I'm 15 years old and my parents are divorcing. I'm really scared because my dad told my mom he would kill himself if she went through with it and she's still doing it. He would have no where to go and I just don't know what to do I am really stressed out and scared. What do I do?

I mentioned it just once. How do we get it started

So there has been fighting lately because of misunderstandings. I feel like my anger is pushing him away and I don't want to lose him and we are trying to work things out because we want to be together. My is very blunt when he's honest and I take it personally. Yesterday he took me out for my birthday and things were going so well until when I ordered a plate of food he complained that I eat too much which isn't true and he also nags about it's like I don't meet up to his expectations. I just felt very insecure and embarrassed because there were other people around. My husband wasn't being mean or anything and he just went on and on and I just up and left and went home. The place that we went to was about 15 mins from our home. After sometime I called him to apologized and he said he wasn't mad but said he wasn't going to come home for the night and that he loved me. I said ok so I didn't want to force him. I feel I made a terrible mistake. Well I had ate a couple hours before we gone out so that means I ate only twice that day.

I hate my ex husband with the passion. Pretty sure I was never in love with him. Married young. (Stupid. I know) my current boyfriend claims I was in love with him. But I don't even recall that?

so many months ago I got an std from my x wife. she claims she didnt have an affair. I was gone for a job that lasted 1 month. When I returned we had sex. While having sex a foamy white substance was coming out. She said it was just her vagina juices and natural process ect. BUT After I did some research I found out the reason why it has so much foamy substance while having sex is because of a recent orgasm that occurred in the vagina. (someone already came in her and some *** is still inside) I got divorced because of the std. this was 3 months ago. TODAY i ask because I was using a new pocket toy and really enjoyed it. it only has one entrance. i washed it out with water and used it again like 2 hours later. it didnt dry yet and maybe I didnt clean all of the *** out. When I started using it a lot of foamy substance started to come out again just like with my x wife! You think she had an affair??? please women guide me! Okay well apparently from a different thread people are going back and forth saying yes and no. It doesn't matter anymore since she confessed she did have an affair. DUE to the std she gave me. So if you are going to comment please don't try to be a keyboard barbarian and think you are hot ****. Just remember what lies behind the pc screen is a lonely soul looking to damage someone else's life. Like these two clowns below...

is techinally yours and no divorceal split. Also i heard that the wife gets what is heres and half of what is yours(feninism tacitic) How does the law work in Ca?

I'm getting married , and I don't know if I should tell him about this. I don't want to tell him so he won't feel bad and blah blah blah , I want to tell him at times because of huge insecurities that caused us to almost brake up a million times. And those insecurities are caused because of the rape. I have only told 5 people ever in my life what really happened, my mom nor family knows .... Should I tell him

I Live in PA and am going through a pre divorce separation with a crazy ex wife. She willingly move out of the house and took some of our possessions. She will not contribute to any of the utility bills or help with the mortgage. I cannot afford any of it on my own and she knows this, she even refused to sign any modification papers to reduce the mortgage. She now shows up whenever she wants and takes more and more things. I am afraid that she will come when I am not there and "steal" all of my kitchen appliances. The best part is that my lawyer is telling me that all of this is perfectly legal. Does anyone have advice or been through this? I am desperate I changed the locks to make it harder for her to enter the home but she still manages to get it. To make matters worse we have 50/50 and I am paying her about half of my wages and she gets every sort of assistance that s they offer. So I can t afford to pay the mortgage and she s making twice as much money as me. None of this seems like it s fair and I can t seem to find anything about my situation that helps. Please help!

details to consider.....my husband is not his father... my son walked in on us and then walked out.. later on my son seemed mad and angry. he was defiant to take a bath and was whining in his room and didnt want to come out.. we have not talked about it but i think we should. how do i go about this.. keep in mind he is seven.. should my husband speak to him or should i? my husband has been in the picture for 2 years now and they have a good relationship. but my bond with him is stronger, please help with first hand experiences. Now that he has seen us i wouldnt want him experimenting with others or be traumatized by it.. im not sure how a seven year old would possibly react to this expirience.. thanks

After 5 yrs. my husband doesn't show interest in our marriage or family anymore. We live in the same house and he is never home. Always out with his friends smoking or drinking at the bar. Sometimes he doesn't see his 1 yr. Old or me for 3 days at a time. And he takes me out maybe 2wice a yr. I want more for my son. I want my son and I to move to Canada but afraid he won't have a father figure in his life growing up.

