M/30 here, I need some advice. Last January the girl I was seeing at the time told me she was pregnant. I had her have a noninvasive paternity test done to make sure the baby was mine even though I knew. I really just wanted her to get an abortion because I was never ready to be a dad. She would just get upset when I mentioned it and she made an appointment but never went. Honestly yeah it made me mad. I cut her off and told her we wouldn't be a family. It's not what I wanted at all. I began seeing a new girl that I've known longer and we became a couple. We have much more fun and get to go on trips and party. My ex went through the pregnancy on her own and moved away near her family. I told her not to move. My daughter was born in September and she brought her to visit me once. I want to be in her life but without my ex in the picture because it makes things weird for my current girlfriend. I filed for full custody but it didn't work. I don't pay child support yet but don't think I should if I can't see my child? Should I even try? It doesn't seem worth it as my kids 5 months old already and they live out of state. I didn't ask for any of this so I'm not sure where to start?

So I'm returning to my hometown (I'm 19) and have arranged to meet up with my former foster family. It's kinda awkward, but I don't really have anyone else to stay with since my birth-parents aren't willing to make plans yet I haven't been invited to stay overnight with the foster family (I've stayed a night before but had to ask). Should I ask or is them not inviting me a big enough hint that they don't want me?? Any thoughts? I need to clarify that this would be a temporary arrangement. One or two nights.

My mom gave me her credit card for me to use while being away from home. My bf on the other hand got the credit card and started swiping crazy on the Internet. He ended up spending thousands of dollars. I did not even know what he bought until boxes after boxes coming into our apartment. He said he had the right to spend my mom's money because she owed him and it is for revenge. Not exactly, because we are in our mid 20s, parents don't need to give us money anymore. As a result, whatever he is doing is literally stealing money from my parents. My parents don't think I am safe because they think this guy is revengeful and a thief. What should I do?

My sister gets mad at for every little thing I do and she's over 10 years older than me. When she comes over and I don't say hi she gets so mad like I stole her money or something. She even gets mad at me when I don't wanna stay woke to talk to her. When I do this she calls me ignorant, stupid, *****, ungrateful and other stuff that makes no sense. I once brought up something and she cussed me out and called me every name imaginable and I'm only 16. I think somethings wrong with her. I try to talk to her about it but if I even look at her wrong it's gonna happen again. What can I do? I try to talk to my mom about it but she doesn't care.

I'm 24 and as long as I can remember my mom has been the meanest person I've known. She likes to blame my siblings and I anytime things goes wrong in HER life. She's very narcissistic and manipulative. When we were little she'd cry and tell us that we're going to foster care and she hates us. She'd do this after accusing us of having sex and stealing her money. Things we never did. She's always called us b**ch and whore and any other negative name you can think of. Now that we're older she still does the same exact thing. We are over it and the older children have nothing to do with her. My dad left her in November. The youngest kids avoid her. They go to my dad or upstairs when she's home. She's a mean nasty person and no one likes her energy. I'm starting to feel bad for her. She's all alone and I know it's her fault but I sometimes want to reach out. I know that I'll regret it and there's no point in talking it out bc she just victimizes herself and does the same crap. Should I just keep avoiding her? Or just be the bigger person?

My dad apparently has an email address he hasn't told me about with the word playdate in it followed by a number. My mom and him have had a rocky relationship. You guys think this could be an email address he has used to cheat with and communicate with other women. Thanks.

I'm 19 year old guy and my mom still calls me her baby (I'm the youngest) and my dad is just cool most of the time I regret all of the fighting I did with them (mostly my dad) through my high school years. I realize now they just loved me and wanted the best for me. My mom is 54 and my dad is 59 going to be 60 this year. I just don't want to see them go

Lately my baby's father hasn't been around because he's been doing hard drugs and took off. My nephew who is 3 is always asking me where my he is and I can't just tell him what's happening. It's really heartbreaking because he used to play with my nephew all the time and he got attached to him now he's wondering where the **** he is.

i picked up my 9 yr old son from his dads. He had not changed his clothes in 3 days (Friday until Sun night) and had pooped his pants. it smelled so bad that when we got home my fiancé asked what smelled so bad while he was 2 rooms away. the smell filled up the car. We are in court for visitation agreement and my ex wants my son every other week over the summer. This is an ongoing issue and not the first time. Last summer he had my son for a week and my son said he didn't poop all week because his dads toilet is too dirty. his dad didn't do anything to remedy the situation. His dad has also sent him home to me with untreated fevers several times claiming he didn't know he was sick. Also, I have already consulted a specialist on my son's control of his BM's. How can I present this to my lawyer and court?

