Hi. my grandfather passed away January 12th at age 89, i am still grieving he was my last living grandparent i am in my 30's his birthday is march 22nd i was thinking of buying balloons and writing Happy Birthday grandpa we love and miss you xoxo and release them to the sky. do you think? Thanks! what* do you think? sorry about the typo

i'm 15 years old and i've known that my stepdad has been an alcohol since i was 11. he has been doing better but my mom caught him drinking while he was home and he admitted that it wasn't the first time. my mom is pregnant with his baby and she said she was going to ask him to leave until he got better, but now everything has gone back to "normal" and she's laughing and having a good time with him. meanwhile, i have many bad memories from my childhood when he's been drunk and i don't trust him at all. he's never hit or abused me or my mother but he's talked very poorly about me and i heard him. my mom is now saying she's not kicking him out and she wants to have him stay at home and try not drinking (which we have tried countless times and he still ends up drinking). i feel like i've been exposed to too much of this and i'm concerned for the baby because i can't trust him and keeps relapsing. i understand this is a long and hard process for the alcoholic, but why do i have to keep having to suffer and live with someone i don't trust and watch my mom suffer. how should i tell her how i feel, he's too comfortable at home and i feel like he's not gonna get better until he leaves. but my mom is letting him stay and acting happy with him and i can't ignore what's going on because this has been going on since i was in 6th grade and i'm in 10th now. sorry for the long story i just don't know how to handle this

Before you say "Oh you're being dramatic" or "You should be happy your dad is alive because one day he might be gone forever!1!" PLEASE hear me out. I want to be around him and not get angry but he makes it impossible for me to even be near him. These are the list of things he does to annoy me: 1. If i'm using the bathroom he'll jiggle the doorknob to scare me or pretend like he's going to enter. 2. Whenever I'm trying to concentrate on my homework or if I'm trying to draw something he'll try to tickle me and he makes me lose my train of thought or make me mess up. 3. When I'm watching tv he'll get close to the tv and try to block my view 4. Whenever I'm with my mom he'll always and I mean ALWAYS SAY: "Did you know what (insert my name) did today?" (as if I did something wrong) Mom: What? Me" What? Him: NOTHING! and then he'll do his obnoxious laugh. 5. If I'm eating he'll get close to me and pretend like he's going to steal my food. 6. He stares at me til I look back at him (he does this because he knows I hate when he does that) There are A LOT more things he does but these are just some. I know he wants my attention and I give him my attention but he still doesn't stop bothering me. Even my mom sometimes has to tell him to stop annoying me. What's wrong with him or what am I doing that makes him want to bother me? Sorry for the bad grammar I was rushing :(

My mother's birthday was yesterday and I gave her what I thought were great gifts: a few items from different things that she likes and today, right in front of me, she returned one of them and she has completely hidden the other items from view in her room. She confronted me saying that I had spent too much and wasted my money and then tried to make me feel bad for just giving her a gift. I am so hurt and I do not even know what to do.

I am 6'8 226 lbs and she is 5'2 95 lbs.

I'm 19 and pregnant due any day now (38 weeks) and we've been fighting a lot because she's trying to control my baby and keep her as far away from the dad as possible. She keeps telling me what I can and can't do with my baby for example, I can't go and visit his family that they can only come here, the father can't have the baby alone, his mom can't be near the delivery room, etc. she keeps trying to force me to go on welfare because she keeps telling me that the dad isnt going to help out with the baby (she hates him if you can't tell) and now she is not talking to me because she wants my dad (who I'm not close to at all) there at the hospital and he does not want to see the baby's father because they do not like eachother and she's telling me "the dad is going to be there the whole time?" "That's not happening because your dad is going to visit the baby whether you like it or not your dad comes first" so I finally stood my ground to her and told her if she causes any drama I will have her kicked out at the hospital that the baby is mine and she needs to respect that and she started playing victim saying "Fine I won't be there at the hospital at all and I'll be glad to tell everyone why" I told her she won't be saying that when I'm in labor and her reply was "Nah I'm good, i already talked with your sister about it" I am honestly so tired of her crap it's been 2 days and she still hasn't talked to me over this moving out isn't an option right now so I don't know what to do

My aunt is very mean to me. I'm 24. She treats me like I'm a child. I've tried talking to her about it, but she basically tells me that she's my elder so she can do that. She makes fun of my flaws all the time in front of others. If I made fun of something about her, she will get sensitive. When she buys me clothes, she always buys big sizes for me. I'm very petite. When I try to eat healthy, she forces me to eat junk food. She's plus sized, and has diabetes. She should be more supportive of my healthy lifestyle, because of her own health issues. She yells at me all the time, for things that aren't my fault. Yet, she never thinks she does anything wrong. Whenever I try to talk to my aunt about this, all she does is get mad, and talk about all the money she spent on me as a child. I try not to talk to her when she's around, because she's mean to me. Although, I don't really speak to her, she always tries to pick an argument with me.

