Family: Question: How can I deal with my younger sister who thinks she better than me?

Question: How can I deal with my younger sister who thinks she better than me?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 02:17 PM PDT

Question: My mum's affair with this man? Now I'm paranoid he'll cheat and leave us again!!!?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:43 PM PDT

My mum has been seeing this married man and now he has finally left his ill wife and family for us. He moved in just before Christmas surviving only four weeks before he just said that he was going to Manchester with his sons, and he left her without even telling her for two months - but now we've found out that he didn't go to Manchester, but Liverpool and his wife went with him and he slept with her. They have reconnected and he moved back in us. At first when he came back for the second time it was great, but now my mother has told me, my brother and sister to be on our best behaviour so that we don't upset him - he said he left because we were a "dirty family", that "didn't clean up", and "wash". He's very narsasistic and gets moody when we don't pay him any attention. His son messaged me through Facebook telling me that he has cheated on her the whole time when they were having their affair, goving me the phone number of the person, he denied it to us all, and my mother said infront of us and him that he (his son) crazy as he's a tard with Aspergers and doesn't know what he's talking about - and that I forbidden to call it: I think my mother is just burrying her head in the sand to be honest. His son also said that when he called back to his sons and his wife that he ranted about us calling my brother "a ugly loser - with bad breath and teeth", "that I am fat", "that my mother is a slut that cannot dress well" and that we are "a family of lowlifes"... We keep having to stroke his ego because he gets very erratic when we ignore him. He has said to us all that he'd never ever leave us (and my mother has a said that he'll never go back to THEM: his wife since she is diasbled with MS), and is confident that he won't cheat on her again - But I'm paranoid that he'll have another affair behind my mum's back and will run off with someone else when he gets bored of us all (eventually)... What are the chances of him doing it again and staying... ... As he's promised never to leave us... But I'm just paranoid that once things settle down he'll have another affair and run off - it's like we're walking on eggshells with him in order to please his massive ego!

Question: Is it possible to have a relationship with a selfish adult child?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:38 PM PDT

My daughter's father passed away April 1st. He and I had been divorced for many years due to physical, mental and emotional abuse that I could no longer endure. Even after our divorce he spoke ill of me- especially to my daughter and indirectly told my her that he never laid a hand on me. My daughter told me that she knew he was abusive because he had hit his present wife as well. My daughter never said anything to her father. It hurt twice as much because he lied and she said nothing. Over the years, he was still abusive verbally. He'd lie about the abuse and say I was an evil lying B$#$@. I've been good to my daughter and always been there for her- no matter what. When he died I grieved in a way I hadn't expected for many different reasons. I chose to do so quietly and alone. I felt no sense of obligation to attend the funeral as my daughter is 30. She was mad that I didn't attend. As well, the communication between us broke down slowly but surely. I was going back and forth to the doctor and found out I had cancer. My daughter has not once tried to visit or called or text to be here during a difficult time. She said she would not apologize since she had lost her dad and even though it had been two months, she was still not over it. I was so hurt because even though she lost her dad does that mean she no longer has a mother? She has been out partying with her friends though. Its been three months now. How can our relationship ever be right?

Question: Dads girlfriend doesnt like me?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:28 PM PDT

so i moved in with my dad and his girlfriend last year to make up lost time and to be away from my mom for a little bit. his girlfriend is a stay at home mom and has 2 young girls (3 and 7). its always been awkward around her since she seems kind of scary. the way she disciplines her kids are kinda scary, like she ll literally be yelling and running around the house if her kids are bad telling them things like she s gonna cut their tongue (she s asian) if they don t behave. anyway, my dad is almost always out of the house and when he comes home he s tired. so yeah everytime i ll try to tell her something like the toilet isn t working or idk anything she ll either ignore me or pretend not to hear me. she doesnt do this when my dad is around though. it s awkward going into the kitchen since she s there or downstairs so i stay in my room. what do i do?

Question: My moms boyfriend is coming between us! What do I do?!?!?!?!?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:21 PM PDT

My mom got this boyfriend a few weeks ago. He lives in Florida and we live in St. Louis. He was our shuttle driver and he is a retired MLB baseball player. My mom is 44 and he is 35. He's so ugly and my mom is really pretty. The first date they went on he spent the night, and he stayed at our house for 3 days. I was at my dads so I wasn't there. Then she recently told me she was visiting her best friend who lives in Memphis. After she got back I found out she was in Florida with him. They were a few blocks away from where the mass shooting happened. She still hasn't told me she wasn't in Memphis. They call each other every night and talk so long that my mom sometimes forgets to make us dinner. She always texts him while she's driving and talks about him constantly. She knows how much I hate him but still talks about him. Whenever she gets mad at me she tells me that she can move in with him and forget all about me and my brother. He gives me a really bad vibe and he always says how bad I am at everything. He always talks about baseball and brags about how good his son is. My little brother and his kid are the same age and my mom says how good her boyfriends kid is. It makes my brother cry and my mom does nothing. I've come to the end of the line and I'm in middle school so I can't move away. Her boyfriend also talks about how I'm bad at everything. (I'm a straight A student).

