Have you ever been on the verge of hating someone (father of your kids) or an ex who took you through hell but you finally forgave them and now you just feel sorry for them because you know they just need love? That's how I'm feeling and I have no idea where this emotion came from?

My son and I don't get along. Our relationship deteriorated after he met his girlfriend. I found out that he was getting married tomorrow in the newspaper. I didn't even know they were engaged. We haven't spoken in over 2 years. I was able to find out where the wedding is taking place. Should I go? As his mother I have a right to be there.

My husband and I were recently displaced and staying with my daughter. Slowly all of his pain meds that he has been taking for years disappeared including his Abilify. I contacted our physician and she said even the Ability had a street value. I found it odd because all of my heart meds were not missing nor my husband's Cymbalta. It took a moment to put 2 and 2 together that my daughter's roommate has an issue, as my children have never touched them in the 10 years he has been on the pain meds.

We've been married for almost 7 years. We have two young children. About a year into our marriage, I noticed that my husband didn't want sex as much. I'd ask him what the problem was and he would always say nothing. I've tried everything to spice up our sex life but nothing. I'd be lucky if I can get it every 3-4 months. Two weeks ago, I discovered inappropriate text messages on his work phone. I also discovered he's been calling escorts. I confronted him and he admitted that he's had sex a couple of times with different women during the course of our marriage. Even after his disclosure, I've tried to entice him to have sex and he's still refusing. What is the problem here? Prefer a guy's perspective please.

dont no what to do

Three years ago my wife and I had our daughter. We at the time wanted to wait to have kids so our baby came as a suprise. We had always been very careful and at the time were going through a rough patch which led me to believe she may have cheated. This was only amplified when our daughter was born with Sandy Blonde hair and blue eyes (We're both Mexican, My wife and I have dark brown hair, and she has green eyes and I have brown). Over time her features never "darkened" and she didn't bare much of a resemblance to either of us. So one day my curiosity got the best of me and I got a paternity test, which incidentally came back positive. Instead of throwing away the results I accidentally put them in our personal documents. And today while my wife was looking for her passport stumbled across them. When she confronted me I at first denied it then came clean about my doubts. She yelled at me for a bit and now just isn't talking at all. Every time I try to say something she just ignores me or walks away. What should I do? Should I give her space to cool off? Try and explain even if she ignores me?

i am so scared to tell her that i could have infected her i literally cried for hours when i found out i had HIV i couldnt concentrate for about a whole week i felt so depressed and i dont know how im going to tell her Me and her regularly use the same razor to shave our legs we will use the same balde and pitch in to buy more blades i normally cut myslef all the time and i know she was used the razor before i found out know i dont know if some of my blood could have gotten into her i know i made a mistake a big mistake i slept with three guys that night and it wasnt till about 3 weeks that girls were telling me that one of the guys was know to have diseases so i got tested and now i feel like i complete ruined my life

My wife has.a.job where she can't talk.on the phone when she is working. I've asked her to call me.doing.her lunch break to talk.about kids.activities for.the upcoming evening or just to have small talk in general. My wife refuses.to call as.she says she is.on the phone all.day and.does.not feel.like talking.at.lunch. I've also.asked.her.to.call.me.on.her.way.home so.I know.when to.expect.her and.to talk.about.things.in general. Again.she.refuses.to.call.. She.says.she.will.call.if.there is.anything we need.to.talk.about. Am.I.off.base.for.being.angry that.she.refuses to.call.me.when I.ask her to call.me over.and.over. We.just.got.into.a.huge.spat over this petty issue.. We.have been married for.25 years and.she.went.back.to work.about 18 months ago after being a stay at home mom for.12.years.

Girls show me no interest when I talk to them http://s304.photobucket.com/user/Tyler_Voght/media/Mobile%20Uploads/image_zpsgh50tgzt.jpg.html?sort=3&o=0

Brad has been chasing me for years but I did not agree to marry him for some reasons. He was too shy to talk to me thus he asked a mutual friend to contact me. Brad married another woman and did not let me know about his wedding though I found it from his wedding photos put on facebook. Actually, I do not care whether he is married or not since I lost interest in him long time ago. 5 days after his wedding, I got an email from the mutual friend but I did not respond. I am sure Brad asked the friend to do it since the friend never contacts me if Brad does not ask him to. 2 weeks ago, I posted a status on my Facebook "I wish and love to live on Saint Louis Street". Few days later, a friend of mine, who is a real estates broker, told me Brad just bought a condo on Saint Louis Street and Brad kept the transaction confidential from all other people. What would you think about Brad?