You would think that the emotional detachment would take all the pressure of being perfect off my shoulders.... But it doesn't... Actually, it terrifies more than anything has. How do I know I've met her needs? How do I ask for my needs to be met if she doesn't value emotions?

So my friends have been dreaming about their weddings since they were little girls. Honestly I never remotely thought about marriage until my senior year of college when it became a big topic with my friend group. I'm a 23 year old female and I've never been in a relationship nor do I really want one. The most I've done with a guy was hold his hand. I don't really date because I never really find anyone I'm interested in. I really just want to get my career started and move to a big city and open my own marketing or creative firm one day. If I meet a wonderful guy and we get married and have babies, that's great but its not necessarily my highest priority. My friends are pressuring me to date and find someone and its starting to make me feel insecure and anxious. Am I going to fall apart if I'm not married by thirty or at all for that matter? I feel so much pressure to find a husband and I don't know what to do. But the times I have attempted to date I feel like it was just wasted energy. Everyone is in love with the idea of being in a relationship instead of the person their with. My friends have all had terrible relationships and are more in love with the white picket fence idea of marriage than I think actually finding a husband. I don't want a husband... I'd much rather take over the world *sarcasm*

Don't say "if you have to ask, you're not ready." I'm asking a legit question, I don't want sarcastic answers. Are there ways to tell if you are ready?

I have developed an intense crush on him eversince we've spoken. The funny thing is it has been two months since we spoke. However, my feelings for him have been a lot stronger to this day. I haven't spoken to him since. I see him but I just ignore him. It doesn't make me feel good to do this but I have to. I love my husband very much. I've told him about this guy and he just brushed him off. I guess he is assuming it's a silly crush. But in my head, I feel like I'm in trouble. What's missing in my marriage? Why do I think about this guy all the time?

I'm engaged to an amazing man, he is 8 yrs older than me & we're expecting a baby. He is the first person I've ever fallen in love with. However, he was married in the past & has two children with his ex wife. They went through infedility (on her part) during their marriage. He is a man of God & his faith always comes first but she, started changing after a few years of marriage & going back to her carefree, party side. He said he really wanted to make it work because of the kids & the fact that he NEVER wanted a failed marriage. He felt like a failure in gods eyes. It's gonna be 3 years since they've been officially divorced. He reassures me ALL THE TIME that he has absolutely NO feelings for her & that he doesn't miss her or anything, but I know deep down that he was really in love with her at a point. He lost his virginity to her & she was that person that he gave his all to. It gets to me because he is my first & I'm his SECOND. It makes me feel like it's not as special. He is a trustworthy person, but I'm scared that because he gave his all to his ex, he won't give me the same. Even though he says he will, I don't think he will be as in love or devoted to me as he ever was to her. I'm not saying he would cheat on me but I feel like his beliefs on love are probably not as strong. Can a man really fall in love a second time, as deeply or even stronger than the first time around? & can a man really completely lose all feelings for their ex? As far as romantic.

When I reconnected with a friend from high school at a reunion, we clicked. Everything he said was proper and normal. We dated for quite a while, but I knew he was marriage minded. When he asked, I said yes and now I totally regret it! He quit his job, he sleeps all day and his "normal" behavior was a total facade. He acts like a huge buffoon!! He doesn't help around the house and he doesn't contribute hardly anything! He says being an adult "overwhelms" him, but we're both in our mid forties!! I have three kids, two of whom live at home. Since we've married he's thrown several tantrums because he felt the kids get more attention than he does. He's still very flattering and all that but part of me feels he's just trying to keep me "satisfied" ---that's a joke---- so that he can have a free place to live and free food to eat. What do you think? We've been married less than a year, and I just want to kick him to the curb. His constant excuse for EVERYTHING is that he is "still learning."

Her and the ex became "friends" after they broke up. She says that my husband has a friendship with his ex. I think it's total bs because she's rooting for him and her to get back together. For some reason she has it in her brain that we are not married. We didn't have a wedding just a city hall ceremony with select people. We have been together for years. Could it be possible that hubby's sister is trying to cause friction between him and I? Should I tell him about what she said to me?

