My husband is going out of state to visit old friends. I cannot go because of work obligations and I am very supportive about him going because I trust him. However I would like to go on a vacation with one of my girlfriends (beach type getaway) this summer and my husband says I shouldn't go without him and it is not the same situation or type of trip and I shouldn't go without him because of this. Is he being hypocritical. I would like to go on a beach vacation with me but he has his kids most of the summer. As much as I love my husbands kids and have been on several vacations with them before I would like to take a beach trip just for adults. My husband was my first choice but since he cannot go I was thinking of going with my best girlfriend.

I am single and sad about it. They are married and happy with their relationships. Good for them but they keep asking me why I am not married yet Or I should get married. I don't even have a boyfriend. I don't have nobody so who should I marry? why they keep saying get married when I don't even have somebody. They keep saying I'm beautiful and it's not hard to find someone. But I want to love the person I am marrying. I am 28 years old. I wonder if married people think being single is the worst thing that can happen to people

I'm 19, I've been married for 1 year and been with my husband for 6years. We have 2 kids together (old news don't judge) my mom is paralyzed from the waist down and I've taken care of her almost my entire life. We recently moved out and got our own house, he worked full time and I was a stay at home mom who cared for the kids and my mom.He was constantly nagging at me about how I never did enough for him, how I never cleaned the house(I cleaned all the time!)or did anything a "good house wife would do" and how I should get a job and pay the bills (even though he had begged me to stay at home so he could "take care of me") So, I get a job. I'm juggling kids, my mom, a marriage, and a job. My husband constantly talks down to me, and makes me feel as though I am never doing enough, I am so overwhelmed and I really don't want to be in this marriage anymore, I was pressured into marrying him,my mom threatened to kick my family out when we had no where to go if we didn't get married. I feel sad and alone and underappreciated. I'M SOOOO UNHAPPY! He gets drunk and flirts with other gurls (in front of me) he has no respect for me whatsoever! When I had kids all of my "friends" dipped out so I have no one to talk to, nobody to turn to. All I want is to take care of myself!(And kids). I don't make enough money to support my family on my own but I don't think I can live like this any longer, I have no where to go. How do I get myself out of this mess :'(

My husband has a 12 year-old son that currently lives with his mother in South Africa. This summer he came to visit and since that time he said he wants to come and live here. He is a nice boy but has some issues. He only eats certain foods so I had to make him special dinners every night or he wouldn't eat. He follows me into the restroom and also wanted to lay in bed with me and my husband which I thought was strange for his age. He also has poor grades in South Africa so I am concerned he will struggle here and my husband is not book smart so I know I will be the one who will have to help him. The other issue is that my husband does not make much money and the boys bio mom said she will not pay us anything since she can't afford it.She also demanded that we have a legal document promising that we will bring him to visit her every year which we cannot afford to do. She loses jobs all the time and they constantly move so I know it is a bad environment for the child to be in but I don't want to raise him and feel guilty. I love my husband but I know if he lived with us that I would end up being responsible for him most of the time. My husbands mother also keeps asking the child if he wants to live with us since she lives 3 hours away from us. I asked her to stop this because it is not her decision to make. I am afraid if the child comes to live with us it will put a strain on our marriage and the child will feel that I resent him. I don't know what to do?

Okay, so, maybe I ll feel better after a vent sesh. So my husband to be and I are so in love. Sometimes, it s not enough though. For instance, I don t like clutter and I don t hold on to extra things. My husband, however, has a two room attic to himself and it s packed full of crap. It s his hangout area but there s a stack of shoelaces, tons of pairs of sneakers, an old broken mini fridge, and his desk is littered with crap and he can t even sit down at it. But it doesn t end there. We just recently discovered a Hobby Lobby and he had these compulsions . He just had to, had to, had to buy a fake book and a metal baseball statue thing. And he had to buy four model cars to put together. And then he had absolutely had to have a thing to display golf balls and another to display baseball cards. And now he s working on a project to hang on the wall. This crap just sits on the floor in the attic and all around the house. I hate how he wastes money on this crap and then it just clutters everywhere. Ugh. Is it the end? Help!

