I got a call from an attorney's office that they were probating the estate of my former husband Bill's grandmother, a person I really liked and admired. They said she had left me $400,000 in her will. I was shocked. She had told me I was in her will when I was married to Bill but I never gave it much thought. I thought there must be some mistake so I called Bill and asked him about. I thought perhaps she forgot to change her will when Bill and I got a divorce. Bill assured me that she loved me VERY MUCH and she wanted me to have the money as did he. He said that I had given her a lot of happiness during her life and I deserved the money in her will. Bill said she knew about our divorce but that did not change her love for me. I got another surprise when my current husband told me he does not want me to take the money. He says it is "tainted" because it is coming from my ex husband's family. I told my husband that this transaction HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM. Bill's grandmother was my friend and she wanted me to have the money and I am taking it. It will provide me (and him) with a life time of financial security and he is going to have to accept it and get on with his life or else. Did I make the right decision in this matter? Gals, what would you do in this situation? YOUR ADVICE PLEASE.

My daughter 13 was sexually molested by her 17 year old step brother. I believed her, her mom did not. I forced out the boy out of our home to live in  oh his own. Tension followed between me and mom eventually resulted in the family disintegrating.  Court awarded custody of the children to me. Mom responded by cutting of communication with the children because she thought they chose me over her. Some 6 months later she started to see them once or twice a week. The problem I am having is my daughter refused to go to counseling. Her mom does not talk to me, she does not respond to my text, etc. although my daughter never talks about how she feels, I can see her having difficult time. Her grades went from AB to CDF. Now she is almost 15, misses school a lot. I don't know where to start and what to do. Anyone with counseling experience please help? Dad in need of help!

asked several questions about this, but I've been thinking. My moms house Is in desperate need of repair. There are several leaks in the roof. Theres some mold in the attack, and in sure theres more hidden away. Well, I have about 8k saved of my own, then 60k in my trust fund from my dads side if the family. My mom got this house in the divorce, and 50k from my dad, and she let the house go to crap. I told my dad that I feel sorry for my mom, and that I'm going to help her. I already told her to hire a contractor, and I'll pay for the repairs. Well, my dad told me not to help her. Hes said that during the process of the the divorce my mom said "I'm going to completely screw you over. I'm going to take everything from you" my dad said that she got what she wanted, and now shes miserable. Shes getting her karma. The thing is. My moms not a very good person. She drinks, and drives often. Doesnt take proper care of her animals. But no matter how bad someone is I feel empathy for them. I told my dad that, and he said "yeah, I know you do, but you need to stop., she got what she wanted" if I did take the money from my trust fund behind my dads back, I'm sure that would destroy put relationship. But I know it's my money, and my choice. I just dont kno if my mom deserves the help. My mom does help me out a lot though. That's why it's tough.

Right now there is an aunt that is coming back into the family. My Dad had used me for a number of years against her but she is softening and returning to the clan. Meanwhile an uncle is getting divorced after 30 some years of marriage and his ex is now an enemy of my parents. As a result when their children have celebrations my parents will not inform me to keep me away from the ex-wife. Also, if I do end up going they will get mad as it will mean me being nice to this enemy of theirs. Many other scenarios like this I get used at. As a kid I was used by my mother as a weapon against her father who had alcoholism. I still carry the scars of my mother using me in that dispute. So how do I get over the fear of them using me and how do I respond when they do try to use me this summer against uncle's ex-wife? I am going to the events for the kids, adult children of his, not for the ex-wife though I have no ill will for her. How do I respond when future ones come up? My Mom had a cousin who had an affair and for a time she was furious with me for seeing this cousin, now my Mom is nice to the cousin and has moved on from her anger and thus is not mad at me for seeing her anymore. Yet, the cousin has not changed one bit. So it is obvious to me that I am being used and not in danger around these people. I was allowed around a convicted rapist (uncle's brother-in-law) as a kid but not my own grandfather who drank too much (later recovered and got really close to us).

I am 22 and have no idea on what to get for her

On weekend I sometimes sleep between them in their huge bed. It just feels so nice sleeping with them again. Someone said that I should stop so I don't accidentally poke my mom with my D in my sleep.

My grandma is 80, and she has always needed some assistance but now it's getting to the point where she's having accidents, and quite frankly, while I understand I am living rent free, being a full-time caregiver and cleaning up body fluids is more than I bargained for. On the other hand, I know she'll have to likely go into a home should I move out, because she cannot care for herself. My family is complaining that I'm leaving her when she needs me most, but I am not a caregiver, this is impacting my mental health.

I've been cutting since I was 12, and I'm 16 now, and I'm wondering if I should tell my parents. I don't want my parents to waste money on therapy for me, but I'm at least considering if they should know. A major reason that I don't want to tell them is that I'm not sure if I'm going through a phase or not, I just don't want to worry my parents if I'm going through a phase. I'm not even sure how to tell if it's a phase or not, but most of my friends have said that it is.