Well... I recently went through a breakup and now... I don't want to love anybody else; my heart just can't take it. I was curious if there is a word to describe the act of forsaking love, of completely removing it from your life. I don't care what language its in, i just want to put a word to it so i can better accept it.

Husband and I reconciled after our separation. I believed him, that he would change. I work full-time, while he receives ssi. I give him money while he hoards his money away. He is critical of me and it seems like he wants me to go through hoops all the time. It's like he loves to make me miserable. My friends and family have told me to be cautious. Do you think he's wanting someone else,?

My step daughter is graduating high school. My husband and I have always provided for her and I would do anything for her. It is important to know that because most people think fathers who are divorced are dead beats..... my husband is a wonderful father. Her mother makes more money then my husband and I combined. Her mother has always bought her over expensive things since she was young. her father and I want to get her a memorable graduation but what do you buy for a girl who has everything and more? .... please help. Thank you

Background: I work a full time job and have been employed full time for over 5 years. I dropped out of school to work full time when my husband lost his job a few years ago. My husband can't seem to hold onto a job although he does work part time and generally brings in enough money to pay his half of the bills and support his video game addiction. The problem: my husband only cleans when he feels like it which isn't very often (I can handle this because I will try to clean if he doesn't and although my house never seems clean I do make an effort when I am home) BUT I have lived without hot water for months now because he keeps saying he will fix the water heater and hasn't. I drive around with no headlight in the car because he hasn't installed the New headlight he bought after hitting a deer probably 6 months ago. He acts like I should ignore all of this and let him play his video games in peace until he feels like doing it, but I'm tired of lugging giant pans of boiling water every time I or my daughter need a bath or I have to do dishes. I tried not saying anything for a couple weeks but it just encouraged him to keep not doing anything. I'm about to the point that I just want to move out and leave him here with the mess he refuses to help with. Please tell me what to do.

I understand to men games are important but my husband spends hardly any time because games come first, I confronted him and he got stern and told me i am boring and what should he watch shoes i want to watch, im crying saying no and hes like you like it or leave. I dont feel important hes like sure you cook and clean and ask me how my day is whatever.

So my parents divorced about 3 years ago. It was a very very shocking surprise that my dad cheated on my mom. I was/have been angry with him ever since. He said/did some really mean things. He never really tried that hard to get in contact with me and even got remarried to the woman he cheated on my mom with and didn't tell me. I have been so angry for 3 years and have had this huge weight on my shoulders. I got a call last week that he had a heart attack and is in bad health. Of course I texted him because I care, but I don't know what to do. I couldn't live with myself if something happened to him. He's basically saying it's my fault for not reaching out to him and I'm going to regret it and I'm immature. His new wife has been blowing up my phone as well. I want him to know this is not my fault and he is the parent and that I don't want her to text me ever. How do I say that without being mean. I need advice from people who aren't biased.

I have lived w my boyfriend for 3 years. I have two children from my soon to be ex husband. The kids live w me and always have and he pays support. He informed me today that irs has told him he should b claiming the kids. Since I have no income except child support is my boyfriend allowed to claim me and my kids as dependants? Our court ordered 2011 my ex was allowed to claim the kids since we lived together for half the year. He insists his lawyer and irs says he still has the right.

Should a divorced 40 year old woman with 3 or 4 kids be choosy in whom she dates? Isn't it basically down hill from here on? She most likely will never find the right man at that age especially one who is comfy with her 3 little brats from another man. And no I'm not talking about the girl that texts me at 3am at night saying I'm all she ever thinks about these days. Some other woman on the net that contacted me seems to be real obsessed with honesty on my part. She got divorced recently after a whopping 19 years of marriage and now at 40 is contacting me. Lol! Isn't it basically downhill for her? She just got divorced so doesn't realize how bad her situation is. With the 3 brats and her age isn't it basically over for her? She was busting my chops for not revealing my real name. Lol. So I dont tell every stranger on the net my real name. Instead I gave her a nickname and she didn't like it. Shge was saying that can't be your name coz it doesn't match my ethnicity. Lol. She's a professional consultant in a hospital. Its only been a few months since the divorce but let a few years of loneliness go by and we will see then just how picky she is? She might have her career together and whatnot but she should be grateful that someone with my good looks and fat cock along with my safe background due in part to culture would even look at her at her age with her 3 brats. Not only should she take me into her mansion of a house and support me financially but she should be willing to blow me on a nightly basis for 2 hours.

