How can she expect me to be forgiving how abusive she was to me growing up and controlling, and made me angry. Wouldn't let me have a life of my own. She asked me to move back in and wants to act like nothing happened. She owes me, and being nice to her made me angry at myself.  We dont talk or get along. It felt empowering to get things off my chest in a text. I dont have to forgive for all the misery and verbal abuse she caused me. Toxic parents!!!  You sob

My parents are 16 years apart (My mom is 39, my dad is 55) and they are both my biological parents. Their parents don't care about their age gap (My dads mom is like 79 or something idk, and his dad is dead. My moms dad is 59 and so is her mom). Is their age gap disturbing or is it fine..?

My son (age 11) is at a JK-12th grade private school. There's a 17 year old boy who's always hanging out with him and his friends. The school says the older boy has autism spectrum disorder and that's why he can't relate to his own peers. They aren't willing to separate him away from my son because they think it'd be isolating the boy and taking all his friends away. I don't like the big age difference. The school usually segregates age groups but they make an exception for the boy.

I believe in doing good deeds and being respectful but my dad obviously does not and is mad that I went. My dad lies a lot and has bad manners like us.

They are not trying to help themselves very much and just expect opportunities to find them.  I am mid 20s graduated from college last May (my folks did not pay for any college related expenses).  How much help should I be okay with giving them ?

My mom is self employed, she dropped out of college so she cleans houses. I am going to a community college so I live at home with my mom and my dad. She asks me all the time to help her clean houses. To help her do her job. I spend my time either doing homework, going to work, or seeing my boyfriend and friends when I can find the time. I have my own responsibilities with school and work, my own bills to pay, etc. Whenever I go on a school break, for example a Christmas break, she asks me to go clean houses with her, even on days when I have to go to my real job right afterwards, taking up my free time. I am 19 in 2 months. I don't want to help her do her job, I don't ask her to come to my job and do half my work, or do half my school work. What should I do?

I am the youngest of 6 boys and my father is heavily depressed and relies on me for mental support a lot. For example, we were all going to a concert and he locked himself in the room crying and refused to come with all of us unless I went in and to talk to him. That's absolutely outrageous. He also in family gatherings only wants to talk to me and punishes me if I talk to other people for example my nephews, sister husband etc. why does he behave this way?

Every. Single. DAY. I hear him from my room across the entire house because he is either screaming so loudly at football or laughing so loudly that I still can hear him from across the entire house in my room with all the doors shut. Sometimes he even blasts podcasts on his phone with him around the house as if he doesn t have headphones.. I know the main argument that he is able to act like that is, mainly, "Well it s day time so he has all the right to be loud!1!1!" which is still rude and inconsiderate because, I have WORK at night, meaning I have to SLEEP during the day. Even if I m not sleeping during the day, it s still incredibly annoying and rude because who the hell wants to hear that at any time? Isn t part of living with other people realizing you live with other people, and considering the fact that they just might have different lives than you and that they might not want to hear football noises from both the tv and the person screaming at it, regardless of the time of day or night?

From my AncestryDNA Test on my European side I am 3%France, 2% Irish, and 2% British, just curious, how many great grandparents is that?

So my crush is 19 and I'm 17 and we see each other at youth group and I used to harass him online on every social media a little more then a year ago because i was obsessed with him and then he reported me to the youth group leaders and i got in trouble so i stopped doing it and now it's a little more then a year later and he's still avoiding me when i see him at youth group. i love him so much and think about him all the time but he always stays away from me but talks to everyone else at youth group. i can't stop crying i want him so bad i told the leaders to tell him i'm sorry back when i got in trouble but he is still avoiding me

So I'm 17 and last week on Tuesday after I got home from school I couldn't find my wallet and looked everywhere but I couldn't find it and the next day I looked in all my classes at school and I asked my english teacher if I could look in her classroom and while I was looking I noticed my wallet on my english teachers desk as she was working on her computer, as soon as she saw me looking I saw her grab the wallet and hide it in her bag, I came up to her and told her I saw my wallet on her desk but she denied it and after I told her i knew it was mine she told me to go back to my desk or she'll write me up, I'm really upset because I know for a fact it was my wallet because it had the sticker on it i got from the dentist and a stain from my childhood on it and i need it back because it has my ID, debit cards and other stuff. This is a serious question and i'm really stressed

Sometimes I feel the need to move out and live on my own, but I lack of money. What were you doing  when you were my age? 

