Family: Question: How do I get my mother back for not letting me see my father as a kid accept when the court made her? I am 21 now......?

Question: How do I get my mother back for not letting me see my father as a kid accept when the court made her? I am 21 now......?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:18 PM PDT

I feel like after I get her back by making a strong point where she gets it that she hurt me, then I can then forgive and move on.

Question: Why did my parents divorce, what made this happen?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:16 PM PDT

They seemed happy to me accept they would have me and my sibs go to our grandmother's house for them to "work something out" and often that led to us coming home and saying "where is Mom" and hearing she went somewhere for a day or two. They had a big fight because my Dad's taxes were not filed and all of a sudden he is gone for good. My mother says we can still love our Dad but that she does not and will not ever again. We can see him once a month she says. She gets angry when I ask why as does my father (both are secretive people). I am 16 and they have been married since I was 2 so for 14 years. I have a brother and sister who are 12. Why are they divorcing? I am scared and upset.

Question: What should I say when I visit my brother at jail this Saturday?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:13 PM PDT

I refused to go last Christmas but decided for his birthday, which is Saturday, I would go. He is 24 and pretty rough but still my brother. He will be in jail until he is 27 and I saw him last two Christmas' back (he has been in jail since March of last year (2015)) I am 22

Question: My parents say they divorced to protect us kids from their fighting and dysfunction, does that mean it is our fault?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:11 PM PDT

I feel like I caused it then along with my siblings. I also fear my mother's family, which was mad at her for the divorce, blames us kids.

Question: My mom my mom my mom?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:05 PM PDT

Question: When should I move out considering that I have a flat to live in?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:56 PM PDT

So, the title says it - I have a flat two flors above my parents' and we live in a private house which we share with my aunt and lend the flats. I'm sixteen currently and have no job. I'm planning on making a small bussines online with a mate, but haven't still started working on it. I'm currently studying IT in an IT high school and I'm doing pretty well. I'm expecting to be able to monetize my skills fairly soon. I didn't bring the subject up to my parents yet, and I wouldn't want them to spend any money on furniture and stuff since it's already fitted. The only expense they would make is losing the monthly income from the guy who lives there (it's about 200 euros/mo). I don't know how would they react to my idea, but I would really love to have my own space and my own privacy. It's not far from them, just one floor... So tell me what do you think? Is it okay for me to ask them that at my age? I have good grades at school and don't do anything I shouldn't (drugs and stuff) and am very self-sufficient and they know that... Any answer will be greatly appriciated!

Question: Should I be worried about radon gas? (I'm a kid)?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:53 PM PDT

Hey so I heard about radon gas which usually is in basements and breathing it all in can cause cancer. I spend most of my time in our basement because I share a room with my brother and he basically thinks its his and doesn't let me in. I'm 16 but I'm kind of worried about this because everything I do is in my basement. Is it mandatory to test when you buy a house? If so, then I would know that my parents already did it. But if it isn't, should I stop spending time in my basement until I get some time to talk with my parents about it? Thanks in advance! Also, if it helps I live in Northern New Jersey, so if that means i'm at a greater risk or something idk

Question: I need advice, family issues?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:45 PM PDT

Hey, I'm 16, and my sister is 17. She never does what mom tells her to, and she's always mad. Always. I can't remember a time when she wasn't mad. Even when were a lot smaller, she was always mad. She does study hard, I'll give her that. I do what my mom tells me to, simply because it would bother me if I didn't. I also help my sister. Today at our house, I asked my sister if she could bring me a TV cable from her room. She never uses it. She got a bit angry/frustrated with this, as she always does. But she said she'll do it. An hour went by, I asked her again. She said she had forgotten, and told me to remind her the next time. Again, some time pass by and she was about to start watching Criminal Minds or something. I told her to get the cable before she starts watching criminal minds. She said yeah yeah. Then I see her putting it on, so I said ''Can't you get it before you start watching?'' So she got up angrily, and did it. I know I told her many times, but it isn't hard. I know for sure that I would have done it instantly. So she went upstairs, I decided to follow her a bit later, because I didn't want her to throw the cable at me. She always does that, no matter what the item is, she has to express her bitchiness. Once it was a PS3. She kind of pushed it one me, I'm surprised it didn't break. Well anyway, I went upstairs, waited by my door, she comes, and surprise surprise, she throws it. I just. took it and went to my room. This is where the hell begins

Question: Should i feel like this about my dad?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:32 PM PDT

I'm an adult, and feel dad has never been there for me, like i feel a dad should. Dad just isn't caring, if it is concerning me. He does things with my sister, but i'm excluded. My sister also seems to hate me. Dad left the family at at point and moved back in He sleeps in the den. He has also threaten to kill me, seems he would rather say something negative about me. It's like he is ashamed of me. Now when i am around him i sometimes feel like raging Unfortunately i live with parents. I am looking to move out though. But i try and do what i can to help. But anything good i do dad doesn't care. If it is negative i am blamed. I'm gonna move out but it seems dad literally hates me.

