My son now is 1 year old. I recently found that my husband has been cheating on me with several different girls at different times. While I was pregnant, he even left me and took vacation with another girl who had no idea that he is married. There were days that he didn't answer my calls (during pregnancy) the whole day - explaining that he didn't have reception. Now my husband takes my son 3 times a week and brings back home, but it's very hard for me to try to be respectful or forgiving. My ex -husband tries to talk about my son or even two words I have hard time tolerating his presence.

I was at first just a distant supporter of different family dynamics but after watching a friend of mine interact with her family, one dad and 3 moms, I was gladdened by how happy they all seemed. I started visiting them often, went to her wedding when she married her husband and becoming the 2nd wife. I have been encouraged by her, the only problem is that her's is the only poly family around that I know of.

My husband comes from money. His family wasn't rich but definitely upper-class. They have a beach house, his parents paid for his private college tuition. I was a Pell Grant, low-income kid. My family stayed afloat but most years we didn't go on vacation, we could barely afford to stay in our one house when his parents had two, we didn't even order pizza with toppings because that was a "splurge". I worked my way up with scholarships, went to public college, and we're on similar levels professionally. I love that I don't have to constantly worry like my parents and I did growing up about money. Yet he loves finding ways to save and curb spending. I used to get a gel manicure & pedicure twice a month because I have to look professional for work. So he bought me a kit so I could do them myself and chastised me by saying, you know this saves $1k a year, we could go on a vacation for that. I got our dogs groomed for $90. I said I wouldn't do it myself because I was scared of clipping their nails. He read how to do it properly and now we do it at home. He makes it hard to argue with him because what he says is rational. He says he's being helpful not critical but I don't like it & see it as him invading my space. I think we have joint and separate accounts for a reason. I don't know what to do because it's a semi-constant thorn in each others sides. I normally go along with what he says but I also don't like feeling like I have to do something because he says to.

Please be honest. Did you/are you planning to save everything for marriage? Or just sex? By everything, I mean anything sexual. Or did you/plan do just get as close to the line as you can without crossing it? Just curious. I've heard of couples waiting 5 years for each other. How on earth can someone last that long without even slipping up? True love waits. If you REALLY love someone, you will wait for them.

My husband likes doing karate on my 5 yrs old sons when their playing, one time my son hit him in the eye coz he thought just playing. My husband hit my son in the jaw and flew to coffee table . my son is just 40 lbs and skinny. Is this physically abuse? When my husband had this temper destroying stuff around the house he always says everything is just accident he swear at me in front of our kids is this normal?

Ok. So my husband loves me more than life itself, I've never felt this type of love and he said if his mom didnt like me then he'd cut her off until she saw the error of her ways. But I said that's sweet because I'd do the same. But I doubted that'd happen given how he was singing her praises. We get to her place, she's SO NICE. I feel so at home. Then we all got out for lunch to a buffet with his sister (who is a a nightmare) His mom is asked how many are seated, she says "3". When corrected she shrugs it off and doesn't even look my way. My husband looked like he was gonna be sick. We went to our booth and every time i went to get food, mom and sister whispered and stopped when I get back to the table. I'm shy but I try to engage myself with them when I can. The sister only talks about family issues and only addressed my husband and his mother did the same.My husband does this thing were he slams his cup, I usually put a napkin under his cup but i forgot so when he did it i gave him the "seriously?" look. Its like a inside joke between us but his mother after that started looking at me funny. Then my husband leans in for a kiss (his kisses are long and ya know lol) so I leaned away and whispered "not in-front of your mom. He laughs and says ok. So we left and went to the movies and we get out the car she shrugs past me and she and the sister go off to the bathroom. My husband tells me that his mom pulled him to the side at the restaurant and said I'm not good enough, I dont hold his hand, I'm bitchy, i make it seem as if he cant do anything right, i dont let him kiss me, the worse. At that point I'd had enough, I'm crying, wanna go home. After the movie we take them home, i wait in the car while he gets our bags then i hear yelling. They are bitching at him and calling him weak and whipped and pushing him in a corner. Know he can defend himself, he's a strong and imposing man but he's never raised his voice to his mother but he actually did this time. I go in and tell them off and I was pissed and turned on his mother "you never defend him, you only defend your dead beat kids. keep it up and i will CUT you out of his life" The sister is instigating I turned on her and said "You shut the hell up but you probably cant function or think straight because of the drugs!" That made he shut the hell up. Then Mom and me sat down and talked I said I apologize but I will not tolerate your family making him feel less than when he's the only one to make something out of himself. She said she just wanted to see some affection and when a mother doesn't she her child being treated nice then she defends them but in my head i was calling bullshit because my husband has made it clear NO ONE stuck up for him when he was growing up. i told her that "Jack" is a strong man true enough but no one will cross or belittle him in my presence, he may be your son but he's mine now and he will have respect that he's well past due from any of you. We ended on surprisingly good terms and it's like I got her respect. It all boiled down to culture. I grew up in the south, and i was trying to show her respect by not being all over jack and being too affectionate. She said in the Mexican community its all about passion and showing it......... then she let the sister get in her ear now she's mad all over again. "Jack" isn't having it. He's telling his mom, you learn to love my wife or you'll never see your grandchildren (we're pregnant). Ugh so messy. Anybody been here before? And his entire family hates each other, his father is racists and beat him and his siblings, both his siblings are abusive to their partners and both do drugs. The sister has had the police called on her several times by both mom and boyfriends, the brother steals (used to, my husband cut him off) from my husbands, his aunts all hate his mom for some reason and he hasn't spoken to his father in years and doesn't speak to the rest of his family unless his mom begs him to

