Family: Question: A question about my child s father. I need honest opinions no arguments.?

Question: A question about my child s father. I need honest opinions no arguments.?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:28 PM PDT

the father of my child showed up for the birth then left an hour after and didn t see him again till his first birthday party. I asked him to come early and help decorate. He showed up like 5 min after it started then left before it was over. Hasn t seen him since. At that time I was living in Illinois and him in Ohio. I took my sons father to court to set custody and child support. He refused to show up because it was too long of a drive. I won sole custody, his visitations are held on reserve, and he is to pay child support. He refuses to pay the child support because he s too broke. (It s 100 every other week, I feel that s pretty good compared to some) well now my son is now 15 months old and I moved back to Ohio to go to school. I hadn t heard from him since his first birthday party. Now that I m nearby he keeps begging to see my son but won t help financially at all! Which I know isn t what s important, a son needs a father. But I told him I wasn t staying here forever. I plan to finish school and settle down in indiana where I feel he ll just refuse to visit again because of distance. Honestly he has no visitation with him and I have sole custody. I feel bad saying no to letting him see our son but I don t want him to walk into his life when it s convenient for him then just leave my son wondering in the future why his father did that. So I guess some opinions might help me make my decision.

Question: Parents are way too overprotective??

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:20 PM PDT

So today I went to help my friend look for her dog (friend I've known for five years) and we went with her step dad. I thought we were driving around my neighborhood then he decided to go get us ice cream. I just went because I didn't wanna be rude and I get home and my parents are literally SCREAMING at me because I went with her step dad and not her mom and they "don't know him" which he's been there for 2 years he's super nice! I can't even believe this. Tomorrow I was gonna get to go swimming for the first time in months (again: I'm not aloud to swim often because they're lazy and overprotective) and now I'm not! I was looking forward to it UGH. God I'm so mad please help what do I do

Question: Broke my deceased mamas lamp Please help?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:03 PM PDT

So my deceased nanas lamp fell off of my unit And my dad has always told me to be careful with it and not to break it but , we were moving stuff into my room and if fell of and the glass that is in it smashed. I don't know how to tell my dad. I was going to tell my mum first but she won't answer her phone please help

Question: Parents are WAYYYY too overprotective PLEASE HELP?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:56 PM PDT

My parents are so overprotective. Today I hung out with my friend a lot and they kept texting me every 5 minutes asking what I was doing. My friend lost her dog so I got in the car with her step dad (I know him pretty well and known her and her mom for 5 years) and we drove around my neighborhood looking for him. I told my parents this: "I m going with Ava and her dad to help her look for her dog" and they re like "ok." But then he decided to drive to UDF (I DIDNT KNOW HE WOULD) and get us ice cream to be nice. Then **** goes down. I see my dads car drive past UDF and my heart dropped. Thankfully I hid so he didn t see me.. We got ice cream and went home but my dad seems very angry. He was like "WHY WERE U GONE SO LONG BLAH BLAH" " I tried to explain I didn t know he would go to UDF but he s all mad and I m frustrated because I had a fun day but NOW he s ruining it. My dad even blocks websites on our wifi even if they re not inappropriate (such as isitnormal.com) ugh I m done. Pls help

Question: What parent should i live with?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:31 PM PDT

My parents are in a divorce and one of them will move far far away so i can just live with one of them because of school and stuff. It's a hard decision cause i dont know whats worse.. My dad: Never hugs me or says anything nice, his never showing that he cares about me. His doing this thing called trading, it's like gambling but it's his only job, his becoming really broke and can't afford paying the bills anymore. My mom: Is a fanatical Christian who dosen't take responsibility cause she thinks God will fix life for her. She constantly lies, and dosen't care about that my brother never goes to elementary school. Both my parents have been diagnosed with NPD, i do not write this to be disrespectful, i seriously can't decide what's the best choice is. Only awnser I'm asking for is Mom/Dad, thank you.

Question: Who would have custody of me if my father was abusive?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:09 PM PDT

Hi, I'm fifteen, and throughout my life my father has been mildly abusive to me and my mother, and if we ever tried to have him arrested for it, he would probably hurt us. I can tell my mom wants to divorce him, but she knows that if she did he would hurt us. If I myself, not my mother, contacted the police about my father being this way, who would get custody of me? Would my mom, or could my grandmother? or would I be sent to be adopted? Things he's done is smack me with belt when I was little, which has caused my tailbone to hurt every time I sit down, tripped me with a dog lead which caused a really bad friction burn on my ankles, and I have a cut on my finger that needed stitches, he says it was an accident but due to his past, it seems like it wasn't. My mom has called the police on him once or twice when he was being abusive, but it was a while back. His brother also has a history of being abusive to family, so idk if that would have any impact on that.