Question: Is it ok if I hit my father when he lays his hands on my mother or on me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:28 PM PDT

Question: What can I buy for my mother for Mother's Day when you don't have much money?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:09 PM PDT

I want to give my mom something special for Mother's Day. But the problem is, is that I only have $11. I want to give her something that's not so expensive but so,etching that's really special to her and she can keep it forever if she wants. Can anyone give me some suggestions on what I can buy her for Mother's Day? I would really appreciate it. :)

Question: Step sister doesn t like me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:01 PM PDT

my dad recently remarried and she had two kids,one girl (15) and one boy (13), I m a 15 year old boy and her son has taken a big interest in me but her daughter hasn t, she never talks to me or acknowledges me unless she has to, im not looking for something serious just something to make our family outings a little more fun with conversation between us all

Question: Did she have a right to slap me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 11:41 AM PDT

Me and Ieva aren't friend anymore and it's a long story but her so called friends were behind it. It's been 2 years and people were asking me if I would go dancing with her and I said no because we aren't friends anymore and she heard it got upset and slapped me in the face. I can't understand why she did that.. I mean we don't even talk anymore and she gets upset over the slightest things I do. For example I was hugging one of my friends and she got really upset and a couple classes afterwards I saw her forcefully hugging someone she isn't even friends with. The thing is we're both girls and I don't think she owns me. Did she have a right to slap me in the first place? was I wrong to point out the truth about our friendship?

Question: Issues between me and my dad is worrying me and I want the anxiety of him being angry at me to stop. Any suggestions?

Posted: 05 May 2016 11:37 AM PDT

This is serious please answer seriously. This might sound stupid but it it's affecting our relationship overall. So we play a game called Destiny. Fun game no doubt. Every once in a while though he will get mad at u over it. A few days ago he woke me up from my nap to play with him. So I join the Xbox live party and my friends need help. I'm half asleep so I join to help not realizing that he isn't playing with them. He gets mad cause he figures out I'm in a game already and instead of calling me out on my mistake he leaves. Poof left the party got offline. When I go downstairs to explain he flips out on me and yells to get out of his face and tells me to stay in my room. Fast forward to the next day if I talk to him about anything he is super passive. When I ask to play with him again passive telling me he is doing his own thing. This whole thing is making me feel just awful even though I know it will all be fine. I just don't want this whole thing to ruin our relationship it's already bad enough that he has issues from his dad. I know it sounds stupid that it's over a game but again it feels like it's more than that and I don't want it to happen anymore

Question: I hate my parents?

Posted: 05 May 2016 10:43 AM PDT

Ok so ever since I was little my parents have hit me but I never classed it as abuse because it was just a slap. I really hated my parents for hitting me but it left no scars so obviously it wasn t bad? Even though once it left a hand print on my back. I recently wanted a dog and she is lovely and I adore her so much but I honestly did not realise how hard it was going to be especially as my parents and sister get angry at me if they have to help because she is my dog and I should look after her . I thought we would all help but this makes me sad when my parents (mainly my dad) yell at me for not taking all the responsibility. My dad started hitting my dog, not too hard but definitely not soft. I tried to stop him but he won t and I love my dog so much, she is the only good thing in my family. Anyway I need help with that and on how to deal with my family, I tried to kill myself and I don t want to die I just want to skip years until I m an adult and can leave. Thankyou

Question: I don't know what to think?

Posted: 05 May 2016 10:40 AM PDT

I never knew my biological father at all and was told he was a terrible, violent mentally unbalanced person. I was also told that his entire family rejected me and wanted nothing to do with me. Fast forward 3 decades and his side of the family found me and are saying they all looked for me for years, and I was loved and wanted and my bio-father talked about me all the time, and he was a wonderful, loving father. I know my mother is a liar and has told some extreme lies in her life (I haven't had her in my life for years) but I'm really struggling to get my head around this situation. Any advice or opinions? Thank you

Question: Me and my sister have the same mother different fathers but she has a brother same father different mother what do I call him if we related?

Posted: 05 May 2016 10:36 AM PDT

Question: I think my sister has an ear fetish or just annoying me or both?

Posted: 05 May 2016 10:20 AM PDT

so I have a sister who is 17 a year older than me and I think she has an ear fetish, we are really close, she is always touching my ear or doing something to it, my sister is a really fun person to be around, energetic, always joking around, laughing and she's always touching people if that makes sense. she always walks up behind me and either puts her finger in it, blows it, bites it or sticks her tongue in it (still talking about ears), its kinda embarrassing when she does it in front of family, she's done it in front of my mum a few times, she wont do it when I have a friend over but only when her friends are over what's weird is I'm starting to like it, I don't know why but now when she does it, it feels kinda good and yes I've started thinking maybe I like my sister, but I don't trust me she's very pretty but I wouldn't go as far as to say I have a crush on her or anything. So yeah does my sister just like annoying me THAT MUCH or maybe an ear fetish?

