Hi, so I've been alone pretty much in this so called family.  Yes, we have our fair share of 'healthy' arguments but very rarely any actual love between us but they always have love for the rest of the family accept me. So in response to this, my emotions have disappeared I lack empathy for others more than i did in school.  My parents last week kicked me out of the house and told my sibling that I left in a tantrum which was complete lies. When I confronted them they just ignored the question and invited me back. Now i wish i hadn't come back. Things keep getting worse  I try to 'change' for them by keeping silent even more and never saying my opinion,  yet they consistently criticize me especially my mum, when i stand up for myself and say 'can you not criticize me all the time' she goes ballistic. And the other day I referred my mum to my dad in front of her as a 'she' and she went all lose hell over that. I'm sick and tired of consistently being yelled at for nothing, criticized for how i dress, look, act ect.  I'm ready to disown and move on with my life even if my siblings will all of a sudden 'love' me by contacting me on a regular bases to convince me to come back when we haven't spoken to each other for several months since the last family get together because my parents wanted me to be there as well.  Please help.

this is my first hogey i gotta say its pretty dam good. got any tips to make them better? my mom is at my grans for the week and my dad go to the bar after work so i gotta do diner for me and my younger broter.

I see no reason for marriages do not like discussion without reasons.

I was repairing my computer, an iMac Late 2009 by replacing the motherboard with one I bought on ebay for a cheap price compared to everything else and after i installed it, i plugged the computer into the wall and my power supply exploded on fire and smoke and my house fuse blew so my room lost power, what the heck happened?

His mother, my aunt, is firey that people keep her in the dark sometimes. This son made mistakes as a teen but is fine now. His mother still resents him while spoiling his sister and heaping praise on her. It is a classic narcissistic mother scenario. I like being on good terms with my Mom's extended family. This secret is the type that eventually gets out so what do I do when the aunt goes nuts on me.

Only a Michigan aunt shows true loyalty coz she's coming to spend Christmas with my younger brother, mom and me. The rest, calling from Nevada, California and even some in Oklahoma are a bunch of hypocrites! 

I'm 25 and technically I can pack my bags and go anytime I want. I make a plenty of money. I work two jobs mainly to have money in a savings account. However my mom is the type of person who can also afford to live on her own but lives above her means. I get why because she grew up poor and anytime she gets paid she buys frivolous things instead of paying bills. It's annoying. Right now she really wants me to buy her a condo. She thinks we can move in but I can't live with her forever... it's been 25 years and I'm ready to go. I cannot take out a mortgage for her no matter how much I do want to buy my own home she's going to try and weasel her way in. I know I shouldn't feel guilty for moving out because she's a grown woman who should be able to stand on 2 feet but she can't. She'll literally be in bankruptcy again and moving in with me. Or she'll call me for money. She has nobody else I'm her only child. She refuses to talk to her siblings. Can't stand my grandma. Has a boyfriend but can't stand him either. I just really want to live alone. I want to bring people home to hang out watch tv or even dates and sex in my own home! I don't know what to do? Cut her off completely?? 

I have been working for this company for 15 years! And i am the head of sales. My uncle who is my boss also is difficult to work with and very rude. I cant even have a conversation about anything. There is just so much negative vibe in the office as he yells and shouts at everyone. I feel so depressed and stressed everyday. Its even so difficult for me to get out of bed! I know he will make it very tough for me to leave as he himself and the company is also currently in a bad shape. Its a do or die situation for him but i just cant bear and take it any longer. One of the major problems is that he is holding a **** load of my money and i really worry and stress on how he will give to me. Because this is my life savings and i stress how im going to feed my family. We were also doing trading for the past 6 years and he has not given me my dues.. Yes its my cut and my money.. My Uncle and the company is in bad shape and he is not liquid at the moment and dosent have much funds himself. Please i need help and advice!

