When I was in kindergarten I spent less than a year living in a small town in Colorado. I had an emergency in the family, and I along with my immediate family moved to Florida which is where my father s family resided. Since the move, I spent my entire school "career" in the same town. I still live in Florida to this day and am currently in college. Recently though, I ve felt an urge to go back to the small town in Colorado. I don t know why, but it feels like an emergency. I have no family in Colorado, and doubt I would remember any of my friends. Why do I feel this? I really feel like I NEED to go back very soon.

My father disapproves of my interests. I prefer painting, reading, dressing in formal casual clothes like nice sweaters and vests and I like practicing my cooking skills sometimes. My father says I should have signed up for football but I'm not interested in sports and he's come to the assumption that I'm gay since I don't like normal 16 year old things. A couple of days ago he went off on me for not wanting to play soccer with my cousins, he told me he wished it was the 1970's so he could send me to a mental asylum for being homosexual, he even told me he was going to send me to a priest to "fix me". Should I confront him about this? My mother passed when I was born and I don't know who else I could talk to about this.

Talking dont work as she lies in my face I don't trust her at all I tried talking to family about it because it's always me she does it to and nothing she's been doing this since she was a kid and they are tired of dealing with her. (she also has a attitude ) they don't do nothing and they don't care because it's not happening to them my aunt don't want to hear it no more I'm still looking for a job I can't afford to rebuy my clothes that she took and I shouldn't have to rebuy it at all but that's the only way I can get my stuff back because she lies to them about it and I would never do what she does to me I'm better than that but how else would I get my stuff back she also says she don't have to respect me and mouths off etc. Me and her argue all the time bc of her actions and nothing gets done about it she will never change as long as she thinks she can get away with it bc she knows they won't do nothing etc.

I CAN'T put up with this anymore! They're freeloaders! It's not their house, and they act like its a frickin' barn or something! They leave out the ice cream and milk, stuff that shouldn't be left out! Everything gets eaten, the stuff that's the supposed to be for me and my sister's school lunches included! They leave messes in my room, and for Christ's sake, they don't knock! I had a skin flare up and I couldn't wear my top, so I was sitting with a bra on, and the son just barges right in! They have zero manners, and they never listen! I've tried talking to my mom, but all she does is say "it'll be better when everyone has their own space" I CAN'T DO THAT. I don't have my own space! I can't WRITE for goodness sake without them peering over my shoulder and just no! No! I don't want to live here if they are but my dad's not the best and I don't want to live over there either but I'm leaning towards it! I need effing help before I snap! One of them's the same age as me, and the other is just a year older. We're all around the thirteen year range except my biological sister -she's almost 16

I'm white and Irish (mostly) and my mom and sister shame me for my natural "Irish" hair. My hair is coarse, thick, wavy, frizzy, and can be quite a lot to deal with on some days. I have confidence, except today that confidence was a bit shaken... what's a nice way to tell my mom and sister to f*ck off

How do I get to America? I'm in Canada, and I have family all around Canada. I don't want to be seen by relatives. I'm in Toronto, and I have relatives in Alberta, Quebec, Saskatchewan, and B.C. That's too many places for close relatives to be and I can't stay here because I'm in fear for my life. I want to be able to be free, and do whatever I please without watching my back, in fear for my life. My family is very cultured, and they want me to get married to my cousin. It will happen by force, weather I like it or not. Yes, I'm 23 years old. You guys might say "you are an adult and you can do what you want". But no, it's not that simple. If that is the case, I will be killed. No, I can't depend on police to protect me, because let's face it, they don't care much. It's not their life, so they're not worried, but I am. I've called police before when I was 15 when my dad beat me badly for seeing me talk to a boy. Police didn't really do much, and in the end, I'm back home. I've always been an ex Muslim, since I was just 12. I didn't really want to be a part of this. What do I do?

I want to be an actor secretly but anytine I bring it up to ma mother she says I'm too ugly and that I shouldn't waste my time on it. She says I'm smart and wants me to use my brain instead of my body/face to be succesful and wants me to be a doctor. I joined the play this fall and when she found out she beat me with a belt and punched me in the face telling me how much she hated me. She even forced me to do squats for two hours straight. Should I run away to a friend's house? Or do I have to apologize?