Question: My father always expects everything from me!?

Posted: 05 May 2016 09:53 AM PDT

I am in the eighth grade and my theses is due next friday. I just asked him to help. I mean usually parents help their children a little right? I am so terrified whether I am gonna make it or not! What do I do? The minute I ask for some good websites and to explain that topic. He tells me to read and not to be `blind´ and look at Wikipedia. im sinking totally and my physics theses will be ruined. I tried so much but my mom tells me not to get his blood pressure up when he is screaming! please help me! How can I get him to help me. He wants it finished in an hour. I am screwed.

Question: Thoughts on sister fetish?

Posted: 05 May 2016 09:43 AM PDT

so i have a sister fetish, i love the idea of being the older brother with a younger sister, i am 16 and she is 15. now we might only be a year a part but she is a lot shorter than me and she's pretty hot, i have a lot of chances to get close to her since we live with our dad who is always working or drunk, during the day she will come and chill in my room, yesterday she came in to my room while i was asleep and layed in my bed with her *** on my gut, when i woke up i had a raging hard on. besides the fact that I'm into my sister, i know I'm not actually gonna make a move or anything, that's why this fetish sucks does anybody feel the same way?

Question: My older brother does not love me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 09:16 AM PDT

He's now 20 and I'm 17. Ever since I was small I can't remeber a day when my brother told me he loved me. He never showed any affection towards me. Last monday I went to stay with him as I needed a place to stay and I hadn't seen him for a whole year and 4 months and all ne said to me was "when are you leaving it's really annoying of you be here?!" I feel like he hates me? He often tells me "Can't you see I don't care about you?" and really mean stuff all the time. He says he's embarrassed of hanging out with me. He really does not love me. I just can't accept the fact that he does not love me back. Speaking to him is no use because I've tried it already. Speaking to my parents as well won't help. It hurts when somebody does not care about youwhen you care about him...

Question: Am I being too hard on the father of my baby?

Posted: 05 May 2016 09:13 AM PDT

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We had a baby together and I also had a child before I met him which he has now kind of stepped in as the father my son has never had. When we first dated I knew he smoked weed which I didn t really care at that moment. I never knew how serious this was going to get and now that we have a growing family I hate when he smokes. He has said that he was going to stop because of our family but I recently found out that he has been lying and hiding these things behind my back. I am wanting to move out and end this because I feel like I m constantly getting lied to straight to my face and feel like he hides things from me all the time. At the same time I hate to tear away my baby from her father and now my son that has become attached to him and calling him dad :( Im torn but I m really leaning towards leaving. I d appreciate all of your guys input. Thank you!

Question: How to convince my mom into letting me have the bigger room¿?

Posted: 05 May 2016 09:04 AM PDT

So my Mom is kinda not really but kinda in to it, and my brother doesn t care but I really want to change rooms with him.. He has a way bigger room. But I have an annoying little sister that thinks she gets it.:/ my mom is kinda not liking it so I have to convince her. My brother is older then me but going back to school next year and I m the oldest girl. I think I deserve more privacy but how do you think I can convince my mom?¿

Question: How to do well in school when people are putting you down?

Posted: 05 May 2016 09:03 AM PDT

People look down on me for being foreign and because my parents have their own business ): they bully me everyday and make me look like I fool and I'm starting to find it hard to study. Please give me some advise on how to do well in school when people are put you down emotionally ):

Question: I am angry at my parents for bringing me into the world?

Posted: 05 May 2016 08:45 AM PDT

My parents are generally loving and caring, and my Dad takes great care to provide well for our family. But I have experienced a great deal of emotional turmoil that I cannot seem to escape from. I wish I had never been born, and I am becoming resentful of my parents for making me, because I would very rather not exist. What should I do?!

Question: Why does my boyfriends female cousin hate me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 08:33 AM PDT

I'm 21 with a 2 year old son, she's 36 with 5 kids ranging from 5-18yrs old,my husband is not rich but financially I'm able to occasionally take all the kids on trips to amusement parks, arcades, fairs, museums, beaches, and the park all year round. Their mother and her husband can barely afford to buy dinner every night (they're alcoholics and lottery addicts)so I try to give them a good time every chance I get. I pay the kids for doing small house chores and helping babysit, as well as pay for 2 of her sons football gear and all the kids school supplies last year. I escorted her 12 year old daughter to her school dance, did her makeup and help pick out her dress. Later that week she became a "young lady" . Her mother laughed at her when she wanted to have the TALK. I had her grandma talk to her. This woman drinks from sun up to sun down, by 11 am she's drunk and passed out the whole day. It's disgusting. Every week their mother comes to me drunk and high trying to fight me and cursing me out saying my life is going to be terrible when I get older. Yesterday she approached me while I was seasoning meat and tryed to swing on me when her sons stopped her. The only reason I've restrained myself from saying something hurtful is her children. They're like brothers and sister to my son, the only family he knows. I'm at a breaking point, she literitally just stumbled past me and couldn't turn the knob on the door. MY BOYFRIEND SAYS AND DOES NOTHING. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO 😭😤

Question: Is this the right choice I made?

