Family: Question: How do I become against jealousy of my Younger brother?

Question: How do I become against jealousy of my Younger brother?

Posted: 09 May 2016 01:08 PM PDT

My brother is only three and this day he already has a laptop I have a laptop but I can't find the charger my parents don't seem to care because the last thing I ever got from my parents was from Christmas that's the only thing my grandfather treats me nice but that's all my brother has been getting packages like crazy Is it because of middle child syndrome I mean my brother is three in 12 and my sister is twenty It was like More than 500 dollar laptop and mine was 300 I feel like my brother is the new prince and I'm just the duke that gets the scraps My parents don't even allow me to have a boyfriend They try to help me with my Major Crush and tell me ( Boys are nasty blah blah) I'm not 5 anymore soon enough he will have a phone much higher than mine since mine is the 4s And we need money for food shelter an bills but sure spend it on him! My sister pays for her own stuff but I'm only twelve and I don't even get one thing unless my mom can spend coupons on it I need help!

Question: How can I convince my dad to drive me to a meet and greet in Birmingham?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:59 PM PDT

so I live 7 hours away from Birmingham. that sounds far but my dad has driven much farther to go to my cousins. this meet and greet is very important to me and it s the only thing I want. right now my dads not showing many signs that he ll take me. he said he ll think about it but I think that was only to get me to stop talking about it. I won t give up. I need to go to this meet and greet. I need help as soon as possible... thanks

Question: My mom always say I'm sensitive?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:56 PM PDT

Does that mean I need to change my feelings? I mean I feel like if I'm sensitive toward you that means I care especially with or I'm just fed up.

Question: My sister is 14 and always leaving the house with out telling my mom and my mom get made at me and my sister?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:52 PM PDT

the house she always leave and she don t even like to help clean up and today she left and my sister told her don t leave she got us in trouble Saturday about leaving it not right why do she get made at us about her leave she is the parent not me

Question: My mom and dad constantly judges me and they have me misunderstood I feel they don't fully understand and accept me? Is this a common issue?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:50 PM PDT

Question: I didn t share a bed and cuddle with my sister last night and now she s giving me the cold shoulder; advice?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:35 PM PDT

My little sister was raped and I let her stay with me for support but last night she asked if I would sleep in the bed with her and if we could snuggle. For one cuddling with my sister s a pretty uncomfortable thought but on top of that I have Aspergers so I m not exactly touchy-feely so I said no and now she s giving me the cold shoulder. Any advice?

Question: My mom and someone have moaning contests in the bathroom, but only when i think my dad is on vacation. What can I do?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:31 PM PDT

If you know what I mean.

Question: Would it be ok to eat just a kind bar for a meal for 3 days?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:28 PM PDT

Every time I get mad around this person they get mad at me for being mad, even if I m only angry for a second because I accidentally hurt myself and I get mad for a minute and than it s over I don t even get mad at them just the situation where I hurt myself they for some reason feel the need to get mad at me be angry at me and lecture me over nothing for ten minutes.

Question: My mom likes to hit me?

Posted: 09 May 2016 11:31 AM PDT

My mom hits me very frequently and I love her so much but when she hits me sometimes I instinctively hit back. One time she yanked at my hair and a chunk actually fell out. And another time when I was 10(I m 14 now) she threw a high heeled shoe at my head. She also hit me so hard with a brush that my head started bleeding heavily. I don t know what to do. I go to an advanced school and still get straight As but she s never upset about my school, just my behavior. She wants me to be super girly and when I wear baggy clothes or make inventions out of things I have at my house that are broken or old she hits me repeatedly with them until the invention breaks. But then she calms down and then i love her but now if she yells at me I flinch because I think she is going to hit me but then she says " I wasn t going to hit you but now i will cause you did that stupid flinching this" she also calls me a b***h and a jack*** a lot. How do I reason with her because I really want to be able to love her

Question: My parents are very controlling?

Posted: 09 May 2016 11:30 AM PDT

okay so for the past year or so my parents have been getting out of hand. I feel like my teenage years are being wasted by them (I'm a 15 year old freshman girl, birthday is in january) and they constantly criticize everything I do, violate my privacy, compare themselves to me, and call me a failure whenever I make a mistake in school or whatnot, especially my dad. they nearly drove me crazy last summer because I gained maybe five or six pounds and they proceeded to have yell at me telling me I'm fat, gross, and lazy, which ended with me crying. I rarely cry, and they didn't seem guilty for hurting me at all and I couldn't understand it! I'm trying my best to gain my freedom. I had a guy over for the first time in a while and we all had to have a talk about appropriate behavior apparently even though we are just friends, it was so embarrassing. anytime I go to a friends house I am interrogated and asked tons of questions, and if I have a bad attitude or he suspects im lying my dad gets so pissed off. I'm put under a lot of pressure and responsibility for my little siblings actions, and if one of us does something wrong, we all pay for it. I start my job this week so I'm hoping some financial independence will help, but they said half of my money has to go in the bank. I can't get my own checking account until I'm 16 so where are they going to keep my money?and when will I be able to touch it? I'm excited to get my license but I still fear I won't enjoy it cuz of them.

