So I am a 16 year old girl and my parents never let me communicate my thoughts. If something bothers me, I can't tell them without them raising their voice at me and sending me to my room. I am getting very frustrated that they won't let me express my thoughts. I never yell at them to get my point across, but I try to let them know that some of the things they say to me hurt my feelings but I always get talked over, yelled at and sent to my room. I always thought communication was a major part of being a parent but my parents had never let me tell them what's bugging me, even when I was a little girl. And if I ever look upset and they ask me what's wrong, when I tell them they just yell and yell. That's all they ever do when I'm upset. I have all of these emotions bottled up and can't express them. I fear one day I'll just snap and say things I shouldn't. I've tried countless of times trying to tell them they never listen, but I get ignored. How do I let them know how I feel?

My 24 yr old sister is married to my 25 yr old brother in law. They're known each other for 7 or 8 years, and they have a kid. Ever since I've met my brother in law, he'd always say how pretty and cute I was for my age. Now I'm currently 13 (14 in a few months) and he makes random comments on "how hot i am" or he'll look at my legs and comment on how nice they are when I'm wearing leggings. He'll stare at me sometimes and say stuff like "god your lips are so nice". Or he'll say how he can't wait until summer to go to the beach (and see me in a swim suit, which he never says but it's implied). I've told him a lot of times how it's really annoying and degrading, and he'll just laugh it off. Say that it's just a joke. That he isn't being serious. But it honestly makes me feel like **** and not want to dress the way I want for fear of him looking at my legs. After he'd make a comment or I catch him staring at my face or he randomly comes up and strokes my cheek, I usually hit him or do something to express my annoyance, but he won't take me seriously. I told my sister while we were arguing that she was married to someone that sexually harasses me, and her immediate reaction was to say I was crazy, asking "wtf do you mean" I doubt my brother in law would actually make moves on me or anything, but he makes me unbelievably uncomfortable. What should I do?! I don't want to report him or anything, but whenever I get pissed at him he always says I'm being annoying. Help???

I'm 36 and she's 18. She's extremely hot. Her mom hates me, her dad doesn't talk to me and her sister hardcore hits/flirts on me. She said maybe it was my rock and roll lifestyle..help?

Okay so my mom keeps yelling at me to re do a test i passed and im about to have another test in a few days. Then she laughed at me because i didnt get all my over due assigments done. I did 5 and yeah. She tells me how stupid i am. (I have an a+ average. How lazy i am ( i do a ton more than what her 30 year old daughter living at home does) She also tells me i eat too much (i hardly ever eat lunch and never eat breakfast) and yeah..and she litterally controls my dads life. My sister is a whole nother story but my mom sides with her 24 / 7. Im 14 and honestly wish ive never been born..also because of her i have no family because they all hate us. So its just me, mom, dad and sister. I do have a friend's house I really wanna move into and in my state they will let you do that if you know them really well. Icps here sucks. Thats what my sister says..then again she's usually wrong but she's a criminal justice major. She's been in college 6 or 7 years... Today my mom told me I was acting dumb..I didn't want to talk to strangers so looked store window and no one was there. Then she told me I pxss her off for crying and acting dumb. I can't help it when I cry. I try my hardest not took but I can't stop it. Also I cater to my sister. One time i was sicker than a dog and my sister made me get up to get her headphones. I was sitting in the other room and it turns out she was sitting on them. But i ask my sister to check my homework when she had a cold. I got screamed at by my mom. Today she got mad because my dirty socks were in the dirty clothes hamper -.-

I know my mother has the best intentions for me, I really do. I can even see it sometimes in the way she behaves. The thing is, my older sister needs a heart transplant and is very sick and my mother gives her everything she wants and lets her go out and get sloppy drunk and turns a blind eye. When she so much as does'nt see me for a few hours she assumes that I've gone to go smoke weed and treats me like some bad, sneaky liar child. I get straight A's and my older sister fails half her classes but she yells at me when i get a B and doesn't even reprimand my failing sister. Now that things have become very serious with my sister's heart, my mother is very anxious all the time. She's already had a very hard life with abusive parents and other very traumatic things, so she's always been anxious. It's amplified now, and I don't think she realizes how awful she's become. She turns everything against people and is secretly very insecure. She especially targets me, all my family members have noticed. I've wanted a therapist for a year or two now to talk about all this and have told my parents that many times. They say "we'll find someone." but they haven't. When my older sister said she ight want therapy, they hired a very expensive therapist. I know this may be because of her heart stuff but it felt like ****. My mother acts all nice and wounded and sweet sometimes and then is an evil ***** the rest of the time and will ignore me and my twin. I hate her and she depresses me a lot.