So I have a nephew who has a case of Asperger's, which according to what I have been able to look up, is a form of Autism. That's according to everything I have been able to find so far on the subject. I have noticed that while my nephew is not stupid, he does have a rather innocent quality to him, damn-near childlike thinking on certain subjects, though that is not at all to say he completely naive, in some ways he is pretty savvy. I guess the most accurate way to put it is, he understands people can be lying, conniving, ruthless pieces of ****, but he has great difficulty in spotting when he is in their crosshairs as a potential mark. He loves women, that boy is as horny as a four-peckered billygoat, pardon the expression, and he has had some women in his life, but he is not a womanizer. One thing I do know about women is they want a man who can provide for them, and do not want someone they have to take care of and look out for. And unfortunately many will use their feminine charms to exploit decent men for resources, financial or otherwise and then kick them to the curb when they're either tired of them, or that resource runs dry. I've had it happen to me in my life, and my nephew has had it happen to him somewhat. The thing is I do not want to see him hurt or his life ruined. He needs someone to kind of look out for him a little, and I know he wants companionship and everything; nothing wrong with that, but what woman is gonna want to take care of him like that? I'm not hating on women here. To be clear, I think women as a whole are amazing. And there are good ones out there.  But I also know there are a lot of bad ones out there, I know the games they play to get what they want, and I know my nephew, due to his condition, is frankly no match for them. I just want him to be okay, and I know I can't protect him from everything, nor am I gonna be around forever.

My daughter is 16 years old and yesterday I caught her smoking in her room...i'm strict but I decided to talk to her kindly.I ask what's the reason of her smoking...she just started to cry so I ask her the same question a little bit louder and she just ignore me....then....she told me that she hate....i tried to hug her but she slap me...i got mad and just left the house without telling her where I was...the next day she profusely apologies to me and she asked me for a hug..i told her that it wasn't the first time that she slap me and that i don't know if I could forgive her...honestly I already forgave her but how can I teach her a lesson for slapping me? I'm her dad

People ask questions about them everyday 

This is so annoying. Anytime I complain about something or there's even the slightest bit of tension in my voice, I get accused by my mom of whining. No matter how hard I tried to convince her, she refuses to believe it's not whining and her demonstration of what she says is whining doesn't sound close to how I actually sounded when I spoke. I feel like I'm at a point where I should either falsely admit to whining or just go ahead and do it the next time she accuses me. That's how frustrating this has become.

Case in point, I was going out with this girl, who had a smartass remark for just about everything. I'm not the kind of person who likes sarcasm, I actually hate sarcasm, though I do know it can have its advantages in some cases. But she would start 2 sometimes attack my even my friends/family, like I would mention certain plans like say my dad and I had about doing something, and perhaps I did not know all the details; waiting to see what my dad decided on, and she would either criticize me for not knowing or asking questions, or she outright say my dad was an idiot, and this was a man she never met. Another time we had a dog that was very sick, who sadly later passed away, and I suggested a few things to my dad, yet he did not want to go that way, I even offered to spend the money, yet my dad wouldn't hear it. I told her about it, she suggested I just go and do it anyway, but I would not do it, because it was my dad's dog and it would be going against his wishes, and I backed down out of respect for him, even though I did not agree with his decision.  And I explained why I refused to do it, yet she used that as ammo to attack me with, saying I was a coward for not doing it, making this whole thing out to be my fault, when she's the one who went on and on about respect. I never criticized her friends, or her family; even though said her dad was not good to her, and even when I said that, i was so careful how I said it, as I did not want to offend her or show disrespect. I never spoke belittling of her friends or family, never called them idiots, never called them "little" people, or anything. I just picked up and left. I wasn't gonna let her treat me like that. We did not live together, so that was a relatively easy move to make. As a rule I believe men should be honorable, behave like gentlemen, and should protect and provide for women, not that we're perfect, but we can only do the very best we can do as people. Yet women always seem to wanna find fault. A man could work 60 + hrs a week to provide for her, she'll criticize him for being at work too much, he can then take a lighter work load so he can be home more with her, and then she'll criticize him for being lazy and not working hard enough. And my question is, why? Why do women do this, especially when we as men try to treat them good. As men we need three things from a woman, the first two are sex and companionship, but more than that we need to feel respected. And without respect + appreciation, the sex and companionship are not worth it.

I'm so proud of my son. He's such a good young man, he's 20 years old. He still lives with me in school. He's so good to his brother and to me. He's so helpful and I just want him to know what I think about him. I just want him to know that I see him and all the positive things he does. He's so smart and capable etc... How would you feel if your mom or dad gave you letter telling you how proud you are of him or her? Thank you, everyone, for your thoughts and Ideas. 

My dad laughs when I cry and it feels abusive? Can I have some advice? I'm 11 years old and my dad laughs at me whenever I cry about my grades, when he insults me (calls me ugly or fat), or if I am behind on my homework. He doesn't think it's silly because he slaps me so I don't cry.

Although they have been divorced for many years now, I personally still consider her my aunt as she is the mother of my cousins and she never did me any wrong. I need to know in a professional point of view. I am applying for a job in the same company as her and the application asks if a relative works with the company.

