I'm having an affair and I do regret it. it seems like he's not who I thought he was. I didn't mean for this to really turn into an affair but one thing lead to the next. We've known each other for about 10 years actually but he randomnly messaged me one day after I seen him in the super market. I was going through a really rough time. Felt like I had no one to talk to because my husband shut me out and I don't have friends really. He was cold and also controlling and very opinionated. He still is that way but it's like on and off. Some days he's loving some days he's controlling. The roller coaster of emotions give me a headache. So I became severely depressed and confided in my relationship. He said a couple of different women went to him for advice in the past about their abusive relationship but ended up falling in love with him. I guess I'm the same way. He made me laugh we talked till 5 am he would send me pictures and videos of his nieces and nephews. He said that no one could take the bond we had. I mean we were finishing each other's sentences we were that in sync. My husband is also very serious minded so it felt nice to laugh again after so long. He was very sweet very romantic. We had sex only 3 times we mostly texted and talked on the phone. I did slip up and say I loved him. He said he loved me too. The bond was just too intense I couldn't help but to say it. Not going to lie the sex was a little weird because he didn't want to kiss me He said he doesn't know who all my husband kissed and he doesn't want anything  Then I said " no offense but I'm going to get tested" and he said " I got tested after the first time we smashed" and I was like " smashed?????? What??? Why are you being so disrespectful talking like that  I've been trying to pretend like I'm sick so we don't have to have sex again. Hoping he gives up on it. But he keeps saying one last time. We agreed to just be friends since he said he was tired of waiting on me to divorce  It's only been about 3 months since me and that guy have been talking . My thing is if we are going back to bring friends why he keeps wanting sex one last time  He said " a promise is a promise one last time," and I said " what if I say no to sex" and he said " I'm going to block you so let me know because my finger is on the block button" I don't know if he's going to tell my husband everything I'm just assuming he will. He said that he always gets what he wants.  I find it hard to believe the nice loving romantic I stayed up until 3 am laughing with has turned into this . I feel so sad.

I've been married almost two years. I became a Muslim so that I could marry my husband, but I'm miserable in the religion. I miss my old Methodist church, The people there are warm an accepting, and there are lots of opportunities for fellowship. The Muslim women at the local mosque mostly stay to themselves. I'm tired of being miserable. I want to go back to church, but I also on't want to get a divorce. What do I do? My husband is very kind...but very religious. He won't remain married to me if I return to the church.

My wife walks with a walker and uses a wheelchair she's 6 months pregnant. When we go out she's in her wheelchair, I push her and she holds the stuff while we shop. But since she's been pregnant I push her and hold the stuff I don't want her carrying anything but the baby. But she thinks I'm being ridiculous 

So Mom and Dad split in July for the 4th time. Mom told Dad she is done, also for the 4th time at least. So Dad moved out and summer was wrecked for us 4 children (teens and young adults). Now they have signed the divorce papers but the divorce is not finalized by any means. It will be in another few months. My Dad has been dating since late January. I met the woman and she seems nice enough but I feel almost like he is cheating as it is so soon and on paper they are still married. He is taking his girlfriend up to Virginia to meet his sister and her family (we live in South Carolina). This is all too soon but am I being rigid? Is it too soon for him to be dating?

My half-brother is dating a White woman My stepbrother is dating a White woman My stepdad is dating a White woman My cousin is dating a White woman My uncle married a White woman and adopted her daughter My mom's friend married a White man from Europe and had a child by him. So that makes six miscegenators I know. I'm probably the last pure generation in my line. Don't worry, my children won't be part-White. Another one of my cousins is cohabiting with a White man so that makes 7!