Question: My dad is a problem to me.?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:21 PM PDT

Hello Everyone. I have a dad with six step siblings and am the first son of my dad. I didn't grow up with my dad due to some circumstances. i do visit hm. He adores my brother after me so much that he gives him what ever he needs. And my brother is a very unserious boy who has no ambition for his life. By the way my dad is very rich but doesn't take care of me at all. When i ask him why, he tells me he wants me to be strong while is indirectly making me suffer. I've work in one of his business ventures for 6 months now which i use the opportunity of doing my School Industrial Training. I want to go back to school and his telling me he doesn't have money which is a big lie. My Dad has suffered me too much in my life. But he gave a couple of millions of cash to someone today in my presence. Don't know what to do. My dad is wicked for reason i don't know about and which he also doesn't want to talk about. Am planning to sell one of his car and use the money to continue my school. Mind you , my dad doesn't take care of my mother. But the makes sure his other wife are okay. Please advice me on what to do please. Thank you.

Question: Should I stay or should I go ?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:21 PM PDT

So I lived in Georgia for almost two months I found several jobs and currently work in retail at a Family Dollar and so far I'm doing OK I got other government help since I been here and transportation fair as well, before that I lived in Florida with my mother, brother and sister I worked in fast food at McDonald's but I just felt like I wanted to experience life and move on my own with the help of my cousin, so far I'm doing OK but my mother miss me and need the help and I miss them too but I want to move forward and do what's best for me and I feel sad because I want more in my life and in Florida there is No opportunity for me I have a huge charge for something I didn't do I was just being at the wrong place with bad influences at the wrong time when I was 19 in Florida a couple years back and I tried so many jobs down there and they all rejected me due to my record except McDonald's and since I moved to a new state I have a fresh start and I can apply and get in any jobs except government jobs in the state of Georgia and any other states if I want to try in the future, and so next week I was planning to go back to help but I'm scared it's going to be the same drama and no job to take care of myself and my mother doesn't listens to me all she cares about is her agenda and when I'm helping it's like she doesn't appreciate anything I do but then again I want to leave here and go back to Florida and help but I just feel so stuck so what should I do ?

Question: I think my dad has been kidnapped!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:09 PM PDT

He went to the bar with my grandma last night and said that he'd be home in the morning, but then just now my grandma showed up in a taxi and I can't find my dad anywhere!! I tried asking my grandma where he was, but she claims that he is right here and she won't say anything else!! My dad has had a lot of run-ins with gang members in the past, and recently he accidentally exposed someone's drug operation while delivering mail in the Chicago suburbs, so do you think that somebody could have kidnapped him??? I am so scared and the police aren't helping me, what do I do???

Question: My mother is so much easier on my younger sister then when my older one was a kid, why is this mothers do this?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 01:09 PM PDT

I hear it is normal and not just the case for my mother. I am the middle child in a family of 6 (one of two middle ones). The younger two seem to get away with a lot especially the youngest. The youngest wines enough she gets what she wants even if my mother says no at first. As a result she (the youngest) is a big brat at 20. However the oldest, age 37, is lovely. She had rules and there was a right and a wrong. I had rules though not as much as the oldest. The youngest only has rules for extreme things (no drugs, no reckless driving, etc...). So why is this as I hear many mothers are like this. My Dad seems more fair evenly to all though my mother pushes him to be more liberal now with the younger two. He is the more consistent parent though.

Question: I still feel depressed post-Father's Day about not having a Dad who wants me, how do I cheer up, I hate Father's Day?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:49 PM PDT

My Dad left when I was two and refuses any contact. He is a dentist and won't even work on our teeth saying "they make me uncomfortable" as though we are responsible for his divorce. I feel so bad because even though I know there are others in the world with no Dads I don't know them aside from one friend and in that case she is a girl, I am a 16 year old boy. Even my mother says we are free to see him if he wants to see us, he refuses. How do I cheer up

Question: How to deal with my parents who don’t about me but the caste and relatives ?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:48 PM PDT

I m 28, I come from a small town in Tamilnadu, India. I grew up outside in hostels, I have met a lot of people in my life that turned me into a different person from my family. My parents still believe in the caste system and want me to get married to someone from the same caste. Unfortunately, I m not able to connect to anyone from my small town. I grew up outside on my own, want different things in life. I love good music, good books, good tv shows, and wine, and short trousers which are really comfy. I don t over do it too, but these are the basic things in life. My parents think women can t drink, they can t work after marriage as it affects the guy s stature in his society. Women can t wear shorts as it exposes your skin. My parents are now verbally abusing me, that I have lost their tradition, I m a shame to them that they have to go through the embrassment infront of the relatives. I have always felt so supressed, and stayed away from my family and did things on my own. I have a good job, and I earn decent. Recently, 3 of the guys whom they showed me don t have a clue about whatever topic I m talking about, they re kind of dumb actually. My relatives keep asking my parents why they haven t married me off till 28. I have lost hope that any of the guys my parents show me from around my small town, I would be interested to marry.

Question: My sister was babysitting a child, who threw my controller while playing a game. I say she s responsible she says the dad is. Who is right?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:33 PM PDT

Question: How do I know when my brother is actually recovering from his drug addiction and when it is not sincere?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:32 PM PDT

My brother has had problems since childhood with behavior. Now he is a young adult and a drug addict. He is in rehab to avoid being homeless. I don't think he went for the right reasons but I guess there is always hope. So my question is when he comes back and Mom celebrates he is cured how do I know if he is actually getting better vs. if this is just a good phase to be followed by a downfall a few months from now? In the past he has a good phase about every two years that lasts 4-6 months and then he screws it up big. This has been true since high school. I am the only sibling so I am close to him but wanting to be realistic whereas my mother has this notion of either "he is doing awful and he is going to die" or "he is cured and our prayers are answered" when reality is in between. @Anonymous---I would never cut someone out of the family no matter what.