Posted: 05 May 2016 08:29 AM PDT

My father is very overprotective. He didn't want me to pursue a career in Engineering. He wanted me to pursue a job as a Cashier in a Supermarket. I decided to go against my father's wishes and scored really high on tests in really high level Science and Math courses. I did so well, that I graduated from those courses earlier than everyone else. I was a natural when it came to Math and Science. When he found out, he was very upset with me. He wasn't abusive. He was sad because he's afraid I'm going to die if I enlist in this job. So I simply told him that I was free to make my own choices and that he can rot in Hell. He slapped me and literally threw me out of his house. Two weeks later, he was robbed and beaten, leading him to be hospitalized. The guy who did it was charged with grand larceny, burglary and assault and sentenced to 15 years imprisonment and 10 years probation with an over $1,000 fine. I made no effort whatsoever to see my father. Eventually, family members dragged me to see my father. He then hugged me and kissed me, caressing my chin, treating me as if I was very precious to him. I did so well in College that I graduated earlier than my classmates did. But my father didn't care anything about that. He didn't want me pursuing Engineering because it was a dangerous job. My well-being was more important to him than my accomplishments and my talents. So, because of that, I left him sitting there in that hospital, hungry for my presence there.

Question: Should I confront my mother?

Posted: 05 May 2016 08:17 AM PDT

So, this whole situation is based on mi madre abandoning my young half brother. About a year or two ago the person who was raising him passed away. My mom pretty much gave over her rights as he was still a baby. However, because of the death of his guardian he now lives with my mothers mom whom she visits all the time. Whenever she's over my grandmothers house and my younger brother is there she constantly gives him a grimace as if she's ashamed of him. I think this whole situation is wrong and I want to call her out on it. I don't have any respect for a parent who abandons their child/children because I know how it feels.

Question: Guilty about using vacation time?

Posted: 05 May 2016 08:14 AM PDT

My children are 2 and 1 years old. With Mother's Day weekend coming up, I decided to take a few vacation days from work to just take some time for me (he never wants to do anything for Mother's Day, but expects to be "off" on Father's Day), and hopefully, to finally get the apartment in order. I thought about telling him that I'm off on those days, but he always get extremely POed when I take a day off (which I only do if I have an appt for one of the kids). His view of thinking is that I should be able to take care of the kids, tend to the chores (including cleaning the entire apartment), and have 3 meals prepared all in one day. His response has always been, "My mother did everything to maintain a clean, orderly house." She also didn't work outside the home either. Either way he will find out, as we both work in the same building. The Valet staff knows both of us very well, and they are also very nosy. I still plan on taking the children to the sitter for those days, mainly because I don't want to interrupt their routine. They get extremely cranky with even the slightest interruption. But why do I feel so guilty about using the days? It's not like I'm planning on chilling with friends or sleeping all day. I didn't say our marriage is miserable. We are quite happy, in fact. His views of child rearing and household chores are very traditional and old fashioned, which is based on how he grew up. We're from completely different cultures. The men in his culture are what Americans would consider workaholics, but again, that goes back to how he grew up. Back then, the men were the sole provider for the family, while the women stay home, raised the children, and tended to the housework.

Question: My parents are getting a divorce?

Posted: 05 May 2016 07:59 AM PDT

im really worried about my brothers (ages 1-6) my dad has been going off with this woman and last night he told my mom and he said he wants a divorce he has also been taking my brothers to see this woman My mom is trying to get a good job as a teacher but it's not looking good I'm already working 2 jobs and my sister has her job my dad is letting us keep the house but we still have to pay mortgage but should I be worried about all of this?

Question: Help i want to die badly.?

Posted: 05 May 2016 07:53 AM PDT

I really want to die Im 9 years old My family is F***ed up the only friends i have are on the ps and the only good one is (i can't tell you) Im not allowed to go out of the house without my F***ed up parents My Reletives would call 911 if i post a E Rated game on a youtube channell And other horrible stuff I think im the only one in my family i even gave 1$ to a poor person

Question: Help! Weight loss!?

Posted: 05 May 2016 07:42 AM PDT

So my dad is a 300lb man. He has major back problems and crazy acid reflex and heart problems. He knows that he needs to loose weight but he won t! We ve tried to get him up so many times. He works at a computer all day and when he gets home he goes straight to bed and watches tv and eats huge bowls of ice cream. Everyone in my family is worried and he tells us he just doesn t care anymore! Please help he s only 40. I don t want to loose him! He think he has diabetes but we don t have health insurance so he won t go into the doctor. I really have run out of options I don t know what to do anymore! Is there some professional we can call? Please help! :(

Question: How can I surprise my mom?