A friend of man who is also 29 wants to have sex with a 73 year old man who is married. Would he have sex with her if she asked him or would he refuse to have sex with her?

My husband gets mad when I'm dressed like this in front of our teenage sons. He says my breast are large and the boys are always staring.

From the begining I was not respected, if a problem of any kind arose and I had a suggestion, my idea was dismissed even though someone (especially) a guy said the same thing....no coment in return to me. we've been together for 21 years and married 10, (you may be asking,why am I still with him) I dont know. although now I'm his 24/7 caregiver now. before this occured from the begining of our relationship he said that I was the best caregiver he has ever had and most caring . I drive full time, so as most of do, we can tell when something is not sounding right or running right. He did not hear or feel anything wrong, which made the car ok to drive it. We live in CO and my elderly Father lives in AZ in an assisted living complex. We had spent a month there, and off and on i was hearing a difference in or near the turbo. I suggested getting it check out before driving back home getting it checked out but he insisted he'd ratherhave his Son with some mechanical experience take a look. No concern, of my safety let alone his own. I feel like I've always been a "Caregiver" He says he really, really loves me and I'm his rock. From the beginning he has used me as a house and car cleaner, cook. Always expecting me to know the next move of what he wanted or needed. With a gruff, demanding, and condindening voice. From where I'm sitting how has he shown the LOVE,

So my husband is from Chicago. When he went back a couple of months ago, he asked 2 of his friends to come out to Seattle to Bumbershoot and offered to let them stay at our house. One is bringing his girlfriend, the other his wife. Both of them made airline reservations already and are staying for FIVE days! He did all of this without asking me first. The problem is our house is MICRO, like 1,000 sq feet. We have 3 bedrooms, ours and the other 2 have my 19, 7 and 4 year old in them. We have ONE bathroom. I asked him where he thought 4 additional adults were going to sleep in our house and hes like "we will work it out". There is no working something like this out, there is just no room. He is sticking by his guns that he wants them to stay there,and I just keep getting angrier and angrier about the whole thing. I have no idea what to do about this.

Don't they see that as abusing their kids and taking away their freedoms? Shouldn't children be free from indoctrination and be allowed to make their own decisions on how they will live their adult life? For those denying this happens - What did you teach your children about women? Did you teach them that women are objects that are meant to be beautiful? Did you tell them that they are normal human beings and are equal to men? Did you tell them that they are smarter than men but put up with men because they have to in order to make babies? Let's face it, you tell them ANYTHING and you are indoctrinating them. There are no scientific facts about women other than they have two XX chromosomes.

I have been married for 5 years to the love of my life. We don t fight, sex is great, etc, things couldn t be better for us. Then a few months ago this new girl started working at my job and I was instantly shocked about how I felt. She s beautiful. When I talk to her I get butterflies in my stomach, I can t stop smiling, I feel like I can t breathe around this girl. In high school I went thru a bit sexual phase just like any other girl but yeah, that lasted about 2 weeks until I realized that life wasn t for me. This girl is 19. We re becoming good friends and she even spent the night a few days ago. Me and my husband are very honest, if I find someone attractive I don t have to hide it and vise versa, we even have an occasional 3way, I don t ever have to hide things from him. But he called me out the other day and said to me "I wished you still looked at me like you look at her when I talk to you" I m worried, I m happy with my husband, whays going on with me? Am I straight? Please help I don t know who to ask lol

I'm a new grandma now because my oldest son (22 yrs old) told us that the girl he was involved with last year recently had a baby. The baby is now a month old and I've began to bond with her. My husband (not his father) told me that I needed to get a DNA test cause it was not like my son and this girl were dating the whole time. Apparently it was a hook up a few times then they parted. She came back months later saying she was pregnant by him. Well, we had the baby this weekend and took here by my sister's house so she could see her. My sister works in the healthcare field and sides with my husband that we need to get a DNA test done. We get there and I give her the baby and she starts up with the talks of getting the baby tested. We get into an argument. Probably wouldn't have been that much of an issue but all her kids were there to meet their new cousin ranging from age 19, 15, 10, and 3 years old. We got to cursing at each other until I grabbed the baby from her and was literally standing in front of her ready to fight. My husband had to grab my arm and forcibly sit me down. Her kids all went upstairs and didn't come back down the entire time we were there and I hardly said two words to my sister after that. When we got home my husband told me that I embarrassed him to no end and that I was wrong. I've began to bond with this little girl and the thought of this child not being his frightens me. I think she looks like my son when he was a baby but my husband says that if I wanted to see my son in this little girl I will but to be safe, get a DNA test done. A mother knows her child and I have strong feelings this is his baby. My sister is the type to always keep mess going and I feel she should have just kept her mouth shut while we were there. Should I apologize? This girl lied to my son saying she was older than she was but he found out the day the baby was born that she was only 17 years old. My husband said that if she lied about her age then why wouldn't she lie about who the child's actual father may be. He is bonding with her too but still wants to get a test done to confirm it.

