I'm extremely heartbroken. I dated my boyfriend for four years and loved him to bits. He was perfect in every way. ....except after dating for nearly four years, we weren't engaged and he couldn't even talk about a timeline for us. He'd only say... "we're headed in that direction and it'll happen when the time is right". I'm 30, he's 37. I have a masters, he has a PhD. we have well paying jobs... we aren't some young kids figuring out life. Besides the fact that 4 years is a long time to date at our ages, I began to worry about job tenure... we live an hour apart and due to his technical field, I would have to be the one to relocate if we got married... I wanted to hurry up, get married and make the move early in my career. Second, my mom owns a duplex that I rent. It's a fixer-upper and she wants me to either fix it up with my money (she has no money) or allow her to sell it. I'd love to keep the house if I knew I wouldn't marry and move away, but I'd rather mom sell it as-is if I married within the next year or two. Despite expressing all these concerns to my boyfriend, he said he was sorry but at this moment he was not ready to get married, but he could be in a month, a year... "we are headed in that direction and it'll happen when the time is right". He could not even talk a ballpark estimate timeline. ... He said the same line nearly two years ago. He's so AMAZING in every single way to me, but the one thing I truly want -to be married to him, he can't give. ...and so I ended it. I love him SO much. but I also want the security of marriage, I want to live together for several years before having a kid. I know to some people no marriage isn't a deal-breaker and it's just a piece of paper, but it's more to me. I suppose I feel such heart-break since I'm questioning if I made the right decision -maybe he really did plan to propose and maybe it would have been soon. But then I reason he's 37, we have dated 4 years, he knows my circumstances...

algun hombre que se halla arrepentido de traicionar a su esposa. o un hombre que me pueda decir porque flaquean? si pueden realmente cambiar? valdria la pena?

We been together for about 1 year and she isn t my type of women we are complete opposites.. she doesn t even look sexy to me at all.. she always begs me for sex and finally I did it.. I gave it to her soo good she had multiple orgasms.. my problem is that in order for me to give her that good sex I had to think of how much I dislike her and for some reason that turned me on.. what s that mean.. thanks

What should I do now? For not being someone who takes care of the house in a traditional way, for never wanting to have children, for not having a perfect body.

My ex served me with divorce papers in septermber of last year. We just signed the final declaration a month ago. According to the rules as I understand them we should be divorced by now and I should be able to remarry (6 months after the serving). Can I? Or do i need to have the stamped declaration in my hand?

I dated a guy about 20 years ago.....he was the man I always wish I had married (he is now married now to someone else with a baby). I also was married and had children. We haven't really kept in close contact over the years.....just a few times. I reached out to him about 6 years ago when i needed legal advice. He's a lawyer. I found out recently that his sister died a few months ago of cancer. She was in her late-40's----very young. Is it weird to send a sympathy card?

I have a daughter. She is 15 and recently told me her step father (my husband) had molested her. I am planning to divorce him there is no doubt there but unsure what further action to take.. I have 6 children and have to think about them all, too. I depend on this man for support an I don t know how I would manage without him...??

My husband is 30 years old and his bros are teenagers. His parents spaced the kids out big time. His dad hurt his leg or something in college, and was never able to make it into the NFL. He has this belief that his teen boys are going into the NFL and that recruiters are looking at them. My mother in law has never really worked and has reaped the rewards of her husband's executive salary. Her life is all about those younger boys, she has no hobbies of her own and always has to ask her husband if we invite her someplace or check if "there is baseball or football". It is really, really annoying. Anyways, our oldest is having a BD party this weekend. She/they have known this for a really long time. Just this morning- she flaked out on us for a football and baseball game for each kid this weekend that she "just found out about". She got all guilt ridden when I ignored her after her flaking out and did the poor me thing w/me (I have no pity on her, she chose this life). She claims that her boys and hubby are insisting on her being at the tournament and watching the other boys football game. She does this flaking out thing for sports EVERY year and even several times a year for their sports obsession. So- is this normal for parents to have to be at their teen (nearly grown) kids beck and call? Why do they do this constantly? Where her kids and hubby tell her to go- she goes. She never tries to have her own hobbies, its almost as if she is brain washed. It would be different if they did not pull this stunt at every holiday and every event for the grandkids, and yet they call themselves supportive and loving grandparents... Right!

