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I went on a few dates with this guy and he seemed interested. Then he disappeared with no explanation. I had gotten out of a relationship 2 months prior to meeting him and was in a good space with my ex. We didn't hang out, we weren't even connected on social media but we had no bad feelings and were cordial to each other. The guy I had gone on the dates with knew of my ex boyfriend through mutual friends. Out of the blue nearly 7 months after this guy ghosted me and acted like I didn't exist I got a call from my ex. The call was surprising because we hadnt spoken and as I said it was a mutual breakup no bad feelings etc. He called to tell me that the guy who ghosted me contacted him on his linkedin account, which they arent even connected on and proceeded to ask him for my phone number so he could call me. My ex said he didnt appreciate being involved or having this man message him and said it was insensitive which I agree with completely. He told me to ask the guy not to contact him again and told me he never wanted to speak to me again either. I respected his decision but I had no part in the message. I contacted the guy and he literally just wanted to ask me how I had been. He was dating someone and wasn't even trying to reconcile. What would ever make him think it would be okay to contact my ex and ask him for my number, especially to just have a 5 minute phone call asking me how work was...at which time he disappeared AGAIN

My wife's birthday is in four weeks. My wife is still deciding what she wants to do for her birthday and we will do what she wants. Her control freak sister is trying to force a decision. Apparently she contacted one of my wife's friends on Facebook to "remind" her that it is my wife's birthday. Her friend, a truly nice person, texted me and offered to take us out to dinner. Also, my wife's sister offered to my wife's friend to babysit OUR kids so we can go out without telling us. I think her sister just crossed a line and I hate it. Should I say anything to my wife's sister?

My husband works from home but works about 10 plus hours a days even on weekends at times. He works from home but three days out of the week he travels about 2-3 hours max one way. On mondays and Friday's he has the kids with him while he works. He says he's at the point now where he wants to relax and that I'm too demanding and I always ask for something even more so than our kids. I'm pregnant right now about 36 weeks but even before I was pregnant I'd ask for a lot according to him. I always get mad when I see him relax or watching tv or playing videogames. He pays all the bills in the house while I pay for 3 days of daycare and my car. He cleans the house with the kids while I just wash dishes and I cook on weekends. He cooks during the week if he's not busy or tired. He's the main one who takes care of the 3 kids and our 6 dogs with another baby on the way. He says I'm demanding and that I want too much and always ask for favors and do nothing in return for him. He fixed our toilet as it was messed up and the electricity went out and he fixed it too while I sat down and watched tv and didn't help and then I asked him if he could bathe the kids and get groceries and he flipped out on me for asking for something for the kids he left and hasn't been home since I've called him and he ignores me. Am I wrong ? What do I do? He hasn't been home in two days

feelings anymore? My husband has been angry at me for every little reason and and every thing I do he yells at me and tells me I am useless. We have a baby together and we have been married for a long time, but he is very nice with me ONLY when it's in front of his family. He doesn't even help with taking care of our son, and his focus is always his mom and hanging out with his brothers and sisters over me and our son. We have been married for more than a decade and nothing seems to be getting better even no matter what I try. He has also cheated in the past but I forgave him. I gave him a son to see if he will change, but now it seems that he is only getting worse.

He has love bombed and discarded so many women. He's 39 and the longest relationship he had was for 7 months. On average he goes through about 5-6 women a year as his primary sources with dozens of other women he chats up on Facebook, at work, at the gym etc.When he was dating his primary partner he would still follow pornstars, cam girls, suicide girls, calendar girls, fitness/bikini models and bondage accounts on instagram. He was following like 3,000 accounts of women at one point when he was seeing me. He met a 22 year old girl last year and he has really broken out of his cycle He unfollowed every single account on instagram unless it was people he knew in person, he went from nearly 3000 to about 400. He stopped following new women all together. Even if a female co-worker added him he wouldn't follow her back. He took the 20 year old on a vacation to Hawaii. He bought her lavish gifts, met her friends and family. He moved in with her, cooked her dinners, bought her flowers, paid her bills. If she told him to do something he did it. He even gave his Facebook password to her. She's young and insecure so she argues with him a lot, she's broken up with him, slandered him on FB, made jokes to friends about his dick size etc. She's even kicked him out of their apartment that he pays the rent for and he always begs for her back. It's been a year and a half now and he has gone to great lengths to keep her around. Even as far as dedicating songs to her on his FB page. She has left him and he's become depressed, he quit his job, he stopped talking to people. It's as if he actually has feelings now. He even told one of our mutual friends that he will ask her to marry him and sell his car to buy her an engagement ring because he cant lose her. I was one of his victims and he ruined my life as he did to many other women. We have a lot of mutual friends in the same friend group that told me all this. Has he actually changed? He has never chased a woman before ever. Whenever someone has left him he doesn't chase her. I've known him for 12 years and never seen it happen until he met this girl.