So..recently my dad leaves for hours and usually he comes home late night or tomorrow morning but today he left for a whole day and didn't even called me or my sister, he and mom argues a lot and mom argues with me and my sister too today she said so many ugly words to my sis, words thats not even supposed to leave a mother's mouth..She said so ugly and rude words for a little thing and made her cry then when i comforted my sister and defended her mom didn't even apologize plus she said she didn't even want to give birth to us...I have no idea what to do! We don't have money to pay for our classes, only dad has but he's not even coming home and i just can't take it anymore! I can't cry cuz i have to be strong for my sis and i have nobody to tell this, nobody to ask help from, even our grandpa doesn't care about us anymore...I feel like a failure and i cry secretly every day because i can't take this anymore, i have no idea why my parents do this with us, we've never did anything wrong, in june everything was good but then something happened and my life became a disaster..:/ What should i do?

So my sister went to jail yesterday, she will be in there for two weeks. Before she went she gave our mom $60 on a card to put money on her account so she can talk to her kids. My mom ended up spending the money on her boyfriend and tells us there's nothing we can do about it now the money's gone. What should we do? UPDATE: Our mom was supposed to watch the kids until my sister got out and now, after spending the money, she's making them go stay with their grandpa who is no better than her. Also my mom refuses to give the card back which doesn't make sense if there's nothing on it. My mom's done cruel things in the past but never something this wrong. What can we do to make her see she can't keep getting away with this?

I'm 13 and I usually go on my mom's phone to look at photos (non dirty just family memories) and also my mom's messages to text my sister's who are out of college. When I went on today I was a dirty message sent from dad saying something like 'want to(F) you every night' and that was two days ago! And then when I investigated a little more, three days ago he was like 'wantto wait to do you tonight's. I've already discovered that my parents watch porn and I still feel so weird about that but this feels even weirder and I feel so I dunno.... Can anyone please help me or anything?

So one day I went on the computer to check on my grades and I went through history. It was on my dads account and I saw multiple porn links. I felt so awkward and I was afraid to tell my mom. Then about a month later I went on my mom's phone when we were driving to go on Fanfiction and when I went through history I see a lot of porn links and even Google searches for porn and. I can't believe it. My parents don't look the type for this stuff and my dad is a pretty strict dad but nice and stuff and my mom is great too but I dunno what to do or feel. I wanna tell my sister's (they're our of college) but I dunno... I'm 13 what should I do.

I am 13, and when I was about 4 and he was 11 my brother started doing things to me and making me do things to him. This lasted until I was like 8-9. I never told my parents the whole extent of it until last year in January when he came home and did it again (he was 21). All they knew was that it happened once when I was 4, and he just spooned me and rubbed against me. So much more happened. Throughout the years he was doing it he pressured me into putting my mouth around his sex, almost taking my virginity multiple times (I always stopped him), and licking me down there, and my chest, making me watch p0rnhub, giving me underwear and bras to wear (I was a *******g premature flat chested tiny child) and more. Last year in January when he did it again, I told my sister and we went to my mom. all I told her at the time was what he did that night before. (Waited til I was sleeping, rubbed against me and put his fingers in my panties), that's all she thought happened. So she went to some friends from church and vented to them. they ended up going to the police. So I had to go in for a forensic interview. my mom told me to tell the truth, so I did. (Which was a lot more than she knew.) She was confused when she found out what I told them. She was upset that I hadn't told her sooner. I had to go in for a physical exam, (to check if I was a virgin) and it was absolutely terrifying. I was shaking tremendously and crying like a baby. She shoved a camera in front of my vagina. cont:

My dad is extremely emotionally abusive toward my mom, and other members of my family have noticed it too. I mean no disrespect toward my mom but she seems to have a low IQ and a subservient personality, which is why I believe my dad married her in the first place. My dad constantly makes fun of her when she makes tiny mistakes and starts fights with her on the daily. My sister and I comfort my mom 24/7 because of the countless times my dad starts fights with her over nothing. My dad is extremely controlling of her and doesn't let her make her own decisions. My mom's subservient personality causes her to bend to his every whim and it angers me seeing her get treated like **** by him. Whenever they fight my dad manipulates her into thinking that only she was in the wrong and that my dad was merely a victim. I felt so bad for my mom that one day I snapped and told her that she needed to start thinking for herself and not let my dad control her, but she snapped back at me claiming I "shouldn't say that because he's my father." I'm really desperate because I care for her. How do I get her to see my dad as what he really is, especially since she won't listen to me?

