My mom is a retired nurse. She gets SS and a pension. Her mother is wealthy and she buys things off the internet or tv infomercials and never has money for bills or necessities. She thinks that because my husband works he should support her (she was never married and adopted me). We give her money and she wont pay us back, then cites when she supported me when i was a child as reasons why I "owe her"- she is off eating lunch with her sociopath friend Barbara. Barbara is one of the rudest people ever and has a sham marriage for financial purposes. Am I really responsible for supporting my mom in exchange for her supporting me as a child? Is this how this works? She chose to adopt me from the foster system. Nobody MADE her to do it.

When I was 19 I went to New Zealand while working in Fiji with the peace corps. I met a guy there. He was from Wellington but he stated he would be moving to Australia to work in fly out job in Queensland. We decided we would just have fun but once we both left New Zealand there would be no stress to maintain a relationship. It was stupid but I had unprotected sex with him a few of the many many times we had sex. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later. He was the only guy I had been with within that year so I knew it was his. I emailed him and he never emailed me back. I didnt tell him I was pregnant I just wanted to talk. I had my daughter and raised her. SHe is now 14 and she wants to know her dad. I knew his name so I did a quick search of him and found him on facebook pretty quickly. He lives in Australia still but is now married and has two kids. I asked to be his friend on facebook he accepted it and even said hello and asked how I was doing. I havent answered him back. But now I am not even sure I should say anything. I have thinking of just telling my daughter I couldn't find him. My daughter has a step dad that has raised and loves her. He has his own family. Why stir the pot? Am I wrong that this may be better for all parties?

So I got home and I went in my room to masturbate and my mom saw me and then she walked out of the room. My mom already knows i do this and now that she saw me I feel super embarrassed and scared. How am I gonna talk to my mom. I'm a 14 yr dude btw

I'm a 17 yr old male and I need to ask my mom to do pretty much anything. But my hair is getting pretty long and I like my hair short. One time I had a coupon for a free haircut and she still said no! I rly want a haircut but she never lets me have one. It's been 3 months since my last haircut. Plz help.

to hang out with his friends? He hanged out with me until mid night until 12 on new years eve then he was with his friends. His friends made a plan to go out and he agreed and also invited me. I said i wanted to see him alone but he said he only sees his friends mainly due to December.

I am almost 23 years old... I have two more years to finish my bachelors degree... if I depend only on my A.A degree i will make only 14 dollars and hour.. I don't do anything to my parents, I tell them I appreciate what they do for me, I save my money.. I have at least a18,000 dollars in my savings account and I took a semester off to take care of my mom after she had gotten a major surgery where they removed her uterus.. everyone was giving me was up my butt threatening me if I didn't take care of my mom while I was working and going to school they would come after me.. worst mistake I made.. I should have ignored my mom and just studied because now I'm at that point my parents don't want me to live with them anymore because I'm 23.. you know what I don't even understand?! My mom is almost 50, she is living with my grandma and my grandma has not kicked my mom out of the house.. because she is "50" I'm going to school this semester and visiting the career service to help build my resume so I can prepare to work for a corporation once I graduate, I'm a good student I have a 3.9 GPA.. I just am tired of my father telling me I'm not going to make it with an accounting degree, and my mom's boyfriend talking for my mom.. I have called her on her phone and her boyfriend answers it for her, she never calls me back.. it's so hard to be an adult, most of you have a lot of wisdom, as adult how should I handle this the right way? How would you handle it as an adult?

My family and I recently moved to the country side. I work from home and need a good internet connection. Since we live in the middle of no where, the connection isn't good. At all. Can I legally move into my uncle's house? He has a full basement where I can work and I know I get good internet there.

