My wife is 9 months pregnant. The baby Is due in a week. Ever since the day the found out she's been sick. In her words this has been the worst pregnancy.  She already has two kids from her first marriage.  She hasn't touched me in months due to her no having the energy or being tired or sick. So tonight she walked in the room and saw porn on my phone. She was visibly upset and said if I wanted something all i had to do was ask. Well I been asking for months. Now that I handle my business it's a problem. She acting like she caught me cheating. She packed up the kids and left.  Wow. I'm shocked. Am I wrong? 

I found a secret stash of sex toys my wife was hiding in the closet. I knew our sex life had been somewhat humdrum lately, but to me this is one step away from cheating. The other thing that bothered me was that they were exceptionally large also. I never considered myself "hung" but I didn't think she was ever unsatisfied. Is she cheating? Does she fantasize about other men with larger cocks?   

and get delivery groceries so you don't go around a bunch of people 

Hi, so I've been with my husband for almost a decade and everything seemed ok until I gained a little weight after our child. Well years went on I lost weight and gained back some of what I lost. When I was smaller my husband seemed to want me more and show me more affection now that I'm a little heavier he seems so stand offish and will act weird when I hug him or show affection. I am a very loving person and I feel as I I can't express myself anymore. He has made comments about losing weight to me a lot and says things like when you was thinner you looked so good but doesn't acknowledge me now. I never hear I'm beautiful or anything but I'm all about him and I feel it's so unfair. Am I overreacting? Please help.. I'm also really trying to get healthier but this stuff brings me down and makes me give up and is making my confidence so low. 

I got an email saying I took a loan out. I wasn't aware of this so I asked him what this email was. He told me to not or worry about it. I emailed the company and they told me it was a loan for home approvement purposes. My husband is a retired military. He doesn't have a job currently. I have a job. Is this a crime ? Or is this messed up?  I'm in the military currently overseas. He went home to buy his parents homes since they passed away. I don't really want to live there but I said I would since he wants to 

I want to do a group pic of my step kids with my husband and the mom with her husband. I asked them what they thought about it and didn't get much feedback except I should put my nickname on the back of my shirt. They didn't say anything about the picture. I feel like I'm the only one that wants to do it. Should I even attempt to? I don't even feel like I want to anymore.

My father and his wife have been married a year, I gave birth to my son during their engagement and a year after their wedding I became pregnant with twin girls. My husband and I live in a good sized house with a swimming pool, we both have nice paying jobs and we have worked hard to get to where we are today. Since my father's wife doesn't like the sight of my little ones my father comes over for 2 hours every other week after his Saturday visit to the library. Also, my father and her are planning to have children sometime in the near, or distant future. These visits won't make much difference to my children at present, but my father really enjoys the bonding time he has with his grandchildren. My husband and I are really bothered that my father has to sneak visits with his grandkids without his wife knowing. My husband and I work 40 hrs a week, I work in a hospital laboratory and my husband is a radiologist, so yes we are very busy with work, nannies and the children. I barely have time for myself. @ n2mama, I thought my dad and her would be a great match and bring family together, since my husband went to school with her father. Both of them were on the same college football team. We have no problems with her parents, it just seems she has this problem, where the rest of us see no issue. @ Foofa, I hope it doesn't end in divorce, I'm hoping she will adapt to the family dynamics as they are now. We already get on wonderfully with her parents, whom we have been friends with for years. I think divorce would end up a disaster.

If u did, but stopped....how long into the marriage did u do that and why

How long does it take living together before you're okay with your other half seeing u look like shhh, that u left a smelly restroom from #2, or u lounge around in PJs all day

I am all most 40. I never got the chance to have chance because I started to have epilepsy when I was 13. Had 2 brain surgery's which both took like a 2 years to get and recover from and then both my grand parents died, aunt and father, with in 18 years. So I never got into friends dating which means I never had any children. But I have had many cousins that did and I have seen the joy that comes with having kids and there is the fact that you will always have someone to love and loves you some one to talk to or vist you when your old. But then I know ppl who have not have kids or seen on dating sights where girls don't have kids. Is not having children something that will make your life worse? It just seams like that's what the world thinks every one should do. Grow up drive get a job live on there own get married have kids then grand kids buy a house. And if your not doing all that your looked down on. Well I can't drive epilepsy I am on disability so don't work can't buy a house because disability is not enough to do that. Never got married or had kids so what  