I am not talking about staring. Honestly its human nature that both men or women tend to look at anything is attractive, everyone does it. I don't understand what the big deal is? checking someone has no relation with loving someone, there is a difference. "What if your GF started checking out other guys? How would you feel?" I couldn't care less "Why check someone else out?" -- why not? You can't stay attracted to the same person forever.

I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now...I can't imagine a day without her...She has made my life worth living.. Her grandparents have been together for 50 years now, and they got married after one month of being together(They still talk to each other like they are newlyweds)...Sure..Those were different times...But what makes a marriage last so long? If applicable..How long have you been married?

I have been doing my best to support my ex with her pregnancy with my child and now she is saying I'm not going to see her or be able to name my kid and already talking about claiming child support even tho she's the one who cheated... I'm so confused. Is my life going to suck this much for now on knowing the child I'm paying child support for is out there and I won't even kno here name or help pick it.

My husband often looks at porn on his phone before he takes a shower, and that I don't mind. But for the last few months he's been looking up a woman on Facebook and then looking at porn before he showers. The womans profile is private so all you can see is her profile pic- they are not friends on fb. I'm not sure how he knows her. He has cheated before so I log into his account from time to time just to check. He never contacts her, just looks her up every couple weeks. Can a man please tell me what this is about and if I should be worried? We've been married for one year and have a new baby. Our sex life is great. should I be worried?

I had a disagreement with my fellow. Are stances were very different. I stated my opinion and provided hardcore facts. Him not so much. I wasn't yelling or belittling him. Even though he was yelling at me. I just proved my point. Now he's mad and ignoring me. I don't even think it was that serious. I don't have to be right all the time. In fact there are times he has proved me wrong. How could I get mad at him for that? I just take it as a learning experience.

I feel like his girlfriend should be aware of his real personality, especially since he expects our children to call her their mother.

They say u never get over your first love... usually they end when the couple moves away, cheat,etc.. there is usually a reason I had a first love (we were each others first) but she claimed to have commitment phobia and clinical depression. She broke up with me a few times because she was "unhappy" whenever anything wasnt "perfect"...but always said she loves me. A couple yrs later I contacted her and all she wanted to do was tall about her new bf.. trying to make me jelous. I didn't want the games and told her I'd leave her alone. A few yrs after that I found out she's married with kids with someone else. I just wonder how she managed to get over her issues... the other thought is maybe her issues weren't as bad as she made them out to be and just didn't really care as much as I did... I don't understand how u break up with your first love anytime there is an argument unless u have mental issues.... but if that's the case how did she just "grow up" and find someone else. My feelings never changed for her and never will... even though I have found someone else and love them... I just never got over my first.

I don't know what is it but I'm going mad about my teacher, there is this sexual tension between us he can't hide it too, , I don't know how t explain it but I want him so badly! I want to have sex with him and I know he wants me to but the problem is that he is married and his wife just had a baby, but to be honest I don't care .I think about him all the time .Please help me

We broke up about 8 months ago and just an hr ago he texts my his name out of the blue..what is his problem?

My fiance and I have been together for four years. Live together (no children) and in our late 20s/early 30s. We do almost everything together--like social events. We are best pals and enjoy spending time together, but he is definitely more independent and comfortable with alone time than I am. I feel threatened sometimes if he wants to do something without me or prefers to be alone. I'm in grad school and he is a professional working for a TV show. He works out of our apartment and rarely interacts with his coworkers in person. His company has had yearly parties, and each year he has invited me. They all know me by name. Also, the show he works for airs live once a week. He's taken me to it once back when he wasnt as involved with it as he is now. A few months ago, he got promoted, but still works out of our house. I expressed to him that I'd love to support him and go to one of the shows with him. He said that would be fine, but that he would also prefer to attend a few by himself first in order to establish some separartness and just schmooze a little. I felt a little hurt by this, but tried to understand. This weekend the show airs again, and he told me he is planning on going, but didn't invite me. I feel a little threatened, but I'm not making a big deal of it to him. Is this weird that he doesn't want me to come along? He said he will take me at some point--just after he attends a few by himself first. Is this understandable or should I be concerned? Thanks.

