My estranged husband & I are going through a separation. We go to the same church. My mom decided to invite him over for dinner & asked me if was ok. I said yes feeling bad I knew he wanted to come over. Well I talked with my husband & was honest with him about how I feel. The whole thing was awkward were not really talking. He laughed with my family talked. I still feel bitter towards my him. My mom is pushing us to talk & my family. The church hates divorce so everything is pushing us to stay together. I live my parents now. My husband was verbal abusive towards me. He told me he doesn't want to stay married, I am fine with that. Anytime I argue with mom she brings up I am bitter which is somewhat true or how we should talk. Bitterness doesn't go away over night. I cannot seem to forgive him right now I am so hurt. My family brings him around I don't wish to be friends at the moment we cannot get along. I am starting resent my parents. People at my church judge me & told me I might not find someone better they don't know my husband was verbal abusive. Whenever I try to talk with my mom about this she argues with me this is making our relationship not happy. I am a diabetic & trying to afford medications, supplies, healthcare, going to the doctor is a lot. My husband told me he filed, but still wants us to talk with our pastor. I am praying to god for some relieve. My mom accused me today of not being friendly with my him after we had argued. I wish this would all be over.

My fiancé is having his bachelor party next weekend in atlantic city. there are like 15 guys renting a house. I told him my one request is no strippers and he reluctantly said ok. ( Note- him and his friends when they were single would always go, so he's had his faire share of stripper experiences.) HIs brother and best friend are the best man. His brother is very respectful and agreed that there will be no strippers, ( His brothers fiance also doesn't like strippers). However, all of my fiances other friends feel without strippers its not a bachelor party. And already have been busting his chops about it. THeyre all around 35 and married, some with kids. I worry with drinking and all the peer pressure he may give in to going. He said he won't and him and his brother will stick together. I am a very old fashioned girl, I'm 29, and feel we are getting married and its disrespectful for him to get a lap dance. I think it is a form of cheating in away, bc guys look at it in a sexual way. They are going 3 nights 4 days and i asked if he could call me once during the trip to just say hi and let me know how everything is going and he said NO. he will not call me during his bachelor party and he said he will text me twice a day and thats it. My other friends husbands who went away for more than 2 days , they had no problem touching base with their then fiances oh and he also said they may go to a club and he asked if he could dance with girls. I said i feel that is inappropriate to dance with girls at a club and he got mad.

A man fell deeply in love with me 6 yrs ago. We tried dating for a while but I didn't end up falling for him. Ever since then, he has gotten into relationships with other women but never quite got over his love for me. We would talk quite frequently almost daily for years. We were both friends. Now I'm set to be married this year to someone else and he still has been my friend all along through these years. Hes guided me through the good times and bad times and always been there for me(mainly cuz he loves me). It would be nice to invite such a great friend to my wedding but I worry if it will affect him emotionally. Idk if it would be bad to invite someone who was always in love with me to such a place. I'm sure he won't trash up my wedding but what are ur ideas?

I'm 22 and my mother is currently constantly nagging me to get a boyfriend. I get annoyed by her and I try to not answer her questions. She tells me that she is just watching out and wants the best for me. She says that its not good to end up dying an old spinster with 20 cats. Though I agree that most people would prefer to have a family with kids by the time they die. I find that it is also a very stressful expectation. Nobody ever knows if they will ever find "the one" to share life with forever. I'm a very quiet shy girl so its hard for me to find friends so don't even ask me for a boyfriend. I'm a failure with guys cuz im just soo terribly painfully shy. They often don't like me cuz of that. I definitely wanna marry and have kids one day, it would make me very happy. But I also understand that life doesn't always work out the way I want it so why should I pressure myself to find "the one"?

