Why would a women only create children if she it the custodian parent and the father is the non custodial parent, and he has the pay the mother child support? I the father does not like that deal than he must not create children in the United States. If he does not than he goes to jail and cant get his US passport renewed.

Both my parents got divorced by the time I was 17. They were in a dysfunctional relationship to the point where I used to get uncomfortable being at home. My Dad has three children me included from three different women. He never married any of them except my mom. My sister and I are 10 years apart. Her and my mom were close until apparently according to my sister they started treating her differently. My sister always wants to tell me you don't have it bad compared to me. She's always guilting me constantly. My parents have always been strict but it's always made me feel like the odd kid because of what decisions my parents made in terms of things socially.  I would ask my Dad why couldn't you just love my mom? And he would never give me an answer. My mom has always been financially dependent on men considering that both my dad and her boyfriend are financially supporting her. It makes me question whether or not they actually believe in love or just believe in having babies and continuing that cycle. I on the other hand refuse to carry on the cycle of living life just for money and living instead of love and having a normal family. Sometimes I get upset and sad because I wanted that normal family and other times I feel bad for bihbof my parents because they weren't taught the same things I was taught in terms of what a healthy relationship truly is.

His parents died,he was tortured in prison, his sister married an enemy and doesn't care at all about him, he has nothing except his soul and the love of a girl he has to hide because he's afraid she will be in danger because of him. She is alone too and her relatives exploit her and mistreat her, she has to study and work at the same time. Because he has to restrain his feeling she thinks he doesn't love her. When she's shot, he has to take out the bullet because the doctor doesn't want to visit her because she's not english. He is scared to hell to take put the bullet but he has to and when she screams and then faints out of pain her starts crying out of nervousness because he's afraid to do something bad to her. When he finds love, he cannot live it because he's not allowed to. When he's captured agaim he only thinks of her and the baby who is in the womb, because he made her pregnant before it all happened.

I wanted to go to his funeral but my dad will not take me and my sister. But he will take his wife all the way to New Orleans with him. He said he doesn't have money for us to go. But my mom would have payed for me to go. They always make excuses.. They did the same with my uncle. My dad took his wife, over his kids. I'm 16 and my sister is 12. It's not like we were going to behave badly.

For the last 5 years our Mom discusses virtually nothing but her hatred for our Dad and those associated with him. It is 80 percent of all conversations with her. She is toxic but I'm 17 and at home so stuck with her. Our Dad and she divorced five and a half years ago. Her non stop talk wears off on me. I find myself talking about it to friends like I am her. How do I get her to stop and get help? She'll get mad saying "why aren't you confronting your father for the affair". They were already separated when the supposed affair happened. I feel like I have no mother and my Dad only comes through a little. I feel like an orphan.

They are divorced obviously. He doesn't love her but she says he doesn't love my sister and I either.

I need help finding a gift for my grandfather.   Hes so impossible to shop for, anything he wants he just buys for himself!! Whenever he asks he gives us nothing to work with and tells us not to get him anything (as if wed ever do that).  Weve done the whole photo albulm, picture frames, special costum blanket memorabilia thing so many times. And he never talkes about anything hes paticulalry intrested in or hobbies and when he dose it means he already has everything related to it. (He likes movies but has a subscription to every service and no one favorate movie)  Im running out of ideas, and i cant bare to get him another useless nik-nak. hes retireing soon so whats something good to get an old man with a lot of free tome on his hands?  

I did 23 and me as a good with my sister. I finally get the results and it said I had 1124 matches. I was like cool let me see who I'm kin to.  I get down to the 2nd to 3rd cousin area and noticed a face..a guy I dated and yes had sex with many many times when I was in my early 20s. I told my friends and said how I was disgusted. They said "meh" you didnt know and are not in a relationship.   I'm still upset. I dont know how I'm going to look at him again. We still live in the same area. 

My dad got drunk one night, talked a little bit too much and told me that when he was with my mom, before I was even born, he cheated on her with a woman that lived in a different city. This woman has never been able to locate him because she doesn't have anything except for his first name. He claims he didn't know she was pregnant with his child until about 2 years later, when my mom was pregnant with me. My parents divorced when I was 5 years old due to unrelated issues (I'm 15 now).  My mom doesn't know, no one does. I'm positive my dad doesn't even remember telling me considering he was plastered and hasn't mentioned it since. I want to let this go, I wish I could, but my  dad has a drinking problem. He gambles a lot too. So as you can see, he has a lot of psychological issues going on. After finding that out, part of me has to wonder if that's why he has a drinking/gambling addiction that's only progressively getting worse. Is the guilt eating at him? Does he want to know him? Why isn't he trying? Does he fear rejection? Does he think me finding out will ruin our relationship/life? I want to tell my dad that I know what happened and that I don't think differently of him. Maybe getting to the root of the issue will motivate him to do and be better.  I can't bear the thought of him not pursuing his own child because of me. But maybe I shouldn't tell him, maybe he'll only feel ashamed and more inclined to drink. What do I do? I can't ask anyone else. 

I was going to get to see my favorite cousins on the trip. This is the 3rd time he has done this. I can't go on my own cause the invite is to my Dad (and he can bring guests). I won't get to see these cousins until the next funeral though a few I will see when I go to Colorado next summer. My Dad hurts me with his continuous lies. He hurts me a lot and makes me feel hate towards him, I don't want to feel hate towards anyone, much less a parent. What do I do? How do I not care so much come February and now? How do I get rid of the animosity I have towards thus lying father of mine? He is the same one who gets mad at me cause I do not lie, he wants me to lie in some cases. I only lie if the truth would hurt someone. So what do I do not to care so much about the hurt my father has caused? He is taking my step-mother but not me. His lies even caused part of his divorce from my mother 24 years ago.