Posted: 05 May 2016 07:38 AM PDT

Okay so I'm an only child wanting to surprise my single mother with a round trip to Las Vegas. Her birthday is exactly one month from now so I don't have much time to get everything done. My parents are on good terms so I can have my dad help me out. I also am trying to get a few of my moms closest high school friends to surprise her as well by going on the trip and will keep her company. (They will be paying for their own flights/hotel.) I'm excited but I could use advice, thanks! (:

Question: Do your parents act like they know everything and then say that you do instead?

Posted: 05 May 2016 07:30 AM PDT

mine do. hmm, They do not educate themselves on things for ex; health related issues. they mindlessly swallow pills not knowing whats in them. when i try to educate them they roll their eyes and get irritated. say i think i knw everything. i say nope, but this particular thing ive done research, and that they should too but they never do. and then it acts out on me. i was pressured by mom to take some dodgy medicine for a MILD SYMPTOM, not sickness (low fever).i was fine with resting. i declined and asked her whether she even knew what was in that peculiar thing, and she got angry and said i was stubborn. its like this for a lot of things. another silly example is like say, we see an insect doing something funny. they say "ohh.. i think its doing that because *so and so* yep looks like it!" then u could politely explain what they are actually doing, (i love to read alot and gather information) but they will not buy the fact. I'm 17.Just wanted to ask: This happens to you? Dont mind typing errors pls. Oh yeah update a more precise title : DO YOUR PARENTS ACT LIKE THEY KNOW EVERYTHING YET AT THE SAME TIME COMPLAIN THAT YOU THINK THAT YOU KNOW EVERYTHING?

Question: My Dad beats me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 07:28 AM PDT

First let me start off by saying this: my father loves me, I know he does, and he thinks what he does is in my best interest. It is how he was raised. We live in the south... But whenever I do something wrong,( for example, get bad grades, or forget to shovel out the horse pens,) my pop's will beat me, viciously. Sometimes with his fist, other times he will make me get a broomstick or something like that I tried telling him. Asking him if he could punish me in other ways, but he says "it's because he loves me" if he didn't love me he wouldn't care, or that I'm his only son and I represent him. My mother knows how he hits me and allows him. I'm a 16 year old guy. A close friend of our family, is a police officer, one time he saw welts on me and asked what happened. I told him the truth, he just joked about it and said "a hard head makes a soft ***".... I try to behave, but it seems I always slip up and get beat. What can I do to stop my father from beating me?

Question: My mom got arrested yesterday for punching my stepdad in the face. And they yell at each other all the time and im tired of hearing it?

Posted: 05 May 2016 06:40 AM PDT

my stepdad called her a stupid *** ****

Question: I'm 22 years old, no home just rent and my mother is only a vendor and i dont knw any technical skill i dnt have father since birth. advice?

Posted: 05 May 2016 06:13 AM PDT

Question: I don't know how to feel about the situation..?

Posted: 05 May 2016 06:13 AM PDT

So let me start this off by saying that I have VERY bad migraines, been happening for about 2-3 years, missed many days of school. Now this year, I'm realizing that my vision is also messing up. I've noticed this in my classroom where I can't see from seats in the back, the middle I have to really squint, the front I can. We took an eye test at school, which I hadn't done since elementary. And the started at the bottom rows, which were all pixelated. The last letter I said was K, and when I was done it was actually an H. My mother has been avoiding taking me. I told her the first time and she basically ignored me, recently from that she went to the doctors for HER bronchitis. Told her last night, she didn't reply to me on purpose. My dad isn't able to right now. I have someone who will take me, but my mom never takes me so I have no doctor. Haven't been there since my dad DID take me. Which was 1-2 years ago for this reason. I don't get why my mom keeps avoiding it. She has the money, she has days off work. Yet she never takes me. I slowly feel my vision getting worse if I don't go. Advice? No I can not take myself.

Question: My dad has never had a job in his life and has some kind of mental illness.?

Posted: 05 May 2016 05:53 AM PDT

Im 16 and i live in a tiny apartment in japan with my mom and dad. And my dad is the biggest problem in my life hes never had a job in his life. He spends his days just sitting in a chair eating,drinking alcohols,laughing when theres nothing happening. I dont want any of my friends to know about my dad so ive never invited someone to my house. And im always afraid of being asked "tell me about ur family"or"what does ur father do?" kind of questions. Therefore ive never had a "close friend"or bff. I have a brother who lives far away to go to university but since my dad has no job and my mom who works part time is the only one who earns money in my family, my family is extremely poor and cant pay my brothers university fees sometimes. I really hate my life because of my dad. Is there anyway i can get out of this situation??

Question: My parents took my phone away. How to get it back?

Posted: 05 May 2016 05:50 AM PDT

So I've been trying this new thing where I come home and sleep for 3 hours then stay up until 3 or 4 a.m. to study and do hw and I've been productive. But yesterday I slept from 8 to 10:30 instead of 2-5 like usual so my mom got so ******* mad and cancelled my phone service. Like I still have my phone but I can't call or text on it so it's virtually useless. How can I convince them to let me have service again???

