My boyfriend and I are Ukrainian and speak Russian. We love each other but he got a job as a bouncer at a gentlemans club then he got a job on the side collecting money for money lenders in Brighton Beach and Sheepshead Bay NY. I fear he's falling in with bad people. He's a devout jew as am I but he has been without food and heat before during winter and he told me he'll do whatever it takes to not do that and to keep us comfy. How can I tell him he's about to mess up his life?

I know this might sound weird to you, but am I a sheltered girl from a family that was never allowed to date and a simple talk with a boy could cause discussions with my dad. So I avoided social life and I developed extreme shyness, especially towards guys my age. Soon I should get married at the age of 25 without any kind of previous romantic experience or relationship. He is the very first person I fell in love with and I felt loved and cared for. He's so sweet with me, protective and the most handsome one for my eyes. He proposed ans I accepted but then I wanted to ask about our future together... and I asked him even private questions... like how he's going to treat me in every way (weird I know, but I had to ask). He said he won't do anything that I don't want, and that he'll always respect me. Then we talked about more private stuff (I told him if he wants to do to me the things all the boys do *fingering, hurting or other things* I dont want to accept being with him) he replied 'of course I won't do those things to you, those are vulgar things andI love you. He says these things now, but how do I know that he will keep his word? Maybe after I'll be his wife he will change and think he can do anything he want cause all wives do.