I love my 10 year old daughter. She is such a beauty and cutie but never understands me. My wife cheated on me and it just made me impossible to live with her. Who would want to continue living with a cheat. I filed for divorce and was granted joint custody of the child. My daughter hates me to the core for divorcing her mother and I do not think forcing her to come with me is a good thing. I've pleaded to her saying that it was her mom who cheated on me. My ex has probably infected her heart by saying untrue things about me. She always supports her mom given that her mom is the cause for all this disaster. I do not like to force anyone. My ex now lives with her new boyfriend. My friends say that I should leave the city/country in order to alleviate the depression. I have got a good job offer abroad and have to make a decision in a couple of days. Should I go away given that my daughter considers me dead.

If not happily married, what do you think you and your spouse doing wrong? And are you planning to stick it out until and if things get better, or are you immediately getting a divorce? First 20 responses only please.

I've read that involves benefits, protections, exemptions, and responsibilities, but is that universal? What about in other places or time periods-like the bible, middle ages, native americans?

So I was sleeping with a married woman. I know it was wrong. The reason I did it was because my life is boring. It's really boring. I needed excitement, risk, adventure. We almost had an affair for a year. Sadly, we were caught in the middle of the action. The couples went through a divorce and we kept seeing each other. The problem is that sex isn't as fun as it used to be. Sex is still awesome but I just wish there were huge risks but now we can just have sex without worrying if we get caught. I don't know if what I am going through is just a phase after an affair.

I am strictly monogamous and can't see myself loving anyone else the way I love my husband. Why would he want to do that? Honestly, I'm hurt that he'd ask me that.

So where do i begin...So me and my wife has been married for 6 and a half years. We met online about 9 years ago and talked for about nearly a year before meeting. I flew to Tennessee and met her and we stayed in a hotel. Fast forward to a couple months later things got serious and i moved to tennessee to be with her because i did not want her to have to leave her family. She has always been very tied to her family and since the majority of my family has parished or is no longer in contact i gave up mine for her since she still has her bothers, mother etc here. We lived together for a couple years before we got married. We got our first place together which turned out to be smaller then we liked so we got another place which was nice about 2 years later. Her mom came under serious struggle with paying her bills and was living with a jerk who bought her a car and when she wouldnt do what he told her to do he would threaten to take the car back. He destroyed her mail box with a metal pipe, cut the tires on her lawnmower etc so to help her and because my mother past away when i was 16 i thought it would be a good idea for my wife to see her mother more so i agreed to move in with her mother, pay her mother rent which would pay the rent on the house so she could finish her schooling and eventually get out of the debt situation shes in and not have to rely on a guy like that. Wife said it would be 3 months max so i was ok with that and her mother stated she didn't want this to be a problem in our marriage and at the time i thought well....its only 3 months, our marriage is stronger then that!!!! Fast forward and now we are at year 2.5 here :( . So to the problem i need help with...I feel so alone in this marriage its not funny. The wife is not affectionate and i've told her this the last couple years and she states she knows shes not and she'll work on it but it never changes. Because of the 13-14 hour work days 5 days straight for 5 months and no affectionate unless i make her do it cause she thinks im upset at her i got suspicious so i checked her phone and found a text message from one of her teachers saying "are you back yet" with her replying "no, i left my car at school lol" . (i just bought her a new 2013 car) So i asked her if she had ever left her car at school and left and she said no....wait yes one time to go to the christmas party and she road with this person but the person she mentioned is the person who texted her which is the odd part. She's seems to be protective of her phone and everything i do to it (im in the IT tech world as a operations manager so i know my way around technology) She also has not been wearing her wedding ring. She lost the old one and never had it on so for her birthday i bought her a temporary replacement and she said she didn't want to wear it until she loses weight (i wear mine every day). I confronted her about the long hours, the lack of affection, that im the one who has to initiate everything (for example right now while typing this shes down stairs baking while i would like to spend time with her im so tired of having to ask) and her statement was she knows and its cause she gets wrapped up in work and she will try and balance it out. I wanted to spend christmas with her and me. I was ok with her spending a couple hours with the family but she spent all day with them from 10 AM in the morning until that night she got scared cause i was gone and said she was going to call 911 if i didn't answer my phone (i said screw trying to get her attention i would go to the movies so went and saw rogue one on christmas by my self) New years we got a hotel and i bought some drinks and i thought well maybe, maybe if i get some drinks to relax us, have some fun playing some games all night, snuggle in bed it'll kind of rekick her affection towards me and the next day came around, i said we should stay another night as i wanted it to keep going as it was awesome and she stated she we didn't have the money for another night. So the next day we go out to eat and she wanted mexican On the way back i said wow we could of put a little more money with that and stayed at the hotel instead and she through a fit and said don't say that. So i asked her if she didn't want to stay in the hotel because we didn't have money or because she didn't want to and she stated she didn't want to which was why. So yahoo answers.....im at a loss. Im 32 years old with sex drive of 2 to 4 times a day need. I miss the touch of my wifes skin, the feel of her back against me, the feel of her soft lips and the smell of her hair. I miss her laugh etc but im so tired of having to ask to see these things. I don't feel like some one is in love with me, i feel honestly like a door matt who's only here when some one wants me or needs something from me. I miss my own home and my affectionate carring wife. I keep bring up when will we be able to move and the wife can't give me a date. she keeps repeating her mom is going through all these things and still going to school etc and is not ready. I'm at a loss, on one hand i want to be faithful and on another i want a divorce because i want to find some one who loves me as much as i love them or atleast close to it....i feel like my wife says she loves me but there just words. If i want to feel her, see her i have to go down stairs to see her, if i want her in bed i had to go down and straight out ask as kissing her kneck, rubbing her shoulders, being extremely affectionate towards her is not enough. Am i going crazy? Am i wrong to feel this way? What do you think i need and please be honest. I want to save my marriage if possible but i don't feel talking is going to solve it any longer as i don't think she gets it no matter how many times out of probably 10 i've tried to tell her or show her. One side of me says come March if it hasent changed i need to just let her know i'm done and get a place and move out, the other side wants to stay because i love her....btw sorry this is so long but i want to make sure you have the back story. Thanks RP. I guess my question straight forward is, after 6 years + of marriage, no affection, suspicious things the wifes doing, feeling like i'm alone no matter how many times i try to make my marriage work, should i just end it. It seems like no matter how many times i try and "talk through" the problem it just never changes although the wife says it will. I honestly don't see any other direction. Even more easier question :D - --Should i end my marriage since i don't feel theres any hope in my wife becoming affectionate, being honest or wanting to spend time with me? --Am i crazy for needing her to spend time with me??? --Would you go through all this for your wife to be like this?? (btw she just asked me i wanted to watch a movie....its 10:36 PM here....i said yes of course but lol we've been home all day or atleast i have.....i guess thats something...)