Hello! I am a 23 year old female who works part time and I am in online college I do every week day morning. I have an unusual question. I still live with my parents due to needing to go to college and wanting to catch up on prior bills. My question to you guys: Is it controlling for my parents to still, at my age of 23, limit the internet hours? My parents limit the internet to go off at 10pm every week day. They claim it's because I am "addicted" to online gaming even though currently I do not play more then a couple hours a day on games. I usually watch YouTube videos or movies. I have gone several days without even getting on my laptop before so I do not believe I am "Addicted" to gaming. Also, once I finish with school I will be moving out as soon as I can from their house. Furthermore, the main question is this a form of them trying to control me?

okay i have a 1st cousin once removed who is the same age as me except were 3 or 4 months apart my birthday is in may and her birthday is in august and she is my dads 1st cousin which makes her my 1st cousin once removed her parents are of course my great aunt and uncle and my late grandpa was her uncle but this past thanksgiving i made her uncomfortable by following her around a bit and i now feel bad so i want to her if i can someday give her a flower with a note and possibly a stuffed dog to show her how sorry i am for my actions and so i can make amends with her so she'll forgive me but not in a romantic way

It happened once, was never repeated and no predatory behavior has happened since. She lived with us for many years after the events and he claimed he did this to aide her getting her nursing degree in which she did achieve. I just dont know what to do.

We were on the verge of a nasty breakup before she passed. Now I just want to be there for him but it's so hard when we still can't stand each other half the time and argue. How?

I'm planning to go on a road trip with my childhood friends this summer, one being a lost interest of mine and vice versa. I'm 25 now and I am becoming conscious of it. I'm 5 years from age 30 and still my mother doesn't want me to go on this road trip. She's so protective that if I were to go out without her knowing where or why, she'd keep calling me. I don't want this. I will go on this road trip, not only because I'll be around good people, but also because I believe it'll be a life changing experience for me. I'd learn to better myself if I am not with family. When the time comes, do I have to tell my family? Or do I just go? Legally I am able to. Even if it'll worry my mother. The family is also full of demanding people which I don't want to deal with.

My Dad is bipolar. I'm 25 now for reference. He used to hit me, pull my hair, and bang me into walls. He would steal my money or demand I give it to him. He did odd jobs. He didn't make a real living, so we lived in my Grandmas house. He thinks he was better than most Dad's because he stuck around. A lot of people stick around though. He thinks he did a good job, even though I'm haunted by violent memories.

if he was so bad and abusive, why did she leave me with him and take my other younger siblings. My Dad went crazy that night and was crying and crying and I had to comfort him. he stuck up photocopys of parenting books all over our house. Does my Mum not care about me if my Dad was so bad?

I found out about a volunteer-trip thing through school to Tanzania, and I really wanted to go. When I told mum about it, she said "you have to go, you couldn't miss an opportunity like this!", and I already wanted to go so she encouraged me to sign up. However, we were only given a week's notice before the deadline and we were supposed to fundraise just over £400 for the deposit, so I paid it out of my own money and said I would fundraise that money soon after so I wasn't out any money or anything (we're not very well off, but I know that £400 is a lot to most people anyway). Mum said she's help me fundraise, so we firstly made a list of companies who we could ask for sponsorship. Mum was advised to ring the companies on my behalf first of all, then arrange for me to speak to them, and she agreed to do this. I had asked her different times since then if she had made any calls and she said no. Eventually four months had passed and she still hadn't made any calls, and she then said to me "I'm not making those calls for you. You're going, not me so I'm not doing the fundraising for you. Get your auntie to do it for you if you're so desperate". So I had waited four months and nothing was done. A week or so later, in another argument she told me that I wasn't going on the trip anymore. So not only am I annoyed that I'm out over £400 over her, but I'm annoyed that I can't even go now because it was something I was passionate about and really wanted to do. What should I do??

My brother and I bought a house with our trust fund a little over a year ago, and have been living in it ever since. My brother has anger issues, and it's making me miserable. I try my best to avoid him, because her loses it at every little thing. Not so much at me, but I'm just sick of listening to his hussy fits, when we try to work around the house together, one little thing goes wrong and he starts screaming, and talking about how he hates the world, and everyone in it, and how he wants to blow his head off. I'm so sick of it that I feel like breaking his teeth when her has one of his fits. He knows I hate his attitude, and he doesnt seem to care. I dread coming home because of him. I'd rather stay at work than go home most nights, and I hate my job. My sister is moving up to my moms, and they are both talking about fixing it up, and selling it. I wouldnt be getting any of the money. But I cant take my current living arrangements much longer. If i moved to my moms, than my brother would have to buy me out, so then I could never move back in if I wanted to. The reason I am hesitant to move to my moms is because I dont want to move up there, and than they decide to sell the house, and I'll have no where to go. It's near impossible for me to get an apartment here, seeing as I have a pit bull. I feel trapped.