Question: Is it normal to cry at night because of of some things your parents did to you, even if it's months or years ago?

Posted: 05 May 2016 05:17 AM PDT

Question: I found out my moms been cheating on my dad...?

Posted: 05 May 2016 05:10 AM PDT

I found out her pass code and got in her phone and what I found shocked me. She had been texting some man I d never heard of or seen. Calling him baby and **** like that. Sending hearts and talking romantic and saying "this is gonna work out". My dad is not home, he works offshore and will be back in a few days and I know he doesn t cheat. What do I need to do I m just so angry and sad and all these feelings about my mom doing my dad like that.

Question: My parents say they divorced to protect us kids from their fighting and dysfunction, does that mean it is our fault?

Posted: 05 May 2016 04:53 AM PDT

I feel like I caused it then along with my siblings. I also fear my mother's family, which was mad at her for the divorce, blames us kids.

Question: Is this family lifestyle normal or not?

Posted: 05 May 2016 04:49 AM PDT

i am 17yr old me and my brother and sister were been raised to to do what we want because my parents were and still open minded ofcourse when i say what we want i don't mean weed or smth like it!! they are open minded sex and these stuff,and it is allowed for us to move around wearing underwear and me myself i love this lifestyle but is it normal?

Question: Both my parents are trying to get me to take sides in their divorce, whose side should I be on as I am torn?

Posted: 05 May 2016 04:39 AM PDT

My aunt even says I should be neutral and she is my Dad's sister but is still nice to my mother also. My Dad says my mother left and that he is the one who tried to save the marriage but my mother says she couldn't take my Dad's drinking and attitude anymore and his refusal to be honest about money. My Dad says my mother is exaggerating reality and I think he is right. He also says she had an attitude. So whose side do I take? I am 13. My sisters are both on my mothers side and I am the only son so should I be on my Dad's side? Could my aunt be right that I don't need to take sides? My grandfather on my Dad's side told me he will never speak to my Dad again. I haven't asked my Dad's parents yet whose side I should take. @Suzanne lily of the valley----My grandfather who won't talk to my Dad is not his father, it is my mother's father and so my father's former father-in-law.

Question: My mother's passion is dumping on my father, her ex-husband. How can I get her to find a new passion that doesn't hurt me as much?

Posted: 05 May 2016 04:18 AM PDT

It hurts me when she dumps on my Dad, her ex. What is a new passion I can give her? Right now the dumping is what she does all the time.

Question: Who do you say is more of a manly man, me or my dad?

Posted: 05 May 2016 03:44 AM PDT

Hi, I come from a very dysfunctional family where parents have decided to exclude me from attending programs where males are made into metrosexuals since I missed out and because they wanted a macho child since the eldest one a macho child attended with teen siblings. They automatically assumed my identity was a macho man, so forcing me to being like one is okay since they think that. Here's my dad - He has assaulted our mum before, drinks alcohol and argues with others even over small things. He has also chosen to have me excluded from attending such programs due to his reason wanting to force me to being a macho man. Here's what happened me because of him - He has bossed, blamed and scolded me throughout my childhood years and has been more persistent with it ever since I missed out. I now feel naturally compelled to do those chores and many other responsibilities due to His actions have also added greatly to my stress levels where I had resorted to self-defamation by saying lies in a pedophile throughout the internet and in person, effectively making them blacklist me due to them thinking I'm a pedophile. Here's my identity that my dad is desperately trying to destroy while also encouraging my siblings to be like - I'm a male who is self-conscious, non-violent, introverted and prefers the laid-back life - not having too many responsibilities where I'm even scolded if something goes wrong. I prefer to work in offices in the city, not hard manual labor.

Question: What will your family do for Christmas, what kinds of activities?

Posted: 05 May 2016 03:14 AM PDT

Question: My grandma is racist? Advice please?

Posted: 05 May 2016 03:11 AM PDT

My grandma is a 74-year-old conservative Republican. She is a Trump supporter and an avid watcher of Fox News. She's not openly racist, but it's pretty obvious that she has some issues with other races. For example, whenever we're watching the news and a black person comes on TV, she'll complain about political correctness and "those dirty hoodlums," regardless of the context or situation. Also, yesterday we were at the store and a black man happened to be bagging our groceries. My grandma was giving him weird looks during the entire process. Then, as we were leaving, she started badmouthing him and claimed that he tried to pickpocket her on her way out. Anyway, do you think there is any way I could change her behavior?

Question: Why is dad such a coward?

Posted: 05 May 2016 03:03 AM PDT

He threatened to kick me in the @ss again. I said, alright, do it, and all he did is spank me LMAO. He doesn't doesn't have the courage to do anything else but spanking or slapping. I am quite respectul to others and I'm doing well academically, thanks. But I won't put up with his bullsh!t if he deliberately doesn't give me lunch and and says he'll kick me just because he thinks I walk too slowly. And I'm probably the least violent person ever, so don't assume things.