About a month ago my fiancé had left me to move to California, we live in Las Vegas. She had told me that she was no longer happy with her life out here. Now a little back story before this, I'd say about 3-4 months before our daughter was born I myself had noticed that she was going into a depression. She would lay in our room all the lights off, not doing anything at all, and she never wanted to leave the room let alone the house. She was sleeping all the time. I thought it could just be the pregnancy so I tried not to worry. Then I noticed she stopped talking to me and basically lived in her own world by herself. Now back to the present, so when she left for Cali she took our daughter with her but left me with a ton of her stuff and notes saying to please wait for her to get better so we can be a family and be together. Things like that. Left me with so much hope. Well a week later she said she never wanted to be with me again because we were bad for each other. Then she said she didn't want our daughter either. So I made plans to go pick up our daughter. She's been trying to get back with her ex boyfriend before me as she calls him the love of her life. I'm finding out now that she just talks about getting with guys and she wants to go party and drink (she was NEVER about that lifestyle) now she's rejecting going to therapy. I just don't know what to do because I love her so much and I can't let her go. I want the family we were building. Someone help me out here...please

I was with my ex fu... Buddy for a year and a half.I moved on with a great guy.my ex lover won't stop texting me.I begged him to let me go and move on and he doesn't. I cared for him.greatly and he knows but this has been going on for seven months. He texted today .I had a situation with me neighbor.I told him about it.my ex lover is a detective.he asked me if I wanted him to talk to my neighbor. Then says he will get his plates and do a check on him. Saying he could be in the neighbors drive when I got home so my neighbor wouldn't mess with Me. I don't know why he is doing this for me if it was just sex .any advice

It is difficult for her to find out about this because he goes and looks thru all her stuff.. My sister and the father of her daughter were never married. They have basically been living together but not really in a relationship (he's also a jerk to her) all this time. She think's he will 'leave' soon, and she wants know if, considering they were never married if she can take her kid and move back home which is over a 1000 miles from where she has been living since she met her ex. She has never been to court to discuss custody or anything. I know she would be totally ok with him not having to pay child support if she could move back here. He has paid over $500 for the kid he has from a previous relationship. Update: state is AZ

Ive been with my husband for 14 years and married for four. Recently i got on our computer and seen he's been browsing all the unnecessary adds on Craig's list also porno and he's been getting all kinds of spam mail from dating sites and others that aren't appropriate to list.Ive confronted him on it and he tried telling me he's not looking but he's full of it if he wasnt it wouldn't be in his search history I love him but I just dont know what to do

Pls help me. My parents say i am psychopat and i need help. But i really love my man and i want to get married! Is it ok if i run away with my "husband" and i never come back?

hi, my daughter is almost 3 months old. i have never married her father. when our daughter was born he signed the papers as her father, but now he has been threatening to take me to court for her and then said he wants nothing to do with me or her, so now i am interested in getting temporary custody because of his threats. what do i do, and what papers do i find to file for temporary custody? and is temporary custody the right thing i should be trying to get right now in this situation?

What will stop him from divorcing her? I mean people do leave people all the time. Why is marriage any different?

so my wife works odd hours at a hospital and bowls this morning bowling league. I ve never go or met her team. Apparently there is this older man hot shot private investor that quit his job and I guess wealthy working at home and I hear all about him from her. My wife takes a particular type of birth control that makes periods very occasional, which is good for us and we don t like kids. Then last weekend she notices her belly is bigger as she is skinny and should have had pms at least 3 months ago. She went to the doctor and is pregnant. I was furious. Not only do I have to decide to divorce her ( I did cheat on her when she was my girlfriend, I was young and dumb) but I could forgive her IF she gets an abortion immediately. Then I also ask her about her birth control pills and I really want to sue the manufacturer. This is supposed to be 99.9 percent guaranteed. This old fart must have some super sperm or something. I want her fetus dead and I m going to the bowling alley next week to slap the guy hard in the face. Not punch him, just a hard slap. I feel like also slapping my wife but I don t hit woman. WTF am I supposed to do?!

So my current support order is based off my income and Childs mother income from a few years ago. She was making minimum wage, then she got married and voluntarily quit Her job. Her husband makes over 80k/yr which is what she lives off of plus my $1000/mo. I know I can't ask for her husbands income to be considered when we go back to court to modify support but can I ask for a reduction based on the fact that she has no living expenses (rent, utilities, etc) for the child since she lives off her husband? I'm not trying to get out of my obligation and have always supported my child but I am struggling with what I pay her and she is living off a 80k income plus my support! And no her not having a job won't screw me. In my state when someone doesn't have a job aupoort is set at minimum wage which is what her income is set at now anyway.

the way i see it is nothing comes out of the marriage. so tell me what good is it.