My mom and I bump heads a lot she is so old school and has her old school beliefs, I'm totally the opposite I dont believe women's goal is to get married and have kids or we should be married by a certiain age she makes jokes about how i am 26 and still not married with children, and I'm like okay?.... how is that funny at least I'm enjoying my life! If I don't shave my legs she's like that's not ladylike. I do admit I'm a little free spirited she just doesn't get me we bump heads cause we have different beliefs, I don't believe women belong in the kitchen either this is NOT the 1950s. We disagree about everything we even got into a debate tonight about whether pitbulls are aggressive she keeps saying pitbulls are horrible dogs and I keep telling her she's being very discriminating towards pitbulls not all pitbulls are aggressive and it's the media that portrays that, she went as far as saying wait till one attacks you! Seriously how do I get along with an ignorant mother I love her she's a good mom but my god we just never see eye to eye!

For over two years I was depressed and felt like I hit rock bottom. I was working at dead-end jobs that I hated and gave me no respect for how hard I really worked and lived in my parents basement. Far from able to get my own house. Recently I decided to make a change and quit my job to work for myself full time and move into a house with two of my friends. I know it's risky and going to be a hard battle but it's a battle I'm willing to fight. I also believe in my abilities and my work ethic to be successful. I started ubering again to pay for rent and other expenses so I do still have money coming in. The only real problem I'm having is telling my parents. When I told them I was moving out, they didn't like it but they supported it because they knew it would make me happy. But once they hear that I quit my job I know that they will be extremely furious with me and even though I'm willing to struggle they won't support my decision. I only just moved out a couple of days ago and feel guilty about dropping another bomb. But I hate lying to them and know it won't be long till they figure it out anyway. I know the best thing to do is to sit them down and tell them; but I'm just not sure how. I'm not afraid of their wrath but I am afraid of upsetting them. Especially after they took me moving out so surprisingly well... This is my last hurdle but I can't help but feel lost on how to jump it.

I'm 15 and my mom and I were like partners for everything. My dad is/was not in my life so I basically looked up to her for everything. Right now, the situation we are in is bitter sweet because we've been living in a small row home better than the neighborhood we lived in for most of our lives which was a ghetto(but not as horrible as people think)but she's suffering over it. About 3 years ago my mom was let go from her job as a waitress so she was looking for a new job and met the owner of a restaurant and got engaged. He ended up lying about a lot which we won't get into and they split leaving us living back at my grandmoms Where we use to live. My mom rushed into renting this home and now lives with me and her new boyfriend. However my mom has an unknown brain condition which doctors are assuming is dementia or Alzheimer's. She is also stuck with a job she despises and doesn't even pay that much. She also seems unhappy with the boyfriend she has now but I believe she is afraid of leaving him since he pays part of the rent. I want to talk to her about moving back to my grand moms but I already know she will refuse, she's very stubborn and doesn't like dependency but she's killing herself to keep the life we have now. She's constantly sick and constantly working to rent this house that I don't even want to live in, id rather be back where we use to live which was just about my whole life. Can someone please help, which is the best way to go about this?

I mean I just hate it when she tells people that I don't really know how to cook or clean or all this bs. I mean what is up with that? I have different beliefs and she just refuses to accept anything I say. Is very dismissive and is always asking me where her things are. May I add that my stuff has even gone missing. Why is she so mean to me when all I have ever tried doing was in her best interest. She doesn't even want to dump her abusive boyfriend. Its her hell versus my life everyday literally and it is driving everyone insane. She pushes other family members around and doesn't let them become independent. Always tries to do things her way and everyone is so fed up with her. Its like no matter how great her life is sometimes she cannot help but frown on everyone else's. I even have to keep my kid from going with her to family reunions. The worst part is she doesn't even bother to explain to them why we don't worship holidays.

