I honestly would rather die than feel guilty.  So anyway I've been dealing with a breakup for months now, he is in his 30's still living at home and we'd always fight because of that and his mom was mean to me. I overreacted and said some harsh things to him, we fought a lot. However now I'm feeling guilty and having a hard time letting him go because I feel like it's my fault that he didn't want to be with me anymore. I've been self harming , my dad saw and got mad, raised his voice and I really tried not to yell back at him but I didn't. The next day I was fine until they got mad at me again and I tried hard to keep my cool but my mom was minimizing my feelings in a sense calling me desperate and pathetic and I overreacted on her said some mean things . Both of my parents now act like it's my fault that my ex doesn't like me because I overreact at times. I apologized to my mom for how I lost it but she doesn't think she necessarily is at fault at all because "what she was was mild compared to what I said to her". She called me crazy. My dad won't speak to me. My brother called me insane and they act like I'm terrible because I lost my temper and said those things. I know we r to forgive and let go but my mom many times has said worse than what I said to her and can get physical. I didn't do that. But now she's calling me abusive and said I'm not acting like a good person. Should they react like this or is it all my fault? 

My mom has heart failure and overall health is going downhill quickly.  While she was in the hospital I went through old albums she hasn't looked at for a long time from her childhood and scanned them, Photoshopped them for restoration on, printed them, put everything in order and put them all in an album, from her childhood all the way up to recent photos. I spent well over 40 hours on the whole thing and put a lot of work, thought and love into it.  So yesterday the first gift I gave her were some handkerchiefs which she always needs besides kleenex, and then the album.  She was all excited about the handkerchiefs but the album it was like it was nothing.  I thought a mother would show some emotion at least for something like this but she was more excited about stupid handkerchiefs.  Needless to say I was very hurt and I still am.  Should I be? 

-  my mother is  coming into town tomorrow for a few days  - she believes I am still living somewhere that I moved out of awhile ago. - she cannot know my real living situation - She believes I am currently packing to move to my new place and wants to help. My stuff has been in storage for awhile already. - she will want to drop me off after dinner tomorrow and to see my place How can a situation be created that never alerts her to me being gone from my apartment? My linear brain requires some fun and creative possibilities! :) 

I'm thinking about getting season tickets (or half season tickets) to our professional sports soccer team and go alone. Most games start around 7:30 and end around 9:30 and my parents worry about me driving in the highway at night. It's about a 35 minute drive from the stadium to my home. I'm 19 and drive in the highways frequently just not at night a lot and not that great of a distance. What should I do?   I really want to go go sports games by myself especially since I'm 19 but are my parents being way too overprotective?

I have a mom, aunt and unclr, that's it. They live far away so it's always only me and my mom. She tries to make it great everytime but it just isn't. I want a father and cousins and other relatives too. My friends always talk about how great theirs was while I sit there with my mom. Fml. I was probably an accident too as I'm 14 and she is 35.

My grandmother has been finding random things in her home and giving them to me. Things I have zero need or interest in. For example, she gave me an old vintage etched crystal dish that, I checked, isn't really worth anything. Plus, it has a rather large chip in it and does not match my decor. I was forced to find a place to put it. I cannot stand clutter. I am your polar opposite of packrat or hoarder. If something isn't sentimental, or I don't need/want it after some amount of time, I get rid of it. But when it's something I have been given, I feel kind of bad. I don't expect, or want, gifts from my family. I just like spending time with them. I have enough...things... Should I feel bad for donating the items she gives me that I do not have any desire to keep?

Seeing if anyone can relate. I am convinced my mom is a helicopter parent. I live off campus. She constantly wants to give me food she cooks at home. I said no stop doing that. Finally - it seems like she is listening because she said okay. But guess what .. she took it upon herself to bring me some food.. AGAIN!! Nope, doesn't look like she is going to listen any time soon. How old do you think I am?! I'm an adult not a teenager!! 

So after coming home from college and moving out of the dorm, I've been shocked by how different home life is to college. I've been actively pursuing my hustles and smoking weed socially in between to wind down during the semester. My family is Dominican, so we are the only Black people on Earth that demonize marijuana due to brainwashing and word of mouth; not based off of our own opinions. My dad legitimately tried to compare weed to heroin. He saw a homeless person panhandling on a red light coming off of a fork, and he hands the man a dollar saying "Merry Christmas". He then closes the window and refers to me and my younger siblings saying, "see kids, that's what drugs do to you. Weed does that to you."  He then tried to justify it by saying that weed was an addictive gateway drug that led to heroin and crack. In my experience, depending on the strand, the only thing that weed can do is make you extraordinarily lazy. My dad knows and has found out that I dabbled with weed in the past, as early as my sophomore year of high school, and I have never seen any human alive vehemently reject weed like that. Realistically, how do I change his outlook a bit in order to consider it at least tolerable? I'm obviously not gonna spark up a joint or blunt with the guy until I'm wildly successful, so keep it as realistic as possible please. Thanks for the help.

