Like why would she lol? I'd hit her but she's old for her age. Wrinkles and ****. She ALWAYS starts convos, we stare passionately each other in the eye, extremely hot. Get boners sometimes :). She stands really close to me too lol. she caresses my deltoid muscles(shoulder), gives thorough explanation of any question i have. She's got little kids and a husband. Im like wtf lol

Two months ago my parents told me they were getting a divorce. My brother and I are 19 and 23 and we realized my dad was acting suspicious. We signed into his Facebook account and saw that he was romantically messaging a woman with a very sketchy looking profile. We looked further and saw that she had convinced him to give her over $800 of my parents joint money. I don t want to throw my dad under the bus but at the same time my mom doesn t know and I think she should know these facts for legal reasons. What do we do?

Curious of advice. He is 45 yrs old - Me 41 yrs old - We have been together for years. Bought a home 5 years ago and been though a lot - including my father passing one year ago (who he was so close to). He promised he would never leave. I believed him. We got married last month. Been talking about getting married for years. We were planning a simple, summer wedding. However he wanted to run off and get married last month. It sounded wonderful to me! And it was wonderful. It was absolutely perfect for us. However 5 days later my husband shot himself. I have always feared this, because of things he dealt with inside of himself :( I did not see this coming though. We had just married and had been so happy - saying goofy things to each other and making so many plans. Feeling secure. Now he is gone. What on earth do I do??? I am 41. I am sad and I am also angry. Why would he leave when we have so much together. We are best friends. We are goof balls. We have no children, we have just each other. What do I do. I cannot handle that he is gone, by his choice.

My parents are deciding to seperate. We live in an apartment which they pay nearly 2k. My mom wants to move somewhere near the high school I go to. She makes 500 a week = 2k a month = 24k a year. I worry because she needs to pay for gas, electricity, taxes, water, rent, and food. My parents always split the bill and i worry because we might have to move somewhere cheaper and smaller which would be in a different city or she might be in debt. My mom says the seperation could be temporary but its up to me and my little brother to decide if they should get a divorce (i dont know why). Im just worrying about the money problem/situation. Please help: what should i do? Should i worry? If they get a divorce, will everything be fine with the whole money situation? I just need advice

We have been married for 5 years, but having a relationship since 1999. Lately we are having a lot of arguments mostly about money and the fact that I am not working and I stay home with our daughter who is 7. I am in school trying to get a degree and living off from school loans. I pay for my own gas and I take care of my daughter's needs such as clothes, toys, and gift for birthday parties. Lately I have been asking me to help me cover the expenses for food since we decide to cut off food stamps, and he keeps telling me that since I do not pay for rent and bills, I have to take care for my daughter food. and I should ask for more school loans if I cannot make it with what I have. I am going to a family counselor to see if i can get some help and trying to figure out what it is right, because this situation is putting me down. I know I should participate in some way in the family expenses and I think I amt by being a full time mom (I am the only one in charge with my daughter, he works all day). I have always worked when I found jobs that were ok with my schedule. Now on top of the other things he lately bought a house and he asked o sign a divorce because it would not be fair to his children (he has 3 children from a previous marriage) that I own 50 percent of the house. He thinks that one day I will in same way give more to my daughter. I know we need advice from others because when we try to discuss these issues on our own we always end up fighting!

I m afraid of what people would say and most of all my religious belief. I can' t find a job right now and part of why I stay is for the financial support. I have actually threathen to leave many times but he know that I'm not going anywhere because I' m not really financially stable. He' s not abusive actually he' s a nice person we just have grown apart not to much loving going on and he knows that as well just havern t said it. He will not do any counseling so that's out before you say it. I'm sad most of the time, alone even when he's there just feel empty. I really have tried to be happy and content with just the way things are. I just can't believe we have gotten to this in our life Any suggestion as to how I should or can start over. No I'm not using him for his money when I was working I have helped supported financially just as well. I'm constanly looking for work as well. you are right I don't have the guts... He is suppose to take care of me he took me from my mothers house asked for my hand in marriage so now.

I posted this earlier and there were some assumptions, so I think I would for lack of a better word set some rules or guidelines and based on that hear your answers. 1. Woman has been married once before and divorced, man has never been married. 2. There were no kids from womans marriage and the man has no children either. 3. Man is the type where its death till due us part. Based on those guidelines I look forward to the responses I will get.

