Family: Question: Do you believe some people are just unlucky in life? Take a look at these 2 friends of mine?

Question: Do you believe some people are just unlucky in life? Take a look at these 2 friends of mine?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 02:19 PM PDT

I got 2 friends. Let's call them Mike and John. John has a good life,has a good family,has never had troubles with girls,has a job that didn't require college degree. He works less then he can,he hates his job but has lots of hobbies and spends all day with his girlfriend and his mom and dad and sometimes they go out as couples. Mike comes from a broken family,his mom left his family. His eldest brother,a Marine,died in 2004 in Iraq when Mike was 10. He's always been shy with girls,is studying to get a degree and he feels lonely. My point is: these 2 people have obviously different lives. But how come John's life is less shitt* than Mike's? Is it his fault his life is like this? I've always wondered why some people seem to have more luck than others. What do you think?

Question: Am I wrong for thinking my parents are too strict?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 01:54 PM PDT

Am I wrong for thinking my parents are too strict? I am 24 years old. I do still live with my parents because I'm still in school full time. Although they financially support me for the most part, I have managed to pay for all of my school tuition. I've had to manage working 1-2 jobs while doing so. My parents are extremely strict, they still give me a curfew and do not allow for me to stay over at other homes. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. We both have very busy schedules and live a good 45 mins away from each other. It would be perfect if I could sleepover, it would make his commute a lot better. He also lives with his parents but is working hard to move out. I have never been allowed to sleepover at his house, my parents don't allow it, and never have I vacationed with him because it has also not allowed. My parents have only met him once and did not make him feel very welcomed. I have talked to them and made them understand I am a responsible adult but they simply don't listen to me and accuse me of being unappreciative. I want to move out soon, but it's been hard because any money I get I have to save up for school. I also don't have any immediate family i can resort to and most of my friends also live with their parents. Am i wrong for thinking they're toxic? I feel like I'm letting my best years go by.

Question: My mother and stepfather enable my sister to be abusive and narcissistic, are they just as guilty as my sister?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 01:25 PM PDT

Question: My father is an idiot, could this be genetic and passed down to me?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 01:24 PM PDT

Question: I worry my mom will raise a future drug addict/abuser. What do I do?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 12:55 PM PDT

My brother is much younger than I am. I'm 20 and he's 8. We were eating breakfast and my brother dropped an egg on the floor. The floor was touching the shell, not the egg itself. Mom made me threw out the trash and put water bottles in the fridge. Then I saw him sitting down on the floor. He asked me why I didn't see him fall, I told him I was throwing out the trash and wasn't aware he was crying or fell. Brother had me ask Mom for help. She asked me what he needs, and I told him he didn't tell me, only to tell her to head downstairs. I felt terrified when my mom was YELLING at my brother "Stop yelling at me!" and "Stop whining! nobody likes a whiner! it makes people nervous" when he said stuff like, "I didn't say I can't get up," "My egg fell and it's garbage" When he asked Mom to boil another egg, she originally said no but said she'll boil him an egg if he gets up and stop whining. Another thing is my mom is a closeted Trump supporter, she doesn't talk politics outside of the home. But I still don't trust a Trump supporter to parent a child. I am aware everyone has opinions but Trump is the symbol of angry rebellious stupid parents people want to use their ideology to hurt one another I'm a Bernie supporter but hardly discuss politics around them. What do I do?

Question: Will I make a good family doctor?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 12:28 PM PDT

I am currently in medical school and while most of my buddies still have to decide what to do next I know what I want. That is what I want to do in life. I am a good comunicator,not too extroverted but not too introverted. I enjoy medical cases and the whole process of diagnosing them. I also like the relationships GPs estabilish with their patients,I like the trust people develop for their family docs. I like the idea of the routine.I can be empathetic and I like the idea of actually seeing my patients feel better and actually developing a relatioship with them,especially the elderly. I also like the idea that as a GP I would not work on sundays and I'd schedule my work time. I don't like the idea of the hospital shifts. also I like listening to patients problems,a thing that hospital docs aren't really able to do properly

Question: How do I help beloved family members who lost their Dad?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 12:13 PM PDT

It hurts me to see them struggle like this. They were born and raised in north africa, and their parents are from there, but their Dad was 1/4 greek as well, which I never knew, and he was the one who passed. It hurts me to see them feel so lost, is there anything I can do to help them?

Question: I have a very arrogant father. How do I feel better about myself when he puts his arrogance on me, it hurts?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 12:04 PM PDT

Question: What would you think of a relative like this?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 11:58 AM PDT

What would you think, if one of your relatives falsely accused you of stealing from them and then told everyone they knew, that you stole from them even though you didn't. Well, I'm very unhappy and furious about this and I will not trust them again and I will be dropping all of my contact with them too.