Question: How do I convince my family to let me go places on my own?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:27 PM PDT

I'm 18 years old, and I feel that I am old enough to go places independently, but my family still won't let me leave home unless I am accompanied by someone else. How do I convince them to let me go on my own?

Question: Me and my fiance desperately need money. Please will you help us? No scam.?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:21 PM PDT

Me and my fiance are living with his parents until we can get jobs and get our own place. His parents have been at the hospital since last week because they just found out that his mom has lung cancer and she can't come home yet. Me and my fiance both got laid off from our jobs due to being temporary and we've been trying really hard to find another one, but no luck. We're not lazy, just two people who have had a hard time. We're stuck in the house and can't go anywhere because we don't have the money to buy food or even put gas in the car. His parents are having money problems too and his dad only gave him $5 cause that's all he had, but that won't get us anywhere. We get food stamps to help us, but we don't have any money on the card right now. We already spent it on groceries. We only get a little over $100 a month for the two of us. I've tried fundraising websites but I haven't had any luck with them. I understand that yahoo answers isn't the place to ask for money but I don't know what else to do. We can't go anywhere and we don't have much food in the house now. This is not a scam. I promise I'm telling the truth. We don't need much, just a little to get us by. Please will you donate to us. Your help is greatly appreciated. Thanks. If you need to see a picture of me to prove that I'm real I will be more than happy to send one.

Question: My mother is mad that I spoke with my aunt at a funeral this morning, how can I express to her this is their issue, not mine?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:19 PM PDT

I get tired of my mother doing this. She and her sister don't get along and while my mother's feelings might have been hurt by something 5 years ago she is carrying it on, not the aunt. Plus they have a mutual friend who stirs stuff up between them. My mother is one of 6 kids so she has always been at odds with two of them. So my mother is mad because at the funeral today (I had asked an earlier question on this) I said as we arrived "oh there is aunt and her son, I am going to go say hi". My mother let out a sigh. I said hi and then sat with my mother and another aunt. After the service I walked over to this aunt and her son and socialized about 15 minutes before heading home. Mother said sarcastically "glad you got to see your little aunt and didn't even talk with me". So if my mother brings this up later, how do I get her to see I am not going to be punished for her feuding and grudges or the grudges this friend of hers stirred up? Funeral was for a cousin of my grandfathers. Just got home and thought I'd ask on here.

Question: I hate my sister...?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 12:03 PM PDT

I'm 16 and my sister is 21, she goes to college so is away most of the time and I love it but when she comes back I change into this quiet, boring little sister. She's back for the summer now and it's so long, she's already been back for a month and I cannot stand it. I know it seems ridiculous and perhaps down to my jealously but she seems to make me feel depressed... She's very intelligent and goes to a fancy college and studies medicine, despite having qualities she doesn't I feel stupid in comparison, I know that's how my parents view it. She constantly tries to outsmart me in a way that makes anything I say seem childish, I told my mom but she just went on my sisters side. My sister is so self-centred and SO lazy, she acts like everyone should be doing stuff for her and the majority of the time she gets her way. She always seems to humiliate me in front of my parents and act like I'm horrible to her!! Despite all this I can occasionally get on well with her, but it doesn't last long until she says something and I get angry and start crying... I know I don't have depression but in situations like these it makes me almost feel like I could harm myself and I don't know why... I think it's mostly down to jealously which is probably obscuring the way I see her but she doesn't always have to try so hard to look better than me. Does anyone have any suggestions of how I can stop her/it from making me feel this weird, angry, depressed emotion?

Question: Who s is the dad?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:55 AM PDT

When I was younger I made a few bad decisions. So I need a little help. I ve had my daughter already she s 1 now. My due date was Jan 2 2015 but I had her Jan 1 2015. My last period was March 28 2015. I was with one guy Mar 3rd and another on the 14th & 28th. So who could it be? No rude comments everybody makes mistakes. Just lessons learned.

Question: Would you trust this woman if she can't stand up to her own racist family?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:43 AM PDT

Im mixed black and white and startd dating a white single mother. I was spending the weekend at her house when her family started calling obsessively and demanding she get me out because I have a record. When I was young and stupid I did serve some time for armed robbery but I have since turned my life around. But her family freaked out and her sister even came and TOOK her 13 year old son to stay w her! I had done NOTHING to her or her kid but they were kidnapping her son and telling her what to do! I said I would just leave it was ridiculous.. But she begged me to stay. Then she went to the store and showed up w the police Like it was an ambush and they told me I had to go! NOW a few months later she contacts me on FB asking if we can get together but secretly so her family won't know. I asked her why she called the police on me when I TOLD her I was willing to leave her house. She said she liked me but was scared I'd get mad?! This is a grown woman who owns her own home and pays all her own bills

Question: My mother insists Bill Cosby is guilty of rape, is my mother a bigot for saying this?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:38 AM PDT

She also claimed OJ Simpson was guilty. She is so racist Do you agree she is racist? @Charlesetta ----It is racist because she says this and it is two black people she is saying it about, she is such a bigot to say this.

