Family: Question: Was I being over sensitive?

Question: Was I being over sensitive?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 02:22 PM PDT

A couple days ago I was at the store with my parents, and I went to the bra section; I picked one out and my mother asked if I could even wear it (I'm assuming to her it looked too small). But I flat out told her it's the exact same brand, size, and everything I've been getting for a while now and they fit just fine. I turned my head for a second to put the bra in the shopping cart, and the next thing I know I turn back around and she's asking the store associate for a tape measure...she was actually going to measure me in the middle of the store, after I had just told her I know what my own bra size is. So I wound up snapping at her and storming off, because I'm tired of both my parents treating me like I'm a stupid child, and like everything I say may as well go in one ear and out the other. And stuff like this has been happening more and more lately. And now me and her haven't spoken or acknowledged each other in 2 days. It hurts but she's acting like she doesn't care, and my dad hasn't even noticed.

Question: Help! I have a huge crush on my step sister?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 01:40 PM PDT

I'm a guy who's 17. I have a step sister who just turned 18. Ok I live with my mom and stepdad in Columbus Ohio. In 2015 my dad married my stepmom which gave me this step sister. They all live in a very small town in Georgia called Tallulah falls. So this summer I went to stay with my stepdad in Georgia for about a month. Didn't want to because there's literally nothing to do there and all my friends are in Columbus. So my step sister just graduated high school and is about my age mind you I only have known her since 2013 and we've only seen each other very few times until I went to stay in Georgia with them this summer. I hang out with her just because she's the only person my age that I know there in Georgia and over the month I got a pretty big crush on her. We ended up making out a couple times. It felt a little weird but after all it's not like we're actually siblings. I'm back in Columbus ready to start my senior year of hs and she's going to college in West Virginia. We both like each other and text a lot. Could she be my girlfriend? Or should we just forget it happened?

Question: Isn't cool or embarrassing to live with your mom at age 27?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 01:18 PM PDT

I'm a male that still live with his mom, Isn't that pathetic or embarrassing? I mean I don't move out for a good reason it's because me and my mom live in a big home--3000 square feet-- and it isn't too expansive either--around $1500 monthly-- but my friends say that's it's very embarrassing for an adult to live with his parent. I mean if I move out I will get a much smaller house and probably way more expensive? And also my mom is buying her home while I'm just gonna go and rent one isn't that basically wasting money? I rather spend it more time on vacations. even so, my friends made me feel uncomfortable and I need advice. So please be a pal. Thanks!

Question: Why is my family so dirty!!?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 01:01 PM PDT

over the years i never understood this overwhelming sense of negativity and depression surrounding my mom and her husband and kid - then i just realized it's because they are so ******* dirty!!! they NEVER clean up after themselves, all of them - they have horrible hygiene and it's ******* w my energy and happiness and i just feel so suffocated because i can't just leave on my own because of my financial situation. what can i do to change this and find happiness? telling me to clean up is the most obvious question because i can only clean up after MYSELF - and if i clean the house up for them - i promise you they will find a way to get it back dirty the MINUTE i clean!!! any tips suggestions explanation for them being so dirty?? thx

Question: Is it wrong that i sometimes ''hate'' my sister?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 12:56 PM PDT

I am only 16 so i may be a little sensitive and overreact, but i really do sometimes feel hatred towards her. i mean she IS only 9 but i swear she is pure evil, she knows how to fake cry she is provokative and always tries to make me the bad person! My parents told me to just ignore her but i just can't anymore she never stops! no matter how many times i've ignored her. she knows how to provoke you to the point that drives you crazy that makes you literally cry i am not kidding! i do not hate her i love her, sometimes we cuddle and watch movies together but then out of nowhere she starts provoking me like crazy and i try to ignore her but i can't after a few hours.it is not like i hate her or anything i just don't want to be around her anymore....but i don't want to have after a few years when we are adults to have a bad relationship with her. and she is not only to me that provokative and a brat she i also like that to my mother which also makes me mad.. i tried talking to her seriously and i thought she understood, yes she is only 9 but she is very smart still, and she listened and understood and nodded but the next day she was the same.... how can a 9 year old be so cunning? (i am sorry for grammar mistakes i am german)

Question: My parents are unfair?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 12:55 PM PDT

i am too lazy to go into detail but basically my brothers and sister get whatever they want and i dont. They get the most most most attention! I am depressed but nothing has changed. I have talked to my parents and they think i will get over it but it has been a year. :( They just dont listen to me.

