how can i get this to happen? he sucks the life out of everyone... my mom included; she's just too manipulated to see it. he's a pig that's just after sex and it makes me sad that my mom has fallen victim. how do i open her eyes and get this scum out of here? 

I don't have to like him just because he's my wife's father. Truth is. He thinks he's better than the rest of us just because he has some money, but a ********** will always be a **********, no matter how much money he has.

I have 4 choices....   Find a better job.. Hypothetically, let's say that 50 percent of the jobs that I would apply to have a schedule where I wouldn't be able to talk to women at nights unless I use my cell phone at work. The other 50 percent of jobs that I'd apply to would have a schedule where I could talk to women at nights outside of work. Get fired from my job.. Hypothetically, let's say that 50 percent of the jobs that I apply to would pay enough where I could afford to date and would have a great schedule. The other 50 percent of jobs that I'd apply to would have an income that isn't high enough for me to be able to afford to date. My job now is on rocky grounds. I'm never given any work and I've been bored to death for the last 2 months. I've only been there for 6 months. My main priority in life right now is finding my dream girl. What should I do?

My question is not whether or not I should leave my husband for cheating on me and creating a child. I already know the answer to that. My question is, my husbands mistress who is also his baby mom has been asking my husband for extra money to pay her bills. She has a bf and another kid by another guy who is in jail. I don't think it's fair that we contribute to her bills or anything outside of the child. Am I wrong or should we help. She is not asking for a lot of money but of course once you allow it once you are opening up the door for her to ask for more and really that should be her bf's job. I feel like she shouldn't be getting pregnant by all these men if she can't afford her rent. Just my thoughts. What are yours?  I would like to add that she got pregnant by my husband during our engagement. 

I want to have a baby so to get the message across I thought about using baby oil as lube to sublimey make him want baby. Is this good

She wants to travel a lot. We went on a family vacation to Disney world last year. Now she wants to go somewhere else. She said she is tired of always being in this city and that it's depressing. We live In a small city with not that much to do. She said she wants to start going to a new city at least once a month. We really cannot afford that because she works minimum wage so basically I'm taking care of all the bills and groceries and everything else. It would be different if she had a good paying job so that we could operate as a team and everything wouldn't be so strained on me. Then we live in a big house so the mortgage is extremely high. We moved here when the kids were little we have 5 kids so we needed a spacious place so everyone wouldn't be bumping into each other all of the time. Im off work for two weeks( paid time off vacation time) and my wife is complaining to me because she says I've been at home every day for the two weeks that I've had off work. My wife said that I'm wasting my life away sitting at home everyday. I told her I washed clothes and went to the grocery store. It cost money to go out. I pay enough in this mortgage to went to relax and enjoy my off days inside anyways. My wife said " but in the house every single day. You don't see a issue with that?" My wife is the type of person that gets bored easily. She gets depressed if she's in the house too much. She needs to be constantly stimulated with new adventures. Opposite of me.

I'm a 26 years old guy. I've never had a girlfriend in my entire life and most likely never will. I am aware of that but for some reason I have a hard time accepting it. Dating life nowadays is not easy for guys: most girls are rather interested in a career, they don't want a serious relationship, they have very high standards when it comes to guys, they usually are not interested in having children, etc. Even dating websites are a waste of time. The ratio is 3 or 4 men for every single woman. If I also take into consideration the number of bisexual or lesbian women, it can only get worse. I'm not an alpha male. I'm average looking with an average income and an average career. So dating will probably never be an option for me. I try to convince myself that I can live with it, after all... life is more than just marriage and kids. As long as I love myself and I love God, everything will be fine but deep inside it still hurts. I pray that God will help me find the right path and will eventually help me find peace in this life (as well as the next one) but for now I'm struggling hard. And as if things are not hard enough, it's holidays season again... that only makes things 10 times worse for me. I try to stay positive and not get too depressed but sometimes I feel like there's simply too much.. too much sadness, too much suffering, too much disappointment. I understand that life is supposed to be hard, but sometimes I feel like it's a bit too hard. I won't lie.. there have been many times when I thought about putting an end to this miserable life, but obviously I know that's not the way and besides that's now what God wants me to do. I have my friends and family but obviously it's not the same. I have many friends (guys) that are in my situation (never dated a girl). Some time ago I would say I'm fine because there are so many guys out there that have been single their entire life, nothing new.