When I was 11 dad's friend came over and gave us a chihuahua and stayed for a while. However my younger brother was there and saw some of the inappropriate contact. When he thought no one was around he keeps touching me in private places and felt up my shirt. I was extremely uncomfortable, he kept doing it until my brother opened the door and gave me a wtf look and carried on about his business. He didn't go tell mom or anything. I rushed to tell my parents everything but they told me to stop lying (they're Chinese, so that probably explains something.) I keep telling them what happened but they just ignored me and talked to the molester's wife. I even told her what happened and she glared at me like she didn't ******* believe me. Seriously tho, why the actual **** would anyone lie about being raped by a pedophile?! Are these people out of their minds?

My mom is always nitpicking at everything I do and complains about everything my siblings and I do. She shows no gratitude to when we help her and do things for her, which in turn she complains about. She never allows anyone to be themselves and be true to who they are as a person. She demeans everyone by saying mean things...as an example: I love long nails (not nails like a Kardashian's, but long enough.)She will say things like that's ugly, nobody has them, the nails aren't attractive, etc. Now, my nails naturally grow long so I get tips because my real nails break a lot.  Years ago I used to be very confident, happy, fun, outgoing and laid back. Now I'm just angry and unhappy. It's all because of what she does and says and it starts taking a toll on you because you cannot be yourself and you have to be who she wants you to be.  She makes everything be about her no matter what the circumstances are. If I get a tattoo she complains and yells and screams as if it was her body. I dress a certain way (sporty) she complains. Everything we do is never good enough. Nobody is creative except her, nobody knows how to paint except her, nobody knows how to design, etc. If I try to do something creative, it's not good enough and she then does it for me and says I'm not doing it properly because only she's creative. Is my mom a control freak, self absorbed, a narcissist or just behaves like this because she's an only child? Any opinion or advice on what I should do?

I'm 22 and none is interested in me in dating apps and etc ... I never dated. Why would you date a man?

My son just got married at the age of 25.  I adore this very smart intelligent boy and so does his wife and her family.  Yesterday my sister hit me with a bombshell telling me that when my son was 14 he molested her then 11 year-old daughter.  She had known at the time, but no one told me.  By molested I mean he tried looking under her shorts while she slept.  She woke up and freaked out on him and call her mom (my sister).  My sister confronted my son, but no one told me of the incident at the time.  My son never went to family functions and basically stayed away from everyone for years.  I never knew why.  My son now grown and married and now it's brought to my attention of what happened.  I do not know what to do about this information.  My son was 14 at the time, but now my entire family wants to label him as a pervert.  I'm hurt no one told me back then, and I hurt for my niece who now believes she's a victim, and I hurt for my son who has been harboring this shame alone for years.  He's my son and I still love him, but I really wish I would have known then so I could have been the one to confront and help him back then.  Please help me understand.  

So my father long story short........ he was a in and out dad been was around but not much through out life he would come down to see his mom on thanksgiving or Christmas and that would be his times he spent with me. maybe once to twice a year. He was on CS  he's one of those types that believe him paying child support is parenting, love, and being present & supportive. But in my book there is more to being a parent.  I'm 22 now but i feel like since he finally got off CS he has withdrawed & distant himself a little bit more than what he already was & now he has a new; family,home, Wife, life & even 2 little dogs. I usually always have to text him first on holidays and stuff.  its just funny to me because its the fact that he EXPECTS me to text him or call him first like damn am I the father? Now when he does come down to visit he doesn't even tell me he is in town i have to find out from a cousin or something.  I dont get that, i can understand sometimes greeting 1st but i texted him first thanksgiving and his birthday which is in November. I mean sometimes i would like the same initiative back from him. I honestly just don't feel like its my position always to do that you know like i am your daughter and you are the father why do i have to put so much effort in.  And PS. He has 3 kids in all ever since child support got dropped when we all turned 18 he has distant himself from all of us. He used to tell me that we were holding him back from progressing in life due to C.S. 