Question: I don't cal my dad, dad?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 12:48 PM PDT

I'm 12 and I only seen him 4-6 times in my life. I live with my mom and brother and he lives with his new wife and my sister. My parents were divorced before I was born. My dad has this polite thing going on so he said I should answer yes sir or dad and for any other person sir and for women yes ma'am, I say yes sir to my dad and yes ma'am to my mom and stepmom. For some reason I don't say dad and I don't call him by his name I once tried to get his attention but I couldn't say dad I don't know if I feel confortabel doing it my brother has a different dad and my mom isint married and hasn't been dating anyone for more than 12 years. Can someone explain what's going on with me. And yes I call my mom, mom

Question: My sister is a brat and a liar?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 12:25 PM PDT

I m forced to play with her and it sucks. Every time we play she makes up some excuse that I hit her and I get in trouble just for making little contact with her. She always sits or jumps on me and when I tell her to get off she asks "why" I say because it s my body and I don t want her to jump on me she says whatever so I push her to the side and she says owww and goes to tell on me whenever we re talking to my father or my stepmom on the phone she tells what happened in a different way. And when I try to tell my side of the story she hangs up the phone. She always hits me or punches me but I keep my mouth shut. I tell her snitches get stitches and she says no they don t she called me a snitch but she doesn t have anything to back it up. If I don t play with her or do what she wants she tells. A few days ago she said I dragged her on the floor and hit her in the head but she was holding on to me and I told her get off then after a while she fell and pretended to cry I followed her to her room her eyes didn t look watery and I didn t see any tears. Just a while ago i had to play doctor with her. Apparently punching someone in the face is fine but taping someone isint. And just yesterday I was helping her with her work and she wanted me to do all of them but I said I m only here to help and drop hints, it was a missing letter thing and I told her to sound out the word with all the vowels but apparently one of the smartest girls in class wasn t smart enough. She tells my dad I'm not in trouble if she tells her mom I am. She always tells if I don't want to play with her. If I'm watching tv she stands in front of it. If I'm doing somthing on my phone or my iPad like talking to my friends or playing a game that's 10 and up or doing somthing personal and she try's to look I say no she tells on me saying I won't let her see. I'm a 12 year old male and she's 6. I can't wait until summers over and I go back to my brother and mother. Please help me for now.

Question: Sister problems?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 12:17 PM PDT

My sister just turned 18. We are home alone and she used a dish, which is fine, but when I asked her to clean it, she said, "you can't tell me what to do, I'm an adult". It's as if she believes she can bypass all past responsibilities just because she's an adult still living in our moms house. I'm younger, so I can't tell her what to do I guess (she says that). Also, before she turned 18, she never did any of her dishes anyway. She's lazy and mean! She throws stuff at me and gets mad over anything that doesn't go her way. What do I do?

Question: Do parents usually order their kids around all the time?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 11:52 AM PDT

Today it really dawned on me how much my mom orders me around. "Do this! Do that!" I honestly thought it was normal, but then again, my relationship with my mom is "normal." Do parents really order their kids around all the time? Like I'll be studying next to her, and she'd be on the couch just on her phone and order me to go do something that she could just do herself. "Go get blah blah from upstairs." or "Turn on the lights." (When she's sitting on the couch doing nothing important and is closer to the lamp!) She doesn't say "please," and she doesn't ask me to do it. She just tells me to. I don't think this is normal. Do parents order around their kids like this all the time?

Question: Can I say goodbye and then hang up if my mother is yelling at me on the phone?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 11:49 AM PDT

Please note that I am 39 years old.

Question: My sister is guilting me into baby sitting her kids all day long. I help as much as I can but it's too much?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 11:44 AM PDT

OK, so I'll try to be as articulate as possible and please excuse my English. First off, I wanna say that we're a dysfuntional family. I probably have never come off someone who lives a similar life as us. I still live at the family home, I'm unemployed and single, which means I have plenty of time on my hands. My sister has two kids who are a handful. My mother and I help her as best as we can, because she's frail and ill most of the time. We do out absolute best, but she asks for more and more help. Like today for instance, I helped her all morning, did chores around the house and went into my room for some privacy. She came over and asked me to help her some more. I told her that I'm not obliged to do it. It was in a moment of anger. She always finds a way into guilting me about helping her. Her husband is away most of the time and he's the worst dad I've ever seen in my entire life. He makes up for his absence by feeding the kids all sorts of unhealthy foods, although the doctor explicitely told my sister that he must not drink soda because he has reflux. I'm about to start a training in a couple of months, and my sister is gonna go back to her house, but I feel bad for her. She doesn't trust anyone but us and wouldn't be caught dead bringing a nanny inside her house. What can i do to help her without overlooking my personal life. Again, she's ill and so is my mother so it's impossible for me to leave them.

Question: Did your family car have stickers like this?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 11:19 AM PDT

Question: Hi I wanna talk about my issues with my parents.?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 10:38 AM PDT

Just because I failed my medecine exams even though i worked as hard as hell for them.they started to despise me and call me worthless and treat me like a junkie or a criminal.as matter of fact i got accepted in a pretty good economics school but they can t just see that they always want me to think that i failed them and its my fault because they think that i was just playing around and not really studying but the reality is that i was working my *** off everyday but they just dont wanna admit it.what should i do?Am i not good enough?or is it really them that they worthless

Question: Is what happened my fault?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 10:20 AM PDT

hey guys i really need your help with a potential family issue since everyone is against Every summer, I head down to Houston from Dallas every summer to visit my family. Anyways I usually stay with my uncle ( alcoholic ) was divorced but recently moved in with his girlfriend and her daughter. Long story short he got really drunk last night with my cousins and I at the house and when his girlfriend got home they got into a big fight and kicked her and her daughter out. My cousins and I got scared and called his mom and tells her everything (they have a court order agreement to let my uncle have the kids for the summer) anyways he finds out and starts cursing at his own kids telling them to all go to hell while I'm outside waiting for their mom to come (mind you that his children are only 14 and 10). About 10 mins after he came outside and chasing after me threatening to hurt me and kill me. Im running across the neighborhood and preceded to call the police and told them every. Everything started to settle down after and we all went to my aunts house. Now come to find out, my whole family is against me except my parents back in Dallas, The kids, and my aunt nd her family. The whole family says that we overreacted, that we blew everything out of proportion, that I am lying. this is NOT the first time. he's drunk EVERY OTHER DAY. But I don't know what to think anymore? Am I wrong?