I mean you figured it would be the other way around I mean you would learn from your mistakes and do better the second time around right? Okay lets assume for argument sake that neither has any kids from previous or both marriages if both were married.

I met my wife over the internet in 2001. She was 20 and I was 19. We chatted casually due to her shyness & introversion but it wasn't serious at 1st. By the end of summer she bought a webcam and we video chatted. I was a "bad boy" back then and she seemed to enjoy it. On 9/11/01 we met in person, just like Romeo and Juliet, we fell instantly in love. She moved in with me on 11/1/01. I knew nothing of her abusive childhood, we just "winged it" and moved in with each other out of love. By 11/15/01 we found out she was pregnant with our son. We continued to have sex up to the 3rd trimester; at that point I couldn't do it anymore, it freaked me out even though the books said it was safe. I turned to porn and she didn't follow; it was bad for a long time. 2003-2005 was an era of sexual experimentation for us. We both wanted to spice things up so we lived the porn I was watching. We tried it all and I even got her close to having a ffm with me and exploring her bi-curiosity. At some point though she lost her immersion and began withholding sex and complained that all I thought of was sex... I backed off and focused on my career/life. We became "equals" and she said she was "getting stronger"... I've spent 8 years not taking the lead in my relationship. She was supposed to be developing a "self" but in the end she never did. She's still a sheep, and still takes orders... I took the lead again this week but now I'm scared. How do I prevent from taking it too far again? MORE DETAILS --- 5 years ago I lost my job. It was my identity since that was my MAIN focus for 3 years... I suffered a SERIOUS identity crisis and was unemployed for 3 years. During this time, I attempted to be romantic with my wife. I called her "my flower" and tried to flatter her and to "love her", but she was a different woman then. She had friends and her own, and she was poisoned with feminism... It took a long time to rekindle the relationship I left behind to support the family... EVEN MORE DETAILS --- 2 years ago I started working with her. It was... awkward... I didn't want to pick up where we left off before I lost my job, but I didn't want to keep treating her like a "flower" if she was really a "strong, independent woman" like she said she was... I start to ask for help, to get to know my bride. I got therapy but after 3 months of twice a week sessions they needed her perspective to go forward; she was unwilling to open up to why she was being combative/difficult. More --- We tried marriage counseling since that was my ultimatum and during 3 sessions the only thing she was that there's no problem with her and that it was all my fault that things are the way they are. She didn't give any details on WHY she thought so, she just said that it is all in my head... I got desperate and came here for advice... 1600 questions later and I've tried wooing her, giving her space, working twice as hard, giving her roses, and even just ignoring her. Nothing worked... Last --- There seemed to be a power struggle going on but I didn't understand what it was. No matter how much I talked to her, she just couldn't tell me what she wanted that she wasn't getting. She seemed upset, but she didn't have a reason to be any more. It was like she was holding a grudge but didn't know why... It was nonsensical!!! Pure emotional and was just this way out of routine... I took charge and now things seem better, but now I'm scared of going through ALL OF THAT AGAIN........... There seems to be some confusion about my question. What I want to know is how to not take my leading too far if she is UNWILLING to communicate her feelings until it is too late? As I said to Hurricain in comment: I need to know how to not take the sex, romance, love, and fun too far. She only wants control over her hobbies and free time; everything else it seems she's giving up to me. She wants to play follow the leader, as long as she is safe and not to blame if anything goes wrong.