My fiance is 27 and wants nothing to do with his dad. He says seeing his dad is enough to send a shiver down his spine. His dad was a military man and extremely strict. It's odd for my parents though to never meet the dad now that my boyfriend and I are engaged. He said they don't get on, but my mom particularly feels the family must meet the dad at least once (his mom already passed away a long time ago). I've seen his dad (just saw, not met) in a shopping centre, and my fiance was agitated and basically 'fled'. I've told him to stand up to his dad by introducing him to us and then putting it behind (thus showing the old man he's not a punishable kid anymore), but he said he could never do that. Somehow I feel a bit disappointed. What's the best thing to do were you in my position? I'd say this isn't normal and must be addressed, not ignored. Thanks.

See Everytime I help around the house I get yelled at doing the chores right. When my brother make a mistake they don't yell when I make one I get yelled at yes I am the youngest. What the point of helping if I get yelled at lol.

This is just one example but for many years he made fun of me and said I didn't like anything. He basically said I was boring and didn't have any interests. Recently I became very interested in birds and now he makes fun of me because I like birds. He even gets mad when I talk about them (which is not often). Why does he do this? He said I didn't have interests so I told him one and he just used that to keep making fun of me.

I don't get it I help around the house and I still get yelled at like what the point of me helping if I get yelled at. If my brother does something wrong they don't get yelled at if I do the same thing they did wrong o get yelled at wtf. I am the youngest of the family. You know what its being the youngest

To a certain degree I know I should mind my own business but my mother has issues with her siblings and it comes back to punish me indirectly because I miss out on time with extended family. So for selfish reasons I would like her to forgive them so I can spend more time with cousins and all. They see each other a lot but only see me once or twice a year since my mother never wants to go see her siblings (their parents). I am afraid they won't like me or will think less of me because of it. The stuff my mother is mad about seems like stuff I would not be mad about if I had siblings and she has told me everything under the sun (too much) so it is not like there is things I don't know. I have cousins on the other side of the family but they don't live local like the ones on my mother's side do. @Alannah---She is mad among other things that she has always felt they don't like her (I think they object to her because of how bitter she got when their father had alcoholism). She also objects because she wanted to keep their mothers house when she died and she was out voted (house was sold for money). Lastly, she is mad because she wanted her mother in a nursing home, her siblings wanted her in a homecare setting (she was out voted). I think the things my mother is upset about are all trivial and non-issues. The two things involving their mother were simply opinions and not a right or wrong. As for the ancient issue about the father he recovered some 30 years ago and died 11 years ago. My mother was wrong to get bitter about it even if it was frustrating.

The death anniversary doesn't hurt as much for some reason as the anniversary of when all her family was there at Labor Day two years ago. Labor Day Weekend and the end of summer brings the memories so much more then her birthday or death anniversary (both in October). I feel like I do in October and I think because the whole family was there. We are spread out across the country so all of us being together is rare and only happened once since she died (also for a funeral). So how can I get through this weekend? Any thoughts on how I might survive? Labor Day Weekend was very hard last year.

And if grouchy when they aren't happy so why do they enjoy drinking if it makes them grouchy? He only does it like once a month so if he is an alcoholic at all it is mild.

My mom is always angry for no reason! There would be times I would just ask a simple question and that just makes her angry. Just yesterday I brought homework home and finished it. When she asked me if I had finished it, I said yes and then she proceeded to pulling out the VGA cables of my monitor and trying to take my desktop. In the past she has attempted to hit me when I told her I was having trouble sleeping, because she came to the conclusion that I was staying up playing video games. She has even accused me of watching porn and told my dad about her. This is really getting out of hand and I need some help.

I'm 22 and share a room with my brother. I have been doing so for all my life. He's 20 and has a 1 year old daughter. His side of the room is so god damn messy. It's not even funny. I hate to be that brother to tell him to clean his **** up cuz honestly he should know better and I'm not his mom so no just no. He just leaves his **** everywhere and doesn't care at all. I'm tired of it honestly he doesn't even sleep in here he sleeps in the living room and just uses his side of the room to throw **** on top of his bed and has clothes on there and trash under and around his bed. His bed sits 2 feet away from mine and our room is small so I have to literally step over his **** everyday I am so ******* annoyed

My sis is 8 & and acts like a mean, bossy, brat. She's been this way the last two years. I met with her teacher earlier (I'm 22) & she told me that my sis is very mean toward the other girls. She makes herself the leader of their "clique"& forces everyone to ignore the person she doesn't like. I know my sis is stubborn but Idk how she can be so mean. Idk where she gets it from bc at home she's so different. Just a happy go lucky child. My sister is gorgeous & a lot of people outside of our family always compliment her looks. I'm sure she'll be a very attractive teen/adult & I'm afraid for her. She thinks she can do whatever she wants bc she's cute. I know that'll bring trouble as she gets older. I've talked to her about this before & so has our parents but she still does this ****. We're not gonna spank her bc so don't even suggest that. Talking doesn't really help. How can I get her to stop this crap?