Question: Do you think its funny if i cooked waffles in the bathroom?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:38 AM PDT

so this might sound crazy but trust me im not the only one ok so today i thought i was hungry right i said to my self i want waffles so i didint want my sister to find out what im cooking or get a smell so i decided to make the waffle mix and go into the bathroom with the waffle maker and make waffles so i made like 4 waffles my sister wakes up and she said you tried to make waffles and then she goes into the bathroom and says you made waffles in the bathroom and she does not find it funny so she gets mad tattle tells and tells my mom and dad probably tweeted to her friends but i told her i can clean it up and i told her why does it matter where i make them so my dad who is a verbal abuser i dont like my dad all he talks about is how horrible of a son i am how mean and strict he is and other things to so he cuss me out tells me im acting like a baby and he said hes going to kill me so do you think this situation is irrational and ok i understand and it was not a mess up what was mess up is telling on someone that got nothing to do with you so why was she snitching please dont get mad but im sorry but i dont find it wrong to cook waffles in the bathroom i find it pretty funny and different. but it was one time so what do you guys think about it the cooking waffles in the bathroom? sorry i did not add commas, punctuation, and periods.

Question: Could I watch Death Note with my mother?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:38 AM PDT

So I recently started watching Death Note and I'm amazed at how amazing it is. I've been talking about it to my parents and my mother said she wanted watch it with me. I have only watched 4 episodes out of the 37. How f*cked am I?

Question: Since my mother won't let me see my father should I stop seeing her when I am grown up to get her back?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:37 AM PDT

She's mad because my Dad drinks too much. @me---How in the world can you have hate for someone having alcoholism? Alcoholism is a disease and the person did not choose to be that way. They have an illness. While we hope they get help some are not able to get to that point, we keep showing love, not judgement. It is fine to encourage them to seek help, but we dont judge anymore then I would judge a diabetic. And my father DOES love me, even if he has alcoholism. @Jo----He is not violent only grouchy

Question: My dad put his hand around my neck and pused me down what should i do?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:32 AM PDT

Question: My mom is being horrible and ridiculous, what do I do?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:18 AM PDT

My mom told me to clean one of the rooms in my house today(like pick one, and clean it). I started to clean our dining room, but then my mom got mad because apparently she was doing the dining room. She told me to either do the kitchen or the bathroom, which are by far the worst rooms in the house. When I told her I wasn't doing one of those rooms and explained why, she slapped me, because I was apparently being disrespectful. After that, I told her to go away and leave me alone and she kept slapping me. She slapped me a total of 6 times, which caused my mouth to bleed and hit me in the stomach so hard that I puked. Then she locked me in my room all day with literally nothing. It has been hours and she is acting like either I was the one who did something wrong, or like nothing even happened. She told me to go to her when I'm "ready to talk" but I don't want to even look at her, because she hit me, threatened to throw me out of the house and even called the police to tell them she couldn't handle me. I didn't even really do anything wrong, except for pushing her away from me, and I don't know what to say or do. I don't appreciate the comments being left down below, this is the truth and if you don't want to help that's fine, but there is no need for the mean comments and remarks. I don't know why she was acting like this, but she did, and now I'm trying to figure out what to do, before she tries to send me away or something.

Question: My mom is dumb...?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 11:02 AM PDT

I don't say that to be an asshole. I'm 15, and i love my mom, she's the best mother i could ever ask for, but she literally believes these conspiracy theories and stuff like that, and she's just very "slow" a lot of the time. I wanted to ask for some advice, because sometimes it's very hard to deal with her, just in general.

Question: Any cart or something to help get heavy groceries up three flights of stairs?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:56 AM PDT

My mom and I recently moved to a third floor apartment and getting groceries and other heavy things is a hassle. My mom is 50 years old and I m not always around to help her lug up groceries up all the stairs. Is there any cart or creative way to help us get heavy things up the stairs without breaking our arms? Please help :)

Question: My mom doesn't think she passed? What can I do for her?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:54 AM PDT

My mom took an exam for a job license. She keeps insisting on her failure because they gave her questions on stupid things that she doesn't have to know for her job. She has been nonstop studying, to the point where she gets little to no sleep, lives on coffee, and she hasn't left the house unless we have to. She got a 4.0 in her classes because of her effort. She's brilliant because she studies so hard, but this test bummed her out so much. I keep insisting that it's not different like she says it is and that she passed. Like there's literally no way she could have failed with all the studying she did. She's just really sad and we're going on vacation soon and she loves where we're going so I want her to enjoy it. Is there anything I could do for her while she waits for her results? I just want her to relax and be happy because she had to have passed!

Question: Was it the right thing to ban my alcoholic mother in law from seeing the baby?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:53 AM PDT

2 years ago, my mother-in-law suffered cardiac arrest at the age of 46 and almost died. The doctors said the main reason for her heart attack was alcoholism, which everyone suspected but didn't know she was drinking that much. They put a pacemaker in and my father-in-law sent her to detox/rehab, only to have her beg to come home half-way through her rehab stint. Since then, she's lied, stolen and hid her drinking from us. I've had to hide all the alcohol in my house because she will steal it. When I got pregnant, my husband threatened to not let her see the baby if she continued to drink. She promised she wouldn't. Fast forward to now, all seemed ok up until recently. I gave her my credit card so she get gas and she went to the liquor store instead and bought alcohol. Also, I found bottles of vodka in her car the other day. The last draw came yesterday when I gave her a prepaid debit card as form of payment for babysitting our baby so I could go back to work, we warned her to NOT use this money to buy alcohol, she agreed and promised she wouldn't. Not even 5 minutes after I gave her the card, she went to the liquor store (the card sends alerts to my phone). My husband called her, caught her in another lie, said she's no longer allowed to see the baby and now his wife (me) has to quit the new job I got because there is no one to watch the baby. She refuses help and makes excuses for everything, no one can afford to send her back to rehab and she hates going to AA. Help?! For the babysitting comment: We weren't aware she was drinking again when we agreed to let her babysit so I could go back to work (we can't afford daycare or a nanny), we thought she was sober. Drinking caused her initial heart attack, god forbid she got one while babysitting the child.

