Lately, I've been going through a phase where I want to do something but I end up not doing it. I have a teacher who is always picking on me, and it makes me not want to do anything. Hoping that my Winter Break would help, my siblings and I only found out that my parents have been cheating on each other for years and my father got violent while drunk. Because of this problem, I was constantly moving from cities to cities to where my older siblings lived. During that time, I was supposed to get back up and study, but only problems were created. Being the youngest, I had to choose where I would live for the time being and possibly move schools next year because of Junior year. I also felt lonely after knowing I'd be alone because my brother was going to enlist in the military while the rest of my siblings would live in another city due to college. After one week of this issue, I decided to call in at school for one more day even though school had resumed. I thought that one day would give me time, but I feel even more unmotivated for school after coming back.

My mother and brothers tell me it is a secret but since everyone knows why do I have to keep it a secret.

Ok I know that this isn't a question really I'm pretty much venting. But my brother is an as*hole I long story shirt it's like he tries to get to me but when I am just as tough back he finally leaves me alone. He offered us (me and my mom) to dinner this week my mom offered to go somewhere else I said I'd rather stay home anyway she said why we hardly go out. That wasn't the point I don't want to go because he's so negative I just kept my mouth shut because I know she'd be mad. I told her I wanted something she said your brother is going to the store later you can go with I just walked away if she wanted something so bad she would get it right away though. I know you're thinking you should get a job or whatever blah blah blah but I am working on all that stuff plus I give my mom all of my social security money I never ask for any of it.

I am not saying she has to be best friends with people who have hurt her but holding onto bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets poisoned by it.

Ok so I am going to go on a little rant because this pisses me off. Everytime someome is convinced that I am angry it's always because of something I said, as if I can't say jt calmly, they never pay attention to whether I am yelling they never pay attention to me giving an angry facial expression actually come to think about it they never pay attention to any sign of anger that will tell them whether I said it calmly or not, and as a result two things become true one is that it's all about what I am saying more than it is about whether I feel angry or not, and if I repeat whatever i said that convinced them that i am pissed off while feeling calm they wont notice it because they don't understand whether it's possible to say it calmly. And as a result i got two options 1. Not listen to a word they're saying because I can't trust them anymore because what i was ranting about just now is true or 2. I have to watch every precise detailed little word I say more than I have to watch how angry I feel. Now don't get me wrong I am not saying saying that i am calm or not angry yknow why? Because i never said anything about being calm or not angry in this rant to begin with so if you that i am saying that i am not angry then congratulations you totally misinterpreted everything I said and i suggest you start taking some english classes so you can start learning my language Also could you please explain to me how in the hell I cant say anything thats true calmly?

I remember that my mum brother was living with my parents and siblings since he has no place to stay so my mum invited him in. When I was growing up, this uncle called me "big-lips" as my nick-name! I told my mum that I do not like him calling me that and she concluded it as he's only teasing with you! This been going on for around 16 years old..calling me "big-lips" and I feel that my lips are actually big. That psychological pressure of seeing myself in the mirror makes me feel I do have over-sized lips. My dad was aware that he was calling me that...he told my mum to tell his brother to stop it but it still carried out. My dad does not voice-up or speak-up due to some degree of learning difficulty so it's not his fault and nor do I blame him. Even till today ( I am 27 years old ) it's bothers me. I feel depressed. I feel like wanting to do a lip-surgery to reduce size. In photograph's...I can't smile, I be holding my lips tighter so my lips don't look big in the camera's. There are times where I wished I was dead! It's hurts so much.

Serious answers please.

I recently moved in with my dad and he will not allow me to contact my mother or my boyfriend or any of my family. He takes my phone and takes the internet.

i live in the chicagoland area and i m in the 8th grade. my parents want to move to seattle but they don t understand that i can t and don t want to. i have severe depression and anxiety and i find it very difficult to make friends. the people i m friends with now i ve known for at least 2 years and a lot of my friends that have moved i ve lost touch with so i m scared. i ve already moved schools once and i almost killed myself, so i don t know how i ll handle moving to a whole new state halfway across the country. my parents try to convince me by saying "this new school has a great band program" or "there s a large number of LGBT+ people there" but they don t understand that i don t care. one of the only people i ve ever loved or felt like they cared about me lives in chicago, and i don t think i can live without them. they want to move there because they got better job offers and because they like it there, but that s it. please, how do i convince them to not move?