What if the mother wants the daughter to come back, but the daughter refuses. What can the mother do to get her back?

They made a decision about video games that I'm not too fond about and that only affects me. Long story short, the decision in question goes against my morals and ethics - not to mention I had absolutely NO say in it whatsoever.

My mum's in her late 60s and she's always been quite unnecessarily dramatic, but lately I find that I'm just not bothered enough to play her games. The latest thing that has been annoying me is that whenever I call her lately she is either passive aggressive or just plain aggressive. It's been the school holidays and she feels like I've "left her out"; what she doesn't consider is that I'm working full time from home with children at home and so is my husband. Over the last 6 weeks she has't once called up to invite us out for lunch or coffee or something. The last 15+ times we've seen each other it's because I've arranged it. She's perfectly capable of picking up the phone and saying "hi, you wanna go out for lunch?". She's also been annoyed because I haven't called, but she hasn't called either!! I always call her. It just annoys me that she's so intent on making drama. Three weeks ago I went over for three days and helped her clean and shop because she's not very strong anymore. But she's never grateful and she's always shouting and making drama. What can I do?

as you all know on the Maury show there are always girls accusing guys of being the father of their babies but everytime he isn't the father of the child, why do they get so mad for? can't they just let the REALA father know that the child is his? is it because they don't want to be seen as a S L U T on national television for all to know? I'm trying to see it from a girls point of view

It s really annoying, he s pretty young, and he still hasn t developed trying to do things without a bribe, any pointers?

I am a guy and I am the youngest grandchild in the family and me and my cousin are the same age and we have never been close to each other but we don't hate each other either. One time I told him about this guy who is way bigger than me started picking on me at my church and my cousin got so mad and he started asking me when my church service starts and where its at. Now my cousin is bigger than the guy who was picking on me. He is 6'0 and has pure muscle and no fat on him at all and my other cousin is the same and works as a bouncer. So why did they act all protective of me when they have never showed signs that they care before?

I am 13 years old. my mom opened my bedroom door without knocking, just as I came. I was shocked to see that she as so calm, but I was embarrassed, because I was still holding my penis under the covers because I froze. she said "oh excuse me" and that she saw what I was doing and said "it felt good, didn't it?" then she told me its alright and that we all have feelings like this sometimes. Then my mom said she was glad I was doing this privacy of my own room, and that when Im a little bit older, we need to talk more about what I was doing and what causes them and how I can control those feelings. finally, she said sorry for violating my privacy and that she will be sure to knock next time, then she said "meantime, beat it like it owes u money" and smiled and left. I know she wasn't mad,but I still feel awkward

Today my great grandma died. I was crying for a while(I rarely get so emotional) but I've calmed down now. Now I think about her last will etc. does that make me a bad person? I don't know if I'm in the will. Hell,I don't know if there is one. We were just really close and during the last days of her life only I visited her.

If I'm under 18?

So I am a 20yo female. I am soon 21. I live in Europe, so 18 in the European country where I live is the legal age. But my family keeps trying to control my life, and they believe in quack sites like Dr. Mercola and they forbid me from eating soy and corn and grains and certain other food ingredients too because they listen to Internet food scammers who say that those ingredients were poisonous even from the prehistoric times, when they never were poisonous, and it is just the pesticides and bad GMOs that are poisonous. And they try to cure every disease by forcing people to stop eating something. And they also think that I am too old to wear 80s and kawaii styles, and they want me to be sexy sophisticated without being revealing. They want me to look like a normal Hollywood actress, and with makeup that makes me look like Bebe Rhexa or Angelina Jolie. What can I do? I am very worried and depressed.

im 18 year old. My parents left me when i was 13 i live with my brother that abuses me.