I don' have a problem giving it to her. But shes not trying to pay her own bills. She stays at home all day and not working. She does have a job but she does not work everyday. Should i keep giving her money or should i have her find her own way to pay her bills? And shes not even that old to be working. Shes only 41. She tells me that shes about to get surgery. She been telling that me that for 2 years now and i don't see it happening. And she looks fine. I think shes just making that up because shes lazy and does not want to work or do nothing with her life. Should i keep giving her money because shes my mother or should i have her pay her own bills?

Have you had family that you never became close to? I am going to see family after 11 years and all i can think about is in the past how when i was a younger person all i was ever commented was on my weight, on my nails, on almost everything. I was really down about it and always felt like I couldn t be myself. I always felt like I was an embarrassment for my mom and dad compared to the success my cousins had. I am not that little kid anymore, but my goodness I am left with that fright. I am thinking of going and at the same time just staying home instead. But my mom s aunt and uncle are very old...it s worth seeing them, but I am worried that I ll act up in defense if i get those horrid comments. I guess it s because my mom s family are thin and lovely. I am working on myself, I ve lost 20 pounds and never thought that this would be the year when i see them :/ I just don t know how to be in front of them. I don t want to be distant to them, not at all...if anything I wish I was loving and close to my mother s family. I am just not successful in any area in my life right now, unlike my cousins...so I m just overwhelmed. Wondering what other s might do if they were in my situation. I don t know if I am being selfish. I just hate that feeling of being a failure. Especially in front of my uncle whom I had a bad experience with in the past. My heart hurts every time I think about how I am not anything my parent s could be proud of Thank you for your time and opinions!

I moved out of my mom's house in March 2016 because we didn't get along and I couldn't tolerate her excessive drug use. I moved in with my grandfather, who's her father. Fast forward to August 2016, I receive a phone call from a family member that my grandmother has been deceased upon my mom finding her dead lying in the living room, as she claims. The last time i talked to gma was two weeks prior to her death. everyone seemed unemotional. In October 2016, I moved out of my grandfathers house and got my own place which coincidentally isn't far from my mother's place. I visited my mom to see how she was doing and she looked like she was on drugs bad so bad to the point where I didnt want to even communicate with her but I thought why not give her a chance. In July 2017. I receive multiple phone calls from her asking me to come visit her and that she needs me. shes sad. etc I was 23 at the time but a bit naive to what was going on. Although, my brother lives with her, I came just out of concern. When I arrived, she asked my compensation, she said my grandmother made remarks about her husband's death. She knew information about my grandmother's life insurance and It's making me think she killed her or was behind the scenes. I've attempted to calls the cops twice, but both times I withdrew, because I felt like maybe Im delusional. What do you guys think? Please help!

My entire family lives abroad so I only live with my brother. He is 26 and I am 20, so my parents send us both money but they send him more to pay the bills. The problem is that he does not pay any of the bills (He doesn't work either!) so I have to pay all of them also clean the house and cook when I am off Uni. I want to know based on my religion Islam, should I be patient and go on or should I tell my family about this?

A neighbor thinks that another girl of 12-13 is sexualized by parents because she wears inappropriate clothing. They're cropped tops and low cut tops. I think this is coming from a busybody who paid a lot of attention. I never thought about this but MY guess would be that this pre-teen is choosing to dress that way. Most kids her age want to be "cool" and older, which makes it a more likely thing than the parents forcing her. The girl seems pretty happy with it. I don't know where this neighbor is getting all these ideas from.

So I'm a 16-year old girl and my dad constantly goes on about school, SATS, and college. It's okay if he mentions it sometimes but he gets really irritating when he does it everyday. 1. He told me I need to get a 1500 on the SAT or else no good college will accept me, which is about the dumbest logic I've ever heard. 2. We had a three day weekend so Friday we had the day off and he told me I needed to get started on my homework right away. 3. He always acts as if I'm a bad student and he asks me, "Do you want to flip burgers for your future job?" 4. He tells me it's too late to get started on the SAT even though I'm a sophomore. How do I get him to stop being annoying? I try to abide by his rules but he always has another thing to complain about.