We both ran into a family friend who is 25 and that we have both known for years and haven't seen for awhile, the young lady was telling us about her new job and apartment and I guess I was talking loudly so my wife approached me in front of the young women and told me to shut up because I was too loud and that I need to go finish shopping for groceries while pointing her finger in my face. I was humiliated and felt like a little man and the young women just stood there with her mouth open. My wife made me look like a little child. This happened yesterday and since then I have been giving my wife the cold shoulder.

I need honest answers please. Why would an ex try and get underneath your skin? I have this problem a lot. Do they get a kick out of it?

You have an ex husband or ex wife but they still live with you

He does whatever I say for him to do so I'm sure he'll pull away from them if I need him to do is it OK for me to give him directive to pull away from them? Rest of the family is nice to his father and I'm tired of dealing with the father in law.

I came back from my trip out of town and she had everything packed and movers taking our stuff to trucks. I thought something horrible had happened or she was divorcing me but no. She already decided to sell the house and everything because a spider jumped on her when she was on the toilet. She says that this house just is not safe.. I don't understand. How is one spider enough reason to sell my house and pack everything up. She didn't even find us a new place to move or even contact me saying we were going to move. We don't have anywhere to go and I'm going to have to spend a fortune to get enough rooms for my whole family at a hotel. It has to be a really nice hotel too because if there are spiders my wife will just complain and complain. My question is... What is wrong with her? She's been completely fine for years and is one of the more normal people I have ever met. I just wonder if something is going wrong in her brain that she would impulsive sell a 130,000 dollar house instead of simply killing the spider? And to do this behind my back. Just not what I expected when I married her.

She admits she has a different lover each week.. . What should I do?

