Okay so I'm the maid of honor and I'm throwing my sister a bachelorette party. I really want to kidnap her and her roommate is in on it but I have no clue how to pull it off.. help?

The concept of marriage is an institution and an outdated social construct. Weddings and getting married are so unnecessary in this day and age. People put on a big show for their weddings, when in all reality we could simply go to a court room and get it done. People want to have the "best" wedding, the "most expensive " wedding, spending a ridiculous about of money on a venue, dress, food, entertainment. Then people will just go home and complain about everything that was not up to par. No one cares about love anymore, it's about money and fame, and how much better you will look if you had a large lavish wedding. If you really think about it while it is the bride's day so to speak technically, it's just all for show for all the other people attending the wedding to see the bride and groom tie the knot. So if you look at it like that it's not really the bride's day is it. It's just all show for the guests at the wedding. I mean people can just get married in court, but are peer pressured into having a big, lavish expensive wedding that doesn't mean a damn thing. Marriage is not necessary for commitment in a romantic relationship anymore in our modern, contemporary, forward-thinking and progressive society. Cohabitation is becoming more and more common now.

So my boyfriend's brother is getting married in a few months and now that time is getting closer it appears that the bride is becoming more and more stressed, which makes sense. But she's been saying stuff to me which is making me feel strange and I honestly don't really like it. Firstly, she's really self conscious about her body/weight. She's quite large and was wanting to lose a bunch of weight for her wedding but I don't think she's actually lost any. A couple weeks ago, in front of a bunch of people, she asks me how much I weigh. I told her 155lbs and she got so upset. I'm 6'1 and she's 5'2 and I guess she weighs 160lbs. She was like "you're a foot taller than me and weigh less and blah blah blah". Then another time she came up to me and asked me what I was wearing to her wedding. I haven't decided yet but she told me that I can't wear red at all, which is fine I wasn't planning on it. I'm not in her bridal party but she's picked out really terrible bridesmaids dresses, I'm assuming to make herself feel better. Anyway, she's told me not to wear a tight dress or high heels. Like what? I was planning on wearing heels because my boyfriend is 6'7 and with heels I'm like 6'4. I don't like that some people assume tall girls shouldn't wear heels. She's having a summer outdoor wedding in a hot area so I was planning on wearing something shortish and form fitting (but entirely wedding appropriate). I know how to dress acceptable to weddings. What should I do? I actually don't find myself more attractive than her. Taller and thinner, sure. But she's a beautiful woman (at least I think so). I'm just starting to find her comments hurtful and wish she'd stop. It also might be because my boyfriends family doesn't necessarily approve of their wedding. They haven't even been together a year and my bf and I have been together 2.5 years, so sometimes his dad will say stuff about them not being together long enough. First off, I hang out with her because I'm close with my BFs parents and she lives really close to them so there's plenty of times we're all together. She's wearing heels, the bridesmaids are wearing heels, so I don't really think it's impractical to wear heels to a wedding. Also, I'm not going to wear some super tight bodycon dress, but I'm also not wearing some baggy, shapeless dress. I don't think I'm overreacting to her comments, I thought that at first too. But she keeps continuing to say stuff to me. She isn't saying this to his other brother's girlfriend, but she says it to me in front of everyone.

The concept of marriage is an institution and an outdated social construct. If you really think about it while it is the bride's day so to speak technically, it's just all for show for all the other people attending the wedding to see the bride and groom tie the knot. So if you look at it like that it's not really the bride's day is it. It's just all show for the guests at the wedding. I mean people can just get married in court, but are peer pressured into having a big, lavish expensive wedding that doesn't mean a damn thing. Marriage is not necessary for commitment in a romantic relationship anymore in our modern, contemporary, forward-thinking and progressive society. Cohabitation is becoming more and more common now.

His wife has already said she won't be attending my wedding because I didn't invite her 8 kids + 4 grandkids + 5 kids partners + 4 sisters. Apparently she had promised them all invitations and they had started buying outfits, etc, for my wedding. I never, ever, ever said I would invite them. I've only met two of her kids, who lived with her for a short time the second time she married my dad. My dads wife called my fiancé to complain and then said she wouldn't be attending. Then my dad called me to see if he could convince me to include them all at the last minute. I asked if he was serious and he told me not to be rude. Then he complained about his wife feeling slighted because none of her family were included and my mom and dads were. Ever since that phone call, as he does is complain. He claims he's going to be there since he already RSVP'd yes. But the way he's been acting lately, it makes me think I should tell him not to come if he's going to sit and complain to everyone, like he's already done to his side of the family. I don't want him making everyone unhappy and I don't want him harassing me about it on my wedding day.

The concept of marriage is an institution and an outdated social construct. If you really think about it while it is the bride's day so to speak technically, it's just all for show for all the other people attending the wedding to see the bride and groom tie the knot. So if you look at it like that it's not really the bride's day is it. It's just all show for the guests at the wedding. I mean people can just get married in court, but are peer pressured into having a big, lavish expensive wedding that doesn't mean a damn thing. Marriage is not necessary for commitment in a romantic relationship anymore in our modern, contemporary, forward-thinking and progressive society. Common-law relationships are becoming more and more common now.