The segregation is all very painful.

My mom's parents are young so we have the option if my mom and dad die about Julie or my grandparents. My siblings will go with my grandparents and I kind of like the idea of aunt Julie since it's just me and her and she would likely homeschool me. At the same time I don't wanna feel guilty like I hurt my grandparents feelings by picking aunt Julie. Aunt Julie has no kids and never married so she spends a lot of time with me since I'm learning disabled. Also aunt Julie is on the side of my family with the elderly grandparents and so we would likely go see them once or twice a week. I'd become the golden grandchild as a result. So I'm leaning towards aunt Julie, but I'm wondering your opinion is this the right pic or will I be hurting my maternal grandparents feelings? I feel a bad feeling that my parents are gonna die of the coronavirus as I had a dream last night that they did.

We were really close until I was about 25. Then his ignorance of my mental illness made me have to get distant from him. I'm 42 now and he will die within a month or two of cancer. How do I get over the guilt that I've had to remove myself from him a lot of the time because of his ignorance? It's not that we're estranged or anything but it's just that I'm distant from him.

Idk why but when i walk for example my mom would ask me "why do you walk like that you're not supposed to do it like that" and even when i tell her to stop screaming at me and to just talk normally and to stop cussing she always tells me that i'm not thankful that i have a mom which i did not say at all? And she keeps saying how badly she was treated by her mom meanwhile now we're in a peaceful country but she still acts like i'm not sensitive and whenever i say that I cannot handle multiple stuff at a time she keeps telling me that i'm dumb and keeps comparing me to literal kids. Even on my birthday she kept saying stuff to me which I couldn't handle so i went to our balcony and kept having suicidal thoughts and a couple weeks later she said i was crying for attention and that i just wanted to let our family know that she is a bad person and then made me apologize? She tries to make me feel bad. Also i have tried so many times to tell her that i'm sensitive to those words and trust me no matter in what tone i talk or what i say she always thinks i'm blaming her which i'm not. Now I struggle a lot with low self esteem. Basically she gets mad at me for something, then i get really sad and cry for a couple of hours and then later on she acts like she said nothing meanwhile when i say that i don't like the way she talks to me she IGNORES ME FOR A WHOLE ENTIRE FULL WEEK. Please i have tried so many ways to have a good bond with my mom but it's hard, does anyone have tips?

I accidentally caught my little brother j - - king off. He told me he read in the Weekly World News that each time he did that, it raised his IQ. Could that be possible or is he feeding me a line of bull? If it is true, he is going to be a genius. Could this be why he is so smart?

Im living in my car since two months, and its getting worse in terms of comfort, health and hygene.   Some young guy's been watching me, i guess, as i camp at this parking lot.  He asked me if i needed food or money, and i said no thanks.  A few days later he came up again and gave me his number, he said i could come over his parents house and sleep, wash etc cause staying out like this is bad for my health; and I said, no thanks. Although i got little money im ok, and i could use a shower and a bed.  Although i feel terribly embarrased to accept someone's generosity. What should i do ? 

My mom and dad and I had to go to a party yesterday and we were all getting ready. My parents said that they needed a few minutes before we could go. I left to my room and waited but after 5min I decided to walk into the bathroom to ask what was taking so long. I thought I wouldn't need to knock as they were getting ready and the door was open. I was very wrong. I walked in on my dad with his genitalia out and my mom with *** all over her face after she had applied makeup... My mom screamed at me to get out and I did that immediatly. After they had come out and we were ready to leave she told me that I should always knock before entering a room where someone might be in the car.

Ok my life just to keep it short is that I grew up where all my family just talk a lot of everything, they would get into everything in my life that I just couldn't do nothing, they would get into my life of plans I had and I never did them, they would tell me and my sister that we useless and unhelpful when In the end we would help, and last worst every time I want to try something new like move somewhere to a good job out of town like the oil field well my dad would start with his oh why go and that it's dangerous and what if you don't make it and it's a lot how you going to do it and that people later in life they get sick with all the oil. So I never did it and lost my chances.That now that I'm moved out on my 20s close to hitting my 30s soon there's like so much time I want to tell them in there face but I haven't done it. And then after dealing with problems with them once I move out well I noticed and even my girl noticed it that they are now being kiss asses all nice and stuff like if nothing ever happened when I was living with them all this past years of my life.        Oh and yes you guys probably going to think why he barely move out well because I wasn't making enough money for an apartment and living, until they call me from another job that is still not much of before but it only went up $3 more dollars so barely making it with a struggle. So how was your life and what did you do??

I'm not one but my mom is and I'm just trying to knownif it shameful for me that my mom is a single mom?

