I shouldn't be mad about this, have no right. No one I can vent too because no one is understandable. I'm wrong but I don't think it's cool for people to criticize me. Telling me that I'm judgmental. I know this girl for such a long time. She seem like a good girl, different from the other girls. She keeps to herself & has not given any reason for people to assume that she sleeps around.  I knew that she had a long on and off relationship, it seem like she had a type. Guys with beards, White Latino type of guys. She hated guys who were thirsty chasing after girls. She especially seem uncomfortable around black guys that were ghetto. No she wasn't a racist, she like listening to black artists & grew up watching the Fresh prince of bel air. She got along with everyone. Me and her are both Latinos and I'm dark skin but she did found me attractive, we flirted with the idea of going out and talked about it but it was different.  A lot of sudden she became distant with me. I was upset but I thought the best thing to do was give her time, 2 months passed by. One day I was watching amateur porn, I clicked on an interracial video. I saw a girl that was Asian, my crush btw looks Asian but she's not. The girl was with a tall toned real dark skin black guy with a big penis, the voice & her body expression was like her. Skin complexion, body type, hair color, length, & texture like hers. Then all of a sudden I saw her face & my heart dropped. 

I have a coworker at my job and and it seems like we have been  close friends at work for a long time they come to my desk often just to chat we have inside jokes and pull pranks on each other over all they have been a fun person to work with. However we made tentative plans to hangout this past weekend and maybe go on a hike depending on weather. But when i texted them to confirm our plans they never responded back. Not one word all weekend.( I know they saw the message because it gets marked when it is seen)  I understand if they changed their mind and decided they didn't feel like doing anything. I'm upset with the fact that they didn't even bother to text back or let me know they didn't feel like going. I just feel like it's really disrespectful. So my question is how do I handle this?  Do I confront the person about it when I see them at work? Do I use ignore it and pretend like it didn't happen? Or should I back away from the friendship and just not engage with them anymore as a friend when we are working?  Or something else? 

I am very angry with a former friend of mine (too long a story for right now), and she is a good friend of theirs. I know I need therapy or something because I am still just as angry now as I was 2 years ago. When we drink, I always find myself going on and on and on about it, and I become desperate to make sure my side of the story is known. Even when I'm sober, I still get angry if the topic comes up. I just control it a little better. But now it's at a point where they are beyond tired of it and have stopped inviting me over. They have actually said that they have far more respect for her (the ex-friend) because she doesnt bring it up all the time and they have a much better time with her. She's very bubbly and outgoing - a trait people like, whereas I've become quite negative - a trait people try to avoid. I've made attempts to stop bringing up (or getting extremely heated if someone else brings her up) but I have not been successful. So apologizing and asking for another chance is not a possibility as they don't believe me anymore. I want to feel better but I am not very skilled at dealing with my emotions. I am also an alcoholic. Therapy has to go on hold due to all the changes caused by Covid 19. What can I do in the meantime? Is earning their respect back even a possibility anymore, let alone becoming enjoyable to be around? Four of these people are family members of my partner so it really matters to me.

I m asking because people always say I m annoying but without a reason. I think it's when our relationship gets to the point I see them for who they are and what lies they say. When I call them out they start to get annoyed, that is what I m thinking but could be something else? The people that this has happened with are my friends of a friend, co- workers, and sister. I m beginning to think its me but when I look at what was said at the time I believe they are the ones doing something different and it came out like that they didn't care to speak and be around me, thus why I'm annoying, especially when I speak up about something they don t want to hear.

I've been friends with this person for the better part of a year and I just realized I had feelings for him about two months ago. Even though I'm a female, I have no female friends and he's in my group of friends. Our two best friends in that group both liked me. I want to tell him how I feel so bad but he's introverted and I don't want to get rid of the person he usually is around me. Even if he does like me, I don't know if he'll ever say anything in response. So, if I don't tell him I need to be able to be just friends with this dude. How do I do that exactly?

I just moved houses with my family (I'm not close with them) and I didn't move schools or anything, but I was in the other house my whole life. Because of the Corona virus, I can't go anywhere familiar, or talk/hang out with my friends as often, so I'm kinda stuck. I'm really upset about moving even though it was over 2 weeks ago, and I have no clue how to get through this because I have no privacy and no way out. Is there anything I could do to make things better?

My parent's favorite type of music is rock. *Jamie's Cryin'* by Van Halen was playing on my dad's radio. It reminded me of what happened when I was 5. My neighbors had a party during the summer once. I started to cry but I can't think of the cause right now; I only remember it happened after it started to get dark out. Shortly after I started to cry, a guy was like, "Oh, whoa, whoa, Kathy's cryin'." Then I was like with my voice possibly cracking up, "Adam, don't…TEASE ME!" Then he was like, "What, that wasn't teasing! I was just singing a rock song!" The adults who witnessed it agreed unanimously with Adam and even my parents denied that he was teasing me; my mom told me, "He was just being cute." And she explained that there was a song that goes "Oh, whoa, whoa, Jamie's cryin'." I don't care what my parents and all my other neighbors have said. I still think that was teasing. Did that guy tease me or were the adults right? I don't want an answer like *You were 5-years-old. Let it go!* or *You're complaining about what happened when you were 5?* No, I want a real answer like *Yes, that was teasing* or *No, that wasn't teasing*

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Ok so I've know someone for 10 year now.i didnt meet her out of choice.more so she was dating a relative and gravitated towards me and never left. It's been a decade and she is still here.ive tried numerous time to back away from her politely but she keeps coming bk.she really isnt a bad person which makes this even harder.i just feel suffocated and have done so for a long time .she will call to my home 3 or 4 times a week .ringing me minutes after leaving and if I'm not home on specifics days she calls she will come the next day until im home.i have kids and a family and I just want to be left alone.sometimes I hide in my own home but she will come back ,look through windows or listen for sounds.or ring my phone its hard because I dont want to hurt her or upset her as I previously said she is a very kind and caring person .I just dont want the friendship anymore..please can someone suggest something .thank you 

Someone in the group chat I am also in found out something about me and then told a person who is also in the group. Now everyone knows about it. They never got to hear my side of the story, and whenever someone says something about me, they believe is true, a lot of people believe it.  Should I try saying what really happened so people could stop believing the wrong thing or say nothing? Could saying something make it worse? 

I'm 19 years old, 5'8 calm and a very nice person and been boxing since i was 15 but never told anyone about it cause i don't want people talking. My new friends which I met in September when college started were bullies back when they were in school hearing the stuff they did. They are so loud. They all keep telling me I should man up saying people will take advantage if I remain too nice like that. I just tell them ok. Just wondering why everyone assumes I'm weak just cause I'm nice? 

we have two houses, one on our left side and one on our right side. Both couples living in them are black men and white women. These couples on both sides of the house are very abusive. I hear screaming and arguing echoing from their houses, or they come out yelling at each other and all sorts of garbage. I am on the phone with somebody and they ask me what is that commotion going on and I say 'its my neighbors'. The houses are getting run down on both sides of us, one of the houses on the left side has a broken window and both of them are being trashed.  I wake up every night because they come to the house with really loud subwoofers in their cars and it wakes up the dead.  Now they are owning pit bulls over there and they look like they can jump our chain link fence. They stare at me and violently bark, I ignore them.  any suggestions?

I have a friend that means everything to me thinks I like them because I care about them and I don't want them to be weirded out, and I'm really scared that I'm going to lose them and now I don't know what to do. Can someone please help? 💔