My sister won't stop crying she's crying over her boyfriend she has been all day. How can i make her feel better ? 

I haven't asked them and I don't even know myself

My mental health has been unstable for my entire life. I've reached out to try to talk to them and they write me off. Ok cool that's fine, I don't come to them anymore, they complain behind my back and call me a two year old for expressing emotions. I get frustrated sometimes when I'm trying to work with them but they're totally disregarding me. My mom spent hours telling me how horrible I am and how I treat them and I don't care. What she doesn't know is for two months I've been planning a surprise 25rh anniversary party for my parents with family, current friends and old college friends. All DIY while I've been doing my college quarter. I'm trying so hard, I love them I just want them to love me back but apparently I'm in the wrong, I just want it to be over.  I'm 19, in therapy and on meds as I have been for almost 4 years. Every time I go home it's this, no matter what I do 

My sister is upset because her boyfriend is going to Virginia she can't go because it's a family thing also his family don't know her yet. She can't go because she has bad asthma his mom and brother smoke in the car. She said she's scared he might not be here to celebrate their 1 year anniversary she keeps going back and forth from her bedroom to her bathroom crying. She said this is the first time they been together he's going out of state he doesn't know when he's going or how long he'll be gone she's very upset about it she's been crying all day. How can I comfort her ? Also she doesn't think it's fair his brother's girlfriend can go but she can't 

My half brother earns around 600k a year and recently bought a 3.5 million dollar home. He has no wife or kids. I badly need a car but I'm shy to ask him for a loan. Do you think 10k is a lot of money to ask for? It would be a loan... I'm my eyes this is huge but do you think this much is a lot to him?

On weekends I sometimes sleep with her

My partner of 25 years passed away from a long battle with cancer in 2017. We have 2 daughters together. One is severely disabled.  My partner spent the last few months of her life in a care home, the cancer had unfortunately spread to her brain and she was no longer the same person anymore. It was very hard, she was basically gone before she actually passed away. It was very difficult for us when we visited her, the once bubbly outgoing happy woman had just vanished and she was bed bound in a care home I met a lovely lady who is now my girlfriend (for the last 3 years) but my youngest daughter has always been very hostile and never welcomed her. We got together a few months before my ex partner passed away, my girlfriend knew everything that was going on, I was very open about what was happening. My daughter says what I did was disgusting, going out and having an affair when her mother was lying in a care home all alone. I told her though I couldn't bare being alone and her mother had already gone. She wasn't the same woman anymore. I don't class it as an affair.  My daughter has always been bitter and angry towards me and my girlfriend. She moved out because she said she couldn't bare her coming over to the house often and staying over. It's been nearly 3 years now since her mother passed, she's living in the past and isn't moving on. What can I do? 

I have wondered for long and once asked her but she told me that they are none of her business and that I should stop putting my head into all of her stuff.

I'm a college student. Female. Early twenties. My mom is in her 60s. My mom out of the clear blue doesn't want me on the bus because of the corona virus. She thinks that people on the bus a risk. (I really don't want her giving me rides for various reasons. This will NOT be a solution.) She doesn't want me going to gaming groups either. She doesn't want me going to the mall. All out of the clear blue. I have a life and I'm not going to let this stop me from living. She is afraid I could bring it home. I still go to class and I still go to work. This is a big problem for me right now. What can I do to manage this?

This has been happening off and on since I was a kid, but has gotten worse as I've gotten older. My dad and grandpa absolutely refuse to have a discussion with me on anything, and feel the need to be right about everything all the time. For example, my dad was asking me questions about the job I had over the summer, and I told him I was hired on a full time basis (per my employment agreement) and he argued that I was a temporary sub. He wouldn't listen to me, so I finally told him that I needed space and didn't want to talk to him right now, and he finally said "Fine. Do not call me-ever again," and hung up. He must've told my grandpa, because when my grandpa called later that day and asked what happened, I told him my side of the story and my grandpa said "Well I don't blame him for hanging up. You can be really irritating when you're on the phone." That hurt, because this is kind of how it's been. Whenever I try to talk to them about anything, I get told I'm overreacting, to stop being a baby, and now that I've reached my 20's, the silent treatment has started. I have tried to talk to my mom about this, but my dad denied ever saying "Don't call me-ever again." Then I lost it and started crying out of frustration, and I got yelled at and told to stop being so disrespectful. I don't know what to do anymore. It's causing me so much anxiety and making me question if I'm doing anything right. Help :(