My mum hits me and threatens to hurt me a lot. I ve been thinking about calling CPS on her or something like that. Should I?

Satan go to doing from a sex site on my knees viewing pornography oh my God the Women are not even dressed. What do I do do I disown him? He's 16 and he surrendered to the devil please I need help my pastor hasn't called back yet. He's totally given his soul to the devil by viewing this and I don't know what to do I didn't raise him to go to hell. My brother did this when I was a teenager we disowned him forever do I do that to my son he's my son and even though he's going to go I still love them.

I've been raised by my aunt the sister of my biological mother and her husband is the one i've always considered my dad. They've never told me I wasn't his real son until i reached puberty I struggled with accepting my biological dad and siblings I also don't live in the same country they live in and I used to see them only on vacations. The last couple of years i grew more mature and i wanted to get to know my biological dad, my biological mother died at my birth. This morning my biological dad also passed away and i can't show emotions

This is regarding Christmas 2017 not this past month. The sister is somewhat narcissistic which is why it upsets my mom so much. I don't mind her sister but it makes my mom a nervous rack which makes all of us nervous as my grandmother favors the narcissistic sister over my mom.

I have three children aged 2, 7 and 11. I am a single mother. I deferred my place at uni because I fell pregnant with my youngest. My question is this; is it selfish of me to start University when I know I have to come off benefits and rely on grants etc and wont have as much money as we do now? I want to get a sensible job at the end of my degree. I want my children to see me achieve something but feel bad they will suffer for something I want. Please tell me what you think? x

My wife and I have our issues (she's a bit of a gold digger) it took us a while to actually become more trusting of each other and we've both had it rough however we've grown as people. We've been seeing a counselor and have been working on our own issues. However my wife has a bad relationship with her sister it goes back to their abusive parents. Apparently she describes her sister as the biggest manipulator possible. Her exact words were "She acts like an angel but trust me first chance she gets she will stab you in the back." Apparently according to my wife her sister has done the following. 1. Bullied her (as teen) into taking the fall for a crime she committed which according to my wife ruined her chances and dreams of getting into a decent college. 2. Apparently my wife who has owned up to her past and has strived to improved her self has said while she's been a gold digger her sister is a straight up con artist who has and would con grannies out of their life savings. From what I gather it seems like my wife wants to trust her older sister but is more afraid of letting her in and is just constantly lashing out at her. She even said "She said we'd always be together and then time after time she'd let me take the fall and then promise to not abandon me again then she'd turn around and what does she do? She ditches me again." Her sister argues that she just wants a second chance like she's gotten and my wife is just really bitter towards her. I just don't know

My stole over $300 from me and she refuses to pay back she also owns me $900. I hide my mom and she always finds how can I stop her from taking my money

I'm 18, I lost 4 family members in the past year, not including my beatfriend who committed suicide on Christmas. I've been extremely shaken/jittery, hardly have slept, so sick to my stomach, I've thrown up a lot, my breathing is short, I feel weak and hopeless.. is this at all normal?

I know no one will ever tell me honestly if I ask and if they did it would be wrong anyway. So how do I find out? My brother and his wife my mom complains about because they're kind of weird as both had learning disabilities so they come across as a little young for their age. My sister and her husband my mom complains left and right about nonstop I find it just mean that she doesn't like us daughters husband. And her other daughter she complains about a little bit but not a lot. So here I am and I wonder what is she say about me. The married ones she dislikes a lot more than the two single children and me and one of my sisters. However I am also learning disabled enough socially awkward. Social awkwardness is the reason my mom does not like her son-in-law.

Eventually I have to make a decision to support nippledicks, or try to slap my brother around until he straightens up. I think Democrats enable nippledicks...generally speaking in the USA.

She's a ***** so she doesn't deserve squat.

They hold this against him and rolled her eyes when they have to see him but he's perfectly nice. However my mom's dad died when she was young and this is his side of the family which there was a fight with. This great uncle was not a part of the fight as it was her dad's older brother and his mom but could it be that they're just linking this uncle to the fight? Is he being used as a scapegoat? Is this wrong?