My wife is a CYA (cover your a**) kind of girl. At work, she has a copy of EVERY email our executives gave her as proof in case someone goes emotional and tries to pin blame on her. This is her strategy for everything actually. Even when she wants to do something that she knows is socially unacceptable (like spending money on herself when her friends believe all money should be spent on your kids), she asks me and when I tell her "go for it" she uses it as a reserved reason/excuse if someone gives her crap.... It's a very bizarre form of control really; she wants someone else to take the fall so she can be in control of her accountability/responsibilities... By my understanding, this creates a comfort zone for her since she knows that she is safe (emotionally) from anyone abusing her on "why she did that"; if she got someone's permission to do it, then they take the fall if anything negative goes down, and she takes the compliment if anything positive comes up. No doubt this is a perfectionist/OCD thing but that's another discussion... So she has this comfort zone. And there are some things she will just NEVER ask for permission to do because she feels ashamed for wanting it - like dressing slutty or dressing romantic. She believes it is her role to be mediocre so she can be "basic" and not stand out from her crowd. But if I force her to do it, she will use me as an excuse and enjoy every minute of it.... Is this my role in my marriage? To push her out of her comfort zone? STOP MOVING THIS TO GENDER STUDIES. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME AND THE FACT A GENDER STUDIES EVEN EXISTS IS SEXIST TO ASSUME EVERYONE IN THE SAME GENDER ACTS/BEHAVES THE SAME WAY. EVEN ANTHROPOLOGISTS WOULD SAY THAT NOT ALL WOMEN ARE IDENTICAL!!!! ****Update**** - It was mentioned that my wife's CYA attitude is not a comfort zone thing, it IS a fear thing. I agree 100% with that. She does not take ANY risks. 58 degrees outside? Better wear a jacket, I don't want to get sick. Ice glazed roads? Paid day off. Social communication? Better be politically correct to keep peace/harmony? Need an opinion? Repeats textbooks. Out to dinner? Underdress to avoid attention. Invited to a wedding? Wait for husband to force me to dress up, else blend in.

Okay, so against popular Y!A advice, I've decided to make some changes in my relationship with my wife after a retarded fight on Saturday over not buying milk when we ran out for coffee on Friday (she doesn't do ANY of the shopping so it is my fault). So after her blowing up on me and making a friend who was visiting feel so uncomfortable that she had to leave, I decided Sunday morning that I needed to start taking charge in my relationship or else there would be NOTHING left and we would separate. This had very odd and profound results... If you don't follow my questions, my wife is an emotional and perfectionist control freak. You wouldn't know this though because she hides her feelings so they can't be manipulated (girl problems). Lately, I have been an overly logical person who is indifferent or just flat out uncaring. We've been in a 9 year stalemate in the romance, sex, fun, and love department. She wants her way, I want my way; but neither of us were willing to DEMAND it since we valued peace/harmony too much... So Sunday I made a change. I pursued her (against my will) and we had sexual relations. I've also exposed her to sexual things (things she's been avoiding) to encourage her to take the mindset back on. In exchange for her compliance, I was going to try to be much nicer to her. I didn't expect her to comply, but she did. Today, after 3 days of mutual compliance, we are actually doing really well. But why? Is it the sex? Or is it because I took charge (alpha)? STOP MOVING THIS TO GENDER STUDIES. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME AND THE FACT A GENDER STUDIES EVEN EXISTS IS SEXIST TO ASSUME EVERYONE IN THE SAME GENDER ACTS/BEHAVES THE SAME WAY. EVEN ANTHROPOLOGISTS WOULD SAY THAT NOT ALL WOMEN ARE IDENTICAL!!!!

I don't want my husband to take care of my daughter. He just got detox from drug abuse and now hes ok but he seems to not wanting our marriage anymore. So if we have a divorce what are the the chances for us?

My wife decided we need to eat better and proceeded to empty our entire pantry, minus a few items. So I'm a smidge annoyed she just threw away hundreds of dollars worth of food... feel free to use this question as your sound board

My husband .. Is driving me nuts.. I feel like I'm going to snap..He is going the house telling me I should put things where they belong .. like the pantry.. I don't put the flour where it belongs .. he goes into the restroom after my son to see if he wipes down .. if he leaves a hair he goes and tells him to wipe it up.. He's rude about it.. I do clean up after my self .. he inspects everying.. the comments I just can't take it..... I need some advise

I have not kept her from him at all, he hasn't even tried now he has gone to mediation. I do not trust him he is emotionally abusive and i do not trust his partner i fear for my daughters safety if he gets care he has 3 kids to her and he doesn't care about them, she is telling him to do it out of spite to me. Any advice on how mediation works and what i do not have to agree on? What happens with supervised visits? I am stressing so much! He is a manipulator, liar and cheater. He is mentally unstable severely depressed and tried to commit infront of his kids he also abuses marijuana please help? Also can i move away if there are no court orders in place?

