Me and my sister grew up in a very bad home. Long story short I joined the military and now I am out and she lives with me. I am 23 and she is 16. I am in counseling for ptsd and I never had a good parent as an example so these things affects my judgement alot. I am very very overbearing with her. I don't let her hang out with friends I don't approve. I make her eat healthy and three times a day (she used to be anorexic). I make her sit in group counseling. I make her spend time with me every day. I don't let her hang out with guys that I don't know (I only allow her to see guys her age). I make her do her homework every night. I make sure she eats healthy. She doesn't resent me she actually loves me because she is safe in my home and I try to make her as comfortable as possible. I love her so much and I don't know how to help her. When she was with my parents she was raped by my dad, she used drugs and she dated guys in their late 20s. I can't let her to back to that. I don't want to hurt her with my parenting but I don't know how to help her. I'm not a good parent but I have to be. I'm overwhelmed and I need someone's help. she is covered under my VA health care so she sees all the medical care she needs. I was blown up in Syria and I have bad PTSD. I really don't want to let this hurt the way I parent her. Should I have her join school clubs? Should I let her get a job (I don't need the money but she wants to start working. I think it's better for her to focus on school)?

My mom and dad are divorced. I have visitation with my dad every other weekend. My dad didn't do anything wrong like drugs or anything, they just got divorced because they weren't happy. My mom and I are always fighting and I really want to go to my dads and live. I'm 16 years old. Can I chose to live with him and not my mom?

Right now it hurts so much.

My sister was dumped my her husband of 10 years for a woman much younger than she was. The house sold and she had to move but her apartment would not be ready for 2 weeks so she is temporally staying with my husband and me. As expected she is depressed and has a very low self esteem. Trying to help her I asked my husband to tell her she is still beautiful and appealing to men. He did not want to do it but I insisted and that was what he told her. BIG MISTAKE. She thought he was flirting with her and she has been flirting with him ever since. He has been trying to avoid her but it is hard when she is living here. He wants me to tell her to back off. His is not interested in her in any way. I think he should tell her so I will remain good friends with her. Please give me your opinion. Who should tell her? My husband says the faster she leaves our house the better

i'm so scared i'm shaking so hard i'm scared he's going to avoid me like usual!!!! it's a party at his house

My sister left my home with my niece because she didnt want to abide by the rules in my home(my doors lock at 12 and she couldnt bring any men into my home)  my sister has some mental issues and i do fear for my niece but i was told by one of her friends that she bragged to them that she slept with 4 men in the same room as my niece while my niece slept since being placed in a hotel my social worker. This friend wants to call social services and say what she was told. My question is is it considered neglect to have sex with multiple men while a child is asleep in the same room?

They're always around and making noise and I don't get to just relax. They have people over constantly and she criticizes my choices, tv, movies, what I eat, which isn't much, because she chews me out or tells me what I can or can't eat, even if I buy it. I starve so much because I'm afraid to eat anything with her around and I don't have much money for food delivery. I've talked to her and she just uses the, "it's my house and I can do whatever I want to, when I want to," excuse. I can't afford to move out or I would. My mom just says go to my room, but I can still hear them and I don't want to stay in my depressing tiny room. Help!

I have heard a lot of stories about mother in law problems from my married friends but mine is just the opposite. My husbands mother Mary is my best friend. I just adore her. I recently had surgery and could not stay by myself for a week. She came and stayed with me for a week and took care of me so my husband did not have to take a week off work which we could not afford. She cooked and cleaned and took care of everything. I am now fully recovered thanks a lot to her great care. Her meals were to die for. We go shopping/looking about once a week and it is something we both greatly enjoy. She recently told me that she would like to start dating again and hopefully get married. Her problem is she did not think her son, my husband would approve. She is a very young looking 40+ woman. When some people see us together they think we are sisters. A great compliment for her. I told her the truth which is she is a beautiful woman and would make any guy a trophy wife. She will not have any trouble finding a guy that would want to marry her. She has a gorgeous figure. I wish mine was that good. I told her if male companionship would make her happy, she should do it NOW. She ask me to talk to my husband to see how he would feel if she remarried. Someone please give me some advice on how approach this subject with my husband.

My dad lied to mom About having job and house  which my mom didn't find out until after they marry. Even after they marry and they had kids my dad doesn't change or  work or improve himself or think about buying a house. He just works and spends some money on food and wants mom to spend on house expenses from her job. He doesn't take responsiblity also, why did my dad got married when he wasn't ready yet and why doesn't he change? 

I'm 16 and I have a 25 year old brother. Today, I met his girlfriend and she's 23 I believe. When she saw me she hugged me and then pinched my cheek really really hard. I'm used to people pinching and squeezing my cheeks so that's not something new or weird to me but the thing is that it's been a few hours and my cheek still hurts! I don't even know why. You can't break the cheekbone obviously haha but what the heck is that? Why does it still hurt?