Dose it sound like a good idea to push while trying to trust again? My husband lost my trust and wants me to trust him arould women again showing he wants to be here with me  Yet he regrats not ever having the free life i gave him a free pass before and he choose not to use it and wants me.  Since then hes been working to showing me he's here and seem invested in me  We go to festivals and he wants to spilt up and wants to get friends on Facebook and Instagram  We sit down to make bonderies to make sure know lines are crossed  I cant be his baby sitter but what do yous think?  Can a person change?  I see it but so worried its gonna end badly  He even said he will give me his passwords and everything so I can check in  And if its a women he gets on Facebook then I can see there messages to know its nothing bad I am super uncomterble about it cause of our past and him messaging another girl trying to get with her he knows how I feel and says I need to trust him  I agreed to do this but if ending badly I don't want the marrage anymore am I wrong  Threw out the years I second gusse my self  Due to the crap life brings so please go easy and tell me your best advise I only dont trust fully when it comes to women

My goodness!  Somebody had to go and open that can of worms again! Don't you know you aren't supposed to offer an alcoholic a beer or shot of whiskey? It's like hitting the reset button starting the cycle down the rabbit hole all over again.   I DO enjoy the ride!

My aunt often complains about her brother-in-law is having no bars, this being her husband's brother. She feels he should stand up to his wife for their son but I don't know pass that what the expression means. Don't know that family enough to know what the issues are as it's her husband's side of the family.

i already have a nine year old daughter and i don't really know about this, what should i do, 

My ex acted emotionally unstable/crazy, was clingy at times, lied about things, seemed depressed alot, with me. She has been married for a year, been with her ex over 3 years, and he apparently reports very little of these problems with her.

What do I do? I met this person in 2017 but we go back to childhood. We had an affair until August 2018, recommenced our affair in February 2019 which ended by mid April- early May and now I still really miss him. I can't stop thinking about him, I care about my husband but I wasn't ready to marry him. I don't want to hurt anyone, but I can't stop what I do and don't feel. I enjoy talking to the other guy, I find everything with my husband boring and I don't like being intimate with him.  He initiated the first break up and his wife find out the second time. 

What will go inside the mind of the virgin husband who now knows that his wife bedded many men before him and might have experirnced everything before hand and thus will be observing him and have high expection from him? What will go inside the mind of the experienced wife who knows that her husband is a virgin and so he might not be that well compared to her experienced exes and will take time to know about it and will never reach her level of experience which she attained from sleeping with multiple men with multiple size and nature?

Oh the big words again!  Here you go: ra·tion·al·i·za·tion /ˌraSH(ə)n(ə)ləˈzāSH(ə)n,ˌraSH(ə)n(ə)līˈzāSH(ə)n/  noun 1. the action of attempting to explain or justify behavior or an attitude with logical reasons, even if these are not appropriate.

As she is used to changed partners snd used to get bored of one partner easily and so she jumped from one partner to another, how can she convince her husband that this is not going to be repeated those with him after he found about her past after marriage? And how can the husband be sure that she wont do that with him?

I'm in another state for my job, have been for a good while now. In the meantime, my husband (who had to stay home for his job) come to visit me here a few times. This last visit he was here for two weeks, and every day, and almost every night, we were very sexual. He's now been home 6 days. He's informed me that he's been very aroused since coming home. So aroused..that he's worn a jacket at work till he felt comfortable enough to take it off. He's also told me that he's secreting a liquid when this happens. I think it's pretty obvious as to what this is, but it's also somewhat abnormal for it to be occuring litereally every day since he's been home.   I'm not trying to be funny, but am concerned and also feel badly that maybe I, or we have done this to him. It's not unusual for us to be very intimate, however, we've never had as much sex as we did during this last visit. (Several times a day) Am I right to be concerned, is there something we should do? He shouldn't have to be uncomfortable when he has to go to work, so I'd like to figure something out. Please only mature responses as this is a little concerning to both of us.  Additional info that maybe is helpful: We're in our 30s, I've been away for a few months and will return soon. We have 1 young child. We are a couple very much in love .. but we've never been this intimate in almost a decade of marriage, for more than 2-3 days at a time. Please be mature in your responses as this isn't a joke. Thank you We do use live video over the internet also.