Question: Why does my step daughter want to go home?

Posted: 09 May 2016 11:27 AM PDT

We have had weekly visits and then every other weekend visits my step daughter for the last 2 years. She was always happy,had alot of fun and didnt want to leave when the time came. The past month when the weekly visit comes along she is excited to come over but once we do whatever "fun" thing we have planned (zoo, children museum,movies, ect) she wants to go home. I dont understand whats going on. Are we doing something wrong? Is there something we can do to help?

Question: Lost $10 and my mom will be pissed. What should I do?

Posted: 09 May 2016 10:23 AM PDT

I lost $10 bucks at the aquarium today on a field trip. She is going to be really pissed. What should I do? I was going to buy lunch with it, but now I cant. I NEED AN ANSWER NOW

Question: Should I invite my step-brother's half sister to graduation party?

Posted: 09 May 2016 10:23 AM PDT

Here's the situation: 3 years ago my mom married my stepdad. He was divorced with a kid (Joe--not his real name) who was in the Navy (and still is). Joe's mom had a daughter after she divorced my stepdad (Kelly--again not her real name). When Joe comes home on leave he usually does things with me and my sister, and brings Kelly along a lot of the time. (Like movies or an amusement park or fishing or stuff like that. He doesn't bring her over if he's just going to hang around the house.) Not that it matters but Joe already gave me $100 for graduation saying that if I was like he was, I'd need some cash going into graduation. He's stationed in Guam and can't make it to my graduation. So I asked my mom and dad what they thought about inviting Kelly. My mom said it would be up to me, and my Dad asked if I thought she'd be very comfortable at a party where she doesn't know hardly anyone. That kind of makes me think that Dad doesn't want me to bring her, but he has issues. Long story short his exwife got pregnant with Kelly while they were still married but he's not her father. Thats why they got divorced.

Question: My brother forgot to wish my mother a Happy Mother's Day yesterday, how do we make him pay for this?

Posted: 09 May 2016 10:17 AM PDT

Question: My mother flips out if I am nice to people she is mad at, how do I get her to stop doing this?

Posted: 09 May 2016 10:15 AM PDT

Question: Should I be irritated that my mother in law invited someone to my daughter s sporting event without asking us?

Posted: 09 May 2016 10:12 AM PDT

My mother in law invited my sister in law (her daughter) and her family to my daughter s game the other day. We do not have a relationship with my husband s sister. Her oldest daughter is 16 and pregnant, and we really don t think that s a good infulence on our 12 year old daughter. Family or not. There s a lot of drama on that side and so we have separated ourselves from them. We initially told my mother in law that it wasn t a good idea that they came because we didn t want them to be a distraction, which they are. And when we told our daughter they would be there, she cried because she didn t want to see them. They never make an effort to see how our kids are or what s new with us. We actually haven t seen them since December, and there s no communications between us and them. I am mad that after we expressed our concerns, they were ignored. Am I being unreasonable? Let s just say I ve been dealing with this crap since day one.

Question: What do u do when a family member stayed at your house for a year and then all of a sudden moves out and now ignores you?

Posted: 09 May 2016 10:08 AM PDT

what do u do when a family member stayed at your house for a year and then all of a sudden moves out and now ignores you? and we used to be very close. ive been feeling sad but i know there is nothing i can do about it. it was his decision to move out.

Question: My aunt got really mad at me because I bought my cousin a where's waldo book. What did I do wrong?

Posted: 09 May 2016 08:56 AM PDT

It's not because he's blind is it?

Question: How to gain empathy or sympathy?

Posted: 09 May 2016 08:45 AM PDT

Well, my brother passed away a month ago and I have yet tot feel any emotion. Everyone is still crying, and I just want them to stop and move on. It wasn't until recently that I was told it's not that they are too sensitive, it's that I am not sensitive enough. I feel bad for not feeling bad, but I am happy I am not in as much despair as they all seem to be. They look like they're being burned from the inside when they cry. Like, they keep shifting and rocking and it's disturbing, but intriguing as well. How do I boost empathy or sympathy? Please, don't say I am a sociopath or a psychopath and that there's nothing I can do about it. I want serious answers.

Question: I hate my parents , should i kill them or run away ?... PLEASE HELP?