After a year of mean, envious behavior from my younger sister (16) last night her and my fiancé finally got to the root of things. It all started out civil when I first brought my woman home, but after a month going into a year my sister would cyber bully the mess out of my fiancé, pick fights with her, throw her stuff on the ground when we'd come over, it goes on. She would constantly tell my woman "I just don't like you" "don't come over here" all that it got pretty bad.  Last night we all sat together and talked, my sister told my fiancé she was sorry and that she really didn't have a problem with her in the first place. Word for word she continued "I just don't like how you came in and took my brother and now he doesn't even talk to us or act like we're his family, blood is thicker than water."  I never had a close relationship to begin with my sister.. but now she's explaining all this. I'm happy we've come to this point and I know how she feels but how do I explain to her how our relationships will always be different?

We are both 19 and when i first went out with her 3 years ago she was the prettiest girl in the world to me but now she's fat and has moles and is just ugly, i can't break up because i would feel bad but i don't like her looks, her personality is still great though

the two sisters are extremely close, being very touchy with each other and even sleeping in the same bed at one point

Basically, my dad is away on a business trip and he will be back in a couple of months. He works at a major construction company and is doing work up in Washington. My dad is in the process of buying a house because the market in my city is great right now. Anyways while he's away, my mom is hooking up with this guy. She complains that she feels as though she can do anything she wants and doesn't owe my dad nothing, but she still fakes it in front of my dad and pretend like she's innocent. I can't even tell my dad because she's threatened to kick me out. I told her she either gets rid of this guy or I'm not speaking anymore and I'll move in with my uncle. She said okay, so I guess I'm moving. Question is, is it bad that I gave my mom this dilemma to choose the guy she's seeing over me? 

I have a sister who is four years older than me, when she comes home from college she always takes my room from me because my parents let her, I don't really care much about the room itself, just the necessary items it has in it. She has a Switch that I've spent over 200 dollars on, but since she won it for free it's technically hers; I can't never be too mean to her or she'll take it to college or hide it. She'll constantly hit me, and I hit back sometimes, but I don't want to be at war in my own home every single day. My parents accept her behavior and hardly do anything. I try to avoid her and just play games and hang out in my room when she's not home but she keeps pushing me to hang out with her, to the point where if I don't she will hit me or take something that I need away from me, ie: she recently took away a laptop I needed for an assignment because I wouldn't give her money and go with her to get pizza. I also can't swear at her Or call her certain names because my parents are very Christian. I feel completely powerless, please help.

So my Dad and I are taking something by my aunt's on Saturday. Her two daughters are home from college but they are going to Greece for Christmas. My Dad and aunt will bring up a trip my Dad and possibly the aunt are taking to Washington State to ski. My Dad had asked me to plan on coming last June so I altered my summer travel to join in February. Then he seemed vague about it and like I suspected he was lying last June. He confirmed the other day he will be going without me. He gave the two vague answers of the place will be full (that is what hotels are for) and that we are going to Washington State in July for the wedding of my step-sister (SO???). So I am horribly disappointed that the trip fell through. I really wanted to go to see the cousins that will be there. We only will be seeing one of them at the wedding. I also feel angry that I was lied to. My Dad has a horrible history of making promises and breaking them. It was a big part of my Mom's decision to divorce him. My step-mother is more in love with him and so covers up. So what do I do Saturday when my Dad and aunt discuss this and I feel the disappointment flood me? I am resolved now I won't be going and it is not as many people that will be there as I thought of the family members so I it is not like a reunion or anything. However, I am still horribly disappointed. I also am mad that my father would lie like this. He even gets after me as an adult because I don't tell fibs for him. The fibs he wants me to tell are silly family politics fibs like lying to my step-mother for him when my teen half-brother was in trouble by saying he was where he wasn't to keep her from getting mad at him. He is such a liar and yet I have hope he might love me cause it is my father. I think he has half-hearted love. 

He is a habitual liar.

My daughter is 16, and has her priorities all out of wack. In her mind, her life should be just socializing, texting, and clothes. I( single dad, have been for about the past 14 years) don't think I ask a lot. I want a clean-ish room, decent grades, and maybe vacuuming sometimes or doing some dishes. Everything becomes a fight. If I ask her to help with dishes, suddenly she's " being treated like the maid". Asking her to clean her room is like World War 3. Like I said, I only ask for decent grades, I'm fine with Bs, Cs I can live with 1 or 2, but she doesn't even try. I'll ask if she needs help, she refuses, bombs the test and claims that " none of this was covered in class" What is her issue? How can I fix this?

I have a step brother like this where he will constantly throw criticism at me jokingly but becomes seriously defensive and unnecessarily cruel when it is the other way around. He is genuinely delighted and becomes more engaging when I make fun of myself but it is just so exhausting trying to constantly think up humorous ways to deflect his and my family's criticism without accidentally offending him.

My mother want me to work full time but it is unfair. I already work with my father and I'm okay with a part time job

When he asks what I want for Christmas or my birthday, then he criticizes my answer and suggests something that he thinks I should have.  When I politely; but firmly decline his suggestion with sound reasoning, then he buys it for me anyways.  When he offers to take me out to eat for my birthday and asks me where I'd like to go, then he says that he doesn't want to go there and takes me to a place that he likes that he knows I don't like.  The latest incident is that he knows that I can't stand bright lights; so he replaced all of the lights in my living area with extra bright lights and then demanded that I thank him.  

I have an older brother and he should be terrorized, of course.

Hello, I am a Vietnamese American teenage boy. My mom plans to have a child with my step-dad. I am wondering what traits from either parents my little siblings will inherit.