My sister is a totally different person than she used to be, totally clean record and no more drugs. Her daughter (now 18) doesn't seem to care and will not talk to her even though her mom's tried to reach out to her in every possible way. I know she's very hurt by her mom's actions, and it's probably not my job to bring them together, but I just think maybe something can be done to improve the relationship? btw, I talk to my niece and we get along fine

I am honestly getting so sick of the toxic relationship my mother and sister have. Ever since my sister was little, my parents have spoiled her and given her anything she wanted. I remember when she was a preteen/teen and I was elementary-aged, watching her steal money from my mother's purse. She has taken advantage of my parents in every way possible. Last month my dad passed away so now it is just my mom and my 28 year old sister in the house. I remember things started when I was 14 and she was 20. She would yell and scream, and it would happen maybe a couple times a year. Maybe around 3-4 years ago, it has escalated to physical abuse like breaking things, the house is unrecognizable now, to actual physical abuse hitting my mother and father. She has hit me as well. I am away at college and 22 years old. I never plan on returning home or even living around my home, I went pretty far away for college. My mother will not do anything, she chooses to live with the abuse and honestly I am so sick of it. Whenever I visit home, I am subject to the abuse as well. We have contacted the police numerous times, but my mom never wants to press charges. When my dad died last month, right before I was on my way to go back to college, my sister hit me and pulled out some of my hair. My mom convinced me to not call the police, but now I'm thinking I should when I go back home. Spring break is coming soon and I will be home for a week. What should I do? P.S. My sister used to be my brother. A.k.a. my sister is transgendered. That's another excuse my mom gives for not putting her in jail, because my sister will be treated badly for being transgendered. I really don't care if she chooses to hurt my mom. What should and can I do? *I really don't care if she gets treated badly in jail, if she chooses to abuse my mom. I can't commit my sister to a mental hospital, believe it or not these days people have to willingly admit themselves into mental hospitals. Just another way the mental health system in America fails us. Patricia, Why do you have a hard time believing this question? Does it seem so out of the ordinary and impossible for something like this to happen? Well sometimes I think that too. That I can't believe things have escalated this far and no one has put a stop to it. Other than that I am telling the truth and trying to seek help.

Once we we're 19 and seniors at a hs. We dated that whole year. We never had sex since she said she was a virgin and wants to wait. We graduated and she left to college which meant breaking up. She moved 300 miles away and i stayed in our hometown. We'd still talk here and there but as friends. I'd see her upload pics of her partying, dirty dancing with dudes, drinking. A year later she decides she wants to move back home. She then moved back and on her first day back she invited me for lunch as friends but still kissed. We hungout and i was dying to ask if she dated/slept around and so i asked if she dated? and she said "NOTHING SERIOUS". I told her the truth that i dated/slept with a girl. She started talking smack like "So just one girl huh that was it"?. I then asked how far she got in her dates and she wouldn't answer it instead she'd walk faster and roll her eyes in the back of her head. After this lunch date she dumped me/ said she doesn't want to hear from me again or she'll call the cops. Do you think she slept around or no? it matters i was serious about her. This wasn't an overnight hookup where i could careless about what her name was this was actually someone i had a relationship with. I mean she could have admitted it after i did & she did dumped me so i don't think so.

my father and I haven't had a solid relationship since I was a kid.he was the weekend dad then the everyother weekend dad then once a month dad(when I was a child) now I'm 28 and had my 4th kid last march..in a way I'm embarrassed at myself.and that's why I never said anything to him about it..i didn't tell my mom till the day before he was born..now I'm kinda stuck..i wanna get this off my chest and let my dad know. I just don't know how to deal with a secrete that's lasted this long

I m 16 and I hate living at home. My sister felt the same way until she went off to college and her relationship with our mom got better. It s my mom who is the problem. Not my dad. She hasn t worked in 20 years and recently got a job for 2 days before quitting. She s so mean to all of our friends and is immature for a woman her age. When my sister was in high school, she d call my sisters friends to fuss them out if they did something wrong to my sister. This ruined my sisters relationship with them and that s not something a parent should do because it s immature. My mom thinks everyone is out to get her. She doesn t do anything but clean the house and cook like 5 meals. She is so mean to me lately because I come home from school and practice and go to my room and she says that I hate her and all this crap. But she doesn t acknowledge any time that I am downstairs talking to her. Nothing I do is good enough. Then my parents will go out on the weekends to shop and not invite me when I m asleep and then she yells at me saying I hate them and wouldn t want to go with them anyways. It s because of this that I now do hate her. I can t stand even seeing her. Nobody even wants to come to my house anymore because she is always here in the same damn spot. I recently found out that somebody offered me a job through my dad and she turned it down on my behalf

My parents just left to go on a cruise for an entire week and I didn't want to go because I had job forms to fill out and just general other things I had to get done around at home...and now that they left I just feel so damn depressed I didn't go. I feel like I missed out on something big. I feel like I will worry about this decision I made only a few hours ago for the entire rest of my life. Now that I think about it, I could have easily gone on the cruise and worked out everything I needed to get done when I got back home. But instead I have to stay home, sitting in my room doing nothing all day..the same sh*t I've been doing for the past several years now while my family gets to go on this awesome cruise. Who knows when I will get to go on another vacation... In the moment, I didn't want to go, I had other things to do...but now that they are gone and the house is dead silent and I am just sitting here doing nothing...knowing I could have damn well filled out those forms when I got back...and that the ship has already sailed (literally)..I just feel so incredibly depressed and broken up about it. How do I get over this?