Posted: 09 May 2016 08:37 AM PDT

my grandpa is always nagging be about life in general , nothing is ever good enough for either of my grandma or grandpa , i get A's and B's and its always a "you should get all A's" like every single quarter , i do online school , which was my choice but im going into highschool and have NO social life at all , i never get to go out! like i really hate it here. im always doing somemthing wrong and my parents really dont appreciate me when i could be doing alot of bad things but i dont .. smoking , sex , etc. im taken for granted and am talked to like **** , and when i do try to talk to my parents bout how i feel it always turns into an "your a child and im an adult"when it has nothing to do with that . im tired of living here and i have nowhere to go if i ran away . ive thought about suicide , but im too scared bc if my releigion that says im going to hell if i commit suicide . please help

Question: What can I do about my narcissistic mother?

Posted: 09 May 2016 08:30 AM PDT

I am 21 years old and I have graduated college and am going to be a registered nurse. My mom is displeased with me being a nurse cause she said she hates people and i should too. No one deserves help in her eyes. She is all the time bitching at my dad and me. My sister is 28 and stil lives at home. She gives her entire pay check to mom and she beats on me and dad when mom tells her to. I am such a sociable person. I love to be out with my friends and my boyfriend. Mom gets very mad at me seeing my friends and said it is ridiculous and uncalled for. She says I never spend any time with her and I do everyday. I am currently looking for a place to live at on my own. She said I didnt even buy her anything for mothers day and i bought her something that was $300 and took her to dinner all she done was complained. There is no winning with her. As soon as she gets out the bed she starts yelling. My dad has to leave the house to not deal with her and so do I. My bf gave her some flowers before and she nagged about it. She constantly needs to be the center of attention and everyone in the house works besides her and she does nothing all day beside make everyones life a living hell well except for my sis cause I guess she loves it and is brain washed. She is a spoiled royal ***** and I can not stand her. What can I do about this whole situation? I am desperate for help!!!

Question: My little brother....?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:59 AM PDT

My little brother is always getting things at a younger age that I did and it's really starting to annoy me! I remember when I was his age and BEGGING for an i pod, and my parents said "no, maybe when you're older." Then here he is with both an i pod and a gaming system that he sits on all day and my parents wonder why he is addicted to screens! Ugh. Is this a normal problem for older siblings or is it just my family? Whenever I talk to my parents about it they just say "Life isn't fair" (which is something my little brother enjoys chanting to me all the time). I get that, life isn't fair, but you would think that he would get the short end of the stick once in a while, right?

Question: FACT One guy can grow even without a mother and a father s feelings?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:53 AM PDT

If he is somewhat an orphan at birth??

Question: Is it my fault my mum and aunt had a fight?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:41 AM PDT

Yesterday my dad hosted a BBQ. We had family members (including distant relatives), neighbours and friends round. During the BBQ, I overheard my aunt (my mum's younger sister) flirting with my dad. Well he didn't flirt, she did all of it. He tried backing away from her, but she wouldn't let him. I told my mum everything that happened, and she and my aunt had a fight. It was a heated verbal argument at first, but it turned physical. My mum then kicked her out and told her to stay away. My aunt came over when mum was at work. When she was using the bathroom, I told dad I told mum about what she did, but my aunt overheard and blamed me for their fight. She called me a disgrace for a nephew and left in a rage. Is it my fault my mum and aunt had a fight?

Question: On Mothers Day .I didn't go to her grave I just couldn'.t Does that make me a bad person. what do u think. Should I have wen t anyway?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:32 AM PDT

Question: Is my mom ok looking.she feels plain?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:31 AM PDT

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Question: Overbearing Mother issues! Help?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:24 AM PDT

I m 20 yrs old. I got pregnant at 19, moved in with my fiance and we later got married. Of course my parents feel like my husband took me away from them. Understandable. But since I ve been married (anniversary was yesterday!) My mother in law is exactly the woman I prayed for. Someone i could get along with easily and talk to and visit. And she is! I absolutely love her as she is my own blood. She calls me her daughter, which made my mom insanely jealous! But I feel for MIL because she had a stillborn baby girl and she has 3 sons, so if she wants to call me her daughter I m bot going to complain! We live 2 hours away from both our parents, but always make sure to rotate stays with in laws and my parents. But my mom gets so annoyed when i tell her "we re staying with Matt s parents this time". She s totally okay keeping my baby for a weekend but when he stays with his nonny for the weekend she tries to tell ME not to let her take him! She acts like my mother in law hates her and doesn t want her around my son. Not true at all...so basically Mom is always playing victim. And i love my mom, I really do! But sometimes i just want to pull my hair out and she s extremely sensitive so what can I say without causing her to have a cow...?