Question: Since I hate my sister why should I have to respect her? Why are we supposed to respect bad family members?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 11:41 AM PDT

Question: My aunt is a narcissist, does this mean my mother has a dysfunctional family?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 11:36 AM PDT

Question: What's the best time and way to get groceries right now?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 11:15 AM PDT

I live in NC and given the pandemic thats going on... all my local stores are dang near bare empty. People are bulk buying and being a bit selfish by buying 6 jugs of milk, 10 dozen of eggs, 20 packs of meat and etc without thinking of others. I've gotten lucky the last few weeks of getting almost what i needed, but obviously food runs out and i'm gonna need to go shopping for my family here in a few days. But, i didn't know if there was a better time to get groceries or just a better method? I'm worried that eventually there won't be anything to buy because of everyone freaking out. I've just been treating this as normal, doing my regular 2-3 weeks worth of meals and social distancing and staying home, i'm not going crazy and buying 2 months worth of food. Tips? Tricks? Anything i can try to finally get some more groceries.

Question: My dad always beats my little sister Can I kill her?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 11:04 AM PDT

Question: Are people in my family threatened by me not continuing the cycle of trauma?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 10:39 AM PDT

my family comes from decades and generations of trauma.growing up, I've seen my sister and mother get into a physical altercation that I can never unsee. their relationship till this day is still not completely healed. my parents were in a verbally abusive relationship for years.they finally split by the time I was 17.my mother is the type to emotionally call people out on their faults, but will say people are mean to her and mistreat her when they tell her nothing but the truth on how she's acting.she moved away with her boyfriend three times not caring about how I felt or what I would do. after college when I moved back in with my dad he said it was fine and that he would support me to build and move out.with that it ended in him being verbally abusive towards me to a point where our relationship was not the same. everytime I would stand up for myself he would call my sister to yell at me.his anger and verbally abusive words can frighten anyone, and it has been this way since I was a child.regardless how much any of us would be scared, he would only get worse.my sister and I are different to where I do not take this trauma lightly. she's normalized this type of behavior for so long that she's also showed certain times where she's yelled and blamed me for certain things that were out of my control.I'm not sure if she know's what a normal relationship truly is. it's sad that they think I treat my friends better than them, when my friends have been more supportive than them.

Question: How to deal with a abusive grandparent?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 10:10 AM PDT

One day he told me this because I didnt want to ride a uncomfortable bike. "I'm not going to let you waste your life on that ******* bed watching youtube." The other day he told me to ride my damn bike because my bike wouldnt start. What do I do? I cant spend the rest of my life in fear

Question: Is it normal for a 26 year old woman to tell her parents to "shut up" and talk back to them and use the F word at them?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 09:59 AM PDT

My sister does all this and it seems abnormal to me. Is it abnormal at 26?

Question: With my Dad estranged is it normal I feel like an orphan (my mother I see but just a little since my father, her husband, is estranged).?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 09:56 AM PDT

He was too emotionally abusive with his arrogance for me to be able to handle it anymore. I have no kids so I am not stealing anything from them (I would never do this if I had kids). Is it normal I feel orphaned even though my father has long abused me emotionally.

Question: I have traumatic flashbacks to being attacked by two aunts of mine in 2012. How do I recover 8 years later?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 09:55 AM PDT

It has defined me that they attacked me on 4th of July 2012. It was worse then sexual assault in my opinion. This was verbal assault for me being disabled. One was more ruthless then the other.

Question: She said she hates him because I'm pregnant. Why can't she get over it?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 09:03 AM PDT

My baby's father had told me last night that his baby's mama said that she hate him and she really want to push and spit on him for getting me pregnant and not seeing their 11 month old son often. I mean, who cares? So, we both just laughed because she's so delusional and need to get over it. She has a BAD attitude that's why he said to me and her that he doesn't like being around her because she starts fights with him. Every time he ask to see the baby she says, "no u punched me in front of my son, "I HATE YOU". which that was in February. Why can't she just get over it? 

Question: Am I selfish?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 08:11 AM PDT

My family is poor. My parents have always been so bad with finance so now my dad is swamped with debt and my mum never stops shopping. As soon as she gets money, she spends it all somehow. I,who is a working member in society puts money into the house and I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I give my share of the money and whenever that happens, they "treat" us to a nice dinner or even go a little shopping. I brought up my concern about this and it has always ended in arguments with them calling me selfish. That was a little back story for my question. I decided to move out and I was told that I was being selfish. Why do I want to move? One, we live in a small apartment and I share a room with two of my siblings. Three adults in a bedroom.  Two, I am trying to school again. I need a quiet place to study. There is no quiet place in my house whatsoever. Three, I honestly need my personally space. My parents keep telling me that its stupid and that I am selfish because I do not want to be responsible for the house anymore. Are they right?

