, but I was snubbed by the instructors and some of the other students. I don't want to talk to my family members about this anymore because I think they only seem to care about is that I'm doing well academically in grad school and financially at my job. They don't even consider that there's more to life than just studies. The fact that they expect me to be happy with feeling unwanted and disliked just makes them come off as self-centered. The fact that I'm better at making more enemies than friends unprovoked makes me insecure with myself to the point I would be someone else. It just gives me the impression that I'm not friendship material and I'm just someone to be disliked. This is why I no longer blame teenagers when they whine & complain about being unpopular. It's not that I don't want to make any effort to rise above this and take action. It's just that I'm fed up with making too many failed attempts and I am desperate for a change, even if it means changing myself.

A guy was flirting with me and then another girl ( one of his friends ) came in and he started flirting with her and looking at me for my reaction. Is he playing games?

Ok I'm 16 and I am super anti-social and socially anxious. I have only trusted one person in my entire life to talk to about depression and how I feel and she was my best friend since 1st grade. We were like sisters up until this summer. But even then, we were still just as close and we hung out more than most friends do, just not as much as we did before. Now she obviously has a new best friend which I'm upset about but it's ok, I mean, that happens. I'm just so upset because she never tells me the truth. She still says I'm her best friend. I put so much effort into making plans with her and she always says she's grounded but then she has friends over anyway. And she never ever asks to hang out. It also really sucks because like I said, I am very socially anxious. I only have two friends including her and the other one can never hang out because strict parents. Also, I'm still not comfortable talking to him about me like I did with her. So pretty much, my one friend doesn't care about me anymore. I have no one. I don't even have someone to rant to about her. I can't stand staying home all the time but my parents are always working and I don't have a car so now I'll never go anywhere. I can't make new friends. I don't know what to do.

Looking back, I do agree with others when they said I did have a victim mentality in my past because I never made an attempt to rise above my situations. All I did was complain. But recently, when I said that I was fed up with my lifestyle and I'm better off being someone else after failing to make good friends in three years (i'm in my mid 20s), I was accused of having a victim mentality. This time, however, I disagree with myself playing the victim. So because I'm unhappy with being unpopular after trying to be social, I'm playing the victim? It's like people use that phrase on anybody who isn't satisfied with their lifestyle no matter how many times they try to make a change. Isn't the victim mentality for people who aren't willing to make a change and enjoy wallowing in self-pity?

Necesito algunos concejos. He conocido a estas chicas por toda mi vida y a pesar de que apenas empecé a juntarme con ellas recientemente he vivido de los mejores momentos de mi vida junto a ellas en los últimos dos años, sin embargo, me he estado dando cuenta que nos son las mejores personas del mundo y que me llegan a afectar mucho. Son controladoras, convenencieras y cuando se sienten mal se desquitan conmigo. Reconozco que yo tampoco soy la mejor persona de todas, pero siempre me he esforzado por estar ahí para ellas y ser buena amiga. Me hacen bromas crueles y cuando me enojo o les digo que no me gustan lo ven como si fuera un juego y yo fuera una loca enojona, voltean todo en mi contra y ellas terminan enojadas conmigo. Sé que es súper tonto que después de todo esto quiera seguir siendo amigas de ellas, pero también hay cosas buenas en esto y viviendo en un pueblo pequeño no tengo muchas opciones de amigos. También estas chicas son parte de mi grupito de amigos y tengo miedo a que si me alejo de ellas mi amistad con mis otros amigos peligre. Aquí viene mi pregunta; como me puedo dar a respetar?

a) yes b) no

I'm kinda socially awkward (and have social anxiety) and just really bad at making general conversation. Anyway I have been working at this job for a couple months now (almost 3) and there is this dude I kinda like. We're on opposite shifts so there's only a tiny overlap and not a lot of room for casual conversation. I have added him on fb but he's never on and doesn't really use it. We get along and do chat a little bit, mostly work related though, so I'd say we are friendly/acquaintance. We've (a few of us at work) had had a couple game nights since I have started but he hasn't been able to make any, (for legit reason) so so far attempts to hang out have failed. I need some advice on how to make friends with people. I've never been good at it. I never know how to make conversation/what to talk about which is why I was hoping the group thing would help but schedules are weird so who knows when we'll get another chance at a group thing. could be over a month. In the meantime I want to focus on building more of an actual friendship. I am just so bad at building friendships.