What do I do when I can't get my SKids to take a picture with me? They are both playing ball and we all have shirts to match each other. Every time I try to get a pic with them before they don't want to and I'm afraid they will do the same if I try to take one with them at their ball game. What should I do? Sometimes they will take a selfie with me, but then just grab my phone and start taking pics of themselves. Should I even try? It's really tiring when you keep getting rejected. They are 4 and 7 btw. 

My dad is 38 and my stepmom is 29. I live with my mom but I go over to them almost every weekend and just happened to think of this.

They lie when it unnecessary, whether about money or people. 

When I was first married to Joan, her mother Carrie helped us out financially. That was many years ago. We never paid her back the money she gave us. Fast forward to the present. Joan and I had a friendly divorce and she has remarried. I am in a MUCH better financial position now than when we were first married. I have evolved over the years and I now believe that it is the morally right thing to do to pay Carrie back the money she gave/loaned us with interest. I did this by depositing the money directly into her bank account so no one else had access to this money. All of my friends that know what I did tell me I am crazy for doing this. They tell me I did not owe Carrie anything. Even my ex wife Joan are unhappy that I gave this money to her mother because she said I made her and her new husband look bad as they don't have any money to give to her mom. Does what I did sound crazy to you?

My mom hasn't worked for 7 years (due to what I believe may be some sort of depressive symptoms). At 18 I became head of household for my sister and I. My sister is now 20 and refuses to work as well!! I'm getting older (25 now) and would like to move away. I want to rent, but I've ended up agreeing with my mother and sister to buy a house that all three of us can live in.  Things have been coming up that are making me regret my decision. Like, my mom calling this new house "her house", her telling me to purchase things on my credit despite my sister having her own credit. Also, I used my sister's laptop today and she grabbed it and said, "don't touch my s***". Would you go through with taking care of them? Why or why not? But you can't just ditch family right?  She stopped working at 49 she is 56 now.

I don't live with her.

I just found out that my fiancé's mother is using the FindMy app on iPhones to see where her daughter is. I have no problem if my soon to be wife wanting her parents to see her every move. Not something I would ever want at the age of 31. But, that is her prerogative. I am however having a hard time dealing with it knowing that when she is with me, they can see where we are. Is it wrong for me to ask her to turn it off when we are together? 

She says he has the right to be mad and not to be mad at him. Her father did the same to her as a child and I am starting to realize it is not okay. She cries and then says it is okay because she loves him too much and he is too good for her to be mad. He is not good if he hits her and he also cheats like crazy. I am scared to confront my father in case he hits me.

I'm a transgender 15 y/o living with my grandmother, father and older brother. I am not in school, I haven't been since 5th grade and we own 10 dogs. I stay at home 99% of the time, I only get to leave to go to therapy every other week, I don't have a doorknob, I broke my wrist in 2017 and didn't get medical attention leaving my wrist PERMANENTLY disfigured, I have maybe one meal a day, my brother doesn't mind hitting me at all, I feel suicidal in the house and I'm not sure what to do. I have a place to go, my best friend who is also a transgender person is in foster care and after talking to his foster dad, he said that he would definitely want me to call cps or let him report it to the state because he is practically obligated to. He said if it would hurt my situation he wouldn't report it just in case it gives me a worse home life.He told me that I should begin to move my things over slowly every weekend and just tell my dad I'm going to church with them.I have had migraines that I wanted to go get checked for since I had a head injury as a child and I wanted to ask if it was possibly related to that but my dad denied to take me.I have been told I have numerous heath problems that get ignored by my dad.I feel horrible every day here. My mom lost custody of us and she would not be an option to go live with.  I don't feel safe in my home even though my dad has never hit me. I am extremely emotionally exhausted and I don't feel like I will last very long living here anymore. since someone wanted to say I'm lying, I have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria, bipolar disorder and my doctors suspect I have ocd and/or autism. I also did in fact break my wrist. If I can figure out a way to add pictures here I unfortunately do not have the pictures from my X-ray but I can show my deformed arm.  Also I forwarded a ton of this information over to my therapist and my friends foster dad and they have contacted DHr. 