Ive been married for 15 years. My husband who i love just doesnt take me out on romantic dates. It saddens me. People have said if i want to date my husband that i just need to take him out. But, i want to be the one getting treated. Help. This is upsetting me so much

When my hubby was 20 years old he had a close family friend cosign for a motorcycle. He made his payments fine. He didn't want it anymore and was going to sell it. He lived with his cousin at the time. She wanted it, so they made an agreement that she would take over the payments, but it stayed in my hubbys name. Everything was fine. One day, the family friend who cosigned and the cousin approached my hubby and said they paid off the bike and the friend helped. My hubby didn't care because it was between them, even though it was still technically under him. A year or so later the cousin sold the bike and took the profit. In the years that have passed since, the friend says he is still owed money by the cousin. He has told my hubby he doesn't owe him anything, just she does. The problem is, as we are now older (almost 30 now) we wonder if the man maybe has some sort of mental challenges or something. He has some signs, but on the other hand doesn't. He holds a job, has a CDL license, owns a home, etc. But I worry because the man seems a bit strange. My question is, what do we do now? If he is owed money by the cousin, we feel terrible, but didn't know. And, he said it's not my hubby who owed him. Also, I am worried my husband took advantage of someone with a disability or something!He is NOT like that and is the nicest man ever. I can't believe he got into this situation when he was younger. HELP. What do I do? Should I be holding this against him? Also....since I found this out, I keep thinking this is the most awful thing ever, if the guy DOES have something wrong with him. Like, the lowest of lows. I compare myself to others anyway, so I keep thinking my hubby made the worst mistake ever.

I'm an attractive woman - 5'6, 140 lbs, I am just so frustrated at his unwillingness to have sex. We have it maybe once a week if I'm lucky

Someone I care about has just gotten married and it already doesnt look promising. She feels she married the wrong guy. Does this get better? When do u know its time to move on.

Lucy and I were going through a difficult time. We had the one child under ten and Lucy's father had recently die When Lucy said she wanted to return to work, my friend Ian, the managing director of a marketing agency, offered her a position as his part-time secretary. I went along with it, even caring for the children when my wife went away on business trips with my friend. I suppose the relationship took off during one of those trips. When my friend confronted me with the truth, I was stunned. 'I met Ian for a drink shortly after one of those trips. He told me he'd been sleeping with my wife and they were going to set up home together. I ran out of the pub and sat in the car crying. It felt like a double betrayal: my best friend sleeping with my wife. I wanted to hit him, but I knew an angry scene would only leave me feeling worse. I wanted to act as a gentleman and not as a hard man. I didn't return home for three days. Finally, when I had the strength to return, Ian answered the door of my home. I was devastated. While I'd been away, I'd thought a lot about whether I could forgive Lucy, but it was too dreadful when I saw him in my house. I went to stay with friends. In the end, I found it IMPOSSIBLE to forgive Lucy. And in addition to losing my wife and family, her unfaithfulness impacted my feelings of masculinity and self-worth. It took me 2 years before I started dating again. I'm now in a good second marriage. Sadly, Lucy and I still don't speak. Thoughts or comments?

Here's the deal: My husband and I are currently living in his hometown. I work at a hospital and he works as labor for a winery. We both have our master's degrees. His master's is in biotechnology and mine is in speech pathology. He's working at his current job because he wasn't able to find a job in biotech where we are located (and I'm here because I have to be supervised during the first year of my position, and it's easier to find a supervisor in smaller cities). The owner of the winery he works at is planning to retire soon and recently offered to sell the winery to my husband for a large sum of money. My husband is very interested in buying it (along with the winery comes the house that they were in). I am very hesitant about this idea because a) it is a large sum of money and we'd have to take out a huge loan b) I am not a fan of this city at all, and want to move back to my hometown because I feel more comfortable there c) I feel like it's a big risk, and also that I'd be expected to help out a lot (even though that's not something I want to do) and d) to be honest, I don't want to live in that house- I really wanted to pick out my own first house, and the neighborhood is sort of secluded in the middle of nowhere. The schools in the area are not good if we end up having kids in the near future. I've expressed my opinions to my husband, and he is adamant that he does not want to move and explore other jobs in the biotech industry like he originally planned.

I have been with my partner 9 years,he has a son 16 I have two daughters 11,12. My partner wouldn t pull his weight with running the home,or contributing equally financially,we were arguing constantly,so last year I asked him to leave to become financially independant,and we could work on our relationship for the benefit of us all as a family. The reality is now he stops 3 nights a week,treats the place like a hotel,contributes nothing at all financially,and we still go out very little as a couple or family. I want to work things out,but Its like talking to a brick wall we still argue all the time,how can I sort this out I m really tired and resenting the whole set up.

Got into an argument with my husband and I asked him to take me home from the bar we were at or that I would walk home (mind you it's 2am and about a mile from our house and it was about 17 degrees out and I had no coat AND the walk toward home was in a bad end of town) well he told me to walk. Being so mad and hurt, I did. Is it my fault for being stupid and walking or am I in a careless marriage? I ask this Bc maybe it's not my husbands fault that he was too drunk to realize the seriousness of the matter in telling me to walk?