My cousin is turning 25 next month but he doesn't have much to show for it. Yes, 25 is still young, but I believe people should have SOME accomplishments by then, like a driver's license or a car, both of which my cousin doesn't have. His excuse is that he doesn't have time to study for driver's test, yet he has plenty of time for video games, which seems to be his only ambition in life. Up until this past April, he has sent about half of the last 3 years unemployed on and off. He did do two semesters at a technical college but even when he wasn't in school, he would be unemployed for several months at a time due to either being laid off, or walking out(he quit Walmart twice due to conflict with coworkers). He has now been at Target almost 9 months and is making $10 an hour. He does pay $100 rent to his parents, his share of cell phone and cable bill, and part of internet. But most of the remaining money goes to Coca-Cola and video games, and he doesn't even beat the games he buys. As far as I can tell, he's not saving much(if any) money, and he owes $3000 in school bills, which he's not even trying to pay off. Plus his hygiene is pretty questionable, because most of the times I see him, he honestly smells like booty and his clothes are often dirty. As you can see, he's not a complete bum but he has little ambition. I've tried giving him some advice but he's grown so I'd rather fall back. Is my cousin a bum/loser? What should I do? I forgot to mention he eats like a mammoth, is pretty overweight, and sleeps 12 hrs a day. He is also lactose-intolerant but still drinks milk, because he considers lactose-free milk to be a knock off product.

My cousin is turning 25 next month but he doesn't have much to show for it. Yes, 25 is still young, but I believe people should have SOME accomplishments by then, like a driver's license or a car, both of which my cousin doesn't have. His excuse is that he doesn't have time to study for driver's test, yet he has plenty of time for video games, which seems to be his only ambition in life. Up until this past April, he has sent about half of the last 3 years unemployed on and off. He did do two semesters at a technical college but even when he wasn't in school, he would be unemployed for several months at a time due to either being laid off, or walking out(he quit Walmart twice due to conflict with coworkers). He has now been at Target almost 9 months and is making $10 an hour. He does pay $100 rent to his parents, his share of cell phone and cable bill, and part of internet. But most of the remaining money goes to Coca-Cola and video games, and he doesn't even beat the games he buys. As far as I can tell, he's not saving much(if any) money, and he owes $3000 in school bills, which he's not even trying to pay off. Plus his hygiene is pretty questionable, because most of the times I see him, he honestly smells like booty and his clothes are often dirty. As you can see, he's not a complete bum but he has little ambition. I've tried giving him some advice but he's grown so I'd rather fall back. Is my cousin a bum/loser? What should I do?

my parents beat me and take away my computer. They are hardcore catholic republicans and are super strict. I behave well but don't understand consequences because i am on the autism spectrum. what should i do? They trust me enough to give me guns for christmas still.

I'm a 15 year old boy turning 16 in march. I have pre mature balding confirmed by two doctors but my mom is still not believing them. She thinks that they're wrong and that her natural methods will work (have not worked so far) I've been losing hair since 7th grade! The other hand is my height, I am currently 5'4.5 and I havent grown since November of last year. My mom is 5'0 and my dad is around the same as me. My mom's brother is 5'8 and my mom's dad is 5'2 and her mom is 5'3. I am very stressed out because of my mom, my dad left us and all my friends left me this week. My height and hair loss is one of my greatest depressions and I just want to be 5'8-5'9 at least with nice hair. My mom takes this so lightly and doesnt seem to care and whenever i tell her things like this shes either like so what, what do you want me to do or get over it. Please help.

