Im 17 soon 18 so I've been thinking about this a lot. As much as i love my family (mother and sister) i just think they harm me more than they do me good. Especially my mom. My mom has gone through a lot and lost a lot of people (abusive people but still they let her down) because of that she feels like she doesn't have a purpose besides her daughters, she put a lot of pressure on us especially me cause she has seen how much i actually achive in areas of my life. This has made her rely her happiness on me. She wants me to for example live with her for much longer than i want to, make and share money so we can live "better", the only way i could leave her is to get married which i don't want to. The reason her pressure is extremely hard on me is because we don't have the same values, she's a religious person while im not, at all. It feels like she almost knows too because she emotionally threatens me in a sense that she uses my feelings to stop me from doing something i want. Let's say i tell her i want to move out (which i've brought up a handful of times) she will then go on about hom much im hurting her by saying this, how i can do this to my mother she has given up so much for me etc. With that said I find it hard to leave, i know i can do it in less than a year but i feel super guilty about it. She has gone through lots of abuse and me being one of the few things left that makes her happy (when i live according to her) makes me feel like im taking away her happiness

Why does the ymca have a bad reputation?

Ever since I finished highschool at 17 my parents have gotten older. My dad lost his house to foreclosure last year and spent all of his assets on useless used cars and stuff and basically has nothing now. My mom had a good job but stopped working because she is a diffcult person to be around and hated working in an office environment and started working under the table as a caregiver. My dad is now 76 and my mom is 68. They recently divorced and are screwed. I on the other hand am way behind. Instead of me starting college at 18 when i had the chance I started now at 23. I'm broke and have nothing. Even when i had a part time job i would still be broke. I regret not starting school sooner but ever since I got out of highschool i went through alot of stuff mentally and didnt care about my future. My mom especially was a big cause of that. Now when things are hitting the fan and I realize my parents can barely support themselves and I realize it was time to start looking to the future. But now i feel like its too late. My dad is homeless and has no where to go and just drove away to another state, he's a veteran and my mom doesnt work and is living on social security. I just hate how i was born into their problems and sometimes it makes me not want to live anymore. I dont know what to do and I feel like were just getting older and its too late to start now. It sucks how money affects peoples lives, and them not being smart with their money fcks it up for everyone.

I did the math, it would take me about 35 days in order to walk there, including sleep, and a break from walking. I want to visit my mom, she doesn't really talk to me... But i wanna move there. Cause my dad says I have an ' eating disorder ' but I don't need help, I'm fine. My school counselor and nurse says I'm fine. He thinks that cause I make myself puke... it's really not a big deal. He's over reacting. My friends and girlfriend are ignoring me after I told them.. I don't see the point living here. I'm a 15 year old girl. How could I get to Washington ( the one with Seattle) to Wisconsin? My dad won't drive me, and no family lives here, they promised they would visit but it's been over a year, and they don't reply when I text them or call them.. I just want to go back.. how could I do that? How much will it cost? Including food.. please Help! Thanks to anyone who replies!

As an older brother i'm lowkey worried she thinks she's grown because she's 19. she haven't seen anything in life, especially not in a foreign land (We live in Europe) My parents say's yes to almost anything especially mom. If her girlfriends are fine with it she is too.. just follows everyone else. I hate it. If my sis was my daughter I would never let her travel that far and long at 19. NO FKING WAY!

I want to go to a live show this summer, when are the tickets available?

My wifey is calling me these cute pet names and I can't think of any to call her. She is a lot older than me. I am 23 and she is 40. What kind of pet names would a lady of her age like to be called?

I am anxious a lot and have relationship anxiety and so my Dad seems to think I am obsessed with seeing family. To some degree he is right but as long we are invited there is nothing inappropriate about it and I get great joy from it. I was bullied all through school so family and extended family is my only safe social network. I am learning disabled and anxiety ridden so uncomfortable elsewhere. I also might have some mild autism. So how do I get my Dad to stop keeping me in the dark when family invites us to things like baptisms or graduation parties? Family is not a priority for him which is fine but he still needs to tell me. Obviously some invites are just for people his age but most are for the whole family. He especially does it when it is my Mom's side of the family inviting us as she has died and he is not real close so Christmas is the only time of the year he accepts.

I threw this party invited all of the sophomores but one of them invited a ton Of juniors to the party and now my house is completely trashed what can I do before my parents get home!

Ever since my sister has been in hospital my parents have non stop been bossing me around, they never use to do this at all! I feel like i'm old enough to know when to go to bed and to eat. It's starting to get on my nerves, i just wanted to watch a movie by myself in peace and i just got in trouble. I don't know what's going on, i respect that they are my parents but they don't NEED to be doing this. what can i do

Ok we were on vacation and i asked to get a family photo with my husband and mom ,dad ,her . Her husband wanst around at the time and she got all mad . She leaves my husband out constantly and myself. 5hey went to my brothers football game ,she won't sit near me hardly and shes always buddies with whoever he dated and they had a group photo with him ,her. Mom and dad . Then one with her ,gf and brothrr . What is wkth her ? I dont leave her out of pictures and throw a tissy fit if my husband isnt around ???