Question: Guilt trip?

Posted: 05 May 2016 03:02 AM PDT

Sorry it's long but here goes: I'm planning on taking a trip to see my mother on the day before Mother's Day. I have decided to bring my kids with me so she can see her grandkids. To celebrate mday. The other grandparent's (husbands mom) offered to watch the kids the same night. (Doesn't spend time acts like its babysitting) My husband told his mother mine and the children's plan Two days later they were over our home and she breaks into a single conversation letting me know she will watch the kids Saturday. I said no we have plans visiting my mother. She acted as if she forgot and played it off trying to put me into a guilt trip. She's very manipulative. Any other time they are too tired or busy to spend quality time with grandchildren only if they have to. Convient for mday apparently. P.s. We had to put our children in daycare to buy mil gift because we didn't want children present to give away secret. instead we put them in daycare because they were too tired to "babysit" what are some ways I can deal with this situation and in laws?

Question: Was my mum right to punish me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 02:56 AM PDT

Recently, my mum has been making me do my sister's homework for her. I'm in my second and final year of A-levels while she's in her first year of GCSEs. Yesterday, my sister said "you were supposed to do my science homework. Thanks to you I'm falling behind." I said to her that it's not my fault that she's falling behind, it's hers. I also said "how are you supposed to learn anything if you don't do it yourself?" Later on, she grassed on me to our mum and she was furious with me. She said "you were supposed to do her homework for her and you didn't do it. She's falling behind in science and it's all your fault." I said to her that it's not my fault because she should be doing it herself, but she said "don't you dare talk to me like that." I also sais, "How am i supposed to concentrate on my A-levels when you're always shoving her homework on my desk? I've had enough!!" She then started shouting at me even louder and said "starting from tomorrow when you get back from school, you are grounded for one week. Don't say you don't deserve to be punished because you do. You really do." Do I deserve to be punished at all? I go to school after lunch and come back at the end of the day so when I come back I'm grounded for a week.

Question: Boyfriend's dad doesn't like me. How do I create a safe, open dialogue?

Posted: 05 May 2016 02:53 AM PDT

1. My bf would offer me food a lot to me and his friends because he has the unlimited meal plan versus us who dont have a meal plan. (My bf knows I dont eat much nor do I have an appetite to even eat. He helped me respect myself) 2. I don't invite his family to my family gatherings as often as they do.(Im a first generation and most of my family is in a different country and my dad's side barely has parties plus they don't drink) 3. I didn't act immediately when my bf said his dad would be picking up the car phone charger and I got it when the dad arrived on campus to pick it up rather than getting it ahead of time from my car (I was using it earlier and yes, I should have taken it out when he mentioned it) 4. I looked jealous at a party when my bf was playing with nieces and nephews (I was trying not to laugh or I was zoning out. ) 5. I'm frugal and don't spend a lot of money (I'm in crippling debt nor does my mother and I have extra spending money to go eat at food-chain restaurants) 6. The dad believes I'm taking advantage of his son and that I'm possessive, manipulative, a bad influence, and disrespectful to his parents and my mom. (They expected me to help their son get a drivers license, a job, internships. Also hes not going home every weekend, Im accused of keeping him on campus) I understand his circumstances because my passed dad has been though the same thing. I just don't want to be accused of being all the words he called me. How do I respond back?

Question: My dad was never proud of me.?

Posted: 05 May 2016 02:32 AM PDT

My dad is always comparing me with other children saying they are so much better, "why can t you be like them?" . I mean yes they a smarter but I m good in my own ways . I m good in something they re not and when i emphesise that he says that I m useless and stupid in making decisions. What am i suppose to do? I want to become a pathologist one day but my dad wants me to ba a doctor. I m so confuse. When i pick point the mistakes my cousins do, he always covers up saying everyone does mistakes in life and when i do mistakes he yells at me as if i committed a crime.He always downgrades me by calling me names. It hurts when your dad calls you names. I ve talked about this to my mum and she told my dad loves me no matter what. I m sure she s saying that just to make me feel better. Hell my dad called me a mistake and saying he is only doing things because it s his responsiblity. He always try to find fault in me. I ve wanted to take baking classes because i like baking and my dad told no because only useless people do this. And he doesn t support my decisions. I get so depressed because of this. I don t have siblings, the only child and i cry to myself every night thinking about my future how I m alone and i can never depend on my dad. Because i know he will never be there for me loke my mum. I get sad when i see my friend s relationship with their father. It hurts knowing i can never get that.

Question: Brothers Birthday?