Question: Help with abusive parents?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:08 PM PDT

I am 18 now but I have younger siblings who are being treated the same way I was. I am a good kid I had straight As in high school but my mom and her boyfriend would always use the "rebellious teen" card against me to put the blame on me and it worked as I've had DCF involved before and have called the cops on them numerous times and had nothing happen. However, her bf was arrested in early 2016 for domestic abuse when he hit my mom. My siblings are 15, 4, and 1. My mom and her bf work all night and sleep all day. When I lived with them, I would help out but i'm no longer living with them and every time I come to visit the babies hair are matted, they have full diapers, and are usually in the dark most hours of the day. If they are awake and hungry their dad tells them to shut up and locks them in the dark room with him while he continues to sleep until 5 oclock in the afternoon. When he is up he gets high and stays on the porch while the kids sit in the house by themselves. My four year old sibling also has very bad eczema that he is prescribed ointment for, and they neglect to put it on him & i've seen him to the point of bleeding from his skin being so raw and dry. My 15 year old sibling does not help out as he is a troubled kid and sleeps all day & is on probation. I am just not sure what I can do, what are my options when i've had previous experience with DCF and cops not doing anything about it? I wish I could take them all in but I am not financially stable atm.

Question: My uncle asked me to a baseball game but I am scared to go. What do I do?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:07 PM PDT

He scares me

Question: How can I get my former aunt to like me so her kids will?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:03 PM PDT

She is divorced from my uncle who left her for selfish reasons. However she has taught her kids who are my cousins to hate all of their Dads family. They won't come to anything or see us again. They were my only cousins on that side of the family. I don't care if the former aunt likes me or not but I want my cousins to like me again like the old days.

Question: Should I be embarrassed about being spanked growing up?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:55 AM PDT

I grew up in a great home. My family is incredibly caring and would always be there for me when I needed them. However, now that I have left home and am off to college, I have been feeling my past becoming more present in my mind. There are a number of times when all I can think about is if I did enough to make my parents proud. And some of that brings up memories of the things that didn't make them proud, things that warranted punishment like spanking. I haven't told a sole at school about them and very few friends even know about them. They do embarrass me quite a bit, but I feel it's something I need to get off of my chest. What should I do?

Question: When did it become embarrassing for your parents to see you naked?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:43 AM PDT

Was it different for mom and dad?

Question: What exactly are sisters in law jealous of?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:42 AM PDT

I hear this a lot - what is it that they're jealous of? Especially if they have their own husbands. Most wives don't have a problem with the SIL (we often get excited with another friend/shopping buddy) UNLESS they have mean girl attitudes. My man's sister was never a fan from the beginning. She tried to break us up, found many ways to exclude me, ran a smear campaign to her family that I was excluding her when my boyfriend and I would go on dates (this was a week in). This also sounds weird but it's like she's obsessed with me too (I know, sorry!) It sounds conceited but I can't help but feel that she wants to be me but way better. I noticed she compared herself alot to me. Through the years, I've kept distance. Recently, when things would be okay, I would give the green light to my man to hang out with her (together) but I find her behavior to be immature. In our presence, she would whisper in her husband's ear in front of us and once I caught them motioning behind my back, as a I turned around. They'll speak quietly near us and start laughing - intimidation tactics. I don't feel comfortable around people like this. She also likes to give smirks, especially around moments when I'm genuinely happy, myself, or put in embarrassing/awkward moments. My man has already spoke with her in the beginning but of course she won't change. I've been advised to "elevate" and ignore but I'm an empath - i'm naturally kind and it angers me how childish she is. I love & respect myself but I don't think I'm better than anyone at all. I don't even think I'm above her but she seems to have a superiority complex with me. I don't care who you are and your status in life - if you are respectful, I will respect you. Not everyone will be as mannered, confident, or positive but I find it disheartening she continues to act this way. My man has really pleaded with me to not give her any attention, especially with her antics. So WHY and what is she jealous of?

Question: Bad situation with my parents...Help?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:38 AM PDT

Ok, so my Dad was using my phone because there was a problem with my cellular data, so he needed to call my phone company. While he was doing so, he saw that there were a few cancelled calls with some random person (who I DON'T know) So it was like: -I butt-dialed someone random, they didn't answer -they tried calling me back -I didn't recognize the number, so I tried calling them, they didn't answer And now my Dad thinks I was trying to call someone I met online or something. But I am innocent, and I don't want my parents believing that I'm lying to them. If I told them the truth, they probably wouldn't believe me and I would be grounded for lying and my parents would want to moniter my computer usage (which is totally creepy). What should I do?? Have any better excuses that could work? Please help!!

Question: Super sensitive to loud noise?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:34 AM PDT

just anything that's moderately loud. A plate being placed on a ceramic table, my dad's voice (when he talks on the phone, it sounds like he's on speaker), door slamming, putting a pan on the stove loudly, yelling, screaming, etc. i get really stressed out and idk why. i get enough sleep i think.

