So recently I found out that my big sister was talking about me she said that my face is horrible and no matter what I try it only gets worst. She didn't say it to me but to my little sister. My little sister and I have always been closer than my big sister and I. And every time I do something she's the one to down it or have something to say about it. I would go on a diet she'd say " you're not gonna stick to it or that's not gone work" I'll start growing my hair our and she'll get to telling me how fast her hair grows and how much longer her hair is. I'll lose weight and she wouldn't say nothing about it but as soon as I gain weight she'll be like " you getting fat" it's like she always have a problem. I was thinking I was the problem because I'm so antisocial and don't really be around them but then when I do all she do is say negative stuff. All she do is talk about herself. And what she do and what she got. She's like 27 and has four kids, which she had when she was about my age one of her kids fathers turned gay. She always seems so confident about her and her life. So idk what the problem could be. She always talking  my about everybody. I'm 18 just graduated highschool with no kids. I think that's enough information that would help y'all understand us 

She came over today for christmas and she used to be really pretty when i first got with her years ago but now she's a little chubby and she has a big brown mole on her neck and she has small moles on her face and it's just disgusting!!! i act nice when i see her but she's repulsive to look at because of her moles and i'm tempted to getting rid of her but i don't want to hurt her feelings because she's a really nice person

So 3 yrs. ago on Dec. 24 my father passed away. 13 days after my birthday. And following his passing it ripped my family apart because of greed over money and possessions. The family home was sold without my knowledge. I was lied to and when I made an offer to purchase my childhood home I was told it was too far along in escrow. I am condensing this immensely but you get the point. December has left a bad taste in my mouth. What was once a family of 4 siblings that were close, I now have not spoken to any of them in 3 years. But with all that being said iam in a new relationship that started this year 6 Mos. ago. She was fully aware of what happened to me and my family 3 years ago. But it seems every holiday time since I just can't get into it. I find myself working super long 18 to 20 hour days. I spend less time with her because of the long hours and she gets worried that it's because of her or that somethings wrong with our relationship. So I don't know. I have no family to talk to about this. She I fear just does not understand it. Should I be over this by now or what. Or am I doomed to a continued life of dreading the holidays. BTW iam 50 yrs of age. 

So im 15 and my history teacher is in his 30s with glasses and short brown hair and he's quite big and so basically today he knocked on my family's door and asked if he could have Christmas with us because no one else would have him over and my mom called the police on him and they took him away, what now? i'm in virginia so

So we were having Christmas lunch at his house and I saw another girl our age walk in and she sat with him and he told me he fell for another girl but loves me too so he couldn't get turn either of us down and I started crying and told him he cheated but she said don't think of it as cheating just think of it has another person and I left his house in tears and idk what to do

I have a long history of Christmases being terrible- I was homeless for two of them. I had my car rammed/totalled by a drunk family member for one. My then-fiancee's family had me over for one Christmas and they ended up just being rude (not in a teasing way, just rude) to the point where I just sat in my car until it was over. This Christmas, none of my family could get along, my mom wouldn't let my dad be around, none of them wanted to be around my ex (mother of my kiddos) so I ended up driving several hundred miles to different towns to visit my kids, my mom, and my dad and ended up making everyone upset because I didn't pick one and spend the day. Not meaning to sound like a Scrooge but I don't even want to try next year, I'm just burnt on it. Everyone hates each other and I don't like being in it. What should I do?

My mother has anxiety about people coming over to her house. I asked her if we could come over during Christmas, and she said we could, but she would be in her room. Her and my dad got into an argument about it. She never asks about my husband or kids and thinks it's a big deal for them to come with me to her house. Before when I asked if she wanted to come to our house, she said I was only making myself feel better and I was insecure about my marriage. I recently got her a gift. I don't want to go to her house, because of everything she has said, but don't know how to get it to her. She lives about 20 min away from me.  I'm thinking of mailing it to her, but don't know if that would be silly. Any thoughts? I know she's my mom, but she hurt me and I can't go into that toxic house. 

Last time my dad brought a guy over this did some **** to me. I don't know where my dad is finding all these people but it's creeping me out. 

My sister is a narcissist and did many awful things to me that deeply wounded me and never took accountability. Her husband left last week. She called me last night and I let it go to voicemail. Should I call her?