So I am 26... and ever since I was 19-20 I've only been attracted to older girls. Obviously I have a +7/8 years limit, but I am curious.. are there women between the range of 27-34 that would be okay with dating a younger guy?

I'm looking to communicate with a man that left his wife for the OW and are you still with the OW? I have a lot of questions. I am the OW, he was ready to leave her 4 weeks ago, she kicked him out of the house, and I thought, finally! Nope, she took him back, again (this is our second affair in 5 years). I just saw him today and her still doesn't know what he wants. We're both older, kids are gone, I'm single. If you would be willing to email me to give me advice, I would appreciate it.

1. He moves in with she and her 17 y/o son & proposes to her.  He verbally disciplines her son doesn't have a job, even though he graduates in 4 months, & speaks to him like he's spoiled & lazy, as if 16 is officially a man because you can legally get your working papers.   2. He has 2 jobs (college professor/lawyer), but drives fiancee's car to pick her up from work at bus stop, while all day, he's home. 3. She let him accompany she and her son to a therapy session for her clinically depressed son.  Her fiancé tells shrink, "This man has never had a job in his life" & other put-downs, making her son cry while just sits there as usual and doesn't defend him.  But shrink politely defends him, "Well, he's only 17."  On the way home as he's driving her car, he looks at her son (who's pouting) through the rearview mirror, giving him a "don't test me" look. 4. He says that her son's last name will be legally changed when they get married, and that his new last name will be on his high school diploma. 5. He's a widow (wife died in car accident) & has two daughters, but she's never met his family, nor has seen pictures or spoke to them on phone. 6. He tells her to change her son's Facebook password every Sunday so that he'll only have access on the weekend and can focus on school, to which she obliges. Is he disciplining her son in an effort to suck up, trying to sound fatherly while he doesn't give a damn about either one of them, in an effort to swindle her? When her son first said that he doesn't have a job, not only did he react like her son was Hitler, but he threw his fiancée out of her own dining room where they were having the man-to-man (as soon as she walked in there, he asked her to leave the room so they can speak privately, & she did). Recently,her son's friend was killed. While he was talking about it, his mom pulled him aside and said, "I don't think you should talk death and funerals in front of him, since his wife died brutally." WTF

An intern and friend where I work ask me if I would drive her home from work as her car was in the garage. I said sure. When we got to her house she invited me to come in for dinner. Never being someone to pass up a free meal, I said yes. At her house she introduced me to her mother Jill. WOW WOW what a beautiful woman her mother was. She cooked an outstanding delicious meal. As I was eating I looked around the house and EVERYTHING was first class. She must be VERY rich. After dinner I ask Jill what she did. She said she was a lingerie model. She ask me if I would like to see some of her modeling pictures. Any guy that has not been dead over an hour would have said yes. She had lots of pictures of her in lingerie. WOW. A beautiful rich woman with a GREAT figure. What more could any guy want? If there ever was a trophy wife she would be it. I just met her an hour ago. Is it to soon to propose marriage to her. If it is too soon, how long should I wait?

I feel caged.. trapped.. i can't leave.. i don't want to.. it's been a year and i am weak. When I've tried to leave i alway find my way back.. when she leave me and i don't chase, she belittles me and projects how horrible i am and gives me the ultimatum.. i always fall for the trap..  she plays victim and alway tells me how much of a narc she thinks i am..  Ex. I was sleep while she had me on FaceTime and i started morning in my sleep.. i don't remember much but i do remember the energy somehow.. she hung up on me.. i remember that.. so half asleep i sent "?" When i fully woke up a text from her said "i hung up and said cheat in peace".. she informed me that i did that on purpose to put her in her head because she believes i find pleasure in making her miserable and that i won't change my behaviors "you move funny"...  I am traumatized.. i know I'm not perfect.. idk what to do.. is say that I'm losing myself but i believe i already have.. She posts a lot of mean things about me on Twitter and how I'm abusive and narcissistic... i do reality checks.. i can admit to my mistakes (which she Denies).. everything is my fault.. 