My soon to be ex husband and I are expecting twins and not sure what the genders are because it's too early to tell. We have a little girl named Harlow Destiny who's 4 Last name starts with a P ends with son

So my FIL tries taking punishing my small (18 and 7 month old) children, for instance, my 18 month old went towards the china cabinet after I told him no once, then a few min later went for it again, my father in law jumped around the corner and grabbed him by the arm and smacked his bare leg leaving a mark, I lost it! My husband told him he needs to respect my wishes, he just ignores us and Then he goes to say he has the right to "raise" his children and grandchildren in the way of GOD....First off he is NOT raising MY children, he does nothing for them, I told him we should sit and figure out what discipline I feel is okay, he brings god into it once again, pretty much saying, my word means absolutely nothing to him...i'm about to loose my mess on him if it happens again and I don't know what to do! Please HELP!!! (also yes we do live with them temporarily due to the fact my husband was hit by a car crossing the rd and he is unable to work) I still feel this gives him ZERO rights to hit my babies

i'll try add everything if not i hope you understand where i'm coming from. so my mum obviously has something going on wether its bipolar or narcassism she has these random outburst of picking fights with anyone in our houshold, mostly me... idk if it's jelousy since im young i look attractive as others have said and am a creative individual. in arguments she carries on and on and everything i say to try educate her on the topic of whatever she wants to fight about she doesn't listen AT ALL literally like talking to a wall, it's the most fustrating thing to deal with and makes me question my self worth. honestly even my brother has told her that the reason im ****** up is caused from her. she calls me the most horrible names you could think of and to anything i say she says im a liar then continues to enrage in anger. shes literally thrown stuff at me. the only option is to try ignore it all. tonight for example she was having an argument with my brother and im in my room doing my homework, she comes in my room to continue the argument and i told her please go away im doing my work etc.. etc.. the minute i said that she switches the argument she was having with my brother to then pick at me and focus on my insecurities. my aunt has noticed too, recently they both went on a trip to thailand while there my aunt happen to mention that they have kids while talking to someone they met, after that the whole holiday was constant arguments ... to be continues ima just dot point how she is - very insecure needs constant recognition of how she looks, and the minute someone says the truth she goes nuts - whenever i go out with her she talks about how many guys are checking her out and tells my dad. i just think who cares who are you proving it to.... - she puts me down constantly (saying how ugly i am) -very hypocritical -throws a fit if she doesnt get her own way its like walking on eggshells by the way im 17 (just turned), and throughout my whole teen 'hood' ive had to deal with it which has caused my low self esteem and mental breakdowns that i go through often. even with the doctors diagnosing me and giving me meds etc... even staying home for months because of my mental breakdowns (not only caused from her but bullying) she denies that i have any issues

I know this isn't the wisest place for answers but where else have I got? No extended family or counselors or friends, I literally only have my family. I'm 14 and female incase you wondered lol.. I can't take this anymore. I'm ALWAYS respectful to them, I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, runaway, or cause harm to them. Never shouted at them, always use please and thankyou. But i'm thinking of changing that, they are horrible alcoholics, force me to clean up after them, keep making me move schools, call me names, yell at me for SMALL things, IGNORE me 24/7 even though they have NO reason to be angry at me? I get the highest grades in my class and I clean the whole house and I do extra studies and I take care of the dog alone. I even tutor my OLDER sister.. Yet they told me they hate me? How can they hate me if I haven't spoken to them a SINGLE word in 3 weeks???? It hurts me alot and especially when I see loving parents.. He messaged me saying how much he hates me and that I should know why TWO days in a row.. I didn't say anything because I don't have the energy left anymore after how much they put me through. Suicide seems reasonable but i'm too much of a coward for that. God help me -Sigh- They have alcohol (ofcourse, they are alcoholics) and to be honest i'm thinking of just drinking it all of before I sleep because i've heard it stops the pain...? They have alcohol (ofcourse, they are alcoholics) and to be honest i'm thinking of just drinking it all of before I sleep because i've heard it stops the pain...?

I'm 18, I lost 4 family members in the past year, not including my beatfri Mr who committed suicide on Christmas. I've been extremely shaken/jittery, hardly have slept, so sick to my stomach, I've thrown up a lot, my breathing is short, I feel weak and hopeless.. is this at all normal?

I am 18 and I am in a relationship with a man since november.He lives 35 miles away from home, and every week-end I go to his house.I go to his house more often than he comes to mine, because my mom is kinda mad at me and we feel it in the air.My dad is pretty cool about the whole thing. My mom says that I ve changed, I am not the same girl and she wants her girl back.I ve changed yes, I am really happy with that man.My mom is the kind of person who is always negative and always have something (kind of) mean about someone/ a situation.My sister told me some things that my mother have said about me boyfriend, and it hurts me.She also have said a couple of thing about him in my face.So when she does, we fight.We haven t stop fighting since mid-december and I hate living that situation at home.I just got back from 5 days at my boyfriend s house and, it s sad to say, it s much better to live with him than to live with someone who is really really cold. How can I can t live with her crappy mood anymore?