Question: My parents are always forcing me to go to events and places where I don't want to go to.?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:15 AM PDT

SO I'm 16 and I recently started summer break. The problem is that ever since I started summer break, my parents are taking me to wherever they want to go. For example, last week on Monday they had a party at work and they said if I didn't go I would be grounded. It was basically me talking to adults about what high school I go to and my grades. It was really boring. And then my parents took me to their work for the rest of the week. The most annoying part about it is the fact that my 17 year old brother is always home, while i'm the one always going to work with my parents. I have no choice to stay home, and whenever I go to work with my parents there is nothing to do but to just stand around and be on my phone. Can someone give me advice on how I can convince my parents to let me stay home and not have to go to work with them everday?

Question: My boyfriend considers himself a 'self-made' man, but he clearly got help from his parents?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:03 AM PDT

Both me and my bf are 26, and he is very well-off of his own accord (he started a tech startup and also invests in real estate). However, what bothers me is that he considers himself a self-made man. I admit, he did earn MOST of his money by himself, but he did have a fair bit of help from his parents. We've known each other since we were kids, and I can think of many examples when they shelled out loads of cash for him: - They paid for expensive high school ECs - They paid his entire college tuition at a prestigious private university - They paid for a year of world travel following college - They gave him thousands of dollars in seed money On one hand, I appreciate he used his parent's money to learn as much as possible, (his goal is to become a true renaissance man) but he genuinely believes he's a self-made man, while he clearly isn't. How can I convince him he isn't?

Question: I am 16 yrs old and is it ok for my mom to be dumping all of her troubles (relationship, financial, etc) on me? I really help, please.?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 11:03 AM PDT

It's every week she talks to me about how she isn't sure how to afford the house, the car, etc because she won't be getting the alimony money next year; she constantly reminds me of how the only reason ends meet is because of the child support money. From there, she is constantly going out, just to complain about how the guy was too tall, too gangster, etc. She comes back late all the time, but when I come home late, once in a blue moon, she blows up(I hardly ever step outside the house)She tells me that I'm a horrible sister because I'm always mean to my little brother who has VERY MILD adhd. He plays 18 hours a day on video games and comes out violent and orders me around, so yes, I snap, and so then he goes crying to mom. She blows his disorder out of proportion, says he has no ability to be mean or lie; she has told me to give into him because he's taller than me and 200 lbs, so it's my fault if he puts me in the emergency room. Nonethless, my mom will buy him a brand new gaming system, but will shame me for wanting a $10 shirt. I have tried so hard to tell her that I can't handle this anymore and her response is "then I will have to just treat you like a kid, I won't let you go to your friends house, I won't let you stay up till midnight, and I won't let you have your phone"(mind she has never had such restrictions for my brother)Idk what to do, she burdens me with everything in her life, but when I have one small complaint she blows up and can't handle it. Is this ok?

Question: How do u tell a child they were conceived by rape?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 10:50 AM PDT

When I was a teen my mom let a lot of bad people around me I had my son when I was only 13 years old his father is his my half brother my mom has been watching my kids and has been spilling the beans about who his real father is I don't think a child that is only 6 should know yet. I also have a 2 year old daughter I was molested by my stepdad I had her at 17 I lost custody at only 2 months old because I had post partum depression I could not get custody back because no one believed my story not even dcfs worker he is getting too close to my daughter and I am afraid for her safety she is even calling him dad a rapist can not be a dad.

Question: Is there a way to make your spouse less picky about food?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:59 AM PDT

He likes limited foods and limited textures. I can't slow cook for him, because everything is too soggy. Proteins need to be seared and crispy. A lot of the time he just goes and orders something, but I worry for his health. Is there something, a mental exercise for example that can help someone relax their grip on their food?

Question: How do I get my brother to stop running around naked with his girlfriend when I am home?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:43 AM PDT

Question: My sister was arrested in 2006 for filing a false police report against our Dad in a fight they had (she was 15). How do I use this?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:31 AM PDT

How might I use this to my own advantage to get something? Since she'd be embarrassed of it now but is not a pleasant person I want to use it to my advantage to manipulate her. I just learned the story this weekend as I was at college when it happened.

Question: How do I deal with my grandma?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:24 AM PDT

So I'm 11 and my grandma comes over to my house every summer for the whole summer. I used to be cool with it until I realized how mean she can be. She's naive, nagging, really uptight, she doesn't seem to accept anyone that doesn't act like her, impatient, she's a serious Hypocrite, she's really controlling, and part of her mind seems to be stuck in the 60's, saying stuff like "you should act more like a young lady and sit properly" or "you need to learn more table manners" (which I do have manners, I was just eating cake with no one else around except my grandma at my computer desk) and she seems kind of sexist, saying that "men can't do this, women are better at this, women shouldn't have to do this, etc" and when I tell her anything to object to what she says, she just starts yelling at me saying she is right and I should argues less and to stop being so smart with her.. Whenever I say something about something bugging me like the kids at my school, cussing a-z, calling people names (including me) like f***** and n*****, (which are the two words I will not just sit around and listen to) she just says something along the lines of that's how kids are you can't change it deal with it. She also called me a bit** and a smart***Overall she's annoying. Just how do I deal with her?