Every liberal woman I've known under 30 has hated men, hated children, thinks families are a waste of time and are either bisexual lesbian or some other weird sexuality like Demisexual or pan sexual and has purple or green hair and is very masculine 

Could that be because I'm pregnant or is that too soon to affect me? I am not ready for a baby. 

I have always been nerdy, my dad is embarrassed and would make fun of me with others, always told me I'm not a man. Now I'm 25, became an electrician and I avoid talking to him because he always makes me feel bad. He would tell me to have sex with my uncle's wife because she wants it, I told him that's not right, this happened several times, even though I have accomplished a lot and stay out of trouble he never seems to approve of me or take me seriously, been depressed about it I went and try to hook up with my aunt, now she freaked out and my whole family that has supported me way more than him is gone, it just happened today a few hours ago, I told him about my thing with dad but I know is my fault, my grandma stays with them now i won't see her or my little cousins, I'm all alone.

I told everyone at school I was getting a PS4, Xbox One, Nintendo Switch, 30 games for each one, Iphone an Ipad, Jordon shoes, fake poop, a whoopie cushion an a 75 inch 4K TV. Most of the boys was jealous of me an most of the girls was falling in love with me! Here is what I actual got:  mom an dad got me Bellmar shoes an a Faded Glory coat (both are UGLY an look like a homeless bum would ware them) form Wall-Mart, a pack of underware an some notebooks for school.  From mamaw an papaw I got a pack of socks, some pencils for school an ninja action figures with accessories form the Doller Store (two of them). From nanny an pap I got 2 ugly shirts with collers on them an I don't ware those kinds of shirts. An from Aunt Darlene I got 2 pro wrestling figures with accessories from the Doller Tree. Santa brung me soap, toothpaste, mouthwarsh an shampoo an deoderent. No we're NOT poor, my sister got a special addition Ipad (which INFURIATES ME cause that's what I wanted) an dad got Mom a necklace with real dimonds! Mom an dad told everyone not to spend more then $20 on me cause I am failing my school an won't shower or brush my teeth! I am influrviated over this. I have to much to do to spend all day brushing my teeth an showering. I get home form a hard day of school an my usual take a nap until about midnight then I play video games until it's time for school! I am not made of time an I should of had a nice Xmas like everyone else! I will be the laughing stalk of the school! I have never had a gf an people is always making fun of me an calling me retard an I have a PlayStation 1 an a little TV an I don't even have a cell phone or tablet! I pictured taking my Ipad to skool an showing off my consoles an TV an them girls would be like "look at all that stuff Arnold got for Xmas, I wish he was my bf" an Mark Kerner would be like "Arnold is so cool I shouldn't have bullied him all these years" an I would of been the most populer boy in school. I am so embareassed. I took EVERYTHING I got an put it in a big garbage bag an put it in the garbage!  Christmas is a humbug! JUST GOT GROUNDED FOR 6 MONTHS CAUSE I THROWED ALL MY XMAS PRESENTS IN A BAG AN THRIWED THEM IN THE GARBAGE AN THEN MADE OF OF MY COUSINT HE IS RETARTED AN HE WAS SINGING "UP ON THE HOUSETOP DEE DEE BAUGH, OUT JUMPS GOOD OLD SANTA AUGH, DOWN THREW THE CHIMLEY WITH LOTS OF OY, ALL FOR THE LITTLE ONES CHRISTMAS OY."  AN I LAUGHED AT HIM SO I AM DOUBLE GROUNDED!  GOODBYE FOREVER!

So my 9 year old son is doesn't believe in God, and so we figured that he wouldn't be interested in celebrating Christmas, since it is after all the celebration of Christ. Therefor, we didn't get any Christmas gifts for him, since after all, they are part of the Christian holiday. But as son as he realized that his brother and sister were getting presents, but not him, he started to throw a huge tantrum and was yelling and screaming and ruining the Christmas mood for everyone. I immediately took him to his room for a time out, where he will stay all day. But since Christmas is such an important day for us, as Christians I don't think that a time out is enough of a punishment for him. Does anyone have any suggestion on what more I can do to make him learn his lesson?