ever since i was a baby, i went to my aunts house when my parents had work. That lead to me going to her house after school. So when school lets our, she picks me up and takes me to her house and i stay there untilnlike 7 or 8. ( shes really my cousin but i call her my aunt for respect) but since i m starting highschool, i feel like it s totally unnecessary. i m old enough to take care of myself. how can i let my parents know im sick of her! she yells at me for doing nothing. she yells at me for using my phone or watching the tv. she makes me clean her house even though i mess nothing up. i clean up after her. she hits me for having an " attitude " . she has this cat that hates me and has attacked me. the cat gets fur everywhere and its on all of my clothes. all of them. i see her everyday. if there is no school that day, i go to her house. before summer camp starts, i go to her house. after i leave summer camp, i go to her house. and i don t understand why they can t trust me. We have an alarm system that calls the police if someone comes in and doesnt put in the code. we have a lot of trusting neighbors houses i could go to if something happens or i get scared. i live in a great neighborhood. My grades in school are excellent. Why won t they trust me? evey time i ask i get yelled at. does anyone have a good arguement?

When my parents were still together and they would be fighting, my dad would oftenly come to me and blame me for the fight. I have alot of anxiety when there are fights and I used to self-harm. He'd keep saying that I never do things to clean the house, that I don't tell them about my life and that my grades were shitty; that was his reasons for why my mom would be pissed and tired all the time. During the first weeks/ first month of their seperation, he'd still blame me. When my mom would make him pissed, he'd come to me and blame me for it. After a while, he stopped, but since my little sister is a very messy person and rarely listens, my dad started to get pissed at her. Since then, he gets pissed at her generally twice a day and tell her stuff like "that's why mom left the house".

actually she is an asrtologer and don't know what all she has seen in my horoscope all negative things she doesent trusts me doesen't gives me a mobile phone she scolds me abuses me and irritates me i am 17 years old then too she wants to keep me in her control i dont do any kind of things what she thinks but she doubts me a lot and overthinks all negativity for me . what should i do i cant tolerate her anymore she herself has been in depression and now i think she wants me too to get depressed by her activities and actions against me

This was longer but I summarized it.. sort of. I know it might not sound bad but try and see it from my eyes. I know i'm not abused but I don't think this is okay. In 3rd grade - My mom got into fights about me with my dad, she blamed them all on me. It was always my fault and she called me a brat. From what I know I was told I was a sweet child, always nice to everyone (As most kids are this age.) She never apologized to me. In 4th grade - My grades started slipping, hormones got bad. I hated school and I sincerely believe I was depressed then. I stayed in my room all the time on the computer. My mom still yelled at me and all of the things before. She never apologized for it. In 5th grade - I got bad anxiety (I believe this was from my mom always demeaning me and saying my best wasn't good enough). I'm very sensitive so when anyone yells at me I get upset especially when my mom does. So she screams at me for crying which honestly makes it worse. I remember her telling me I had no friends, she apologized to me for this but it really hurt. My mom and I got in worse fights. My self-esteem was low. My mom threatened to kill herself and (I still loved her at the time) I told a teacher so social services got called (I went to school late and crying almost every day). My mom put up this act that she loved me and she denies that she was faking. I don't believe - (I have to update this to put more) her at all. She got my step brother and sister's dad to lie and act like I made everything up as if I had mental issues. But my dad and I cleared it up and they say she needs therapy (my therapist said this, I don't go anymore and won't) In 6th grade - My parents divorced and my mom still lives with us. My dad always backs her up in arguments too. My mom and I argued a lot and I can say I have genuine hatred for her. She tried to paint my dad as the bad guy I don't like him but he's better than my mom at least). But it turns out he just wanted her to quit smoking. She blames smoking on me and my dad. She threatens me with saying she'll smoke again but I honestly don't care if she does. Sucks for her. When I talk about how rude she is she brings up how she cooks,cleans and does laundry. She doesn't do my laundry, I don't eat her food and she doesn't clean my room. I won't act like i'm all innocent. I've screamed at her plenty of times. But she gets mad over the littlest things. I remember one day I was getting ready and doing my hair for school and I was just talking in a regular voice but she starts yelling at me for not wanting to ride the bus (it gives me a lot of anxiety and i'm used to getting a car home) banging on the table with so much force her hands and arms were red. Than she wonders why I said I was afraid of her that one time. (I'm not scared of her anymore, I dare her to touch me). I wouldn't hit my mom though. I know where it can make me end up and feel no need to hit her. She always says that I want to be treated like a princess but at the same time demeans me saying that the only thing i'm good for was b*tching and b*tching and b*tching. I also remember I was drinking soda (I drink more water than I used to so the occasional soda isn't bad) I started having self esteem issues here but most pre-teens do. She told me I need to watch my stomach and i'll get diabetes. (The stomach part kind of hurt me) I started joking around with my step brother because we know we aren't getting diabetes. She got really mad about this. She says she wishes I had different parents (i wish i didn't have her as a mom then I wouldn't act like this because she wouldn't be there. She says that I should have kids and that they treat me like I treat her (GOOD THING I DON'T WANT KIDS) She says I hope a boy breaks your heart (like my dad) breaks hers. Well he didn't break hers. He's not rude he has dealt with her for - years. I'm surprised he still smiles because after all that I could never smile again. Today my mom called me fat and my dad backed her up on this. Keep in mind they are both not skinny. I'm a 20.0 BMI last time I checked. So i'm sure i'm fine. She told me to lose weight because my pants don't fit anymore. She says I stress her out but then what in the world does she do to me? Every time she says something rude to me my dad won't back me up. If I say something back, my dad tells me to stop. Might I add my mom tries to grope my breast and butt. Even after I tell her I don't want her to! She says she can because she's my mom but I don't appreciate it one bit. Especially after I expressed I didn't want it. I shouldn't let her affect my life but this is the last straw. Next time she says something to me I want to curse her out and if she tries to touch me I want to hit her. But I guess I can't :/ I guess this is more of a rant then help. But if you did read thank you. I'm going to 7th grade in a couple days and i'm already stressed out and she's just making it worse. I also have no clothes to wear, didn't get into an honors class. My step-sister always tries to get in saying I shouldn't treat my mom like "this" (I scream at her sometimes) But when my mom does it to me no one bats an eye. My step-brother hates my dad and I hate his which makes it all worse in this how. I'm so upset right now I don't know what to do anymore. Especially since my grades got affected and my top priority is school. I want to go to a good school and get a good job and leave all of this. Too bad i'm 12 :/ Again sorry for how long this is I just needed to tell someone and get this off my chest.