Question: My younger cousin thinks she is better then me and I am tired of it.?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:19 AM PDT

Me and my younger cousin have a very tight relationship, we are very close and talk to each other every day. Lately though, she has been acting very childish. She has been mentioning frequently how she ll get taller then me and how her bust size is bigger even though she s younger. And what really got on my nerves today was when she mentioned how she s higher ranked in a game we both play, but she has an unfair advantage, spending $50+ to get better items. My cousin has seriously been try harding to be better then me in every little way. I ve noticed that she always thought of herself as better then me before but I ignored it because she can get really defensive and I don t want to deal with being the bad guy. I want to confront her now because it s become a noticeable problem but I don t know how to get through her head that she needs to stop.

Question: How to convince my parents for a phone?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:13 AM PDT

I m a sophomore at high school and almost everyone i know has a mobile phone,tablet,ipod e.t.c of their own but me. Don t get me wrong we have 3 tablets but me and my siblings are suppose to share them 1 of them is broken the other 1is simply useless just for reading leaving just one which basically my little sisters own. My brother has got his own laptop and xbox and he s younger than me. I would really like to have a phone on my own because it feels awkward waiting for your turn to text your friend but my parents aren t willing at all. I tried all the techniques and tricks to try and convince from doing chores to getting top grades to even save up .I m even willing to go for phone without a sim at least i can get some privacy while texting my friends but my parents just don t understand it at all. My mom said she ll think about it once I go in practical life and get a job after college until then just stick to letting your sister s go through all your text concersations with your BFF and say them out loud which is really embarrassing...Ahhh please help! How should I get my parents to see my point of view and get me a phone?

Question: My girlfriend doesn't have a good relationship with her own mom?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 09:10 AM PDT

Hello everyone. My girlfriend is very different from her mother. Her mom is very illiberal and narrow-minded whereas my girlfriend wide-ranged on the levels of intelligence and willing to respect and/or accept behaviour or opinions different from her own. They're Ukranian but has a residence permit in Denmark (Scandinavian country) because the mother is married to a Danish fellow and my girlfriend will be attending the university soon. For what I've heard, the mother has been brought up under difficult conditions and due to the traditional way of carrying those kinds of methods on, that's exactly what has happened. When they get into a huge fight (and they often do) she could pull my girlfriend's hair, call her bad names or even throw her out of the house. I don't think this is okay, and she doesn't do it while I'm around. Since the mother is very illiberal and "always right", my girlfriend can't argue with her even though she's very good at it, because if she starts, it will turn into a war. When my girlfriend does something that's not how it's supposed to be done - like making small flaws with cooking, setting the table correctly, cleaning up in a proper way, do the things that her mother expects her to do - her mother is shouting at her and tells her that she's wrong about everything, and that it's the fault of the upbringing from my girlfriend's fathers side. From my conversations with her mother I have tried to figure out how to find a common ground when talking to her. 1/2

Question: Is this wrong ?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 08:32 AM PDT

My sister is having a bad mornin she wants to lay in bed the rest of the day and cuddle with me. She's feeling sad right now. Is it wrong for us to cuddle. Im 27 shes 14

Question: Do you agree with Hillary? Is in nonsense to consider the possibility that Bill may be a pedophile ????

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 08:27 AM PDT

Question: Petty or understandly hurt? Help?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 07:11 AM PDT

I m asking this here because I m too ashamed to ask people I know about this issue because I feel it s petty however my feelings are still hurt over this situation. My boyfriend s sister follows ALL his exes on all social media platforms. We have been together for 4 years and are about to be married. His sister follows his 3 exes. I feel hurt and betrayed about this but also feel it s petty since it s just social media. Am I being petty or am I right to feel hurt?