She cuts my father down to me daily ever since their divorce 6 years ago

I been married for 2 years, I have step-children that lives with us, been living with us almost 3 years. Yet it can still be very awkward when we are in the same room. Will they ever accept me or do I give up? Help, need some advice.

he is a kind person at heart. very generous and friendly. loves having people around. loves childern. devoted father and husband. Very emotional. explosive temper. emotionally and verbally abusive. has control issues. gets angry when someone doesn t listen to him or takes his advice. is an instigator and has a tendency to lie and boast.

I make my kindergarten kids write journals everyday what they did the whole day and when i come home my husband asks me if he can grade their papers he loves reading them and thinks its so cute how they write and misspells things and gives them a smiley face lol

She volunteered to change jobs to stay away from him but he insist she not do that and that they remain good friends. I'd it likely he will remain faithful after marriage? Do some men believe cheating is only bad after marriage?

In a newer relationship... We're both single parents, but my ex lives out of state & we have a solid custody agreement through the courts. My boyfriend & his ex share custody (splitting the week) & do not have a legal agreement (just winging it). She's a raging alcoholic so there's a lot of drama & stuff I don't agree with... But it's technically not my business. She doesn't even know I'm in the picture... I'm not sure if it's appropriate for this early of a relationship that we be talking about fights with the ex on a somewhat regular basis... But at the same time we share everything with each other... Hoping to hear from other people who have been here. Thanks in advance!

My Wife and I have been married for 5 years. Everything about her used to be so perfect, and by that, I mean her looks. But now she is getting really fat and uglier than before. I can't even have sex with her anymore, because of how ugly she is. She used to be smoking hot, and the correct weight. I sometimes jerk off to pictures of her from 3 years-ago (when she was 22). You can't seriously expect me to put with, can you?

I had a runway fashion show audition today! I did my walk and the people on the panel seemed attentive to me as I walked. Then when I finished one of the people sad do it again but look "brighter". The people on the panel asked him what he meant. And he said you looked angry be happy. I finished and one of the women on the panel kept eye with me. They wanted to verify my age like they did with everyone else and thanked me for coming. Did I get it?