Question: How to prepare for dad's death?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 10:08 AM PDT

My dad had a heart attack a few months ago, but hasnt stopped smoking since. So obviously, hes gonna die. I m gonna be a senior. Should I resort to prostitution or stripping to pay for college?? Or beg? Please give me your opinions on what I should do after that bastard is gone.

Question: Ladies your honest answer?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 10:06 AM PDT

Debated on adding my ex online. I didn't in the end but i still checked her cool profile. She knew somehow i was looking and she requested me to be her friend. I ignored her friend request it's still on pending. I then got new message from her and it said "Hi is this who i think it is". I replied and we talked but when i asked her out to get a drink near my house she said "NA I GOT MY OWN PLACE NOW". We both lived under our parents roof 3 years ago when we dated but today she lives alone. Every time i sent her a message she would reply within seconds. I ended up saying bye because it got awkward. She instead of saying bye changed the subject. I didn't reply anymore. Could she still have something for me? my friends are saying she didn't turn me down when she said she had her own place but i think she deff turned me down you tell me...

Question: My parents are insane what do i do?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 09:54 AM PDT

im 16, studying for SATs, they only let me see my friends once a week in summer cause they want me to only study which isnt fair. im also not allowed to date. they are insane telling me how my studying isn't gonna get me anywhere and that i need to be working from day to night. what do i do? they also treat me like a little kid and boss me around.

Question: 21 year old need life advice?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 09:50 AM PDT

I'm 21 years old and I live with my grandmother who is 73. My grandparents adopted me when I was 8 wks old. I was removed from a crackhouse. (Grandfather passed away a few yrs ago.) When my grandfather passed I was almost a senior in high school, but I was so depressed I dropped out. To me he was basically my dad. Now I'm ready to get my life together. (get a better job, drive a car, move out, go back to school, etc.) But I have absolutely no one to help me get on my feet. My grandma gets angry when I bring up driving/moving out. She doesn't want to hear anything of it, I feel so stuck. She is literally all I have left family wise, my parents are both addicted to crack/heroin. As of now my grandma is my way of transportation which is extremely annoying. I had my permit for 6 months but she wouldn't let me drive. It's making it very hard to hold relationships/friendships. (Not so appealing to have your grandma drop you off or pick up your girlfriend for date.) Also, our house is falling apart. Basement filled with water damage/mold, ceiling is cracking, only one working sink of three, list goes on. She seems to have no desire to get anything fixed.. (I've offered to help pay.) I am at a loss of what I should do with so little options... any advice would be much appreciated.

Question: My own brother said this too me.?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 09:41 AM PDT

My family and I started talking about this city tha I like. And someone mentioned that one of our family members lived there. I was like "Bruh, that's great". I said because I was expressing how cool will it be to live there. Then my brother looked at me and said "she's a teacher and you're nothing". I looked at him and said "you're neither". How should I react or act towards what he said too me.

Question: My Parents Mock Me?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 08:52 AM PDT

I'm 15 years old, and had a nice job stocking items. I recently got fired bc the business was laying off people. When I told my parents they mocked me, made fun of my voice, etc. They also took away my brand new phone, and called me a loser. When I'm upstairs looking for a job, I hear them calling me a loser bc I'm the computer, wtf, computers, phones and being laid off doesn't make me a loser. How do I get them to stop.

Question: Why do teens want to get married ?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 07:52 AM PDT

My sister is 14 she said she and her boyfriend secretly got married yesterday. He's my best friend he's 21. They have no reason for this. I know some people do get married if the girl is pregnant or if the guy is in the army or something but neither of that happened to them. They only been together 2 months. She's madly in love with him. I also know some people get married just because they have kids but neither one of them do. Like I said there's no reason for it. I hate it when people haven't been together long rush into marriage for no reason especially teenagers. For some reason it just annoys me. Our parents died I'm in charge of her. Why do teens want to get married ?

Question: Family drama, how to deal with it?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 06:44 AM PDT

My immediate family (parents, brothers, sisters in laws) are great we get along very well and do lots of activities together. The issue is with my extended family (my moms sisters and my cousins). I am in a group text with 5 of these cousins as well. However it is very toxic. My mom and I (my brothers aren't involved) are excluded from everything her sisters and my girl cousins do. My cousin came home from Oklahoma with her baby everyone got together two separate times and do not invite us but post it everywhere on social media to rub it in our faces. My aunts dislike my mom I think because they are jealous. One of my aunt's is really crazy and another aunt is very bitter. I ended up talking to one of my couisns about us being excluded and that it hurt my feelings after we tried to include all my girl cousins and aunts in a beach day at my parents vacation house which they all lied and bailed on.. this was last straw for me as its happened so many times (including my sister in laws baby shower and Christmas). my cousin told my aunt (the crazy one) and she flipped out at my mom calling her horrible names and making her cry. she ended up twisting the story and saying that I said bad stuff about my cousins. I feel bad if anyone thinks I said anything bad (which I did not) but also don't see why anyone would believe what she says, she is a known liar. My cousins aren't the nicest either, I'm not sure why I even want to be included. Should I just cut them all from my life?