This has been an ongoing problem for a while now, usually it's just heavy slapping but sometimes it is worse. I'm starting to develop some noticeable scratches around my face and neck. I don't want to divorce and separate because then I wouldn't be able to see our baby infant anymore :(

I ve been married 3 years in june. I love my husband. But we got engaged very soon then married 4 MO later. I was very back and forth with him and an ex. I choose my husband. I felt like it was the safe move that he would be the ideal husband. But things changed. He would drink heavy and black out and hurt me not only emotionally but physically, the last time I told him get help or I m leaving and he did and since then he hasn tdone anything. But I always have it in the back of my head that it will happen again. But the ex I ve never let go of. I think he s the one that got away... I ll always have this love for him that is different. My head and heart are fighting. Please help idk what to do

My wife found out about my significant other. How can i tell her im sorry because she is mad as heck right now

My husband and I have been married for under a year. I am 23 and my husband is 21. Things were awesome...then we got married. He doesn t want to spend time with me, doesn t want to go out and do stuff with me, we always fight, he plays video games all day and want to just spend time with his friends and a lot of other things. I m to my breaking point.. Ive tried to talk to him and nothing. He will ignore me for video games. I have recently started getting very angry towards him with all the stuff going on and I also found out about him texting other woman saying how he wishes he was going home to them and how I m just this awful person when really I don t know what I ve done wrong.. Any advice? I know it sounds so childish but I don t know what else to do when he won t talk to me, won t go to get professional help, he isn t wanting to do anything to make our marriage work.... I am really thinking divorce..

I was deployed from February to late august and we always talked and had communication but i always hear the stories of Jody. We olan to make a baby in september and now she is due in june, theres always those what ifs you know

My grandmother married in 1891 and her husband died in 1903. Now on her census in 1910 it shows for relationship status : soltero, in 1920 single, and not until 1930 it shows widow and by that time she also change her name and didn't go by her last name anymore like how she always did. Now why was she put down as soltero and then single and not widow if she was one? And does this seem like she was married twice?

I ve been married to my husband for almost 2 years now. Recently he s got locked up for a drug related crime over seas. I accidentally synced his iTunes account into my little brothers phone while trying to fix an issue with it. And I discovered he s been cheating on me from the day we first met by cheating I mean he had sex with a few glitches girls that I know of. And txt over 20 dif girl. So he might be in there for up to 4 years. What should I do? He calls 3 times a week and I don t know if I should tell him or just ingnore his calls. Please don t give me dumb answers in in need for real help.

@How To Catch Stalkers..STFU!!! and go squat on a long neck!

I am now married for all most a year and I am upset about my husband's kids mother. She is always calling just to have small talk. I have spoken with him about this. He says she's nothing to worry about. Either way I feel this is inappropriate. Here's why......Before marriage we were already in a off and on relationship up until about a year and a half about before marriage. Things were a lot better. So, I thought!!!! a little run down.....When I was pregnant with our first daughter he left me for her. He was going back and for to Louisiana where she lives claiming it was for the kids. Of course, it was not. During break ups they had two children even though we stared living together again after the first of those two. Then she gave birth to another one while we were living together. Now that's some of the history. I'm not trying to live in the past. Just giving a bigger picture. He has come a looooong way since then, but still is not perfect, who is? Since the wedding last year this girl has been very clingy, wanting to talk and video chat all the time. On several occasions, she has sent naked photos, videos of her masturbating. I called her about it she claims that they have had sex every time we have gone to Lousiana, maybe 6 times since last year. He says this is a lie. I don't actually recall him leaving us for very long when we were there, so i don't know. She says they talk all day while hes at work. He showed me his call log. I don't see it. Read second paragraph first!!!!!!-CONTINUED FROM BELOW- I don't see it. She says in her eyes the relationship is more than just kids. I have asked him to change the number and she can just use my number, but that hasn't happened. They seem to still be friends even after I have made it more than clear that I am uncomfortable with this. I let him know that if he can't stick to co-parenting with nothing extra we can no longer be married. He doesn't seem to care much because he says shes nobody, and she calling him not vice versa. If she was nothing I don't think it would be too much to do what I asked and stop the phone calls and video chatting. We have 4 almost five kids, plus 5 from my previous relationship. . A lot of responsibility, but I can't deal with them being friends after the disrespectful things she has done. So, I am thinking of divorce because it seems like he is respecting her wishes more than mine. She thinks and obviously can do whatever she wants with my husband. Maybe he should be with her. What are your thoughts?

I am happy with our sex life, and he says he is too, but he says sometimes he wishes I was more open to things, but then fails to tell me what those things are. I'm willing to do whatever it is he wants, but he doesn't really give me any direction, he doesn't even know what he wants, he just wants ME to want more and be more creative. I would do it if he had ideas. He doesn't want anyone else involved and he doesn't want to watch porn together, but if I was open to it he would. but I'm not. I'm happy with everything he does already... so, you see my dilemma? There is confusion. so any ideas how I can be more kinky for indecisive husband? Thanks. we have oral a little before we have sex, the sex is sometimes in other positions, but that is the usual way we do it. I guess pretty traditional. It's also hard because I usually have to wait until HE is ready. If I initiate he usually turns me down for a number of reasons. He has to be the one normally.