This is a long read but please take time in reading this. I just need help! My sister used to be very close with my mom and dad when she was still young until high school. Growing up, my sister developed this attitude where she gets mad when someone disagrees with her or when she can't get what she wants. I don't think she's spoiled because my parents never gave in to her demands when she's acting up. Now she's 21 and her relationship with my parents especially with my dad is getting worse and worse. My younger brother and I are still close to our parents. We all moved out and we have our places now. We message or call them almost everyday but my sister barely calls them or greet them on special occasions like birthday, anniversary, and Christmas. All three of us are really close but my sister is starting to get on my nerves. I don't understand what's going on with her even my younger brother is also wondering why she's doing this. Could it be because my parents were so strict to her when it comes to dressing up because they hate it when she wears revealing clothes when going out and they never stop telling us what's good and bad for us and they would disagree with my sister a lot because she makes stupid decisions with her life but I just don't get it.  They also treated me and my brother the same way but we never thought of that as a bad thing. In fact we thank them for doing that because that's what made who we are now. They just want what's best for us. It was Christmas eve and she didn't celebrate with us.  She celebrated it with her friends instead. My parents were really upset especially my mom. She was very emotional and she actually cried. This is our third Christmas without her. We still hang out though and we keep pushing her to talk to our parents. I love my sister and I love my family so I'm hoping one day we can be one big happy family again.

She won't be there today THANK GOD, that is my Christmas gift.

I caught her one time, she picks him up from my place every Wednesday while I go to work and his mother goes to work so ex mom in law picks him up in the morning. Today my 2 almost 3 year old asked me "Sit up front" I was like NO you sit in your car seat, so going back to last time I decided to say, does Nana let you sit in the front seat of her car? He goes no "tay tay s truck" which is her mom s girlfriend. So even though he s 2 about to be 3 i m assuming based on that he s still sitting in the front seat. It s child endangerment and super illegal. But how do I bring this up based on a 2 year old s answer?

So my sister is in the hospital. She has a blend of behavioral problems and physical. She has Crohn's Disease and also explosive blowups like an angry teen. She had an explosive blowup this evening cause she wasn't getting her way. In all fairness she was also having a flareup of her Crohn's. She stormed out saying she was going to the hospital. No idea if she is there or not. I suspect she is an will be for a few days. On top of that my maternal grandfather was saying "Christmas is not special anymore when you get old" and my Mom is anxious and depressed. I have an uncle over who is an alcoholic and his wife has left him. He is miserable because all of his kids are with her and he does not see them until Saturday. So this is the people I will be spending Christmas with tomorrow along with my sister and her two kids and husband and a cousin of mine and his Mom. They might lighten the mood some. In general I anticipate a down year. It will be like a family reunion I went to where everyone spent the whole time saying how bad it was so few came compared to usual and thus the party wasn't so fun. So my question is how can I enjoy Christmas tomorrow as I love Christmas despite everyone there being so unhappy with life this year? If my sister is there she will be bossy and name calling. She is 26 and I have never seen an adult behave like this before.

I'm 19, and it's been like this since I was 13, back in 2013. In 2013, Christmas wasn't really a big deal for my parents and it just didn't seem as special that year. 2014 was the first Christmas without my paternal grandfather and that made it just feel weird and sad at the same time. 2015, while it wasn't necessarily bad, was overshadowed by a major incident with my father in which he left me stranded for hours only a few weeks earlier and never apologized for, insisting he was completely in the right. 2016 and 2017 had not so bad Christmases, I won't lie, although they still had their disappointments here and there, as my mom later admitted that my dad was trying to keep the price of the presents as low as possible, even if it meant getting something that wasn't that great, and in the case of 2016, it was also overshadowed by the presidential election in which my whole family bragged about their support for Donald Trump when I don't like him and wasn't happy about the result. 2018 had my dad yell and scream at the top of his lungs in an angry way just to get me out of bed at 9 a.m., and while I know Christmas 2019 isn't technically here yet, another incident with my father (who, in case you haven't figured out yet, I've never really had a good relationship with) happened literally just today and also, this is my first Christmas without my maternal grandmother, whom I was extremely close to as I was her only grandchild, and she made an effort to make Christmas special. Is it bad I feel this way? I'm not saying all of the recent Christmases have necessarily been bad, but things just don't feel the same. It also sucks to have my poor relationship with my dad be a drag on the holiday season.

