I'm almost 30 and I really think no one has ever loved me. Anyone I thought did just left. My husband seems to always find something wrong with me, even though I try so hard to be better. I just don't know how to be a likeable person at this point. Is there a way to change myself? I want to be good but I just don't know what to do.

I met my husband when I was 19.I got pregnant like 3months later.He told me he had a son in another state but after finding some letters from his bby mama I saw he had a daughter.I drove to his work and asked him did he have a daughter and he lied to me.he said he lied about having a son because it's too hard for him to talk about his daughter.I left him for two weeks.He begged me to come back and swore he would tell me everything.So I came back.Our pregnancy ended in a m/c.We ended up getting married four years later.I started getting suspicious and looked on his phone.His baby mama was saying things like she's always gonna love him and sending selfies to him and a lot of quotes about love.I confronted him about it and we fought about it all the time.I messaged her and she told me that he told her he wasn't with me.He denies this.I let it go for a while because he says he's with me and loves me and married me.But then messages on fb came of from someone saying why haven't you messaged me or your daughter in years.I later find tax info showing that he had two daughters with two different women. Then our fights got really bad.I wouldn't let him leave when we were fighting/arguing.I constantly checked his social media and phone logs.It got so bad to where he would beat me up.After a while we tried to work on things.Then we got pregnant and had a baby.Now we are separated because the fights continued.I've put the lies behind me now, but do you think it's even worth trying again?

I'm divorced, no kids and alone. My siblings are NOT. Somehow my life is just not as important. Why should I be at fault? I'm tired of feeling like my life doesn't matter to them at all because they are "so busy with their lives" with their kids and such. Therefore, I couldn't possibly have anything going on more important.

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Like most families nowadays (sadly) my family is pretty screwed up. My dad has a bunch of siblings and they are pretty much all divorced. One divorce in particular was extremely messy. They had two kids, and divorced about six years ago. That was also the last time I saw my one cousin. I follow him on social media and whatever but other than that, we don't talk. I want to send him a DM and just try to catch up but he also distanced himself from the family as soon as he graduated high school. We used to be really close until his parents split. Do I contact him, or let it be and if its meant to be sometime soon we will end up catching up?

I am 19 and I was dating this guy (named E let's say) for about a year before we got married About 6 months ago. Throughout our time being together, we have lived with his parents. And also throughout that time he hasn't had a job and any job he did get only lasted about a week. And it was only about three jobs he has had. I'm the only one working my *** off to pay for our bills. I've even cancelled my own phone service just to pay his expensive Verizon phone bill as well. I clean, cook and work and he doesn't really do anything. He says he is trying so hard to get a job and that he applies to them all the time but all I see him do is play video games all day and night. But he complains all the time and nitpicks at me about things that I should be doing or things I need to cook/clean. And I have talked to him about this but he either gets really angry or just shuts down like I hurt his feelings asking whether or not he has gotten a job or even applied. There has also been times where he has gotten really angry to the point where he has choked me out, and thrown me around and gave me a nasty scar on my shoulder. I just can't take this anymore. What do I even do? I just want to go live my life and be independent but I don't know if he needs me/depends on me to help pay the bills. I just really need some advice right now

MY wife and I , have joint custody .we have 2 kids. 3 and 6 years old..we are Greek american.. our families are living in Greece..my wife has a store and I also have my own business.. when we had the joint custody , I accepted to take care of my 2 kids ,3 days a week 14 hours a day.the problem is , I have to visit my mom who lives in Greece. I havent seen her for 2 years.. I am planning to stay there almost 45 days.this is my last opportunity to spend time with her.because sheis sick. my ex is forcing me to take my kids with me to Greece..I would love to do that , but I know my kids. they re so young.. I know that they re gonna start asking mom at JFK airport , let alone greece.. I know that they are gonna cry every night for their mom.. the little one is gonna ask mom everynight , I know that.. this is the only reason I am afraid to take them with me to Greece.. I asked my wife to come with me, and I offered to pay her flight ticket and all the costs etc.. she refused to come Greece.. and she started to threading me with full custody.. she said " if u go without kids , I will go court.".what am I suppose to do ? if I go Greece alone . can she get the full custody ? I offered her baby sitter ,she refused it.pls help me.