Question: Why is my sister so quiet and secretive? Even around us she never talks much?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 05:41 AM PDT

I wonder why she is like that? cuz everyone else in our family is very talkative and social. She's 19 already and has always been so reserved... She is quiet around everyone not just around the family. I just think it's kinda strange cuz she has been living with us her entire life, there should be no reason to be shy...

Question: So my mom found my lighter...?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 03:52 AM PDT

Alright. So I know this could have been way worse than it was and it might not be that big a deal but, I'm 14 and my mother comes from the living room into my room and says "Hey, do you still have that guitar and case that your dad have you 2 years ago?" and I say yes forgetting about my lighter and weed stash inside. I do not smoke weed often only about once a month to help my add and nobody else "family wide" knows about it. I maintain a 3.5 grade average in school which is all Bs and As. So please don't give me **** about that. Anyways. My mom opens the guitar case and As she starts undoing the latches. (there are 12 latches) on the case. I remeber about my stash that I haven't touched in a month. So I just have to stand there shitting myself as she undoes the latches and she opens it. She says, " What's this. I'll take that" and she grabbed it out then asked where I got it and I told her I found it of course. And so then since we had family over she said we would talk later and a day later I saw her smoking weed with MY lighter she stole and she said that she is going to be on my *** and that my door has to stay open for 2 months and that she could rifle through my **** whenever she wanted and if she ever cought me with anything else that would be the last straw. I feel like she is getting really close to my stash and I have airplane bottles of alcohol and a vape pen and more lighter and weed and everything. I am definitely not a perfect child (yahoo won't let me typemore

Question: My cousin is accused of having staged a kidnapping and now her parents are mad at her (for good reason), cousin denies it. Who do I believe?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 03:20 AM PDT

She has mental problems though I know that is not her fault. Her parents got a call from someone saying he had to do as they say if they want to see their daughter anytime soon. Then the caller hung up. They called the police immediately. The police found the daughter safe within an hour and at her home. She denies involvement in the hoax. No idea why my aunt didn't request the police track where the call came from but it was an anonymous number my aunt said. So now I have aunt understandably mad at her daughter for lying but daughter coming to me that her mother is falsely accusing her. Which do I believe? Cousin is 22 and has emotional problems. Her first father committed suicide when she was 2 but her step-father adopted her at age 9. Her mother means well and loves her but I don't think her mother understands how mental illness distorts the mind. Her husband does not either. Both mean well though. So now aunt is telling me how horrible her daughter is and daughter how horrible her mother is. I like both. Who do I believe? I think cousin is pretty good but very sick emotionally and likely needs more help then she is getting. I do think she lies though (the cousin). Not sure if this was staged or just a phone scam.

Question: My mother hated her brother a year ago and sided with her sister in their feud. Now she hates her sister after being with her brother.....?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 03:20 AM PDT

Why might it be that my mother feels she has to hate one to love the other. A year ago it was her brother she hated. Now she spent two weeks at her brother's and hates her sister.

Question: What can i do to chill out about this situation with my mom ?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 03:17 AM PDT

Alright so it all started before school ended right? So my mom told me that supposedly she was going to teach me how to drive all summer and have me do online drivers ed. She also said that she was going to give me her car because she was going to be buying a new one anyway. I have 2 off periods and i had gotten my 1st and 7th off but after i told my mom about it i also asked her if i needed to change my 1st off period just in case my mom wouldnt go through with getting me a car and teaching me how to drive. So anyway fast foward to now so basically everything that my mom said was a lie . I trusted her and i knew i shouldnt have because she never follows through with what she says. She promised me and told me multiple times that she was for sure going to do everything she said. I gave her a chance too at the beginning even before summer started to tell me to change my classes if the whole driving thing wasnt going to work. She just lied to my face and im so mad about it like it was my fault for even trusting her but its also her fault for leading me to believe that she was really going to do everything she said . Im not being a brat because honestly she has been lying about teaching me how to drive ever since i was 14 years old . Im just really mad about this the only way im going to handle it is by just not getting help at all from her to drive and just ask my friends instead to teach me and eventually get my own licence . Btw im 17 years old

Question: My cousin and i beat her step bro up for making fun of her weight constantly. Were we out of line?

Posted: 27 Jul 2017 02:11 AM PDT

Was at cousins. Him and her are step siblings. He kept making fun of her for her legs in the shorts she had on. Finally you could say we taught him a lesson. Even his mom and grandma laughed and agreed. He got grounded, had to apologize and had to give me his cedar point ticket :) no one let him live down getting his butt kicked by two fifteen year old girls lol. Out of line or does he deserve it?