Question: How can you survive around women like this?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 06:30 AM PDT

My sister and just about all the women in my family rolls with women like this The women have hair that is bleached red, t shirts that like has a destroy the male patriarchy wrote on it.  They physically look like lesbians, and they seem to not wear a braw or shave their legs. They seem to be very abusive and hateful to men. They are very hostile towards men. They have husband that they've made them their b I t c h e s. They aren't friendly towards me and are very condescending, violent and rude and undermining towards me. They seem to spout out this stuff every time when they are talking to my family members like men are all out for sex and are rapist and yadda yadda yadda.  Any suggestions? I actually one time had one of these women hit me because she thought I was flirting with her and my sister stood in, that was way back when I was 14 and now I'm 32. Any suggestions?

Question: My sister has Crohns Disease but also is very cruel tempered. Our parents say it is okay cause she is suffering. Is it okay to be cruel here?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 05:28 AM PDT

Since she is sick with Crohn's Disease is it okay to splash insults at others who spend their day trying to help her? It is my parents she does it to. She has always been like this but it is more extreme now. She has known she has had Crohn's since last fall and so it is in the hardest stage to manage. I have not seen her other then at Thanksgiving and she was cruel to me there though civil to others. She has always had narcissistic traits. Our parents were busy keeping my brother, a drug addicted young adult, alive that they didn't have time to discipline my sister. The brother recovered and is doing great now.

Question: My Dad is a horrible man. I wish I did not know him. Is it okay for a son to hate his father or do I need to pretend everything is okay?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 05:16 AM PDT

Question: Anyone else barely know their siblings?

Posted: 29 Mar 2020 04:19 AM PDT

I have two brothers who I barely know due to the fact that we are 12 and 15 years apart lol. By the time I was 6 they were both already moved out of the house. (My mom struggled with infertility and miscarriages for a decade before she had me). It's weird to admit to admit that I barely know my siblings lol. Is anyone else like this?

Question: Can you please give assistance with what I write?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 11:25 PM PDT

I need help, am I typing everything correctly? Thinking about pallbearers is very difficult and very emotional and the topic causes a lot of us to feel very distraught or at least very emotional and very respectful. Children shouldn't have to be pallbearers and even if they want to it's a difficult scene to think about and it certainly makes us feel very unhappy. It's important respectful and caring during these times. Sorry everyone, I didn't mean for you to help me with my paragraph completion. I meant for you to let me your opinion on what I write. Please help this is important to me. let me know*

Question: Sons internet history ?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 08:56 PM PDT

I saw my sons browser history that he must have forgotten to delete. I saw a lot of stuff that is normal but few that I couldn't ignore. Stuff like mom and son, mom catches son. I don't even know where if I should say something or not

Question: My twin brother treats me like his little brother. Advice?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 08:01 PM PDT

Hello my twin brother treats me like I am his younger sibling, obviously we are the same age. For example last night I fell asleep in the living room and he apparently carried me to our room and put me in bed. His personality is more dominant than mine which I normally dont mind. But I feel like he is treating me like a child. We are really close and I dont want to hurt his feelings what should I say to him? Thanks

Question: What does a mother mean if she says she loves her child but wishes she didn’t have them?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 07:34 PM PDT

I saw an article on yahoo about this a while ago. How this one girl wrote on there, my mother loves me, but says she wishes she never had me. This kind of sounds very mixed up. Answers?

Question: My Dad is freaking out over Coronavirus. Do I really need to avoid going anywhere, even the grocery store? Will this last all year 2020?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 07:11 PM PDT

My Dad never worries. If he is worried it is like someone has a gun to his head and Coronavirus I guess is that gun.