Question: My sister is a mean and cowardly bully. How do I show the world how bad she is so they don't fall victim to her like I have?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 07:06 AM PDT

Question: Why might it be that my Mom's family blames me for a horrific crime she committed?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 07:05 AM PDT

My mother was sick and evil, maybe both. When I was 9 she killed my 5 year old sisters and herself. I was with my Dad at a baseball game for the day and we came home and found them. I am now 31. I have tried for years and my Dad tried for years to keep me connected to her family but my grandmother was the only one who would stay close to me. She was wonderful and we stayed close. Everyone else (my Mom's siblings, father, step-mother, and my cousins) have wanted nothing to do with me. As her son I fear they think I am as bad as she was. I have had a longing my whole life to relate to them but had to give up come my mid-twenties. Her siblings are her father and step-mother's children so they had no relation to my Granny. I have seen my Mom's family twice since her death and they were cordial but brief. One was when my grandfather died and one was at a reunion a cousin of hers invited me to three years ago. My step-grandmother requested not to have a funeral so there was no funeral when she died last year and I'd only met her twice. So why is it that they want nothing to do with me? Might they blame me and think I as a 9 year old should have seen it coming? Could it be because I am close to my Dad as his only child? My parents divorced right before the crime my mother committed but my Mom was the one who wanted the divorce (my Dad wanted to work things out). So why might this be and how do I fix the shame I feel at them rejecting me due to my Mom's horrible crime?

Question: My teenage son's girlfriend slaps him across the face when he objectifies women. Is it wrong for her to do so?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 04:40 AM PDT

My son is 17, the same age as the girl he's dating. Maybe he's in that age group, but often he'll talk about girls based on their appearance, their body, etc. and call a girl ***** without thinking. I have scolded him for it, but he never pays attention. But lately what's happening is that the girl he's dating has set a rule with him that whenever you objectify a girl like that, I'll slap you in the face to give you a taste of how embarrassing it is for the girl. He laughed it off initially, but last week they were both at our breakfast table and he began a story about a girl who was annoying and called her a *****. His girlfriend cut him off mid-sentence with such a sharp slap you could see her fingerprints on his left cheek. My son looked down, intensely embarrassed at recognising he had been punished by his gf in front of his mother in the most humiliating way possible. She put a hand under his chin, and said 'Look at me, honey" WHen he did, she said, this will happen every time you objectify a girl. Enough is enough.' His eyes watered up, but she still said 'Crying won't save you. Behaving yourself will.' What bothered me was she seemed to be punishing him like a mother would punish a naughty boy, and I, his mother, was right there, while his gf was doing the disciplining. Even though he has dramatically reduced that sort of language, I feel my boy's poor face shouldn't have been slapped by the girl. Am I right?

Question: RE-ASKING: mom wont let me have a baby..?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 04:35 AM PDT

Im re asking this question because people are not reading it fully and accusing me of wanting to bring a baby into a family that cant afford it. Im ready, my mom wont let me. She wont let me move out or work normal shifts. This is all my mom Okay so i am 20 years old, last time i had a pregnancy scare (17 going on 18) my mom wasnt gonna let me keep it. She said she would either go for another year of guardianship of me or custody of the baby so she can give it up for adoption..i can understand that now since i was only a teen back then. But now im 20 and scared if i get pregnant she will do the same thing since im not living with my boyfriend and i dont make enough money to support a baby (her fault. She wont let me work normal shifts. Basically forces me to watch my 3 year old brother because she doesnt want him in daycare)

Question: Was I too rude to my dad's ex? Should I apologize?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 02:53 AM PDT

I'm 18 now, but my dad dated this woman from the time I was 8 to the time I was 11. They were pretty serious and my dad even almost proposed to her, but she cheated on him and he found out about it so they broke up. He later said that he thinks she may have been cheating throughout the entire relationship. It really broke his heart and honestly, I've held a huge grudge against her all these years because I saw how much she hurt my dad. I hadn't talked to or seen her at all since she and my dad broke up 7 years ago, but I ran into her while shopping yesterday. I tried to just avoid her and leave the store, but she saw me before I had the chance and started small talking. First, she sucked up to me and said, "oh my goodness!! You're so grown up and gorgeous!!!" Then she asked me how my dad is doing, and I told her that he was "doing great, being successful, and thriving" (which is the truth). We didn't talk for long because I told her I was in a rush and had to go. That's when she said "it was nice to see you" and I sarcastically replied, "I wish I could say the same" and walked away. She seemed very shocked and offended when those words left my mouth. By the way she'd been acting, I don't think she knew that I knew what she'd done to my dad before I was rude to her. Now I can't quit feeling bad about what I said. It's 5 AM right now and I'm awake feeling guilty because I'm not used to being mean like that. Should I message her on Instagram or something and apologize?

Question: I think I am in a codependent situation, how can I resolve this?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:59 AM PDT

Just a quick background - in high school I was living with my dad and brother. My mom had divorced my dad years before and was living with her new boyfriend and my younger brother. Then, I didn't get accepted to college like I thought I was going to which really disappointed me. My mom and her boyfriend was always rocky and they broke up for good. So my mom lived with my aunt temporarily and then moved in with us. Now, it's my dad, mom, two brothers, and I living together because my mom had financial issues. She is a good mom because she has always put us (her kids) first but now, she says she wants to get a place with me and maybe wants to move out of state because my younger brother wants to move there (he will be 18 soon, but he is 16 now). She is looking for a new boyfriend on a site but sometimes she says she is not sure she even wants a relationship right now. She is totally financially dependent on me and she acts like she is going to live with me forever and ever. Part of it I think is my fault because I didn't go away to college to be independent. I kind of want my own independence now since I am a 24-year-old woman.This has really been bugging me lately. I am transferring to a college in the fall. I guess you can consider this a codependent situation. I love my mom but I don't necessarily want to live with her. I feel like she would be judgmental and critical if I ever get married. I feel like she would still feel like she is in control. What should I do?