All custody, placement, holidays etc were settled and agreed upon in mediation. The only impasse: The ex wants to ban any future relationship of mine to ever meet the kids until they are both 18. (they are 10 and 11), openly admitted in mediation it was because she would be jealous and doesnt want me to move on. Now i get an email stating that there will be a telephone hearing for the commissioner to address the appointment of a GAL. Does this mean he already decided there will be one? or that he will address if the items impassed warrant one. Im not sure what a GAL would be able to do when custody and everything else is settled. What could they determine if 2 years from now i get a gf? my ex is dragging this out.... we had 4 mediations just to argue the no future gf's around the kids. I agreed to wait 6 months to introduce to the kids and that was a no from her.  I feel like this is just delaying the final even more... for something i find is just a way for her to control me in the future after divorce. any insight helpful

Being married to a business man. You don't have to work. He just wants you to cook and give him sex, but the sex is hardcore

OMG better be careful!  This time it's going after your adventurous and brave tools. Better pick up some protection in preparation! No worries, you can shrug it off like all the other past adventures that resulted in an infection. Don't say I didn't warn you! I prepared too.  Have you?

Our child was planned but since the arrival of the baby our compatibility issues seem larger than ever. She has underlying mental health issues prior to birth but they weren't as noticeable as they are now.  She can't handle stress very well at all, she just shuts down. She blames me for practically everything wrong in her life and refuses to seek any treatment.  80% of the caretaking I do with the baby gets criticized and nit picked.  The other day she said something along the lines of "we are only here now because I (she) got complacent"  She wants nothing to do with intimacy.  She always tells me to put my phone away around the baby but it's ok for her to FaceTime her family and stick the phone in the babies face for 15min at a time.  She says I hate you once a week after I make playful jabs or jokes with her.  She is resentful about past issues like, All trivial stuff. Like we just got back from seeing her family and after being in her sisters house for hrs, fully knowing we are coming back to her house tomorrow, I said "we should pack it up, we didn't get in until 3am, we still have to unpack and go grocery shopping and we are coming back tomorrow, and I'm exhausted" so she reluctantly agrees to leave not before throwing me under the bus blaming me for her leaving. A week or so after we had dinner at my uncles house, for 2hrs and at home she says it only made her angry bc it  reminded her of how it's ok to do my family stuff but not hers,  Pls help 

My husband and I are at it again. Yesterday he decided that he was going to work some OT on his job. Wed are normally his late day and he doesn't get off till 8 but he decided to get in a couple of extra hours and work till 10. 10 rolled around and I assumed he was on his way home. Around 10:30 when he didn't walk in the house I called and text him to find out where he was and he told me that he had hung around and was speaking to an employee who was working till midnight. Then he had to stop and get some gas. That made me mad because he didn't walk in the house until a little after 11 PM. We got into it and I told him that I don't like being home by myself. I'm 49. My husband said that he hates a dainty woman who can't be alone without a man there to protect her. He told me to just lock the doors. But what really made him angry with me was the fact that I alluded to the fact that maybe he was out doing something else. My mind tends to wander when he's not home but I told him I just didn't like being home by myself. He said that he's not just going to run home so I can feel secure and there are going to be times when I'm going to be gone from the house. He said it's funny that I can take a day off work and sit at home all day and not think about my safety but the minute it gets dark I turn into some scared little girl. Can you believe he called me dainty and am I wrong for my feelings? I'm not dainty. I was in 2 branches of the military in my youth.

This is rich: https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/dying-for-sex-podcast-follows-terminal-cancer-patient-sexcapades Women's natural propensities and rationalizations never cease to amaze me. I applaud her for her brave decision. Your thoughts? Ok let me rephrase, if you only had less than a year left

Why do women consider watching porn cheating especially when they're not having sex with you. Maybe wife I dealing with thyroid disease. One of the symptoms is exhaustion. When she get homes from work she is TIRED. I help around the house.  I cook clean, cook, do homework with the kids to lighten the load on her. Because of her thyroid she hasn't felt up to intimacy in over 6 months. So the other night the kids were in the bed, she was up watching tv and I was laying down in our room. When she came in she caught me watching porn. She was so upset and was acting like was cheating. What am I supposed to do if I can't my physical needs met my her and not stopping outside our marriage? 

Long story short my wife was abused growing up emotionally physically and financially her mother would hit her , slap her,kick her, and tell her that nobody would want to be with her. Her father would scream at her and tell her that she should have been aborted. When she was 13 she met me when I found out on what was happening I took her out of that home and made her live with me and my family and she cut contact with them. Now many years later we just got married and I am helping my new wife heal from the fact that she was never loved as a child how can I help her cope ? this is not a troll