Her brother abused me mentally, though never physically.

I'm 27 and made it past my abusive childhood. I ask this question for closure. I wish I had a Dad that wasn't bipolar. No one deserves a bipolar parent. I wish I had someone who had worked and taken care of me. A Dad that hadn't hit me all the time. He has occasionally admitted what he did, but also pushes that it wasn't his fault, or he tries to downplay it.  My Mom was much better, but I do wish she had left my Dad. She says she wishes things had been different 

I'm in my early 20's and my mother keeps telling me to get health insurance and I keep telling her no because I don't trust doctors or their medicine. And I have a lot wrong with me internally and things that I don't really care about. I keep telling her we all will die someday and when I do I just do and then that will be it. She doesn't seem to understand the fact that this is my life and I can make it how I want.  I never said I wanted someone else to pay for it. I don't want anything to do with doctors period. 

My dad was ordering our food from a restaurant online, turns out i got the best meal and my sister got the cheapest, so were texting later on and she said omfg i hate my dad , he got you da best meal and i stayed quiet. the next day i told her please dont think this be a competition i expose you and she said umm i dont lol i was joking around, that she was bean sarcastic. i said how is that sarcastic and she has competed w me before yall so thats how ik she wasnt joking around i said it was something petty hate dad over she got all angry said im immature af and that im trying to start a fight. who si in the wrong

They stole him from me by not letting me see him for a number of years as a kid. He was a wonderful man and my parents were the ones who had the problem. My parents abused me this way and I cannot overcome the pain from it and even guilt I feel though it was my parents doing. My folks blame me for the abuse.

I'm in a fight currently with my boyfriend because I am apparently "rude and disrespectful" to him and his mom- Because I don't accept help or advice that I didn't not ask for. They give ridiculous advice and help that actually crosses my boundaries. I'm starting in my work field of Social Work, and his mother's advice was "I don't see you lasting 10 years in this field", and when I questioned why she had to say something so negative, she goes "IM JUST TRYING TO GIVE YOU ADVICE. IM TEACHING YOU A LESSON. LISTEN TO ME". She said the same thing after she micro managed me, when I got the courage to make myself kraft dinner. That's right. The 2 step, water and cheese, Kraft dinner. Because I was doing it wrong. And when I asked her to please let me do it the way I do it, she yells, IM JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU, AND YOU ADVICE. IM TEACHING YOU LIFE LESSONS RACHEL. I cut off all my hair and her advice was "I liked it better long, I don't think you should have dont that". Really???  Or she will come into his room and wash his laundry, and she washes mine, including my underwear, which is a HUGE boundary crossing for me. I didn't ask you. Please don't. Now I've been getting snippy.  I've told my boyfriend that I have grown up in a household where unless we need help or advice, don't give it. We figure things out on our own, independently, and when we need help we ask. Unsolicited advice is rude to us, and I don't feel obligated to accept it or listen to it.  Anyone else have this?

ok so my parents werent exactly the best at parenting. there answer to my sister or i making a scene/crying was to just give us a pacifier. it didnt help with me, but my sister would instantly quiet up when she got one. my parents kept doing this as a simple fix, despite my sisters age, and now shes literally dependent on them. shes been brainwashed into thinking she needs them and cant control any negative emotions without it. she almost always uses them, and even talks around them! i hate seeing her attached to a silly plastic object, and i want to help her stop using them, but shes convinced she needs them. any advice on how to start helping her stop this? edit: she uses them everywhere. she does not care about who sees her using it. shes aware of how it affects her. her teeth are already super warped from it, but she would rather deal with that than give her pacifier up