I've been doing some reading about abuse in marriage. I married my first love and everything seemed alright in the beginning. I guess it was the purity of love. Before everything just built up over the years. If I leave and seek a more healthy relationship, I worry that it will not be exciting or fun. That there won't be that sense of excitement at creating a life together because my mind will carry baggage of a failed relationship. How have others who divorced handled these feelings and have you found those exciting feelings with a new partner? I guess I haven't experienced genuine kindness for so long that it might stir strong feelings...

 Before we get into this  I'm dating her daughter..  Know her about 3 to 4 years She's married with kids she's 21 years older And really smart  And from my knowledge and things she has told me before and what I know about her  she's not the kind of person to be doing these things She would feel guilty  But ever since we met I have been racking my brain trying to figure out what is the thing between us  Every time we see each other  It's like we both get jumpy  and  Nervous Like one first things I  notice that she is particularly shy about her legs and one time she whispered to me like pulled me to the side "it's a real privilege to see my legs" and five minutes later when I put on some really short shorts we're always catching each other's glances  and we will stare  in each other Eyes all the timethis all accumulated over a couple years  This summer more like it  was really having me questioning is this real or not  because we really did a lot of Flirting every time we see each other she wear the see-through shirts and makes her  breast  look big  So I really want to test it out  for every time I've had dinner with her she want sits next to me and not her husband so i put my leg over hers and she look at me and started rubbing her leg on mine and we just keep talking like normal Her birthday was the other day and  at the end of it we really say goodbye with a kiss on the cheek but this time she kissed me on the lips she has me so  confused. I like it but confused? Help 

I feel very much emotionally disconnected from him. I've been a stay-home mom but I work part-time (from home). This year my last one went to preschool and I thought it would be a good time to look for something more steady and perhaps full-time. Husband said go for it. Well, it's been freaking hard because I get denied left and right, maybe for staying at home for so long, but nonetheless. He doesn't support me emotionally. Sometimes things don't work and it's very draining, so I just need a little bit of positivity from him. I work from home part-time and honestly, this is the worst thing for me during the day when the kids are gone, as I am so lonely. I wouldn't mind driving to work if I am to be part of society again, but after being a stay-at-home mom for almost 8 years, it's so difficult as it's a huge change. So far none of the jobs I replied to in my area even invited me for an interview. However, I applied to 1 one of state and they did and I qualify perfectly. I have a good feeling about this, but my husband yesterday said I am not going anywhere because our oldest daughter likes her school and she shouldn't be moved around several times (this would be the 1st move). He also said he's not going anywhere as he likes his job. He even mentioned I could go work at a gas station if I want to get out of the house! I have a University degree, by the way, so not interested in being a cashier. I am hurt and I feel unsupported, can't even sleep normally. Ideas? I should add. We've been having problems for a while. He isn't affectionate that much, doesn't even bother to say "good night", we sleep in separate beds... We fight quite a bit too and have considered separating. I don't want to live in a loveless marriage, I just don't.  