I'm not talking about committing suicide or anything like that. Not at all. But currently I feel so empty, as if my life has no meaning. There is just nothing worth it for me. My family life is very complicated and my parents always fight. My sister is constantly putting me down. My friends are mediocre. Etc. I'm not trying to complain but there's just nothing there. I want something to make me happy and feel worthwhile. What should I do? I honestly have no talents and wish I could be something special but how? Thanks for any advice

I don't like the way a friend of mine talks about my family. I have severe OCD and had to move back home a few years ago, and my family has been really hard on me at times because they get frustrated with me. They are pretty ignorant and don't really understand how hard it is for me - but I know they're not being malicious, they really just don't get it and don't know how to deal with the situation. I met this friend online in an OCD support group, and we developed feelings for each other even though I have now lost interest. He's always saying horrible things about my family, and it really bothers me. My dad yells at me a lot. It's hurtful, and he says horrible things. And I'm not excusing his actions, but I know he loves me. He just doesn't know how to deal with my OCD behaviors. This friend has called my dad a terrible person and implied that he doesn't really care about me. One time when I described an incident with my dad, he put me on the phone with his dad and said "I just thought you needed to talk to someone who actually knows how to be a father." One of the times when I was on the phone with his dad, I was talking about how I think about killing myself, and his dad told me that if I kill myself, my family wins. He ACTUALLY said my family would see it as a "win" if I killed myself. And I KNOW that's not true, and what a horrible thing to say. He also told me his dad had told him once that my dad needs to have be strung up by the nuts and have them fed to him for treating his daughter this way. He has said that his father wants to be more of a father to me than my own is, and another time, he said his parents probably love me more than mine do. That time, I snapped. His parents are strangers to me - even though he keeps telling me they are family to me too, I couldn't care less about those people. I love MY family, and no one has a right to talk about them like that or say they don't love me. Neither he nor his parents work. They're all living on disability. To be fair, they do all legitimately have disabilities, but they're not bedridden or severely mentally challenged. If they wanted, they could find some kind of employment that wouldn't aggravate their disabilities. They choose instead to sponge off of other people's hard earned money. He sits around and spends his life playing video games and smoking weed. So they have no understanding of the stress someone like my dad, who works 18 hours a day, deals with. I don't understand why someone like him or either of his parents thinks they have a right to say such horrible things about my dad. His parents aren't exactly paragons of virtue themselves. His mom was arrested for shoplifting a few years ago, and his dad regularly had sex with hookers before they were married. My dad may lose his temper and get frustrated from time to time, but he at least has morals and would never do things like that. And my friend talks about his parents like they are the best people in the world too - he gets mad that the guy who arrested his mom had the nerve to do this. He said the guy was in disguise and followed her until he caught her - this guy is on his list of people he would kill if he could. Um, sorry, but the guy was just doing his job. Your mom was breaking the law. He keeps telling me I need to move to Arkansas, and his family will take me in as one of their own. I have no interest in moving to Arkansas and no interest in being a part of his family. I already have a family, whom I love very much despite their flaws. Even if my family is horrible to me at times, I feel like moving to Arkansas and living with those people would be like jumping into quicksand - being surrounded by people who have no motivation to do anything worthwhile with their lives. I also feel like his parents want me there because they feel like I'm the best chance their son has at not ending up alone - he weighs 420 pounds, is very unattractive, and he has no drive to do anything with his life other than play stupid games on the computer. I almost feel like they're trying to lock me down while I'm vulnerable, because they know when I get better there's no way I would date someone like him because I'd have other options. I don't appreciate being shoehorned into being a part of their dysfunctional family, considering his parents whom I really don't even respect as my own, or being in a relationship with him when I feel like I could find someone better. Am I overreacting, or am I right in being upset that he and his parents are talking trash about my family?

So my cousins and I rented a cabin for the weekend. Were all pretty much adults.. all over 21 years old. It was me, my boyfriend, my sister and three of my cousins.. however we did not tell my parents that my boyfriend was coming along on this trip. My parents were driving down to the city the same weekend and they called us on the day we were leaving and ask if we wanted to drive down to the city and meet them there. I decided to be honest and tell my dad that my boyfriend was with us and that I'm not sure if it would be okay with them for him to come with us. Now my sister and cousin are mad at me because I told my dad that my boyfriend is with us because originally.. we didn't tell them we were taking him with us. My mom texted my sister and told her that we are a bunch of liars and my cousin is scared that my parents will tell her parents that my boyfriend came with us. I feel like there should be no reason for our parents to be mad because we are all adults here.. I'm 23, my cousin is 25, my sister is 25, and the other two is 21 and 23. We are all adults and there's no reason we can't bring along our boyfriend or girlfriend so why should we be scared of our parents finding out. I just don't know what to say?

So the circumstances of my arrest are irrelevant but i'll keep it simple and just say that we were hanging out somewhere and doing somethings we shouldn't have been and police showed up. Then they arrested me cuz I wouldn't tell them my name and address and stuff. But they let my friends go which is just unfair. Then after a couple hours being at the police station, I toad them my dads phone number and he came and got me. My dad should of understood that I was arrested for something so dumb and been on my side. Especially when i toad him the cop twisted my arm and said he was gonna break it if i didnt stop resisting. But he wasn't on my side at all. He was really mad & hit me when we got home. I wasn't even charged with anything!! But he said I have to obey the law and give my details when I'm asked. Why should I? He isn't obeying laws on hitting kids which is illegal. I said im gonna get him arrested and he laughed and said the cop who arrested me would probly want to be the one to respond. Well it's been 4 hours now so I bet he gone home and theres other cops now. So can I get him arrested, why should I be the only one this happen to when he is the child abuser and all I did was say some things to that cop and not said where I lived This child abuser said this isn't over yet so I better stay in my bedroom for now. Wtf, it isn't over? Who's he think he is. It will be over when I get him arrested for child abuse & I will say he touched me He did touch me!