Do I have the right to have children even when my parents may not want that ? what does religion say about this ? How can I convince my parents that it's my right to do that . I am a male

So, I thought my wife wanted a divorce and even thought she had post partum depression. She was avoiding me, pretending to be disgusted by my presence and acting strange. Even walked out in the middle of action. I decided to talk to her and we had a long conversation, turns out she's acting this way because 1. She is paranoid about my surgery next week. 2. Now she doesn't want me to get my vasectomy 3. She wants another baby. I have a daughter who is turning 5 and she is from another woman like, not my wife's, we have a baby girl together and we talked about the vasectomy and she was fine with it, now she's changing her mind. She says I keep making her mad, how?

-he has cheated while on several deployment, chatted with different girls (I know cause one time I have snooped in his phone), and he doesn't prioritize me and my son, but rather devote his time to his mom and siblings needs over me and my son. Reason I gave him a son is because I thought he would change his ways, but overtime, he has tried to talk me down and threaten me that if we were to divorce he would keep my son full custody, which I know I won't let it happen, because I am always the one taking care of our son and not him since he's in the navy and always out to sea or on long term deployments, and not only that, he will never back me up over his family. Anything I say against him and his family, especially mom or siblings, it results in a heated argument and a very bad one. On the other hand, his mom is also a manipulator who always tries to play victim to her son, and so she turns the story around to make it seem like she's the one who needs his help. They also come to our house unexpectedly, shows up at our house, and controls our house like she owns it, and even tells me what to do with my son. My husband doesn't mind it and tolerates her actions, and I swear everything his mom does, he is so blind and naive to see it. I don't know how long I will be able to last with him, I am a military spouse, and all I worry about is me and my son's future. I don't think he will ever change. Should I divorce him! Anyone been through a situation like this?

Me and my wife have been married 7 years we got 2 kids soon to be 3. We don't do it much when we first got married we did it the night after our wedding then didn't do it again for 4 years when is when our daughter was born. After she was born we stopped doing it then again when we had our son a couple years ago then waited another year or two. Now that she's pregnant again we're doing it every night. How often should we do it or is this normal ?

Interesting talk with my wife last night. After we discussed friends who are splitting up because of an affair, I said I'd forgive her for a one-night stand. She said she wasn't sure she could forgive me. (Neither of us has had one, nor plan to). Just has me wondering: Are husbands more forgiving than wives, and why? Love to hear your thoughts. Married nearly 25 and happy, thank you.

It really hurts. I feel completely broken. We've been together for about 9 years now, officially married for 4 years, and we have 2 daughters. Has this been really all a lie? I don't know what to do... I found out completely by coincidence through a camera that I left recording by mistake and she doesn't know that I have found about her affair.

my husband (normally a pretty nice guy) had seemed grumpy for a few days. Finally I addressed it after he grumped at me about something trivial. I simply pointed out i was noticing his grumpyness and he went into a fit of rage spewing verbal anger all over the room. he ended with calling me the c word. It left me speechless. I left the room. about an hour later I returned and he wanted to know if I was going to be able to pull it together and follow through with our dinner plans with friends. I looked at him and said "you called me a c". again he got angry and said it was because I questioned his mood and an inch from my face he said "and I call you it again" than he did scream the word c" in my face. that was 2 days ago. he still thinks he was in the right. we haven't spoken much because when we try to, we just get angry. basically he is saying that I made him do it to shut me up. I am not going to leave him, thats not an option, and he wouldn't ever leave here. I'm just so sad. I confided in the friends we were supposed to have dinner with about what happened. Basically he wants me to apologize to him for making him call me that. I can't do it, but eventually I probably will just to get my life back. any suggestions besides packing and leaving? The people we were supposed to have dinner with is his best friend and wife. He is not very happy with my husband. I have considered asking him to talk to my husband?

I texted her to not have baby-she hasn't got back to me, what do I do? g, this girl is getting bossy on me. telling me what to do, get a better job, I went out with her once and she got pregnant. I don't want the kid now. im sure it might be a great kid, but her isn't that great.

I was on the fence for this one. My wife really wanted another. She is excited and doesn't see the same excitement from me. I know it hurts her feelings. I want to feel excited, but I'm scared as i feel like I am barely making it now. Now adding another freaks me out. Kids now will outnumber us.