Question: Why are my parents always mad at me?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:51 AM PDT

I'm a 19 year old guy. I have psychotic depression. Because of my parents I've had low self esteem since five and depression since ten. I was suicidal for the first time at twelve. I have a job, and I'm going to a university this fall and I'm still going to be living at home. But my parents are always mad at me. Every time I open my mouth they use an irritated tone, and that's the best case. Sometimes they just yell and scream at me. They also don't approve of any of my relationships, over ten girls in the past three years, and I have no friends. I have a theory but I don't know how legitimate it may be. The only reason I see a therapist is because I had an emotional breakdown at school when I was 15. I had been having emotional problems since I was 10, but my parents never cared, they just yelled at me when I got sad or upset. But after I started seeing a therapist they got really nice and I had no clue why. But the instant I turned 18, they got super mean again and yell and scream at me all the time. I feel like it may be because they were worried about getting in trouble with social services, but I'm unsure. Now they want to kick me out of the house and I don't know what they expect to happen because they know I get suicidal thoughts and if they kicked me out the first thing I would do would be to commit suicide. Why do they act like this?

Question: Is it bad for me to make my daughter get spray tans because I think she's too pale?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:49 AM PDT

Question: Should i tell my mother i saw my dad smoking cigarettes?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:46 AM PDT

So my dad almost had a stroke from smoking cigarettes almost 3 -4 years ago and by then he stopped smoking cigarettes or so my mother and i thought. today i saw my father hiding, smoking a cigarette and he didn t see me. should i tell my mother what i saw? It would cause a lot of confusion in the house if she found out he was smoking again.

Question: How can I convince my mom?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:43 AM PDT

Tomorrow I have a dentist appointment at 10 but my best friend invited me to the beach with him and he's leaving at 9:30. Is there anyway that I can convince my mom to let me go? The only possible way I could go is if I move my appointment to a different date but my moms thinking about that rn but I don't think she'll say yes. Please help me out here. I wanna spend the day with my best bud.

Question: What do you think of parents having favorites?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:42 AM PDT

I believe they should love thier children equally. But, what do you think?

Question: Why doesn t anything I do please my father? Please give me advice in what I could do to make the situation better.?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:29 AM PDT

I always loved my dad even when we are arguing. There is one thing that bothers me about him. Nothing I do is ever good enough. I am the only daughter. Every time I try a sport my dad says I m not good enough. That I m not sport material. Then some other days he will tell me I m chubby and should run more. I haven t had a chance to work out because I have school work over the summer and I ve been getting it done. He tells me I m not original that I m boring and basic. He always says I don t study hard enough because I make As and Bs. My dad always says that I m annoying and to go get a life. I feel terrible and every time I try to talk to him he is busy watching TV and says to go away I m annoying. Every time I try to tell him how I feel it seems to always blow up into a argument, so I give up. I m trying to teach myself piano and he says I sound terrible. That I m giving him a headache. Then he ironically never remembers all the times he has cursed at me, insulted me, and ridiculed me. He just remembers to tell me I m selfish, useless, and dumb. He gets angry when ever I say I hate him. Which I understand and and will need to work on it. But every time I try to talk to him he always insults me and tells me I m not good enough. He told me my Deppression is for attention and that me self harming is a attention stunt. Which isn t true. He questions my ability to take responsibility all the time. He says that no one likes me. I always say I love him. He always guilt trips me.

Question: My sister is really mean to people and I have to see her this weekend. What do I do when she starts being a child-like brat (she is 24)?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:23 AM PDT

I sound like a kid myself buy I am 32 and sensitive to some of the insults she makes. She never grew up for some reason. I don't want to get in a fight with her though as I am an adult and don't want to act immature as I was not the greatest kid either but now am grown up.

Question: Why is a female with a boyfriend still doing this please help?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:22 AM PDT

You cut of a girl you were talking to because she had a man but she is still blowing your phone saying she can't get over you. I just don't understand why.she called me i didn't pick up and she faceted me the next day and i didn't pick up. I text her why does she keep blowing up my phone she said she thinks sh saw me even tho i know she was lying. Can anyone please explain this to me

Question: My mother is mad because I spoke to my older brother's father, was I wrong to?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 10:22 AM PDT

My older brother died has a different father then I do. His father is not a good guy. The man threatened my mother when they were dating and she left him while pregnant with my brother (they never married). Long story short he was in and out of my brother's life, very unpredictable, and my brother died at age 23 in 2006. Now my brother's child had a party and the grandfather (my brother's father) was there with his wife and her kids. I went over and said hello (first I'd seen this man in 7 years). My mother could not believe I betrayed her like this as this man is the most hated man she knows. So since this man is of no relation to me was I wrong to say hello? I was brief and I don't care for them man as he even threatened to slit the throat of my mother when they had a fight about my brother's drug use when he was a teenager. However, I like to be gracious to everyone I see, even bad guys. So was I wrong and what do I do if I see this man again one day?