My mother insists on discussing bodily functions and private body parts, despite the fact that I've repeatedly let her know I do not like to discuss these subjects. I do not want to know what is going on with her or her friends' or my aunts' or my cousins' vagina, bladder, body odor, hemorrhoids, etc.... I am just not the type of person who feels the need to openly discuss these matters. That's what my doctor or my significant other is for. Beyond that, I do not want to get into candid detail about my or anyone else's body. She has many people in her life who don't mind (even like) these kind of subjects. I have pointed that out to her and asked her to talk to them about it instead of me. Instead, she get's furious and says that she's my "mother and we should be close enough" to discuss these things. I don't see how that's relevant?! Then, the next time I talk to her, she's brings it up again. Every single time we talk, she has to bring up somebody's body part/function. Also, I doubt the people who confide these things in her would be happy that she is repeating them to me! She insists I'm the one who is wrong, but I don't think I am. Opinions/advice please!!

I am thirteen and I lost my dad when I was 2 years old. My mom has remarried since then and he was rlly nice at first but I'm not sure what happened. At the beginning of last year, my parents started fighting rlly bad. My mom had gone through some stuff and had a bad reaction to her medication because she took it with alcohol and was in the hospital for a week or so. This caused problems and then my grandma passed away in Feb.which made evrythng worse. My dad was never comforting when my sisters and I or my mom would start crying over her and told us to get over it. He drinks a lot also.we were at my other grandparents farm and he got drunk there and insisted that he would drive home when my mom and 16 yr old sister were sober and able to drive. My sister refused to get in the car and I felt like I had to stay in, in fear of him doing something. He grabbed my sisters arm agressively and tried to drag her into the car and she resisted which made him almost hit her. my papa came outside and tried talking my dad out of driving and my dad punched my papa while he had my 5 year old sister in his arms.Today, my dog was going crazy b/c she thought we were leaving and she ran under my leg and it flew up and hit the back of my dads knee, he turned around and screamed at me and raised his fist so i ran inside and he hasnt come back in to appologize or anything.I have tried talking to my mom but nothing worked. I am tired of crying all the time because of him. Please help.

Hey guys. I have always wondered if I was. In my family it's my mom, dad, my brother and I. My dad makes about 50,000 a year and my mom 20,000. I know with just this salary alone this makes my family middle class. But my dad inherited about 2.2 million from my grandparents and bought 5 rental properties with it and has tenants. I'm not sure if this makes my family rich or still middle class? And does it make our family well off?Thanks for the help!!

I'm in grad school. Due to the intensity of my program, I'm only allowed to work 10 hours a week (which I do). Which means I'm living at home as I finish school. My mom is fine, other than that she won't divorce my dad (I guess she likes the chaos). My dad is impossible to live with. Each morning he wakes me up at 6am yelling on the phone. I haven't gotten a good week of sleep since I moved back home a year ago. The worst of it is how emotionally abusive he is in regards to my eating. I'm NOT fat; I'm at a healthy weight. But my dad wants me to be a stick and basically won't let me eat anything but salad in his presence. If I should even dare to eat some cheese in front of him, he starts yelling. Every day he sees me, he looks at me, grimaces, and says, "You need to do something about this" then gestures to my thighs. I'm a good student who doesn't drink, do drugs, have promiscuous sex, and holds a job. Despite all this, my dad frequently calls me a loser/moron/slut. He's also a hoarder. Whenever I try to clean his mess, he screams at me and will take whatever I throw away back out of the trash, even if it's broken or rotten. He has big mental issues. The final straw was today. He threw away my birthday cake my friends made me from scratch and said, "You don't need sugar." And when I got extremely upset, he acted like I was being ridiculous. I need to move out, but due to being in grad school and unable to work full time, I have no idea how to do it. I'd love some advice.

Hi there! I'm a 15 year old boy, and I was planning to surprise my best friend with a trip to Disney when he graduates. I'm doing this because of all of the band trips we've had there, and he wasn't able to go because of his family's financial standpoint. His dad died in November of last year, and he's been pretty down ever since. My family really wants to help him/them out, but we don't have a lot of money to spare either. In the last year or so, I've been doing a lot of extra work at my job, and around the house to get enough money to go there. Now, I have an opportunity to work with my dad, who does hard manual labor, for $1,500 a week. This brings forth this question: Would he like to have his little sister and mother there? I know they would like to go, well, his sister at least, but I wouldn't want to leave his mom alone. I would obviously love to bring her along, but I'm not sure how he would react, or handle that. Also, do you think he would be okay with his little sister there (13 years)?

I'm a 21 year old female still in college. I have lived on my own for the past three years with roommates while working and going to school. My parents complained about me working while in school and asked me to live with them again. Now I live back under their roof with no job. Meaning that they control my life. They give me a credit card to only buy gas with and $50 a week in cash to buy food. Other than that I am completely broke. So, there's a coin jar that everyone in the family puts coins in whenever they have change. I was broke one week so I took money out of the coin jar. Now, today my dad noticed and told my mom and they both screamed at me about it.After that my dad went back upstairs and my mom screamed at me some more then started attempting to hit me.She jumped on top of me and I attempted to get her off and ran to my room. My parents are not poor. They are upper middle class. I don't know why they freak out about the smallest things. I don't know what to do. Am I in the wrong in this?