I am a 41 year old recovering alcoholic. I became an alcoholic because all of my friends are alcoholics. All they do with their free time is party all night, get drunk and possibly have random hook ups with people and then gossip about their other so called friends behind their backs. For the last 8 years I was just like them. This year I decided I was no longer going to entertain that disrespectful lifestyle. I was being used and abused by the men I dated. I was also using and abusing myself when the alcohol and peer pressure to fit in. I haven't hung out with those friends in 4 months. It's been hard because I've been tempted to revert back to the old me. I'm struggling to involve myself in new activities that don't tempt me to drink but I have been doing it. Was I wrong to abandon my friends even if it has improved my health and lifestyle?

Growing up my much younger brother was very much so favored. He was/is spoiled beyond imagination. Every trip to the store, he gets a toy (or whatever else he wants) even if he doesn't ask for it. But me and my other siblings get nothing. And on payday hes taken out and spoiled with games and toys. (My siblings and I never got this treatment). We don't get to go out to eat with them or taken to do family activities or shopping for clothes. We always use money we get on birthdays to do clothes shopping. I asked for a pair of shoes and was turned down, but the previous day my younger brother had gotten a new game system. It's something that keeps me up at night. "Why was i not good enough?" Not only was he showered with toys, but my youth was never cherished (at all). It was made pretty clear that when i became a legal adult i was to leave. My parents didn't want to do fun thingd with me. Even if it didnt cost anything. They didnt seem to show interest in my future or extra curricular activities. I love my parents and I've never addressed how i feel as i dont want them to realize theyve hurt me. I am now moved out and in my early 20s with small children of my own. I realize this is in the past but i cant seem to shake it and dont want it to affect the way i parent my own children. I still have a good relationship with my parents, but they dont know how i feel. I dont really know what good would come from addressing my feelings as i dont even live at home anymore

my parents always tell my younger brother that boys don't cry and that he needs to man up. my dad teaches him how to do "manly" things such as playing sports or fixing the car or whatever. i'm expected to learn how to cook and wash clothes. i'm never called by my dad to help him build, repair, or carry anything. rather, he calls my brother. my mom teaches my brother how to cook and wash clothes as well but not as often as she teaches me. i don't want to be seen as weak. i play sports and i'm definitely stronger than my brother, who is a scrawny thing and doesn't play any sports at all. i want to also be called by my dad to help him. i want to also learn how to build and fix and also how to cook an take care of myself. i don't know what to do and i'm so sick and tired of gender roles that my parents still follow.

I know how trollish this question might sound. Situation: you have a cousin who is not related to you by blood, but instead became a part of your family via marriage. This marriage happened when you were both very young, so you have been raised as family, but you and said cousin are attracted to each other. Would you think it alright to pursue a relationship, or would you think such a situation is creepy?

I hear people saying I wished my brother/sister(s) is dead I don't get it

I'm 15 years old. I'm scared of causing damage or accidentally hurting someone. My parents don't want me to drive yet anyways. Some of my friends are preparing for their licenses. I'd rather wait until I'm 18 and in college when I have more experience. To me, I'm driving something that could kill someone. My actions could if I make a mistake. I'd just rather not do it right now.

I'm afraid to throw him out because he might get hurt.

I moved to California over a year and a half ago and i have dealt with some many ups and downs. I moved here to go to a school i was interested in and build a career for myself. But after the first two months living here I quit my job that had when i came here because of management and the school i was going to i quit because it was too expensive. So i decided to wait a year and be a resident and go to community college which i am now attending. But through the year waiting to be a resident I been through over 7 jobs, got my car impounded and now just got a ticket for being on my phone and driving. Thank God for my parents to help and guide me financially and spiritually cause I would be all over the place. Some family members want me to go home cause its getting to be to much on my family financially and spiritually. But I want to stay cause I feel i am so close to getting what i want out of California and also i feel if i go home I might never take a chance again cause of all the stuff I been through. Overall I was wondering what the best choice to make stick it out or go home? PS:Everything is ok I have a job and plus im in school but im scared what hiccup might come next!! PLS HELP!!! Thanks!!!