Question: My sister is really cheap?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 11:57 PM PDT

ok so for Christmas my sister and her husband got my mom a gift worth almost 200$ my dad receive a gift worth 100$ and I just received a 25$ gift card but the gift I got her was worth 150$ now I told her I would get her a gift worth 25$ too but she freak at me and my mom told me its not because she s cheap with you that you have to be cheap with her so now my mom force me to make her a gift worth around 100$ what should I do should I just get her a 25$ gift or i should do like my mom told me because it not fair to me

Question: Was I sexually abused as a child?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 11:30 PM PDT

I don t remember anything before the age of 5. I could never sleep and had nosebleeds every day and at school. My dad was a very abusive person he would hit my mom and I remember seeing her cry all the time. He would hit our pet dog. He was very controlling and never let me speak or move and made me sit next to him on the couch. He would sometimes fall asleep but I was to scared to leave because he would hit me if I wasn t there. I couldn t ask for help on my homework so I just sat there confused. At night I would lay awake and sometimes the police would come to our house because my mom called them on my dad. Whenever I was awake at night I would touch myself and sometimes get up and hit myself down there and would shove things in me like a pen and deodorant stick. I would feel horny and I made my dog lick me and sometimes I would touch her down there. I touched my little sister when she would sleep. I feel really gross talking about it but I really did those things. I don t know if she remembers me doing that she was only 3. And i wonder if my dad had done things to me before I could even know. My older sister said I killed her hamster when I was 4 but I don t even remember :/ When I was 6 he would make me nap with him in his underwear. I don t like seeing him around children. I always see him looking at children and talking to them at our family parties. I haven t seen him in 2 years I m 20 now.

Question: Messed up family because of bad parents?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 11:03 PM PDT

Do you guys think that a family is messed up because they way the parents are? For example I have ALOT of siblings 22 to be exact and my parents had them way way young, they were never good parents tbh we barley celebratated holidays or birthdays one literally has never even had anyone tell him happy birthday we were punished with belts and no food or if they were just bored to tbh we hardly ate enough and barley did anything at all they showed us no love at all once one of us at 6 years old made our mom a Mother's Day card and she ripped it up in his face my family's very dysfunctional with robbers, thefts, depression, rape etc etc the list could go on forever do you guys think how parents raise their children reflects on how they act when they get older?

Question: My grandma is crawling all over the wall?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 11:02 PM PDT

! what do i do..

Question: Why is my mom mad at me?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 10:41 PM PDT

I did nothing wrong, today I asked my mom if she could take me to the airport to meet my favorite celeb and she started lashing at me telling me how that is a waste of time and how that artist sucks and a bunch of things that really hurt my feelings! I don't know what's wrong with her or why she reacted like that!! I think she might be stressing about something else and is letting it all out on me! So my fav celeb is gonna have a concert tomorrow and I already have my ticket and I've been asking her the whole day at what time are we leaving cause I need to get to the concert early if I wanna get a good spot but she keeps ignoring me and changes the subject. I don't understand. Also the band is completely harmeless! It's pop... Please don't hate She also got annoyed when I told her with who I wanted to go to the concert which happens to be my best friend but my mom hates her. I don't know why. My friend is literally always quite cause she's super shy, she doesn't drink, she's not disrespectful. I don't understand what's wrong with my mother or why she's acting this way! Someone please give me advice cause right now I'm heartbroken and I don't know what to do! I really wanna go to this concert and I still don't know at what time were leaving and my mom is already sleeping so I can't ask her anymore. I'm 17 btw and I never ask my mom for anything! I'm just asking to go to this concert and she had already said yes to me but now she's mad somehow

Question: My sister chooses to smoke, drink and do weed and i get headaches from it?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 09:45 PM PDT

She does it when my mom goes to bed (shes 21 im 24)and it really smells the house up. I been getting so many headaches lately and yes i am trying to save money for an apartment to get out with my boyfriend. My moms afraid to do anything about it, i talked to her about it once and she just told me she hopes its a phase. But im getting more and more headaches recently i find it not fair to me and my health. Whst can I do?

Question: My Mom wants me to hate my step-Mom for her now that my Dad has died. I don't hate the step-Mom though. What do I do?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 08:59 PM PDT

I want to stay in touch with the step-Mom and visit like on holidays but I am 16 and so live at home. If Mom finds out I don't hate my step-Mom then she will be mad. She was even mad I didn't hate my Dad and has not once given me condolences on his death in March.

