My sister is 20 and her fiancee is 25. They met when he was 23 and she was 18! She was the maid of honor in a wedding where he was the groomsman. She was still in high school! My parents and I have begged and pleaded with her to wait until she finishes college in a year and a half. This guy has a decent job and makes enough I guess. He's never been in any trouble with the law (I checked) and went into the Air Force after hs, and a year after got out, graduated from college. So he SEEMS pretty solid, except that at 23 he was going after a high school girl. She laughs about having to prove he was 18 by showing him his license when they met. But that's not funny, that's kind of sick. My parents weren't happy at first, but they seem to come around. I haven't said anything to anyone in a long time about it, because I know it's none of my business.

2 of my closest cousins are giving birth in March & April. I am so excited for them! I just got engaged last month and was always hoping they would be bridesmaids but because of the babies, I would hate to ask them. We're planning to have the wedding in September and I would hate to even bug them about it. I was thinking of just asking them with the expectation of them saying, "no", like, "I know you won't be able to do it but you'll always be special to me." I don't know. They're also living in different states and with a baby less than a year old, I'm sure it will be difficult and I don't want to add stress on them. It's really not about me - it's about the babies. Is it realistic to just accept that they won't do it and find 2 other people? Should I still give them a "honorary" bridesmaid thing instead? I was thinking of asking (one of them) her sister and see if she can do it. She's in her 40's & I don't think she would be offended if I asked her to fill in and rep for the family (as I love all of the sisters). Thoughts? Happy to hear any suggestions. Thanks I won't require much with my bridesmaids. Because they'll be out of state, I would only require them to be at the rehearsal dinner and wedding. They don't need to go to the bridal shower or bachelorette party Okay, so going into it, I thought it would be okay to ask someone 5 months post baby, however, it was my dad telling me that that it was stupid idea bc no one will watch the baby (even though it's fine with me if she brings the baby). He thinks that the attention needs to be on the baby 24/7, which is why they won't be going to the wedding. His logic & he wouldn't know. He's never given birth

My fiance's parents are pitching in a small amount but I can tell his mom wants to have control of the wedding. She's similar to my dad in which she would suggest something & if she doesn't get her way, she gets offended and guilt trips my fiance and I with, "fine, do whatever you want to do." With this wedding, I'm not going crazy nor going to fancy. I am very cost-efficient and have always found great deals and ways to save money without going too cheap or tacky. For our "save the dates" & invitations, she suggested costco. That's not a bad idea for "save the dates", however because we're having a religious ceremony and reception with more than half our guests out of time, I would have to find other vendors that allow me to have more choices in personalizing. Unfortunately, costco is limited in that. I did make a deal with a local stationary store that will have additional cards (directions, dinner reception, RSVP, etc..) that is a bit less than what Costco had. Second, she asked my fiance's anti-social cousin to go into photography to do wedding photos on the side. He's very amateur and has never done weddings before. I would rather spend a bit more than go cheap with $100 & have unpredictable pictures. My sister does have a co-worker who does wedding photography on the side & is offering us a free engagement shoot. Also, the wedding package is less than average costs & he's very good. I feel like she just wants to pick the cheapest place for a wedding, even if we don't like it. Maybe she's trying to be helpful but I just find the choices to be inconsiderate...Now, I understand why people elope. And again, that guilt trip with, "do whatever you want" when we have other ideas is just childish. As for the cousin, I am willing to hire him for rehearsal dinner. THIS is also very cost-effective. I plan on getting a very nice house near the church via Airbnb & just doing a summer bbq with the wedding party and immediate family. I was hoping to have a photographer but I think that cousin may come in handy with this.