So my wife and I tried to have a baby for several years, then found out that she's completely infertile due to some condition. And it makes us depressed to no end, like we just have no purpose on this planet and are worthless. It makes us want to avoid our nieces and nephews, as they constantly remind us of something we can't have and they will never love us as much as their parents, this applies to all kids. For these reasons we always completely dread family gatherings, which is one reason we're really glad coronavirus is here as it has cancelled all those gatherings for now. We also don't hang with our friends that have kids much anymore as it's harder to relate to them as a childless couple, and we try harder to make friends with people who don't have them. We try to stay away from places where there's any chance of running into a kid, and we go to adult only resorts on vacations. Do you think we're over the top or is this just normal emotional distress? We also can't afford adoption and don't qualify for it anyway 

I want to fix it, everyone has to get along. Aunt Julie even slugged Aunt Linda last weekend at a baptism for my sister's baby. Now they are swiping insults on Facebook and I have to fix it. They don't like each other because years ago Aunt Linda got the man Julie wanted. Yet, Julie is happily married now and should let it go as Linda ended up divorced (has a new husband now).  So how do I fix this? I feel a compulsion to fix it all. 

I'm currently 18 years old. I attend a university and I graduated from high school with ok grades. I live my my mom and family other family members. I feel like my life is going completely wrong and off track and I feel like giving up. I have a car but it's but it's been a roller coaster and I need to do some repairs before I can drive it so I have a hard time getting to and from college. I currently have to pay a car note, phone bill, etc bills every month and I don't have a job. I don't know how I been hanging on. I start a new job in 2 weeks but I need a car and I took my driving test behind the wheel and I failed for going to slow... I know I'm rambling but I also can't live in my house anymore, my family always tells me to move out daily and I feel unwelcomed. I need to move out but I can't do anything without a job or credit, or anything. I'm stuck and I'm repeating classes from last semester because I failed them all. I feel like my life is stuck and I can't do anything about it. What should I do ?  I can't get out the car payment, I owe 3000$ more dollars but I also have to register it and fix the back window because it was shot at before I can drive it. I also need to move out ASAP, When I get the job I'm going to save as much money as I can. I know my life isn't over but it feels like it. Is there any programs for affordable housing for you fb adults ? 

I started college a few months ago. During the week, I live in the dorm and I usually come home during the weekends because I ain't having a great time. EVERY single time I come back, I notice that my sibling keeps going into my room to steal things, look for things and sometimes to sleep in my bed. I don't have an issue with that really in itself. (We each have our rooms for the record.) The issue starts with the fact that they steal stuff of value (some of products value that I have to save a lot of money up for) and never return it or bother to let me know when they've used it all up. That's really frustrating, but it was still no big deal. The thing is, no matter how many times I've talked to them to say "please stop coming into my room when I'm not there, it's my personal space and it's private." they still keep doing it. I've tried getting angry, to no avail; I've tried being nice, also to no avail; I've tried involving our parents; no avail. I came home earlier, to find that they had broken my safe, (a beautiful box with a lock from Christmas which costs $200 to replace or to fix), just because they were "looking for weed." They didn't even apologize for it, they just claimed that they didn't do it, which I know was complete BS (I have evidence). I've had enough, it might be petty, but I think it's a complete invasion of privacy (I keep very ~personal~ things in there that they made fun of and paraded around). It's ANNOYING! How do I get them to stop once and for all?

at what point is "sisterly love" / "brotherly love" "okay"... and when is it not? I think most siblings fight and argue.  And given they spend a lot of time "together" they get comfortable enough to treat each other differently.  However, when is this toxic?  And when is this okay?

My grandma Mary passed away 2 years ago after being married with grandpa for 50 years. Grandpa was a pfc in Vietnam in the Marines. He knew her in high school but he thought she wouldn't date him so after graduating high school he joined the Marines,was sent in Vietnam. After he came back. Grandma was still single so he asked her out. The rest is history. Grandpa was the local general practitioner of our small town. After grandma died of leukemia we all tried to help him. They were just 16 and 17 when they first met. They shared a life together. Grandpa says he's fine. He never talks about grandma but I'm concerned about him. Since he's a Vietnam Veteran sometimes he gets interviewed and the last intervirew he gave he said when asked about grandma ' She was a great girl and we had a 50 years honeymoon. I'm not concerned about the spiritual. It's just the loneliness of not having someone telling me constantly how wonderful I am' he said it in a bittersweet smile...it made me so sad because he confessed this in an interview but not to his own family. As I said he seems happy and never talks about her unless someone asks,but when he is asked about her he talks about her smiling,it's kinda cute and weird that he refers to her as a 'girl' lol.. also I noticed that after 2 years that she died he no longer wears his wedding ring,until last week he still wore it. Why do you think that is? he's not seeing other women,he loved grandma too much..he's not the type of guy who would be even going out with another woman.. so it's kind of weird