First, I'm 26. I'm not here to have a tantrum about my dad being an unfair parent.  But with that mind, my dad is, without a doubt, abusive. He beat me until I was about 6, and he's been verbally abusing me all of my life. Some of it seedy and manipulative, and some of it just outright.  From things like putting ideas into my mind that I can't do something, to telling me several times in my life that I am too stupid for this or that. I dropped out of high school early, because, between him, having dyslexia, dyscalculia and ADD, and being bullied relentlessly by my fellow classmates everyday, I was so far behind and so self-hating by the time I was 16, I left school and went to work. I was miserable. I saw no light at the end of the tunnel when I was just a kid. I lost all hope. I worked at poorly paying job in a gray room with no windows for 10+ hours a day. I couldn't sleep at night, I developed heart problems, severe panic attacks and so on.  2 years later when I tried to earn my diploma between work, I would put many hours into it. My dad would come into my room while I was doing "class" work and tell me to give it up,  because I'm too stupid.  A month in, I gave up.   I've tried several times to get a GED and quit everytime, because my dad was there physically and in my mind telling me I was too dumb to do this.  Everything I strive for, he beats down. He hates my art career and I think he hates me too. But I dont know why. 

He is 21 years old and started drinking vodka last year due to feeling of failure. He dropped out of high school cause no matter how much he studied, he failed. He got fired of every job he has due to lack of social skills. Now he's drinking the whole time and yesterday he pooped blood he said and he won't stop drinking till he dies. There's nothing I can do about it and it's really hurting my heart  He doesn't live with me, he lives with his another drunk friend 

This has been going on for about a month. They used to sleep together, but now my dad sleeps in the guest bedroom and my mom sleeps in the master bedroom. Whenever one parent comes into the room, the other parent shuts up and doesn't look at them.  For example, my mom is talking to me about homework or something an then my dad walks in. My mom quickly finishes her sentence and then stops talking. When they do talk to my sister or me in front of the other parent, they talk sweetly, as if they have gotten a divorce and are trying to get me to chose one to live with (which is seriously what I think is happening). I secretly went on their phones and saw the last time they texted or called each other was in the beginning of November (currently writing this on December 8th), though my dad had moved to the guest bedroom before that. Also, my dad recently went on a business trip to Las Vegas, so I think maybe something happened there?When I asked my mom about this, she said, "We don't talk anymore," I asked her more, but she didn't answer.Please help! I'm really scared and stressed that they're going to get a divorce! This has been happening for a MONTH! What should I do?

I have a question about my sister and niece. 7 months ago, their husband/father passed away. It's been hard, but they're moving on. My niece (23) still got married this summer, they both went back to work, things started to seem normal again. They live here in the US, but they lived in Australia until 2 years ago. They go back twice a year: spring and Christmas. My sister announced that when they go this month, she's having his ashes buried. Not in the city where they lived/always go to, but the city where she and he met. Hundreds of miles away from each other. My niece is really upset since they don't really go to that city. I refuse to take sides, but I get it. My niece and her husband live pretty close to my sister, so she goes there a lot. They are the closest mother/daughter duo I've ever seen. Well since the burial announcement, my niece has been going there almost every night, and raising holy hell. She's always respected her mom and been kind and sweet. Now she's being as rude as she possibly can, and she keeps hiding the urn. She's never acted like this. My sister just sends her home. She doesn't know what else to do. I receive calls from both ends. The other night my sister told her not to come back until she fixed her attitude. So tonight I got a call from my niece because she misses her mom. She was sobbing! I told her to stop acting up, accept it, and then she can see her mom. What can I do to bring them together again before the trip? Or how can I help?

I want to him to be happy and I feel sorry for her because father-in-law passed away years ago.. However, it is just too much to go travel with her. Like a year, we went to 7,8 mini and big trips with her. It has been like this for several years. One day, he asked her to watch our boy so we could go to San Francisco for 3 days. She wasn't happy because he didn't take her along so she refused to watch the boy...Anyway, no big deal. It looks like she always want to go with us on every trip. She seems jealous if we go alone by ourselves or just our family. Recently three of us went to see Frozen 2 (me, husband and our boy) and she knew we went without her, her face really showed upset. Something is very odd? I never ask her to babysit my child at all, the fact is my husband once awhile asks her without me knowing to it does bother me sometimes. I prefer my parents watch the boy because they love to. 