Question: Why do my big brothers always try to protect me?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:23 AM PDT

I am a guy and the youngest in my family and no I am not some troll aND no I don't need anyone to protect me. I am getting kind of annoyed with my brothers. My older brothers are all Jocks, and all over six feet. I am the shortest and 5'4 and I am a Jock to. The reason why is that my brothers always talk about girls and who they are gonna screw next. Yet when I want to talk about girls they always change the subject and always tell me not to have sex. Also when I told my older brother who is in the Marines I wanted to have a tattoo he said not to get one. Then the oldest ones drink all the time and they never give me aNH just to try it. Why are my brothers like this?

Question: Why does my dad always expect me to be the grown up one between us two?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:09 AM PDT

Question: Help...I yelled at my mom pretty bad.?

Posted: 09 May 2016 07:04 AM PDT

She always yells at me to get up for school. I never actually hear her until she yells. I cant stand it, its every single day with it. I HAVE NEVER ONCE YELLED BACK. Until today. I yelled at her pretty bad. She slammed my door and told my brother to take my sister to school and then come back for the "***" she said maybe I should find somewhere else to live. THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I ACTUALLY SNAPPED BACK AT HER! I dont know what to do anymore. I wrote her a not apologizing for not being like my brother too. She is so pissed at me. Every morning is the same ****. I dont why I snapped back at her. I was stupid!

Question: Are my in laws trying to get close to me or not?

Posted: 09 May 2016 06:58 AM PDT

My in laws of 5 years love to tell me that they love me and are trying to "have a relationship with me". We have done nothing but fight and fuss for the past 5 years. Others that look from the outside say that they have done nothing but push us (my husband, kids, and myself) away. They have 2 teen boys who are involved in league sports, this is their focus in life and they have pushed everyone away (in our opinions) and ignored us for ballgames and practices. They have even blown us off for holidays to be with their teen boy's girlfriends family or at a sports event. I have repeatedly asked my mother in law to go shopping w/me and she always has to "ask her husband" or "take her son to practice or to a game". I feel that they have in fact never tried to get close to me and they are lying. I have been snotty to them and so has my mom, based on the above treatment + them constantly bragging about their looks and wealth. What is right?

Question: Didn't get mom anything on Mothers Day, wrong?

Posted: 09 May 2016 06:52 AM PDT

My husband and I really don't do Mothers Day- we feel its a waste of time and money. However, his mother does believe in MD and he usually gets her a little cheap plant or flowers at the store. We had an argument w/his mom recently because she lied to us about something and also blew our son off for his BD party to go to a baseball tournament for his teen brother. My husband not only didn't wish her a happy MD but he of course will not be buying her anything, either (due to our beliefs mostly). He said that since she is so obsessed with baseball and busy with that, he feels that he is too busy to wish her a happy MD. Was her wrong? What would a nearly 50 yr old mom think of this? She made no secret of what was important to her and my husband felt that he needn't bother her since she is at a baseball tournament.

Question: Are my cousins being abused?

Posted: 09 May 2016 06:41 AM PDT

All the kids in my neighborhood seem friendly, happy, and nice. But my cousins are depressed, they barely laugh, insecure,and they are aggressive. Everyone has problems. Neighbor T was in elementary school and she had issues with keeping good grades but she is always laughing. So were the other friends of my 8 year old sister. My cousins sit slouched, they are HOMESCHOOLED. Meaning that their mother teaches them as the father works. Their mother is mean. Also, my mom baked a chocolate cake for them. They ate it like they have never eaten chocolate in their lives. One is 13 yo old boy, 8 yo girl, and 3 yo girl. My sister said that in their car she heard the 3 yo old girl say "***** *****, ******* *****", and her parents didnt say to her that was inappropriate. (Which means that the parents would have said it and they dont care, which is slightly irresponsible). My cousins dont seem affectionate with their parents (which is odd because the kids in my neighborhood smiles/ seem comfortable with their parents and they say "Mommy"!). They seem afraid/ nervous around strangers. My mom said when she went to their house to give them some groceries, their house was a MESS. The son admits that his mom feeds him 7 grapes for breakfast, and he said when his younger sister wanted new clothes, his mother convinced the father "No, tomorrow she will keep demanding her husband I want this and that this and that and then her husband will divorce her. This will spoil her.". The parents are stingy. The 8 yo said "My parents dont care about money." My mom said "Yes they do care about money."

Question: How can I convince my parents to let me buy the car of my passed Grandpa?