I'm a 21 year old female still in college. I have lived on my own for the past three years with roommates while working and going to school. My parents complained about me working while in school and asked me to live with them again. Now I live back under their roof with no job. Meaning that they control my life. They give me a credit card to only buy gas with and $50 a week in cash to buy food. Other than that I am completely broke. So, there's a coin jar that everyone in the family puts coins in whenever they have change. I was broke one week so I took money out of the coin jar. Now, today my dad noticed and told my mom and they both screamed at me about it.After that my dad went back upstairs and my mom screamed at me some more then started attempting to hit me.She jumped on top of me and I attempted to get her off and ran to my room. My parents are not poor. They are upper middle class. I don't know why they freak out about the smallest things. I don't know what to do. Am I in the wrong in this? They are now calling be a thief.

I planned to take my nieces to the movies if the behaved by my youngest has been giving everyone go to you know where looks and she said she was hungry ski told her that she could get something to eat at the theatre and she cuts her eyes at me giving me a go to he-double hockey sticks look so I say she can't go but she turns around and crawls in my dad's lap crying so he has a fit and she gets to go. I was supposed to be taking them on MY MONEY and I don't want to spend my money on a little brat that has learned she treat people anyway she wants and get away with it as long as she cries to pawpaw. It's my money so I should have a say if she goes or not right?

I saw my aunt at a funeral yesterday and she asked "what are you and your mother doing for Easter" and I said nothing and she said, "I think I'm having everyone over". So is that an invitation or was she just telling me what she is doing? I used to go by family events but sometimes it turned out I was not invited and so I was being intrusive and some were annoyed so I am far more cautious now a days. My mother never goes to family events so we aren't usually asked as people have given up on asking her.

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I was walking down the hall and I heard my brother on the phone telling his buddy he was going to spank the monkey. I immediately walked into his room and told him he could not do that. It would hurt the monkey. He said Sis you do not understand. The monkey likes to be spanked. It does not hurt the monkey, in fact it feels good. Is he nuts? How could you spank the monkey and it feels good? I bet there is not ONE PERSON reading this that can truthfully said they have spanked the monkey and it feels good.

I am 18 years old and will turn 19 at the end of this year. I'm a senior in high school and I literally cannot do anything. I have a 10 pm curfew on the weekends and they insist that they drop me off everywhere that I need to go. They will not let me drive the car if it is dark outside and will make me ride with a friend instead. My mom will not drop me off anywhere if there are boys and no adult around. A couple of months ago, my guy friend of four years offered to drop me off at home because I lived right around the corner from where we were and my mom told me that she was coming to get me because he was going to molest me. My dad pops up randomly at places where I'm at just to check on me. I'm so embarrassed by them that it's ridiculous. My friends are starting to pick on me because my parents are always around me. Everyone refers to me as the most sheltered kid they know. I leave for college in five months and they're already giving me rules like a 9 pm curfew. I just can't take this anymore and cannot wait to get away. Unfortunately, my college is only an hour away and my dad will probably pop up there all the time without warning. I tried to tell my mom yesterday she was embarrassing me yesterday when she tried to drop me off at a friend's birthday dinner and she became extremely mad. I don't know what to do anymore. I just cannot wait until I finally can go off to college and be free.

I have been sick and throwing up we went to the doctor and they didn't find anything. See doesn't believe that I'm sick i didn't go to school on Friday and she is so angry we were suppose to go on a church retreat this weekend but ended up not going. She thinks i faked being sick just not to go this weekend. I was not faking it. She took my phone and read all my messages I'm pretty sure she found out I snuck out a couple of months ago and smoked weed and cigarrettes. My brother went to rehab for drugs and drinking and i went down a bad road and made a lot of bad decisions but i have changed. I know she is not going to believe me but i just need some advice. I know what I did was wrong but my mom is drinking now and said that i hurt her so bad and now she has changed. She's saying the f word a lot(she never curses- bad memories from childhood) She wants me to be her best friend and blows most stuff out of proportion. Please help.

I was seven years old when 9 11 happened and I was living in calexico and I remember we were all looking at the tv. I really didn't now what was going on (I also didn't really care). My cousin came and told me we had to go home. I said no because my mom had promised me to buy me this toy after school, so I was waiting for her to pick me up. My teacher and my cousin were telling me I had to go but I just kept saying no. My cousin left and I stayed in school waiting for my mom, she picked me up 2 hours later and started yelling and hitting me for what I did. Ever since that day many people from my family continue to remind me of what an asshole I was that day. I've tried to forget it, but every time I hear 9 11 it just reminds me of what jerk I was, because all I cared for at that time was the toy my mom had promised me. How can I get over this?