Question: My boyfriend's sister walks around the house with no shirt on. Is this weird?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:55 AM PDT

Sometimes when I'm over at his house his sister will be wearing just shorts and a bra in front of everyone. It's only happened a few times, but I find it really strange and it seems inappropriate. She is like 18 years old and very overweight. I would never do this in front of my family.

Question: Are all kids this rude nowadays?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:37 AM PDT

At the beach these two 8 or so year old kids were playing with a kite. I bumped right into the string. Neither bothered to warn me beforehand even though they had been apparently looking at me as I was walking to them. And after wards neither said sorry or anything. I'm sick of this world. If you weren't all judgemental troll pricks you would have realized that maybe I did say sorry... The question is irrelevant to that. I was not looking at them while walking so I had no way if knowing they were even there.

Question: Should I tell my mother I was raped as a child? How do I do it?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:25 AM PDT

I have been asking myself for a very long time if I should tell my mother I was raped when I was young. For the longest time, I never got the courage to tell her or anyone else close to me what had happened because I was afraid that they would all hate me. It had happened when I was 7. It was my birthday, and many of my family members were there. When nearly everyone left, one of my cousins asked if he could spend the night. My parents allowed him to stay, and said that he could sleep in my room if he'd like. After a few minutes of me and my cousin talking in my room together alone, he started acting weird. He got closer to me, and put his hands all over my body. I tried to push and punch him away, but he said he would hurt me if I didn't let him do what he wants. This happened for the next 2 years, continuing to touch me and rape me whenever we met again. However, I have not seen him again since I was 9. I do not know where he is or what he is doing right now. I am now 20 years old. My mother still has no idea what had happened to me. I get reminded everyday of what happened to me as a child, and I feel the urge to tell her what happened, but I just can't do it, still fearing that she will hate me for the rest of her life. I need advice on what I should do, and how exactly I should tell her. Any advice/help is appreciated. I apologize if my grammar is not the best. Thank you for reading.

Question: How do I help my mom feel better about me moving out?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 01:10 AM PDT

So I used to have roomates and my mom always felt my roomates used me and abused me and they kind of did so i moved back in with my mom So i finally make enough without having roomates and my mom doesn't want me to leave. she said im just going to make her feel miserable I offered to give her a key to my place to make her feel better. What else can i do to make her feel better about me leaving? I'm an adult and there's no better time i just want my own space.

Question: My mom wont let me keep my baby..?

Posted: 03 Jul 2017 12:48 AM PDT

Okay so i am 20 years old, last time i had a pregnancy scare (17 going on 18) my mom wasnt gonna let me keep it. She said she would either go for another year of guardianship of me or custody of the baby so she can give it up for adoption..i can understand that now since i was only a teen back then. But now im 20 and scared if i get pregnant she will do the same thing since im not living with my boyfriend and i dont make enough money to support a baby (her fault. She wont let me work normal shifts. Basically forces me to watch my 3 year old brother because she doesnt want him in daycare)

Question: Can my dad force me to go to work with him and not pay me?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 11:45 PM PDT

I m 17 and I m currently in summer break and I ve been tryna get a job and I m just waiting to get a phone call from the jobs I ve applied to. My dad is a truck driver and I know it s hard work because he took me to work one time and I got paid but this time he dosent want to pay me and he said he s going to force me to go either way. I really don t feel like arguing or fighting him but I m also not tryna go it s really boring and like I said I m not getting paid. I also have a girlfriend I needa worry about and being gone for a week is a big no no to me. Can my dad really force me to go ? Isn t that forced labor? (Again I m not getting paid & pls don t tell me how he just wants to spend time with me or show me a good work ethic bc that s for me to decide )

Question: I want to leave my mom?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 11:40 PM PDT

my mom has put me through a bunch of **** (long story) and now she is all sorry and every day i have to listen to her say "im sorry im sorry im sorry" im sick and tired of hearing it (and i already forgave her) she wants me to isolate myself from everyone so only she is the only person in my life. she treats me like im her boyfriend even though im her son and is all clingy. If i say ANYTHING about it she will jump to conclusions thinking i hate her and ask "why do you hate me?" sometimes will even start crying. She always complains about EVERYONE including people she doesn't know like my friends who she has never met she just rants about them. She always touches my face calling me "her beautiful boy" and says "im the love of her life" it all disgust me and i want to vomit every time i hear that. she wants to run off into the woods with me cause she thinks everyone is mean to her. I seriously cant take it living with her I need to leave home. My dad tried to gain custody of me and failed and his attorney said that i get no say in who i get to stay with. Idk what to do right now advice anyone? I don't hate her but i just cant be around her anymore or live with her and have her be the only person i ever talk to in my life. im 17