Posted: 09 May 2016 06:31 AM PDT

My Grandpa was my closest relative and we were best friends, and he passed a few months ago and it was really heartbreaking for me. I am 15 and turning 16 next month. He drove a 1979 Mercedes Benz 280 s class with decent milage, and when he passed my uncle kinda ended up with the car because it needed work. I saw in a facebook post that he is going to sell it next month, and I am getting my license next month and have 5000 saved up for a car. This car means a lot to me because my grandpa absolutely loved it and we spent lots of time driving and listening to Beatles in that car. Just a lot of memories that I would like to keep. He was my best friend and I strive to be anything like him I know the car is old, gets about 16MPG, and is exspensive to maintain, but I truly would be more than willing to put in extra work to keep it going. I am a 4.3 GPA student/ lacrosse athlete and work mowing lawns and plan to get a job when I turn 16. I am very responsible and dedicated to my passions. I briefly asked my mom and she said no because its not practical for a 16 year old, its exspensive to maintain, and rear wheel drive. I agree with her, but sense this car is special I really would be okay withit Can anyone help give me ways to convince my mom and step dad to get this car or am I really being that irrational? I feel for my hard work and how much sentiment this car means to me I should be able to reach a compromise with the right words and ideas. Thanks for any help or input.

Question: My dad is my little brother s guardian and he s in a home that s taking advantage of him. What can I do to help him?

Posted: 09 May 2016 06:24 AM PDT

Question: How do I fix my relationship with my brother after dealing with being my narcissistic mother's scapegoat?

Posted: 09 May 2016 05:39 AM PDT

My brother does a lot of irresponsible things that upset others, especially his gf, and my dad and sister. He always finds a way that it is my fault: He told his gf that the reason he was irritable was because I was bitching at him before (we didn't have a fight at all). He has told my dad that the only reason he failed his chem class was that I told him to take it with a bad teacher because I am competitive (not true, I took it with the same teacher). A few nights ago I got a little upset after he was late to meeting me to hang out by about 3hrs, which happens all the time and I usually don't even mention it. He called me "crazy" and "wacko" and then told my dad that I was screaming at him for being 40 min late, obvious exaggeration.There are a million other examples. we grew up having my narcissistic mother use me as a scapegoat, and I think that this is partially why he does this. He has also manipulated my sister to be against me too, as she is a follower. I don't want to hear "just cut them out of your life." I don't want to. I want to fix the issues with them but I do not know how.I am frustrated because I deal with this no matter how hard I try to avoid conflict, because my brother needs someone to blame. I am ok with not fixing things with my sister right away, and maybe working on that sometime in the future. I really miss my brother though.

Question: My mom is ignorant...what should I do?

Posted: 09 May 2016 05:22 AM PDT

My mom has called me a "white girl" since I was child. Everyone originally called me that bc I have natural blonde hair & lighter skin (i'm not biracial). But then my mom took it too far. When I was a kid It really bothered her that I read too much & she would tell me to stop because the black kids would bully me but really my mom is my ONLY bully. When I was 8 she yelled at me & took my books away until I learned how to braid hair (my cousins & sister were already braiding and they were younger than me so it pissed my mom off) When I started college she was angry because I went to a University & lived on campus "like a white girl" smh. She lost it when I transferred 3000 miles away to a school in Boston. Before I left she kept telling me; "Don't date those white boys" You better not forget that you're black" Now when I visit everything I do/say results in me being called bougie or white. I spoke to her earlier today & I told her that I found an apartment in downtown Boston, I bought tickets for my siblings to visit in the summer & my friends and I are going to Canada & her reply was "Girl you wanna be white so bad" IDK which statement makes me want to be white and I'm tired of this because I KNOW I'm not trying to be white or anything. I'm just different from my family and no one is bothered except my mom. I don't know how to talk to her about this because she just yells. She's really just too much & if she can't accept me then I don't want to deal with her either.

Question: Why won't he bring his new wife around his family?

Posted: 09 May 2016 05:20 AM PDT

This does not mean I am not over my ex husband, it is just 2 former sisters in law talking. The other day, we had a birthday party for my oldest son (from my 1st marriage) he ran off when he was 1 and we divorced later on. He was seeing some girl he knew in grade school- they are now married. My son's aunt was saying (to my current husband and myself) that ever since my ex married this lady, he rarely, if ever brings her over for family functions or anything else. They said that when he does bring her over, he is very controlling of her time and my son's aunt (sister in law) has tried repeatedly to get the new wife to go to lunch or for coffee with her and my ex won't allow it. The girl knows nothing of why we divorced (he was very abusive and controlling & his family know this and she wishes to talk to her). My former sister and law and my husband would like to know why since he married his new wife over a year ago, he avoids his family like the plague? She noted to my husband that when we were married- we (he and myself and later he, myself, and our kid) over to his family's house constantly. They live much closer to his family, by the way. This lady I was talking to (my son's aunt) is my ex husband's brothers' wife. She thinks he is hiding some very important information from his new wife. And yes it is my business, there is a child involved here. Um, no. we are looking out for the girl's interests. She is married to a dangerous man.

Question: What is a Godfather and what does he do?