Question: Is it worse for poor families to have young adults living with them?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 07:05 PM PDT

Question: Can my grandmother legally kick me out for this?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 06:50 PM PDT

I'm a 20 year old female living with my 83 year old grandma and i work at a gas station and i've talked to my boss and i can't take off and if i don't go i would get fired, and my grandma said if i go to that job again i won't be allowed back in the house because she doesn't want the disease, she even said she would lock the door, i'm stressed because I NEED my job i can't find any other ones and i'm even on the lease for my grandmas house and i'm actually the one who pays the mortgage and pay most of the bills too, how can she just kick me out plus i have all my stuff in the house

Question: If your parents die from the coronavirus, how will you spend your inheritance money?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 04:14 PM PDT

Question: Why does my son have a terrible attitude?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 04:09 PM PDT

I have 6 children. All of them grew up to be pretty successful, however, the most successful one of them all the one with a PHD and a business has not the greatest attitude at least towards me. For example, when I speak with him he doesn't seem excited makes it short my conversation doesn't matter. When I give advice he doesn't take it, he doesn't talk to me about important things such as his PHD or his company. He isn't rude. However, I have seen him talk to other business owners about business I have seen him talk about his PHD program with other people that have it. Was it because I never became more than a warehouse worker? Is it because he believes I won't understand? He thinks I'm stupid?

Question: Am I being overcautious?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 04:08 PM PDT

I am in a state that has a stay at home order and I have been staying at home as much as possible because of concerns of COVID-19 complications due to me being pretty underweight. (My dad is very worried about this possibly happening also). My mom had a doctor's appointment out of town the first full day of the SAH order, and then she went and stayed with out of town friends in a third city for several days. She got home yesterday and assumed I would go over and ride out the rest of the quarantine with her. She's become deeply hurt at the suggestion it might not be the best idea for me to do that since she was out of town. Was me deciding to stay home overcautious?

Question: My grandpa,recently dead,asked me to scatter his ashes in Guadalcanal,not near grandma's grave. What do you think about his decision?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 03:45 PM PDT

My grandpa fought in Guadalcanal. He passed away last month and he made me promise to him that once dead I'd have his ashes scattered in Guadalcanal where hundreds of his fellow Marines lost theirlives for our freedom. He made me promise that once dead I'd scatter his ashes there. Now if I think about it it makes me so sad..One one hand it surprised and saddened me that he didn't want to stay near grandma. On the other,I feel a tremendous respect for him that he wanted to be with his fellow Marines again..what do you think about his decision? Anonymous: lets' do the math. guadalcanal was 1942. He was 18. He was born in 1924. My dad was born in 1960. I was born in 1993 when grandpa was 69. You feel better now?

Question: Is apologizing and asking for forgiveness so hard?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 02:57 PM PDT

I gave my brother's fiancee a hard time. She used to cry. I acted like a bully towards her. My brother took my name off their wedding invitation. Then I got reinvited in Nov after she convinced my brother to include me again. Many things have happened since. Their wedding is being postponed due to this pandemia. We can't even visit them. I really (from my heart) wish them both the best. I'm not sure if I should say something to her. I've changed and I think she can see that even if I didn't say sorry. I'm looking forward to improving things. Hopefully we can become good friends one day. Here is the issue though: I'm not someone that likes admitting defeat. I've always had trouble with that. I'm embarrassed. That's hard to do. I've always been a very proud, outspoken, strong-willed woman till the end. The opposite of this would be to humble down. That's not my usual character. Honestly do you think it's HARD to admit being wrong, apologizing or asking for forgiveness? I was wrong but I just can't admit it. It's too embarrassing. Thing is I do feel bad. It is for real. I have struggle when it comes to apologizing. I always did.

Question: I just watched a TED talk by Sue Klebold, mother of one of Columbine shooters; do you think (if ever heard of Mrs. Klebold) she's to blame?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 02:55 PM PDT

I am quarantined and bored, so I watched it. It has over 6.6 million views on YouTube. I felt heartache over her sadness and never-ending sense of guilt and pain. 

Question: How much stimulus check will my parents get?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 02:52 PM PDT

If father is working, mother is not working and with a child then how much the family gets? father`s income $50,000.

Question: Can grandparents visit their grandchildren in the hospital?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 02:45 PM PDT

I mean grandchildren who are 2-years-old or older not 2-days-old or younger because they're very ill, hurt very badly, in a coma, had a major operation, etc.  If yes, can siblings of the child's grandparents visit them in the hospital as well? I meant in general…not during the Coronavirus. Pretend there's no Coronavirus. Years from now or years ago, what would your answer be?

Question: I'm getting tired of my girlfriends lousy attitude she wont change?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 02:12 PM PDT

She hates doing things for me like make my food sometimes, yet I do so much for her around the house and do all the major cleaning and remodeling.  I'm injured right now and she's got this attitude like I'm such a burden. Shes terrible at rationing food too yet is still very overweight. She nags at me like an old lady a lot lately. Argues. It makes me feel like crap and stressed  out be ause shes a negative person now and even tries to make me out to be her enemy when she wont see somebody. I'm tired of hearing the ex crutch too. We fight a lot because of her lousy attitude. I cant make her happy either yet she acuses me instead.  I distance myself a lot now, but it feels like we're just roomates now. I'd leave if I had money, yet still want to work things out.  I find myself comming down on her a lot like her father or something trying to teach her how to behave. 