Question: Could I move out from my parents at 18?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 08:47 PM PDT

Unsure of weather I should move out from my parents house. I would be moving in with my boyfriends family, they have already said they're okay with it. My parents are too strict and controlling with things such as not letting me get a haircut unless they approve of it, looking through my phone and room, I don't even have a curfew I have to be home when they want me home either at 6pm or 9pm the latest they've let me stay out. They did not let me go to the university I wanted to go to which was an hour away from home but instead forced me to apply to the one 15 mins away from my house, i have a bad relationship with my dad, they judge everything I do which lead me to an eating dissorder in middle school and suicidal thoughts. My boyfriends parents wouldn't care much about what we do just as long as we pay rent and help around the house. I have talked to a teacher in high school about my situation at home and she's told me to move out, friends have told me to move out

Question: I want separation from my family, am I wrong for this?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 08:44 PM PDT

I'm 19, and my family looks down on me. They love me, but they're always negative with me. I'm the only son with two older sisters. Growing up, I felt really lonely without having a brother. My older sisters, though they used to fight a lot, still spend time together doing girl stuff. I can see that not only my immediate family, but also my extended family see me as lazy and closed-minded. My dad talks negatives about me to my uncles and relatives how I'm lazy and so on. My sisters even see me as someone who needs help progressing in life. They think I don't have the mindset of progressing. They think I'm a child who isn't mature enough to doesn't understand life. Quite frankly, I really want to understand. My parents only teach me common sense, like learning to buy groceries at 19. There are things I didn't even know exist. I'm trying to figure life out. I am someone who has a lot planned for the future for my development. I feel like my family isn't understanding that I'm becoming a young adult, because they aren't explaining life to me. A cousin of mine, who I used to chill with when I was 17, used to randomly explain to me things in life, how business works and stuff. I want separation from my family, to understand life, to develop myself, study, work, make money, buy a car, and progress into someone I want to be. My parents think I won't succeed in life. But yet, when I don't understand something, they blame me, as if a bird was supposed to tell me. I feel depressed.

Question: What can I do to get my brother to learn how to respect?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 07:33 PM PDT

my brother is 13 and really disrespectful.. He talks over people on purpose cause thinks it's funny.. He likes to purposely bother us just to get a laugh and mostly to my dad.. My dad is already tired of him being so rude.. He constantly insulted me and my sister ..my dad gave him his own room cause my brother was sleeping in my dads room (separate beds) in which he moved in yesterday and ever since he did he locks his door and if anyone wants to come in he gets angry and ask what do we want.. My sister was just eavesdropping on a phone call he was having after my sister knocked on his door saying my dad wanted him and said that my brother was telling his friend on the phone that he's not getting out of his room because my dad wants him to clean and that now that he has his own room he doesn't live in the house anymore.. He then came out after 20 MINUTES to the living room for about 5 minutes and as he was going to his room my dad called him and my brother came in his room and locked it.. What can I do? He's so rude

Question: How do I deal with my lying little cousin?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 07:17 PM PDT

He is five years old,his name is John,and he has a slight leg problem. I know I might sound harsh but please just hear me out. The reason I hate him so much is because he is such a liar! Before I get started I'm 13 years old,my cousin Isabella is 15, my cousin Sergio is 13, and my cousin lily is 11. Isa, Sergio, lily, and I get along. But us older kids don't get along with John. Let me tell a lil story (or 2) so you'll understand a little better. So one day me,Isa, and lily took John for a walk. When we came back from the walk John accidentally stepped on chicken poop and Lily said "John, go change your shoes it's full of chicken poop." I don't know what the heck happened to John but he yelled "NO" and hit lily then he started crying. We asked him what happened but he wouldn't respond to us,he would just cry. After a straight 5 minutes of crying he went to his dad and his dad asked him what happened and John said Sergio hit him. WHAT THE! Sergio didn't even go on the walk with us! Sergio was in my room watching TV! I don't know what's worse John's lie or the fact that his dad believed him. There's a part two of this.

Question: I want a special tattoo but im only 14.?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 07:15 PM PDT

I am 14 and i live in Belgium, my sisters dad (who pretended to be my dad for 7 years), recently passed away. We hadn t had contact with him for 7-8 years. He is not my real dad but he felt like it, also got his last name. My real dad left me when i was 2 months old. Now, me and my sister got a bit of ashes of him to do something with it and my sister thought of a really cool thing. She wanted to get a tattoo with it (ink combined with his ashes (and yes it is hygienic))of his fingerprint, with dad above it and the date of his death next to it. I loved the idea and my mom said i could do it too. (because in Belgium if you re under 18, you can get a tattoo with permission of your parents) But i m scared my friend and teachers and even my grandparents will react kindof akward to it (because im still only 14). And when i am older i really want to meet my real dad but i think if he found out about this he would really be upset... I just don t know if i should do it or not.. i really really really want to, but i dont want to regret it later. Please help me out...

Question: I screwed my life up and now I don't know what to do?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 07:07 PM PDT

First and foremost, this has been the worst year ever for me. I have lost both my grandparents, my uncle and now my godmother who is my aunt is really sick. Let me just get to the point, I am in so much debt right now. Credit card debt and student loan debt and I don't even have a job at the moment. I feel as though it is the end of the world for me. My life is falling apart but it's my fault and I'm owning up to it. My mom is very disappointed in me, she won't even talk to me. I'm in my early twenties by the ways and I am about to finish college. What would you do if you were in my shoes??