Posted: 09 May 2016 05:11 AM PDT

I'm reading a comic where Superman's wife is pregnant and he asked Batman to be the Godfather. What is a Godfather and does he do?

Question: Will my cousins think less of me because I don't come to as many family get togethers as they do?

Posted: 09 May 2016 04:49 AM PDT

My mother doesn't get along with her siblings and so only once a year do we go to a family event (the July 4th gathering). At Christmas and Thanksgiving we only do my Dad's side of the family. Will my cousins think less of me because of this? I am scared often that they will but it is because of my mother. I can't tell them that or I'll be insulting my mother but I don't want them to think I am bad @VITTORIO----I care

Question: How can I get over the pain my mother has caused me by being at odds with her family and so we miss out on family gatherings?

Posted: 09 May 2016 04:47 AM PDT

I feel different but I am a kid so I can't go over anyway plus when I am a grown up they might overlook me having forgotten I care. I hate holidays because of this. How do I get over this? I am 14 @Zol----It is not my grandmother that my mother is fighting with, it is my mother's siblings. @Zol----My grandparents are wonderful and we did alot with them when they were living, this is my mother's siblings. I get along fine with them also though and they are good people

Question: Help, I created an anomaly in space time continuum in our basement?

Posted: 09 May 2016 04:38 AM PDT

my mom will come home in an hour and I dont want her to find out or she will get angry and I wont get my allowance this week

Question: How to say goodbye to your family?

Posted: 09 May 2016 03:46 AM PDT

So Iast year went too overseas for few weeks visit family and i am going to leave on the dec 2015, My dad grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins live new York and I live England with my mom and step-dad and I am 20 I'm officially a adult . But I am a sensitive person . it was hard too say goodbye on the day I left I didn't want too cry but the tears come out when I left

Question: I didn't say happy morthers day. Is that bad?

Posted: 09 May 2016 03:14 AM PDT

I didn't do it because...well... looking back, my mom was always **** to me. She wasn't physically abusive or anything, but she was just always mean to me. She made me feel unloved. I had to go to my grandma for everything. I felt like I could never talk to my mom. She would always say to me, in an annoyed way "well I don't know what to tell you" and when I would fall or get physically hurt she would laugh at me and say "you'll be okay" my dad told me when I was a baby she didn't change me and my dad did all the work. My dad was more of a mother and so was my grandma. Every summer when my dad would take me to see my mom, my mom and I were always fighting. She gave me hell. Some summers, I would leave early, and go back home. The last mothers days I said happy Mother's Day, but idk I didn't mean it. This year I didn't say it because I'm sick of saying stuff I don't mean. I feel like from me she doesn't need a happy Mother's Day. My brother can say it though cause I know my bother doesn't feel the way I do.

Question: Vegan advice?

Posted: 09 May 2016 02:10 AM PDT

I am thinking of becoming vegan, but I, however, face problems. My parents are meat eaters. My father thinks the whole veganism thing is fancy bullcrap and that we are "supposed to eat meat, eating only plants is unhealthy and we should eat all kinds of food." He eats a lot of meat himself, almost everyday. My mother is no better: she sees it as a cheaper option. "That's expensive. We don't have money for that, and noone is gonna eat it anyway, so it's going to rot (even though it never does, we eat it in time.). We have a full freezer of meat, what's wrong with it? You are waisting money with buying so many fruits and vegetables." So, by this information you may notice I am SURROUNDED WITH MEAT. My parents prepare it a lot, and I find it very difficult to cut it out from my diet when it's in front of my eyes all the time. I stopped eating eggs long time ago, and I simply have no need for milk. However, meat, prepared and bought in the store, cakes and desserts, all around me.... It ain't easy. Sometimes, when I waste my "plant based supplies", I simply have nothing to eat, even though there is food in the fridge. You get what I'm saying? Has anyone had this problem? How to deal with this? I really want to become a vegan. I noticed I fell lighter and better with eating plant-based food, and it's better in global for the environment, as well as my health. But, the cravings are too strong, especially when I am really hungry and there is nothing else to eat...

Question: I hate driving but I have to learn, how to find a way to deal with it?

Posted: 09 May 2016 01:49 AM PDT

I'm almost 18 with a learners permit and I have to get my drivers license, but I just hate driving. My parents always ask me to drive and I always dread it but they still make me. It's not that I'm scared, I'm pretty calm when driving and I feel like I'm a safe driver but it's sooooo boring and my parents keep staring at every move I make, they yell at everything I do and no matter how good it am, if I make one tiny mistake they'll be like "your the worst driver". They expect me to be the most amazing driver in the whole wide world right in the beggining (which was months ago when I started learning) It's weird, growing up i always wanted to drive and waited for the day to come, now that it came, I try to avoid it. I enjoyed Driving with my driving instructor at first he was funny and cool and trusted me so much but we couldn't afford it anymore. I know I have to drive on my own so i can be independent but I just can't find the excitement, I just want to get to our destination so we could switch places. Maybe it's my parents but it's not like I could drive with anyone else they won't let me unless it's with them. They make me feel so uncomfrotable and mad when it comes to driving. Ugh what should I do?