Hi all I dated C. For 4 years before he went abroad for a PhD. For 2/3 years we were long distance. Neither of us could afford making the trip. So it was all on the phone. I was worried but he kept reassuring me that I was the one and he would come back and marry me. After a while I started noticing things. We argued a lot and I eventually broke up. Turned out he had 2 significant relationships there, one of which lasted 5 years. They had baby and marriage plans. Right before their engagement they had a big fight and he broke up with her and came back to me. I got pregnant and our daughter is about to turn 3. 6 months ago, he told me he has another daughter, a 3 and a half yo with his ex. We had a big fight about it. He told me she got pregnant because he told her it was over. He asked her to get an abortion but she wouldn't. He bailed on her. She took him to paternity court and started calling his relatives and friend to tell them about the child. That's probably what made him come clean to me. Now he wants us to get married. He plans on moving back to the in a year or 2. I'm really worried this is not going to work. One side of me keeps thinking he left, dated around and realized I was the one and came back to me so this is the real deal Another part of me thinks the exact opposite that I'm his "default position". He tried to get someone better and came back to me only because it didn't work out. What Do you think ?

My wife and her older sister have what might could be described,at best, a crazy relationship. Both women have college and Masters degrees. Her older sister tells my wife what to do or at least attempts to because my wife does stand up to her. But sometimes my wife's sister says the craziest stuff, and my wife will agree with her. Or worse yet will agree with her and start saying crazy stuff to the point where they are spinning each other up to the point where both are in a frenzy about the dumbest stuff.This happens mostly when people are discussing medical issues. My wife will mention to her sister that somebody might have a cut and her sister will turn around and say well that could be diphtheria and my wife will come back with it could be foot and mouth. Now when my wife sister starts saying the really crazy stuff, my wife will back her up. How do I handle this?

I've been with my husband some 15 years. In a few weeks his only child is graduating college. Several weeks ago she informed us that she wants us to take her shopping to get a new graduation outfit. She's 2.5 hours away so my husband said that we'd drive down in a few weeks to take her to the mall. My sister asked me a few weeks ago to go with her to a hemp spoking event since it falls on 4/20. I told my husband that I would rather stay and hang out with my sister and he was fine with it. He said he'd go by himself. He then mentioned that he had asked his mother (daughter's grandmother) and his sister (daughter's favorite aunt) to go with him. Now I am thinking about going and he told me not to sweat it and to stay here with my sister. He said that if I really had to debate on taking my step-daughter shopping for a milestone event like her college graduation or going to smoke hemp with my sister then my priorities are really out of wack. He said that I don't even smoke so why would I even consider doing that over going with him. I told him I didn't get to hang out with my sister that much. Now he doesn't want me to go and said him, his mom, and his sister would be fine. Was I wrong?

My wife and I moved to a new city in April 2017. Ever since we relocated here it's been h*ll for my wife. -In April 2017 she received a job and by August the company went bankrupt. -In October 2017 we lost our home in a fire. The stress from all of this lead to my wife to leave her job. It took her a year to find a new job She found a new job in October 2018. In November 2018 her mother died from a heart attack and in December 2018 she was fired from her job. Now, 3 weeks before my wife completes her Masters Degree she finds out she won't be graduating because she did not pass her comprehensive exam. She's extremely smart! Has a 4.0 GPA, her writing has been published, she's presented her graduate work at conferences Since finding out she didn't pass she's been talking about how she can't take it anymore and don't be surprised if one day I'm not here. Now, she doesn't shower, won't eat, sleeps all day. She's now withdrew from her Masters classes since finding out she failed. She wants to move back to where we previously lived. She keeps begging me to move back. I don't know what to do. She has gone through so much but with only my income we can't afford to move back to where we previously lived. She's also thinking about just leaving me and going back to her parents in California for awhile. I'm not sure what to do. This is causing me stress which in turn is causing me to perform poorly at my job.

She is just a friend and nothing more, all we talk about is things that are going on in our lives and at work giving advice and things like. how is this any different than having lunch with a guy friend

My wife and I moved to a new city in April 2017. In October 2017 we lost our home in a fire. In December 2017 my wife left her job due to all the stress from the fire. My wife struggled to find work and was unemployed for almost a year before getting a job at the end of 2018. In November 2018 her mother passed away and in December she was fired from her job. Now, 3 weeks before my wife completes her Masters Degree she finds out she won't be graduating because she did not pass her comprehensive exam. She's extremely smart! Has a 4.0 GPA, her writing has been published, she's presented her graduate work at conferences. Since finding out she didn't pass she's been talking about how she can't take it anymore and don't be surprised if one day I'm not here. She doesn't shower, won't eat, sleeps all day. She's now withdrew from her classes since finding out she failed. She wants to move back to where we previously lived. She keeps begging me to move back. I don't know what to do. She has gone through so much but with only my income we can't afford to move back to where we previously lived. She's also thinking about just leaving me and going back to her parents in California for awhile. I'm not sure what to do. This is causing me stress which in turn is causing me to perform poorly at my job.

My boyfriend forced me to look in the mirror and pointed out flaws on my face and how 'depressing' I look. He kept saying how you looked at yourself lately? And that I do not appeal to him anymore or why would he want to be with me. He has flaws and I have never mentioned. I have been struggling with depression. However I really found it hurtful how my boyfriend went about this.