I have been married 25 years. I dont feel connected to my husband anymore. I love him very much, but I dont feel like he loves me. We rarely have sex, and we never kiss. We dont go anywhere together, and he is not involved in any of our kids school or extracurricular events. He comes home from work, goes to our bedroom and lays in bed, eating dinner, and watching videos. I had an affair 15 years ago because i was feeling this way then. It was a big mistake, and I would do anything to take it away. We worked through it, and decided to keep our marriage, but he brings it up constantly and rehashes all the details. I just want him to love me, and us be happy, and spend time together, and feel in love. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I'm 22 and my husband is a 24 year old marine. We've been married for a little over a year now and he's always gone from home. Due to him always being away from home I became lonely and I started going out more. During one of my trips to the bar I got extremely drunk and hooked up with another man. We did the dirty that night and I ended up getting pregnant. I'm about a month a long now and my husband is coming back home soon. I feel god awful for doing this and I had never meant to cheat. I can't hide this from him and eventually he'll notice, so how do I tell him? I love my husband and care about him very much. I'd like to avoid losing him.

comes into the room I am in after ignoring me for days on end smooches up on me and wants sex. Yep, ignore me and now you have the time to spend and sex is is it, couldn't talk or maybe go out somewhere do something. Grrrrr not tonight buddy...tired of it. I am a nice looking gal, not a boring person, good marriage other than this. Ideas??? I an yes, I have very kindly brought this issue up before and he listened to me but went back to his usual ways. Making myself clear. #! I didn't say "NOT TONIGHT BUDDY" I just said not now hun..# I didn't live with him before married so I didn't know he was sooooo into TV.#3. I love him very, very much and I am not the type to leave my husband at all for such a silly reason or find a new man.

We're 23, got married this past Feb. We were over at another couple's apartment playing basically a game of " Name your partner's favorite..." I got all my stuff right. She didn't get a single one right. Reason for concern?

My ex husband has always been very selfish. During our marriage he had little interest in me after we had children and showed little interested in our children. The only time he had interest in me was for sex. He would disappear when he was not at work so he did not have to be home parenting with me and would come home late for sex then get up and go to work. He choose to leave me and we divorced. He has been consistent about paying child support most of the time (sometimes he is late) but has not help me parent. He never take our kids on the weekends and spends time with them only on his terms which is a quick visit at my house here and there to play with them meanwhile I am left raising our children by myself. Him and his parents still expect to do holidays and lunches together on the weekends and I cannot stand them. His mother is a moody, unfriendly and mean at times and my ex is a self centered narcissistic jerk. Is it wrong for me to not want to do these things with them anymore since we are now divorced?

I need advice. So my husband recently started a band. There are 4 guys besides Wade. They are over every night and day and whenever they get a chance they are over. Today was supposed to be mine and my husband s day to spend the day together by our selves. And who texts him but one of the guitarists asking him if he wanted to go to guitar center. Of course he said yes. Right befor he left he told me the drummer was coming over. What am I doing wrong? Why can t he just spend a whole day just the 2 of us? It hurts that he chooses them over me. I love him to pieces but I need my Wade back just for one day out of the week! Oh and it s not just me. His mom saw it and talked to him about it and he said he would try harder. But he hasn t changed at all.

Hello, please dont judge me. I have a husband and i have been cheating on him for the past 6 months. I just broke up witj the guy i cheated on my bf with and i made him feel bad. I dont know what to do. I made him cry and he keeps begging me to keep the affair going but i love my husband so much , i cheated because je was always working and never payed attention to me or the baby and he had also hit me. But he has changed now. Now i dont know what to do

Are there any cultural or food issues?

Husband says I don't need to go out. I feel like a child begging him to let me go. I don't understand why he is acting like this. Controlling husband

i had with a another man in the same week I was having sex with my husband ,3 week later I found out I was pregnant and I was very happy then it became a doubt don't get a an actual Dna just kept doing psyquic and tarot reading to try to find out the thruth , the cards kept saying it's my husband and I believed it and felt happy about it ,and i even kept asking the guy he said it's not his and that he would care if I get and a test cause it ain't his . Now my baby is born and I got another ready reading and now it says that the baby its not my husband and that he will never find out cause the baby will end up looking just like you...I don't know what to do I already have an older son with my husband and he thinks the child is his and he's very happy with the bby . I love so much I don't want too loose my family . I wanna tell him the truth later I just wonder if he will forgive me or if I take it to the grave would God forgive me even tho I won't tell him anything .. I already asked God for forgiveness I'm really very repented and just don't know what to do without loosing my beautiful family