Question: My teenage daughter is partying and sleeping around?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:56 AM PDT

My daughter is sixteen years old and an upcoming junior in high school. She was a good kid in middle school, and she's still a good kid now, deep down. But ever since her freshman year, she's been going to lots of parties and she will come home reeking of alcohol and marijuana. We've also found Xanax in one of her purses once. My wife (her stepmother) and I have grounded her, taken her laptop and phone away, and lectured her all about how we know she's a good kid and that she shouldn't be doing these things to seem "cool" or fit in with the crowd. We've told her that she could potentially ruin her life with drinking and drugs and after we unground her and give her her phone and laptop back, she will go out and do the same thing again. So we ground her for longer and are harsher about it. And she still does the same exact thing afterwards. She's also been sleeping with various older boys. My wife and I have caught her with boys in our home, we've had to pick her up from college dorm rooms where she's attempted to stay the night, and when I looked through her phone messages, I saw that she'd been sexting with some boys as well. She always used to be such a good girl and now she's out of control. I don't know what's gotten into her, but I wish she would stop. Nothing we do works anymore. I'm at my wit's end. What can I do?

Question: How to deal with a disrespectful step daughter?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:55 AM PDT

I have a 6 year old step daughter that has been living with me for more than a year. She has very little contact with her real dad and she is coming off a situation where she had very little discipline. She was running the house when I started dating the mother 2 years ago. She was 4 and would dictate what was for dinner, what time she went to bed, what everyone watched on tv, eat ice cream at 11 pm, etc... So when she moved into my house at age 5 I knew things would have to change. I read some books and it seemed that I would have to slowly start implementing new rules. She started crying and telling her mom she didn't want her to get married. She stopped talking to me for awhile and started being very disrespectful. Still I knew she was going through a lot so I let it be for months. Then I over heard her tell one of her friends that her mom was the one in charge and that she didn't have to listen to me. That really hurt my male ego. Now things are getting worse. I'm at my breaking point now so now I'm thinking its time for me to start helping out in the discipline area. Is this a good idea? Any suggestions?

Question: My nephew calls me dad, is it weird?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:51 AM PDT

My nephew Freddy is 8 and I've had full care of him since shortly after he was born. My sister couldn't cope with being a mum and we haven't seen her in 6 years and I don't think we'll be seeing her anytime soon. I don't know who the father is. I love my nephew more than anything and he's the most genuinely nicest kid. Thankfully he didn't inherit his mothers traits. The thing is, he always called me dad. Has done since he could speak. I used to explain that I'm his uncle but a friend of mine told me to let it slide so I've let him call me it assuming he'll grow out of it but he hasn't. He knows that I'm his uncle but takes comfort in calling me dad and I don't want to rip that away from him. He watches TV and sees the father figure and must correlate me with them. All his friends have dads too so it must be hard. This only reason I'm bringing this up is because his teacher came up to me Friday and showed me a card he made for Father's Day (with a drawing of us with an arrow pointing to me saying 'dad') and 'suggested' that I have a word with him because apparently I'm confusing him which will lead to problems down the line. I thought it was ridiculous but is she right? I mean, I've raised him. I've changed every single diaper, fed him, clothed him, read to him every night, been to every football game, every parents evening, and most importantly, I've been there for him everyday for the past 8 years. Surely I've earned the right to be called dad? I don't know what to do.

Question: Question for Marriage & Divorce section and how to further direct all of my questions. Should I be asking in Family instead?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:45 AM PDT

I'm noticing that many of the people who answer my questions in M&D have no children or their children are grown and they forgot what it's like to have children, this can make advice about a family dynamic very difficult since they will not know how to handle that child component other than "send them outside to play with the neighbors in the street", which is terrible advice by the way - I might as well give them an anchor and tell them to go swimming. But this really got me thinking, is M&D even fit my scenario? The kids life stages affect my marriage more than anything else, so I think it would be impossible to have a section about the selfishness of a relationship to be able to relate to me. Especially since I'm a Millennial and I was exposed to different things/morals/norms than the older generation is. I don't know, what do you think M&D? How common is child talk in this section outside of talking about custody or child support? Can you even fathom a child or self focused marriage instead of a sex or romance focused marriage? If this question gets moved out of Marriage & Divorce, could you be so kind to move it back there for me? Thank you!

Question: Can't stand my father anymore?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:32 AM PDT

As it is right now, I have completely had it with my father. Can't stand that narcissistic ***. He's been harassing my sister to tears and been sending nasty texts to my mom and sister. He as well has this odd righteous belief he's being a good father. He claims being nice to be me or my sister or anyone else will do no good, but really has caused me to have a short temper, and my sister to go into nervous breakdowns. My dad also is very demeaning to me and my sister, calls us names, even said I sat like a fag. Then he wonders why we don't celebrate Father's Day. I apologize for the language in this rant, but I can't stand the fact that if he thinks he's doing the right thing, then why doesn't he listen to his own family, he shuts us down and never listens to what we have to say. He just listens so he can go on and on about anything else unrelated, what should I do.

