So I married my husband almost ten years ago. Now my sister in laws wedding is coming up. Not only was I not invited to look at dresses with her for her but I'm not even a bridesmaid. I thought we were close but obviously the feeling isn't mutual. Then to top it all of I didn't even know if my daughter (who is six and her only niece) would even be a flower girl). To make me even feel worse about it all she didn't ask or tell me nothing was even said to me nor my husband. I had to ask my mother in law who was her flower girl. Then she told my mother in law one day over the phone apparently to apologize to me from her. I'm not too awful happy to say the least. And I feel like if she was truly sorry she could at least txt or call me. Am I wrong to feel this way?

My future SIL & I have never really gotten along; we're polar opposites. She's very possessive/controlling of her brother & too aggressive for my taste. When we first started dating, she encouraged me to break up w. him & invited herself to our dates bc she was "feeling left out", even though we were just one week in. She's very selfish. We were together 3 years when she was getting married. I knew she wasn't going to involve me. I could feel the power trip she had w. this wedding & I honestly felt that I wasn't going to be invited, based on her vibes. She was extra secretive about it & did not want to talk about it near me at all. With that, I never asked. During that time, my fiancé insisted I go to rehearsal dinner (bc we were dating for so long) but I told him bc I wasn't in the wedding, I wasn't invited. Now that we're engaged, she expected to know every detail. We're not even close & she sent me this long facebook message about how she "totally understands if she's not included in wedding planning, etc.." In my experience, she was only nice when she wanted something. God knows how much I have been patient/understanding/kind to her despite her passive-aggressiveness, mind games, making me feel low so she can feel high... and now that we're engaged, he expects me to forget everything she's done to me bc she's going to be my SIL. I'm sorry I want to let it go bc if you've come to show me who you are in 6 years, that will be the profile I have of you in my head... He kept saying, "oh that's her personality!" Trust me, I get along w. people whom I am different from bc I respect them. I know the difference when it's someone's personality vs. a woman being petty/disrespectful towards me. Now here she is asking him about wedding plans and being part of it. It sounds petty but I hate that she can come in & give opinions bc it's her brother & he can tell her everything we're planning...please help me. I have tried so hard Also, his family is very close knit and gossipy. I am happy to share certain things I'm comfortable with but I would like to keep the rest of it private bc WHEN his family knows, I'll get a lot of unsolicited advice/guilt trips/judgement. I just want to make my decisions in peace & not have everyone know about everything when we get married

Ok. I am in my early teenage years and my cousin is getting married soon (24 years) he and his fiancée met at college and got engaged August 2018. I hardly know who any of her family is. And I feel like I deserve to know before she ruins my perfect family. It's not like I am racist at people who are wearing glasses or whatever (I also have glasses) but I feel like her family is terrible. I am muslim and her family wear short sleeves as adults (strictly forbidden) and they are also Muslim and she (the bride) and her friends and brother AND GATHERED ALL THE MEN UP FRONT and began to dance with most vulgar poses I've ever seen. At last, my whole family left the room and went outside (except my cousin the groom and my grandma and the other elders ; it's hard for older people to get out of a crowded room) . My family (especially my dads side) is strictly forbidden to a lot of things. My mom had to talk my dad into letting us even have birthday cake! Her family is skin bearing and breaking rules. On To the question. When they get married I want to wear a jeweled hair comb but don't wanna out do the bride? What should I do?