I am in the middle of a divorce and I moved out of my home. I want to move back in but my abusive husband changed the locks and he lied and put an protective order on me. We have a 6 year old. What are the chances of the judge letting me move back into the marital home and kicking him out?

He just got angry a few minutes ago because his phone had frozen up and he ended up throwing it on the floor. I can't even joke around with him without him getting upset and walking out. I know this is because of his many insecurities. He's just a ticking time bomb and it is becoming a turn off!!! The other day we had an argument and he ended up throwing beef jerky paper wrapper at me. I know it's something light he threw but it's the fact that he tried to hit me with it. I can't help but wonder what he's going to try to throw next... I don't know what to do at this point. He also has terrible road rage. If someone is driving to slow in front of him he'll say things like "Oh my God , what is this son of a b****" doing?" Or when someone pulls out in front of him he'll yell out the window at them. He's turning me off and I don't know what to do. I don't want to divorce him but all I think about is other men who can control their anger when he has temper tantrums. What to do? We've been married 2.5 years

Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. The other day i was talking about the future and if he ever wants to get married. He said that he cant afford it, when he knows that i make a lot of money and i dont even want to have a wedding party. He keeps telling me that he has an outstanding loan and expenses. Anyways hes not speaking to me now, yesterday ive sent him a message saying happy new year and he replied back the same Can anybody give me an adivce please THANK FOR JUST READING THIS 😘

My husband and I split up, he moved out of state and took a car that i had been making payments on. I stopped making payments and now the company is in the repossession stage but I cannot get up with him. tried calling him, tried calling his family, but he is avoiding me. what should I do? cannot afford lawyer

Let's say you went to a bar to pick up a girl, but then you got stressed out and went back home.

I'm divorcing my wife and want full custody of my 14 year old son but my wife who never cared about him before now wants to try to take him away and get full custody of him and is doing everything to convince that she's a good mother and I'm a bad father. How will trying to get custody of him work?

My wife is somewhat of an amoral person. I remember when we first met she tried conning me and long story short she ended up under house arrest in my home. Basically I married her and as it turned that made me her only family. While it was awkward for me for her it was very difficult to say the least. I was surprised to learn that her parents were killed at a young age and she had been alone ever since. I'll be honest neither of us were happy with the situation and there was a lot of bitterness between us. For her it was that she was an addict and alcoholic. I picked up on this real quick and was not having it. I think forced sobriety was what really played a factor in her letting me see the real her. I mean she made no secret about how she was vain and stuck up and I am not completely innocent either (I cheated multiple times she called me out on it when she having a meltdown from the withdraw) her personality slowly started changing once she got clean and sober and I ended up learning more about her about how she was a victim of human trafficking and had drugs forced on her to make her more compliant. Apparently she got away from that but was so messed she pretty much became a gold digger to feed her addiction. Basically the situation forced us to learn about and bond with each other and now I'm worried we might be falling for each other for real. I just don't know if we can move forward. I mean can we really change?

What if you were mild-mannered yourself and are not good at dealing with difficult people?

I have been really stressed out. I'm the only one who works because my wife doesn't work. We spend almost $1400 just on our bills($500 on rent, $200 on electricity, $200 on cellphone and internet bills $500 on our credit card bills). In addition to that, if we buy food and stuff, we spend more than I make. My debt is growining more and more and my credit is ruined. She complains about not enough food so I've been working hard and even had a night job. But she keeps complaining that I don't spend anytime with her. She gets so mad and cold. I tried to explain that I just don't get much time because I have to work hard to support the family but she keeps saying that I'm not taking care of the family. I'm the step father of her biological son. He is 8 years old and he can't even read the basic words like bag, find, and, bring even though he was born and raised in the US. I told her about it and she gets upset and keeps saying like I don't understand what being a single mom is like. He even has bad habits and I just told him to go to sleep at 3 m and and she got mad and said he's just a kid and said I'm mean. I can't even say anything now

So my wife and I are having this ongoing debate. She says her and all of her friends feel young adult children should come before a spouse. I m not talking about young kids here who need food and clothing I m talking about college-age kids. She feels their emotional needs and everything else should come before a spouse. I know you need to still help and support them but it doesn t seem to make sense to me to put young adults emotionally before a spouse - what are your thoughts.

