I have noticed that trend.

So I've been married over just over two years and in that time we've separated twice had an illegitimate child that I was lead to believe was mine, there's been infidelity on both sides, mostly hers but I strayed once, and there's been aggressive violent behavior again on both sides mostly me defending myself from knife attacks or crazy fists. Background: I'm a full time university student who works graveyard at a casino to pay the bills and she is a stay at home house wife taking care of our two legitimate and one illigetimate children. I can't afford two pay her way and mine. I don't have the time to take the kids and leave her. And I care about her so I don't want to **** her over (or any of my three kids) and just leave the whole scene. So how do I get out of this? We tried therapy and it didn't work. I just feel so trapped that it makes me contemplate very bad things, not that I would act on them but I don't like having my head full of negativity. Also the thought of staying just inspires me to stay drunk as often as financially possible vs when we agreed to separate and I had no urge to drink and was sober for over a month until she said she wanted to work things out.

Over two months ago I found out my husband was having an affair with a coworker. On top of all this I am 4 months pregnant. I did take him back but only to both of us agree to work on our marriage. When he came back, he didn't care to go to counseling, didn't want to talk about the affair and wanted to move on like nothing happened. I knew myself that I wasn't going t be able to get over it so I told him I wanted to be separated. For two days now I have been asking him for divorce and he has been so mean to me saying I'm trying to break apart this family. Also saying He doesn't want the divorce and I'm horrible for wanting it before our child is born. But he was the one who cheated?? I just want to move on, and not have nothings linked with him but this child. Am I in the wrong?

About two weeks prior to Valentine's my husband asked me what I would like. I offered subtle suggestions such as helping me get my hair done, fixing my car, something thoughtful like a basket of things he thinks I would like/some of my favorite things..etc. Well I guess his idea of romantic is a dildo, *********, bondage, lingerie and other various stuff from fascinations that added up to almost $300! I was pretty thrown off at the gift since it seems like something that would make more sense us picking out together. I have a small vibrator but never mentioned wanting all this elaborate stuff from a sex shop, heck I would of been happy with flowers and him helping me fix my car I've mentioned numerous times, which would of been less. I don't want to hurt his feelings but this wasn't my idea of a romantic gesture. He also just told me he wants another baby within the same week so I'm not sure why he would spring all these sex toys on me... Any advice?

My husband and I are about post one year from his affair he had for 3 months with his old highschool flame (who then screwed him over the day I dumped him). He currently is gone for two weeks for work in south Florida, and I want to know if I'm obsessed and going extreme. These are the things I ask: -He facetimes me every morning, afternoon, and whenever I ask (which is another two times usually wherever he is that night) -At the end of his work day he shows me his hours, what time he punched in and what time he punched out. -He has to facetime when he gets to his room and show me his entire room that no one is there. -He has to keep facetime on all night so I know he's sleeping Even after all this I feel like he's doing something or hooking up with someone. He says he's not, for the most part he has been cooperating, but I freak out when he hangs up. I don't know how I can stop this....=(

My husband has never been there for me emotionally. A year ago I was severely ill for over a week, I could barely get out of bed, turned out my appendix ruptured and I was in the hospital for almost 2 weeks due to so much infection. He rarely visited, promised to call and I'd wait by the phone for his calls. Had someone tell me he was trying to sleep with someone else while I was in the hospital. After I was released I couldn't drive. My husband left me home alone with our 3 kids a lot and ran around. He took my pain medication and was trying to exchange it for sexual favors. Ever since then our relationship hasn't been the same. I keep questioning where I stand.

She is 5'8" and I am 5'11", when she wears even thick flip flops she is almost as tall as me. She bought some shoes with a really big high heel for a party we are going to next week. I was thinking of buying a few Dr. Schools inserts or gel pads and putting them in my shoes to get a couple of inches. I was thinking she might not even notice because her shoes have a 5 inch heel that will put her over 6 feet tall. Would a wife notice?