My husband and I got married at city hall and didn't tell anyone. We were in our 30s and just didn't want all of the craziness of a wedding. We had been together for many years at that point. We instead told everyone we got engaged. Everyone was so thrilled and excited for us, that we decided we would have a wedding...not for us but for our family and friends. We already did our thing and they all really wanted a wedding. Not to take away from the wedding, we didn't tell anyone we were already married. Now we are coming up on our 5 year anniversary and everyone we know thinks it's 4. It seems silly now to not just tell them the truth. We would only tell immediate family. Still, we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. What do you think? Is it better to just leave it be or would you rather know if it was your child and his or her spouse? We didn't actually lie. No one asked us if we were already married ;)

In January I found my wedding dress. In February I went back for my first fitting. Everything fit perfectly. The bust was a little loose so they were adding darts along the sides. Yesterday I went back for my second fitting and the dress wouldn't zip. I was measured again and told that my bust was bigger my 2 inches. I just remeasured myself at home and found that I had the same measurments as I did in January. The shop is wanting to charge me for an extra $500 in alterations because they now have to add a lace up back. I feel that I am being ripped off. Shouldn't the dress still fit even if I had gainded two inches in the bust? Did they do something to the dress when they added the darts so now it won't fit? Thank you

My big sister is getting married in the middle of June. I don't know what to get her for a wedding gift. Here's the thing we've always been close, but she has been like a rock when our dad died last year. She was slated to get married in December but pushed the wedding back because she wouldn't leave Dad alone his first Christmas without Mom. She was the one who stood at the casket during the viewing and greeted everyone while I slunk off to hide so I wouldn't have to see anyone. Then this semester I've been doing my student teaching. I'm not allowed to work this semester, so I've been living off what I have saved up, which goes pretty fast even when you are living as cheap as you can. Sis sends me a $50 or $75 check every time she gets paid. At this point I don't know how I would have kept gas in the car if it weren't for her. Money is definitely an issue. I don't want to go cheap for her wedding, but I am nearly broke. When I get back home I'll definitely get a job as soon as I can. I know two or three people who own businesses or are in management and all I need to do is say I need a job and will get hired more or less on the spot. So buy the wedding I should be able to spend $300-$500 for the wedding.

I'm 17. My sister is getting married in September. She wants me to be a groomsman. I don't want to be in the wedding. If I say no will it hurt her feelings. Isn't the grroomsmen supposed to be the GROOM'S MEN? He's okay and cool but its not like we're buds.

So I'm in a little bit of a situation when it comes to my wedding. I want to invite my second mom (I'm only calling her this to make the post easier to follow). She was my dad for many years and came out as trans four years ago. It tore the family apart and pretty much all of them disowned her. I still have a very good relationship with her and she's honestly one of the best people I have ever known. It's been so tough for her, especially as she lost her wife, most of her kids, her parents and her siblings. A few of my cousins have secretly said they support her, but they would never let the family know that. In an ideal world, I'd have my whole family there to support me. But I don't think that could happen without someone attacking my second mom. And then I would be worrying and fussing over her and it would end up taking from the day. My fiancé agrees with this. He feels we should just invite my second mom and not the others. I actually agree with him. But his family started to comment on the situation and said we should invite the majority of my family and leave my second mom out because she'll understand why it has to be this way. Deep down, I know which way I will go, because I know from past experiences that it will never work the way I want it to. I just need to see others answers, I think. I know my family. Some of them will come knowing she will be there just to attack her. It's happened at one other occasion and it's why there's so much hesitation with my wedding.