I'm 16 this year and am moving to a new school. I pretty much had no friends at my old school (was in the "popular" group but kind of distanced myself as didn't feel like I fit in). Anyway I know that all parties in my town now for my age group have alcohol at them. It's just the way it is. I know that at my new schools, their parties have alcohol at them and I really want to go to them 1. because I've never really been allowed to go to parties and 2. because I've never really wanted to go to them before but I'm excited to make new friends. Anyway I've talked to my parents and I was just honest with them and told them about how there's alcohol. They said they're not going to let me go to any. For the whole year! I've never really had a social life especially at my old school where I didn't have many friends but I felt like this new school would be a great chance to meet people and be more confident. But now I feel that's not going to happen!!! I promised my parents I wouldn't drink, I know some people who don't but they still won't let me go. They said they're not worried about me getting drunk but about other people (boys) getting drunk and doing bad stuff. I think they're worried about sex, drugs and even rape. Sure these people drink but they're not bad people. They're teenagers and that's just what teenagers are like. Am I right? And if I am, what can I say to my parents that will convince them? I'd love to hear your opinions. Thanks :) Just quickly wanna say that I live in Australia and it's not illegal for 16-18 year olds to drink alcohol if the parents have bought it and are allowing it and are there.

My dad is amazing but he can be a little off at times. Sometimes he comes home smelling like whiskey and is on edge the whole time. The stupidest things set him off for no reason. If you were to ask him what s on tv he would get mad and throw the remote at your head. He is 6 3 and very buff so when he gets aggressive, it s hard to make it stop. He always runs after me or my siblings with a leather belt or a broken piece of glass threatening to spank us with it when we do wrong. I have cuts, bruises, and scars from the many places glass would get lodged in my skin. My mom is always at work and I don t think she knows he does this. Whenever she s home, he acts like a saint but if she steps out he s back to beating us. How do I get this to stop????

my father went bald in his 20s and im 18 now so im thinking about it a lot now. My father got his baldness from his mothers father. My dads father still has hair. My dad also has 3 brothers including him only one of them is bald, and my mother side has no-one who is bald. I have 3 brothers as well one of them being 25 and seem to be doing fine which makes me feel a little safer, but my hair texture is similar to my dads more than my moms. What are my chances?

I am 13 year old girl and my mom and I fight so much to the point where I feel like running away from home. She always thinks she's right and starts an arguements for the dumbest reasons (such as not folding the laundry quickly). She always says that I'm a terrible daughter and I'm a good for nothing and how I hurt her feelings. She always criticizes me and compares me to my cousins. When I try to explain myself and how I feel she never listens and just screams at me instead. Honestly I'm sick and tired of this constant fighting and want it to stop. Update 1: I've tried not talking or saying anything when she screams before, but then she starts to scream and yell even more, she'll even blame me for things I DIDN'T DO. When cousins are over and suppose I forget to do something she told me to do, SHE WILL FLIP OUT. It's embarrassing getting yelled at in front of everyone and she just doesn't care. One second she'll be joking with me and the next she'll be lecturing me. Update 2: I understand that my mom is trying to make me a responsible adult but does she really have to make a big deal out of nothing? I was sick today but instead she sent me outside in the cold to carry groceries? I love my mom but she always mentions that I never do anything around the house when I always do my chores but when I rest for a second she'll jump the gun. I try to avoid her by staying in my room but unfortunately has a problem with that too? She's never satisfied with me.

My dad had sex with my mom even if he was still married to his wife and had 3 kids. I lived just 1 stoplight away from him. Never visited me. Never called me. Eight birthdays without him. I never met him until I was 8. And when I did meet him, it was a DNA testing clinic because he denied he was my father. And when I did see him after that, it was only on my birthday. And the only time I saw him. he never asked anything about me. The only thing he talked about was his current girlfriend and youngest daughter with her, even if he still legally married to his wife.

She failed cause she enabled him and made him this monster (though are father was the ultimate enabler as he blames our Mom for all of it) but she still feels sad about it. How do I make her feel better?

I hate him so much that I cannot contain it. I overflow with hatred for him like the Niagara Falls does with water. I hate him more then the Allies in World War II hated Hitler. My hate for my Dad is as strong and mighty as 200 miles of steel. All I do is think about my hate for him. All my waking hours are spent on wanting the world to see how much I hate him. I have lost friends over it. I will hate him for all of eternity for he is the axis of all evil in the world. What do I do with all this hatred towards him?