Question: HELP! My mom is being abusive and mean to me :(?

Posted: 09 May 2016 01:34 AM PDT

So my mom has two sides - she can be loving, best mother ever (which is really rare) or she can be completely monster who yells at everybody for no reason. Once she posted really bad photo of mine on twitter. I was just pissed of because my friends would see it so I told her to delete it. She started yelling at me like "Oh idk whats wrong with this photo" "are you blind or something" etc. Second, she yells at my grandparents, my dad and my aunt for No reason! Well, at least when they are right. She is yelling non-stop to them and the problem is, that she never says sorry for it! My problem is that I am really afraid to yell back at her because she is so psycho that she will even go for kicking me out of the house.. in fact, she was not a good mother I would remember. My dream is to even move to another country and dont have any contact with her. But I am sad, because she is my mother after all! I cant spend my whole life alone. Plus, i dont want to let her abuse me untill she is alive. Can anyone help me with this? What can i say to her?

Question: My brother gets all the attention?

Posted: 09 May 2016 01:34 AM PDT

Well since I could remember my mom has always spoiled my little brother. He is 7 years old. So because of this he can act like a brat alot of the times... Let me just tell u what he does, and how my mom deals with it. • He is really small for his age, he does not eat anything healthy, and he only eats pizza, chips, cookies, chicken nuggets, mostly junk food. He doesn't even drink water or milk, only A LOT of soda. My mom doesn't really say much about it. • My mom lets him play the play station when ever he wants and so some times she'll tell him to stop playing, and he gets into this fit were he says "ugggghhh mom!!" And she just says fine because or else he'll start screaming and crying. I just don't like hime acting like that. He is also mean to me too. If I don't give him what he wants he'll cry, and he tells my mom, and she goes to his side. My question is how do I get him to stop? This has been going on for 2 or 3 years. Sorry if this sounds mean.

Question: What happens when you don't give a child enough attention?

Posted: 09 May 2016 01:31 AM PDT

i don't have kids, but i'm just wondering the consequences.

Question: Is it reasonable to be annoyed at my dad for telling my mom something that I specifically asking him not to tell her?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:52 AM PDT

I didn't want my dad to tell my mom that my bf and I moved in together, I specifically asked him not to say anything and he said he wouldn't but thought I should let her know sooner or later. Then today I called my mom for Mother's Day and she was on a rant about "now that you and Alex are LIVING together" [blah blah blah the long controlling annoying unsolicited lecture I knew was going to come with her finding this out]. I'm really annoyed at my dad for spilling the beans. Their relationship is really weird, they live together but basically never talk and always have an attitude with each other so I didn't think it would be a big deal for him to just stay quiet about this. What do you think? And yes I know it was him. I live halfway across the country from him and he's the only person who even knows my mom, that knew about this. Halfway across the country from THEM (my parents)

Question: How can I get away with smoking weed in the house at night?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:51 AM PDT

Long story short, I have been caught smoking weed by my parents more than once and they're really against it. Before I got caught I used to smoke almost every night. They pay attention to the smells around the house now and sniff pretty hard in the middle of the night to check if I smoked. Smoking at night helps to relax me and prepare me for the next day. I like to sleep with the good sensations and dreamy state of mind, it just feels really good and it bothers me that I can't do that anymore. Does anyone have any tips on how I can smoke and hide the smell from my parents? Im 18, will be moving into college campus in a few months. I know that pot is illegal and that its a drug but I do not see myself escalating to harder stuff .. I just really enjoy the high I get from smoking

Question: I'm pregnant with my cousins baby?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:48 AM PDT

I know that lots of people troll things like this but this time in deadly serious! So me and my cousin were sexting about 2 months and my auntie caught him and he got his phone confiscated and wasn't aloud to text me again. So 2 months later we visited in hastings my auntie and uncle and my cousin (called Daryl) and me and Daryl had sex (over and over again). We stayed there for a month and about a week before we left I thought I might be pregnant so went out and bought a pregnancy test, which turned out positive! I told Daryl but he just told me to keep my mouth shut about it incase anyone found out he was the father. So I'm now left pregnant with my second cousins baby who lives 500 miles away and doesn't want anything to do with it. I want to keep the baby but I will eventually have to tell them that it is my cousins baby and I'm scared that he will deny it and have nothing to do with it and that my family will be angry. I do love Daryl and want to be with him and want him to be there for me and his son/daughter but we live so far away and he told me to keep quiet. What should I do? And if he agrees to stay with me where should we live? Should he move up here? Or I down there? Thanks laren