I am worried that I will have this severe flu and have to miss the reunion I am setting up myself. I got a flu shot but I heard it is not very effective. Will the flu epidemic be over by then? How do I make sure I don't have the flu then? My mother's uncle missed his brother's funeral in 2009 cause of the swine flu which is what has me worried about this. I have an overly protective mother who will try to keep me away even though I am an independent living adult.

Want others to look down on me because of my family

My ex girlfriend is 6 months pregnant with my son. I plan on being there at the delivery and I want MY last name on the certificate, but she wants her name. She has 2 other kids (both by different fathers) and they have her last name. The 2 other guys weren't there at the delivery, but I will be and plan on being it's life unlike them. So it's only fitting it has my name. My question is if I'm present during the birth can she refuse to have me sign the birth certificate?

me and my boyfriend moved in together we've been in our apartment for a year. I decided to go home for the weekend and so did he. My home is an hour/30 minutes away from our apartment. His is only 45 mins. I have a fear of driving due to me getting into a wreck back in Oct. so my mom picked me up. I came back to the apartment today. Usually he beats me home but this time he didn't. My phone died as soon as I was trying to call and tell him I made it back to the apartment. So I used my moms phone to text him instead. My mom follows me up to my apartment to help me take my bags in the house. As soon as I walked in I put my phone on the charger. I noticed the dishes in the sink so I started to clean them. My mom told me my phone was going off so I stopped what I was doing and went to my phone It was my dad saying call your bf it's an emergency he's having an asthma attack I quickly hung up and called my bf. once I got in touch he starts screaming and cussing saying I didn't answer the phone and that I didn't care that he was having an asthma attack. He then preceded to tell me to look for his breathing machine which he left over the weekend. At first I couldn't find it in its usual place. He begins to cuss me out and yell. He was on speaker the whole time. My mom was mad because he blamed me and yelled at me because he didn't have his machine. She eventually leaves and I asked him did he want me to get in the car and bring it to him. He said no he's on his way to the apartment.

i've always grown up in a strict home but my parents take it too far my sister was always the fav and got everything or stuff sooner even if she paid for part just got a laptop for my 18th bday and my parents made me pay for half bc "they have to be fair bc of my sister" yet she got hers when she was 14 and got to keep it one night i stated up until 12 am watching netflix bc i was stressed and my mom wakes up and takes my laptop.... I PAID HALF AS AN 18 BDAY PRESENT -they're judgmental -force religion on me and won't let me skip a day of church -make me give them my phone and laptop (paid for half) on school nights at 9:30 -won't let me start paying for my phone -bed time is 9:30 -curfew is 9 on weekdays and 11:30 on weekends -they track my phone and flip out for any and everything in general -contact others without my permission and speak on my behalf if they have a problem -hypocrites and don't listen when we argue -act like i'm a little kid -freaked out just bc they caught me w my vape -won't let me skip a period of class and are so paranoid about my attendance -sexist towards other girls -i take meds for depression and anxiety but they don't care about my feelings only if it applies to them -nosey and invades my privacy basically i'm 18 and i get no freedom and i have a B+ average in school.... tbh when i move out i don't want to make any contact w them and i'll prob do stuff i couldn't do at home like partying late etc. what do i do??

I am worried that I will have this severe flu and have to miss the reunion I am setting up myself. I got a flu shot but I heard it is not very effective. Will the flu epidemic be over by then? How do I make sure I don't have the flu then? My mother's uncle missed his brother's funeral in 2009 cause of the swine flu which is what has me worried about this. I have an overly protective mother who will try to keep me away even though I am an independent living adult.

me and my step brother drank my moms wine one night we are 13 and my moms bf came up to my room and said "making sure your not drinking your moms wine again" and i said "huh?" and he said "just kidding". How did he know and what do u say if he tells my mom idk what to do someone plzz help me or give advice😱

We always butt heads. I pay them rent on the first of every month and give them my car insurance money and all that stuff but we can never get along for too long. They say I only talk to them when I need something which is not true because I try and talk to them whenever I'm not at work or school and when I do my dad doesn't even listen to me because he's listening to Haitian news on his pc and he's constantly making me repeat myself which is so annoying. And my stepmom goes on all day saying that I have an attitude anytime I talk to her. Now this is partly true, I try and have conversations with her but she always cuts me off saying "I don't like small talk and I'm not forcing you to talk to me." And I'm like whoa I never felt like I had to, I actually wanted to. But at the same time she tells my dad I don't talk to her. How can you talk to someone who doesn't ever let you finish it's like my voice annoys her I swear. A few times I try and talk to her and she said what do you want im working (cuz sometimes she works from home) or she said what do you want something? And then that just throws me off so much and makes me stop talking all together. Also anytime I get a chance to tell her anything, if we have an argument she throws it back in my face and talks so much crap about friends and my boyfriend (whom, by the way I don't invite over so she just makes assumptions). Anyway it's so hard because I'm an only child and I don't have close enough friends to talk to about this.

