My husband and I have been having some issues and we are long distance so we see each other like once a year when I visit or when he visits. We had a huge fight recently that caused me to give him an ultimatum on getting counseling for his anger issues. I thought he was going to counselling because he told me he goes but he had a fight with his friend and she came and told him that he told her he doesn't plan on going to counselling because he "tried it before" and it wasn't for him. I don't who to trust. I don't know what to believe. I am confused on what to do next. P.S the convo between his friend and me was confidential so the things said I can't repeat it because he told her to "not tell me everything because I don't need to know everything that happens in his life" So I can't even repeat what she said. @Felony I asked him his counselor's name and he told me "He can't tell me that" and I asked for her number and he said the same thing.

religions frown on divorce. they preach that marriage should be forever, and once a couple marries, they're stuck with each other for life with no way out. but then they tell kids to get married really young, as soon as they turn 18, because they're not supposed to have sex outside of marriage. they need to get married right away because they're not allowed to have sex any other way. well of course at such a young age, nobody is mature enough for marriage, and their marriage winds up becoming a disaster. so what religion is really teaching us is that people need to be miserable for life, starting from a very young age, stuck forever in a disastrous marriage with a partner they hate. (and stuck with a bunch of kids they can't afford to support, either.)

In a verry happy couple.how does it start? What do they do,and do they always make love following foreplay?it happens only between married people or who already made sex or both wishes so ? Is it illegal for those who don t have a verbal commitment to do so?

My husband and I recently rented a house for a canoe trip weekend get away. The first night we went out to a bar and met a guy he found on Craigslist to have sex with me. This has been his fantasy for awhile for me to be with another man. We have a great marriage and sex life but I never was really interested but I have felt I needed to do it for him. After quit a few drinks at the bar we all went back to the house and I ended up having sex with him. My husband and I have not used condoms for years and the one my husband brought was way to small for him so we just did not use any, I thought he had a vesectomy like my husband so I let him *** in me several times over Fri and sat. My husband knew he was cumming in me and was ok with it. After we got home I was a little worried because i just felt weird, I knew some was just from his large penis making me soar but I the looked at an ovulation caleder based on my cycle and that weekend was when I was ovulating. I have not tested positive on a pregnancy test but am a day late on my period. Should I wait until I know if I am pregnant or tell my husband now. Afraid to see my obgyn again because I saw her last week because of the soreness and I told her we were using a large toy for the first time, she knows my husband had a vesectomy and will know I was with another guy. Embarrassing!!!

We live in a pretty family friendly neighborhood. It's quite & just your average suburban neighborhood. Lately, our 15 year old next door neighbor has been having drinking parties with tons of kids parked all over the neighborhood & very loud music all through the night everytime their mother goes somewhere. It's gotten so bad my daughter isn't getting sleep & has to sleep on the opposite side oft house to not here it. I'm becoming Frustraited but my husband has insisted I don't get involved & stay out of it as he says "kids will be kids." & to just "let them be" I'm not sure what to do? None of the other neighbors have said anything so should I just stay out of it? What does everyone think? This has been occurring about once a month or so.

My boyfriend and I were laying in bed the other night after sex. He began out of nowhere talking about a girl from work and how goofy and climsy she was and how she had a tattoo he liked and said I would look good with a tattoo. I didn't say anything but something about this bothered me. Am I over reacting? I thought it was rude of him to tell me this whole in bed with him and it made me feel bad about myself and worried about him going into work now.

My husband and I have debates about this all the time. He's an Arab, so he understandably does not want to fully state this. On the other hand, I have several male Arab friends from school who have told me of current or past marriages to Arab women where their wives would refuse to work, and spend all their time shopping for designer clothes, at the salon, and smoking with the girls, while their men slaved away 12 or 16 hours a day to "attempt" to pay off the overwhelming debts their wives would create for them. Also, when I worked in an upscale department store to pay for my college, all of 8 or 10 Arab ladies who got hired around me would disappear in a week or two. They were the laziest women I had ever seen - when we were busiest, I would literally watch them find a space behind the sales counter to curl up in so they could hide and play with their phones. They would just stop showing up to work or get fired. Any time I ask an Arab woman what she does for work, she tells me "oh I smoke hookah and entertain my friends" or "shopping" or "nothing". I'm not suggesting ALL Arab women are like this. My question is, is being spoiled and lazy accentuated or more prominent amongst Arab women? I genuinely would like other views, because mine may be distorted by the fact that where I live has one of the largest Arab populations in America. Thus far all I can speak for are my personal experiences. What are yours?