I have never cared about people's religion, but, long time ago, i thought i will never date a nonCatholic man again (since i once dated a Muslim person who just used me until he found a muslim woman he could marry)... I know not everyone is like that, but most are and openly admit it. Besides, there are habits I take for granted (like Christmas, or even saying "Jesuschrist!" when I'm surprised without worrying about offending anyone). He seems to be looking for something serious and says he's not religious, however, his family is... and even I'm afraid I wont be liked by his family after I never had to worry about things like that -former ex's parents loved me. But, I'm almost certain his parents wouldn't like me, since... well, they didnt even like his sister's boyfriend even though he's Jewish, only because he was Israeli/Russian... I'm gonna have a million reasns to be disliked since I am Hispanic and Catholic... I have known some Catholic/Jewish couples, but it's like previous coworkers (not friends), and since I had a Catholic bf by then, I just never found myself curious enough to ask who compromises in what... Dating a Catholic person was good for me, not only because I dint have to worry about the guy using me -like the Muslim guy did... but also, because all my dreams and my parent's dreams of seeing me walking down the aisle in a Church were not gonna be in question... but I dont want to compromise his family's dreams of him having a Jewish wedding either :(

My wife is always saying what a great parent her ex husband is and how he is so great with his kids and how much his kids love him. The guy sees his kids once a week of that. I pick her kids up form school 3 days a week, take them to lunch and cook them dinner, spend time with them even though they are disrespectful towards me. I let her comments go but what should I say when she says this ? I also told her that Id like to have my own child one day because even though I cared about my step kids its not like having my own and she told me I should love her kids like my own and she knows couples who do so I should. What should I do?

My wife smokes and has tried to stop multiple times. However, she never continued the battle because she gave up. She continues to voice that it's the hardest thing ever which I do believe. I don't know the struggles of being a smoke addict. Her gums and teeth are turning yellow and black and I am not going to kiss her anymore. As of today I'm not. If she's ok with that then doesn't that mean she will accept the fact that I don't want to touch her lips anynore and that smoking is worth losing that? I don't want to be shallow but when I look at my wife and she talks and I see her mouth and I'm just thinking "eeeww" I can't bear it anymore. She doesn't go to the dentist after many hints also. I'm turned off. If she doesn't stop, and I leave, am I a jerk? I'm not saying she has to be a 10 but she's looking more old and nasty as goes on. Married for 2 years btw.

We've been separated for 4 months now and I do not want to go home. We have two children together and I know he wants us home, but I just feel like I cannot live with him. I don't want to go through what causes us to get this far even though we've been getting along and still have sex and spend time together I know nothing has changed in us both maybe that is going to allow us to get along.

Friday I hit him. Slapped him hard in the face. The reason doesn't matter. He did nothing wrong. Yes he was trying to help me take out my painfully infected nose ring, it hurt. I got mad and hit him. I left a red mark on his face/neck. It wasn't a reaction. I do regret it. He's forgiven me and keeps telling me to get over it, but I can't and won't!!!!!!!! A wife should never hit their husband and I did! Everytime I see the photo of the red mark on his face, my heart breaks even more. I can't believe what i've done. The pain of it never ends! I'm 32 weeks pregnant so I'm sure the stress, anxiety, and heartache over this isn't healthy for the baby, but I can't help it. I almost turned myself into the police today and told my husband we should divorce because he deserves someone better, but he wasn't having it. he said he's not signing the papers. he will never understand how much pain i've put myself in, though I deserve it. I'm guilty, stressed, heart broken, and I can't stop thinking about what I've done! I'm not sure what to do and I don't think i'll ever get over it. I even got sent home from work yesterday because of how emotional I became at work. I tried to hide the tears so I could give my full efforts at work, but I just couldn't do it. I can't eat, sleep, or focus. I want to be happy with him, but I feel like this is just weighing everything down. I'm too heartbroken to be happy. My baby shower is Saturday and i'm not longer excited for that. what should i do??? Im just so heartbroken over this :( I wish this never happened. I should have had control over my emotions and actions and I've failed badly. I wish this was just a bad dream, but the nightmare doesn't go away. I know once a cheater always a cheater, so does that mean once an abuser always an abuser as well? I'm so horrifed in myself. I can't look at myself in the mirror after this. I should have been a better wife. I need someone to tell me what to do from here.