I'm very uncomfortable around my dads wife. She's always calling me weird, making snide comments about how her daughter is more successful, and she's always talking down to me. It's put me in a deep depression before.  There's always some kind of drama, because of her. And my dad allows it to happen. I've cut them out of my life before because it was killing me. But here I am, begging for my dad again.  Well, for thanksgiving I went to their house for the first time in a long time. Nothing had changed, discomfort continued and now my fiancé is feeling just as uncomfortable as me about them.  On Christmas Eve, I asked my dad he would meet me at a restaurant instead of his house for Christmas Day. Well, my Christmas Eve was ruined when he got furiously angry saying I needed to come to his house or no deal. Saying he didn't wanna eat at a restaurant on Christmas, etc. He ends the call by hanging up on me. Keep in mind, I was going to drive roughly 4 hours to see him at a local restaurant.  I message him afterwards and we continue convo. He says he is hurt and feels depressed because his kids never want to be at his house, but we've tried to explain the toxicity of his wife. He never listens and we are always left miserable He always sides with her, he isn't even allowed to talk on the phone with us without her present.  Am I wrong here? He seems to think I'm just terrible, all the time, and we always end up back at this same situation.  Also, I have terrible anxiety, and every time I'm near them I literally almost throw up from how they make me feel.  He's became just like her, emotionally hurtful with his words and actions. This has been going on for 14 years 

My husband and I are scheduled to go vacation to Thailand from the end of this month. But last week, my husband's younger brother passed away. He committed suicide. I have never met him before, but MH and his mother are now lost in a deep sadness. MH's father has passed away 3 years ago so MH's mother is living alone away from where we live. MH says he won't go to vacation because he wants to stay with his mother. I agree with that knowing how sad he and his mother are. And now I'm wondering if I go travel alone or not. Considering the cost which is not refundable (＄3K), situation that I should stay alone in my place during whole the holiday season. (I can't stay at my husband's home since they want to be only with the closest family member.) I used to be a solo traveler so it won't make any trouble with traveling alone. Please tell me what you think.

I have 3 kids. They are 14, 12, and 5. They are 2 girls and a boy. They go to a K-12 private school. The 5 year old is pretty smart, and the 14 year old is immature. I hope that they can all be close. I've wanted my kids to be as close as the Belcher siblings on Bob's Burgers, doing everything together and rarely separated. The 5 year old was supposed to be 4 and 2 years younger than her older siblings, but I had some struggles with infertility, so I had to wait another 5 years. Will they ever be able to be extremely close? Will they be close at 13, 20, and 22? 

So, my husband and I are doing Christmas at my parent's house this year and his elderly mom might come over for dinner. She has a small dog that she treats more like a child than a dog, and we found out she took him over to her grandson's house today when she went for dinner. Since my mom doesn't like dogs in her house, how can I politely ask my mother-in-law to leave the dog at home without hurting her feelings?

Yes he worked and saved for a good amount of time, but around 2014 that's when things just got weird money just kept dropping with what he paid, even though he worked He even thought about selling weed cause he just had no money left by the end I lived with him All the savings weren't there in the end

My SIL of 15yrs has demanded last 4yrs my MIL must spend the nite on X-Mas Eve. Since we moved, last 3yrs has only gotten more demanding. 1.No bed for her, 2.No recliner 4her 2sleep in, 3.We're N the middle of couch shopping no couch 5her. My MIL most if not all my hubby's life hasn't been "clean". She often lets strangers come Ngo Nher home that aren't "clean/sober". Last 2yrs she's been retired, lives N A ok home. SIL cleared the only "non sober/clean" person from her home. My MIL's subsidized by my SIL (so that's already a chip on her shoulder). MIL often brings trash bags filled w/$tree items or goodwill items. We (12-16 of us sit around looking @each other givin each other the omg eye look) as she hands us partially wrapped, unwrapped, or odd items (last yr was 3fy loofahs that we're dirty). It's uncomfortable, awkward, feels dysfunctional, &often (hubs/me) feel scared of any fleas/bedbugs... we've grown accustom 2toss anything given b4 we leave my SIL's home. MIL falls asleep during dinner, watching tv, N the middle of my children tryin 2talk 2her. She's over eaten & thrown up everywhere (my home)just this last Easter. These R memories I wish not 2have my kids remember. So, I declined again. My SIL flipped out on me. I responded after 15yrs w/all this info above and more (like my MIL inviting a druggie crackhead to my wedding uninvited. Hubby had to say no!) as my reasoning why I didn't want her N R home on Xmas Eve. That it's just us. None of my family would be here... So, now my 42yr old SIL has UNfriended me on FB lol. This is some1 that wrks 4the government lol. Childish. I'm baffled. Her stepdaughter of ONLY 2yrs has now posted an awful post about me (keep in mid this DIL's 25 from her hubby's gf from 25yrs ago that just met each other (Dad&daughter)1st time 2yrs ago &moved in 6mon after that... lives free &my SIL bitches 2me she's freeloading &she's Rude... &showed me all kinds of bk N forth text... I guess it's the perfect way 2kiss my SIL bottom Smh sad