Her hate eats at her soul like a massive cancer tumor does the body. My mother was this way when I was a kid and it ruined her legacy as a mother. 

were they identical?

so i was at my house and holden came and grabbed my imac late 2009 and threw it across the room then he took my early 2008 imac and smashed it he also smashes my 2017 retina 5k one 

I am in my 30s and so is my sister. She does live in Washington and i am in Wisconsin. I try to keep in touch with her but she doesnt seem to be interested. I text her and she doesnt respond back or i will get a response back the next day. If my mother or anyone else in the family texts her - they get a response back right away. If i call her - she doesnt answer and wont call you back. I am not sure since we hardly have anything but a texting relationship if i should stop trying. I ask her if she wants to come home for christmas or in the summer but she refuses. What do you think?

He's the father of two of my nine siblings on my mother's side. He put her in a coma in 1985 and has been in jail ever since. She died in 2016 and though she came out of the coma she was paralyzed for life. He also would rape us. He went to jail for both the rapes and assault. We have restraining orders against him but I fear he won't follow it. He's 86 now but I still fear him.

I miss him so badly, especially at Christmas. He won't take her to court cause he says it will open old wounds. She insists he doesn't love me. I am 15 and homeschooled so with her all day.

She is so bad I finally snapped and grabbed her and shook her shoulders. She counts this as choking. I do think it was assault. She now suffers from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from the attack. My intent was not to destroy her but make a point, I could not take one more second of the verbal abuse she does. 

I'm 17, almost 18 now. In a middle-class family. . I'll cut to the chase. Basically, both of my parents are dead. My mother died 4 years ago due to breast cancer and then my father died a few days ago due to a combination of heart failure and Parkinson's. . This is a problem of money. Ever since my mother's death, my father is my only source of money. His pension, specifically. . Well, as you can tell, you don't get pension if you're dead. . I've no one else to rely on, to contact. . My mother's brothers (My uncles)? I dunno where the hell they are and they cut off ties with my mum a long time ago. . My father was an only child like me. So again, no one else on his side. . So, there's basically only three things I can do now: 1. Kill myself 2. Attempt to commit Fraud to keep my father's pension going until I'm ready to stand on my own. (20-30 years prison potentially if it works) 3. Continue with a crappy life. I will lose everything. House is rented, not owned. Byebye house. No money to inherit because my parents aren't rich. . Dunno about you, but option #1 is sounding VERY juicy. I can just go to the local gun range and blow my brains out. @Kazekage Simply getting a job isn't the solution. I haven't even finished college yet so any job I get will only be able to sustain myself, but not school or any other crap. So, essentially, I am gonna be stuck in that situation in an endless loop unless I somehow get a million dollars or something. Looks like we both share the same pain. It's already too late for me, but you still might have a chance. I wish you good luck, fellow anon. 

How do I forgive when my sister has not changed and is still hostile and refuses to speak to me? I don't want to become like these two aunts of mine who are in their 50's but act like they are nine, 

OK so I'm 23 years old. I grew up with my mom and dad and sister. And i was pretty much sheltered. Couldn't hangout with any friends except my mom's best friends kid And my sister. I turned 18 and got into sales and traveled the us. Been to 23 states. Started dating and living with him out of state things happened me and my ex broke up and i came home and fell into me not working again just chillen at my parents house which is not what i want. Sometimes i just think about going homeless on purpose far away with no family or friends and build myself up and learn and get the life lessons i need to have the motivation and knoledge i need. Any thoughts

I almost 25 she is about 45. She is married has kids of her own I am still single she is well aware of this I live in a relatively chilly climate she knows I don't drive. when I ask her for a ride home after church or after Choir practice she tells me she has got something going on. She has had an excuse for about 25 times over the course of years why? She is old enough to be my Mom what would be the potential issue?

My sister is acting really strange a lot stranger than usual.  She must be mad or upset about something she's dressing all in black she's got one of those collars around her neck. She's liking pages on Facebook about gothic stuff like goth bands or heavy metal bands she's not normally into that stuff. I tried talking to her but she doesn't want to she's acting like those goth kids on South Park who sit around talking about pain all the time.  What's going on with her ? How can I help her feel better ?

My beautiful son is approaching 6 months. He has been an amazing first baby for me and my wife. He eats all his food, stays asleep during the night and is overall a very happy baby.  While I have loved being a new dad and he has brought me endless joy, I have this ongoing thought in the back of my head that is troubling me: will my son learn Spanish before he learns English when I only speak English.  My wife is Mexican American. She speaks both fluent Spanish and English. Her mom, my mother in law, only speaks Spanish. Her mom babysits while we are both at work which has been very helpful and something I am very grateful for. However, when my son was born my wife stated he will learn Spanish so he could understand her mom when he got older. We really never talked about till he was born and it caught me a little off guard. This may sound selfish but isn't it a little bit more important for my son to understand his dad and mom before anyone else? I still struggle with the idea that he will learn Spanish first and not English, my wife and her family just recommend me learning Spanish to understand him but I honestly had no intention of learning the language, my wife has always been my translator. I still get annoyed when I see them trying to teach him words, or even when they say he said a word in spanish. I expressed this concern with my wife but she's still set on him learning Spanish saying it'll be fine and that he will learn English at the same time. Am I wrong? Please don't answer if you are just going to criticize me and say I'm trolling my family, cause I'm not. I apologize if this question comes of as arrogance, but I just want to know if anyone else has dealt with this situation. I just feel like my concerns are being pushed to the side and I don't need answers that aren't going to help. I don't know what it's like to know 2 languages and I am just scared my son won't understand me for the first couple years of his life till he knows English.