Growing up my family was really close like we'd do everything together & I don't mean Imidiate but extended I'm an only child but my cousins are like my brothers and sisters but we're not close anymore. Like their moms are my moms nieces but they were all close in age so I was just like one of them. Every weekend we'd all be doing a bunch of stuff, they're moms & dads are like suregets to me in fact they're my god parents. I'm 16 now though & it seems like the more that time passes the less I ever see them. They're practically my siblings. When I'm married & an adult I want my kids to have a similar experience but I don't have any blood siblings. Maybe my future wife will have a big family like my moms but we were like the Jacksons or the Brady bunch. They ussually all meet up together at their grandmas house on Sunday's she's my aunt but whenever I go I feel like an intruder. Maybe it's time for me to hang my towel & just go on my own lane. I know they talked to me about wanting me to show up to more family gatherings I used to show up every week but now I come maybe twice a year. It's just not the same we're not kids anymore & they're not my blood. Maybe I secluded myself during puberty but I think this is the end of that era. We all still love each other but do u think they were honest about wanting me back or just making convo

I can't help but feel that they're stricter with me because I'm adopted, and my siblings are not. Like, my brother is the same age as me, and I'm grounded so much more often than he ever is. Granted, we are completely different, with completely different groups of friends, and my parents just seem to like his friends more than mine. He gets better grades than me, too, which my parents don't like. Like, my parents are so afraid that I'm going to turn out like my birth mom, who had me when she was 16 and was a drug addict. I'm sixteen now, not pregnant, so that's a first step. And I'm definitely not addicted to drugs. So I don't know what they're scared of. They keep trying to restrict me, won't let me get piercings, or tattooed, or date or go to parties, and then freak out if I ever do it behind their backs, even though my brother does the same thing sometimes! What should I do? What do you think? Do my parents sound unfair?

I will be 17 years old next month, my current living conditions with my mother is extremely stressful, and I don't feel comfortable living here at all, i'm losing my mind. Ever since I was little my mother has been crazy, the week after I was born, I believe she was hospitalized for trying to kill herself or something weird, I'm not sure of what, but it was for something crazy. Also, there are reports of her abusing me as a child, they are on file, I believe. My mother is honestly insane, she doesn't know when to stop at all, I nicely ask her to leave me alone so I can collect myself, so I don't lose it on her, because I know when I'm about to or not. Yesterday I was about to, so I left the house and spent the night at a friends without her permission, and she called the police apparently, and filed a runaway report, even though I told her that I would be home the next day, even gave her a time. This household is an extremely stressful environment, the stress is eating me alive, and honestly I feel as if that's the reason why i'm not doing so great in school. I try to not be home at all if shes around, I don't like to be around my mother at all. I know she's had CPS called on her multiple times, and I remember she specifically told us to lie to CPS and make them believe nothing was wrong, but I know that everything is, and was. I was too naive to tell the truth, and get my mother in trouble. Is there anyway I could move to my grandparents in California? From NY

My mother is a very difficult woman. She always wants things her way and gets angry whenever you disagree with her. Growing up, she cared more about her boyfriend and spending time with his family then her own. At the same time, in recent years, she has been there for me during some tough moments. Then again, she turns that around and holds it over my head. Any time I do something to re-pay her, she conveniently "forgets" and acts like I still owe her. She gets mad if I don't call her every single day or visit several times a week. She is still very healthy and of sound mind. She drives, she has plenty of people who ask her to do things, yet she still expects me to be her main source of entertainment now that she doesn't have a boyfriend (she doesn't want any more.) Just this morning she screamed at me and hung up the phone because I didn't want to discuss her bodily functions. She has her good moments and a lot of the time we get along well, but this other side of her is making me lose my mind. I've tried talking to her, but as usual, she just gets angry, screams and gives me the silent treatment until her tantrum's over. Help!

My mother, who (trust me) struggles very little financially refuses to support me, her 16 year old daughter. I am expected to pay all my bills including medical, I am expected to buy my own pads, toilet paper, cleansing products, and groceries. I am almost a straight A student aside from some high B s, I pay attention to curfew and I m never in trouble. Yet my mother will still reprimand me harshly if i dont meet simple expectations...my brothers on the other hand will be taken out for dinners to celebrate finally getting a "D" in class. People that aren t my mother often tell me im hard working and very courteous, im not a bad person! but my mother hates me... just last night i was telling her about the boy i like and she laughed in my face and basically told me he would never like me back what should i do?? (the most im doing right now is when she has me make her coffee i spit in it lol.)

I m a 16 year old lad who doesn t get stuff from his parents! It s now gotten to a point where I am fully depressed! All my mates are rocking to school with the iPhone 6s and Air maxes and all those expensive things and there s me with an iPhone 4s with a broken screen! Everytime I ask for these things my parents will just say "you need to focus on school" or "we have to worry about more important things" They ve been using these same excuses for years! I even tried talking nicely to my dad about this and then it became an argument and then he even ended up saying "I have the money but I just don t want to spend it on you" Wtf! I am really getting angry with my parents because of this. Everytime I compare them with my friends parents, I get told off! But it s okay for them to compare my school with my friends school marks as if they know what marks they get?! Why won t my parents just buy something that I like for once?! Oh yeah, I forgot to mention, if my parents do buy something, it ll be something that THEY think is interesting, not something I want!! Or they would get me something that s completely 2010 business like wtf. Somebody please help me because I am going to go insane one day.