Question: What do you think?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:22 AM PDT

I JUST LOST MY GOD MOM AND THERES THIS LADY THAT HAS BEEN THERE FOR ME EVERYDAY. SHE CALLS ME THESE LITTLW SWEET NAMES LIKE MY LOVE,OR HONEY. I ACTUALLY LIKE IT. SHES REALLY WANTS TO BE APART OF MY LIFE. OF COURSE HER AND I ARE NOT RUSHING ANYTHING BECAUSE IM AFRAID,I CANT LOSE ANYONE ELSE. SHE SAID SHE WANTS TO BE APART OF MY LIFE IN THE WAY GOD DESIRES AND I REPECT HER FOR THAT. I CANT GET OVER THAT FACT THAT IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE THERE FOR ME,AS A MOM OR MENTOR AND IM LOVING IT. DOES IT SOUND LIKE IT TO YOU,THAT SHE WANTS TO BE THERE FOR ME AS A MOM AND MENTOR??

Question: Getting out of marching band?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:11 AM PDT

So my mom is forcing me to do marching band this year. I've done it the past 2 years but I'm tired of it and I want to pursue other things. She's being extremely strict about it and won't budge on letting me quit to try other things. She paid my fees after I said I didn't want to do it btw, but I even offered to find a job and pay off the fees to her if that was the issue and she refused because the only way I could get a job is to quit band, and we just keep going in circles like that. Any help on how to get her to let me quit or trade it for something else is really appreciated.

Question: What's the best way to deal with people always lecturing me all the time?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:08 AM PDT

I'm 32 & a person with a disability. People treat me like I'm the worst & most despicable person on the planet, who should've never been born. I have no family support. They see me as nothing but a cash cow. I don't want to live anymore. What's the point of staying alive, & I'm going to go to hell anyway? I have no desire to live anymore. Even the Body of Christ look down on me with contempt. My own family told me that I don't deserve to be treated like I'm human. Tired of being lonely, hated & rejected for no reason. But then, people tell me it's not good to be isolated. When I try to talk to people, I get told that I'm aggravating & talk too much, & I get jail threats for trying to apologize.

Question: Does This Guy Just Want To Sleep With Me?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:01 AM PDT

He's been nice to me, asked to send me study materials to help for my exam, caught him staring, texted me with random excuses(like did my grandma make it upstairs ok? like call your grandma lol) then asked to go out for sushi after my exam. HIs grandma and I live in the same apts and he comes here 3 days a week, a year ago I got impatient and called him out on beating around the bush and said a guy w/ a gf couldn't be interested in me, he said he was being friendly and has a gf he's happy with. But the secret stares and the coming around, started dressing nicely. Also before we got into a fight, He asked one day when giving me gym advice "dont you have a bf to teach you all this?"He asked one day when giving me gym advice "dont you have a bf to teach you all this?" HIs parents always stare at me, he comes to his grandmas's a lot and stares at me a lot Why would a guy do all this and freely say he has a gf but let go of her hand when I saw them together out. Does he just want to have sex w/ me or has a crush on me? anonymous- dude get lost i said i don't care about your opinion you dumbass if anything, he's the one stalking me you dumbfk, didn't you read where he's the one always around and staring. stupid people like you smh

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 09:01 AM PDT

I have anxiety and it gotten 10x worse since I'm staying over my relatives for a month. Since they treating me like I'm fragile and I can't do anything like carrying the groceries or doing the dishes. Since I'm a dwarf, but I'm 15 and treating like I'm 5. My mom give me independence and let me do my things on own. Plus she help me corporate my anxiety. Because of my relatives, my anxiety gotten worse since I was very close to have a panic attack twice this morning. I told them, but they didn't listen and treat me like I'm 5

Question: Abusive sister?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 08:55 AM PDT

My older sister insults me and harasses me on a daily basis. She has punched, kicked, thrown a chair at me, all of it. I always just tell myself she's on her period to calm down, but I cannot stand living with her anymore. I try to talk to my parents about it, and they just say, "You know how she is," or, "We'll deal with her." But she does not get grounded or any kind of punishment. She is still allowed to go out shopping with friends and all kinds of things. She is 17. I am 15. I am currently saving up to move out, but the madness has to end!

Question: How can I persuade my mother to allow me on an overnight school trip?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 08:49 AM PDT

Question: Does This Guy Just Want To Sleep WIth Me?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 08:43 AM PDT

He's been nice to me, asked to send me study materials to help for my exam, caught him staring, texted me with random excuses(like did my grandma make it upstairs ok? like call your grandma lol) then asked to go out for sushi after my exam. HIs grandma and I live in the same apts and he comes here 3 days a week, a year ago I got impatient and called him out on beating around the bush and said a guy w/ a gf couldn't be interested in me, he said he was being friendly and has a gf he's happy with. But the secret stares and the coming around, started dressing nicely. Also before we got into a fight, He asked one day when giving me gym advice "dont you have a bf to teach you all this?"He asked one day when giving me gym advice "dont you have a bf to teach you all this?" HIs parents always stare at me, he comes to his grandmas's a lot and stares at me a lot Why would a guy do all this and freely say he has a gf but let go of her hand when I saw them together out Or Does He Have A Crush On Me? How can I tell? anonymous- DUDE GET FKN Lost! I"m not intersted in your stupid opinion since I don't ever stare at him you dumbfk