My husband and I just tied the not December 4th and its been the worst couple weeks of my life. I wanted so badly for this marriage to be special. I caught him reaching out to his ex girlfriend two days before Christmas after we got in to a huge fight about the way that he treats me. He's says he did it because we broke up spending a few days to cool off is what happened. This makes no sense being that we just got married and there's no divorce papers saying we are divorced we were only apart for 2 days but he says that it means we broke up and our marriage was over but some how our marriage stared back up again? How Is he making any sense of this I'm trying to understand. And because I wouldn't give him sex he says that I'll be mad when he goes to cheat and he keeps threatening to do it for days now so I know he has someone in mind. I pulled up to his job a couple of mornings ago and he wasn't there. So he may have cheated prior to threading to cheat. Im not hurt I just want to know how a man could marry me just to pick and tear me apart. What can I do? I just want to end this marriage

My husband isnt a bad guy but the things he had done in the past and the lack of intimacy for most of the marriage has made me feel numb. I am no longer attracted to him and when we did have sex, I cried bc I wasn't feeling it. I feel like I tried so much to communicate with him in regard to it not just being about money and providing. He is making me feel guilty saying I am going to mess up our kids with divorce and I am being selfish. The thing is, I feel I always have put everyone ahead of me

This question doesn't apply to me. I don't even have kids. I know several people who are divorced and the woman always takes everything including the kids. Even if they don't have a job/career. My cousin just got divorced from his wife because she became a drug addict and would go missing for days or weeks at a time on a binge and she was cheating (even posted pictures on Facebook of grinding with younger guys at clubs). He is drug/alcohol free, owns a business, is an amazing dad but she got everything. Why do the courts favour women?

My husband (23) & I (22) have been together since I was 15. We got married a little over a year ago & have a 2yo son. When we first got together everything was great! He was the sweetest, most caring, respectful boy/man I had ever met. Right before I turned 18 we broke up bc he joined the Air Force, went over seas, & started cheating. Not just 1x,but several, with several different girls. A while later he was discharged for a knee injury. About 2y after the break up we came together again & that's when we got married. He had been dating his sisters best friend of 16y & came to me & explained he wasn't happy. His mother & I have always been close. She told me he had stayed drunk almost the whole relationship. He wouldn't come home sometimes & when he would he'd always have a friend with him. I just firguered things were complicated with her being his sisters friend. When we got back together & got married it was great at first as it had began at 15. He wasn't drinking heavily & seemed very happy. 3 weeks after we married I found him on Craigslist. Not only had I seen that he was cheating on me but he had cheated on her w/ CL also. Weird thing was (Im small.. she was a bigger girl, at least 60 lbs heavier than me) the post he made when he was with her was looking for women under 120lbs, but with me he searched for BBW. Since then I have endured countless encounters where I have caught him going on CL. Now here is where my question really gets explained.. in the comments below.

I've been with my husband for 10 years. We have kids. He has struggled with substance abuse ever since his early twenties, before we met. About a year ago he left his job and withdrew off of pain killers. I didn't know he was taking them. This weekend he has almost slept the entire time. Should I be concerned?

whenever my husband and i disagree about something he always starts yelling at me and gets very mean and says really mean things. he will sometimes get in my face and yell at me over something minor like his child acting up and me not engaging with his kid the way he wants afterwards and withdrawing (due to lack of discipline and parenting). his son once physically injured me by throng something and my husband got angry with me for wanting an apology from his son. why does my husband do this?

So i gave him back my wedding ring because now he has questioned my loyalty about being at work speaking with other men just about general stuff. I never gave him a reason to think or assume i would cheat. I dont have the heart to cheat. I just tell him about another man at work even if they are married or have a girlfriend he just says "so? I dont care i dont trust them" like i dont what my husbands issue is but this year im not dealing with this thing of him not caring its like i work mostly with them and if i speak to them as a regular person he's going to have to get use to it. He can check my phone and find nothing i have nothing to hide unlike his exes who have cheated on him in the past