Question: Sister in law obsessed with my baby!?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:44 AM PDT

So since I had my baby (6mts ago), my sister in law has turned into what can only be described as an ogre. She is literally Obsessed with my baby. The obsession started well before bubs was born when she created a nursery in her house! I just shrugged this off but truthfully it pissed me off :-) After bubs was born, she would just then turn up at my house unannounced walking in without knocking usually when I was resting or trying to bond with my newborn. She demands to see my baby and throws hissy fits when she can't have her own way. Yesterday, she was meant to be taking baby out for the day. I asked her where she was going and all hell broke loose. She actually said it's her niece so I have no right to ask where she's taking her! I'm her MOTHER I have EVERY right! She accused me of keeping my baby away from her family, Despite me and my partner usually going to see family every week. What more can we do? How can I make her realise we need space to develop as a family on our own?

Question: Baby at a football match?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:43 AM PDT

On Saturday I'm going with my mum dad brother and beautiful baby daughter to a football match but I've been thinking is it fair to take 7 month baby to a football match. We stand in a quiet area so it won't be loud and I'm wrapping we up so she won't be cold. The thing is is it the right environment for that age baby. But we are also staying over night at a hotel so don't want to leave my baby at home with someone else? Should I take her or is it not right?x

Question: My sister has a daughter and had a baby boy last night, what does that make me towards the baby?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:42 AM PDT

Question: My aunt and uncle had a baby, so what would that make me?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:33 AM PDT

My uncle married a woman so she is now my aunt. and they both had a baby boy. so what would the baby be to me, a cousin, a nephew?

Question: Why don't I feel a connection with my step daughter?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:32 AM PDT

I have a 6 year old stepdaughter and I've been in her life and she was 2 years old. me and her me and her dad have been married for 3 years. we have to small children together. me and her mom have not been on the best terms. we did not get along for most of the time. it wasn't a recently I called her over for a meeting and I sat down and apologize to her for my part in it. I told her I did not like the way things were between me and her and I want us to get along. I have tried to build a connection with my step daughter. I guess I feel because me and her mom didn't like each other it affected my relationship with her daughter. I know that sounds weird because they're 2 different people but I just can't help the way I felt. I didn't have that emotional attachment that I had with my kids. she comes to our house every. other weekend . I also have 2 older children that are mine they are 9 and 11. we are definitely a blended family . it also doesn't help because she's really not an affectionate child. she does not show a lot of affection I want to ask for hugs and kisses she give them to me but she has is weird look on her face. I really want to have an emotional attachment to my step daughter. what can I do

Question: How can I talk to my mom and step-dad about my step brother beating me really badly?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:31 AM PDT

I am 14 years old and my mom has been dating now my step dad for over a year now. So we recently decided to move in his house. She really loves him and so do I. But since we moved in, my step brother (19) and sister (18) have been really mean to me. They always make fun of me and make jokes about my mom marrying their dad because of money. They push me around, bully me, and make me do all the house chores. I just shut up, do what they ask me to do coz I don't want this to affect my mom's life, but then cry for hours when I am alone in my room. Today, my step sister stomped on my hands and legs with her big sandals multiple times when we were watching tv. I got really mad and I called her a b*tch and told her if she hurt me one more time, I would beat her really badly. She called my step brother and started crying that I called her names and cursed at her and threw punch at her (I didn't even touch her). My step brother pulled my hair, picked me up, and slapped me. He punched me three times and told me to apologize to her. I said she was lying, I hadn't even touched her, and I wouldn't apologize to her. He pushed me really hard against the wall and started kicking me. I started crying and apologized to both of them, then he stopped after few mins. I really want to tell my mom and my step dad about this but I know my mom will be heartbroken when she finds out that i cursed (and that too t my sister). I don't want them to get mad at me. I also fear that they will break up because of me. What should I do? How should I talk to both of them?

Question: Is spanking my step child wrong?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:31 AM PDT

I have a threee strike rule in my household. The instant something is done wrong I tell them to stop whatever it is. The second time I go into greater detail to let them know why what they are doing it's wrong and if they continue they will be sent to their room. The third time I may take something they like away. When it contours to happen and all else fails they get a spanking with my hand and punished. On one occasion I used a belt on my step daughter and gave her three pops with the belt. One time out of 3 years. My step son has had three spankings with a belt. I have never left marks on them and I explain that it shouldn't get this far and that I try to avoid it. The mother it's trying to charge me with child abuse when she uses the belt on them also and more than I have or every will.

Question: What is the difference between a step sister and a half sister?

Posted: 09 May 2016 12:30 AM PDT

I don't know whether to call my little sister my half sister or my step sister.