My boyfriend and I are Ukrainian and speak Russian. We love each other but he got a job as a bouncer at a gentlemans club then he got a job on the side collecting money for money lenders in Brighton Beach and Sheepshead Bay NY. I fear he's falling in with bad people. He's a devout jew as am I but he has been without food and heat before during winter and he told me he'll do whatever it takes to not do that and to keep us comfy. How can I tell him he's about to mess up his life?

I m planning a destination wedding, I have an appointment with a travel agent for a wedding next year. Possibly Belize, Mexico,The Bahamas or Jamaica. I understand that many won t be able to go due to the cost and will have a big party a few months later to invite everyone else. With the cost of coming to the wedding is it rude to not have anyone stand up? I know dresses are expensive and everything else that comes with it.