I am supposed to go to a bachelor party in Las Vegas next month, and to the wedding in March in Oregon. We live in the Philly area, and have 2 kids. My wife tried to get me to back out of the Vegas trip, but I was set on going. I'd been wanting to go to Vegas for a while, and now is my chance. We're going for 3 nights, and now my wife is asking me to either go late or come back early, and come back on the first sunday morning flight out. I told her that's not going to work, as I'm not going to get up before 11 AM, and I want to spend time in Vegas and actually ENJOY the trip, not just go to fulfill some requirement. She needs to get off my back about this. I hardly ever get to do this. I'm asking for just 3 days of fun. Just 3 days. And she's trying to take it away from me. I understand that she may be worried I may f*ck a prostitute or do something similar, but she needs to trust me. Yes, it will be hard on her to watch the kids for 3 days by herself, but she needs to live with it. It's not like she works to support this family the way I do. I work too hard, and I could not be more deserving of this very short break.

...and they secretly want to cheat on each other, want to kill one another, treat each other like poo, switch to swapping partners or develop an addiction out of some sort of void, which eventually leads to divorce. Does the good outweigh the bad?

I have to find a way to improve our marriage because I'm losing hope. I'm tired of my wife's mood swings and lack of affection. It's like I can't say anything to her, but she can get angry and cuss at me and even hit me once a few years back. She's always super happy around holidays or big trips, but always crashes for some weird reason the following day after a holiday or returning home. She thought I was being a "Debby downer" during the Christmas holidays, but I was only down because I knew hell always follow her happiness. What do I do?!!! Last night she got mad at me for me getting mad at her for her running all my gas out truck. I just asked her nicely because I'm the one always resorting to credit card use because of her out of control spending. We then get to church and she gets out of the truck and just leave me and my 2 year old son in the truck. Had I done some petty mess like that, it would be WW3!!! I'm tired of the lack of affection, mood swings, selfishness and other things. I just don't want to be apart from my son, but I'll surely die young because of stress if I stay with her. I looked at her family and ALL the men married to women in her family died of heart attacks young!!! And EVERYBODY has been divorced and married 2-3 times. How in the hell did I fall for this?!!! I don't know what to do, but I love my son so much!

Should I cheat on her?

Lucy and I were going through a difficult time. We had the one child under ten and Lucy's father had recently died. Although things were not great, I expected the relationship to swing round. When Lucy said she wanted to return to work, my friend Ian, the managing director of a marketing agency, offered her a position as his part-time secretary. I went along with it. I suppose the relationship took off during one of those trips. When my friend confronted me with the truth, I was stunned. 'I met Ian for a drink shortly after one of those trips. He told me he'd been sleeping with my wife and they were going to set up home together. I ran out of the pub and sat in the car crying. It felt like a double betrayal: my best friend sleeping with my wife. I wanted to hit him, but I knew an angry scene would only leave me feeling worse. I wanted to act as a gentleman and not as a hard man. I didn't return home for three days. Finally, when I had the strength to return, Ian answered the door of my home. I was devastated. While I'd been away, I'd thought a lot about whether I could forgive Lucy, but it was too dreadful when I saw him in my house. I went to stay with friends. In the end, I found it IMPOSSIBLE to forgive Lucy. And in addition to losing my wife and family, her unfaithfulness impacted my feelings of masculinity and self-worth. It took me 2 years before I started dating again. I'm now in a good second marriage. Sadly, Lucy and I still don't speak. Thoughts or comments?

This is what my husband said to me " i need u to stop stalking me im gonna contact your parents. Im also gonna have police contact your sister who lives in my city. Ibe already reported u and if u stop ill ask the cops to stop" Do you know what he means lol

My husband wants a divorce.

My husband. We have sex 5-6 times a week (great sex), I am 9 years younger than him, he has always seemed so "amazed" his perception of my beauty. He calls me his raven haired princess. We have had so many romantic moments and laugh together. We have almost everything in common. Some financial struggles and his ex wife being well... An ex wife. Our relationship seemed perfect. Until one night he told me he was with a friend, really he was on a date with a girl he met on the internet. This girl is not even someone my husband would of dated. Nothing physical happened I spoke with this girl. I guess I got lucky I caught on early. He says it was for attention since I started nursing school and wasn't giving him as much constant attention. Will someone who did this in a great relationship cheat again? Is once a cheater always a cheater true? He has cried and begged and we have faught now more than ever. My insecurity and fear and just depression over the pain he caused my heart has made me act crazy. I am STILL confused. Im terrified men who do things like this are bound to cheat again. When you cheated and saw the hurt you caused did you learn a lession? Would you cheat again? I don't consider myself a weak person but I have lost faith in love. I LOVE this man. I have cried like never before. I have never cheated on anyone and I never will. Its not the kind of person I am. Did you regret it? Do you still do it? Why? Why would a good man cheat on a woman he loves?