My ex husband and I share legal and physical custody of our daughter. We have been living with our families respectively. I am finally able to move to my own place. Do I legally need to let him know? It s a different town but it s about ten minutes from the area we are both in right now. Our daughter spends one week with him one week with me. Our divorce agreement doesnt say anything about moving. Any help would be greatly appreciated. We live in Mass

His brother called me names for not doing the dishes, does drugs in our home and is extremely disrespectful. My husband refuses to ask him to move out and told me I am being immature. I have lived with a lot of roommates and my husband said I am immitire and we should act as good roommates.

My mom just told me my she and my dad are considering divorce. I m a teenager and I live in a country other than where I m from. My dad works in one country but visits us every two weeks for two weeks (aka he s with us half the time). If my parents were to divorce how would the living situation change? what would shared custody be like if my parents live in different countries? thanks

I have known him for three years now and we are both 18 (we've been going out since sophomore year). We have talked about getting married after graduation and we both agreed that we should. I know that most people would say our romance is just a stupid little thing that we will eventually grow out of, but it's not. Neither of us can imagine life without each other and, although it sounds like a cliché, we fell in love at first sight. We think that getting married is something that will eventually happen, so why not now? However, I come from a traditional family and I want my parents to be okay with their new son-in-law. My parents have hated my boyfriend ever since he accidentally broke my bedroom window two years ago when he threw a rock to get my attention instead of using the doorbell. I believe that is a stupid reason to hate him but I'm sure it's not their only one. I think they believe I'm too young to be in 'actual' love. They don't understand that we really have something special. My boyfriend and I both want to spend the rest of our lives together. So why would it matter if we are young? I know that technically I could just get married but I don't want any bad blood in the family. It's because I love my parents so much that I don't want to run away to Las Vegas to get married. My boyfriend and I want a traditional wedding, which is why it's important to have my parents' blessing for our marriage. PLEASE HELP!!

My husband thinks divorce is for people who have a "fallout". Like he said he loves me but if it doesn't work it doesn't work. What does that mean? Is that the person just giving up on the relationship? How can you love someone but want a divorce? I don't understand. I thought divorce was for people who don't love each other anymore. Or if the relationship was abusive. Can someone give me advice.

On April 2010 I separated from my ex and he was awarded temporary full custody of my children because I was really bad on drugs. I'm just recently recuperating and I am ready to get my children back, I know it has been about six years and he has been raising them on his own and he did acquire sole custody and I only have supervised visitation every two weeks and he does bring them to where I Matt because he lives three hours away and I cant afford to go out there. Is there anyway I could get them back without spending too much on an attorney because I am low income I only live off of my SSI check I have never had a job my boyfriend is the only one that works but he only works a minimum wage job

like flatmates?

I kind of always want to but im scared he will get mad and ask why im checking it.

This is how i caught everything. I was on my way home from cancer related appointment i had with my doctor. I had bilateral double mastectomy. I was on my Facebook and reading all the news. I don't do Facebook often but just to read the news. I start reading everything and I saw my husband posted some other lady picture. he said "where have you been in last 33 year?". That was his ex-girlfriend from 33 years ago. She then responded "Love you, *****. You know I have been here and there! but you found me now!". I immediately felt there was something suspicious going on. I copied the message and sent it over to my husband. He claimed that He never spoke to her and doesn't even know her number. I then starting to read all his message which was even more hurtful. I told the girl that he is married and she said she did not know he was married. He said he didn't tell her he was married because he didn't want to lose contact with her". I looked through all his message to his friend. He sent picture of her and said "I found the love of my life from 33 years ago! I am going to pick her up from the house and bring her to my dj gig. Take a picture of her! What do i do if my wife finds out about it? I'm meeting her once before i bring her to talk about the situation. She needs to tell me a few things she said. We have 33 years to catch up on." and " She's gonna call me tomorrow and If she doesn't, I will. When a piece of your heart comes back, you feel like you own it and it's wrong but uncontrollable. Actually it can be controlled but we just clicked like old times on the phone like we never left" These are the message he sent to his friends. He talked to her at night while i was sleeping in bed at 2 am. I feel totally betrayed that he did this to me after all i been through with cancer. He said it was just bragging talk. He was just doing a men talk. He didn't mean it. There is nothing going on. He loves me. He doesn't know her. How can i love her! like this. What do i do I can't believe this. I am also being warned about possible uterus cancer. I can't believe he is doing this while i am going through this. He acted like it wasn't a big deal. What do i do? I know. I know it doesn't matter. I just don't know how to handle this while i am going through with cancer treatment.

My husband and I have known each other a long time. We've been on and off for 10 years but we've been together constantly for the past two years. He is my bestfriend and perfect in almost everyway. But lately he's been spending most of his time in the bathroom. ( yep...masturbating) he takes his phone, jelly, and weed ( we both smoke weed so idc about it) in the bathroom with him and is in there for three hours. I bought some jelly for OUR personal use and WE used it once. He used the rest. I know masturbating is normal but I'm starting to feel very insecure bc he's been choosing to do that instead of waiting to have sex with me. He's doesn't come out of the bathroom sometimes till 3:00-4:00 am and went in there at 12:00! When I talk to him about it he gets very defensive, and doesn't want to talk about it. We had sex back to back one night, and he still went in the bathroom "to do his thing" afterwards. We both have very high sex drives and most the time I'm the one taking it. But it hurts me to no ends that he would rather look at porn and get off then just come get off on me. Am I being over dramatic or does anyone else feel the same?