We'll be seeing the cousins for Christmas, late Christmas party, and my sister will be there and she's going to tell me to get away saying she doesn't feel comfortable around me. However I'm invited just like she is. The cousins are her age so they're going to believe her more since they're not that close to us. My sister is an adult bully as this is a 26-year-old adult I'm talking about and not a 7-year-old child. So how do I stand up for myself without making a scene and stooping down to her level of immaturity? Our grandmother is having the party and I'd hate to wreck it for her. Our parents will be out of town visiting my brother in Texas.

My mom thinks everything is always about her. When it's a holiday it's all about her, when I say it's not about you it's about the kids (Christmas) if it's someone else's birthday it's all about her. Her reasoning is because she does the cooking and thinks everything revolves around her. She always makes everyone else very uncomfortable because she makes everyone feel guilty and having to do what she says. When you don't do what she says, she acts like a stubborn baby and says don't talk to me. Then you choose a career path to take and she goes and says it's stupid or there's no money in it and wants you to do what she wants you to be.  She then thinks if my brothers/sisters and I argue a few times at the table for an event we are immature and unappreciative. Then she bosses everyone around and controls everyone. She also speaks for everyone, so if I ask my sister a question she will answer the question, if I ask my father a question she answers it and she is always interrupting people in mid conversation. When my dad went to the doctor and the doctor was explaining a procedure my mom interrupts. Then her reason is that's how you have a conversation. Is she a narcissist or is she such a controlling and selfish person?

So my sister and I generally do not speak. She's a mean person. She name calls like she's 12 but she's 26. I have written about her before. I believe she is a narcissist. Christmas Eve she had a total meltdown and stormed off. In her defense she was ill and she has Crohn's disease and had a flare up but she was blowing up at out mom like she was 12-year-old. Last summer she got like this and my parents sent her home from vacation. She falsely claimed that I choked her which was BS though I did have to grab her by the shoulders. So since I barely saw her for Christmas other than walking in when she was having her screaming conniption fit I thought I would text her a merry Christmas last night. I did but I obviously did not hear back. How do I know if she's blocked my number?

So my father long story short........ known him forever been was around but not much through out life he would come down to see his mom on thanksgiving or Christmas maybe once to twice a year. He was on child support during my child years. he's one of those types that believe him paying child support is parenting, love, and being present and supportive. You wasn't there enough to put band aids on my scraped knees, soo... im 22 now but i feel like since he finally got off child support he has withdrawed a little bit more than what he already was and now he has a new family as well, new home, New Wife, new life and even 2 little dogs. I usually always have to text him first on holidays and stuff and its just funny to me because its the fact that he EXPECTS me to text him or call him first like damn am I the father??? I dont get that, i can understand sometimes but i texted him first thanksgiving and his birthday which is in November. I mean sometimes i would like him to text me out the blue. I just don't feel like its my position always to do that. So am I wrong for not calling him should i feel guilty about it. 

My 1/2 sister on my birth fathers side is 5 this year in May. I'm 19, live on my own and pay my own bills. I am in every sense of the word adulting. I have 2 other 1/2 siblings from my mom who are younger but closer to my age (14,16) and these two I grew up with. I have never meant my half sister from my father before. They live out of state, and I don't really know my birth dad. (He has had several chances with me and never took it, I'm not interested in him. Just bonding with her.) I found out he's in jail, (I only communicate with his girlfriend, my sisters mom).  I decided now was the perfect time to finally meet her. I booked them a flight, I will meet her in a few months. They will stay a few days with me and my boyfriend in the guest bedroom in our rental house. They will be here for 4 days, and leave 2 days before her birthday. I have been sending her pictures of me and things/people in my life for two years now. I have also been sending her care packages/gifts through the mail.I'm extremely nervous for this visit. I had never planned on making contact or being involved with this side of my genes til I found out she was born.What do I do while they are here? I plan to take the days off work. What do little girls like to do? How do I bond with her despite the age difference, and the fact that we will probably only see each other once a year (if all goes well)? I don't mind spending some money, but is that buying her love? How do I make the most of this trip? 

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I had a breakdown and I called her a b*tch when I normally don't call people that and I know I can't take it back and I know I hurt her. I know what I did was wrong, but I don't know how to apologize to her or make it up to her because I know I crossed the line. I just don't know what I should do.

He has lied big time this winter and twice previously lied. He also lied about a Christmas visit to a cousin though that one may not have been his fault. He lies to my mother continually and gets bothered that I do not lie more.

I live with my mom, and for a month now, me and her room hasn't had any electricity. This is serious because she needs electricity for her CPAP and we can't see anything at night (candles aren't good enough). My mom tried calling our landlord, he didn't bother helping. She tried calling an electrician, but they didn't bother doing anything. They even promised they'd come back, but never did. What can we do now?