( This is going to be pretty long ) .. Im 19 years old I was 11 when I had to teach my self everything ( and still doing as that ) as a girl should grown with out " proper " parents . I began to lived with my mother 16 until now , I ended up getting in a accident and winning the case which cause me to get a great amount of money ( I helped my mom, her girlfriend and my sister ) now I am getting treated as if I nor my feelings exist since the money ran out/ mother threaten to put me out . I have been working nonstop to get my own place and I'm thinking of moving to Florida by my self but I'm  concern about how they will feel about the situation . What should I do next ? PS I have done my research of Florida/Costing of living/Minimum wage etc. What should be my next move?

I recently learned that my brother has started having really bad panic attacks and thoughts of hurting himself or others. He can't sleep at night, is depressed, and hasn't been eating much. Though so far he's been good about letting us know when he feels this way and tells my family to lock up our weapons, I'm worried he may snap and it may not be safe to be around him at night. (His attacks usually occur at night.) Apparently when he has these thoughts and attacks, he is unable to sleep and doesn't want to be alone for fear of harming himself. We are currently looking in to getting him help, and maybe I'm being paranoid, but I don't feel safe being at home at night when he's there. If my door is locked and weapons are locked up, should everyone be okay? Or should I be worried?

I'm afraid to lose her as a friend if their relationship doesn't work out. My brother is a good guy, but he can be insensitive at times. 

Im kinda broke and mom and grandparents want to go on some week long trip which I'm not too excited about. My sisters going for sure, but her and mom have always driven me crazy arguing and ridiculing everyone around them, constantly. (But God forbid you say something back, then they yell at you and play victim...)  I kinda need that weeks income more than I need a "getaway", and I'm thinking if my mom and sister are both gone I'll be getting a vacation anyways...  Havent seen mom in a year which is only reason I'm not sure (even though shes the one who moved away and now wants to meet up), but I don't think I can stand a 12 hour drive with both my mom and sister in the car, then being stuck with them for a week and then another 12 hour ride back.....  Do I bother taking off of work or tell them I can't take off..?  Some say I should take the opportunity for the free trip, but I'm not that excited about traveling anyways, and others say I should stay home and be happy alone...  I can't make up my mind yet, any opinions..? 

I did nothing to her. What she did to me was hurtful and disgusting and she knows it but she doesn't care. She was happy about what she did to me. She even called to see if I was still upset. Our family took her side as always even though she was wrong. They have all turned against me. No one has my back. I want nothing to do with her anymore or the rest of my family. I don't want to know her. I want her away from me. She's a dangerous and disgusting person. She doesn't care about anyone. But I'm forced to see her and them because I can't move out right now. She never liked me. She just pretends to like me. She doesn't like anyone in our family. She never wants to spend time with our family. She rarely calls or visits but when she does she pretends to be happy to see everyone even though she doesn't care. She always asks our mom if she's adopted. She doesn't want anything to do with our family. Our family knows this but they don't care.

I've known her for as long as i've known her brother, which is since I was a little kid. My parents got divorced when I was about 8-9. Her father and mother were friends with my parents when they all were together. Now her father and my mother are dating. They've been dating for nearly 3 years, and we started living together for a year, but my brother, her, her brother, and me don't think they are ever going to get married. They fight a lot and are both two very unlikeable people. Both are very selfish and only care about themselves which we think is destined to fail. She is trying to go live with her mom in Kansas City and just got in a fight with her dad about it. She then was taken to her moms house by her brother. I've been stalling too long to tel her how I feel, but it might be too late now. I'm thinking of texting her, but not sure if she will come back to our house ever again. I'm very shy on telling her because I didn't want things to be awkward between us, but now I'm not sure if I will see her again. Does anybody have advice?