Option 1: Marry the person who you don t really love or feel a connection with because you had a baby with and because your family really likes this person. Or Option 2: Marry your ex of 10 years who is your best friend and the person you ve always been in love with because when your together you feel happy and complete but your family really hates this person and will be pissed if you went back to this person. Here s where it gets tricky. Your engaged to be married to option 1 next year and option 2 declares their love to you and feels in their heart that this separation from each other made them realize being married is what they really want and wants to elope in 2 months. Option 2 is what you ve always wanted more than anything but option 1 seems like the least complicated/right person to chose because of family influence and mutual child but going with opt 1 means not being in love. Oh and if it matters option 1 is the worst sex ever like I dread it, boring dull and feels like a chore. Option 2 the sex was most of the time amazing. Sexy, kinky, fun, exciting it was never dreaded (no I m not fooling around on option 1 with option 2) What do you do ????

My wife and I have split and we have agreed to divorce. I live in Georgia. The problem is that the guy she's with doesn't want me in our 3 kids lives even has them call him dad. She wouldn't even let my mom go to our son's kindergarten graduation. When I go down there to see my kids she refuses to let me take them with me because she thinks I won't bring them back. I'm not a drug addict I'm not an alcoholic or violent so I don't even understand why she says that. In order for me to be able to spend time with them I have to stand outside in the front yard with them. .....can she do that or can I just tell her no and get my kids regardless?

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If their partner treated them that badly they would of up and left and in domestic abusive relationships the victim is to afraid to cheat, leave or do anything to prevent pissing that person off speaking from psychology and personal experience. Some men and women like the thrill of being sneaky and enjoy variety it's nothing that their partner did to them. Most people who come into relationships for sex are most likely to get it then leave and then they will ditch their partner for another man or woman to have sex with. And once the cheater has been caught they end up begging for their partner back or for forgiveness so they could of not done something that wrong because like I said before if their partner was that horrible they would of up and left. Why defend cheaters?

My wife is one of the world's worst drama queens, which as we all know, mainly originates from past failures and incidences in life, notably childhood. In the past, I've tried to just ignore it, but that even made it so bad once that she laid on the floor and screamed until I reacted the way she wanted. What can I do?

He just gives his phone numbers to random girls (he tells me about it so nothing to hide) But I tell him this hurts me, and he naively does it again. with his "i was just being nice" trying to help out a stranger to pay for their drink, and need to get the money returned so I gave my number. When does it click that this is hurting our marriage and he should never do these nice guy things under no circumstance? So tired of his mess.

If I transmitted it then I will not get my dream job that Iv been prepping for 7 years for. I'm so pissed!

you have to sign an affidavit when applying for a confidential marriage license in California that you and your partner are living together at the time of marriage however if you lie and actually were not living together would your marriage no longer be valid?

Each time he told me about it, so his reason is why would he tell me if he was up to something? Each time his reasons and explanations seemed fair, and he has not given me any suspicion otherwise. 1st time, he had a extra ticket to a show, that I could not attend. so he gave his phone number to a random so the ticket would not go to waste. 2nd he met someone, and told me about it, and 3rd time, some random at a bar card declined, so he paid. Then gave her his number to get the money back.