You can't love your spouse unconditionally if you are constantly judging them on their behavior, intentions, word choices, non-verbal mannerisms, tone of voice, choice of clothing, political/religious beliefs, their involvement (or lack thereof) in social justice or cultural conflict, and any other thing like that. Unconditional love comes from loving them even if you two can't stand each other over a disagreement. You can still judge them and be upset or perceive them as a threat, but you never stop giving them your love. I have a hard time believing any of you women believe this is possible. Many of you expect your husband to behave within a rigid set of boundaries "or else"; you know, like your Mom and Dad did to you to make sure you didn't misbehave. To me, that's not unconditional love. That's a matriarchy and you're hiding your feminist control by demanding "respect" from your spouse. What do you believe? Can you have a somewhat anarchic relationship with your spouse and love them unconditionally (pending they don't physically abuse you or try to hurt you)?

Please don't just google a bunch of furniture stores as an answer. :) I have already tried that. I'm hoping for personal or second-hand experience. I want something clever that maximizes use of space. I don't mind importing from another state within Australia. I have been looking for days and found only one couch with shallow internal storage for blankets and a variety of hollow ottomans.

My husband is going through some body image issues because he s gained a few pounds and it s gotten so bad that we only have sex maybe once a month we re both in our twenties so my sex drive is still pretty high. But we never do anything anymore he won t ever go down on me or even touch me and when we do have sex I feel like it s a chore for him. I ve tried telling him how I feel but he says he s just not happy with how he looks and that doesn t make him feel sexy. I try to make him feel sexy because i think he really is but that never works. Honestly I would be satisfied with at least having sex once a week but I don t want to push him to do something he doesn t want to do. How to I handle this without resenting him over time? I ve tried telling him how I feel. He hasn t even bothered to try to do something about his body image issues with the small amount of weight he s gained. I don t even care about the weight gain he still looks amazing to me.

I imagine that many of you progressive women don't just go on dinner dates and then Netflix and chill. I'm willing to bet your "dates" are more like playing a game of 20 questions or truth & dare to lay down the law on how your boundaries and expectations work. If my assumption is true, this is probably why 2/3 of the progressive women population remain single; I don't know a single man who'd put up with this kind of intrusive and almost combative behavior. Just the stress of having to dance around "hot button" issues and have to mutually agree on the same "opinion" in order for life to return to whatever would be normal in your marriage must be exhausting. Honestly, the more I learn about the progressive woman movement (also known as misandrist feminism) the more I think you all just need to go to therapy and get over your blatant daddy issues. But I might be wrong, so please enlighten me; is being married to you like being put on a life sentence of trials and tribulations? Are you a moody hot mess every day and you expect your husband to "support you" by agreeing with everything you say and believe? This actually fascinates me this month. I spent 6 years thinking my wife was progressive since that's the norm on here, and I found out she's not. So now I want to know what makes all of you different than my wife. Why did many of you not see her traditional point of view? Was your feminism and social justice blinding you? Or are you just that hostile towards tradition? I love how this question is being trolled by the armchair activist level 7's in Marriage & Divorce. While you all might feel like discouraging this question might serve your purpose, on the grand scheme of things, you discouraging this question only tells me that I'm finally on to something and the worst consequence you have is moving it to sections other than M&D. Your hate on tradition sickens me. Get a life, would ya?