I feel that the signs may be present but at the same time things may not be what they seem. For instance, my husband and I broke up for 4 months and got back together in november. He began hiding his phone from me 2 months ago and I went through it in april to see what he was hiding. I found that he was using a dating app and was talking to at least 8 different girls. They weren't saying anything inappropriate. Only real issue is that he was being sneaky talking to these women. After I let him know that I saw what he was doing he deleted the app and we moved on. Well, he continued hiding his phone after and would log out of things like his SnapChat and email accounts. It makes me feel like he is still talking to other girls.He says he isnt and that he just wants his privacy on his phone. I give that to him. Now we have a work trip coming up and his best friend who is a male will be tagging along for the season. My husband out of the blue suggested that I should stay while he and his friend go to work and leave me at home and that he wants to take his friend on a vacation to New York with him although he and I discussed taking a trip to New York as a married couple. When I mentioned to him that we were supposed to go together he said that he feels it would be funner with his friend and that he thinks I'm going to dampen things. My feelings are hurt but Im not sure what to think of any of this. Before we broke up he was not the cheating type.. Now I'm questioning him..

His wife on paper is over 1K miles away with their small army of kids. We've talked, argued and the time just keeps ticking? All adult parties (her,him & me) are aware and have been for the 10 years. it just seems I'm the only one growing tired of this mess! What would you do? Is is pack up and go time, ultimatum or if it isn't broke don't fix it?

I got engaged exactly one month before my wedding, which did not occur until I was 40. My husband asked me for a divorce 2 weeks after the honeymoon. I only got to wear my beautiful engagement ring, the almost ring of my dreams, for 7 weeks and my wedding band for 3 weeks. My ex and I can't stand each other, so it has nothing to do with sentimental value. It's just that it is the only nice piece of jewelry I have ever owned and probably will ever own. I am single and I don't want to turn off other men. Do women ever do this as a sign of "I am divorced" or does it send the wrong message? Thank you!

She is mad and won't talk to me anymore, I have no idea what to do We have been dating 8 weeks, but she never made me an exclusive boyfriend, i got frustrated. So i started dating others, so she accidentally heard me making out with this girl in my car cause my phone butt dialed. She is furious and mad at me. But she told me "until i sit you down and tell you not to date others, you can do whatever you want" But she never sat me down, in fact, I don't even know where she lives or who her friends are after 8 weeks.

I've always had many friends but never relationships. Most of my friendships are with other women but I'd say I have about 6 male friends. I've never been in a relationship. I wound up meeting the man I am currently with. Very attractive, great chemistry, great sex. People say FWB but I wouldn't call us that because we aren't even friends. If we're not having sex, he doesn't want to see me. I know that we aren't anything and I have no expectations of him so when he does anything, it means a great deal. Something as simple as saying text me so I know you got home safe or how was your day? In my head I say, wow he's talking to me about something not sex-related. He's said nasty things about women to me and that he never wants a girlfriend. He sees me about 4 times a week. It's not like I'm blowing off other guys to be with him, no one else has come my way. If a nice guy wanted to be with me, I wouldn't be with the person I'm with. I like that hes there when I want him all the time. If I ask something of him, he does it. But he does lie often and is manipulative. People tell me I deserve better and that I'm too good of a person to be with someone who treats me the way he does. but I just feel like something better won't come for a long time and I've been single for 21 years. Being with him isn't great but it's better than being alone.

Hi everyone umm I'm in some serious need of advice! So I've been with my husband for about 5 years, we had a kid after only about 2 weeks of knowing each other because we fell madly in love blah blah..anyway our entire relationship was a bit rocky because I suffer from Bi-polar 2 disorder and he sometimes goes through binge drinking periods. SO, down to the nitty griddy..the other day he confessed to me that he had lusful thoughts about my 18 year old sister (I'm 22.) Admitted to masterbating thinking about her sometimes when he was really drunk but he swears he never ever flirted or tried to come on to her. (she use to live with us and our kids for about a year) He said he was sorry but in my bi-polar fit I started hounding him with questions. One question I was hounding him with was did you secretly love my sister or something and he was like yah. The next day he said that he thought about it and he wasn't in love with her but he just had bad thoughts sometimes and he was just guilty in his heart for that but he would never cheat. He later told my mom that he was just infatuated but would never act on it. That confuses me because how can you be infatuated with someone and not even flirt? I asked my sister about it and she said he never was weird or creepy to her only brotherly wanted her But still im confused because its all weird and creepy and surprising to me** Mogas..lol h admitted to it because when I get manic because of the bi polar I ask a lot of questions and pick his brain because I get insecure. and he claims he never wanted to hump her just had thoughts of it but its not wat he really wanted. yah confusing right?