My husband and I were the types that enjoyed a beer or two after work or at a family/friends event. and he lost his job and that really made him drink more than he should have and that didn't help him get a job. That went on for 2 years and he quit drinking and got a really good job. (Long story short :) ) Now, as a person who doesn't have any additions, I want to know how to help him do deeper soul searching and nurturing himself. Not Alcohol's out the door but I sometimes find him still having a hard time to really connect with himself and invest time to get to know himself. I know it sounds so vague and all but I am also learning that sobriety means a total life style change. And people who are in the dark usually arent the type to take care of themselves. My husband is also a very giving, helping person and I just want to know how spouses that went through a successful sobriety helped each other? I hope i make sense haha I suggested therapy and I'm sure he's optimistic about it but Is there anything I can do to help? Guys, i know it's up to him. And my husband goes to AA every day and is very committed to sobriety. So it's not really about him choosing. He's done it. I guess as a spouse, as much as you know you need to back off, you want to help as well. It'd be great if somebody went through it for a spouse who is successful and happy in their sobriety. Thank you!

My wife and I have been married 1.5 years. She is still a virgin. She is terrified every time we get close. I have tried everything. We have been together nearly 4 years now with our two year anniversary coming up and we have yet to consummate. She won't get help and she won't let me just get it over with. She is very fragile and I don't know how to fix this without being a bad husband

He's great but I love quiet sometimes. How do I explain and make him I stand without getting offended?

My wife is 31. I'm 33. We are trying for a baby. But I realise that there is no excitement to us trying to get pregnant. There is no real feeling of love. It just feels like a physical act of convenience. She has weird hormonal moody swings in the morning where she calls me idiot and stupid. Really verbally puts me down. I then feel like an idiot. I internalise it and go and lie down for a while drained of energy. Today she spoke like I'm human trash and left. She always blocks my calls after that. In the evening she is usually ok again. Today she wasn't and she knew I have an important interview tomorrow but still didn't want me near her. Said "f you, get out".... Sex felt like it was forced. She was worried about being pregnant and asked me not to move and just deposit into her and finish. Sorry for the detail. I challenged her to spend time with me and she replied she is too busy for me. So I feel like the useless dumb man who is only good for being used. There is no love or excitement...she sees it as a convenient thing to be pregnant. I can't talk with her about the future of the baby as she tells me she isn't in the mood to talk and just leave her alone. We don't discuss much. She has her life and socialises completely away from me. I go out and do my own thing and my days off are usually not coordinated with her. She just makes decisions to suit herself. What should I do next if she gets pregnant and I decide I've had enough? I cried again tonight. I feel like I am just some convenience in the way that she can dismiss when she feels like. She even won't unblock the messenger and won't spend time with me. I made a mistake to stay here. I want to divorce but I think she is pregnant. The husband is supposed to be the leader. I decided that tonight I will once again talk about expectations and how we are not communicating properly or making the effort for each other in the right ways. Try for the last time to get her to realise that we are dysfunctional to the extreme. Failing that, I can't stay and let any children witness a bad model of a marriage. They deserve a good model. I just don't get why she can't see that I care. Just takes it for granted.

My wife Glenda is spoilted. I buys her stuff she don't appreciate and she calls me fatty and gizzard neck and Mr. lumpy dum dums. I work hard as a teacher and my students can all chop boreds in half and defend themselves against angry attakers so at least the appreciate my efforts but she dont

Why do some women generalize men as cheaters all the time? If you can't trust us why bother marrying us?Go get pregnant and raise a family on your own. Then why do those "some women" bother with marriage? Is it just for his money? I really don't understand why some of those women who generalize men as cheaters (or something bad) want marriage, family. Why can't those women achieve all this on their own? Go to a sperm bank, get pregnant and deal with yourself. "bc a lot of men cheat. we love you, so we take that chance on you. but you usually end up cheating on us anyway." So in terms of cheating, what makes women such innocent little angels? This question is NOT going to gender studies. Mary's answer is very interesting and makes sense.