I found Facebook messages between my husband of 17 years and a female coworker. He is 37 years old and she is 21. The messages that I came across went on for 3 months. When I confronted him he said they were just work friends and nothing more. One message read = Do you want to hang out and hook up ? I'm off Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Do you want to have food and drinks at your place or do you want to go out? Other messages read = I want to chill with you, I'm getting tired of sharing (she has a boyfriend ), Dinner Saturday night... bring your daughter along she will be my cheap date, I hate to see you so upset I care about you. Etc. These were all his words. He also messaged her while we were on a family vacation and told her when he would be back and they will go out. Another message I came across was at 2am. He said what are you doing up so late. She replied that her TV came on all of the sudden. He said I don't know how that could have happened... ill fix it.He said I have skillz, I'll show you my skillz monday. I "snooped" through his messenger 9 months ago. That's when I found the messages. They stopped messaging each other when I found out. It's been almost a year and I can't get over it. I can't let it go. So.... what are your thoughts. Coworker/ friend or a mistress ?

We argued the whole hour that I just realized we didn't really let the counselor say much. Basically, we are dysfunctional and don't communicate to make a long story short. I need him to apologize to me for certain things and he has never apologized because her thinks that's "kissing ***", which I don't agree because he doesn't acknowledge my feelings regardless if I was in the right or wrong. I always end up apologizing. I think its a pride thing he has going on but I've told him there is no reason to be prideful with your spouse and make the other feel guilty for arguing..But anyways...when we left the office we didn't say much. I went to pick up our daughter from the sitter and he went his own way. I get home and he's not there. He gets there an hour later and starts doing something in the garage and backyard. Doesn't even bother coming in to greet our daughter. When I'm getting her ready for bed he finally comes in and asks if I need help. I told him no and he left the bedroom closing the door behind him. I fell asleep and he slept in the guest room. I woke up to a text from him that said "I love you". Though I really appreciate it, it's not what I need to hear. I need him to want to talk to me about what was said and not push it under the rug anymore. I didn't answer. When I left to work I didn't wake him to say by and give him a kiss like I usually do. I don't know where to go from here. How do I approach him or should I wait for him since i'm always begging him?

Why does society on a whole make it seem like marriage is a must in order to make one's life better? I certainly never felt the need for an additional person to become happy or complete.

More n more people aren't marrying opposed to what it was years and years ago.

He cheated with the same woman before being engaged. He continued the affair for a year and a half. He says he has to stop now that the wedding date is set, but he has said before that he would stop. He and the other woman are good friends and work together and he plans to continue working with her and remaining friends. What are the chances that he will stop cheating once he is married? I think he feels that he has to stop cheating for religious reasons, however I'm not sure why after the wedding and not before since He lives with the fiancee now. This would be the second marriage for both.

I tell my husband he made me feel unimportant the other day . The other day by being a jerk to me . I ask him to make me feel important just by telling me I am or that he loves me but he is useing" I'm really sick" as an excuse not to say those words to me .

We are newly weds so this is a WIP. I feel under-appreciated and have kept that bottled up. I do the cleaning and cooking and only ask for affection in return. We had plans to go out with friends last night. Before, I wanted to have sex and he didn't. It bothered me, but I shrugged it off. When we were out, he said he felt inadequate bc I wanted sex and he didn't. I said I felt the same for other reasons. He wanted to address these issues in public, but I begged him to wait. I ended up tearing up (humiliated). I thought it was unnoticed but a waitress and a friend saw. We hardly ever fight, but I cried the whole ride home. He was upset I made a scene and kept accusing me of not thinking he was good enough and trying to explain he just isn't super affectionate. We apologized and went to bed. This morning I went to work before him and sent him an email explaining my thoughts and what triggered it and apologizing. I called him when I knew he was getting ready. He just said "I love you. We will talk about this later" and then hung up. I am so upset by this. I feel like when we do fight I am always apologizing and he is always blaming it on me "being a female". I am super level headed and hardly ever lose my cool so I feel like it is unfair for him to treat the issues I do have like I am crazy. I want to say something to him about how rude it was and how it upsets me that everything is always on his terms, but I also want to resolve this and not make things worse.