I'm most definitely married to a covert/vulnerable narcissist. He's not willing to get tested so I've done research over time and talked with my therapist and have come to this conclusion. I only came to this conclusion to try understanding why things were so miserable in our relationship. So I'm looking to see if there are any couples out there where one of you is a narcissist and you are still married and trying to make it work and it's working. Everyone seems to paint narcissists in such a bad light, and yes for good reason, but they are only human too. Do you think it's possible to co-exist somewhat and stay married or does it get worse?

My parents were never married so does he have to pay alimony or anything?

Most of my friends have a good professional job and some are married with kids. Im 33 and so are they. My exes are too. I live at home and work basically as a secretary and am single. *My exes are married, have kids with jobs too.*

I want to do a group pic of my step kids with my husband and the mom with her husband. I asked them what they thought about it and didn't get much feedback except I should put my nickname on the back of my shirt. They didn't say anything about the picture. I feel like I'm the only one that wants to do it. Should I even attempt to? I don't even feel like I want to anymore.

Myself (23) and my brother (28) have parents who have fought for all of our lives. Sometimes it's verbally, sometimes it is more. The fights are broad and include finances, the things they say to each other, not working on the house, work in general, deaths in the family, and more. Neither of my parents want anything said about their fights to anyone outside of our family, unless it's one of them telling other people. That leads to mom just calling and texting my brother and I about their fights and everything said, and more. This has gone on for over 20 years. My brother and I have advised counseling, going to church, going to talk to a preacher, or divorce. I have even drove 35 mins home at 10:30 at night to try and talk to both of them at the same time about this. Nothing between them gets resolved, it just goes away for a few days till something else sparks a new fight. After over 20 years, there is nothing I know to say other than counseling, Church, or divorce, but my mom doesn't want to hear that, she just wants to talk about every detail of their fights for 20 years. If I don't pick up or want to talk about it, my mother holds everything she ever did for us over our heads. Is this normal for parents to use their kids as counselors? I'm tired of getting calls and texts once-twice a month about their fights

My uncle's wife left him in 1997 and I just found records on ancestry and he is the petitioner and she is the defendant. 6 month separation was the cause given. 

Hi!  My friend got married two days ago but didn't want to be married.  She went to the courthouse to get married and is now trying to undo her mistake.  Can anyone give me advice so I can help her???

Will she teach her childern to become like her and sleep around with many men/women and use men/women for sex in the name of love and misuse the freedom and spoil the seriousness of rrlation and sex? Or will she teach her children to become like their husband, who had self control and had concentration on aim of life and respected the value of relation, sex and respect for women snd not use them for sex in the name of modernism?

If the spouse (let's call S) doesn't want to go to work and did not work in the last few years. S is often drunk most of the time. S waits until the payday and S comes to the bank to withdraw the money for alcohols. S has bipolar, is that the reason that prevents S to work or just lazy? Please share your honest thoughts.  

My wife just can't stop thinking. It's been a really long time since I've actually had her to myself or the family did because of it. Sometimes it works in the family's favor like when she goes into cleaning mode, but most of the time it goes against our favor and she compulses the entire day away playing games (the game changes every few months but it's always a game that requires mental energy so her brain can be put to work). The thing is, when she's in game mode, we're talking 1 to 8 hours she'll be on her phone; and when she gets off it it's only because she's hungry or because she fell asleep (she plays in bed). My wife takes Prozac for her OCD and anxiety/depressive symptoms. This wasn't given to her by a psychiatrist though; she got a script from her PCP; we don't know if it's high enough to make a difference or even the right script for her, she just takes it because she had social anxiety and she needed it to overcome challenges at work. Challenges that requires her to be more outgoing and assertive than she is in real life; ones that drain her of ALL of her energy physically but her mind is still active thinking about the day's drama or all the work she left behind unfinished. I know other people with OCD have self medicated with alcohol and it seems to take the edge off. I also know that no amount of alcohol is good for a person who's trying to avoid carcinogens. I just want her to relax and enjoy her life; it's really sad to see her waste away our youth.