My parents are going through a horrible divorce, I rarely see them now. My partner works 9-5 5 days a week and I'm self employed at home, I moved here 2 years ago and know no one. I'm at home all the time by myself, I do everything for my partner, make him dinners, lunches for work, clothes, tidy up after him, surprise him with the odd gifts, love and affection always. I've tried talking to him but he says what I want to hear but doesn't do anything to show me. I wanted to be surprised or at least treated to some one on one either a meal or walking the dog somewhere nice, but I just don't get any appreciation, he just comes home, dinner made, and that's that. I know he treated his exes but he doesn't do it for me even though he says I'm the one and gives me the compliments but it's the actions I want, I'm so lonely and I can't do anything, I have no family now and no one I can rely on to help, I don't know what to do, I know I have depression but I can't change my life. I'm really stuck. I work hard at home but I am losing my motivation, we was looking for a house together but I've found the perfect houses which suit us, but always ends with him leading me on saying yes yes but when it comes to it, he's lost interest.. I don't have any money for myself, as he says what I can and can't spend. I was the one who found the ring and he went along with it, and the proposal was us having pre drinks at my uncles house, and he just handed it over on the couch.. i feel so worthless now

Already have 2 kids so I'm not sure why I'm freaking out now. I keep getting the saying oh you will need a new house and vehicle. We can make it work in this house, but kids will have to share a room for now. All of this additional pressure. Just knowing I am responsible for the well being. I'm always worried about what if my child gets really sick or if my company closes down. I know I shouldn't think like this as it's making me upset. I just can't control it even tho I try to stay positive. Is this normal? Any advice? Thx all

My ex fiancé is married but we remained a destined kinda friends. I never see him but he invited me to his place to have a play station evening with him. Should i go? ( just so you know he told me many times that he still loves me and regret his marriage, and want to be with me more than friends but i kept on refusing on being a home wrecker, but the gaming night has nothing to do with it just to play the new resident evil 2 remake as he told me and I was talking about it with him as I am a big fan when he suggested me coming over to his place to play ) What do you think?

I am depressed and anxious, and he has admitted he does not know how or want to deal with it or my emotions. I am seeking medical and counseling help. But I feel very alone at home. I am catholic, and have two young girls, so I really want to avoid divorce at all costs.

My husband & I have been together for almost 11 years & married for 8. I love my husband very much but the problem is I want a child & he does not. I made it clear when we started getting serious that I wanted children. He said he never thought about having children before but he didn't see why he wouldn't love being a father. As time rolled on his brother became a dad with a woman he doesn't love. His brother still married the woman as he felt it was only right. Needless to say his brother is 3 kids in & unhappy. He complains to my husband & says not to have kids. So now of course my husband does not want kids. He says everything possible including financial reasons, our home isn't good enough for a child, he's not ready etc. I'm in my mid 30s & he's in his late 30s. See we would need to adopt since we can't have kids on our own due to my health issues. Adoption is a long process & I understand it can't take years. Some points are valid but other points are ridiculous. I'm at the point I'm so heartbroken & don't know what to do. I've thought about leaving & finding a man who wants to have children but another part of me stays because I love my husband very much. Our marriage is great otherwise just the children issue. What do you all think is the best route?

My ex hubby is retiring at age 62 this coming April, 2019. We live in New York. We were married for 16 years and got divorced in 1997. He remarried for about 3 years but he got divorced from the second marriage. I never remarried. I still work and will not retire until my full retirement age which is 66 and 8 months. I do know which union he is in and do remember his SS#. How do I go about getting part of his pension?

I had a breakup I wanted to quit my job so my partner broke up with me but honestly it was for the best because I now got a job I like and less stress Better work environment I was at the job when I told them I wanted to quit but I also told them that I would get a different job but they didn't want to have faith in me and believe me... if it were me I'd at least ask my spouse why they want to quit or talk to them about it instead of just leaving to me that was lousy especially since the job would have destroyed my relationship anyway they would have left me anyway because of the high stress from the job but to me it's super immature to just get mad about it and want to leave instead of being understanding with your partner I even told them I'd talk about it when I got back they said ok then quickly changed their mind about it and just wanted to leave

I was talking to my friend online and he dared me to put my foot in there and film it but I couldn't get my foot out and I tried flushing but it stayed stuck and the toilet started flooding. It's a small bathroom and it's in our basement, the water won't stop flowing and there's already like 6 inches of water on the floor. My dad's at the bar so he won't be home for a few hours, he's not picking up his phone either, the room's filling up really fast and I'm terrified that I'm gonna drown! Please help!

My cousin sent me three files of work to translate. It is needed for his work. I know this is family and it would be nucevto help but it i really do not want to do this

So I've been with my fiancé a relatively short period of time. Her family loves me. And we've had highs and lows. Her aunt (her father's sister) and I especially have fun together drinking and playing pool. Although the family is a kissing on the lips type I feel it's different as no one kisses people who aren't blood relative But "Wanda" has kissed me on the lips on three different occasions and sure it was a 2 second kiss at most and we were drunk every time but she never does it around my fiancée or her husband and that's the part that's weird. Am I thinking too deep?