I'm a 13 year old buy from Latvia. I have the best grades in the class and I behave well. So she asked me to send her phone contacts to her computer. She has one of those old touchscreen Nokia phone. A N97 Mini I believe. Before that I had sent her pictures to her computer but they were accesible much easier (just connect the phone to the computer with a cable). But with contacts I had to download a separate application. Also, before, when she saw me sending the pictures I also tried to send the contacts, but couldn't do so. I downloaded this Nokia application and synced all her contacts, pictures, videos and messages. I shouted out "mom" so she could check it out and maybe give me a simple "thanks". But no. She comes in, says " go wash the dishes, you little loafer! I go like "but, mom I'm helping you with your phone!" She goes "Shut up! I already know that you didn't do **** and I know you didn't manage to do such a simple task, as you always do!" I obviously get angry at her and say "Well, guess what! I did sync everything from your phone! But If you weren't so narrow minded and actually asked me if I had done it then it would have been okay" She says "How did you call me, you little prick? Narrow minded?" Then the bad part happens. She forces me to put my hands down so I couldn't protect myself, holds them down and slaps me across my face. This happened today and things like this have been happening to me for almost every single day for the last few years. What do I do?

So I turned 17 about a week ago, I grew up in a abusive childhood with my dad, where he would let out all his frustration on me when he gets home drunk.. so my dad got a court case against my mom so she can't see me :( I recently got diagnosed with leukemia and I just want to know why God gave me this life?? I believe I'm a nice person considering my past.. but I just don't have the power to carry on anymore, what can I do??

I am sixteen years old and my mum constantly calls me fat to my face and to family members when I'm not around. It's got to the point when both my younger sisters call me fat and ugly and disgusting to my face and it makes me so upset and self concious. At prom I was so worried about looking fat in a dress that I didn't get one until the day of prom, and even then I bought Spanx to make me look smaller so nobody would say anything. I'm not fat and I've never been over weight in my life, the biggest dress size I am is a UK 10, & I wear both size 6,8 & 10 depending. I recently bought a push up bra for an occasion and as they didn't have my size (32 C-30 D) I bought a 36 B as that was the closet thing, my mum found it, and started calling me obese because of the 36 band. The other day I went shopping and bought home some tops, my mum wanted to see and when she saw the size 6 label said "size 6? but that's tiny?" and implied that I was too fat to wear them. She gives my fourteen year old sister my clothes even if they fit perfectly because she says I'm too fat for them. Those are just recent examples. My mum has always been very rude about fat people, she fat shames an awful lot. Growing up I was very skinny, II have never been fat, so I don't understand where this came from? she often calls me fat in front of my friends. When I told her about how I feel, she either denies it, or tells me I am "too ******* needy" What do I do? Why does she do it? It makes me so upset.