Question: My dad said I'm weak like a jew from 1940 what does that mean?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 06:56 PM PDT

Question: I'm the reason why my parents are miserable but I'm not sure what to do about it ? Please help:(?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 06:46 PM PDT

This may be a little long but I really need the advice. My mom is an immigrant from China, she speaks english very well. My dad is from the USA. They met and got married after two years, then two years after they married they had me. They were sorta old when they had me, 40 and 46 yrs old. We used to be in a very bad financial position and struggled with money for around 8-9 years or so, and during that time they started fighting a lot and ended up getting divorced. They still live together because of me, but they hate each other to the point where they don't talk to each other unless it's absolutely necessary. Even then they argue. My mom always tells me horrible things about him, how he's addicted to marijuana and emotionally abuses her. My dad has tried to be a normal family but every time he talks to my mom she ends up picking a fight. My mom tells me that she's only living with him because of me, if I was gone she'd cut him out of her life. theyre both miserable and if they never had me then they wouldn't be in this situation. I can't move out since i'm only 14, and they won't solve their problems any time soon. Idk what to do?

Question: How to handle rude sister in-law?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 06:34 PM PDT

I've been tolerating her for years to keep the peace, but she's just so unbelievably rude and full of drama, she is the worst to my mom, who is so kind and generous with her time and money helping all the time with grandkids, etc, only to have my sister in law flip out on her at least once per month if not more, over absolutely nothing, threatening my mom that she'll never see her grandkids again, only to make up a few days later after my mom spends hours counseling her and apologizing to her up and down just to keep the peace. My sister in law had a hard past and likes to play victim to excuse her behavior. She also has anxiety and paranoia type issues. But I just can't keep throwing her a pity party excusing her anymore. I'm about to burst.

Question: How to get away from my grandmother (my legal guardian)?!?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 06:15 PM PDT

I seriously need someones help I dont know what to do!! Im 16 and have been living with my grandmother since I was born and its a living hell!!! Theres not a day that goes by without me crying thanks her!! Its all verbal abuse (I will not let her lay a finger on me but verbal its still abuse!!) She just makes me want to kill myself and I do not feel safe here!! She doesnt want me to have a life and she acts as if she owns me!! You wouldnt understand the way I feel about this!! She refuses to give custody back to my mom until she gets her own place (she has a nice apartment though with three bedrooms!!!!) I want to live with my mom for the last 2 years of my childhood!! Its all i have left. Its gotten to the point where i started ripping my hair out and throwing up my food because of her and the way she makes me feel worthless!! I just wanna live with my mom!! She wont give custody back and I dont know what to do!! Please please help me I cant live like this!! :....(

Question: Stay home or move out ?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 06:13 PM PDT

I am 20 years old going to 21 I work and my checks are around 626 ,my dad had been to the hospital because of drinking problems and they also discovered tb , so I stopped working for a week ever since he got out the hospital he changed his attitude he's more rude and I was ALWAYS with him in the hospital since day one now keep in mind that he's my step dad now both my parents want me to pay phone bill, light , gas ,water ,groceries and my Dad's credit card which all his debt is due to him buying beer I had a puppy that my boyfriend had gotten me she was just a baby my dad decided to kick her out and my puppy wouldn't even do anything to him everyday they stress me about paying bills and I HAVE to pay all that also they don't even let me sleep I get out of work at 12 midnight and except to be up by 9am I am really stressed I don't even have privacy my boyfriend offered me his house that I will only pay a bill or two all his family wants me to go with him but I'm unsure what should I do leave my house or stay there and stress out about the bills ?

Question: My mom says my dog deserves to be put down because she chased a man on a bike?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 05:49 PM PDT

What should I tell her because she keeps yelling at me

Question: How can I deal with my siblings? READ DESC?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 05:26 PM PDT

I'm the middle child, I have an older sister and a younger brother. My brother is 12 and acts 2. My sister is 21 and acts like a mean middle school girl (idk what else to compare her to and I'm in highshool btw). All my brother does is act really immature, sets me up to get in trouble, laughs in my face, humiliates me in public and around friends (when I'm on the phone he says stuff like I called my friend ugly, which is not true he just wants to start trouble). All he does is mess with me and I ignore him but it doesn't work and if I hit him back he then will do something worse or lie (my mom almost always believes him). My sister is always putting me down and saying I'm arrogant and that I think I'm a child prodigy (I did think that in 5th grade because my parents always said I'm smart, but I haven't thought I was a "genius" since elementary school so...) My parents are always happy I'm the most behaved and I guess it just upsets my siblings because my parents see me as a "perfect child" (which is not true... no one is perfect but I guess I am in their eyes). All they do is be mean to me and say I'm stupid or say I'm ugly (especially my brother) and Im getting sick of it because I don't know how to make them stop. If I talk to them they'll just say they're playing. If I tell them off they tell me to shut up and stuff. I'm just quiet majority of the time and yea I'm annoying from time to time but my siblings shouldnt call me ugly, stupid, *****, etc.

Question: I'm a 15 y/o girl and my parents don't care that my 18, 20, and 22 year old sisters take my phone away. Is this wrong? What should I do?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 04:47 PM PDT

-They think they're disiplining me but they're not my parents so they can't right? -My parents don't even care and support my sisters - Can they go to jail for taking my property - I don't pay for my phone my parents do but who cares Bc they're giving it to me so it's really my phone

Question: Have you ever been physically attacked before?? And who did it??