For example I found in the archives out of my grandparents house revelation that an uncle is adopted. No idea if he knows though I see him a couple times a year and neither he nor his kids have revealed it. My grandmother saved everything and the adoption papers, description of unnamed birth-mother, and letter of my grandmother's struggle with infertility (she later got pregnant with her other four kids). No evidence shows other kids adopted. I found my aunt's suicide note (she failed in the attempt). Details of what would now be called an anxiety disorder that she had. She died of cancer last year. I found a letter of my grandmother venting about her mother in law to her own mother. Pretty funny but it criticizes the grandmother of my Mom and her siblings. I found my mother's marriage and divorce records and while I knew she was divorced, it was only discovered via ancestry.com and my mother only discussed it once (when I showed her what was on ancestry). She was not mad but had I looked it up on purpose she would have been (I saw it by accident looking up my parents record). I found numerous letters of my grandmother discussing her brother's drinking (he was an alcoholic). Finally, there was money (though old currency). So what do I do with these things and I save them for future archivists in the family or trash the gossipy or private stuff? Do I tell the uncle "your adopted" or keep that secret to myself? What do I do with suicide note? Please advise

No fight or anything, he just does not wish to be in the family. While he is obviously still related, is he no longer true family and does this mean he is estranged even though we had no fight? He is 27 and I am 35. Most the family and I live around New England and this brother lives in Phoenix. He was a horrible teenager doing everything from rampant drug use to grand larceny. However, after 2 years in jail he has gotten his act together our parents say. They still see him, I have only seen him twice since his release three years ago.

My Dad is an alcoholic and was drunk all through the holiday like every year. My mother blamed us kids (teens and early 20's) for his drinking and did not say anything to him. My sister has explosive rage and she broke stuff and when my aunt was over she just insulted us the whole time for making her brother, our Dad, an alcoholic. Meanwhile my Mom's family came Christmas Eve, those she speaks to, and they are as dysfunctional as Cain and Abel. She even allowed her brother who gives her money, my uncle, to come over even though he raped me 17 years ago. Her argument is he served his time and I am just being bitter. Lastly, my 16 year old brother was missing from December 21st until New Years Eve and so that added to the tension. He was found by police at a drug house and is in a state treatment center as of this morning and charged with grand larceny. I am 20 and while I could leave I would have no where to go. How do I handle being in a dysfunctional family and the pain of being unloved by them? Family is supposed to be forever and I feel no love for mine. Most hurtful was having the pedophile uncle over and how I am blamed for my Dad's alcoholism and blamed for not being over the rape.

The family trembled in terror around her at Christmas. She was pleasant because it advanced her agenda for herself and all went well for Christmas. However, she will likely bring terror at times in 2019. Serene E -- Yes she does, all of us she does.

I feel it is energy.

I am 19 years old and I go to college full time and I work part time . They say I'm gone all day because I go to work then go to my boyfriends. For example I go into work at 6am-12pm and I go to my boyfriends after I'm there for 2 hours and they start asking me what time time are coming home because you've have been gone all day . I was at work first and I i don't want to be home . My mom tells me you need to come home because you haven't been home . I then go I was at work like ??? And even then I don't come home late the latest I'm home is 9:30pm. I ask her why she wants me home if we don't do anything every one is in their room watching tv . Like there is no point in being home . And when I say we go somewhere like the movies she texts me every 5 minutes . I tell her the time the movie Is and how long it is and if we want to eat after they say why ! I don't know what to do anymore I feel like I don't have any space I am not asking for much ?

My ex was a weird man. He believed in the spaghetti monster . Would say he is not human. He is 24 years old. I looked him up on white pages . No results and I would just Type his name in google . No results of anything of him. When you look up my name everything pops up!!! I am 22 younger than him! When you look me up on whitepages my address pops up. I know his full name from drivers license. His sister the same she's 28. She doesn't show up anywhere online. They both have facebooks under fake names since they are wrestlers . But their parents when look them up show up. And their life events it never even shows they gave birth to them . But when you look my mom up on sites it tells when she gave birth to me Why are they untraceable like try never existed!