This would be for families so adults with teenage kids and young adult kids

You can say Im in a similar tight spot, and It would be nice to hear some stories and have some advice please :)

If you have messed up parents, is it right for them to call you fat ***(if you have no flabby skin) overweight and obese just because of the clothing size you wear and because they saw your weight(56kg) on the scale but you're 5 foot 7 and they only want to let you eat 700 or 800 calories a day. Is this right? I'm not female. And this is a hypothetical question.

She doesn't like my husband's family because my father-in-law had a bad real estate deal with my grandfather on my mother's side like 25 years ago. It was all accidental but she won't trust him due to it. I am embarrassed by her not being more friendly with them as she socializes with my two siblings in-laws but is only cordial and no more with mine. I am embarrassed by her here. How can I get her to warm up.

It was her husband's mother.

Okay, so my mum is so horrible to me. Classic sentence. But my case is far beyond the ordinary, trust me. It's as if she loves to hate me and we argue too much. Okay: context. We live on our own, I have never know my dad and his family, most of my family are dead on her side, except form distant relations and my uncle and aunt. We used to go out as a four, even though they live quite far away. My mum is very private and independent, and doesn't really have many friends, and she has lost contact with them. She always feels that she is the one that has to call the shots when meeting anybody, so has gotten tired of being the only one doing so. Me- well I could say that she has influenced me quite a lot in the social department. Not having any of her friends coming around has affected me greatly. I have a group of about 5-6 friends and we got out like once every month or so, and I have found that any social interaction is a godsend. Then there's the house. Not good. I'll stop right there I don't want to talk about it. But it is one of the reasons why I don't have a good communication with my friends and no one comes round. Hell I have to stop advancing any of my friendships so the whole going round my house thing is avoided. Okay so, I'm 16, about to start sixth form, and yes, being the typical male teenager, I procrastinate, have a bit of an attitude problem and don't do much and don't yet have a job. But I do do something okay. My education. It is what I actually f**king care about. Having bagged mostly As and A*s for GCSE, I'm obviously continuing. But I was tired yesterday when we were ordering clothes, and I explained that to her, but she had had enough and said I would have to make do. Now all I need is a robust bag and a couple of shirts and trousers e.t.c. Most of my shirts are quite small and my bag from last year is practically destroyed. I have told her that I cannot feel in the mood for education with out the required equipment/ clothes. After yesterday's argument, we didn't talk, and this morning we talked about something completely different and it was as if she was a completely different person. But when the all important topic came up, she left the room. Now as you may tell, my education is one of the few things I actually care about, and when it is jeopardised in an argument as such, I'll have nothing left. The normal arguments end with me begging her to reconsider. And when she does, it is on her shitty terms with no compromise. But when my education is affected i get so stressed, anxious and very depressed and even to the suicidal extent because it is literally all I have. One time, she kept on trying to do things her way (which is always the case). I was not allowed to see MY OWN mock exam timetable which she ripped up. We got physical and I was left scratched and she had ripped one of my best t-shirts. At one point I dropped a C-bomb on her but regretted and apologised immediately afterwards. Now she's always saying that I don't respect her enough and I'm ungrateful. Her 'grateful' demands are hyperbole to anyone because they are too extreme. I've looked out for her with emotional support when she's been down. And because of the whole control thing, when she loses it, she in a way exercises so much more control and anger onto those below her in the hierarchy, which is me. One issue is that I compare myself to others. She has told me that you shouldn't care about other's opinions during our life. What a load of bs! I have a lot less than most, so I obviously compare myself. And I'm a teen, wtf have you forgotten what happens with the whole self-image thing? Another issue is that I am severely neophobic. I can't stand much change. So being rehomed or any of that is a no-no. All I just want is for her to change and respect me, not to be something she controls all the time and understand I am a good person compared most, and when my education is involved, not to do anything that screws with it. If nothing happens, my life will go to **** and it will be f**king ruined by one stupid altercation. Please, what do I do to fix this, and in the long term, stand up to her with out screwing everything I have again?