I m currently on bedrest, ready to deliver our first child any day now. I ve been on bedrest for quite some time, because I fell in the shower and damaged the joints in my lower back that allow the pelvis to open during labor. Because I can t go to work, I make sure our home is clean, laundry is done, and dinner is made for my husband when he gets home from work. He s starting to feel incredibly burnt out on his job. It helps that he works 4 11 s and then has 3 days off, but he s becoming so exhausted and unhappy in his line of work, but doesn t want to find a new job before our son is born because his office offers 3 weeks of paid paternity leave, which he isn t going to find anywhere else, and he really wants that bonding time once the baby is here (not to mention, you know, three weeks paid off work). It doesn t help that we re moving, but apart from the actual heavy lifting, I m taking care of that myself (packing everything, etc.) because I don t want him to have to come home and worry about packing. How can I make his work days easier? Are there things I can do for him, things he might want ready before/after work that I could do? Serious suggestions only, please. His "manly needs" are fully met, thank you.

I ve been divorced for about one and half years. Shortly after my divorce, I meet my current fiance. Well now we are expecting a baby and decide that we are going to get married. Since then, my fiance s parents have been non stop giving me issues about my divorce and how they demand to see my divorce decree for there peace of mind. I feel that that is my passed. The divorce has nothing to do with them or there child(my fiance) . The paperwork also have a lot of private and personal information in it that I feel they do not have the right to see. Can someone please give me guidance on how to handle this situation?

we have 5 children all under 13 yrs old, she left a year and half ago and told me she didnt want the kids or the house, she was having an affair.so i work full time and take care of 5 kids, but anyway, my kids took it real hard, she just up and left, she gets them every other weekend, but she flys every other weekend to dallas, we are in cleveland, my kids are afraid that she wont come back everytime she leaves. whats the long term affect ?

Backstory: I am petitioning for divorce from my husband once its after his birthday. He is showing abusive, cheating, and thieving tendacies that he refuses to awknowledge and attempts at asking him to seek help have failed. My feelings for him have long gone and we are married only as much as it says on paper. My co worker agreed to help me with moving out. He s a good work buddy and lots of fun. Last night we started texting when I described how work was to him. It turned into what I thought was joking but ended up crossing into flirting. He then outright texted that he wanted to kiss me and asked if I wanted to kiss him. I messaged back maybe and felt giddy that a nice guy liked me. I then felt like a horrible person for liking someone who wasn t my husband. I think this behavior was at least emotional cheating...Opinions? Help with wording to let co worker know I don t think now is the right time.

I'm always curious to know what they look like nude. I know its weird but I cant stop thinking of them, I want to see them at least once naked. A few days ago we invited his friends over for drinks and food for early new years get together, the friends wives also showed up, for some reason we don't get along, sure we mingle but we don't hang out, do you think the wives know I like their husbands? wow, that question made me sound like a slvt..I would never leave my husband, we do love each other but if I happen to see my husbands friend nude then I wouldn't know what I would do, especially the one friend who makes me nervous just looking at him, when he smiles I feel like dropping.

Hypothetical question. For whatever reason your parents and wife had it out for the last time they don't want to deal with each other anymore. In this scenario let's say your parents live a thousand miles away. Could you remain married and deal with this conflict keeping relationships with your wife and parents separate.

So I was having a conversation with my wife and she says "you know, you have the perfect d***k, it's not too small or too big" and I said "what do you mean not too big?" And she says "cause them big ones hurt" what does she mean?? What??

Without offending her?

idk what to do she even wore her christmas present underwear. if you know what i mean.

I caught my husband on a date with another woman he met from the internet. Since then hes really made some turn arounds. He told me he feels disgusted, like he woke up from a trance and everytime he thinks about himself doing that its like tasting dog **** and he never wants to taste that again. He told me about hos friend at work cheating on his wife recently which he didnt have to tell me. He said he just feels grossif hes not open with me. Recently an ex from 15 yrs ago wrote him, just to say hey. He told me and didn't write her back even though I would of never known. He also told this friend who cheats on his wife he didn't wanna hangout even though I tould him to go. Do you think we can make it? I am hoping this is for real. I just want to be with him and be happy. Thoughts?

i read it somewhere.

For some reason whenever we are at my mother in laws house my husband prefers to sleep on the couch. Often in the early morning hours he will come to bed in the guest room. But he watches TV out there, falls asleep and refuses to come to bed! My sister in law loves stirring up drama and has asked about it and mentioned it to others (eye roll) but it seems to only happen at his mom's house! This house was his childhood home. Could it be an old habit? Why does he do this?