Question: Boyfriend wants me to stay away from my brother?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 11:31 PM PDT

My boyfriend wants me to stay away from my brother. He says he's weird, dangerous and he doesn't like him around me because he can't be trusted. The reason he doesn't trust him is because my brother is always talking about hurting people and eating them. I know he sounds nuts but I don't think he would ever do it. I think he just says stuff to mess around. He is a teenager. I don't know who else to tell about it so I tell my boyfriend and he gets pissed off and asks my why haven't I stayed away from him and that he's tired of hearing about it and he doesn't want him near me. He calls him weird and he says he doesn't like him. This hurts my feelings because he's family but maybe what my boyfriend says is true? What are your thoughts. Should I keep contact with my family or cut him off like my boyfriend tells me to?

Question: Why are all dad farts so loud?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 10:32 PM PDT

It's like every dad is able to blow the meanest of farts... and I mean like eeevvveerrryyyy dad

Question: Why is my sister always naked around me?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 10:00 PM PDT

My sister is 16 and i'm 17 and i'm going to move out soon anyway. It's not because I want to it's just that, my sister is making things uncomfortable for me. I know it's my sister but, do you think it's normal for her to walk around nude in the house? She was only completely naked around me when, she steps out the shower. If she's around our parents she would have on only a bra with shorts, or sometimes just a thong. My mom gets on her all the time but, it doesn't help. Our dad is never home because, he's at work all the time. When he is home, he never say anything. I won't even walk around in a bra, that's how nervous I would be. I know she wear clothes that doesn't cover herself up too. Why is she so comfortable with her body?

Question: My 16 year old brother is so rude and disrespectful and irresponsible how do I make him change?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 09:54 PM PDT

My brother refuses to do any chores when my parents ask or tell him to do something he just Rudley says no and refuses. He doesn t have any responsibilities at all and he doesn t help with anything. He wanted a puppy so we got one and he refuses to do anything for it so everyone else feeds it and plays with it and walks it and cleans up after it. My parents have given up trying to make him do things. He gets away with whatever he wants and . (I should also include he s incredibly lazy and also hates dirt and germs)

Question: My mom has changed and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 09:35 PM PDT

So, usually my mom is a nice, kind person but recently she has changed. she has been more aggressive and has more anxiety i guess she thinks she has depression i don't know but shes taking what the doctor prescribed and its helping but she keeps cursing people, hoping they would die and god and everything because shes miserable. She isn't married and constantly sick (cancer, migraines, diabetes) and her cousins are all married and rich and shes mad at that, also all these people treat her like **** so they deserve it but i don't want her to be this mean, shes mad at everyone ad everything exceptt for me

Question: How do I show my younger sister I love her?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 09:34 PM PDT

Sometimes I can be mean to her, but I don't mean to. And she can be mean to me as well. When I try to talk to her about it, she gets angry and blames it on me. I don't want my sister to become who I am, because my temper sometimes gets out of control. I decided to ignore her since I can tell she has been mentally hurt from my actions in the past. If there is another solution, what's a way I can show her that I lover her? (I am 12 and she is 10)

Question: I don't like the way my parents treat me and my family is not that sociable,and i'm not sociable,and have no friends. what to do?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:56 PM PDT

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170526015642AAutSOB https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170624065357AAVNIdk https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170623014757AAQ1bF7 ok,so my mom and i got invited for a 4th of july barbecue,and my mom told me she is not going to participate because she will have to give gifts and buy paper goods,and there will be people who will schnorrers(beggars),and my said no,and i am really depressed because i really want to have fun this summer,but my mom is making it hard for me to be happy. this barbecue will be at the pool that is a part of my building. my mom is afriad people will ask for gifts, she'll have to buy and give gifts,and that's why she doesn't want to be invited to parties or celebration events,and also,our associates don't give me or my family either. what can i do? i have to suffer by being sad with my mom. any advice? also,she is not very sociable,she likes to read,and watches tv,but doesn't really communicate with other people that often,not even with me or my grandfather. i don't want my summer to be depressing or sad. i hate being sad and depressed and having 0 social life. i'm 20,a female and my mom is 56,and female. what can i do to boost up my social skills in order to have a social life?