My grandparents are both from Limerick Ireland but moved to the US when they were young. She is 87 and worried that our Irish bloodline is going to end as my mom (her daughter married someone who is not of Irish descent) My dad is German and and western European. She sought out guys that are the sons of her friends back in limerick for both me and my cousin. She has paid tons of money for us to meet each other and bought us new phones devices so we can keep in contact with them. She is like obsessed with this. She is even flying mine up for christmas because the truth of the matter is I actually like him. I almost wish I did not like him because I feel my grandmother is coming from a very horrible ethnocentric place. I almost am angry at myself for liking him and wanting to continue the relationship. Seriously considering fighting my feelings and ending our relationship. Any advice and would you date the other person in this situation? I am 19 tw and it no way ready for a serious commitment.

I'm a15 year old girl, my dad is so strict I can't ever do anything, he still picks out my clothes to wear, He calls me in from work when he is mad at me then yells at me when I miss payments for the bills he makes me pay. He says my social time is dependant on grades and I have all As and one D and he doesn't let me do anything. Is there something I can do to leave home? I don't want to be here anymore I don't get any support physically mentally or emotionally.

I know there will always be hurt especially at the anniversary in June but how can I get my mother to move on with life as she likely has about 10 to 20 years left in life? She refuses counseling saying it made her worse. She has four other children. She got like this after my father was arrested for abusing my sister and my mother was depressed but that was only for a year till after the divorce. Now she will virtually not get out of bed and she's incredibly bitter, for good reason, towards my father who abused my sister and led to her psychiatric issues that led to the murder-suicide. we have no contact with my bio father though I hear he is still living. I personally blame my sister has no personality disorder would justify killing three innocent children and her husband.   

I'm in a bit of a predicament. I recently got married and, for a while, my mom has been in denial about me getting married. When I did, I asked a couple of months ago if she would like to come over to my house and she claims that I only wanted her over because I am insecure about my marriage and so I will believe she likes him. She also said that I am only making myself feel better. Now, I asked if we could all come over for Christmas and she hasn't answered the question yet. My oldest sister still lives there and my other sister will be there a few days after Christmas. They want me to come, of course, but if my mother doesn't want my husband or step kids to come, should I even come? We are all a package now and it can't just be me coming over. That would be like my husbands family not wanting me over, but wanting him and his kids to come. What should I do? Should I go over there or just invite my sisters to my house? I don't know what to do and it upsets me that my mom can't even let her own son in law into her house without hiding somewhere. She does stay in her room a lot and I'm afraid if we come she will stay in her room. My husband doesn't want to go because he doesn't feel welcomed and also doesn't want his kids there either if she says no. Any advice? 

My mother excuses my sister is cruel bullying on grounds and she has Crohn's disease. She used to excuse her behavior on grounds of ADHD and still does sometimes as well as grounds of being on her period. Now the excuse is always Crohn's disease. I recall when she was in high school and a friend died all of her bad behavior was excused on grounds and her friend had overdosed and died and another case that a friend of died in a car wreck. So now Crohn's is the excuse for her bullying and how do I get my mom to stop excusing it? On the target of her bullying because I'm a little different and I've always had a hard time socially due to learning disabilities as a kid. When my sister bullies me it really makes me depressed, how do I avoid this and get my mom to stop excusing it? I'll be seeing my sister over Christmas and I usually see her about three or four times a year at family functions. Sorry if any of the grammar doesn't make sense, I'm talking into my iPhone 📲

Hey, I've been staying with my dads side of the family for two years now and they treat me like a stranger who they love. My cousin/aunt made a comment about me sleeping upstairs in other the room from her grandson whose older or may be the same age as me. She said oh your up their with such and such I thought he was down stairs I'll asked if my son to clear out a room downstairs from you. Or say if we have a day with young children they treat me like a predator which is odd because I know how to tend to kids I taught my nieces and nephews how to bathe and etc so I am no sick personal. I just feel like they don't actually trust and love me. I feel like a outsider and I'm starting to distant myself from them. I am thinking about moving out. What do you all think?

Okay so my sister-in-law is getting my brother a new phone and I asked her if I could have his old phone but my parents said they would have to think about but when they say that it most likely means no but my sister-in-law asked me which phone case I liked and now I I feel guilty for some reason why do I feel this way

Also the Results came from my AncestryDNA Test.