Hi, I m Drew and I m a victim of physical, mental, and verbal abuse from my step-mom. I m now 19, but my Dad married my step-mom when I was 13. I was living with my Dad before she moved in with us, at first she seemed like a normal person. But, when I turned 14 she started hitting me when I would come home from school, I couldn t fight back cause she was a woman (my mom taught me to never hit a woman). She would cuss me out everyday, squirt hand soap down my throat if I ever tried to lock my room. She threatened to kill me multiple times, I would go night without dinner or days without food at all when my grades were poor. I tried telling a couple people and even called DSS, but she managed to tall her way out of everything. Now I m 19 amd I haven t seen her or my Dad since I ran away from home when I was 16. My fiance now is pregnant and I m about to be a father, I want to be a good father...

She gets pleasure out of using me as a weapon against my dad never they're divorced. She wouldn't even let me see him at Christmas. I know people say my dad should take her to court but for some reason he does not so I know it's partly to blame also but my mom is the one I have influence over.

My husband and I are expecting our second child in April, and we are at an impasse on selecting god parents, but not for the best reasons. It seems that my brother and sister-in-law are expecting that we'll ask them to be our second child's god parents because we have no other siblings (My husband's brother/SIL are our first child's god parents). The issue is, my husband and I feel very strongly about potentially asking our good friends instead - one of them I've known for over 20 years, and they are very responsible, caring people who have repeatedly helped us out over the years without question or expectation. So my question is: Is it rude to ask friends over family for god parenting? If not, how do I break the news to my brother/SIL? A little detail on why we aren't keen on my brother/SIL: They are not the most responsible people, they have an arrogance about them and selfish dispositions, and quite honestly are mooches - they take everything they can get and give little in return (ie. "borrowing" money, free food, clothes, and they don't share) - don't get me wrong, i absolutely love my brother/SIL, and we get along just fine. We just do our best to not give in to their tendencies, which helps us a lot. But when it comes to being a god parent, I don't know if this will affect that or not. Also to note - they have a 2 year old, so they know parenting.

My cousin asked me to look after my homosexual uncle because he is living alone in his big house. My relatives left my egomaniacal uncle because he only cares for himself and money. I'm living near my uncle's house, my cousin asked me to visit my uncle frequently to make sure he is fine while my cousin is focusing in his career and his own life. I have my own life as well, I'm already married and working and supporting myself. My uncle is 56 years old and physically healthy and I'm 32 years old, female. my cousin still meddle in my life although I'm already living independently and happily married.

I am an international student from Korea, 22, and will be graduating after one more semester. My boyfriend is American and we have been together for 3.5 years. He has been taking Korean lessons and will be applying to graduate schools in Korea. However, my parents do not accept him and they are making me choose between him and my parents. I hoped that they would allow us to still be together while I study in medical school in Korea and him in graduate school in Korea. But if I choose to stay with him they do not want me to return to Korea. They want me to very far away and out of sight. If I do not return, we will most likely have to get married right away so that I can get my green card to stay in the US. He will go to graduate school in the US and I will probably have to work to help us sustain and I will have to delay my dreams of going to medical school. I cannot imagine my life without him. My parents say that I am giving up on my duties as a daughter. I think differently, I think that family should be unconditional. Our thinking and opinions and view of life is SO SO different. When it comes to those differences, many times I feel as if I don't belong in my family. But at the same time I know that family isn't is not replaceable. I want the best of both worlds but I can't have them. I don't want to leave him. But will I be able to leave my family and live with the guilt?