Hello! I am matured and married person. Married life including our sex life is not as it shall have been. Have tried for years to cop up and set things right but sometimes, nothing works. You can't change behavior of a person. I have really given up now. I am looking for a nice decent female friend, in fact a lover with whom I can share my sorrows, happiness and have some peace in my disturbed personal life. Its not for sex. For me phone friendship, virtual (no personal meetings) is absolutely fine. If comfortable, can decide to meet mutually. Everyone has his/her own problems. Before judging anyone, try to wear his/her shoes. So please do not show your frustration with negative comments as I already had faced enough of it and if you have nothing positive, please do not bother to comment. Thanks and Regards.

My wife slept with another man, a co worker of his while we were in the process of getting divorce. But we patched things up. I forgave her for infidelity and we promised each other that we will move on from this but I can't or won't accept the fact the love of my life got screwed by him... every night I get knightmares watching him desecrate my wife telling the whole office how her body looked and felt. I kill and toture him everyday in my head. Everyday I consider doing it for real... I know its wrong to kill and nothing will good come out of it and will cost me everything, yet I still yearn for the satisfied feeling I will when I see him cowering in fear of me, to make him realise he just made the worse decision by ******* my wife, while I butcher his body. The only person i hate more than him is myself, for letting this happen to our marriage, I hate myself for nkt bejng able to let go of this for the love of my wife to be more mature im handling it. But I can't, I feel slowly consuming myself with hatred and I'm starting to think I can never get out...

We are in our late 30's and have been married 5 months, ( together 7 years). We got into an argument about money a couple weeks ago, never resolved, but gotten over it and become friendly towards each other again. His affection for me has disappeared. I will not ask for affection so I haven't addressed him on this yet and I probably won't. Affection isn't something I should have to ask for, it's something that should be freely given out of love. What can I do anybody else had this issue? And please don't say divorce that isn't a solution!!! Thanks!

I have been in an unhappy marriage for 7yr off and on and during that time I met a wonderful girl and have fallen in love with her and have had a 5yr relationship. My girl knew that i had gotten married but thought that i had gotten a divorce which stupidly i never did. I was separated from my wife for over a year but then I had a lot of family influence to repair my relationship with my wife and i just couldn't get rid of her.my mom was very outspoken about it. So of course to please them i let her back into my life. Then one year ago my wife told me that the DR.said she couldn't get pregnant and i guess i fell for the "lie" and she got pregnant Stupid me. But I love my girlfriend so much. I know that i should have known better and gotten rid of my wife but now it is to late. My girlfriend found out that i had a kid and was still married. I have totally crushed her and its killing me because i love her so much. I know that i have done this to myself and deserve this misery but i wish there was a way i could show her that she is the girl that i want to be with. Trust me I know that this is the worst thing that you could do to someone I spoke to her and she actually kissed me and held my hand but a couple of day after she emailed and said that i should let her go.I have started the divorce papers with my wife but i know its a little to late. I want my girlfriend back Is there anything that i could do to try and show her that i love her and one day she could trust me again?

She started sneaking around after he came to vist our little rental apartment for dinner as a guest for dinner. I had just got the job at his take-away store and was more then happy when he suggested my beautiful legging blonde wife could do some housekeeping at his big mansion turns out he had a thing for blonde women and cucking white men like me I found them in the apartments screwing on my bed he'd tied a belt around her neck and was giving to her so hard the head stand was banging on the wall and annoying my angry black neighbors.

I am not the one who ever did anything wrong to her. I am tired of the fact that I can get along with my ex for the sake of our child but its hard with a jealous woman around. I am remarried and they have a child together so it is clear him and I moved on yet activities that involve our child seems to be such an inconvienence for her life. Most baby mama drama is from the ex wife not the new, what gives?

My boyfriend and I have 2 beautiful little girls together and we don't plan on getting married because it's not for us. We're happy just being in a committed relationship and we finally live together (I finally moved in with him after our 2nd daughter Dusty was born) I have never wanted to be married and I have made that clear to my boyfriend which he feels the same way, to us marriage means NOTHING. My boyfriend's family is okay with the fact that we don't ever want to get married. My family on the other hand have repeatedly demanded that we get married in which we reply with a "NO" Why can't they just drop the subject? They bring it up all the time! I have started distancing myself from them because they won't SHUT UP ABOUT MARRIAGE and my boyfriend n I are not going to agree to do something that we don't want or plan on doing. My mom tells my other family members whom I don't talk to all that often that I am MARRIED and if i see that side of the family at a family event I have to tell them that my boyfriend and I aren't married nor plan on getting married which pisses my mom off.