Question: My uncle's wife doesn't like me?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:53 PM PDT

okay so my uncle married a woman.. I don't even consider her my aunt but she is so disrespectful to me for some reason and me only. i've noticed, she's always giving me dirty *** looks and whenever I have to make any contact with her she avoids it. she doesn't act like this towards anyone else in my family, but yeah. whenever I come visit my uncle's house with my family I feel gentian towards this... woman and I. I honestly don't know what to do in this situation, so I tell my family? do I... I don't know lol.....

Question: Parents disowned me?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:49 PM PDT

I m going to Europe tomorrow, and my parents have told me whenever I get back I need to pack my things they hate the idea that I m going with my boyfriend and that I actually have a life my mom told me if I come back pregnant she will not see me or the baby , I m very hurt and I need to know how to cope, please help .

Question: My mom thinks I'm going to become a serial killer :(? What do I do?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:46 PM PDT

So my mom recently found out that I listen to music like Slipknot, Korn, Marilyn Manson, Escape The Fate, Metallica, Avenged Sevenfold and I could go on... and she thinks that my music is creepy and satanic. She's become afraid of me to the point where she thinks I might kill someone someday. At first I thought this was a joke, but she seems to be serious about this. What should I do? Should I stop listening to this music? I feel as if I've failed as a daughter.

Question: My mother thinks I still believe in Santa, should I break the news to her?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:37 PM PDT

I am 14 and she still thinks I believe. I don't want to upset her or make her stop giving me birthday and Christmas presents. I know it is a longtime until Christmas but I will be 15 by then and she will still think I believe.

Question: What to do. When your mother and sister treats you like a doormat ?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:34 PM PDT

Question: Is this why most girls don't like me?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:28 PM PDT

Growing up my parents would always fight I Remember being as old as 12 and wetting myself cause it was so scary at 14 mom would come to my room crying and ****. My dads family didn't want me cause I'm biracial. Am I being a bitchhh or not and is this why I've never been in a relationship I turn 18 in September I'm scared of the future

Question: How do I bring my Dad back to life (he died last March)?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:14 PM PDT

He was only 77 so I figure he has 23 years of life left in him

Question: Is my mom right or my little brother?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:11 PM PDT

So my lil brother was just laying down playing on his laptop on our living room floor (hes 13) and Im on the couch on my phone. All of a sudden my mom I guess was just playing around at firsr like stepping on him with a foot lightlyish. He then said stop a couple times, she didnt. Then he yelled stop, I said "chill out, mom, if he said stop, stop. Did it once more. I said to my lil brother, "if she is kicking you, kick her back." Then thats where my mom got mad and said, "Im your mom and your not suppose to say that". I said, "how would you like it if he did it to you". Then she said we werent going out for dinner anymore and said no more electronics. Im 17 by the way. (Mainly she mad cuz of what I said.)Whatre ur opinions on this situation?

Question: I have to fire my nephew and there is no easy way to do it?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 08:06 PM PDT

I own a business. I gave him a job three years ago. He knows less know than he did when I hired him. He is not retarded, but he acts retarded. He can t use a garden hose. He has difficulty understanding how it works. An wheelbarrow has wheels and a handle. You need to pull it up the stairs. It is heavy, over 100 lbs. He insists on deadlifting it. He doesn t understand it. He didn t understand you have to push a button on an elevator to get it to move after the doors close. He has attempted to jump out of my van at 30 mph because he is terified by bugs. He is 33 years old, doesn t no how to drive, never intends to learn. Any day, he s going to be a rock star. He lives in a delusional fantasy world. Quack doctors, Xanax and Adderol probably have a lot to do with this. They put him on Ritalin when he was 5 and he s been on pills ever since. I have to let him go. This isn t a protected workshop. He is not only dead weight, he has damaged property and equipment to the tune of $4,000 in the past year. He has to go. He thinks he is doing just fine, even though I ask him why I have to give him highly detailed, step by step instructions ghat a 5 year old could do on their own. He doesn t think that is abnormal. Everyone is this simple minded. I ve suggested he apply for disabilith. It would be obvious that he lacks the mental capacity to do a mainstream job. He can t be my burden any longer.

Question: Work bereavement question?

Posted: 02 Jul 2017 06:58 PM PDT

So this past weekend, I got a call from my mom saying that my uncle had a stroke and called out from work to go see him. The next day my mom called me to tell me my uncle had passed. I was completely surprised by this because he didn't seem to be in that bad of shape. When I asked my aunt, his wife, about funeral arrangements, she called us and said he wasn't dead and that they were moving out of state and want nothing to do with the family anymore. This is crazy!!! No one has gotten along with my aunt ever since my uncle married here, ever. My uncle would still talk to us though and got a long great with him. I am completely bewildered by this and he's going along with her plan. I used 2 days of bereavement for work for this (live and work in Austin, TX). My bosses are very nice. How should I approach this? I texted my boss asking him if I could have a meeting with him tomorrow asking about new work policies and would bring the situation up then. Am I going about this the right way?