I am pregnant living with my fiancé , my pet, and my younger sister who is 20 and going to school - we are all living in my parents second vacation home- I am paying a small amount a month anyway the reason I am asking for advice is my sister is always wearing her shoes in the house she lives on the second floor and I live on the first floor my bedroom is right when you walk in meaning my clean feet keep stepping where she is walking with her shoes so every morning afternoon and night I have been bleaching and Lysol and yes I just read how terrible it is to breath that I'm DAILY while pregnant- I keep asking her nicely even put down plastic for her to step on yet she STILL doesn't respect my wishes. I have a pet also who can get sick because she licks everything and recently suffered an inner ear infection that could have possibly been caused from strep which is found on 98 percent of shoes. I don't know what to do I am running low on cleaning supplies due to the coronovirus and everyone buying out the bleach and I am scared I caused birth defects by breathing in bleach daily because of cleaning after my sister. Meanwhile if I leave my shoes anywhere on her level she would never allow that! She also never allows me to touch her laundry and just threw my stuff I had in the dryer back in the dirty pile. I also lent her dresses to wear she never gave back. What should I do ? How should I handle this? I can't keep cleaning like this

Hello. A few nights ago my best friend got into a car accident. Her 1 year old baby was in the car. We met in high school, after graduating she got pregnant with her boyfriend and he left her. Ever since that i've gotten closer to her then every before. Her baby girl has become my whole life as i baby sat her everyday while my friend works as a nurse to support themselves. The other night i was at work and got a call from my work phone (nobody ever calls my jobs phone unless it's an emergency) Her mother told me that they got into an accident and i needed to go there asap. I left work to the hospital where they pronounced Baby girls death as Sudden Baby Death syndrome. Her mom, is in the hospital still with leg issues and back complications.  I've been crying for 3 days now. Yes i am 110% effected by this and hurt by her passing. but i'm even more worried about how my friend is going to be able to handle this once she's out of the hospital. I'm good at comforting people but never been into a situation like this one. it's been hard for all of us since this but i know not as hard for her because she lost her 1 yr old daughter who became her best friend the past year and a half. i don't want her feeling like she should hold herself accountable. Please give me advice or any words or wisdom. asking for a friend right now as i'm in this situation because my best friend isn't here.  https://www.gofundme.com/f/deathofbabyelle?sharetype=teams&member=3843400&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_source=customer&utm_campaign=p_na+share-sheet&rcid=fb4ad73603d8413493b013b33ef359f8

I know there is always next year but that is a long time away.

My step daughter, 5, is playing tball this year. For the past 3 years, her mom has always signed her up for tball and they always take pictures together. I thought about me snapping a pic with her, but I feel like that's her and moms thing so maybe I should back off. The mom will also be at her game too. I know I can always take pics somewhere else. Should I just wait?

Im so scared what do i do i see him at a youth group event but he never talks to me and i dont know why

I haven't seen my sister and my two young nephews in about 3 years. My sister is moving to an apartment upstate and wants me to visit her for 2 or 3 weeks to help her move and to spend some time with them. We live with my husbands parents and his siblings so he gets to see them everyday. I don't have that ability. My husband is angry that I want to leave him for 3weeks to visit them. My sister also said that she will teach me to drive which my husband has been saying he will do for about 3 years now. We don't have kids so I wouldn't be away from them. Do I have a right to be annoyed that he won't let me go or is he being reasonable?I worked for my Dad but his business shut down recently and I need to drive in order to get another job so I am unemployed at the moment and bored at the moment and I miss my sister and my nephews. We didn't go years without speaking. My sister and I have always been very close. We grew up without parents in the foster care system and we have always been each others constants. With her two kids in tow she can't just come and visit whenever she wants to as a single mother and she has been wanting me to come visit but my husband won't let me. And I do not have a license and since my husband has never been away from his parents or siblings he doesn't understand why I want to go visit them. I said we haven't seen each other not that we haven't had contact. If I go more than a few days without calling or texting her she goes crazy lol wondering if I am ok.

I'm a second rate person, second rate grandson, and from a second rate branch of the family. I hate myself.

befriended me in my life.I was beaten in High School.I'm alone and I don't know what to do.

I'm excluded because they don't like my mom and if they invite me they're stuck asking her. I feel marginalized like a second rate relative. 

My dad's brothers are fighting and my uncle Dan's wife is putting me in the middle of the fight because I'm the only one that is talking to my Uncle Richard. They are fighting about something stupid.  I have enough **** on my plate! My dad is fighting Pancreatic cancer. 

Ive been  driving an old beat-up vehicle of my Dads (legally tranaferred to me) for months now....after multiple failed repairs, constantly asking my brothers to help me sell it.....I decided to sell it on my own and used the money to buy myself a proper vehicle. My brothers (both of whom are married with their own vehicles) are butt hurt that I did the sale without them and have insulted my inyltelligence, my fiancee and insulted my love for my parents. Yet my Dad says I have to apologize to them because selling the vehicle without their input hurt their feelings. There is a spelling error, I know.