First it was my dad denying me my religious indoctrination as a little boy christened into The RCC, my dad denying me my indoctrination to being metrosexual/feminine when he took my siblings to such programs back in 2016, now he s done the exact same thing at work by giving the line leader the wrong impression of me.. I was denied of my workplace indoctrination and subsequently had coworkers lose interest and respect for me. My dad has always bossed, blamed and scolded me throughout my childhood years and has been taking away my hard-earned money and not paying it back. If it s toxic masculinity he s forcing in me, I need to know now. He s forcing me to being something I do not agree with nor does it align with my identity as a metrosexual male. I don't like how he's forcing me to being something I'm not nor does it align with my preferences and identity. 

My mother shunned me from everyone cause she said she did not want to make my sister mad. My sister is an adult bully. I was shunned to the corner of the room and the day sucked. I left early. My mother fears my sister's narcissistic wrath and so that is why she gives her what she demands. So how do I avoid this on Christmas? If I leave to make a statement how do I avoid letting it wreck the day? I have no friends around so family is the only option. My sister dislikes me cause I am different.

So I have an uncle getting divorced. He and his wife split in June. This Christmas my aunt is having an engagement party for her daughter. She is inviting Uncle's soon to be ex wife. My grandmother is outraged. She feels not only is the soon to be ex not in the family anymore but she also will make my uncle feel very awkward there. Meanwhile my aunt is in a huge ongoing conflict with her sister (not my Mom but the other one). She was with me last Monday going to a funeral and the entire 1 and a half hour drive she vented to me about her animosity towards her sister and mother (mother cause she takes sister's side). I chose to ride home with someone else. The two sisters have been at war since my grandfather died in 2012. So question 1 is was the aunt wrong to invite uncle's soon to be ex-wife to her daughter's party? Also question 2, was my aunt wrong to vent for an hour and a half to me about her animosity towards her mother and a sister? Even my Mom and the uncle who is a priest agree this aunt is getting mentally ill with bitterness. The other uncle, one getting divorced, has his own baggage with alcoholism and is not involved.

My sister is an evil soul. If hell is real then my sister will go there at the end of time.

My mom has been gone now 2 days, the longest shes left. This would be the 3rd time shes left the family and blaming me and my siblings for her unhappy life. is it wrong that I don't want her to come back..

My boyfriends kids 13 girl, 16, 21 rest are boys. Okay so one of them spreader poop on walls of bathroom. Can you help figure out why they would do that? I dont think little would do that but I have no idea. They grown enough not to do that ots nasty and gross. What can their dad do about it? He doesnt punish them so they think they can do anything but this just to far.

I'm youngest of 3 and closest to my mother than my sister and brother are to mother. I'm 28 no boyfriend or kids and i feel like i need to have a baby like my siblings so im not alone when she's not here anymore. I don't get on with dad so he's not in my life. Moms getting sick a lot and is always in and out hospital. Now fear is kicking in that i may need to freeze my eggs for future. I don't want kids right now. Help  

holidays, talks, other good times? It has been many years since my mom passed but I still have those moments when I cry...

I really really want snapchat and since I am in 7th grade I think I deserve it because all my friends have it and I really want it. My parents have let me have instagram which is just as bad. Please help me with answers so I convince my parents.

They put their parents in nursing homes, because they say they can't take care of their parents (it complicates their lives) they don't visit their parents because as per they say "they are taking good care of them". They don't want to receive bad messages from them because they get hysterical, they want to sell their homes when "dad is alone has dementia" and never visited  the dad even when he was living in his house alone. Bad children And they also have children they want  to spend their time visiting their children, but they forgot their own parents They go to church they become active in community, but in reality is just a front. And  during the Christmas they are having all these activities to visit their children while parents are alone in a nursing home, but "oh they are taking care of them". In reality they are alone in a nursing home while the bad child, are just enjoying their lives   Hopefully karma will hit them when their own children do the same to them. Oh, but they say, that will never happen, they want to control their own children

I was fat in teen years and all my mom did was insult me and we fight about it a lot. I was 20 pounds overweight and I was OK with myself, but mom told me no man want fat woman. Even after I  Iost weight, my mom put pressure on me to wear pretty clothes and do my hair. She thinks I get a man like this.