He is letting all his friends hit it making videos to use in divorce settlement, and internet slut shaming. Telling will ruin a 20 year friendship. I know he is wrong but this breaks all the bro codes. She is a total whore though, and a bit of a b itch.

I have been married to my husband for almost 3 years now. We have a 2 year old toddler. I can't deal with him anymore. Every little thing I do angers him and he has no patience at all! He admitted once that he hates it when people are slow and I know I am not the fastest at doing things. The thing is sometimes he slaps me or hits me on my head when we have an argument. I am not working currently. He bought a car but he uses it, I never use it because I never ask because he always gets mad for everything so I got used to not asking him for anything. We live with his parents so that's even more stressing. I really want a job but I'm having a very hard time finding one. I can only work 4pm-10pm everyday because that's my schedule. Husband goes in at 5am until 2 pm so I would like to leave our toddler with him when I go to work(I have no one else to leave her with.) And I don't trust babysitters and my toddler has separation anxiety so she wont stay with a stranger. The thing is I cannot take this anymore I want to leave him but I want to take my toddler with me. I need adive in what to do because I am so sad and depressed. I really want to study but he brings me down about it so I have no support.

I'm 23 yes old have a 30 yr old fiance we been together four years. Alot of ups and downs from abuse, homelessand much more together. I have a one yr old ddaughter by him. And he's been in jail four times since we've been together currently in now. I've been saving for a apartment and I'm not willing to use the money I've worked hard for to get him a lawyer. He's mad about but my mother and his mother agree with me. He agrues with me about it but I'm not willing to be set back cause he ended up in jail again. My mother doesnt think I should be with him. I know he's a good man just had a rough up bringing and I know he truly needs medical help for his problems Ilove him with all tthat's in me otherwise I wouldn't have been with him this long but I know every relationship sometimes run its course I'm torn cause I want him to get help but iI don't know if he's gonna change. I don't know if I'm wasting my time or know if there's a chance that if he gets help he'll do better. Any advice or anyone else going through this help please.

DIVORCED ADVANTAGES? I am a single male in my mid 30's I know a lot of woman my age are divorced. Are there any advantages to dating someone and possible marry someone that has been married and divorced before. Please explain. Thanks

Just as the question states, my ex-wife moved out back in 2011 and we finally divorced last year. In fact, I'm certain she moved out of state since 2011. The electric bill was in her name, but I never changed it to my name and simply left it in her name to maintain the status quo. In fact, she even knew I was continuing to pay it in her name, but she was perfectly fine with that. The tricky part is the electric company doesn't know that we're divorced. So the question is: If my ex knows I've gone on paying the bill in her name rather than transfer it into my name, the bill has consistently been paid on time ever since, and there's been essentially no other issues, would the company itself have any problems if they knew I had been paying it in my ex's name? Or wouldn't they care, so long as someone has been paying it? I have to move within a month and I'm thinking I may just close the account and then reopen it from scratch in my name. I don't want to transfer it.

I like to stay fit and am passionate about starting to body build some. but every time I go to gym my husband get upset he want me to stay home.I usually go when the kids aren't here so he doesn't have to watch them I ask him all the time to come with me and he refuses. what is going on with him. I told him to take that time and do something for his self but he'd rather me be here at home.

I have a 15 year old son. His father and I never married but we co-parent alright since we broke up when my son was 7. We're supposed to have 50/50 custody but my son has refused to stay with me for awhile. His dad encourages him to see me on the weekends but he refuses to come over if my husband is around. My son and my husband DO NOT get along. I try to honor his requests and take him out to dinner but then my husband gets mad for caving into him. This has caused a lot of problems with my husband to the point I fear we are on the verge of divorce. My son is still very angry at me as he feels I chose my husband over him. We have been going to family counseling but even the counselor said it is best that my son lives with his dad. My husband thinks my son is manipulating and blackmailing me to get him out of my life. I'm really hurt. I want to make everyone happy, I love my husband and son and I hate having to choose between them and I feel like I royally screwed and am a bad mother for trying to be happy. Sorry this is more a vent than a question but any advice is appreciated.