For example. My grandmother. She says horrible things about me and is mean to me. Yet I see her often and want to form a loving relationship. I decided to just not go and see her from now on. Since for years I've been ignoring her meanness and trying to be friendly. And she'll never change. So I decided she'll be happier without me. Should I love her and have warm thoughts about her still even though she hates me. Or should I accept reality that she hates me and not fool myself with daydreams about her actually liking me and only visit her on Christmas from now on? 

My Dad talked her into welcoming me thankfully. It really hurt. My adult sister is a bully and does not want me there cause I can be annoying (I am ADHD) and I got mad at her bullying once and grabbed her by the shoulder and told her to stop. I should not have grabbed her but it is in the past now and she was 99 percent at fault. So how do I stop feeling rejected? My Mom caves to my sister cause she screams and yells like a toddler. She is a narcissist.

Hi. I am kind of stressed out and have been for the past year about my age gap with my older sister. She is 7 years, 6 months, and 18 days older than me, or 7.55 years. I round it down to 7 because I want as short of an age difference as possible. It stresses me out. Right now, I am in middle school and she is in college. I get so stressed out because I want to have a close sibling relationship that all of my friends have with their siblings. And I also wanna be competitive with her and stuff that normal siblings do. I don't want her acting like a mom. I want to know your opinion: do you think 7 years is a large or medium age difference? Do you think siblings with this gap can still do stuff together and not act like parent and child, but with a streak of fighting with each other? Would you gap your kids this far? Please tell me, I am freaking out. I might start smoking or drinking or doing drugs to get my mind off of it. Oh, and I also have Asperger's syndrome.

Im 25. Live with my dad & younger siblings. When i was 13, my mom cheated on my father. She caused nothing but fights & altercations and drama at home while she was here. I dont question that she definitley did love her kids but what she did to my father was wrong. We decided to live with our dad & he was given full custody of his 3 kids.  She moved 4 hrs upstate with her bf. And close to her parents. I speak to her daily through texts and phonecalls about every other day. We see her about 4 times a year. We usually drive up there to see her. But i must say LIFE HAS BEEN BETTER since the divorce. Less fighting. Less drama. More peace at home. And my father gave me freedom to live my teenage years.. which my mom basically held me captive at home when she lived here. I was miserable when she controlled me. ANYWAY. We're moving down south for a better cost of living and a fresh start in life. I told my mom about our plan and she basically flipped. Shes now saying she plans to follow us down there & live in the same town & as close to us as possible. Im furious about this. I like the way things are now, i like the distance from her.. i dont mind seeing her 4 times/year. I dont want that to change. She wants to get closer to us now, see us every day, nag us. Etc. im sure she intends to start drama with my dad. We dont NEED that. She has no reason to move down south. She has her family/friends/job in her location now. How do I KINDLY convince her to stay put and leave us alone? Heck, Im even afraid she wants to follow us there to take advantage of us... and have us take care of her since we make decent money and since she is getting older.. i could be wrong, just a guess. 

I have always been nerdy, my dad is embarrassed and would make fun of me with others, always told me I'm not a man. Now I'm 25, became an electrician and I avoid talking to him because he always makes me feel bad. He would tell me to have sex with my uncle's wife because she wants it, I told him that's not right, this happened several times, even though I have accomplished a lot and stay out of trouble he never seems to approve of me or take me seriously, been depressed about it I went and try to hook up with my aunt, now she freaked out and my whole family that has supported me way more than him is gone, it just happened today a few hours ago, I told him about my thing with dad but I know is my fault, my grandma stays with them now i won't see her or my little cousins, I'm all alone.