So I am originally from Chicago and lived there. But 4 months ago I moved to Seattle on a whim to try it out. But the thing is now that I have been here I don't really like it in Seattle a few weeks ago and miss Chicago. Now the thing is I got a job that pays 40,000 per year here in Seattle. But I'm wondering if I should just move back to Chicago and I wonder if it be easy to find a 40,000 job back there.

I texted this girl I used to be good friends with in highschool who is now in college like me. Well Im not going to say exactly what I said but it was like hey haven't talked you in awhile just wanted to check up on you how's college life. Her response seemed so happy she had smiley faces and stuff. So do girls like when guys check up on them lol

So I have a few friends that were literally pregnant around the same time and so they have their babies all around the same time. Imagine several baby shower invitations, lots of money. At the time I had to pay a $2000 deductible for my car insurance...don't ask lol so I was working quite a bit. Plus my job has mandatory OT on some weekends so I don't have much time for anything honestly...not even myself. It's only been a few months but a couple are mad I haven't went to see them yet. I'm hesitant because I haven't had time and I haven't even got them gifts yet. I understand why they would be mad but they always need to understand that I have things going on in my life that I'm dealing with(depression) so I just haven't really been in the mood lately either. Plus one that is really mad when I attempted to go see them when they were first born was like nooo you have to go get these shots before and I'm just like ugh seriously, so I took my time and did it on my time later on. I promise i have maybe at least one attempt to each girl when I could and it never happened because they never told me when to come. I just feel like I'm losing friends because of something so easily fixable but they just feel like it's al about them.

1. Someone not appreciating your sacrifice of time that could be spent doing a favorite hobby. You devote your time to someone else who keeps you from doing something in your own time. 2. Someone takes advantage of your kindness. For the same reason as above. Is it really the same thing if I called them on both accounts?

A friend I had for years and I (live in separate towns) had a political discussion on Fb. She got mad and left the group chat when I talked about potential debt. My bf messaged her and asked what happened in an attempt to mediate things. She told him she's fine now, but that I "have no logic" and that talking to me was "like talking to a flat Earther", and that she talks to her bf about this (he has the same beliefs as me) but "logic has not gone out the window with him yet". My bf told her politics is not worth losing friendship. Then she acted normally in group chat again and asked about meeting up. But then I found out about what she told my bf and messaged her about it, asking why she thinks I have no logic and that it was hurtful that she said that (and Flat Earther) behind my back. No reply. I left the group chat but she kept liking/loving my posts. Do you think the friendship is worth it and just to never talk about controversial topics again, or is being compared to a Flat Earther without apology a deal-breaker? I don't think she has logic either, but I wouldn't say it to her bf.

hey, I have serious problems and see my future ending up in suicide. I´m lonely ever since I can think, family isn´t close, never had a friend. Tried so many things to meet new people but I just dont fit. Waking up with an enormous pain in my chest because I know today like always I will be on my own, watching videos in my bed for hours until its night. I´m 22, last year I spent in Australia as a backpacker..nothing changed. Now I´m back in my parents home, as stupid as I was I brought me a dog to cope with the emptiness..I realised I cant handle him, dont even have the power to go out with him because I´m just completely down. Have him now for 6 months and it breaks my heart if I think of giving him away, when I look him in the eyes I just cry..the next step would be to go to university but I dont know if this makes sense, I dont know if I even want this. I would like to colse my eyes and be done with it..that was and is my biggest wish..what can i do?