I'm a Pakistani housewife..My husband left me to work in Middle east leaving me with his sick Mother in law whom i had to take care...She's like every mother-in-law..She always illtreat me..She makes false complaints and then he scolds and threatens me over phone...I'm in depression... I wont use the word accident,but one day while I was talking with his uncle,we somehow ended up having sex....It was never our intention but it happened...Though I hate my husband's decision to leave with that witch,I still feel guilty I know if I tell him,things will reach so bad that I cant guarrentee my life...He will come home after 3 months..I dont know how to face him... How come people who cheat,get themselves back and be with their spouses

I've been with my husband for a year married for 6 months. I know married to soon even though scientific studies have shown in many cases marring sooner then later can make for a longer marriage. Anyway. My husband cheated when We were dating. (Not physically) just talking. dick pics. Etc. he hasn't sense But I continually accuse him or joke around like do you do that with your girlfriend Cuz I'm not doing that. stuff like that. Usually I'm joking when I say stuff. But We have had many argument s He's has adhd We raise two lids together. He recently told me He's unhappy and tired of my comments. He doesn't want to leave He's just sick of it. Is there still hope for us or could he leave.?? We still have sex daily. But he basically said that even if divorce was a option We can't Cuz he has nowhere to go But if We did I couldn't date or sleep with anyone. I'm terrified he will just say I want a divorce and leave. I don't want this. How can I know he means what hes saying that he loves me and doesn't wanna leave.

Before I start, I wanted all of you to know that most of what I ask on here, and what you answer, is trial and error-ed the MINUTE I have a chance. So none of your answers are just a waste of time (unless you are repeating yourself or being abusive, then you just need to STFU). So my wife did ACTUALLY do 3 sessions of therapy about 4.5 months ago. During this time, she got the diagnosis social phobia. She doesn't have the necessary symptoms for a social anxiety disorder or anti-social personality disorder, but she has a very radical fear of being out in public or in social situations. And being a big dummy, she quit her therapy as soon as she got the label since she thought this would excuse her from ever having to do it again.... WRONG! So in an effort to simultaneously rekindle my marriage with her AND get her over her fears, I have begun to use positive re-enforcement to get her to do more socially acceptable things that will help her blend in with society more AND become more attractive to me. This is why I keep asking today about "mind over matter". I don't know how makeovers work, but if it was me made over I would feel like it was a big lie; but I know women do it and they literally change their lives. This is what I'm trying to achieve with her. What do you think, could it work? New image, new life? Pull her out of her negative thoughts and into more positive ones (with rewards for doing it)? P.S. - I have her willful cooperation, I'm just worried it won't work. @Mary - I'm fast. You're blocked already. Also, you probably shouldn't have any sock accounts. You're only proving to me that people can't be trusted on here. So no one wants to chime in and tell me if this strategy will work or not? *sigh* What use is this website any more?

Actually, I'll break it down into two categories: a. What would you do if your boyfriend/or girlfriend's kid beat you up? or b. What would you do if your step-kid (your husband/or wife's kid) beat you up? I'm asking this question because I know a woman who was beaten up by her step-kid.

I have been in counseling for over 2 years and still can't decide whether I should divorce my husband. While in counseling, all of the answers point ot divorce - a no brainer. But when it comes down to doing it my gut feeling tells me its not the right decision. Husband does not want a divorce and is devastated whenever I bring it up. Husband and I both have cheated and as a results I lost all desire to be intimate with him. However we are great friends and companions. I miss the intimacy in my life. We do not have kids. What should I do?