i am 30 and my sister is 14 we've lost our parents,i was 16 and she was only 2! So we were raised by our grandma how past away 3yrs ago.For the past 3yrs i'm her legal guardian. A lot of my friends think I'm strict with her because I check her phone every day, she has to be in bed at 9:30, no electronics until she finishes all her homework, D&C are not acceptable ,she has to say ;yes sir, no sir or yes ma'am, no ma'am when an adult is speaking!(I come from a military background)and so on.. Today she snuck out of school with a couple of her friends.The principal called me! He already called the cops. So I need to come to the school and I had to leave my job. I came into the office, and I've never been more embarrassed in my life! When she came into the room I was so angry can't even explain how much! So all of the kids got expelled except her because she has a clean record. But she did get a 3 week detention. When we got home she went straight to her room. After an hour I got up into her room and set next to her told her to explain what happened! Her:"it wasn't my fault and my friends convinced me in to doing it" ME:"I don't care... You have your own brain for a reason" she started yelling at me that I'm an idiot. and I got really angry so I slept her! And told her to think about what she has done! Yea I felt guilty but she deserved it was I wrong? should she get punished for sneaking out ?

My parents are on the shorter side of the family coming in at a 5,0 female and a 5,8.5 male But my family is tall around 6,0 6,1 6,2 But my family is short around 5,8 5,9 5,10 Which side will I be more likely on?

As far as I remembered, I never disrespect anyone in my mother's extended family side. As in the aunts, uncle, and cousins. I am very respectful, and open minded. But I just don't get why they don't like me? They would either shun me out or ignore me and not include me into anything. I don't know what to do about it honestly.

I've always been treated like a little girl Because I am the youngest in the family I am almost 18 and A senior in high school. Also I am driving Which I only drive to school and back home . And hangs out once or twice a month with girl Friends Idk why but my mom is the type who's a keeper She wants us all to live in the same roof Never grow up and depend on them selves . I'm so tired of hearing you'll always be my little girl and your never gonna leave the house and live somewhere else . like she said " who said that I will let you go?" To my siblings and aunts when theg asked me to go and live with them. Honestly?? I feel like a prisoner They wants me and my 25 yr old sister who is at the house to graduate& get a job then get a career while leaving with them till we get married one day Y'all !!! Her and my stepdad gave me a speech of a bad girls and what happens when they move out or stay with a room mate All I said was " hey mom so i want tgt UNT and get in a dorm so I won't have to pay for an apartment . " Guys?? do I seem like the type that would do s**x or party at a clubs every week? And in universities we have holidays to go and visit family which I will . but hey a little bit of an agreement won't bother.. like who wants their kids to depend on them till they get married !!?! I dont like kids and i dont want a husbsnd later on . fr I am good on my own single life . no pain no gain

I'm a single mother of a 4 year old. Dad is in his life when he wants to be. Doesn't provide anything but will occasionally "watch" him if I ask and he's not busy(has no job).... BUT i want my son to have his father in his life so i don't want to be the reason he's not around period if I put him on child support so I never have. But now at this point in my life I need to move and with all my expenses plus daycare weekly it's nearly impossible to afford living arrangements for me and child. I wanted to apply for tanf temporarily because he's currently been incarcerated and I have no other options. His mother helps when she can but I need stability. I just don't want him to have to be on child support bc he'd never pay or probably gonna see my child again which isn't what I want but I just need some temporary help

He chocked me on the kitchen floor because he was angry I woke him. I busted my knee cap trying to escape him. He followed me upstairs I remember falling trying to get away from him fighting for my life then he punched me in my face. My friend called the police because I had my phone on upstairs and she heard me crying for help. I had a panic attack and began screaming for my life. My husband mocked me while I layer on the floor screaming and told my children not to go to me. I have 2 boys. He was arrested. I am a stay at home mother and my husband is in the Navy reserves after 7 years of navy. I don't know what to do next and I can't go to family because I don't have any family. No exaggeration I was abused by my mother and I don't know my father and my siblings are scattered across the US.

When I was younger my mother used to beat me until I was bloody and screamimg with a wooden spoon. I still have the scars from that. She also used to dig her nails into me to the point of ripping up skin, and over just saying the words "Never mind". She threatened me with a red hot fire poker several time too. She doesn't really use these any more, except for digging her nails in. She has moved on to verbal abuse. But was/Is it okay for her to beat me bloody?