As my mothers birth daughter, vs. her three step kids near my same age, I thought she'd always have my back. But that has not been the case. Im 31 now and during the ages 6-18 she was extremely physically & verbally abusive to all us kids. So much so that when I got my first job @16 in a restruant, I was SHOCKED to see how other people treated their kids. It crushed me to see loving nice parents. So I realized how wrong my mothers behavior was. And after my older stepsister took Early Childhood Education in H.S. she told us how wrong moms been & she and her two siblings instantly moved out to live with their real mom. Then, all that was left was me. During my puberty years she ridiculed me so much to where I attempted suicide, twice. Then was mad cuz I "embarrassed" her. She kept emotionally beating me down So I kept working rite after school till as late as they'd let me, to stay away. And I realized every child did not have the life scared out of them, nor did they hide in corners uncontrollably shaking In fear. their mothers actually seemed to love them. It was a tremendous eye opener. As an adult she knew she couldnt physically abuse me anymore, so the emotional abuse comtinued and has never stopped. I know i need more tools, not basic crap ones. Do i need brain re-wireing to forget 27 years of abuse. I'll NEVER be good enough to her. Im drowning. Please help if u can.

I am on disability I can't survive on my trade custodian I want a family I want a house ect I can't do that on 10 $ hr . My family owns my finances because of my bipolar like havits

I'm 24 I just got kicked and I don't have anywhere to go have a car couple hundreds of dollars. Feel like my life is falling apart what should I do? Dont have any dependable friends or relatives smh

My mom is a pain so I never spend time with the family because she always yells as us. All my dad wants is to have a happy family. Is it my fault for not spending more time with them or is it not mine because he knew what he was marrying.

Okay so, my parents are weird, it's like they are on and off with their relationship. They are either on good terms half the time, and the other half of the time they are annoyed by each other and fighting. Half the time they sleep in the same room and half the time they don't. In the past year they were about to divorce like 3 times, but never go through with it. The last time they were talking about divorcing and were fighting a lot was around 6 months ago, and I think the only reason they didn't divorce was because of me and my brother. I just don't like how they are hot and cold with each other, I just want them to end the fighting and stuff because I always feel bad for my mom after they fight, and I feel like it would just be better for all of us if they divorced if they keep on like this. I don't know if I am suppose to feel this way, am I being selfish about this because I am in no way trying to.

I broke up with my daughter's father last year, after 14 years. He has anger issues, is immature, and is narcissistic. I put up with it for far too long. We've never lived with each other. I thought we could still be friends, so I allow him to come to my house to visit our 9 year old daughter. But now that I'm starting to date again, he is getting jealous or possessive and controlling. I told him he has to get him home cleaned and get food so that he can start having visitation at HIS HOUSE from now on. He refuses. He says I just want him out of my life, and if he can't visit at my house, then he's not going to see our daughter at all. My daughter overheard him and is deeply hurt by her father's words. I don't know what to do. If I don't allow him over here, he'll stop seeing our daughter and she'll possibly blame ME for pushing her dad away. But if he continues to visit here, it will cause a problem when I want my new man to visit. I'm getting depressed over it. Please tell me what I should do?

I am 17 and got out of a relationship with my abusive mother because she decided to divorce my dad. she decided to abandon my brother and i for months when she stooped talking to us for two months, took all the money for our bank account and not helping pay the phone bill like she said she would. The divorce is almost over and I dont feel comfortable at her house because of the years of emotional and physical abuse and because she cheated on my dad and her lover is living in her house with his children. She got arrested a few months ago cause she assaulted my dad and had loose pills on her, can i use any of this as a reason to not visit her? is there any way my father and i can take away her visitation rights? I am 17 so it doesnt effect me much, but i have a 15 year old brother and i dont want him to have such a terrible person in his life. I live in michigan btw. dont know if this has any effect because of the state laws.