When my brother was 6 my mother removed him from public school and "homeschooled" him because she was afraid of the violence in schools. She never actually did any work with him though and he grew up learning things on his own. He taught himself math & science. And everything else he learned in GED practice classes. He got his GED and went to college for a while. He is very smart but eventually he quit school and got a job. He quit that job after a short time because he could not interact with people. Like many jobs after that he lost as well. He s 26 now and He s become violent and vindictive. He lashes out over the tinest thing. And when he goes off, he destroys things or beats people. My parents want him out but they know he doesnt know anyone and would have no place to go so they let him stay. But they have to live in fear on a daily basis, because he won t get help and they wont make him leave because they are scared of what he might do when he gets out. I need some advice to give my parents. Can anyone help me with this???

If you're son done something bad in school such as poor grades, putting feet on the desk, sometimes clowning around in class wasting the teachers time ,or maybe watching an r rated movie at 13, I do this in steps, Mumble names to him constantly after hitting him in the face such as stupid kid. Shut up stupid kid pfft. Crazy. Everyone thinks you're psycho and that reflex on me. Shut up. Just shut up. What if he pleas and yells stop? I also him in the face, and tell him to his face to just shut up I said. Shut up kid pfft. Ill talk if I want to kid. Stupid kid. Ugly. You're ugly. That's why girls at school don't like you. You're ugly and nasty. He says no he's not and he gets another slap and I tell him to shut up. Well you are to me abd if I say you are then you are. Then I call him a fat slob if he snacks. He felt bad about his physical appearance. I would never give him space when angry. Always wanted his bedroom door opened when he closed it. Would continue to call him names. Tease him. Tell him how ugly he was and at times tell him he is a handsome man. He is 36 now and still single. Plus the moment he showed frustration at me constantly telling him about his "attitude" I would kust continue until he screamed for me to stop then I'd just his him in the face. This was when he was 11. His father died when he was 10 so I had to raise him by myself and work I really know how to push his buttons and then behave like I'm the victim when theres other people around.

The household i live in i would say is extremely toxic for my wellbeing yet i have no idea what to do. Around three years ago though it was even more toxic than it is now because my abusive father lived with us. You'd think it would be solved after that but no, it got better but not good. After the seperation my mom started relying on me for hapiness, Not only did she realize she had wasted her best years (early 20 to early 40) with an abusive man, her eldest daughter disowned her.a t times i feel like she sees me as her only "hope", im the one left and not only that i have potential (good grades, responsible etc.) The biggest issue is that we don't share beliefs, im not religious while she is, of course im not able to tell her cause im terrified of disappointing her. But it's really gotten toxic, everytime she brings up god im forced to shut up about my opinions, it's not only that. This relationship of secrecy has made me really build walls, I have a huge problem with opening up and can't build close bonds. She has also already painted my future, like year by year. She wants me to stay with her and work and save up money so we can buy her dream house within 5 years. My plan was totally different (moving out, university, getting my **** together) but the mere words "moving out" makes her mad at me.. What do i do? please try to be understanding and not say "move out" like its that simple. I'm familiar with what i SHOULD do but don't know if i "can" do it, thank you!

You live in a small town where alot of people don t like you ride on your Lane and even almost cause you to have wrecks you love your wife and son but your tired of seeing them suffer you come home stressed out each and every day it gets so bad to the point where you cant even work and now you re just a sitting duck. You know your wife is tired of moving around and you can see it in her eyes that it upsets her she loves you you love your family but nothing s working.... Please help. Because I m tired.....

so my dad earns around 300k a month. but, he drives a 12 year old truck, our house is 1 story, medium sized and built in the 60s. i work 2 jobs while being in high school at the same time. my entire life has been modest like this. i didn't realise my father earned a lot of money until i went to high school and people started realising who my dad was (he is a successful actor) and then i started to get insecure, because people would ask me why i have a job if my father is "so rich" and i could tell when they came to my house they would be surprised it wasn't a mansion in a gated community. and since i go to a private school a lot of my friends are rich, and their parents are not afraid to show it and buy them luxury cars and anything they want. my parents just don't believe in that. so despite my father having money i have ALWAYS had to work really hard for what i have. my dad pays half of my car fees monthly, i pay the rest and buy whatever else i need with my money. the problem is, i can't stop being shallow and insecure and these thoughts make me feel spoilt but i can't help it! i never complain about anything i have to my dad because all my needs are met and i know i am blessed. but how to i stop feeling like everyone is better than me just because there parents chose to spend money in a different way than mine? - my father has been on a running tv show for over 6 years that is why he has a salary @sandy eg per episode he makes around 300 grand, he sometimes does movies in off seasons but i am just saying on average he makes around that much a month. and i am grateful, this question was asking how i can stop feeling inferior to other people i am friends with.

So my friends and I want to go to th beach this summer that is about3-4 hours away. I will be 17 and my friends will be 18, 16 and 16. We are together a lot and are good friends. We want to go without parents but we don't know how to get there. I have my license but my mom would never let me drive there and it is out of state so i can not drive as well as the others . The 18 year old will be able to drive us there legally but he is not the best driver and I doubt our parents would let him drive us that far.