my mom and I never had a good relationship & the older I got the sicker and more controllibg she became. Years of abuse verbally & emotionally that I thought were normal till she took my son from me, I was 26 and he was 2.  8 years later after trying to see him but seeing the abuse with my mother and ne being around was effecting my son and I negatively...I left. Moved out of state and went no contact with my mom 2 years ago.  Recently tho my mom has reached out to me and my son is having alot of health issues and doctors are saying he may not make it past 18. Hes 11 My mom is a narcissist psychopath so I dont know what to believe but I have considered that if is is...will i have regrets in not trying to be a full time person in his life. If you are still reading this i want to thank you. My life has been a whirlwind of emtions. Bad habits and loneliness. i have tried coucling only to find my pockets emptied and no help in moving on or gaining clarity of what to do with letting go or fighting for my baby boy. I know there is alot more to this story and asking someone opinion may be alot. But I need help and I am very depressed at this point and honestly paralyzed in making a choice either way. I am not getting better I am losing myself and have become someone with no direction. No friends. No support. And too many risks I have taken have caught up to me. Can I let go and be thankful my mom is caring for him instead of hating her and feeling like she has ruined my whole liif?

I am thin but my mom cant stand it if I get fat. I dont mind few extra pounds but mom would start criticizing  me. 

My mom has always been the type of mother who is extremely overprotective and will take things to an extreme. Even lie to me and my father about my friend s families to keep me from hanging out and having sleepovers and just having fun with other people in general. She controls every aspect of my life and even if she is overprotective, she would force me to lie to the government (police) in order to save her own ***. Shes abusive to me and I hate it. I have no love for her but I can t do anything about it.

So earlier this evening my dad said he needed to have a talk with me tomorrow once he and I both get home from work. I asked him what it was about, but he wont tell me. I asked if I should be concerned, and he said yes. All I know is that he narrowed some things down and I am really nervous right now. First off, my dad is a great provider, but he and I often disagree with one another. We do have moments where one may be interested in the other as far as how the day went, and other things. While I am still living under his roof, he wont tell me anything as far as even a topic. I do not even have any defense in my say because I do not know what we are talking about! I am REALLY nervous! What should I say, or do? How can I prepare for something I dont even know what is coming or going to be said?

Sometimes when my husband and I go to his daughter's events, we don't all get pictures together, just pictures of her by herself. Is this bad? We take pictures sometimes together, but we don't take pictures every time we do something. 

I don't wanna going to detail on here for anonymity but he did the unforgivable and I will never forgive them nor should I. At this weekend and next, the anniversary, the pain is so much deeper than other times if the year though it is always painful.

If so where would I find it? I don't feel Comfortable going to Al-Anon since were a very well-known family locally. I know it's supposed to be anonymous but there might be people that slip up. My dad is drunk all the time and my mom left him for it but his family (mother and siblings) keep it low-key and I'm afraid they will turn on me or dislike me if I release the secret. They hate my mom because she left him over his drinking. His father died in his 40s from alcoholism and that is a family secret. I am 27 and female. 

This past winter is when he hurt me the most. He's a very deceptive person. He has shown this in other ways as well including regularly lying to my mother.

Only thing I can think of that I'm guilty of is being nice to her 10 years ago the first time she and my uncle separated. They got back together. My siblings were not nice to her during that as they ignored her. For some reason being nice offends her. She is somebody that loves to hold onto grudges and use her kids as pawns against her enemies. My parents do the same thing. So what might be a reason she would block me when I've done nothing offensive other than being nice to her in 2009 during their last separation. She and the uncle split for good in 2018. I don't care what she thinks of me but I don't want her kids to dislike me and her girls follow her orders though her son is a good guy and thanks for himself. Her two girls blocked me also.