I'm in this kind of situation with an acquaintance who's technically not married.  She lives with her boyfriend (who she refers to as her husband) at her mother's house, and they have two children.  I noticed that she's always saying flirtatious things to me, such as "I just got out of the shower" and "My boob itches."  On top of that, there's a picture of her on a "friends with benefits" website where she's wearing a nightie in her profile.  Keep in mind that I've been in these kinds of flirting situations before, to which a friend would say "Dude, are you gay?  Ask her out" if I ignore's the girl's advances.  However, I took a chance this time, which didn't bode well, because not only did she say she was married, but also "Even if I weren't married, I wouldn't go out with you, because you're not my type." At that moment, I was under the impression that she had some personal vendetta against me.  But we're just acquaintances with absolutely no history, so perhaps she lacks self-esteem to the point where she gets a natural high from not just rejecting men, but lowering their self-esteem as well by making them feel like no other woman would want them, either.  I am merely basing this on the fact that she has a chunky body structure.  Pretty in the face, and nowhere near obese. But it probably bothers her, and the fact that she has her "husband" for support and still needs clarification from other men that she's attractive, makes me question their relationship. She made me feel so unworthy when she rejected me AND put me down.  The next time she tells me she's getting fat, should I nicely agree with her and advise her of a gym that she could join?  Basically she treats me like a gay big brother, so should I turn the tables on her by not giving her what she wants: compliments. Also, one day she asked me for some advice that started with "I'm a little embarrassed to ask you this."  Basically she did like the cliche scenario in a sitcom where a guy thinks a girl likes him, and proceeds to ask him a question that sounds like she's trying to get up the courage to admit her feelings... only to be asked "There's this guy I like, and I need advice from you...". I swear she did that to me on purpose just to mess with my head.

She would be the ex-wife now of my Mom's brother. In my mother's family you are in or out, that is it. My grandfather stated it clearly last time there was a divorce. So since his wife is now out am I wrong to still be gracious to her. For example, her father has Alzheimers and when he dies I would like to attend the service. We have known them all well. Yet, my mother and her family will be outraged I would do something for an "out" in the family like uncle's ex. It is not that I will stay real close to her or her family, just gracious and fond of. My uncle did want to work on the marriage in his defense. In her defense both hurt the other so this was not at all a 1 sided divorce. 

We have a 1.5 year old son and we have been married for 8 years. There is a history of her verbal and physical abuse. I have come to China to visit her family and already the cracks have started to appear. She thought no one was in the home when she started to verbally escalate and started to hit me in front of our son. Our son was caught between us trying to hug each of us. He knew something was wrong. I could go ahead with separation as per her requests. I feel very hurt and torn. As I sit here in her parents' home and watch my son sleeping with all the photos of him and of our marriage 8 years ago, I can't help but worry so much about her parents. They are elderly and I love her family like my own. I am so worried about how much they are going to be hurt and devastated by this. Because as you know, the Chinese take family ties very seriously. I can't have that on my conscience. But I don't want to be treated with hostility and see her turn to violence towards me. She claims to hate me because on the European tour I let her family take care of our son a lot whilst I took photos. The fight escalated today because I was not happy with her sending me home with our son and not explaining why she was staying behind.  She just said you go and find food for yourself and our son and my phone has no power. Just walked off as I started to ask her what was going on. Yesterday they had a meeting in her aunty's massage shop and sent me for a massage and to watch our son. No communication. I guess my questions have been answered. I feel as though I'm letting down the entire family on both sides if I don't try to hang on. But on the other hand you are both right that I need to consider my son's wellbeing above all else. I honestly don't think my wife has given it a proper thought about how this is going to play out for our son. Including the visitation and access setup etc. It's going to be traumatic on him and confusing. He is so attached to us both like a healthy child should be. But no matter how hard I try to explain things to my wife she just doesn't get beyond the part where "She doesn't like me anymore". She will argue her way out of caring for him by saying she has already contributed enough because she worked so hard to buy the property portfolio, take on loads of stressful debt, kill herself working ridiculous hours and because her family help her out. I requested a child free evening to myself and she went ballistic saying it is my responsibility to care for him. When I pointed out he is her child as well, she lost it and started hitting me.

My husband and I live in a distance marriage. I visit him from the US time to time. I realized after our wedding our communication changed and I received a message on Instagram from a girl who was apparently his mistress. Ever since I couldn't trust him even though he denied having anything to do with her and said she was his ex. Later on my husband mailed a flower to my house.  Recently I created a fake Facebook account and I can't believe the conversation my husband is having with me on that fake account.  I just had a baby for him and I went through my pregnancy alone in the US whiles he was in Africa.  I dont know what to do.  If I bring him to America to live with me too am scared I may regret it because obviously I know he cheats on me. During our conversation with my fake Facebook account he agreed to meet me at a hotel. What should I do?