Me and my wife have been together for 5 years. but for the past few months things have been bad. We fight alot about all kinds of stuff and feel like we dont communicate well. The day before she left we got into a massive fight because I was being very lazy etc..instead of me just admitting that she was right I argued with her and it escalated. We both went to get some food and fought the whole way there and back. When we got home I tried to avoid her by going upstairs and she followed me to continue the argument. I went back downstairs to eat my food and it tasted funny and she asked me how it was and if it tasted funny. I got upset because I didnt know what she put into it. she left the room and I grabbed her phone so that I could delete all of the messages that she had been saving up to use against me. (back story here is that we had fought previously and she said some things in text to me that could be considered an offense like suicide notes or threats and she deleted all of them. She kept screenshots etc of things she believed to be offenses committed by me.) At this point she comes up behind me and dumps water all over me and my computer. I got up and we went to the kitchen and she wanted her phone and we both went for it at the same time. I was faster and I got in front and she scratched my back and it hurt so I backed up and my body weight pushed her to the ground. I never put my hands on her. At this point I grabbed her phone and threw it hard and it broke and basically screamed about all the frustrations I have been having with her. Things quieted down after that but three hours later she calls the cops. They came and found no fault with either of us. The next day she came home from work and started packing her things she was leaving. when I walked in the other room she ran upstairs and grabbed my daughter from her bed and tried to leave. I tried to stop her so she ran into my daughters room and locked the door and called the cops. When the cops came I was so upset and tried to plead with them I couldnt understand why she was allowed to take our daughter and why I had no right to stop it. I was very angry and upset I cussed at everyone and the police were ready to take me to jail. Finally my wife came down with my daughter and when she was leaving I said some very nasty things to her. When the door shut I was devastated I just lost my whole family in the blink of an eye and I had no control over it. I had no way to contact them or know where they even were. The next few days I spent alone and it is a feeling that I will never forget. I had alot of time to reflect on everything and I have realized that although it takes two to make a marriage work I knew that it was because I was a bad husband and father to them. I played video games all day and night, I stopped working out, I never went on trips with my wife, and I basically turned on the TV when I had my daughter and would play games all day, this is just the start. I took my family for granted and it cost me everything. but this is not the end of the story yet. after waiting 4 days to get a chance to speak with my wife and see my daughter I finally do. She sounded angry and bitter towards me. I apologized to her but I did not beg. I told her how I realized the mistakes I made and that I am not going to tell her what I am going to change but show her instead. She told me that I have alot to prove in an angry way. We then made an agreement for me to see my daughter the next day. later that night she sent a message to my grandma saying that I was a liar and that I reported to her command(she is military) that I was abused by her. I did not do this I merely told my command what happend when they asked because she told hers She then blocked my grandma(who she was close with) and filed an emergency protective order against me saying I could not contact her or my 2 year old daughter for 3 days. This blew my mind I thought we were finally making progress then this happens. At this point I had to get an attorney because I did not want to risk having this protective order going on longer. My attorney suggested that I go and get a protective order against her and file for a warrant for domestic abuse. I went and did it as a defensive measure but I now regret the warrant because I do not want to hurt my wife. so while I went back to try and reverse the warrant they tell me to wait and they arrested me for violating the order. (I had sent a message to her on facebook before I was served). Now I am sitting her with all of these pending legal actions and all I can think about is if I can save my marriage. Am I foolish to think that if I could only sit and talk with my wife that I could fix all of this? I have realized the faults in myself and I am actively trying to change. At this point the things that she have done to wrong seem meaningless to me. Even with all of this going on is there any hope that I can get my wife to give our marriage another chance? We have had fights before but once I sat down with my wife and talked to her, I was always able to fix it. I just dont know what to do. I dont think I can ever give up on my family. I know exactly what I have to do to be a better husband and father and I will do anything to save my family

My ex wife of two years has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). We had a roller coaster marriage of her constantly leaving and I'd chase her back. The few times I didn't chase her back, she'd eventually find a way to get into my head and we'd be back again. Even after many months of being apart at times. The last breakup resulted in divorce which she said she wanted and we went through with it. Since the divorce, it's been six months with no contact from either side. I've been told that she's so down in life right now. Out of nowhere, she started some crazy problems with my brother accusing him of something he didn't do. He was in a completely different state at the time but she didn't know this. For this reason, her circus of lies on him fell apart so fast. She got caught making up lies. Prior to this, they got along great! My best guess is she started this so that I'd contact her to tell her to please leave my family alone. I know her so well. She wouldn't have the face to just call me, I knew when it was time she'd pull something like this indirectly to get me to respond. I have not responded at all! So my question is: does this seem like a likely way for her to get me to re-engage with her. Second question: is her purpose to try to start our relationship again. I'd really appreciate any help or input of how you see it. Thanks!

Lately I've been talking a lot about having a mental block that prevents me from improving HOW I SEE my marriage. Take note, that phrasing is extremely important for you to understand my mental illness. My marriage is actually fine, it has been since 2013 when I got my job; but because I can't see it as fine (the mental block) I create my own problems based on my mental sickness. Yes folks, I admit it, I am mentally ill. Not mentally ill like bipolar or schizophrenic or narcissistic or even sociopathic; but instead ill like I am unable to be grateful for what I have if it is sub par. I get caught up in my idealism and the way I want my life/family/marriage to be, that I create problems based on my inferiority to my peers... Because in my mind, I *am* inferior to my peers and that's why they don't respect me. If only I was smarter, handsomer, richer, wittier, a better father, a better husband, a better worker, or just not a piece of internet garbage trash then I'd be worthy of this life... But I'm not worthy of this life. Most of you on here have proven that to me... My inferiority complex runs deep. Many of you have noticed that I have no self respect, that's because being emotionally "put in my place" by the bold people around me has proven to me that the boundary between me and them doesn't exist. And when I tried to defend myself, they just used more force (typically a fist). So, my self esteem went away and now I know my place, below everyone else as their inferior...