My ex gf and I broke up after a year and a half, we had our ups and downs. She kept calling, wanting to hangout, have sex, showed up at my job and even tried to get back together. After a while, I woke up and began to reject her sexual advances. It all began after one call, she wanted to come over and 'cuddle', I said no. A few months later, I got in touch with her, assuming we were friends, and learned that she was moving, she was very venomous and said all kinds of cruel things. She hurt me very badly. I finally confronted her about the times she used me, it was a vicious call. She sent me a e-mail apologizing telling him that she still really cared about me a lot, how she was truly sorry for all of the things she told me, regretted it, and that she was going through stuff at the time. I called her back, she had just moved, she told me that she missed me, That she still felt a strong connection with me, and I think, that she thought of me as family. But she downplayed our past relationship (when we were a couple) attributing it to being 'young and naive' and that she liked some things about our relationship. She also told me how she was interested in hook ups. At the end of the phone call, I wished her good luck and happiness in life and told her goodbye. She told me that I could call whenever I wanted to talk, but I didn't respond to her offer, and just said 'bye.' After she told me bye, and she stood on the line until I hung up. And I never talked to her again. Even though she moved, I wonder if she was just going to use me as a spare/security blanket again. Her past behavior exemplified this. Even though she said that the relationship (when we were officially a couple) because we were 'young and naive', yet she 'really cared a lot about me', she couldn't seem to let me go and was devastated when I finally said goodbye. Was she going to keep me on hold until she was done playing the field? On our final night together, during the period where she was being hateful, she came onto me sexually and I rejected her, and she told me 'if I was older, I probably would've stayed with you.' She even invited me to move with her. This was before the confrontation call, before the final phone call (a month or so before). You don't try to have sex with someone you feel is like family. So, I wonder if she was putting on a front during our last phone call.

Is there a problem with me? Is it okay that practically anything can make me cry? mostly people being unkind or something like that but even just a little unkind. I don't mean I cry in front of people. Just when I'm by myself. I never cried much as a kid. I only started crying a bit more when I had some anxiety and inner stress as a teen. But it has doubled and quadrupled since I was 20 and I had an emotionally abusive and manipulative friend. Since then, I can cry at ANYTHING. is this good or bad? what should I do? is there a way to stop it, and should I?

Ok so I got caught drinking and driving and I don't know where to go party. I need more friends how can I do it. And how can I find night friends. I don't give a dam I can drink all I want as long as I dont drive

So, we're a group of 4 girls 3 with 16 y/o and one who's 17 y/o we don't really party but we do drink, vape, and even smoke. the oldest one of us who's 17 is very, very innocent. To the point she doesn't get any of our jokes and likes telling, sorry to say, dumb puns and jokes. And every time we gather to do any of these things I always offer her a drink or a cigarette because she's just watching us very serious, and we've had troubles before about her feeling left out so I want to include her in whatever we're doing; the other 2 girls don't really care about her since she's not on "the level" in the way that she's too innocent. And she almost always agrees to taking hits of vape, cigarette, whatever. But does it in a very serious or forced way. But she never says no. I've always heard about peer pressure in school, from my parents, etc. So I want to know if I'm turning into that.

ok so my friend s dad was driving me and my friend back from the gym. while we were on our way, he said "do you want to go home or stay over?". i thought he was talking to me but I didn t say anything bc wasn t sure. then, my friend asked who he was talking to. he said "you" (my friend) "you re free to go chill with (my name) for a while". and he did all this without asking me first. this also isn t the first time this has happened and idk how to feel about it?

I have a Friend Named Tori and i already call her T but i want another nickname for her. any ideas?

Her name is Charlotte so I thought about making her a Charlotte cake (like a Charlotte Russe), but she also loves math so what could I make her? She calls math her meth. I don t want to buy anything, but if there s something cheap I ll buy it. Also I m not buying her a calculator

Is this just a glitch? Or is she in airplane mode or something?

In a twisted way, it matters because the way you were treated growing up can affect your self-esteem positively or negatively. People seem to ignore the fact that while some unpopular people grow up to be successful, it doesn't cure their feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem after taking a lot of crap from people. Sure Steven Jobs wasn't that popular in school, but he was one of the biggest assholes despite him being very successful. Christina Aguilera was treated horribly growing up and while she's successful, she developed a nasty attitude about it. I'm not saying that their actions are right, but it just proves that it can be a big deal. Coming from a woman in her 20s, Being unpopular and constantly mistreated for years did make me feel insecure to the point that I'm planning to get therapy to cure my feelings of inferiority and being unwanted. I've made several failed attempts to rise above my feelings. Even in the present, I'm still getting hated on or ignored by some people (especially other women my age) to this. I found out that other women don't like my company, and they can be too harsh in showing it by childish bullying and gossiping about me behind my back. Other women aren't interested in a friendship with me either because they'll lead me on into believing we will be good friends, and then switch at the last minute.