Imagine that you fell into a deep depression like I did 5 years ago. Imagine that everything you once enjoyed was taken away from you by this depression. Now imagine that you want some feelings back in your life like romantic love and lustful obsession. Do you believe faking it and convincing yourself that it is real leads to you actually having those feelings naturally again? I ask this question because I remember hearing a few different stories that make it sound like "faking it until you make it" is real. For an example, I read that an impersonator who did celebrity and cartoon voices did them so frequently that he forgot his own voice and had to go to voice therapy to figure out which voice was his and practice it over and over again until it became natural again.... In another case, you have Bruce Jenner who was born a man and has believed with strong conviction that he is a woman on the inside and he has officially become one (more or less).... In another case, you hear about the gold digger wives who marry rich men hoping they would die and leave them money but then after pretending to love this man they end up GENUINELY falling in love with them before they die. So does this mean that if I fake/act that I am romantically interested in my wife again (out of no where), that eventually I will genuinely be romantically interest in her again? Or do you think that once it is lost it is lost forever? BTW -- You're not going to get a more "I'm the problem" question than this from me. My next question is going to be about my wife and I will continuing my usual of blaming her for everything so I can understand the perspective of people who disagree with me and that could give me insights into myself that I am unable to see myself. For those who aren't believers of it, do you then believe that there's no point in rekindling a relationship when the spark starts to go out? If so, how many divorces have you had? Also, people are mistaking "love" with "romantic love". You can love someone and want to spend your entire life with them but not be romantically involved (ever). I know people don't see it this way but it is true. You can have a complete indifference to it. Trust me, I know this. When I lost my passion to be the pursuer and make her love me, the romantic love went away, but the relationship remained. We didn't need the romance, it was just a fun "extra".

was unsuccessful .would you believe her? the first time she said they had sex she had tears in her eyes it was very sorry for what she did.

Marriage doesn't have a absolute definition. My marriage will no doubt be different than yours. And how we formed that marriage will be even more different. And why we stay married will no doubt be even MORE different. And why you have sex and I don't, even though we do the same things to instigate it, will be different. And why I have fun with my wife and you don't, even though we are doing the same activities, will be different. So does that mean that everything in marriage, or even just in life in general, is a matter of what your frame of mind is versus the matter at hand? I was thinking about this when I was going over my notes on what I've learned about reality. Reality isn't absolute. What is absolute though is that anything you BELIEVE is reality comes true if you believe it with strong conviction. I believed that I was getting sick off of Gluten 2 years ago and my body responded accordingly afterwards; I had a slice of pie with a whole wheat pie crust for dessert one Thanksgiving and I believed I was never gluten poisoned and it was the fact most wheat products aren't whole wheat and I was perfectly fine (despite previously thinking I was Celiac). So could "falling back in love" just be as simple as saying to yourself "I'm in love with this person and I don't need a reason telling me why other than they have been here with me - through my best and my worst"? Is that really all it takes? I really want to retire the "overthinking" but I need a good reason to do it. *******I am using the word "Marriage" interchangeably with the phrase "Relationship with my spouse" like everyone else on here does.

I have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn. I also watch it too, so it doesn't bother me. But I absolutely detest that he watches it in the bathroom when I'm not only home, but awake in the next room. Sometimes, I can even hear him jerking off, so I know it's happening. I've told him I hate it and it makes me extremely uncomfortable, but he continues to do and than lies about doing it too! Am I overreacting? He seems to think so.

Why does Madoka...or ma dong a dong, lie about her marriage, lie on yahoo answers? that poor old goat. ma dong a dong https://answers.yahoo.com/activity/questions?show=PPUOFPAF6HS3HAZF5JAFCIDZX4&t=g So Katie, who posted anonymously, is also related to Ma Dong a Dong....interesting! https://answers.yahoo.com/activity/questions?show=SRSQEG2I3OWUG4JEJ5P554LMC4&t=g&isKP=1

My boyfriend and I got into a petty fight 5 months ago which led him to move out and marry another woman! Well the whole time he was married to her,his wife and mother in law told everyone he left me for her was because I was ABUSIVE! This really hurt because I am a Reverand and Ordrained minister and could ruin my life but more than that....I never abused him in anyway! We have now gotten back together and are working things out. I forgive for the lies because thankfully the rumors didnt get out too far except for his friends and family. My issue is....HIS FAMILY HATES ME! They think I abused him and that he needs to go back to his "wife". The marriage has been annulled and we are back together. How can we get his family to believe that I never did anything to hurt him and never would? Lots of bad decisions were made on his part but they were under duress his ex "wife" was the one who was actually physically and psychologically abusive. For the comments concerning my place in the community as a Reverend...it's true I am. I am not Christian so living with someone before marriage is NOT an issue. I am Pagan. Now that this is been said....continue with the help...I appreciate it! REVEREND* ORDAINED* happy? Jeez I'm upset...give me a break TROLLS He never abused me. I never abused him. I know who he married it was his ex girlfriend who was arrested and in jail several times for ACTUALLY abusing her kids and other husbands. I believe that they used those situations about her to put on me since she already had all the facts. No one was happy he left and married her but lying about why he left obviously helped them get the blessing they needed to be together. People do a lot of stupid things when they angry. Even lie.