Posted: 05 May 2016 02:04 AM PDT

Is it normal for parents to do nothing special for their children's birthday ie not buy them much/nothing special or not do anything ? My brother is 16 today and It's quite special birthday because he turning 16. But my parents don't care at all, don't buy him anything until the day before but usually on the day and all he has gotten is some underpants and 2 cards . It makes me sad because they are like this with me also, they treat it like regular day . While other kid when they have birthdays they get spoilt, have party's, loads of friends over and lots of expensive presents ( Gaming consoles , laptops, phones etc) . So i know how shitty he will feel today because i felt the exact same feeling on my birthdays feeling of being unloved and that nobody cares . My dad especially doesn't care he just comes home from work( he is a driver) and watches tv for the rest of the day everyday, then drinks a lot of weekends. While my mum has to do everything in the house as well as hold down a full time job, I try to help but I have been trying to focus on my studies for university. I know my mum gets stressed out over having to do everything but i feel as if she could still take some time on a weekend to buy him something because she has free time on the weekends and i wish my dad would do something but he is just incredibly lazy and you cant ask him to anything without him getting moody . ( All our dad does for us is when he goes to buy drink in he might buy us some crisps/chocolate)

Question: Am I wrong for thinking like this?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:49 AM PDT

I can t stand my parents. They are always complaining how hard everything they have to do is. My dad owns a company that brings a constant stream of money without him having to do anything so he is mostly at home all day. My mom is a housewife. We are 5 kids, Im always at school, at work or at my friends house, my sister is never home and my brother is 20. My little brothers are 10 and 9. They are always annoyed and don´t respect anything i do. They are christians and dont like muslims and think that being gay is a sin. Why do I find them so annoying?

Question: What should I do to stop my mum from trying torment money from me?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:47 AM PDT

I m a teenager and I live with both of my parents. My mum made up lies about me changing my sibling s passwords on their phones. (Even though they said they just forgot them) She knew about my anger issues and yet she really pissed me off on purpose with the same lies when she saw me taking my brother phone upstairs give it to him. I ended up smashing the phone instead of her neck, when I calmed down, she had taken all the Christmas money that I got from my grandma and dad. (My brother didn t get any of it) I ve been able to forgive her since the incident. Recently I got really ill and had to visit the hospital, the pain I suffered kept me up at night and gave me insomnia, when I was well enough to come home my dad gave me £20 for being brave. When my mum found out about the money, she started saying that I don t deserve that money because I m staying up too late playing games. (When I was falling alsleep at day due to the lack of sleep I ve had) Now, I m paranoid what she s going to do next. I m trying to get my sleeping schedule normal again, but she keeps putting me in a bad mood which is not helping. I don t know what to do about it, should I tell my dad, or should I just put up with it?

Question: 10 PTS BEST ANSWER!!! I found out my mom has been sexting. It really disturbed me. How can I handle it/deal with it/forget it?

Posted: 05 May 2016 01:22 AM PDT

I'm a 14 year old girl. My mom is a university professor. She left on a research trip a couple of weeks ago. She's coming back this weekend. Today I was playing a game on my dad's phone. My mom texted him. I thought it was going to be something like 'pick me up at 7:00 on Sat'. I looked at it (I know I shouldn't have) and it did not say that. It said 'We haven't made love in so long. I want you so bad. When I get back I'm going to take off all my clothes and spread my legs. I need you to suck on my pu*sy :P" I honestly was shocked. I know my parents have done it, but it never really occurred to me until I read that. If I ever said anything like that my mom would flip, but she's saying it to my dad over text. Maybe it's silly, but it really bothers me. Just the thought of them doing it is revolting. When we pick up my mom I don't know if I'll like it because I'll know what she and my dad are thinking. How can I forget I ever saw that and just view them as my normal, non-sexual parents?

Question: I am so MAD that my sister got pregnant!I want to beat the sh*t out of his boyfriend!Please help!?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:30 AM PDT

So my sister is already 22.Such an educated lady and just graduated from the University.Anyways today she told the whole family she is pregnant!I was really mad!At that moment I wanted to beat the **** out of his boyfriend!I feel like all men are perverts and care only about sex!Men are also rough and I have seen porn and seen how they treat women during sex!I bet he was probably rough to my sister during sex too!You know how all men are!How can I deal with this?I really want to confort him and drop his *** down for getting my sister pregnant!Men are perverted!All they want is sex!They are also really rough to women and treat them like garbage!He seems like a nice educated guy,but when it comes to sex,you know how they are!Please help! Btw I know its weird for her own brother to think about her sex life,but I know how men are to women like I said.All they want is sex!They are so perverted and do really rough things to women as I have seen that in porn. Oh and I meant to say "her",not "his" on the question.

Question: Knowing more than the boyfriend?

Posted: 05 May 2016 12:30 AM PDT

First off I love my boyfriend, but it's weird for me because sometimes I feel I know more about my boyfriend when it comes to certain things. Like fixing cars (and I know nothing) but I grew up with my dad working on his, and my exs working on theirs. Same things goes for buying/renting a place. I've always lived at home, but I feel I still know more about it. Like needing a down payment, and getting a home expertor. And fixing things. Again I really know Jack, but I grew up with a dad fixing things up around the house. I don't think he had that.