She has always felt shy and uncomfortable around new people and in new settings. However, she does sometimes try to socialize and interact with other kids her age, but you can instantly tell that it's a struggle for her. Most kids her age don't have a lot of problems meeting new people and forming friendships, but she does, definitely. Although she tries her best to make friends, she comes off as "weird" and "bizarre" to other people. She doesn't understand it when someone uses sarcasm, like if someone said something she made was "really pretty" sarcastically, she'll say thank you back obliviously. She'll instantly freak out when someone looks at her and doesn't show much eye contact when talking to people. Sometimes she will show emotions, like happy or sad, but sometimes she'll just sit there with an expressionless look on her face. She likes to laugh at people and tragic stories. For example, I was reading an article about how people got massacred during a terrorist attack, and she heard me and started laughing uncontrollably. She said it was funny because the people were just sitting there, and then other people showed up and started chopping heads and shooting people. She can become easily obsessed with certain things, but the obsession will end after a month or two. Back when she was in 1st grade, there was this girl who she sat by and constantly tried to touch. Her teacher said that as soon as she turned back, she would see my daughter grabbing the girl's arm and "sniffing" it. The girl had to move to a different class because of this. She also has a very "special" way of walking. Her hands will be right by her sides, not moving, her back will slouch a little back, and her legs would move as if they were connected.

I know a teenager who acts like a child at home. They will talk to our pet cats and laugh at everything they do. They will purposely speak in a high pitched voice and often talk with a lower vocabulary than normal. They will talk in sentences often consisting of no more than 10 words and will clap and say that certain members of the family are "hilarious", "funny" and "historical" and when approached abs out why they think or act that way by a parent or sibling, they will just tell them to shut up or because "they are silly". It is getting extremely annoying and the teenager that speaks that way refuses to do the voice at school or in public areas, but when alone in a public place they will often stare at their siblings and stroke or try to hold their hands. This teenager also wants "hugs" and "loves the kitties". SO is there any way that he will stop doing it? Talking back at him in a baby-like voice makes him yell "shut up". Bribing him gets him to stop for a certain amount of time and then resume after getting rewarded. Telling him to act his age also results in a "shut up" and ignoring him causes him to just keep doing it. I think the only way to get him to stop would be if he wants to stop, but he doesn't try to stop. PLEASE is there any thing that we can do to get him to stop acting this way?

He enjoys making horrible high pitched noises, and right now, I have a huge headache and I just woke up, and whenever I tell him to be quite he has to be insufferable about it. He's only a year younger than me and can perfectly understand reasoning, but I sometimes get the suspicion that he does it just to annoy me. What can I do? Right now I'm desperate enough to resort to underhanded methods.

Im an introvert so naturally I hate when he gets around a group of people and just starts saying the first thing that comes to his mind. He sounds loud and stupid. Like it would be a crime if he didn't just blat out nonsense. I tell him all the time dude you talk too much. People love his company but I think he should do a bit of adjusting. If your always talking nonsense why would anyone take you serious. Then when someone asks him a question that he doesn't know about he will just jabber until they realize he just bsing. Hes cool and well respected but I find him annoying

As the title says, I'm a 14 year old girl and I hate my dad! He is annoying, pretentious and not good looking. I hate the country where we live and its cuisine (Lebanon) and he thinks I'm weird! If I had to choose between my dad or my special person, my answer would be "We can't compare because the guy I love can't be compared to anyone". Once when I was a little kid, we were outside the country on a trip, I was crying because I missed many things, what he did was carrying me by the shirt and threw me on the bed! I really hate him for that! And I no more want to see him, I want to live on my own or at my friend's place! Please HELP

Hey guys. I have always wondered if I was. In my family it's my mom, dad, my brother and I. My dad makes about 50,000 a year and my mom 20,000. I know with just this salary alone this makes my family middle class. But my dad inherited about 2.2 million from my grandparents and bought 5 rental properties with it and has tenants. I'm not sure if this makes my family rich or still middle class? And does it make our family well off?Thanks for the help!!

Every year on Mother's Day, we get her presents, take her somewhere nice and make sure she has a relaxing day. But she is always being negative and trying to point out all of the bad things. For example, today we took her to the garden centre because we don't get to go there often, and it was going well until she saw me and my sister on our phones at the same time... She said she wanted to leave because we are always on our phones and its antisocial. Then when we got back she refused to take us to our grandparents and went alone... I just want her to have a nice day but it's impossible to do that's when she is always putting us down like this. It's the third year this has happened and I don't know what to do.. Anyone have any ideas??

So my sister has two kids and quite frankly the youngest is horrible half the time, yesterday she decided to kick her older sister and it lithely busted her lip open! The oldest never crys but she certainly did last night. That's not what bothers me though, what bothers me is that my sister just very lightly scolded the youngest one and then sent them Both to bed! As they get older the favoritism becomes more obvious, and I really have no clue what to do. When she told her husband he simply said tell the youngest to play nice if it would have been the oldest I guarentee you she would have been whipped or something! I've Tryed talking to my sister and nothing works and their favoritism and babying of the younger one is getting worse and her attitude is as well, and she's pregnant as well I'm almost worried the youngest will hurt the baby as she kicks and smacks both her parents and this is not the first incident with her sister. Any advice on what to do?

I don't understand..I love my dad. I like him more than my mom! I've spent more time with my dad than anyone else..as a teenage I don't understand my fellow teens are their dad problems..

she asked me before if i wanted something and i clearly said no and now i have changed my mind and i do want something.