Known her since we were kids. I'm 17 she's 18. We arent related by blood or by law, but we were raised like cousins. We always thought we were because my aunt and uncle raised her. She's my uncles wifes sisters kid. Not related at all but i feel like it would just be weird for the whole family. I can tell she likes me. She always has. But nothing ever happened between us. Should i pursue this or let it go?

I try to be nice to him but he insults me and has all these control freak issues for me to follow when my husband and I visit.I am not allowed to use the bathroom the tv or the hallway without his permission at my mom's house when I visit. He keeps lying to my mom and getting us to fighting which we never use to do.He wants my husband and I to sleep in separate bedrooms when we visit. He threw a fit because my mom husband and I had a couples glasses of wine at dinner.He told me he views me as a threat to his marriage to my mom and feel he has to compete for my mom's affections. I talk to my mom about this , and she is lonely since my dad died and wants us all to be friends.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years. I have a twin sister and she recently started dating someone and it seems like this upset him. They met online. He has cut all ties from her and told his family to do the same. And he told me to not contact my family or there would "be repercussions." I told him that he wasn't going to isolate me from my family. He also called me a God dam* idiot yesterday because the towels I washed did not smell nice. I cut ties from his family and he started yelling at me. I told him I did the same thing he did, it's only fair. He also tells me I am not attractive without my hair straightened or make up on. He just left the house now, said he has to think about our relationship since I won't cut ties with my family. He said it's either them or him. I am Appalachian and he is Indian. He calls my culture trash.

So this cute guy at my job who likes me has found out where I live since we live close and I feel so embarrassed because "it's not my house".. it's not like he's just gonna see me and I have the only impression on him..he's gonna see my loud obnoxious embarrassing mom and annoying family members..I hate it so much I'm really not happy with him knowing where I live because I don't want him knowing my business..it's one thing to see my work place but now my address? I absolutely hate it and am reconsidering if I should like him..is this bad?

I live away at uni & I've come home for the weekend. My sister got in an argument with my mum & ran upstairs to sulk. But i heard a scream 20 mins later & i ran upstairs & found her unable to move bc her back hurt. I called my mum to help but she said she was overreacting & pulled her into the bathroom like she didn't care... I sometimes get back pain so i know what it feels like. My sister is a serial liar so i knew my mum would say she was overreacting. But i could JUST TELL she wasn't making it up. Her back was sweating & her whole body was burning up. My mum tried to stop me helping her but i brushed her off & went to help my sister. Shes had some pain killer and her back is fine now but... Idk what to do about my mum. I don't want to go back to uni on monday worrying about if its going to happen again and i wont be there to help her...

Sometimes when my family comes over (sister, brother in law, and nephews) I stay in my room and don't talk to them. I'm not always this way, sometimes I stay downstairs and hang out and play with my nephews but I don't always because I have really bad anxiety. If it is rude, I don't mean to be. It's just my anxiety.

I don't know how to say thank you, I don't know how to show I'm grateful... My mom still lets me live with her rent free, and pays for college, I'm 19. I quit my job to go to school full time to just hurry up and graduate while she's still paying. I've saved some money and I rarely spend it besides gas because if I run outta gas money I can't go to school.... So I complained about my mom to just get some stuff off my chest, and someone started bashing me saying how lucky I am and I shouldn't be complaining if she's paying for everything... The thing I conplain about is she likes to "gloat" a lot about how she still pays everything for me and says I better be grateful, but I don't know HOW to be grateful... Then everyone on Facebook bashes me for being an ungrateful spoiled brat... I'm an introvert, I barely ever talk and I would write a letter to my mom but she is very "hard to love", and if she gets a note she'll just be gloating even more and say something like "I told you you need me"... Thing is no one seems to care how she acts, I guess she can just treat me however she wants and I can't stand up for myself because it's her house... I didn't think I was ungrateful, but I realized I just don't know how to be grateful so apparently I come off as a spoiled brat complaining my mom doesn't spoil me enough... Believe me I'm trying to move out, I do all the chores, I'd cook if I knew how, how on Earth do I show I'm "grateful" though...? I don't wanna be a brat....