My mother lives in an old house that's essentially falling apart. My sister was gonna move in, and we were all gonna pitch in, and fix the house. There are 2 leaks in the roof. Very slow leak, but its rotting the plywood away. I go up there everyone once in a while to take care of the mold. Also, there is mold behind the hot water heater, and washer machine, and under the sink. I cant acces the behind the washer, and hot water heater, because for some reason my mom wont let mer move them. I got as much as the mold as I could without moving them though. I just wouldnt be surprised if there is a lot more mold hidden in this house. I'm not too worried about myself, and my mom as we are choosing to live here, but my mom has a dog, and a cat. The dog scratches, but not to the point of bald spots, and the cat scratches a lot. To the point of lesions, but the vet thinks that's because if the meds shes on. Woud I be a bad person for not spending my money to fix my moms house, when I know it could be an unsafe living condition?

I'm a 13 year old boy, and considering all of you were once teenagers too, I'm sure you can understand why I'm upset that I'm no longer allowed to close my bedroom door when my dad is around unless I'm sleeping. This odd new rule is NOT because I was caught doing anything bad in my room. It actually was made to punish me for a dirty bedroom. In a nutshell, I'm suffering a punishment that invades my privacy and the punishment doesn't even correlate to my actions. At first, I thought it would be temporary, but it's been months since the punishment started being enforced and my dad hasn't loosened up. Advice?

I really don't see any logical reasoning to be waiting until your in your mid 30s to start looking to settle down. Women have the most options to meet the best quality men in her early to mid 20s when her value is at its highest and she can meet other high value single men. The longer you wait the more the high quality single men will end up taken. And also women's attractiveness decreases as they age into their 30s so it's a double edged sword. Waiting until you are 40 to get married is basically limiting you to marrying men who've already been married before and have kids or men who aren't very high value or attractive and were never desirable to begin with or men who never want to settle down. I think 25-27 is the prime range to meet good quality men and a lot of women these days are 35+ and still single 

I was 10 years old living with my single mother in a small mobile home. I was taking a shower. I forgot my towel and ran out of the bathroom naked to get a towel. To my embarrassment a neighbor girl about 11 years old had come over to hang out and was talking to my mother in the living room and could see me completely naked. I ran into my bedroom naked and didn't come out for an hour. She went home. When I finally came out my mother said she told me my friend was there through the bathroom door but I must not have heard her.  I didn't talk to the girl for about two weeks due to embarrassment. When I finally did talk to her she said that she couldn't believe at my age (of 10) I was still walking around naked in front of my mother.  I hadn't thought anything about it until then. I didn't sit around the living room naked or anything like that. I would just walk naked from the bathroom to my bedroom or my bedroom to the bathroom.  After that I stopped being naked in front of my mother. If it wasn't for that girl friend (note: not girlfriend) saying something I probably would have stopped being seen naked by my mother by the time I started getting erections.  Was I too old at age 10 to keep letting my mother see me naked? If I wasn't too old at what age should I have stopped? Same question for daughters and fathers. (I know this is seen by many countries and cultures. But my question is for what most parents and teens in the USA think? 

I live in Arkansas and I'm 45, i'm around your age so maybe we can date

They blocked me because their mother is divorced from my uncle who is their dad. Their mother is very divisive.

I went out with my cousin last night and I ended up getting super annoyed and told her I wanted to leave. She did have some drinks but she only started acting drunk hours later. She was like falling on people while dancing and talking a lot to random people BUT that's not even what annoyed me. I just wanted to dance and enjoy myself but every five seconds she would lean in and tell me "im not drunk" "I feel so fine now" when she was obviously wasn't. And then she kept asking me if I was fine and I was like yes but she just kept telling me she wasn't drunk every second even tho I wasn't even saying anything. And then like two people were like damn your friend is pretty drunk and I was like ya i know. Was I wrong for getting so irritated and frustrated with her? I know not everyone can handle their liquor well but i saw how much she drank and it was hours prior and someone bought her water and she was still acting this way... I've been drinking longer than her so obviously I get what it's like to not know your limit but every time I was super messed up was when I had a lot to drink. That being said, I really wasn't even that upset at how drunk she was, it was more that she kept telling me how sober she was every second. I even told her it's ok just let it go and she wouldn't... did I do too much but asking we leave? (Mind you it was like 20 minutes before the club closed.)