I'm a pretty timid teenage boy and ever since my dad moved to Florida to pursue a different career to make money last spring, my mom progressively got more and more angrier. when me or my brother got a bad grade, (a B or lower), she would usually yell at me or my brother and tell us how we are disappointments to her. She said a few times to my brother that she wished he was never born and his day of birth was the worst day of her life. My sister talked about how my mom would yell at us and her at her school, and when my mom found out, she freaked, throwing stuff and threatened her to not talk about anything else that goes on in the house, or she would do something terrible. (My sister is in second grade.) Whenever my mom screams or yells at us, she would call my dad in fury and yell at him about her problems and my dad would take her side and start yelling at us. I find myself often scared to talk to her about the stuff I am going through at school, (stuff like being overwhelmed having trouble in a certain subject) and I contemplate talking to someone about it, but I'm afraid of what she will do when she finds out. Should I seek help or talk to someone about it? Because I feel like if this goes on, I fear of what she will do next.

Right now my mom is mad at me(15) and my sister (almost 18 yo) because we were taking about all the stuff my sister can now do and we jokingly brought up getting a tattoo. She then said that if we got one we would have to move out and we were just asking questions and my older sister was saying that is was still legal though. (As a joke. She would never get a tattoo) My mom took this as us disrespecting her and belittling her and got really hurt and sad and mad. She then talked to my dad about that and he just asked why my mom doesn't want us to get tattoos(my mom has one) and she took that as he never takes her side or supports her. They always fight a lot any my mom has been depressed and suicidal before and I don't want her going back there. All of this gives me bad anxiety and I don't know what to do or what to say to her. Please help

(btw I am 17 and a senior in HS) I have 4 siblings, ages range 9-2. About a year ago my mom started partying, and staying out all night leaving me in charge of my siblings. She ended up meeting this guy, and basically just moved out of our house leaving me and my siblings. My dad also left us when my youngest sibling was still a baby, so he is not in the picture and now my mom is kinda doing the same thing. It is hard because I have to explain to my siblings why both of our parents are no longer in our lives. Honestly, I still don't know how to really explain it to them. She gives us money for necessities, but she doesn't visit, or never wants to talk to us. Next fall I am starting college, but I am having to adjust my college plans around taking care of my siblings and working two jobs. I really don't know what to do anymore, it is really stressful being handed all of this responsibility for the past year of being a mom to my siblings. Anyone have any advice?

I'm almost 40, have my own life and don't live with my mom but we share a phone line and some unsavvory things have been going on. She made friends online with an Iranian man and since the Iran government cut off their internet, she called him on the phone (my phone account!) wracking up $60 from one phone call. I told her to please get her own phone to make these calls with, as she currently has a lot of financial issues, so I'm afraid she won't be able to pay the additional money for the bill she's wracked up. I only got her a phone line to help her out a couple years ago and now she's making international calls and told me days later. I don't mind that she's friends with someone in another country but she's most likely getting swindled and said the guy is looking to come to the states, so it's important that she speak to him!! She's only known him since the summer and I'm only against it because it effects my phone bill. We also live in NYC where there are TONS of people/men for her to meet without this communication problem. This has lead to us not speaking for 3 weeks and she has such a horrible attitude towards me!! Any solutions?? Cut her off my phone bill?? Thanks!

Hi so my child's father pays £40 a week towards our son. Which is fair enough atleast it's something but the thing is he earns over £450 a week. He has started to flake on him he would usually see him every Saturday and a Friday evening but he's goes out and gets drunk Friday nights and come Saturday the day he's meant to see him he's too hungover and let's him down . He never takes him out or helps any other way my sons 18 months and I can't work just yet and I am on benefits for now. My issue I want to be fair to the father but he is so lazy and doesn't spend any proper time with my son when he does come to see him he Lays on the chair and sleeps it's a joke . He pays no where near enough in my eyes he doesn't have to pay many bills he lives with his mum and pays £200 rent all his money basically goes on going out and getting drunk I feel like he could atleast pay another £20 a week to help more out considering he doesn't do anything else like a father should. As he does pay some money can I still contact child support ? Considering he earns round about £400-450 a week sometimes more as a guess of £450 how much should he pay for my child ? He has no other kids my son doesn't stay with him overnight or anything like that ?