Question: My mom wants my whole paycheck still?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 01:09 PM PDT

Ok I need to know if I'm behoved to this please. I didn't go to college right away after high school. I stayed working in a child care. I suffered from anorexia and couldn't keep working. It took 5 years but I recovered completely. I'm not the same person.  I went back to college and paid using money I had from my grandfathers inheritance and with financial aid and scholarships. My mom paid for my books. I graduated and am working. When I started working in college, I had the entire check deposited into my moms checking account. After I graduated and got my career job, I continued this, all my paycheck goes to her. I want to move out, my mom and I don't get along so great. She keeps guilting me about money and how I didn't work for those 5 years and my first 2 years in university. I worked really hard, graduated summa *** laude. I don't want to give her my money anymore but I feel so guilty and inferior. She tells me about how she never took a penny from her mother and always worked her way in life without handouts, inheritances or aid.  So now I went to graduate school. Instead of a student loan my mom said she'd pay and I'd pay her back monthly with less interest than the 6% grad loan. I'm still working FT, she still gets my entire paycheck. Basically..do i deserve to feel as guilty as I do? Please be honest, I can't stand this and I want to move out, just pay back for the 2 semesters of grad school so far and leave.

Question: My sister curses me out all the time for no reason ?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 01:01 PM PDT

The things she says to me are really mean. She calls me a b*tch and tells me to go to a mental hospital. She won't stop. I don't say anything back. That makes it worse.  She also calls me retarded. 

Question: My family gets mad at everything I do?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 12:53 PM PDT

I can't do anything without my family getting mad and cursing me out. For example if I try to talk to them or even walk across the room they get mad and curse me out.

Question: My family thinks I'm not talented in acting. What should I do?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 11:03 AM PDT

I'm a 19 year old female. I'm the top student in acting class, but my family thinks I'm not talented in acting. We were playing a game with my brother. We slowly slapped on each other's face and pretended that the stroke was very painful (I know it sounds childish and ridiculous, but we do crazy things during quarantine times). When he slapped me on the right, I held my left cheek, because I felt confused for a moment. Now, both my mom and my brother are mocking me up and telling me that I'm not talented in acting.

Question: My parents disinherited me and as a result, I've decided that my children will know nothing about them. What are your thoughts?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 10:00 AM PDT

Just like my parents weren't obligated to leave me $#!t, I am NOT obligated to carry on the memory of their legacy and tell my kids $#!t about them. My kids will never know who they are and they won't be ever be curious about them because I won't ever mention anything about them. I've struggled for the last 4 years because they disinherited me, and now, as a reward, they will be wiped away from all memory, permanently. They didn't owe me anything and I owe them nothing. Like you all said, my parents don't owe me $#!t, so why do I owe them even a millisecond of my thoughts? What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Question: Why did these 2 girls that were sisters liked me, I suck at everything my life is ruined?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 07:11 AM PDT

I don't have huge muscles. I never opened the door for them. I have no talent in sports or anything but they do. I still can't drive and don't have a car but they do my mom still won't let me drive anything I tried to do her and my dad would get mad. Put I bet they parents wouldn't.

Question: As a teenager who wants to move out but is unsure how, any advice?

Posted: 28 Mar 2020 04:31 AM PDT

I have been have a lot of issues between my brother and I, it has been affecting me a lot and is emotionally tiring me. My parents can't stop him from being a jerk and I'm honestly sick of him. I'll be going to a college that is close so I don't have to move out, but I feel like I need to. My parents are very clingly and overprotective of me as the first child to leave the nest, and since I'm a female they are concerned for my safety. Yet I'm responsible, I know how to take care of myself and I feel as I am able to learn to live on my own. My friends say even though I don't have to move, leaving my home will give me peace and the true college experience However, even if I do convince them I'm not rich enough to live on my own. My closest girl friends will be moving, and I'm nervous about looking for a room mate (I'm socially anxious and have trouble trusting new people), but one of my friends is a guy whom could potentially be my room mate. However, I am absolutely terrified of bringing this idea up to my parents as they might think we are dating and want our room to do things... but we are just friends and besides I like someone else. As for safety reasons would I really consider him as my room mate if I did not trust him? My parents are religious and they might think I want to do it with my guy friend... so... that js probably not happening. Any thoughts, advice for finding a room mate and convincing my parents? Your opinions on me having a guy room mate? As a parent?