It's my niece's 1st birthday party but I already have plans with my friends. Everytime I go I just watch adults talk most of the time. I'm 22 but still, I'm not the type of person to mingle. My parents are making me go because they are saying it's wrong not to? I love my niece's but who cares if I don't go to a little party for kids? Anyways what do I say to get out early?

I can't help but feel that they're stricter with me because I'm adopted, and my siblings are not. Like, my brother is the same age as me, and I'm grounded so much more often than he ever is. Granted, we are completely different, with completely different groups of friends, and my parents just seem to like his friends more than mine. He gets better grades than me, too, which my parents don't like. Like, my parents are so afraid that I'm going to turn out like my birth mom, who had me when she was 16 and was a drug addict. I'm sixteen now, not pregnant, so that's a first step. And I'm definitely not addicted to drugs. So I don't know what they're scared of. They keep trying to restrict me, won't let me get piercings, or tattooed, or date or go to parties, and then freak out if I ever do it behind their backs, even though my brother does the same thing sometimes! What should I do? What do you think? Do my parents sound unfair?

Like, my bedtime is at 10 and I stay up at like 12 when my parents are sleeping. How do I get out of this habit?

i have a very annoying mother who is judgemental and a control freak. She refuses to acknowledge her mistakes and gets mad even tho she's the one at fault. Everytime i win our debate, she punishes me using her authority as a mother. Unfair really. People tell me it's useless arguing with her and to just let her be no matter how annoying she is

Oh, it's okay. He said he just woke up and he still loves me.

As the title says, I'm a 14 year old girl and I hate my dad! He is annoying, pretentious and not good looking. I hate the country where we live and its cuisine (Lebanon) and he thinks I'm weird! If I had to choose between my dad or my special person, my answer would be "We can't compare because the guy I love can't be compared to anyone". Once when I was a little kid, we were outside the country on a trip, I was crying because I missed many things, what he did was carrying me by the shirt and threw me on the bed! I really hate him for that! And I no more want to see him, I want to live on my own or at my friend's place! Please HELP

Hey guys. I have always wondered if I was. In my family it's my mom, dad, my brother and I. My dad makes about 50,000 a year and my mom 20,000. I know with just this salary alone this makes my family middle class. But my dad inherited about 2.2 million from my grandparents and bought 5 rental properties with it and has tenants. I'm not sure if this makes my family rich or still middle class? And does it make our family well off?Thanks for the help!!

In the past, whenever I've come to my dads house they've always had comments about me. My dads girlfriend has called me fat, lazy, and unhealthy behind my back. I've found this out from my half sister. This started around fourth or fifth grade. I believe this was the main reason why I became depressed at such a young age. His girlfriend also currently makes comments about whatever I'm eating, she got mad at my dad for him letting me eat pizza and she always has something to say whether is be I eat unhealthy things, eat the same things, or don't eat a lot. I'm not skinny but I'm not fat, but she always makes me feel uncomfortable in my body. And my dad has called me fat behind my back too. Recently I've thought it was getting better over here, but now my dad has started to make comments about my hair and that its snarly in the back and I should try brushing it for once, and I've tried to explain to him that it's shorter in the back for certain reasons (I struggle with minor trichomoniasis, he doesn't know that) Then my sister said that my dad always talks about my hair behind my back. now my self esteem is hitting rock bottom from all these years, about six years to be exact, and I don't really know what to do. I'm too afraid to approach my dad because of my anxiety and I don't want my mom to talk with him because I'm afraid he'll get mad because he has anger issues. Are they verbally abusing me? And is there any advice you may have for me?

I realized that there was major self esteem issues. My uncle & aunt r not in a happy marriage, they fight. Their children r unhappy, becuz they pick out my flaws & talk behind my backs & I never saw them laugh. They look sad, they slump when they sit. They r stingy, & for their 8 yo daughter BD, they got her hummus, no cake/presents. They feed their kids rice,cheap food. The same clothes for years. My uncle makes 130,000 a year. My uncle hates his wife (I see him looking angry when she was ate food from the same plate), & I suspect there is abuse at home becuz my uncle's wife seem insecure, angry, & she gets jealous of other women looks. If my uncle was loving, then she should be a happy woman free from jealousy. I sensed they are angry people, becuz I hear strain In their voices when they talk NICELY in front of me my mom, & my aunts. But their eyes tell a different story. The only time I saw them happy (this was the ONLY time), was when they found out an embarrassing secret about me & They told my relatives in Canada, Lebanon, & in America. They lie about themselves. I know that they have issues, but why don't they try to get marriage counseling? Why do they hide things from us? They seem so unfriendly, becuz are they afraid that we would judge them or make fun of them if we knew about their problems? My aunt in Canada told her dad, my mom, & her two aunts that her selfish husband beats her, she has cancer, & her daughter (age 18) hasn't had her period.

hey I'm Alliyah's little brother, I'm 10 years old, and she's been busy with school and stuff that she hasn't really been spending time with me and I've been really upset lately and I've cried a lot and I just miss spending time with her and I tried going on her room this morning and she said sorry I'm busy buddy I can't do anything right now I have a huge project due this week. I just really need a hug and everyone else doesn't pay that much attention to me because sports and such but thank you for answering