Sunday night my husaband tells me he is not happy with our almost 10 year marriage. He said he loves me cares about me, worries about me but is not sure that he is in love with me. That he may not love me the same way I love him. Granted we got married very young he was 19 and I was 18 but I've always known what I wanted. Due to this argument I had a miscarriage. He did take me to the ER but did not want to comfort me because he did not want to give me false hope. It is then that he disclosed to me that he would talk to women on craigslist and even as far as to having sex with at least two people. then coming home to me and our daughter. He also disclosed about being molested when he was younger and trying to use Vicodin to ease the pain and considerrf driving off the highway because he did not want to tell me what he's been feeling for a very long time. I love him dearly and he's a great father. He's staying with his parents and plans to see a therapist. I don't know what my next step should be. I'm not sure if I should let my daughter see him until he seeks help.

My wife said some pretty mean things in her diary a month before we got married saying she was settling talking about how I look and dress and how she doesn't see me being successful, she even said she got married even though she didn't want too. she has since apologized several times. And even reminded me that she was the one who approached me. Last night she cooked a meal and we made chocolate covered strawberries. I asked several timma if she wanted to stay married and she said yes. However it is still tough to forgive are there any steps I can take to forgive. Divorce is a lot of work and I'm not sure if what happened is bad enough to cause a divorce please help

Just wondering if anyone would share some elements they consider "non traditional" to their marriage.. for example with me, my husband and I hardly ever sleep in the same bed due to his third shift job, and even when he's off on the weekend he doesn't sleep in bed often. What are some for you?

My husband is graduating with his master's degree next week. He's been taking online classes at a college several hours away from where we live for about 2 years. He decided that he wanted to travel to the campus and attend the commencement exercise since he's never been to the actual campus. It's about 3 hours from our house. Several months ago he started looking for hotels for a 2 night stay. The closest he could find was an hour's drive away from the school because there are nearly 7,000 graduates so nearly all hotels were booked up. We're staying in one hotel Thurs night then a different hotel Fri. night. Total cost for both is about $250. He just sent me an email saying that he found a hotel in the same city as the college for $160 a night. On one hand we could be in the college town but spend more on the rooms OR we could save money and have to do extra driving (2 hours roughly). He has to be at the stadium about 7 am Sat morning even though the commencement doesn't begin until 10 AM. Staying in the cheaper hotel an hour away means that we'll probably have to wake up about 4:30 am to get showered, dressed, packed, and the hit the road no later than 6 AM. Or we could stay in the city for more and not have to rush as much. Which would be the better option? (A) Save money and do extra driving or (B) spend more and be in the same city? What should we do? What would you do? Options, just looking for comments.

Yesterday, my wife called me up and said that she'd be late for dinner. Later, that night she confessed to me that she got a boy friend or "friends with benefits". How should I confront this? I think she's cheating this time what can I get a lawyer?

I live in a small town. I have a job, but I can't really afford to live anywhere else. I have tried many dating websites. No one ever responded. I also don't hang out with any of my friends anymore. I'm 24. Is it too late for me?

As a result now i have to stay jointly with my mother in law and brother in law and his wife and kids. I have tried explaining my husband that we should stay separate but he is now willing to understand. Very mean my in laws and husband are. They don't have any consideration for my feelings that i want to stay separate. They just ignore me and my feelings and are staying happily. And expect me to adjust. I really have never seen any husband or in laws who are so mean. Some times i wish my husband and in laws just die. But nothing bad happens to them. I believe even God does not make such people suffer. Instead he prospers them even more. My husband can spend money on his mother but not on me or my baby. Even the money that my husband got as marriage gifts were given to his mom. His mother and brother has full control over him. His brother does not want to work and my husband is willing to support him and does not tell him to work. I cant believe such ridiculous family. I am stuck badly. I just wish i had not married him in the first place . i did not know they were such assholes. i really wish they would die. To top that when i confronted my husband and in laws about the problems they give me answer that i was after my husband to marry me. Can you believe any normal husband or in laws or any adult will give such an answer. such illiterate people can be.

I'm a 35 yr old male and I have only started becoming a jealous husband after I caught my last wife cheating on me. I know my wife loves me and we have lots of great times together. I dont know why but when she has her friends come over usually female friends I get jealous. I don't know why I do it.

I took money from my husband's account which I have access to (it's never been a problem before) to pay for a fight for my child and I to go visit relatives for a Mother's Day extravaganza. I didn't tell him until after I booked the flight, now he's mad and throwing a fit that I need to consult him before I make decisions like that. I said I would replace it next week...but I was always under the impression, what's yours is mine. Is he just being a dick or am I in the wrong too? We've been married for a little over a year, together for almost 4 years. Should I apologize? P.S. My husband is pcs'd to a different country 6 months ago if that matters (maybe he's more emotional)?