Question: I want a field.. but why dad?!?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 08:29 AM PDT

Ok so I am a 14 year old boy and I know how to show alot of responsibility. In the summer I never have anything to do and I stay at home ALL day. I came up with a great idea yesterday, and decided this. I always wanted to grow my own food. I live in an apartment with no backyard or anything, so I cant grow anything. I want to rent a very small field, less than 50 metres, which are quite common in my country. My mom agreed to this and agreed to give me about 30 dollars a month to rent one. Which is also the common price for this. HOWEVER, my dad completely disagrees. He thinks I will give up and make him do the work. No. I just want some rabbits and chickens and a vegetable garden. I grew plants once in our old house and I used to water them everyday at 6am and was really responsible. I really want to do this. My dad just thinks im not responsible enough. What should I do to convince him to agree?

Question: Who's fault is this, and who should apologize?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 08:12 AM PDT

So earlier today the internet went off and there was literally nothing to do. My cousin and I were bored, so we decided to do this challenge where we put 5 different liquids in a cup, and drink it. One of the liquids we put in was this grape juice. We put about 2 inches in the glass and then we added water. My mom wasn't home when this all happened but my grandpa was and he really didn't seem to care. A few hours later my mom goes into the fridge and see's that we used the grape juice. She comes to yell at us because she says that a lot of the juice is missing. She starts to yell about how expensive that juice is, and that we should've asked her to use it. Now she is really mad. Now we got into an argument and she makes me stay in my room. I do agree that the liquid challenge thing was stupid, but we had nothing better to do since it's extremely hot outside, and the internet was off. But I also want to explain how it's totally unfair since I never been told that the juice is "expensive" and that I have to ask to use it. Usually she lets me drink juice in the fridge without even asking, so how exactly would I KNOW immediately that I can't drink that juice. So I honestly don't know how this is my fault because she never gave me an explanation and now she is pissed at me and i'm locked in my room. I also think she should let me out of my room and but of us should apologize. both not but****

Question: How do I get my mother to stop the abusive gossip about my loved ones?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 07:01 AM PDT

Question: How is it constructive criticism to tell your OWN sister that she looks like a BUM?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 06:52 AM PDT

Because of foster care for so many years, this is my 2nd time meeting my brother, but this time I'm temporarily staying with him until I get a place. I'm having a rough time in my life right now. My family are money-hungry users, abusers, & vultures. I'm disabled on a fixed income. & since I was homeless out of state, my brother sent for me to come & stay with him. I have a place lined up soon. Since day 1 he's been always angry, verbally abusive & overly critical, & smokes & drinks too much & uses the Bible to manipulate me. Playing psych games. He's even abusive to his girlfriend. I didn't know he would be like this. Always bullying, harassing & lecturing me. I'm 32 years old. He falsely accused me of being lazy & unproductive. I'm disabled & can't work. I have more to say, but I didn't want it to be too long to read.

Question: How to handle strong parent criticism?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 06:22 AM PDT

My parents are both quite strict and while my mom is the drama queen, my dad criticizes so many things i do DAILY, there's not a day that he hasn't. It's incredibly minor things like "don't drag ur feet on the floor" or "stop putting your earphones in too much" or "squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom and not the middle" and other minor things. i told my friend about this, and she was absolutely shocked and said she would've gone insane by now if she were me. I'm getting so incredibly annoyed with this criticism about these small, minor things. i once straightout told him to stop and why does he have to criticize everything, and he says it's bc other ppl would find the things i'm doing annoying as well or it's bc he cares. NO HE CLEARLY DOESN'T CARE AS MUCH AS HE CLAIMS TO. he rarely talks to us first or ask about our day, and if we talk his responses are short and terse. How to handle all of this ****?

Question: What would you do in this situation?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 06:05 AM PDT

So, my mum sister who is few years younger than me is always sending me photos of her one year old son on whats app. I did not tell her to send photos to me but she does and that's 24/7. As soon as I log in to my what-app, I have over 50 pics of what he does. To be honest, her son is not cute at all. He does not look like "our families" he more of his dad side. I do have a son who is almost coming to 2, whenever he poses...she try to make her son pose like my son. She try to buy similar clothes to my son. I have tried to change my number few times and whenever she knows that my number is changed, she will pop down to my house and say "what your new number" and I am like " not again". She does that same thing to my wife...and her sisters...she's loves her son but in other peoples eyes...he is very different. What would you do? I did "hint" out that my memory is full on my phone.

Question: Can my parents make me go on a trip?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 05:57 AM PDT

So I m 17 turning 18 in less than 2 months and I m already planning on moving out. They want to take me and my brother on a trip that we ve always done and I don t enjoy it anymore. I ve got too many obligations where I m at and I can t afford to go on a trip. Is there a way they can make me go legally or anything? I was wondering if I m just staying at my house can the cops make me go or something?

Question: My sister.?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 05:24 AM PDT

My sister made a pass at me last night...She was drunk and she said that she`s actually in love with me. Is that weird?

Question: Why does my dad keep on asking me when I will get a job and when I will register for college classes?

Posted: 21 Jun 2016 05:16 AM PDT

I am 18 and my dad ask me that every time I see him which is three times a week. I did apply to two jobs a week ago but got no call back. I will register for classs within 2 weeks. When I tell him over and over again, he says that I have a attitude. He talks to me like I am a convict.