It s been 9+ years and yet I m still hung up on my first love :( The sad thing is, I m married now & have a child... I haven t spoken to him in years, yet I still think about him on the daily, I have dreams about him regularly, I think back and just miss him so much it makes me literally sick to my stomach. I know he s moved on with someone but I m still caught up... My marriage is sad... My husband works from sun up to sun down and I know I should be appreciative but I m alone all the time and when we are together, all we do is fight. I can t stand him... it causes this whole situation to be worse... In my heart, I feel like my ex is my soul mate or something... I would drop everything for him... Please someone help me... Is this normal? I think about just messaging him how I feel on fb but I don t want to disrespect his relationship or what s left of mine... I m going crazy.

use the pull out method for their primary form of birth control? I'm asking because my husband banned condoms from our wedding night on and that was 3 years ago. My friend says that's not wise but something must be working right. I want to take birth control cause I hate having a period every month and I want to do my husband without worries about having a potential abortion.

I am in my mid 30s and have 2 children (ages 6 and 18 mos). I am the main (but not sole) breadwinner. My wife works 20 hrs per week. I feel like I am needed but appreciated by nobody, and I have no enjoyment in life. I earn a salary of 62k per year (wife earns 17k for 20 hr/wk), which is good, but I don't like my job. Despite this, I work very hard because I have mouths to feed. I am trying to apply to new jobs, but no other companies are biting. Not to mention that applying to jobs is very time consuming. My wife complains that I don't make enough money, yet she complains when I spend time looking for a new job. When I don't work overtime at work, I catch crap from my boss. I used to be diligent about exercising and I used to be in A- shape, but that A- has turned into a B-, and I'm headed toward a C. I no longer have a six-pack, and as I can't work out as much, my metabolism is also slowing…My wife hassles me about gaining weight, but when I go to the gym she complains that I'm "never around". I used to get to spend time with our friends, but taking care of 2 kids and a house with a yard, not to mention commuting time (now that we live in suburbia after my wife's insistence), have taken up all my free time. Now my wife complains that we don't have time for social activity. No matter what I do, I catch crap. Nobody appreciates my hard work, and I never get to have any fun. How do I get out of this rut?

So what I'm trying to say is, well my husband and I married very quickly because he was going into the Army and we have a son together we already were engaged for 1 year and we wanted a huge wedding celebration with our families but he had to leave unexpected and fast that we had to legally be married so what I'm asking is, WE still want to have a celebration and I still want to wear a beautiful dress but we already said our " I, Do'so " so how do we celebrate or do since we already step " married " like do I still walk down am Isle even though we're already married?

I am about to turn 20 and my boyfriend is 21 he is currently in the military. We have been dating for less than a year, and he we both love and care for one another. The only thing stoping me from wanting to marry him, is that I want to know him well enough and be at least engaged for two years. My only wish is to finish school, I wouldn't mind getting married before I am finished with school, I just don't wan't to rush things. He just insist in getting married as soon as possible while I want to be at least 21. My parents think he is an amazing guy but would prefer me to wait as well, when I mentioned that he just said we could get married by court without them knowing. I know he loves me, but how can I nicely make him understand maybe it's to fast?

I've been married to my wife for 5 years and before I left for the marine corps I gave her a stuffed dog. We had a dog at the time who looked just like the stuffed animal; our dog however ended up passing away and I ended up getting shot. I was medically discharged and retired from the marines after two and a half years due to the gunshot. She sleeps with the thing every night with her moms Locket around it (her mom passed.) and I'll notice she'll start whimpering, crying and squeezing the stuffed animal at night. I'm worried about her and dont know if this is normal. She only gets like this when she sleeps with it (there was a week she lost it and had no nightmares.) what should I do? I'm worried I'll bring it up and she'll take it the wrong way.

We usually seeked relationship advice from her grandparents they're 75 and have been married for 55 years. Would it be wrong to go over their house to seek wisdom. I never went there without my wife but I really want them to understand my side and get advice

If he sees his wife and other men openly flirting in front of him.. does he have rights to tell her to not indulge in such things or is it something that he just doesn't have a say?

Will he love his wife? Will their marriage be happy? She cheated on her in the sense that he was pursuing another girl for sex. He kissed the other girl and saw her naked. They didn't go as far as to have sex. He stopped the sex from happening and made sure that he and he other girl slept on different beds