You should know better especially if you've been married over 20 years.  It hasn't been al roses and sunshine right? Some of these people asking about marriage need the heavy duty truth bombs. You do yourself and the institution of marriage a disservice by sugar coating it. Just sayin. Do I really need to elaborate.  Not specific enough? I'm not about to list all the questions on this board where you guys giving out the standard generic advice.  But here is one example: Dude asks about being curios of coworker gal and states he's been married x amount of years. Instead of relating to his situation you: 1) Belittle the guy  2) Harsh criticism  3) Strongly urge to remember the super vows That about right?

So I'm a good looking guy, fit, good dresser. My wife on the other hand has friends who were always nerdy and fat in high school and are still obese and not very attractive. Whenever I walk in a room its like they roll their eyes when I'm around especially when I tell them its nice to see them. They probably look at me and wish they could have a man like my wife does. I don't really mean to be nice as I'm just trying to put a fake smile on out of respect for my wife.  Thoughts?

Part of me wants to get a group pic of all my step kids with my husband, their mom and her husband at the kids event. Part of me doesn't. We all 4 get along and I asked my husband twice about it and he says I'm obsessing about it. Now I'm not so sure I want to. I asked him if it was okay with him and not sure if I need to text the mom and ask her. What should I do? Should I forget about the picture or ask about it? We will also have matching parent shirts as well. A part of me also feels weird about it and thinks I shouldn't even do the picture.

he says he wants children, but he refuses to come in me, what should i do

Why did she have to exist? I never wanted my son to get married. It's not like I wanted him to. Why did my son have to get married? I just want him for myself :( and I hate seeing her face her voice is soft and mousy like her families. I tell my son to leave her just so that I can have my son all for myself but he won't and cut off all contact with me and moved to Florida with his new wife this is not a troll what do I do? no rude comments please 

How to control the automatic thoughts that comes to the mind, even though the present marriage life if going very well?

I met this wonderful man from work while I was going through depression and anxiety, nobody reached out to help me except for him. He took me to get help, he was with through it all. I am married to a man that takes good care of me financially, however, not emotionally or physically. I have not done anything physically with the other man. He has has told me that he has romantic feelings for me and that they are strong. He is like my best friend. We talk about our cats, we like the same foods and dislike the same foods. We love to have a good time such as ride roller coasters, watch movies, eat junk food. He makes me happy.  His current financial situation is not that good. He has his own place but his parents have and are helping him with a few things. I have a beautiful home, everything I ever wanted but I feel empty sometimes as all of the things I have I'm not even acknowledging anymore. I feel like my husband is more like a roommate and friend that I go out to eat with every weekend and just share a home with. We are intimate twice a month maybe one. He's not there for me emotionally. He said that's what friends are for. I need help deciding what to do because I'm so stuck in my comfort zone and I don't have the guts to do what I think I need to do.  My husband has mentally abused me in the past. I don't feel anything when we kiss or hug. We no longer have sex. I trust him 50 percent. Often times when he is being nice to me or in general, I think he is being fake. The other guy does not make that good as of right now but isn't poor. I trust him 100 percent. He has the capability of making more. He will eventually inherit tons of money. I have a good job, and make good money.  Husband is 31, I'm 27, the other guy is 34. 

Ok I am in a situation, For some reasons I have to marry four of my girlfriends. If i didn't register any marriage officially, But marry them Privately and live together on same house. Can I call them girlfriend/wife in front of my friends, family, Social media, neighbours etc. Also, I am Financially sufficient enough. Is there any legal/law/police issues? 

My wife has had a cold and laryngitis for the past few days. We got 3 young kids our son's birthday will be on Thursday he's gonna be 4. She sounds like she's getting her voice back she hopes to get it back by Thursday. She's been taking her medicine everyday we saw her doctor yesterday he just gave her pills and an inhaler to take twice a day because of her asthma. How can I help her feel better ?

Like i could just imagine living together (married) and its not hard to imagine. Its like theres a level of comfort and im like wtfff crazy