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 04:23 PM PDT

Question: My dad has a history of cheating I think it's gone way to far now?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 04:21 PM PDT

My dad has cheated a lot and mostly through text form and about September last year my mom and dad almost were going to divorce when my mom found out once he was cheating. The only reason they didn't was because he begged to come back and said he'd stop. When he came back he didn't text any other woman or at least that I know of but in about march he started texting woman again. This made me really angry because he said he won't anymore and yet he comes back to do it again. I'm starting to think he wasn't worried about losing us but about losing a place to live. My mom is pretty happy and she's found out other times he's cheated and I don't know what to do. I'm 14 by the way and I also have to mention me and my dad were never that close because he was mostly at work when I was little.

Question: How to talk to my parents about girls and puberty?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 04:19 PM PDT

So I'm a 14 year old boy (almost 15), who is going into highschool this upcoming school year. Now, as you'd imagine my body is changing and I feel differently about girls and such, and I do masturbate. The problem is I am afraid to be open to my parents about these things. Every time I mention a girl my parents (father especially) make jokes and kissy faces and stuff like that. I want my parents to know how I feel about that kind of stuff and why I am in the bathroom for an hour each day, but I am afraid to do so. Plus, if I get it all off my chest I will feel much less stressed and worried when I am looking at old playboy magazines and whenever I mention a friend of mine who just happens to be a girl. Thanks in advance.

Question: Moving- How do I switch over to a new doctor under my parent's insurance plan?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 03:55 PM PDT

Next spring I plan to move back home to Houston (from Massachusetts which my parents currently reside). I have been living with my parents during college, and next spring I will graduate college and will still be on my parent's medical insurance plan. I am prescribed medication by my current pediatrician which I receive monthly refills from. How do I quickly find a new pediatrician in the area I am moving to in order to make sure my monthly prescription isn't interrupted? Any other advice you have would be helpful

Question: Would it hurt your feelings if your sister said she would never love your kids the way she loves hers?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 03:29 PM PDT

Be honest.

Question: Can my sister be a character witness for me? I am the mother & petitioner. Thisn in regards to me terminating guardianship of my son.?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 03:01 PM PDT

Question: Why am I so retarded?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 02:56 PM PDT

Question: Help? boyfriend trouble?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 02:53 PM PDT

My brothers ex boyfriend knocked out his tooth and my mom is pissed off. my brother keeps coming back to him and hes is kind of bipolar and mood swings. He has a better bf now, but he keeps hanging out and lyingto my mom because she really overreacts. my mom is just cussing and keeps yelling at him and his bf he is with right now. shes been stressing herself out over this guy because she spent so much money on his teethbefore to make them straight and perfect but now that his ex knocked out his tooth now, and she found out he still texts and sees him,shes just stressing herself out.my moms taking all my brothers money in savings and hes only 19/20!!! my brother works but hes still trying even though hes still seeing this ex.my sister should be the one kicked out since she has a baby at like18ora young age,slob,lazy,and stupid(very stupid choices and doesnt know who he baby dad is) stil lives at home at22with barely any money but works even though she has nowhere to go, she should be kicked out still!yes my brother has lied quite a lot tomymom because of seeing him, and she wants my bro to sue him and crap like that. so the whole point of this is is that my brosEX long ago knocked his tooth out when my parents payed a lot n his teeth, and my bro keplying fo my mom and seeing his ex still. my mom kind if knew but just played aling but seeing now that she saw hes still lies and sees him,shes overraging and taking all his money etc.my bro keeps seeing his ex who knocked his tooth

Question: I'm bitter, angry, feel certain things have no point and I have no purpose and the way I'm forced to live is repetitive. What should I do?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 02:52 PM PDT

I'm 15. My parents are hoarders. I like to explore and live in a clean environment. A few days ago, my Mom was screaming at my Dad, for it seemed like four hours about how "we're broke". I didn't want to be involved so I kept my eyes on Netflix, as Glee, was making me feel less empty and I actually wanted to attempt to sleep that night. She came into my room and yelled at me about the finances. In response, I said, "I didn't buy anything." I just sit in my room all day and waste away. What she did, really ticked me off.. I knew I shouldn't have mentioned anything about it back to her because it would just get blown up, but I was just so angry. I mentioned I didn't want to speak to her or my dad. Who has been claiming, will get a job for six years (retired), but won't. He holds out for Ebay, but never does it. I tried to take action, but no one wanted to do it. I got even more bitter about it. You say, "we're broke" and what are you doing about it? hmm seems like nothing. I even went as far as to plan to sell my Xbox 360 the next day and all the books I read on my bookshelf (Which is a lot, and my favorites). They didn't appreciate my gesture. Totally makes me feel loved. Every so often, either when my mom blows up or something, I tell them how I really feel, more so. I knew I had to hold things back, because honestly who cares, and I tried to hold it for as long as I could, but it spilt out. I said, Please, I don't want to be here, anywhere else is fine.

Question: Why are parents so judgemental?

Posted: 26 Jul 2017 02:50 PM PDT

I'm a very well behaved kid, and always get good grades. However, parents always catch me in my bad moments(if i spill bubbles or hurt someone by accident/while we play) and they whisper or talk bad about me. They'll either make a statement about this generation, or that I have no basic manners to themselves or their own kids. I don't let it bother me much, but it is still a little irriating irritating* by bubbles i mean liquid, sorry