Me and my wife have been married only 5 years but have a home and child together as well as good careers ect. But for the past year things are difficult with being affectionate..we only have sex once a month, rarely kiss or hug and it basically feels as if we're roomates..part of it has to do with me working mornings and her working til 12 and I'm just tired. What's something I can do or say to start fixing this? I still love her I just don't want to break up our family but the tension is very real

Friday I hit him. Slapped him hard in the face. The reason doesn't matter. He did nothing wrong. Yes he was trying to help me take out my painfully infected nose ring, it hurt. I got mad and hit him. I left a red mark on his face/neck. It wasn't a reaction. I do regret it. He's forgiven me and keeps telling me to get over it, but I can't and won't!!!!!!!! A wife should never hit their husband and I did! Everytime I see the photo of the red mark on his face, my heart breaks even more. I can't believe what i've done. The pain of it never ends! I'm 32 weeks pregnant so I'm sure the stress, anxiety, and heartache over this isn't healthy for the baby, but I can't help it. I almost turned myself into the police today and told my husband we should divorce because he deserves someone better, but he wasn't having it. he said he's not signing the papers. he will never understand how much pain i've put myself in, though I deserve it. I'm guilty, stressed, heart broken, and I can't stop thinking about what I've done! I'm not sure what to do and I don't think i'll ever get over it. I even got sent home from work yesterday because of how emotional I became at work. I tried to hide the tears so I could give my full efforts at work, but I just couldn't do it. I can't eat, sleep, or focus. I want to be happy with him, but I feel like this is just weighing everything down. I'm too heartbroken to be happy. My baby shower is Saturday and i'm not longer excited for that. what should i do??? Im just so heartbroken over this :( I wish this never happened. I should have had control over my emotions and actions and I've failed badly. I wish this was just a bad dream, but the nightmare doesn't go away. I know once a cheater always a cheater, so does that mean once an abuser always an abuser as well? I'm so horrifed in myself. I can't look at myself in the mirror after this. I should have been a better wife. I need someone to tell me what to do from here.

Should I be worried about my wife's male friends?

My husband was divorced before I met him and he has a young son from his previous marriage who is now my step son. His marriage failed for many reasons but one main reason is his ex wife is an addict who is incapable of parenting. I have accepted his past and his son. However his former in laws are very cold towards me and when they come over to our place to babysit or visit with my step son they are rude or just ignore me completely when Im speaking as if I am not there. Ive grown sick of their behavior in my own home. How should I approach this with my husband as he tend to stick up for his former in laws even though he's gotten into it with them several times and they even fight in front of my step son.

My husband and my girls (different dad) live in in 2003, it is in my dad's name, my husband only moved in 3 years ago, I have always paid the rent, utilities and everything for the house, my husband says the house is his too cause we are married even though he hasn't contributed anything twords it, I am considering getting a divorce, f I do can my husband get the house, does he have any right to the house.

with deoderant turns me off. It's like the woman is covering up her phermones. The same appllies to going down on her. A splash of water in my experience beats whatever a long shower session involves. Any one else agree? Reasons you do or don't?

Your husband likes another attractive woman's provocative selfies on Facebook. She's being seductive in the photo and wearing a very revealing low cut off shoulder dress with a seductive look on her face. How would you feel if your husband liked this photo?

my ex of a few years ago (2012), wrote me for the very first time after three years split-up (2015). He was the one to reach out for me, I never did. This relation is something random at all, non-persistent, no cheating language/vibe related. It is all just via email, no calls, no meeting, each of us live in other side of the world. He is married with one kid. If he wrote me, it was just done in an email that expressing he thought of me and wishing to know that I am doing good. Then I would write back to him in simple lines and letting know I am fine. and that would be just left at that until a year later, he would do the same and we would manage to just exchange a few emails trying to know the updated news about both then that is all. He often expressed that he remembered me and thankful to me that I had been very kind to him in the past and made him feel loved. Again, the communication would never gone too far than ended up in thankful expression and take care (even though once he did say he sometimes wondered what it would be like perhaps we both ended up together). Now, that last contact was less or more a year ago until I received one again yesterday. This time within our communication, he mentioned : "Well, I wonder if I should have just gone to you in 2012 despite what happened" - which means if he did, we might just end up together, and apart from that, he did end up asking me if I still have a bf too. If you have to interpret, what that means to you? Thanks

Two years ago, when I graduated college, my husband told me he was ready to have a kid. After giving it much thought, I decided I was too. Now, I am 8 months pregnant and my husband says he's not ready to be a father and wants to give our baby up for adoption, what do I do? I don't want ot give him up but I don't want him to grow up with a father that doesn't want him.

My fiance and I were watching a film and the mans face was badly burnt. I asked him would he stay with someone he loved if the were like that, he replied "no, would you want to look at That for the rest of your life? I can t believe his answer, I said I wouldn t think about leaving and whats he planning to say in our wedding vows, is he going to lie??

or how do you feel about open marriages?