My children refuse to get a job. We live in the south and public transportation is 15 miles away in the city, and the jobs are all in the city too. They refuse to walk 15 miles as they say it would take 6 hours. I refuse to buy them a bike. I refuse to teach them how to drive. I refuse to drive them. They have no money and I will not give them any or help them at all. They are 17 and 18. I am 53. Am I a good father? I am also not paying for them to go to college. I have had them in online school, but stopped letting them do it in 9th grade. They have not done any high school grades. That is not my problem

He said I need to be taking classes at school to help me get a job but every job I want he makes fun of! I wanted to be a video game tester or a private investigater or a dance instructer or a hair stylist or a fashon designer an all he does is make fun of me an even called me a fagit!

First, I need to say that we're both adults and we're both of the opposite sex. I have to admit that I say a lot of things that are not well thought out, especially when she asks my opinion on sensitive things. We've hung out a lot this. Normally we live far away from each other but we still communicate on a regular basis. I feel like we're pretending to like each other? It's not that we hate each other but we're not actually friends. We party together, we have similar tastes in things, but... I don't know now I'm still trying to figure it out. I feel like she's going to wake up and realize it soon too, if she didn't just now. We've hung out a lot this week.

My dad wants to send me and my brother aborad, where my relatives (my mothers side live) My mother passed a year ago. What should I do?

She likes to spread gossip about other family members and even share the dirt on family to non-relatives like one who is renowned for gossip who is a friend of hers. She has a friend who likes to spread hate similarly. How do I distance myself from my toxic mother without making other family members think I am unfaithful. I don't mind seeing my mother sometimes but don't want the emotional attachment I have now to her.

Now dad looks at my body and he says I have dust on my thighs.He touched my thighs twice one day.I complained and he hit me and threatened to kill meMom says he is your father.Respect him.

my mom lives in VA while i live in MD with my dad and brother. We ve lived there our whole lives and i know if i move to my mom s, my dad will be hurt. I get this awful feeling everytime i go back to his house after spending a week or so at my mom s house and it gets worse each time. My mom caught me crying because i don t want to leave, what should i do? (i m 16 years old)

If I had the choice I would be outside at night listening to music in the park but no. My mum dosnt trust me enough or worries to much about me. If I could I would order a pizza when I wanted for dinner but no. She tells me to save my money. I want to bike to school but no. She says I would have to have someone go with me and that I cant in the winter. I.Dont.Care.What.She.Thinks. I'm almost 13 I need freedom! She thinks im just some immature kid well im not and if i dont find a way to convince her to let me do what i want then ill just do it without her permission. i actually wouldnt mind sneaking out like some people would because im not some brainless child that dosnt know what she wants in life. i want to do crazy things while im a kid and make my childhood memrable but my mum isnt letting me.

So i got REALLY bad grade :( and i understand that its totally my fault too but i don't want my parents to know about it yet because i know they'll completely chew me up, there some even important exams coming up and don't want their pressure on my shoulders. Is there anyway i could prevent them from going to the Parent Teacher meeting this weekend? plz help :(

Cross fit is becoming more popular nowadays, even teens are doing it. At the gym, I was tasked to train sisters, one being 16 and the other 14. Part of their strength and endurance training is short distance piggyback run. The older sister has no problem carrying the younger sis on her back. However when it is the younger sis's turn to carry her sister, the older sis refused to get on her sister's back.She even tell her sister that "I am the big sis and I don't think you are strong enough".The younger sister did not take it lightly so she hurl her sister onto her back and carry her the same way. The older sister was not happy and they argued after she got off her sister's back. Later they arm wrestled and the younger sister won at both arms, the older sister even more upset. Much to the older sister's dismay, the younger sister picked her up again for sort of a victory lap. The look on the face of older sister practically say not just defeat but embarrassed. So why older sibling feel so bad when losing to their younger sibling?

I am 21 years old still live with my mom and trying to work my way through to having my own place to live. One problem would be my mom would still be over controlling all the time that she still made my put lotion on my hand and nags at me until I am late for work, thats like 30 minutes of nagging. Even constantly following my time I wake up 7 am in the morning just to tell me to be cautious about everything, I told her to stop nagging at me. She kept going... Since I am legal, I have a mini fridge in my room for my own beers and other snack, my mom is entirely against beers and would raid my beers. All of this gets in my nerves every single day like I am swimming across all that irritations without bursting out in anger. How do I make this stop? I am working hard in my new career so I can get out of the house, but living in that area is pricey, even if I had roommates.